Ben Affleck & J.Lo ‘are both taking their relationship very seriously’

One of my favorite comments about Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck’s engagement was along the lines of “Ben has a lot of faults, but being cheap isn’t one of them.” It’s true. It’s looking more and more likely that Ben proposed to J.Lo with a very rare green diamond of extraordinary size, clarity and quality. Grant Mobley, Diamond Expert at Natural Diamond Council, told People Mag: “The rarity of a natural green diamond cannot be overstated…Generally speaking, green is the second rarest natural color of a diamond with fancy red being the rarest. Only a small handful of green diamonds come to the market every year and almost never are they in the vivid color and size of this diamond.” Honestly, good for them. I’m glad Ben sought something rare and special. Apparently, they both put a lot of thought into getting engaged again:

Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck were not hasty about their engagement. On Friday night, the Marry Me actress announced via her On the JLo newsletter that she and Affleck are engaged. The soon-to-be husband and wife rekindled their romance last year. This new development in their relationship comes 18 years after they called off their previous engagement back in January 2004.

A source tells PEOPLE they are “both thrilled about the engagement” and that Lopez, 52, and Affleck, 49, “wanted to make sure this is it.”

“Their relationship is different this time because they are older, more mature and able to deal with any obstacles,” the source says. “They are both taking their relationship very seriously. They want to make it work no matter what.”

Adds the insider, “They will not rush a wedding. They are content being engaged for now and aren’t talking about any wedding details yet.”

Lopez recently told PEOPLE what makes their connection different now compared to 18 years ago, saying, “We’re older now, we’re smarter, we have more experience, we’re at different places in our lives, we have kids now, and we have to be very conscious of those things.”

[From People]

I’ve actually been pleasantly surprised by how infrequently their relationship has become circus-like over the past year. Like, I thought the birthday-yacht trip around the Mediterranean would be a harbinger of fun gossip to come, but they did the yacht trip and then it was like they were just happening and it was normal and nothing scandalous at all. I genuinely hope they are both more mature now and they both understand what they want from each other and they have good communication and their blended family works well.

Oh, and remember that $55 million Bel Air mansion they were close to buying? The deal fell through. That’s why they’ve been seen house-hunting again in the past week.

Photos courtesy of Backgrid, Instagram.

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  1. DiegoInSF says:

    Their love story is so sweet, they are just besotted with each other!
    I think they might have a low key wedding (as in they’ll announce it until after and the media won’t know)

  2. Bettyrose says:

    Call me when they celebrate their 10th wedding anniversary.

    • Laura says:

      Lol call me when they actually go through with it and stop getting their narcissistic fill from the press around it. Whew, am I bitter or what?

    • Colby says:

      I wouldn’t be surprised if they make it long term – but I also wouldn’t be surprised if they don’t make it down the aisle lol

    • Trimdownmnrchyboring says:

      Am I the only one not taking this relationship seriously? I think they want it to be perfect – but i think there will be a divorce party somewhere down the line. Unfortunately. Jennifer is at her 120th marriage one more one less… what makes this one so different?

  3. Zayra says:

    All I’m gonna say is….Ben better not f*ck this up for the rest of us & Jen or I swear to the high heavens I will find him and throw him the chancleta

  4. Amy Bee says:

    No doubt they are taking their relationship seriously. You don’t always get a second chance at love.

  5. KASalvy says:

    Whenever PR statements like this come out you know there’s something else going on.
    Like, why are you trying to prove a point to everyone?

    • MariettaJones2381 says:

      lol YEP! This PR farce is going to go down in flames. And they’ll both move onto someone new within weeks, bc let’s face it, that’s what they’ve always done (sadly.)

  6. TIFFANY says:

    They’re talking it seriously this time around.

    What about US ???!!! We the gossip are craving something, anything.

  7. Busyann says:

    I actually find this really really sweet. I’m rooting for them. I was looking at pictures the daily fail had from their relationship timeline and honestly…two things stood out to me. One – didn’t their first engagement happen relatively early in their careers at a time when the internet and tabloids and gossip and stuff was all relatively new? I think in the years since, they’ve gotten pretty big and have learned how to navigate celebrity better. And don’t yell at me for writing that. Mainstream internet usage is still relatively young. Im not that old and I have middle school year book somewhere that says “in this year AOL started” lol

    Secondly, they have kids. They’ve both been married and divorced. For all of Ben’s faults, these two are not young. 20 years of life has a way of changing you…for better or worse. I think they’re better prepared this time around.

    • DiegoInSF says:

      I honestly have a theory that they may have seen each other here and there during those 20 years, remember at the Oscars a few years ago, there were reports of him whispering in her ear and her giggling. They just couldn’t keep away from each other, like magnets! So hot!

  8. s808 says:

    I’d love for them to workout for a feel good love story. I’m not holding my breath though.

  9. Kate says:

    She has 200m followers on IG, but her engagement post only has 500,000 likes. It was obvious her followers were fake, but this is proof. How embarrassing!

    • Karisma says:

      It isn’t her engagement post. She’s redirecting people on her newsletters to get the engagement news lol That’s not really the same thing.

  10. Julia K says:

    Their 55 million dollar house deal fell through. Was something wrong with the house of are they rethinking cohabitation? Taking it a bit slower this time perhaps?

  11. candy says:

    Just no on that ring. Light green doesn’t do it for me even if it is rare. I hope it works out for them, but knowing what I know about alcoholics (A LOT), he shouldn’t be dating let alone getting engaged right now. He hasn’t put in the time to work on himself and stay single for at least 12 months.

  12. Lena says:

    For some reason TMZ puts something out and everyone uses it as a source. They did say it was just in escrow and there were contingencies and inspections to go before they finalized it. I certainly don’t have a direct source but I surmise that the seller already came down 15 million (!) and didn’t want to do any more for them. I think TMZ Jumped the gun on this one.

  13. Eowyn says:

    That ring makes me think of a ring pop.

  14. Karisma says:

    That 55M dollars house wasn’t even that impressive and also not private enough.
    And I’m surprised they want a long engagement, I thought they would go for it and get married pretty quickly.

  15. Sweet potato says:

    He certainly doesn’t owe his children inheritances- they’ve been afforded privileged childhoods that most can’t imagine and there will still be plenty for them in the long run.

    However, I can’t imagine hearing that my dad (while loving) has been such a destabilizing force, then went and spent millions and millions of dollars on his ex he dated before my mom.

    Maybe I’m just getting sick of the Kardashian-like display of exorbitant wealth.

  16. Carolnr says:

    I really would hope that it is a ” no – brainer “to be taking their relationship seriously. It is not just them anymore. There are children involved now.
    Did the world & his & her children really need to read/ hear that Ben proposed to her while she was in the bathtub? If this is something she wants to keep “sacred”, why is she constantly talking & giving details about every step of this relationship?

    • Karisma says:

      I agree she’s oversharing and it doesn’t go with what she said about wanted to keep things “sacred” about this relationship. I find it tacky to use it to gain more subscribers for her newsletter knowing it’s certainly going to be use to sell some products later.
      But it’s jlo she’s always been like this and just can’t help herself. Still love them but I wish they would be a bit more low key, but that’s just me

  17. Shirley says:

    I can’t imagine what their children are feeling after JLo described how Ben proposed to her when she was naked in the bathtub. That is beyond words.

    Jennifer Garner has always been her target and JLo is always trying to prove to her that she was the one. She knows that isn’t true.

    Ben proposed to his wife on her birthday which is coming up soon. That is the reason for JLo’s cringe worthy description
    of his proposal. She acts like he is a prize that she won. No one else wants him.

    • Marietta 2381 says:

      You make really good points. I forgot Garner’s bday is next week. JLo needs to grow the hell up. Also, for Jen to care, she’d probably have to still love Ben, and we all know that isn’t a thing.

      Then again, JLo doesn’t exactly seem mature. This is all just PR, and her trying to stab JG in the back is icing on the cake for her in her infantile way.

  18. Squirk says:

    Not only did their kids get a description of her being proposed to in the bath tub, but there is a picture of her in the tub floating around.