Jim Toth had a ‘midlife crisis’ a few years ago, he & Reese both wanted out

I’m not sure how scandalous Reese Witherspoon and Jim Toth’s divorce will be, but I am interested to see if there will be any disputes which spill out into the public sphere. My guess is that no, nothing will spill out – this separation and presumptive divorce has been a long time coming, by most accounts. Reese and Jim have already begun separating their finances and my guess is that they’ve already started working with a private judge to negotiate all of the financial and custodial issues. Now, what was the root of their issues? According to “sources,” Toth had something like a midlife crisis – he quit his job at CAA and he’s been staggering from job to job ever since. It might even be that Toth is the one who wanted to move on from Reese.

A friend and colleague who has worked with the couple over the last decade said the move came as no surprise to those who know them. The source said that despite successful joint business ventures such as the sale of their production company Hello Sunshine for almost $1 billion in 2021, the pair simply wanted different things for their lives.

The insider told The U.S. Sun: “It was never if with Reese and Jim but when. This process of uncoupling really began in late 2021 when it became clear to everybody who knew both of them that they were itching for life apart from each other, even though they were both celebrating the massive success of the Hello Sunshine sale to Candle Media and the hundreds of millions of dollars they personally realized from the deal.

“That money was rocket fuel to them, but it sent them in different directions and pretty quickly after that deal closed, the only real common ground they had was the raising of their son, Tennessee. Even when Reese and Jim couldn’t see eye to eye about anything, they are very dedicated co-parents and that shouldn’t change even if Jim has to change zip codes, which is very likely now.”

The source explained that Jim’s massive career change five years ago, when he quit the agency business despite being one of the most admired leaders at Hollywood powerhouse CAA, was a big factor in the end of the couple’s marriage. Despite failing with short-lived mobile streaming service Quibi in 2020, Jim caught the Silicon Valley investment bug and is likely to move his life further in that direction, according to the insider.

The family friend said: “Jim is the one who has changed massively just in the last few years. Jim just isn’t the guy Reese married and had a son with anymore. His personality, his attitude and his whole take on life really changed when he got out of the agency business and decided he was tired of that stuffy world and being in the service business in general. Call it a midlife crisis if you want but that’s when the tattoos, the chunky, weird jewelry, and dressing like somebody half his age really took hold.

“Jim’s stint as a top executive at Quibi only deepened his interest in the world of Silicon Valley, dot coms and start ups, and after that job ended, Jim essentially worked for Hello Sunshine as an advisor and investor. It led to the company’s sale and for a real gut check moment for him and Reese – they now had more money than either of them could ever figure out what to do with, and it was time to reassess. This divorce is the result of that process, but Reese has handled co-parenting before, quite successfully in fact, and shouldn’t have any problem handling that again with Tennessee. Jim will still be in her life. But he’s taking the millions he personally made in the Hello Sunshine deal and he’s striking out for greener pastures. He’s wanted this for a long time.”

[From The Sun]

I hate when men do this. I know a lot of people – men and women – go through midlife crises and make big changes in their 40s or 50s. But I hate when a man thinks the answer is divorcing his wife and making huge career changes. It’s a cliche but even more than that, you know he’s going to regret that sh-t in five years. Of course, even if he does regret it, he probably won’t admit it. Still, it doesn’t seem like either of them is really broken up about this. I wonder what’s next for Reese, romantically.

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  1. Emily says:

    Wasn’t CAA embroiled in some of the #MeToo coverage — shady agents, setting up actresses etc? I don’t know if I’m remembering correctly. I wonder if that had anything to do with him leaving (in addition to building Hello Sunshine with Reece). Was it really a midlife crisis because it seems he’s been quite successful. Could be a run of the mill divorce.

    • Emily_C says:

      CAA was neck deep in it. They are despicable.

    • Coco says:

      Yes CAA was setting women up and sending them to Harvey and other monsters. When CAA was called out for it they threw a big hush party in “support “ of the victims ( that they set up ) and made women like Reese Witherspoon and other top CAA actress the face .

      • Emily says:

        CAA is disgusting. I don’t blame him for leaving and hesitate to call it a midlife crisis when there are very good ethical reasons to sever ties.

        Knowing Hollywood, we’ll find out later he had a part in it and is just as bad.

  2. Normades says:

    Young trophy wife coming up…

    • BothSidesNow says:

      I can see it now. And for some reason they never made sense to me and now I see why. He certainly enjoyed his new found financial success with Reese and is walking away while he has the $$$$ to do it.

    • B says:

      He can get distracted by the 20 something and she can finally be in peace now that he’s out of her hair.
      It would be best for the child if they were both mature and had clear focus, but that is not necessarily an option, regardless of whatever press they or their agents leak.
      Going off to Silicon Valley doesn’t scream “I truly want to be involved in a healthy way.”

    • PrincessOfWaffles says:

      I could totally see that happening. But for Reese, I think things are changing. I think she’s gonna be alone and not lonely for a long time. She’s beautiful, rich and has kids – she doesnt need to be coupled up and possibly carry another load of compromises when she is probably super happy all by herself, owing nothing to nobody

      • Lens says:

        Doesn’t look that way. Depending on what you think of deux moi instagram account Reese is already seeing Tom Brady of all people. I tend to think she gets the Gossip scoops the print tabloids used to get and now they’re chasing her. She says she will spill all in her Thursday podcast.

      • Olivia says:

        Agree, she’s going to quietly date, but won’t remarry.

        Reese admitted in a 2012 that after Ryan and Jake, she wasn’t going to marry again, but Jim persisted by telling her “I’m gonna show you every day what a good person and a good partner is. I’m going to take care of you and and I’m gonna do it so much that you’re gonna get used to it.” And Reese was like, “What are you talking about? I’ve never had anybody like that in my life.”

        She also admitted that marrying Jim reduced her stress from being a single mum. But her kids are old enough now and she doesn’t need to prove anything anymore. She’s super rich, built a fantastic career and several businesses, has friends. She won’t be lonely. Who needs marriage? Maybe she’ll follow Jennifer Garner’s lead? Good on her if she’s getting some from Tom Brady.

  3. SquiddusMaximus says:

    I’m a huge advocate for for reassessment and reinvention — keep track of where you stand with respect to your value system and recalibrate when necessary. But 50-year-old men seeking to reclaim their youth with tattoos, cars, and less-than-appropriately aged women smacks of desperation and denial. Fortunately, he looks like the past few years have made him doughy and puny, while Reese continues to be a groundbreaking force of nature.

    • Tacky says:

      I think the pandemic was an inflection point for a lot of people. I know so many people who changed careers, moved to another part of the country, and divorced.

      • Seraphina says:

        I agree with you @Tacky, the pandemic has affected us in so many ways and we will continue to see ripple effects of it in the next 5-10 years.

      • ML says:

        Due to the drunk driving story referenced with their divorce, I realize I must have heard of this guy at some point. Honestly though, my first reaction was Reese and who are divorcing? In retrospect, given how long ago they seem to have split their assets and offloaded their property, the pandemic does look like it could have been a deciding factor.
        I know next to nothing about JT. In pictures he seems to be dressed normally, I don’t see tattoos or jewelry, and he was described as a stabilizing force after RW’s first husband. Suddenly in this article that’s changed to a guy gone off the rails in a midlife crisis? This could be, but it sounds a bit weird at the moment.

      • Whyforthelove says:

        100% agree that the pandemic Elsa’s a big wake up call for a lot of us. At the very least we had a lot of thinking time.

      • tealily says:

        I agree with this. It doesn’t feel like a midlife crisis to me, it feels like a pandemic life change.

    • blue says:

      Really?? Reese has tattoos on her lower abdomen and on her ankle. I don’t think they’re new. Jim looks lean & fit in recent pics. They both run but Jim has the leg musculature of a serious distance runner when he’s seen in shorts. Don’t know where his tats are – none visible in beachwear.

      • Bee says:

        He’s gotten a few on one of his arms. The quoted article is clearly directly from Reese’s PR.

        The drunken arrest story shows a codependent relationship. They are probably both better off separated.

      • TwinFalls says:

        He has sleeves on both arms. They are visible in a Christmas pic on Reece’s IG.

    • Mabs A'Mabbin says:

      Yeah, my husband just went out and updated some of his ink. Lol. Hell, I’ve been thinking about starting some sleeves on my arms! I’m thinking foliage. I’m such a cancer. No fast cars. No wandering eyes. Our attitudes, characteristics, etc. haven’t changed too much at all. I’m probably the one who’s experienced more growth, however, lol, he is a man.

    • MF says:

      Reese has always been too good for him: too beautiful, too smart, too successful.

  4. ThatsNotOkay says:

    Sounds like he wants the adrenaline rush of start-ups, big gains and big losses. Lots of risk, random reward. Private jets, late nights, maybe even start-up groupies. They’re on different pages, can’t see themselves growing together, so they’re splitting. I keep seeing it happen with men of a certain age, who see themselves as someone they haven’t been yet but are desperate to become before they die. Stable, mature, intelligent women are better off without them.

    • ShazBot says:

      I got Elon vibes from the description here, so if that’s what he’s doing I can see why Reese is like “ya bye”

  5. Southern Fried says:

    Pete Davidson. She wants some of that. 🤣

  6. Jillian says:

    “Chunky, weird jewelry” had me SCREAMING!! The shade

  7. cdnKitty says:

    Idk, I think honestly reassessing yourself, your values and goals is important, even moreso when you’re in the last half of your life. While the midlife crises is much maligned, it’s also an important realignment for some. I think that if this increases the harmony for them and their son, then it’s a good thing for all. Especially if Toth is shaking off the persona he thought he was supposed to be and is reclaiming who he wants to be.

    • Southern Fried says:

      I’m with you on this. I believe in new chapters of your life. There’s ways to do it smartly and kindly.

    • Kirsten says:

      Reassessing is one thing, but changing careers, getting a divorce, and moving to a new city is hoping that those changes will suddenly make you a new/different person. They will not.

      • tealily says:

        I don’t know. The career and the city are so closely intertwined here. As are the career and the marriage.

    • LIONE says:


      Yeeeees, so agree!

      We need to evolve over time and I find the middle-age trope a bit redundant and narrow-minded, to be honest.
      What really spoke to me was the fact that he quit his job and reassessed who he is. That’s self reflection. Sounds to me like he was just done with the Hollywood game and wanted something else. What is wrong with that? Do we have to stay in the same job and in the same marriage forever to please everyone else? Or do we get to find our happiness as it evolves and mean new and different things?

      People have their personal reasons for quitting their jobs and getting a divorce. And it’s been a process of 2 years. It’s not like he just found a 18-year old and vanished. So yeah.. I’m actually rooting for him. Maybe he found himself more authentically. I hope so!

      Lot of stuck and judgemental people in these comments.. Not surprised, though.

      • Kitten says:

        “That money was rocket fuel to them, but it sent them in different directions and pretty quickly after that deal closed, the only real common ground they had was the raising of their son, Tennessee”

        It seems like the catalyst was more so due to that deal than it was due to some serious self-reflection but who knows. Maybe both happened at the same time.

        I guess I don’t understand making a crazy personal/life shift in my 40s but then again. I spent most of my 20s and 30s having fun, partying and dating (mostly) casually so perhaps that’s why. At 44, 7 yearsin a committed relationship, finally own a house and feeling settled in my career–the last thing I’d want to do is to disrupt this perfect peace.

      • LIONE says:


        That’s beautiful! I’m happy you have that. May you continue to feel this happy the rest of your life.

        My experience is working with people who go through big life changes.
        And I find the “midlife crises” trope to be a condescending way of talking about a normal transition in life.

        At that age, and might I add: both women and men, change massively.
        We have all the psychological aspects to it, and some become more aware of their existance and their mortality, which again leads to reassessing values and how authentically someone is living.
        But there’s also hormone changes, major physical changes and a time when peoples earlier life choices seem to come back around to be either closed or opened up.

        In my experience I see more people conforming to the idea of who they are and should be; in this society, in their relationships and families, in their professional careers, etc. –
        than I see people who are in touch with what they actually want and need, who they really are in the core of themselves – and that they’ve have had to suppress or ignore.
        On top of that, it’s also a cultural phenomenon and an indication of how we were brought up.

        So I find the midlife crisis-comment backhanded.
        That part of life is when we often wake up to the fact that we have neglected ourselves. Even when it was necessary.

        It’s a normal part of every human beings life to evolve into older age and to take inventory of how things are going, what we want more of and how we want to live moving forward.

        And sometimes it leads us into completely new terrain.
        In my eyes, it takes alot of bravery to listen inwards and change the things that make us unhappy. And to not just stay somewhere in life because it’s comfortable.

        I have NO CLUE what’s really going on here with him (and I’m hoping nothing shady went on), I just wanted to offer the perspective that it can be quite healthy actually to get a divorce and move on, when we realize we can’t offer what our partners need and also have what we need.

        Just think a lot of these articles are being too judgemental. We need less of that in the world, and more openness and grace.
        I know I’m on a gossip blog, but wow do I wish we could be kinder to each other regardless.

        (sorry for misspelling etc. English is not my first language)

      • Mabs A'Mabbin says:

        That’s pretty beautiful Lione. Thank you.

  8. Kokiri says:

    How to say “he cheated” without saying he cheated.
    He totally cheated. And she’s done, no reconciliation talks, no unconscious coupling. He cheated & she’s done.
    Good for her.

    • It Really Is You, Not Me says:

      Ding Ding Ding Ding Ding

      She’s a powerhouse. She’ll be just fine even if she never dates anyone again and just focuses on her business, her kids, and her friends. Go Reese!

    • Coco says:

      That’s my take too it seems like they tried to work it out and Reese couldn’t get passed it. It would also explain Reese’s side going to People magazine with this same story of Jim. Midlife crisis, being the catalyst for the divorce. Because why else after keeping split and living separately on the DL would you run to the media with these stories after announcing your getting divorce?

    • MaryContrary says:

      They started unloading real estate in 2020. My guess is they have been separated for years. I think it’s mutual.

  9. Frippery says:

    He was a talent agent. Maybe not to people of Reese’s caliber but still a Hollywood talent agent. How is that “the service business”? What an odd way to word that. Is it supposed to be shade?

    • Kate says:

      I don’t think shade I just think it’s a very broad way to describe the types of jobs where you provide any service to clients – like lawyers, doctors, agents, insurance sales, investment brokers – as opposed to selling a product. Seems like he was tired of wearing the suits, looking and acting a certain way. I get it – I had a pink hair phase during the pandemic when we were all working from home. Didn’t divorce my husband but ya know – midlife and pandemics hit everyone different.

      • freddy says:

        I was a publicist for 15 years and an agent for 12 years before that…it’s most DEFINITELY “the service business”…..

      • lunchcoma says:

        Agreed. It’s not some indicator of class status or lack thereof. I used to be a lawyer, and one of the big reasons people get out of that line of work is that it’s a service business. Even if you’re well-paid and socially respected, part of your job involves pleasing other people and responding to their needs and desires. Some people like it, some people find it awful, and some can do it for quite awhile and then decide it’s burned them out.

      • Frippery says:

        Thanks for explaining it a bit better Lunch, Freddy & Kate. I think I was going off of the perception of ‘service industry’ as opposed to service business

    • blue says:

      He was Matthew McConaughey’s agent & had other high-profile clients on his list. Providing services for demanding clients in PR, real estate, law, fashion/styling takes a lot of energy & the self-control not to tell some of them how ridiculously silly & self-entitled they are. I’ve done it & it’s eventually exhausting.

  10. Candy says:

    I don’t know…I kind of liked them as a couple because he seemed stable and supportive. That said, she is significantly more attractive than him. I think she was trying to find a stable partner during those years of raising her older kids, but they’re grown now and his lack of oomph turned into a bigger issue. And the midlife stuff is pretty annoying to boot.

    • MaryContrary says:

      He’s a Hollywood mover and shaker and has been for years (it’s behind the scenes). I don’t think lack of oomph is the issue.

  11. girl_ninja says:

    After her divorce from Ryan, Reese marring this guy seemed like a safe choice. Not that she didn’t love him but he was very stable and would make her and her children his priority. Men really are allowed to do anything that they want to do huh?

  12. Andrea says:

    I didnt think itd last when that drunk driving story came out years ago. I wondered if they were unhealthy for each other then.

  13. LIONE says:

    How do you know that thats what’s going on? What if he isn’t hoping that would make him a new person, but he just woke up to not leading the life he really wanted and realized he needed to change some things, so… He is.

    For all we know, they tried to make it work as he had this personal process but found it didn’t in the end. It’s been going on for 2 years, possibly longer.

    Does it make you angry that people change during their life’s?

  14. solidgold says:

    Weird jewelry.. lol. Brad Pitt is also wearing weird jewelry and increasing his tattoos.

    A “friend and colleague” went to the Scum to spin a mid-life crisis story.

  15. Lens says:

    I side-eye anything coming from the Sun tbh. I think they do a lot of their own embellishing. Like many said above this has probably been in the works since 2020 and I think it’s a natural thing when one partner goes through several big career changes, as well as the pandemic making them reassess their lives. They had at least ten years of a good run and a child they both love. Seems like there is no big scandal here. And all men go through a midlife crisis of some degree or another it seems to me. If you can weather going through it being the partner of them good for you.

  16. Sona says:

    After reading half these comments Im a bit thrown off.

    Is having tattoos and jewelery bad if you’re older? Personally I feel not.

    Is coming clean to your spouse about not being the same person, about changes on the couple dynamic wrong?

    If this reporting is true and not a cover-up, I dont see anything problematic about the reasons and the attitude of this man.
    And I also dont think he will regret, if he had the clarity to get out once he wasnt feeling the same and spoke out, then its likely he really wanted this.

  17. Britney says:

    First, this divorce/separation was in the works for YEARS before the sale of their family home & their production company, Hello Sunshine. We are just hearing about it now as everything is all but done.

    Second, CAA breads a culture of misogony & toxicity. There were loads of accusations against agents & staffers during the #MeToo movement which conveniently went nowhere. Also, look at their roster of agents: Richard Lovett (read James Andrew Miller’s Powerhouse: The Untold Story of Hollywood’s Creative Artists Agency), Bryan Lourd and Kevin Huvane (ask them about their involvement with Harvey Weinstein), Cade Hudson (accused of exchanging sexual favors for roles) and Jason Trawick (former STALKER turned fiancé & co-conservator of Britney Spears) – yes Jason stalked Britney for YEARS until her father illegally and involuntarily gained control of her finances & medical decisions and then hired Jason as her agent/babysitter. Long story short, Jason now spends his weekends with Bryan Spears (Britney’s brother), underage girls & escorts in Las Vegas

    • Anon says:

      BRITNEY thanks for reminding people about #MeToo and that culture. Wonder if that’s part of the reason why Reese said she was supporting #MeToo?

      And YIKES about the stalking and underage girls with Trawick & Bryan! How do you know this? That does NOT sound good…

      Hopefully if Reese and Tom Brady are together, it’s a good fit for them.

      As for Reese and Jim and the timing-sometimes having your financial future secured forever can lead to re-assessing (and/or it’s own type of “purpose” crisis, similar to a mid-life crisis). Couple the money to be able to make whatever decision you want with the pandemic and the timing of this split makes all kind of sense on its own.

      I’m curious about what someone said upthread about the arrests showing co-dependence-I don’t recall all the details (I do recall thinking that they probably wouldn’t last when I heard of it, if for no other reason than one would blame the other). Can someone explain this too me?

  18. Johanna says:

    I feel like the Ashton/Reese awkwardness makes so much more sense now. She knew this annoucement was coming and didn’t want any speculation that Ashton was part of it. She seems to have a good head on her shoulders and would be fine with or without a new man for a while.

  19. H says:

    ” This divorce is the result of that process, but Reese has handled co-parenting before, quite successfully in fact,” lol Reese is the direct source on this