Telegraph columnist cries about the Sussexes’ ‘performative hand-holding’

The Duke and Duchess of Sussex have always been very tactile with each other. It’s their love language, to be physically connected, to hold hands or put their hands on each other’s backs. It’s always been that way, from the very start of their relationship. Big Red truly looks for any reason to stay physically connected to his wife and he’s always reaching out his hand to Meghan, or touching her hair or looking heartbroken and lovesick when she’s speaking to another man. The only “bad” thing about their hand-holding is that Meghan is a lot shorter than him and she really has to scurry to keep up with his pace when they’re walking together and holding hands. Of course, that’s not the complaint of this new and absolutely unhinged Telegraph column which has gone minorly viral. Telegraph columnist Judith Woods wrote: “Sorry, Harry and Meghan, but your performative hand-holding fools no one.” The kicker is the subhead: “These two clearly want it to be known that they are inseparable – and nothing like William and Kate.” Oh, that’s an unintentional confession, huh.

Right. That’s it. Does anyone have a pair of bolt cutters? Or maybe a water cannon? Because frankly, I think that’s the only way we can stop Harry and Meghan from holding hands. Like so many other things about them, it is fingernails-down-the-blackboard grating. Annoying. And so g-ddamn performative.

The whole “young and so very much in love, not like frosty and uptight William and Kate” routine has worn thinner than a cigarette paper. Harry is 39; Meghan is 42. They have two offspring, aged four and two. Nobody has free hands at that age and stage; they are either full of squirming children or their ridiculously bulky paraphernalia. Any free hand is for patting down your partner’s body to find the car keys. Fact.

“Every time I see those two holding hands, it triggers me,” confesses a colleague who also has a brace of little ones. “It’s inauthentic, it’s unbelievable, it makes me want to scream because it bears no resemblance to the realities of parenthood.”

We know Meghan is (whisper it) “a hugger” as well as being “one of the most influential women in the world” according to the couple’s new website, which means it must be true. Doesn’t she grasp that clinging on to her husband’s arms all the time isn’t feminist? Quite the opposite: it projects a bizarre image of childishness and codependence.

The irony is that Harry, formerly known as Prince, is a man who knows exactly what to do with empty hands. He was born into it. It was bred into him. It’s pretty much the USP of Windsor man 1.0; slip one hand into the jacket pocket, occasionally open a button, close the button, hands behind the back, pause and repeat.

[From The Telegraph]

Again, they’re painting Meghan as aggressively forcing Harry to hold her hand – they’ve “blamed” Meghan for the hand-holding for years, as if she alone is doing it. Please, Harry is the one reaching out for her 90% of the time. Meghan is his security blanket – he feels more confident when he’s physically connected to her. Anyway, this whole column is giving Bitter Karen. Imagine having such strong negative opinions about a married couple holding hands? Imagine setting up William and Kate like that too. I guess that’s what these people really want to talk about – why do Harry and Meghan have to look so loved up, why can’t they look at each other with spite and disgust like Will and Kate? Why can’t Harry wince when Meghan touches him, like William winces whenever Kate tries to grope his ass in public?

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  1. WiththeAmerican says:

    No, see, it’s only good PDA if the wife mauls the husband in public, grabbing his butt repeatedly as the only sign of “affection.”

    Sweet handholding with no sexually aggressive overtones will not be tolerated.

    • SussexWatcher says:

      And don’t forget “festive glances” before flinching away from your husband when he touches your shoulder during a Christmas cooking broadcast.

      Or staring at your wife with flared nostrils and a clenched jaw. Or never holding an umbrella over her head when you’re walking side by side in the rain. Or helping her down wet airplane steps when she’s heavily pregnant. So many examples of the Wails’ family PDA for her to focus on if she appreciates their brand more than the loved-up Sussexes.

    • BeanieBean says:

      Yes, grabbing your husband’s butt in church is very feminist. smdh. 🙄

      • Jais says:

        She has no idea what feminism is. Having the choice to hold hands, not hold hands, grab butts or not grab butts is the whole point. Restricting any one of those choices or belittling one of them is anti-feminist.

    • Bean says:

      This is one of the most unhinged articles yet. I am 55 and have been married for (quickly counts) 29 years. My husband and I hold hands. It’s not performative, we like holding hands.
      Plus, and this is where the writer really goes round the bend, there aren’t any kids there! Their hands ARE FREE! No toddlers to pick up, no noses to wipe, etc. Wanting to hold your spouses hand when you have a free hand is what we ALL should be striving for! Imagine loving your partner and wanting to actually TOUCH them!
      Seriously – are all UK writers absolutely insane?!

      • A Magi says:

        I can only conclude that the vast majority of these unhinged UK writers are miserable in their own lives and jealous of others who are happy. There is no other rational explanation.

      • Debbie says:

        Your Honor, I concur.

      • Sketchy says:

        My husband and I hold hands too. This is stupid. Since they don’t parade their kids in public there’s no need for them to be holding a toddler or their stuff. The few times we have seen them with the kids they certainly are holding on to them. Such a weird story or maybe just self revealing.

    • Elizabeth says:

      “why do Harry and Meghan have to look so loved up, why can’t they look at each other with spite and disgust like Will and Kate? Why can’t Harry wince when Meghan touches him, like William winces whenever Kate tries to grope his ass in public?”

      Yes! This is it! How DARE Harry and particularly MEGHAN look happy?! Don’t they know they’re supposed to look miserable and suicidal?

      • Lorelei says:

        Is this writer aware that their children are not with them on this trip? She writes as if their hands should be full juggling Archie and Lili and all of their gear around…but they are not there. Absolutely demented article.

  2. BlueSky says:

    You being triggered by a married couple holding hands tells me everything I need to know in your household. They are so angry because it makes William and Kate look bad. They are angry that despite all that has happened they are still very much in love.

    • Cessily says:

      Exactly! I came here to say the same thing. Miserable people just hate to happiness because then they might have to reevaluate their own life choices.

      • Proud Mary says:

        Operation shame William and Kate into becoming Harry and Meghan having failed, insert plan B here– try to shame Harry and Meghan into becoming Prince and Princess Doom & Gloom.

    • Slush says:

      That and also their disdain for her has hit “b*tch eating crackers” level at this point.

    • ML says:

      “ You being triggered by a married couple holding hands tells me everything I need to know in your household.”

      This! H&M are loving, but absolutely not so overly physical that you think, “Get a room!” They behave normally. I would advise this author not to travel (they would be shocked at how affectionate people might behave and it could ruin their vacation).

      • Agreatreckoning says:

        How is it performative even when it’s something they’ve pretty much have always done? This article seems like performative outrage because it’s H&M.

        A new RR seems to be born every minute. Yikes. Looked up this one. I don’t know how much she goes on vacations anymore. She broke her back after the horse she was riding got spooked and she fell off (her 7 year old daughter fell off her horse too and was left with severe bruising). Judith Woods wrote an article about it.

        At the time she also had a 10 month old daughter, who she couldn’t properly hold for 5 months. You would think this woman would understand the importance of human affection. She brought up being triggered by her friend’s family vacation photos when they were doing fun things.e

        Don’t recall which poster first said it, the name Telegaffe is perfect.

    • Christine says:

      How woke of them! I bet they rage eat avocado toast while hiding in a closet.

    • Just Jade says:

      Those mental vampire Karen rats have never experienced love from their husbands or partners this is why they are so triggered over a woman of color to be love by her husband. Stay salty and Go kick rocks Karen!

    • BlueNailsBetty says:

      My parents started dating February 15, 1959. Dad passed away November 20, 2012. Mom and Dad held hands everywhere they went together or if they were seated together that entire time. 53 years of hand holding.

      The rota is so pathetic.

      • BeanieBean says:

        I have a friend whose parents danced in the street after a celebratory dinner (my friend successfully defended her thesis that day). It was lovely. This writer wouldn’t know lovely, or love.

    • bisynaptic says:

      …and, of course, they couldn’t possibly just stop looking…

    • Carmen says:

      What a miserable, unhappy woman poor Judy Woods sounds like! I can’t imagine someone being so pissed off about other people’s happiness. Glad I’m not her.

      • Chrissy says:

        Her attitude is probably a reflection of her own relationship, not just the Workshy Wales’. It must be difficult for her to witness true love in the Sussexes when you are spoonfed cold, eye-rolling Will and desperately-clinging Kate pretend they have a true partnership. I pity her!

  3. Dee(2) says:

    I’m happy that it’s going minorly viral for its foolishness. They always have to make anything that Harry and Meghan do seem over the top or to use their favorite word bizarre because they know that side by side comparisons of them and Will and Kate , Will and Kate do look incredibly distant and cold as the article itself says. They act like they can’t stand each other, and let’s not even talk about achievements. So instead of pointing out that you have two super lazy people who ask stupid questions or say offensive things every time they open their mouths, and for being together for 20 years behave like they think the other has cooties it’s oh my gosh Harry and Meghan are so performative.

    ETA- I just realized she’s complaining about their appearance on Valentine’s Day too. I can’t imagine being that bitter to be upset a couple was holding hands on Valentine’s Day.

  4. Allison says:

    Hello?? The kids aren’t with them. You hold hands when you get the chance.

    • Elizabeth says:

      We’ve seen pictures of them with the kids, and they aren’t holding hands; they’re holding onto their kids.

      • Brassy Rebel says:

        The message here? Once you’re a parent, no pda is allowed even if the kids are miles away.

    • Ameerah M says:

      This just tells me that these people are in very sad marriages. If holding your husband’s HAND is strange…yikes.

      • Lens says:

        This deranged columnist just wants to find something – anything – to complain about. It’s just too bizarre

      • Robert Phillips says:

        Does anyone else remember right before Charles and Diana got married. They all kept talking about all the rules she was going to have to follow. One of the major ones was she was to follow behind him by three paces at all times in public. All these old harpies can’t stand that the world has moved on. And that British Royalty aren’t the center of the world anymore. They still want Meghan to walk behind Harry. To show that because he has royal blood he is better than everyone else. Not an equal by holding his hand.

  5. SueBarbri33 says:

    This whole thing is so ridiculous and sad. As someone who is part of a tactile, hand-holding couple, this criticism really annoys me. It’s not as if they’re doing something inappropriate. My bf and I are the types who always sit on the same side of the table at restaurants–I’d hate to think of what this columnist would say about that.

    • Giddy says:

      I’ve been married 41 years and we still hold hands!

      • Thelma says:

        35 years and we still hold hands! What a sad person this journalist must be. How does Harry and Meghan holding hands even affect her. Smdh.

      • BlueNailsBetty says:

        @Giddy and Thelma

        Both of you sicken me, just absolutely sicken me, with this gross public display of affection for ::checks note:: wait, this can’t be right. ::checks notes again:: ummm, you sicken me for holding hands with your spouse.

        Okay, none of that makes sense but my publisher insisted I write this.


        But seriously, I love this for both of you and your spouses!

      • Emanym says:

        Married 23 years and we still hold hands and are very tactile both at home and in public.

    • JanetDR says:

      We hold hands every chance we get! So weird to act like it’s wrong.

    • SenseOfTheAbsurd says:

      I hate holding hands, makes me feel all sweaty and restrained, but still find it sweet and lovely when other couples choose to do it.

  6. sevenblue says:

    BM is mad that they have to go archives to show people K&W are in love because they threw festive glances to each other a few years ago. I also feel there is jealousy in their cries that Meghan got the nice man while their white princess (whom they empathize with) got an unevolved man child who pretends his wife doesn’t exist in public most of the time.

  7. What their problem is it’s that they all are jealous. They are jealous of the respect and love that Meg have for one another. They even admitted it triggers them although not for the reasons they say. What kind of loveless relationships these people must have. There mad because the fairytale love story they tried to sell with Peg and Can’t is a very big lie and people notice they can’t stand each other and when Can’t tries to unauthentically touch her husband he gives her a look and pulls away.

    • lanne says:

      Remember that meghan was supposed to be the “good time” girl before Harry married his white princess. These old white women are still up in their britches about a black woman “stealing” one of “their men.” That’s what this whole thing is about, what it’s always been about. They take Harry’s hand-holding with his wife personally, because damnit, it wasn’t supposed to be Meghan! These people take their hierarchies very, very seriously. It’s their religion, their alpha, and their omega.

  8. Krista says:

    Apparently the writer’s (Judith) partner doesn’t touch her enough, if she actually believes the BS she’s spewing. Look to your own relationships and your own life, sweetie, before you criticize others.

    • AuntRara says:

      Exactly! Next she’ll be complaining about their date nights. “And THEN they went to DINNER and it was JUST THE TWO OF THEM. IMAGINE having to spend time ALONE with your PARTNER. GROSS.” So telling. Maybe she should be discussing her feelings about her marriage with a good friend or a therapist and leave her readers out of it. If I knew her in real life and read that I would be so embarrassed for her.

  9. Louise177 says:

    I saw this on another website. Even people who hate Harry and Meghan were laughing at it and thought it was a ridiculous article. Who thought this was a good idea?

    • Jais says:

      The writer has clearly been hanging out in deranger echo chambers. They saw things like this amongst themselves but forget that as soon as they leave the echo chamber, the rest of the world is just gonna look at them like they’re jealous and bitter women with sad love lives. Listen, holding hands doesn’t necessarily mean your love life is better than a couple who has a love language that isn’t as physical. But hating on another woman for holding hands is just a sign of extreme jealousy.

      • Jules77 says:

        Thank you for mentioning love language. My husband hates holding hands but it doesn’t reflect on us. It’s not his love language.

      • Deering24 says:

        I don’t get how these folks don’t realize that crap like this tells more than they’d want anyone to know about how miserable their lives are. But then, can’t fix stupid…

  10. Jais says:

    Whoa. This just says a lot more about the writer and all the other bitter women who hate Meghan for holding her husband’s hand. Or for the fact that her husband wants to hold her hand. They’re triggered and annoyed by hand holding? How embarrassing. Are they not ashamed? It just makes them seem so sad and pathetic and mean. It’s not Meghan’s fault that they’re lives are so sad they’re triggered by hand-holding.

    • Becks1 says:


      I mean Jill and Joe Biden still hold hands in public and no one is writing nasty articles about them. Trump tried to get Melania to hold his hand and she refused, LOL.

      • Jais says:

        TRIGGERED from the Telegraph of all places is sending me. How very woke of them😂

      • Caribbean says:

        I was watching ‘WHEEL’ last night (don’t judge me, lol) and one of the couples, married for 10/12 years with 2 kids, held hands the whole show…
        All this outrage is what is performative…they are not outraged…they ALL see a money source in H & M

  11. Josephine says:

    I have very real second-hand embarassment (and sadness) for this fiction writers from the Telegraph. I think someone wasn’t properly loved and cared for as child.

    • Jais says:

      It’s actually pretty funny that this take is from the Telegraph, aka the Torygraph. Isn’t their whole schtick that they’re against all forms of wokery and trigger warnings and delicate little snowflakes. And yet their very own Telegraph writer is out here saying that she’s TRiGGered by hand-holding. Who’s the snowflake now?

  12. MsIam says:

    The whole thing about being unable to hold hands because of having children makes no sense when their kids are not even there. Like should Meghan be carrying a diaper bag at all times? This is just a click bait article written to get a rise out of the Sussex Squad.

  13. TarteAuCitron says:

    “it triggers me”??? Well, this is England after all: land of the Stiff Upper Lip.

    Anyway, it is Friday. Going to share a funny scene from “Yes Prime Minister”, as I always think of it whenever I see a reference to the Daily Torygraph. 🙂

    “Sir Humphrey : The only way to understand the Press is to remember that they pander to their readers’ prejudices.

    Jim Hacker : Don’t tell me about the Press. I know *exactly* who reads the papers. The Daily Mirror is read by people who think they run the country; The Guardian is read by people who think they *ought* to run the country; The Times is read by the people who actually *do* run the country; The Daily Mail is read by the wives of the people who run the country; The Financial Times is read by people who *own* the country; The Morning Star is read by people who think the country ought to be run by *another* country; and The Daily Telegraph is read by people who think it is.

    Sir Humphrey : Oh, and Prime Minister, what about the people who read The Sun?

    Bernard Woolley : Sun readers don’t care who runs the country as long as she’s got big t*ts.”

  14. sevenblue says:

    Just remembered, a few years ago they were saying Meghan was gloating because she called Harry “my husband” while talking about him. They are just jealous and bitter that Meghan got the good prince.

    • aftershocks says:

      ^^ LOL! Exactly @Sevenblue! 💯 🎯 All the obsessed H&M-hateing rota rats, nonces, and derangers need to chill out and take stock of their lowly, unloved, ‘triggering-needy,’ 🫳 🕳 miserable existences. 🙄🤦‍♀️

  15. equality says:

    What “projects a bizarre image” is being this worked up about a married couple holding hands. And sure, Harry fidgeting with his clothes projects a much better image than holding his wife’s hand. They need to read a few facts about touch and hand-holding: it can lower blood pressure, pain and stress. Maybe this explains a few things about these people if even their spouses don’t want to hug them or hold their hands.

    • aftershocks says:

      ^^ Yes, everyone! 👏🏽 Right @Equality: Loving human touch (including hand-holding) can soothe our souls, and provide support in so many uplifting ways! 🤝 🫂 It is exactly what young 12-year-old Prince Harry needed at Balmoral, when he’d been left alone grieving in his bedroom in the early hours of August 31, 1997. 🥺 It is unconscionable that there are so many jealous, decrepit beings in the world who resent Harry fortunately finding deep love, solace, comfort, support, mutual caring for others, enterprising goals, and fulfilling happiness with his forever soulmate, Meghan! 🫠

  16. Harla A Brazen Hussy says:

    This is some very intense “Bitter Hag” energy, I can only imagine what this writers relationships look like, pretty frosty I bet.

  17. Missy says:

    Umm, my husband and I have been together for 12 years, married for 5, and we have 2 kids same as the Sussexes. Any time it’s just the two of us we hold hands. It’s a really simple way to feel connected and express our love. But I guess we’re children!! Lol *shrugs in British media*

    • Teagirl says:

      Mr Tea and I are in our 70s and we hold hands, and I take his arm.
      Saying that having your arm through your husband’s is not feminist? Utter claptrap. All it does is show how bitter and unhappy the writer is, and is likely in a cold relationship if in a relationship at all.

      • Jaded says:

        Mr. Jaded and I are also in our seventies and are always touching, not necessarily hand-holding but we need to be in contact with a hand on a knee or back. This word vomit is giving me memories of how everyone went after Meghan for holding her bump when she was expecting Archie. Interesting how all this hatred is coming on strong now that Invictus is ramping up. I guess jealous is as jealous does…

      • Iolanthe says:

        Yes Teagirl , I know lovely couples married forty , fifty and even sixty years who hug , hold hands and’s the sweetest thing . Some are not demonstrative and that’s OK too because they show their care and love in so many other ways . Kate aiming at her husband’s behind at formal occasions , flashing legs and worse, again at public functions ,and having said husband look at you with contempt , all that is okay ??

      • aftershocks says:

        @Jaded: “… giving me memories of how everyone went after Meghan for holding her bump when she was expecting Archie.”

        ^^ Exactly @Jaded. Meghan was so beautiful and courageous throughout her pregnancy with Archie. I say ‘courageous’ in hindsight since we now know in more detail her fragile vulnerability during that time when she was receiving so much public hate, and hardly any close emotional support outside of Harry and long distance chats with her Mom. Albeit, Meghan likely tried to protect her Mom and her friends from knowing in real time the worst of her lowest points endured as a result of the cruel British media harassment.

        Thankfully, Meghan got to spend her pregnancy with Lili Diana out of the public eye, in the comforting, loving, supportive environs of Montecito Haven. 🌈

  18. StillDouchesOfCambridge says:

    Prince eggplant William and Kkkhate are too lazy to hold hands, when they feel hard working they jazzhand.

    My husband and I have been together for 3 decades and we still hold hands all.the.time. It’s just how we are.

    • Chrissy says:

      Oh, I think Cannot would try hold hands with Won’t but she would never go there because she knows she’d be rejected! Especially if trying in public. He hates and is embarrassed by her and she know it. But she always thinks of the PR angle of thinking they should be tactile to compete with H & M.

  19. Lulu says:

    Wow, sorry your life sucks so hard Judy. That’s all I get out of this lunatic raving.

  20. Tina says:

    I honestly thought this was a parody story when I first saw it. Even if Meghan and Harry were not touching each other their love really does just shine. It’s the way they look at each other and even just lean into each other’s spaces. You can’t fake this and thats what makes them so mad. Even if they somehow convince William to hold Kate’s hand you can’t fake love and adoration. If the reason there are so many iconic pics of Harry and Meghan just being themselves together. You capture a moment and its amazing. You can’t stage that.

    • aftershocks says:

      ^^ Exactly @Tina! 💯 👏🏽

      “It’s the way they look at each other and even just lean into each other’s spaces.”

      For sure! Meghan famously has said, “When we look into each other’s eyes, everything else falls away.” 🥹 H&M also noticeably mirror each other in their gestures, stances, smiles, and in how they move and flow together. The love Harry & Meghan share is so rare and uber aspirational. ❤️‍🔥🤌🏼 🫠

      For evidence, take a look at all the many photos of them. More recently, see how their gait matches in the Valentine’s Day photos marking next year’s Winter Invictus Games in Vancouver! Also, check out that sweet photo of them in the theater in Jamaica for the Marley ‘One Love’ premiere. 😍 They are sitting with their heads turned in the same direction, with matching smiles, and with their left elbows perched on the armrests, while their left arms are upright and their hands are folded in a similar gesture. Very rare, indeed! 🙌🏽 🙏🏽

  21. Ameerah M says:

    This is such an unintentional TELL. Basically she’s mad that the heir and his wife hate each other and that the heir REFUSES to touch or be touched by his wife. Meanwhile Harry & Meghan genuinely love each other and hold hands all the time. LOL. You would think they were making out in front of everyone based on her reaction. Who gets mad at a married couple holding hands?? Weirdo British fake journalists, that’s who.

  22. Angelica Schuyler says:

    Tell us you have no love in your life without telling us you have no love in your life. What a bunch of Bitter Betties! My husband and I have been together for 30 years, have three kids, and we still hold hands. It’s NORMAL. These people are so envious of the love Harry and Meg share that it triggers them. Tisk tisk. It says volumes about the columnist and nothing bad about the Sussexes.

  23. Elizabeth says:

    My parents were married for 37 years and still held hands. My ex and I held hands all the time when we were together. Some people are incredibly tactile, and some people are not. Harry and Meghan have the same love language. I can’t believe that someone actually got paid to write this garbage.

  24. Eurydice says:

    The only thing this tells me is that Judith Woods is an idiot.

  25. Anna says:

    Truly unhinged “reporting”. Just say that seeing other people in love is triggering, Judith, jfc

    On a side note: I saw a side-by-side of Harry and Princess Diana when he was younger, and Harry holds Meghan’s hand with both of his the same way his mom did for him and if that’s not the sweetest thing🥺❤️

  26. Pinkosaurus says:

    I love it when they get so deranged that they say the quiet part out loud and expose themselves. It really helps show the rest of the world who they are – so incredibly hateful that the most innocuous or even pleasant, positive conduct by the Sussexes will result in front-page harangues.

  27. Becks1 says:

    So all the other insanity here aside…..their kids aren’t there. They aren’t carrying anything else in their hands. So why can’t they hold hands?? Their hands are free.

    I am not a super touchy person, so we don’t really hold hands. But I have friends who are more tactile and they do hold hands. It’s whatever works for any given couple.

    I’ve always thought that one of the things that attracted Harry to Meghan IS how tactile and physically affectionate she is, especially in public. Given what we know of his issues with the press, and how much cameras and such can trigger him, being able to reach out and touch her probably helps him a great deal.

    Finally, we see charles and Camilla touch in public. I don’t know if they hold hands, but they do reach out and touch each other’s arm and such. It really is only the one couple that can’t stand to touch each other. Or one half of that couple.

    • Nic919 says:

      This has only ever been about covering for the fact that William and Kate don’t have a romantic marriage based on affection and the cracks have been showing for years. Derangers are pathetic posting the two pictures of them making attempts to hold hands during the racism tour in the Caribbean but theirs faces reveal just how much they dislike each other.

      And of course they are avoiding the entire issue of kate being hidden away since Christmas, which is not normal no matter what surgery she was supposed to have.

    • Shawna says:

      For real. Compare it with that story from the other day from Tominey (?) about Harry saying he didn’t want to go in there and she said that he had to. No one around him would offer something as supportive as a hand-hold, not even the royal rota rats who think they have a relationship with Harry.

      • aftershocks says:

        ^^ Right @Shawna. However, it was the dour Ingrid Sewer who had the bossy gall to say those words to Harry, and then the temerity to turn around and publicly share this suspect anecdote. 🙄🤨

  28. Donna says:

    When I’m out walking, one of the sweetest things I love to see is an elderly couple walking along holding hands. My first thought is how nice it is to see that there’s still love in the world, not how it looks performantive and clingy.

    • Rainbow Kitty says:


    • Agreatreckoning says:

      Honestly. I could be having a crap day and one of the things that would bring a smile/joy to me was knowing that at around 1pm in the afternoon an older couple would walk by our office window holding hands and smiling. Quelle horreur! We haven’t seen them for 6 months now and it’s hard thinking that they’re not…

      My parents were married for 66 years when my Dad passed. I’m from a large brood. We saw Mommy kissing Santa Claus quite a lot! We had to put them in an assisted living situation their last couple of years. They may not have been completely clear of mind. They were very clear that their beds were to be not separated. Still have my old flip phone with pictures of them napping holding each other’s hand with their beds pressed next to each other’s. Quite certain it wasn’t performative.

      As someone else said. Telegaffe.

  29. sparrow says:

    I read this in The Telegraph. First, has the media considered whether its constant criticism of this couple has ended up with them finding comfort in being physically close when in public. Second, they could just be one of those couples who hold hands; I’m not a hand-holder with my partner, or those who came before him, but it doesn’t annoy me. People such as Woods and Tominey should thank their lucky stars Meghan came along, because they’ve made a fortune bashing this woman for any slight thing their money grubbing hands can come up with.

    • Debbie says:

      Funny you should mention the comforting aspect of the handholding @Sparrow. I’ve often thought that, in the beginning, when they were still living in England that Harry held Meghan’s hand in public because he was trying to comfort her and to send a message to the British public. The Brits, in those days, reportedly loved Harry so much, that I think Harry was trying to tell them in a subtle way that “Well, this is the woman I love, so if you like me in any way, be kind to her too.” Sadly, that didn’t work out so well, but I’m still convinced that’s a big part of why they hold on to one another. Good for them (and anyone else who is accustomed to holding hands.)

      • aftershocks says:

        ^^ I’m quite sure that H&M’s hand-holding is for all of the reasons we sense and have expressed, as well as for many inexpressible reasons we can only imagine. 🥹 🫠 From all evidence, H&M were both raised with tactile, demonstrative love from their mothers. How lovely it is, and how lucky they are to have found this same depth of caring and tactile devotion in each other. 🙌🏽

        H&M’s love is a blessing and a divine gift for and unto themselves. What they have together is clearly admired and applauded by sane, reasonable, thoughtful human beings. Those who are ‘triggered’ need to F off and tend to their petty, jealous, miserable existences.

  30. Rainbow Kitty says:

    Omg, I saw that headline yesterday and didn’t even bother to click on it.

  31. Mabs A'Mabbin says:

    Performative my ass…..

  32. Jk says:

    Way to announce to the world that your partner won’t touch you with a ten foot pole, Judith. Soooooo bitter.

  33. Over it says:

    I guess this writer hasn’t had human contact in a while . Poor thing is just bitter bitter bitter with jealousy and envy. I really wish Harry and Meghan would stick their tongue down each other throat every five seconds, bet then these bitter Karen’s would beg for the hand holding again

  34. Chantal1 says:

    I’m embarrassed for Moody Judy bc there’s no way I would attach my name to this bitter hate filled manifest. She just told the world how much her life sucks and is now a laughingstock. Maybe she should switch to comedy bc this isn’t journalism or even fan fic. And she and her cohorts are triggered? Sounds like the BM need lots of therapy and psychotropic drugs bc these “articles” are becoming more unhinged and I didn’t think that was possible. None of this sustained ?behavior is healthy, either physically or psychologically…

    I love how the Sussexes remain true to themselves and aren’t jumping thru hoops for those Bitter Betties aka the BM.

  35. Kingston says:

    What I want to know is: aren’t there any british expats in the journalism business who can call up their fellow countrymen back home in the shitmedia and say:….”Staaahhppp! You’re making britain a global laughingstock wth these takes on the RF….both those still living in the golden-caged ghetto, as well as the ones you hate for flying free and living their best life in America.”

    Anyone? No one?

  36. Lau says:

    I had to check who Judith Woods was because this looks like it’s been written by a 15 years-old who’s got a crush that is not reciprocated so she goes to her blog to complain. Sad and bitter.

  37. Elsa says:

    My husband and I are in our 70’s and 60’s and we love to hold hands. It is normal.

  38. Amy Bee says:

    This woman’s anger is misplaced it should be towards her husband who seemingly doesn’t want to her hand. Plus the real reason why so many royalists and press get upset about Harry and Meghan holding hands is because their faves, William and Kate don’t hold hands.

  39. Chantale says:

    If we do not get by now, I do not know when we will. These people do not care how they sound. They will enrage anyone for clicks. I have not clicked on a British Media site in 4 years, except for 2 of them. That was my 2020 new year resolution and I kept it. The only resolution I ever kept.🤣🤣

  40. CrispyBacon says:

    Um, is Britain okay? I know stiff upper lip and all that, but hand holding is too much?

    As someone who grew up with very little physical affection from my parents, it was really difficult accepting physical touch of affection from friends and romantic partners for a long time, but once I got used to it, I love it. My husband and I are alway holding hands, hugging, touching each other’s faces and backs in affection, and I do the same with my kids. I feel like Harry might be the same way, especially after Diana died. He was starved for touch, got used to it, and once he met Meghan and found the comfort and love in another, he must have gotten drunk on having it with someone willing to reciprocate with tenderness.

    Also, about the bitter on Saltine Island, I have a brother- and narc sister-in-law who apparently were really threatened by the way my husband and I were physically (but appropriately) affectionate with one another, so slowly my. husband began to spend less time around me and didn’t touch me when we were in their presence because they would get really angry, sullen, and resentful towards us because of it, and he wanted to either spare them from those feelings or just not do it to summon that evil demon energy from them. That’s because they are disasters and have a dysfunctional relationship with each other (and honestly, everyone else). That said, it sounds like Judith Woods and many derangers are cut from that same cloth.

    • bisynaptic says:

      Why not spend much less time with THEM, instead?

      • CrispyBacon says:

        Oh, don’t worry, we’re no longer spending time with them ever again. TLDR, it was a lot of family enmeshment, guilt, obligation, and covert narcissism, which unmasked itself recently, so now that we know better, we’re behaving with our best interests in mind now. (And I didn’t realize he was being purposefully non-touchy with me until he told me later.)

        Funny thing, I realize now that my own personal experiences with toxic family is probably why I relate and empathize so deeply with Harry and Meghan. The Windsors are clearly a narcissistic family system, and I think William is definitely an overt narcissist (and Kate is probably covert), and Charles and Camilla wouldn’t surprise me if they were also covert narcs, and these dusty Britons are surrounded by not only their yes-men enablers and derangers, they also have the media serving as their flying monkeys! And to boot, I’m the non-white spouse married in with my biracial children, and my MIL has definitely been weird about them and treats her full-white grandchild much better.

        Man, I hope Harry totally cuts them all off soon. I understand why he keeps going back–it’s why. my husband does as well–but in the end I don’t think they care about him at all except for what he can do for them (just like Harry) or they don’t care about him enough to protect him from the family’s biggest narcs.

  41. Lady Digby says:

    Comments underneath article are calling her out for spewing out this bile, bashing for bashing s sake and so catty. Interesting choice to drag in WK when I thought the tabs were under orders not to mention Kate or the state of that marriage? Meg and Harry look young, gorgeous and in love and these beautiful photographs of them helping promote the IG makes me happy and glad.

  42. Shawna says:

    I work at the same place as my husband, but our work is supposed to have nothing to do with our relationship. So we can’t go around holding hands. But I wish we could! Their life’s work is tied to their relationship, so why not go for the comfort of holding hands?

    • Saucy&Sassy says:

      Shawna, but can’t you hold hands when you’re not working? I can’t imagine that anyone would be able to say anything about that.

      • Shawna says:

        You somehow misinterpreted my comment. It was about not holding hands when we are at our place of work. It’s unprofessional at work for me. Of course I am affectionate at home and outside the office. With H&M, it’s a totally different work situation; their work and relationship go hand in hand!

  43. QuiteContrary says:

    My parents had six kids and held hands all the time. My husband and I have two kids and we hold hands, too. We do it because we love each other, but it had the added benefit of demonstrating what a loving, respectful marriage looks like to our kids.

    I remember watching my parents and thinking, “I want a relationship like theirs.” I’m so thankful that I’ve gotten it.

    I feel sorry for the Wales kids, because what they’re seeing is anger, bitterness and disrespect.

  44. B says:

    Misery loves company and these bitter Karens like that Kate and William look miserable. Its the same reason why a person would actually confess to feeling “triggered” by viewing happy parents. It’s clearly not a reality for her or anyone in her circle. The miserable herd together and resent anyone who seems to have a better life.

  45. Sarah says:

    If you’ve read Spare, you could see that Harry was starved for affection after Diana died. No wonder he holds her hand constantly!

    • SueBarbri33 says:

      Right? He explicitly says so a number of times, if memory serves me correctly. It sounded like he didn’t get a solid hug until he was a grown man, which must have been torture for somebody who is so tactile. I remember even before MM hit the scene, that H was always much more into showing affection with his girlfriends than William. It made him seem normal. These people are just so terrible. I will never forget the way H sat next to his girlfriend at the Concert for Diana in 2007–while William made Kate sit way in the back. That was outrageous.

  46. Sheri says:

    My ex-husband and I were married at 50 and 38, respectively. For the first fifteen years, we always held hands. For the last five, I couldn’t stand him anymore so we mostly didn’t. It’s not an odd thing to hold hands.

  47. Beverley says:

    Karens everywhere :
    But, but Harry wasn’t supposed to love that Black American. He was supposed to use her like a mattress until he found his proper English Rose. Meghan should have been a space holder, keeping the Royal scepter warm until someone more suitable (read that: white) stole his heart. But when he married her, she should have been a “degree wife”, gone in 3 years, but then they had children. Why oh why did they have kids? Now the kids are part of the Royal Family, but won’t they be too dark to be included in Family photos? Dammit, why did he marry a Black woman when he could have had one of us?

  48. CC says:

    Every man who has ever held the hand of his spouse will one day inevitably die. Coincidence?

    • BlueNailsBetty says:

      “Handholditis is a serious medical condition which can result in death. If you think you may have handholitis see your doctor and ask them about Releasum. Releasum can help you let go of your partner’s hand so that your body can heal from the damage done by hand holding.

      Releasum: saving lives by breaking up relationships one couple at a time!”

  49. Kelsey says:

    Another hard faced, unloved jackal worried about Meghan and her husband. Typical.

  50. Mary Pester says:

    Ah Judith, did your ex never hold your hand? Oh your married, OK, does your husband never hold your hand? No, could it be that if he did he would get frost bite?.
    Now, thanks for letting us know that Billy and keen are as warm to each other as a polar bears arse on an ice flo, but, please judy, go to spec savers, because the children aren’t bloody well there, and when the children are with them, they hold the children’s hands or cuddle them, Now mss frosty nickers grab those pearls, because shock horror, it’s called LOVE

  51. Beadlady says:

    I guess my husband of 32 years and I trigger folks. We’ve been together for 37 years and hold hands all the time when out and about. The firm seems to think marriage is only good for producing heirs except for Camilla.

  52. BlueNailsBetty says:

    If Harry and Meghan didn’t hold hands the rota would blast them for being a SHAM MARRIAGE and ON THE VERGE OF DIVORCE and WHICH ONE OF THEM IS THE BEARD and on and on and on.

  53. Jk says:

    BM sure has a very long list of things they hate: Jamaica, America, Hollywood, Oprah, NFL, veterans, everyone who’s seen talking to Harry and Meghan, …. And now even hand holding.

  54. KBeth says:

    Maybe they just really like each other.
    I know….crazy talk.

  55. Emily says:

    Feminists can’t hold hands now? These people are so bizarre.

  56. Beverley says:

    Talk about trying to normalize WanK’s public disdain for each other! Like, see how the FK and FQ behave, that’s “real love”. Throwing pillows in anger is Real Love. Throwing public “hurry up” signals is Real Love. Flinching when she grabs your ass is Real Love. Glowering with clenched jaw at her when she smiles at you is Real Love. The Wales’ Real Love is supposed to be aspirational?

    We’re supposed to be put off by Harry and Meghan’s genuine affection for each other, but be somehow charmed by WanK’s public display of disrespect and disregard for each other. It’s definitely Opposite Day.

  57. BeanieBean says:

    I just…did this woman not notice that their kids aren’t there??? I…I have no words any more.

  58. bisynaptic says:

    I seem to remember that cigarette paper was something that didn’t come between Will and Kate, they were so close. Now, things have changed, presumably?, and it’s being repurposed?

  59. HuffnPuff says:

    The rules according to Prudy Judy. LMAO First, this wasn’t performative. H&M love each other. They prioritized their love above the monarchy, remember? The stolen jewels, rodent infested old homes, silly clothing and playing second fiddle to lazy good for nothings weren’t enough to make them stay. Second, there’s no right or wrong with PDAs or the lack thereof. What should be discussed is when one spouse is rebuffed or ignored in public by her spouse when she tries to engage in a PDA. Maybe that’s where Prudy Judy is confused. She’s using the Wales’ as the standard.

  60. SenseOfTheAbsurd says:

    HAHAHA, I have an add-on for hate-reading the DT without subscribing, and that columnist’s usual remit is snide bitching about anybody aged under 40 as clickbait for all the pompous old farts. And here she is drivelling on about being triggered by a nice couple holding hands. Snowflake much? Even the commentariat of golf club bores and bitchy hags weren’t going for it.

  61. AC says:

    The UK literally just fell into a Recession. But a husband holding hands with his wife is all they talk about . 🙄

  62. Jay says:

    This article has reached Onion-level ridiculousness. Who could possibly be angry about a couple holding hands on Valentine’s day, or any other day? I am not a huge proponent of public displays of affection personally, but that doesn’t mean I hate other people for it!

    I hope the writer and whoever approved this story pitch at the telegraph get a grip. Or maybe a hand?

  63. HeatherC says:

    So THAT’S why Kate kept groping William’s butt. She was looking for the car keys.

  64. L4Frimaire says:

    Can’t believe this is still a thing for these weirdos. Is it really the hand holding that bothers her, or the fact that they look frankly gorgeous and enjoying each other’s company, while actually doing something with purpose that they love. This screed just sounds dumb and bitter as hell.

  65. Kay says:

    I think it lovely they hold hands. When they were walking on ice Harry kept asking Meghan if she was alright. People in love at any age hold hands. My grandparents held hands right up until their deaths. They were married for over 60 years. No one thought they were odd. Some people seem to go off at stupid things.

  66. kirk says:

    Bolt cutters? Violence of britmedia astounds.

    Speaking of Kitty, is she like dead now, or just still in a coma?
    Oh well hard workin’ Willy will show up at the BAFTAs again this year; what’s his schedule 2 years off, 2 years on?

  67. Saucy&Sassy says:

    Well, the article was good for a laugh, so there’s that.

  68. Bellah says:

    “young and so very much in love, not like frosty and uptight William and Kate” 🫢
    Oh really! Please do tell us more about your feelings about W&K.

    I’m older than both of them and my hubby and I hold hands when we go out for dinner/events. We don’t when we’re at home or out running errands but we do when we’re out socializing.
    Who cares if a couple does or not. She sounds envious and is probably in dire need of physical affection if this bothers her so deeply.

  69. zinjazin says:

    Its so alien to me that a reputable newspaper would publish something like this.

    • Magdalena says:

      But it is NOT a reputable newspaper. It has never been (neither has the times). The telegraph is just as agenda-driven as the other main UK papers. Most of the telegraph staff used to work for the tabloids, and it has always employed tabloid reporting style. It’s just more obvious now, because of their reporting on H+M.

  70. Morning says:

    O.K. And….where is Kate?

  71. JB says:

    “Right. That’s it. Does anyone have a pair of bolt cutters? Or maybe a water cannon? Because frankly, I think that’s the only way we can stop Harry and Meghan from holding hands.”

    Why exactly do “we” want to stop a loving married couple from holding hands…?

  72. blunt talker says:

    I thought the Telegraph had better stories to write about than how Harry and Meghan hold hands in public-the Uk media is becoming stupid is as stupid does-this worthless article should have been thrown in the incinerator-if they don’t stop this stupid writing they are going to have a stroke of the brain of no return-i guess she did not listen to his interview if she had she never would have co-signed to write this bullshit.

  73. Tessa says:

    If they did not hold hands they would not be criticized

  74. Cassie says:

    Oh dear ,I finally read that article,that woman is extremely jealous of their loving relationship .

    She needs therapy badly like all the other female and male journos who write their disgraceful stories .

    Pathetic the lot of them .

  75. Sass says:

    Lmfaoooo I literally cackled out loud reading this “article.” Who are these people?! What time period did they travel from?!