For the past two months, the vibes have been horrendous when it comes to Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez. Initially, it seemed like they were having issues and they just needed a break from each other, or maybe they just needed to reconnect and work on their marriage. Then Jennifer flew to the Hamptons and Ben stayed in LA. Rumors abound that their marriage “has been over for months” and they have “deeper issues” beyond Ben’s discomfort with J.Lo’s fame. Then on J.Lo’s birthday last week, Ben stayed away. Not only that, but he closed escrow on his new bachelor pad ON her birthday. As I’ve said throughout the week, I truly believe a divorce announcement will happen soon. The Daily Mail believes the same:
Jennifer Lopez’s love may not cost a thing, but her divorce to Ben Affleck sure will. Friends have claimed to DailyMail.com the 51-year-old ‘Last Duel’ actor and the superstar singer, 55, are once again pushing ahead with divorce after a final attempt at reconciliation in recent weeks failed.
The couple’s divorce documents ‘are finalized, but not yet turned in’, multiple sources have claimed.
The news follows Affleck buying a new $20.5 million ‘bachelor pad’ mansion in the Pacific Palisades on Wednesday, July 24, the day Lopez turned 55. Friends of Lopez’s claimed Affleck’s sudden bachelor pad purchase on her birthday had been a ‘stab to the heart’.
July 24 also marked the day Lopez also finalized the sale of her four-bedroom New York City penthouse for $23 million, People reported.
‘They finalized the divorce papers with her a month ago, but are waiting for the right time to drop them,’ one source close to the duo claimed. ‘At that time, they will release a joint statement that will say how they have much love for each other and how they fought to make it work, but couldn’t. Honestly, in the end they could not come to a compromise. What they had before is gone and they have both accepted it,’ another source claimed.
Oh god, what if Ben told Jennifer that she can announce their divorce in her On The JLo newsletter? What if she’s been putting it off because she still believes they can reconcile? I don’t know. I hate to say it, but I actually think the Mail is correct – I think Ben and Jen have already worked out everything behind the scenes and they’re just waiting for the right moment to drop the news. I think their marriage really is over. It’s really sad. Jennifer must be devastated, honestly. I hate to do this, but I’m once again using the photos from the This Is Me… Now premiere in February, which is where many of us got our first inkling that Ben had checked out of this marriage big-time.
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- HOLLYWOOD, LOS ANGELES, CALIFORNIA, USA – FEBRUARY 13: Ben Affleck and wife Jennifer Lopez (JLo) wearing a Zuhair Murad Couture gown with Joseph Saidian and Sons vintage Van Cleef & Arpels diamond earrings and A.Jaffe diamond rings arrive at the Los Angeles Premiere Of Amazon MGM Studios’ ‘This Is Me…Now: A Love Story’ held at the Dolby Theatre on February 13, 2024 in Hollywood, Los Angeles, California, United States.,Image: 846503912, License: Rights-managed, Restrictions: , Model Release: no, Pictured: Ben Affleck, Jennifer Lopez, JLo, Credit line: Xavier Collin / Image Press Agency / Avalon
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- HOLLYWOOD, LOS ANGELES, CALIFORNIA, USA – FEBRUARY 13: Ben Affleck and wife Jennifer Lopez (JLo) wearing a Zuhair Murad Couture gown with Joseph Saidian and Sons vintage Van Cleef & Arpels diamond earrings and A.Jaffe diamond rings arrive at the Los Angeles Premiere Of Amazon MGM Studios’ ‘This Is Me…Now: A Love Story’ held at the Dolby Theatre on February 13, 2024 in Hollywood, Los Angeles, California, United States.,Image: 846504026, License: Rights-managed, Restrictions: , Model Release: no, Pictured: Ben Affleck, Jennifer Lopez, JLo, Credit line: Xavier Collin / Image Press Agency / Avalon
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- HOLLYWOOD, CALIFORNIA – FEBRUARY 13: Jennifer Lopez attends Los Angeles Premiere Of Amazon MGM Studios “This Is Me…Now: A Love Story” at Dolby Theatre on February 13, 2024 in Hollywood, California.,Image: 846559048, License: Rights-managed, Restrictions: , Model Release: no, Pictured: Jennifer Lopez, Credit line: Jeffrey Mayer / Avalon
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- Hollywood, CA – The premiere of “This Is Me…Now: A Love Story” at the Dolby Theater in Hollywood, California. Pictured: Jennifer Lopez BACKGRID USA 13 FEBRUARY 2024 BYLINE MUST READ: MediaPunch / BACKGRID USA: +1 310 798 9111 / usasales@backgrid.com UK: +44 208 344 2007 / uksales@backgrid.com *UK Clients – Pictures Containing Children Please Pixelate Face Prior To Publication*
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- Celebrities at the Los Angeles premiere of ‘This Is Me… Now: A Love Story’ Featuring: Jennifer Lopez, Ben Affleck Where: Los Angeles, California, United States When: 13 Feb 2024 Credit: Ryan Hartford/INSTARimages.com
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- Celebrities at the Los Angeles premiere of ‘This Is Me… Now: A Love Story’ Featuring: Jennifer Lopez, Ben Affleck Where: Los Angeles, California, United States When: 13 Feb 2024 Credit: Ryan Hartford/INSTARimages.com
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- Celebrities at the Los Angeles premiere of ‘This Is Me… Now: A Love Story’ Featuring: Jennifer Lopez, Ben Affleck Where: Los Angeles, California, United States When: 13 Feb 2024 Credit: Ryan Hartford/INSTARimages.com
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- Celebrities at the Los Angeles premiere of ‘This Is Me… Now: A Love Story’ Featuring: Jennifer Lopez, Ben Affleck Where: Los Angeles, California, United States When: 13 Feb 2024 Credit: Ryan Hartford/INSTARimages.com
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- Celebrities at the Los Angeles premiere of ‘This Is Me… Now: A Love Story’ Featuring: Jennifer Lopez, Ben Affleck Where: Los Angeles, California, United States When: 13 Feb 2024 Credit: Ryan Hartford/INSTARimages.com
Worst kept secret in Hollywood, lol.
Look up on tiktok the video “lip reader girl reads Ben Affleck and JLo argument in car”
I’m sticking to my prediction that an announcement will be made over the Labour Day weekend.
They probably are not the easiest of partners, and they both have issues.
That said, this is NOT giving “amicable” vibes at all. They have “much love” for each other and “fought to make it work”? On different coasts? JLo looks stressed? They can’t even act like they’re in love and that’s their profession?
What happened?? I don’t believe it’s JLo’s bonkers profession of love biopic anymore or simply growing apart. Ben’s not been seen with her kids alone recently, but his eldest was definitely and distinctly papped with JLo. I think something happened this past spring that ended it, because by the Met Gala they hadn’t been seen together for weeks. They were still kissing each other passionately earlier this year.
I agree.
Why would he be seen alone with her kids recently when clearly he’s the one who initiated the separation and he’s trying to run away as far he can from her ? They have been separated for months now
Definitely agree. We all forgot because the break up has been so drawn out but the initial rift news was a surprise. They were all over each other and doing Dunkin commercials in late winter/early spring and then this.
I have no evidence of this but I think he cheated again. He cheated on her and broke it up the first time. He cheated on the other Jenn with the nanny. Reportedly he cheated on the woman in between Jenns (Lindsay something) . His kids seemed to have voted with their feet either by being seen close with their step siblings (Seraphina and Emma) or just with Jennifer herself (Violet). Just a guess.
I don’t think anything specific happened in spring. I think they were having big issues before that, and the relationship was over in May when Ben moved out. Someone who follows both said things were off with them in February.
You have to remember they had a movie to promote that relied heavily on them being loved up. It is not surprising they were photographed “loved up” before the movie premiere. Ben couldn’t even pretend anymore by that time, as seen in the picture, and he moved out after the promotion for the movie was over. I mean, the whole thing was very calculated to try to make this movie a success.
They should never have gotten married. They could have been happily on/off dating for a decade or more. Have your own spaces, and one to cohabit in when you feel like it. If you have the resources, why not? It’s not like they were planning on kids so they needed to “settle down”. What a mess!
I get that Lopez seems to love the idea of marriage but good lord his whole marriage to Garner seemed to have survived as long as it did due to 91% her efforts and compromises. So this was just a disaster waiting to happen here.
To me, their elopement was already a red flag. Like, she wanted to lock that shit down before he escaped. They didn’t even wait until all their kids could be present. Deep down she knew he always had one foot out the door.
I agree. I think she had her foot on the gas so he couldn’t sabotage it before they made it down the aisle again.
I agree. Why the rush for marriage and cohabitation into an obscenely large mansion? To me, I saw about 1 minute of her/their documentary and Ben looked over the OTT everything that JLo is all about. I feel like they have a love for each other, but in reality both have separate issues they haven’t worked on and what they each want in a lifestyle isn’t compatible.
Amazing how the Mail can get into all the separate homes and other details about Ben and Jlo but remain utterly silent when a lot of similar stuff has gone down with William and Kate for years.
Wow, I diverge here, but so be it.
“The Daily Fail” is the perfect nickname, partially because they are so soft on the A-list royals , namely Charles and William. They’re practically courtiers as far as being beholden to the King and the Prince of Wales as far as what they can print about them..
I admired Diana a great deal and now I feel sad on her behalf for her older son. Charles’s philandering is an example William appears to have followed; Diana was not there as a counterbalance.
Maybe it’s only the actual Prince of Wales who gets the green light to screw around (?): regardless, good on Harry for truly being a decent father and husband, and a credit to their wonderful mother..
Our royalty in the US are these wealthy celebs. Ben and Jen have listed their joint property for $68 million, that’s an impressive chunk of change even by Bezos standards.
He’s piece of work for all the known reasons. She is a hopeless, hapless, reality-avoidant woman who insists on believing in platitudes instead of facts.
She once said that she bets on herself; she doesn’t wait for success to happen to her, but rather invests the time, money and energy necessary to create her own success. She should apply those principles and that belief system to herself as a stand-alone human. She is enough on her own but apparently feels as though she is incomplete without a partner, specifically a man.
She’s blown through four marriages and several high-profile engagements, yet she is only just mid-fifties; the common denominator here is her. Even if one argues that all the dudes have major issues, SHE is the one picking them all.
At a certain point – NOW – she needs introspection more than she needs an introduction to another doomed dalliance.
Problem is, a relationship is a two people’s affair and even surrounding circumnstances , not just ‘herself’. She can’t make someone wanting to be with her happen out of sheer will. That is earned.
If on top of it, the person she chose is moody, self-centered, has a fully opposite lifestyle, is focused on battling addiction and likes to spend time with his kids…
I’m sure that Ben, in addition to having opposed the idea from the beginning, didn’t like what he saw when her documentary was ready. And that she went ahead with it, regardless, believing/promising him that her millions of fans would swallow fish, hook and bait. A poor, scornful reception not only could have hurt him personally, but also make him feel professionally let down. They were fresh of having purchased and worked on that mammoth house, which he reportedly didn’t like either.
Fact she’s selling an apartment while they split might mean he asked back at least part of what he put in the house/ her project/ both. Unpopular view: This separation and the way Jennifer has seemed to hope for reconciliation is as much about failed investments than about wrong personal choices.
You know what JLo never did? Bang her kids’ nanny.
… And your point is…?
If jlo banged her nanny I don’t see that it would be any more destructive to her kids than her cohabitating with 4 different men during their lifetime. (so far). Seems rather unstable to me.
I feel so sad for both of them. Especially Jennifer. OMG she professed her love to him all over the internet, TV, made a Movie and now. He wooed her back after she broke up with Alex and wrote her love letters. I actually think maybe Ben is the one with the issue this time.. but I dont know. She is a tough cookie. praying for them both. I still HOPE its not true.
They should have continued dating you’re right. But jlo needed a ring and she got it. She has no man anymore, but she got the ring and a moment at the altar. Ben probably didnt know it was going to be THAT crazy of a life. That house they bought probably had tens of strangers/entourage living in there too. Impossible to be really “home”. Compare that to what you see from JGar, just day and night. No wonder he took his stuff out and rented a house, he couldnt even stay there and make believe they still lived together.
I know that she is a lot but Ben is unroyal, a coward and frontal lobe challenged. Too bad she didn’t dodge a bullet with him and I hope she takes the time to figure HERSELF out before entering into a new relationship.
Jlo and alex rodriguez coming back in 2025. It was unfinished business
Alex Rodriguez seems very involved with his girlfriend of almost two years and her two young girls. There are pics of them on vacation and he has he hand on one of the girls shoulders. He and his girlfriend actually live together. No hope of JLo and Arod. It didn’t help Jlo said she was only ever really in love, once. Smh. She said that in an interview. Crazy woman. I think she has major issues.
Some people are speculating that it has something to do with everything coming out about diddy. The timeline kind of fits. Not sure if it’s old stuff coming to light again that ben possibly could feel is embarrasing or if it’s a fear of new info coming out either way it’s clear that he is over it.
He has his own baggage with Casey though.
JBlow has entered her Norma Desmond phase. She seems like the type of person who always needs to be reassured she’s gorgeous and popular, hence the over the type choices she makes in her life. Ben put up with it the first time cause they were both young and “hot.” Too bad neither of them learned their lesson the first time.
Sorry if this is an unpopular opinion but I feel like she dove into another relationship with Ben as a result of getting cheated on by Alex Rodriguez. She was really hurt and Ben is familiar and made it known he was available to her/She wanted to get back at A-Rod immediately. I called it doomed from the start. Sorry for not believing in true, lasting love in this scenario. It always felt off to me.
Jennifer Garner better gird her loins. She’ll probably have to play pick up now that he’s on his own again.
Why bring Garner into this? She is not his mother nor is JLO. Ben is a 51-year-old grown man who will take care of himself.
There’s zero evidence that Ben is anything but sober and yet there’s always someone here making it about that. Ben is getting on with his life, he’s working, he’s filming and he was in post for months on another project.
How many times will her kids have to move and be uprooted because of her poor partner choices? I feel sorry for all of the kids involved. They didn’t ask for any of this mess.
JLo has been taking most of the flack, so I feel like it’s important to mention:
Ben voluntarily said all kinds of nice things about her in the press.
Ben was emailing her to woo her.
Ben love bombed her.
Ben used her and their relationship for content for all those kinda cheesy Dunkin’ ads that he got a boatload of money and props and probably free Dunkin’ for.
Ben proposed to her.
Ben married her. Twice.
Ben bought a house with her.
Ben blended a family with her.
Ben developed relationships with her kids-which appeared meaningful.
Ben suggested, produced and participated on camera in the companion documentary for her film.
Ben is just as involved in this as JLo.
I’d also add that IIRC Ben pursued her when she was married to Cris Judd and if JLo hadn’t taken that bait, then maybe she’d still be married to him-he appears to have been the best of her bunch of husbands maybe.
I agree something happened. Maybe a combo of things. Maybe the reality of being married to him as an alcoholic (even if not drinking) was too difficult for her especially to have her kids around. Maybe Jennifer had to discuss things that happened with Diddy that she’d repressed and she was coerced or threatened into and Ben was upset she never told him before. Maybe he’s a slob and she’s a neat freak. Maybe he didn’t understand her fame in the social media era and could not handle it. Maybe they got so in over their heads financially on that house it was stressful, especially with her self-financing that movie and him in the earlyish stages of his new company. Maybe she didn’t realize that in reality Ben can barely hold it together (it takes a village including his ex-wife) and he didn’t realize that she is SOOO high-functional and that makes him feel bad about himself and it makes her frustrated and not feel attracted to him. Maybe Jennifer realized she doesn’t want to just retire or semi-retire as a rich wife and mom-she wants to keep being a successful star because she’s a legend and she can and the trolls are making her want to do it more especially to show her kids you can’t let people affect you, but maybe Ben was looking for her to embrace her inner chill girl more which he knows is there because that’s one reason why he loves her. She can be real.
The reality is if they both got their acts together they’re probably a great match or at least near the top for both of them, especially at this time in their lives. But they’d have to be self aware work and change and achieve operating as their higher selves individually and together. And with kids in the mix they may not want to risk exposing them to the stress of that process. They probably should have dated for longer and gone through that process if they wanted it to pay for the long haul. Hopefully if they split what they all (parents and kids) get out of it is more meaningful familial relationships with a bunch of nice people who seem to have some values and interests in common. And if they’re not close friends forever then maybe at least their relationships during this time were what they needed and they learned and grew and drew strength from them.
And bottom line I’m giving everyone a pass on judgment without all the facts because this all went down during and immediately post the COVID emergency and that has been traumatic for everyone.
I think ben is exhausting and jlo is just as exhausting for very different reasons. But ben always expressed how he liked his privacy, and jlo always made sure she was all the way out there, everywhere, all the time. Ben seems low maintenance, jlo is extreme maintenance. I dont think ben goes everywhere with an entourage continuously sucking up, jen is non-stop service, makeup, photos, social media 24/7. Their relationship also caused a lot of danger for his kids with the paps. So in the end, ben maybe thought that jlo was gonna LayLo after the wedding, and be at home taking care of him and the kids, putting everything aside for him was delusional. he wasnt gonna live like that and she didnt want to change, and he couldnt ask her to change, so voilà. Case depart. To be honest, I would have left too. In my mind, I could pretend to be jlo and live that extravagant fun life, but I dont even want to pretend to be ben dating jlo. Nope. No fun. Im bolting. Sorry Jen. It’s too xtra.
There are so many reasons on both sides this marriage failed. We will never know it all. One thing that leaked was about finances. J-Lo’s outgoing expenses have to be massive, but with the hotel mansion and all of the square footage, the hired help must have been through the roof.
Anyway, does anyone remember when Benny was fired back when J-Lo was with Ben? I read somewhere Benny was a problem again in this marriage or maybe it’s that some of her entourage was. Benny and J-Lo are so tightly connected. He is never far from her.
But I went back and looked for the info about his firing and Ben’s involvement in Jennifer’s financial affairs. Here is a 2003 New York Times article that is very in-depth about J-Lo during the height of her career and firing Benny. It was clear in the article Ben felt she wasn’t tight enough on her deals and contracts. Could issues have been arising again regarding Ben and J-Lo’s entourage?
https://www.nytimes.com/2003/07/14/business/when-jenny-dumped-benny.html
I forgot to add. The New York Times article is so juicy.
Tbh when I read that Medina is still handling everything even when she is going to marry Ben it gave me weird vibes. Medina’s and Lopez’s relationship really doesn’t look good from the outside. It may have worked for her career wise but for her personal life it doesn’t seem to work out for her?
He’s an ass.
Daily Mail has an article out now why Ben left JL. Ben never wanted to buy that $60 million mansion but JL bought it anyway. Ben never wanted his private, sacred letters he had written to JL made public & analyzed by her entourage but JL did it anyway & I think the last straw was when she created her own alcohol line. Ben asked her not to do it ( He felt it was a slap in the face to his sobriety) but JL did it anyway.
Allegedly, she took it out in Ben for her documentary & movie flopping, & poor ticket sales ( resulting in her canceling her tour), which also put a strain on the marriage. Ben felt she valued fame over their marriage…and she did!
I don’t know if JL felt that Ben still owed her from the first break to do whatever she wanted regardless of what he thought or wanted?
I was really hoping they’d make it. So it goes, I guess.
I agree with the person who said she ran back to Ben because Arod cheated. I think she actually was really in love with Arod. They lasted longer and were more compatible than she is with Ben. She’ll have to not be with anyone for some time as she’s seen as a joke now re relationships.