Gwen Stefani takes Kingston to get his nails done at the salon


While some celebrities spent Black Friday (and Mauve Saturday – I just made that up) shopping their collective asses off, Gwen Stefani decided to go in for some upkeep. She headed out to the nail salon… with her older son Kingston. And Kingston got to have his nails done too! A lovely shade of blue, that’s what he got. The professionally done nails are only part of Kingston’s overall look, which includes bleached blonde hair, half-shaved in some kind of retro skater-punk look that was popular with boys when I was a tween. Oh, and Kingston’s apparently as much of a clotheshorse as his mum too:

He is become quite the little fashion icon. Gwen Stefani’s handsome four-year-old son Kingston, with husband Gavin Rossdale, is taking after his fashionista mother by regularly rocking some very trendy outfits.

Just yesterday he accompanied Gwen as she ran some errands in Studio City, California wearing black skinny jeans with black bovver boots and a retro looking printed jacket. The young star-in-the-making was also sporting a new bleached and shaved hair cut.

The day before, as the family headed to Gwen’s parents house in Los Feliz to celebrate Thanksgiving, Kingston was spotted wearing some cool combat trousers with a funky red and black jumper and matching trainers.

Gwen and Bush frontman Gavin Rossdale have been married since 2002 and have another son, Zuma who is two-years-old.

Gavin, 45, recently talked about his sons and how fashionable they are both becoming.

‘Kingston and Zuma each love to pick out their own clothes so my role in that has diminished,’ the Bush singer told People Magazine. ‘They are both very stylish little boys and have huge opinions on their own clothes.’

Now that the boys are getting bigger, they’re getting closer too, he said. ‘I see a difference every day in their interactions, and this is a good thing. The boys are getting along great now.’

And with trend-setting youngsters like the Beckham boys amongst his friends, Kingston is sure to continue his love of fashion.

[From The Daily Mail]

Is it wrong that Gwen seems to allow her four-year-old son to bleach his hair, get his nails done and have all of the cool clothes he wants? Eh. There are worse things, I suppose. The thing is, I don’t really think Gwen (or Gavin, for that matter) is “pushing” these style choices on Kingston. I think he’s just a stylish little dude who likes to play around with clothes and stuff.




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  1. prell says:

    Really? You think a 4 year old comes up with this hipster-punk fashion deal? I have to differ with you there. I think many celebs use their children as an extension of their own fashion – and their own EGOS. I like Gwen and Gavin, but I feel like they must force a certain fashion on their little one. It’s too much, too soon IMO and it puts the emphasis on what should be LEAST important to a child. I feel this way about several celeb kids, like they are being used this way to be little fashion plates. It seems shallow.

  2. Ricci says:

    I preferred his previous hairdo.

  3. malachais says:

    Yeah this is ridiculous to me..

    @Prell, my thoughts exactly. Kingston has his hair bleached? Yes there are worse things, but it definitely seems like way too much for these kids. Gwen is right concerning their ‘stylish ways’, considering Zuma/Kingston probably watch her spend hours on herself, the kids are going to mimic her actions.

  4. whitedaisy says:

    Even if a child requests to look like his parent/s by dyeing their hair the answer is “no”.
    This indulgence and pushing of parental physical characteristics and style on toddlers is narcissistic Hollywood celebrity parents at their worst.
    It does not indicate healthy parent-established boundaries and I expect that in about another 10 years we will see the outcome.

  5. mln says:

    I don’t think there is anything wrong with it he is totally cute. But I notice that not as many people are as up in arms about Kinston’s androgyony as they are about Shiloh’s it’s all part of the same truth. Little kids like to play and dress up and aren’t very concerned about sex roles unless uptight adults make it an huge issue. Let them remain innocent.

  6. logan says:

    Once again proving that the rich and famous (?) are stupid!

  7. whitedaisy says:

    There is a significant difference between Kingston being taken out for a professional nail job and having his hair dyed to Shiloh’s tomboy wardrobe.
    If we were only talking about clothing choices on these kids, as people do about Shiloh, you are right; no one would express concern.

  8. Marianne says:

    I mean ok, a lot of his Kingston’s Punk style is probably Gwen’s vision, but if the kid didn’t like it, Im sure he wouldn’t agree to it. And I’ve seen Kingston with nail polish before. He probably thinks its a lot of fun.

  9. Raven Sparrow says:

    I agree with prell.

    I also think it’s good letting children make their own choices but there are times when you have to say “no” to a kid and explain why. For me there’s a big difference between Shiloh wanting to wears pants, have short hair, climb trees and play in mud with her brothers and Kingston “mom can I bleach my hair? -sure! Can I polish my nails? – sure!” Would Gwen say yes too if he asked to wear a dress?

  10. Kit says:

    Im agreeing on the bleached hair, but otherwise you guys are totally contradicting yourselves. First of all, Kingston shouldn’t be able to decide how he looks? Second of all, Gwen shouldn’t force her style on him?
    Just pick a side…
    Every mother/father buys clothes that please the buyer’s eye for their kids. Isn’t that “pushing” one’s own style??
    Geesh, loosen up.

  11. Tired says:

    I also agree with prell.

    What offends me is them dying his hair at age 4.

    It can’t be good for his hair and also IF it involves chemicals it is not good for him to breathe in while applying it.

  12. Happymom says:

    He’s 4. Not 14. BIG difference imo.

  13. Anon says:

    Um, whenever any mother makes a decision to buy or pick out an outfit for their child – isn’t it the same thing?
    When you go to a hair salon and ask for a simple cut for your child – YOU are still asking for it. Your child is not.
    When you pick out a green t-shirt and matching pants for your son, YOU are picking it out.
    So why is there a difference with Gwen? What you deem ‘inappropriate’ for children, may just be her choosing the green t-shirt and matching pants.
    Sure, I wouldn’t dye my kid’s hair – but if he has done it several times before, I doubt he is complaining about it. And he always comes out of the nail salon smiling, do you really think he isn’t enjoying it? And I’m just assuming that the dye used is not harmful to him, because I think there would be more articles popping up if it were (people freak out if Suri isn’t wearing a coat after-all).

    Whatever, it is her children. Children who seem to be very happily enjoying as normal of a childhood that can come from Hollywood.

  14. Maddy says:

    I always thought Gwen should have a girl as well…

  15. serena says:

    Bleached hair at this young age is wihout doubt WRONG.
    Leaving apart the fact that the products for bleached hair are toxic, very dangerous.. imagine it on a little child!

  16. Schnauzers!!! says:

    Seriously people? Let him be a kid. He can do his nails, hair, whatever. Just let him stay innocent and young and not affected by the B.S. of the world. He’s adorable and I am sure they are great parents. None of our business except to enjoy the pictures of a happy child with his happy and loving Mom.

  17. jc126 says:

    I agree, he didn’t come up with this style on his own.

  18. louise says:

    @mln, when it comes to Brad and Angelina people are always hypocritical. I don’t understand why people/tabloids have different rules for them.

    Kingston has his nails painted for at least a year. He’s a kid and probably thinks it’s fun. I think the hair dying/style is Gwen’s idea. That seems too sophisticated for a 4 year old to want. I would think dye is unhealthy for such a young child.

  19. echolocate says:

    The nail polish isn’t a big deal to me (although the toes seem excessive, mainly because I suspect it was difficult for the technician to get the little dude to keep his feet still to paint them, and it probably tickled).

    I was under the impression that hair dye isn’t great for kids. Aren’t there some simple rinses in weird colors that might please him just as much?

    When adults say kids are picking out their own clothes, it’s always a little odd. Clearly, they’re choosing from the options in the closet. In Shiloh’s case, her choices probably include some cast-offs from her big brothers, whom she likely admires.

    WIth Kingston, they’ve made an effort since he was born to present him as a hipster, which is okay (and no different from a parent dressing a kid like Little Lord Fauntleroy or a “future LA Dodger” or something), but they need to own that.

    If he likes it, great, but I don’t even understand the saying on his shirt. Is he the “hysteric” in question? Is he reading Freud at preschool?

    Obtuse message shirts indicate, “Mom and Dad choose my clothes to convey their own cleverness.” So I’m always a little skeeved when I see them on a kid who wouldn’t understand what his shirt says even if he could read it.

    I do have to give Gwen props for not wigging about anything cross-dressy, given Gavin’s history.

  20. LeeLee says:

    As a mom of 3 boys, I’m amazed she can get him to dress like that if he didn’t want to himself. My boys want jeans or sweats every day. My middle son will watch me paint my nails and I’ve asked him if he wants me to paint his and he always refuses saying it’s for girls. This is not something I’ve taught him but his own feelings. I couldn’t even imagine getting my sons to sit for the amoount of time it would take to bleach their hair! So from my own experience as a mom of boys, I think Kingston would have to want to dress like that and paint his nails and bleach his hair or she’d have a hard time getting him to do it.

  21. la chica says:

    he’s just taking after his father, that’s all.

  22. devilgirl says:

    So let me get this: Shiloh can request an alternative look, and everyone is A.O.K with it, but the same rules do not apply to Kingston?!

    IMO, both children look happy, are well taken care of, and they both are just fine looking as they do.

    I love the double standard on this board though. Amazing.

    Hey, let’s all get down on Gwen and Angelina for allowing their children to express their individuality!

  23. Hmmm says:

    It’s like playing with dolls, isn’t it.

  24. xxodettexx says:

    whats the big freaking deal people? for those parents on here commenting about kingston’s style: do you or do you not dress your child as you deem fit??

    sheesh, if his parents want him to fit the punk mold rather than the standard [BORING] cookie-cutter “style” for “boys” then let them! he looks well fed and quite adorably happy

    and this goes for all celebkids: shiloh, kingston, willow, suri… etc

    besides, dont people realize that there ARE kids who have their own sense of style, and yes strong opinions, at very young ages?? its how we get our future warddrobe artists, stylists, costumers, and many other artsy people!

    granted, i am not a parent but i would like to think that there are much more important things out there to put your foot down on, like homework or eating habits ["sure johnny u can put on a wedding dress to go with me to the store to buy eggs, but no to french fries and finish those beans and carrots!"]

  25. sara says:

    Cosmetics in the US are NOT BANNED IF THEY ARE KNOWN TO BE UNSAFE. Cosmetic ingredients are subject only to voluntary testing by the manufacturers. The government has no effective or consistent mechanism for protecting the public against toxic ingredients, especially those in fragrances. See the Environmental Working Group’s Skin Deep database for details.

    The jury is out on whether dark hair dyes are toxic for adults, but bleaching a young child’s hair is completely irresponsible. Those bleaching chemicals are known to be toxic–even more so for children with their lower body weight and smaller livers and kidneys.

    Nail polish usually contains toluene, a known carcinogen, as well as several other suspected carcinogenic solvents. They would be more easily absorbed by a child’s more porous and thinner nails.

    This is total narcissistic negligence.

    She needs to buy herself some dolls and protect her children’s health.

  26. TeeTee says:

    NOT old enough to have his hair bleached, that is horrible in my opinion..

    NOT beleiving that he picks all of his own clothes, he chooses what is in his closet..

    they are all weird, Hollyweirdos!

  27. HakuraChii says:

    I think everyone has made some good points in commenting. I think everyone is likely going to have their own idea of what’s appropriate for their children. Such as what’s a big deal, and what isn’t. At that age, myself, I wanted to dress like a ‘big kid’ which normally meant my aunts whom I admired. Which, I did. And I looked absolutely ridiculous, but it made me happy, and I didn’t end up mentally scarred or out of control. I just burned the pictures xD

    Granted I didn’t dye my hair until I was about 14, but that was what my mom felt was appropriate. And since I was her first child, she was quite a lot harder on me with rules than she was on my younger brother, because it was a learning process with me. Everyone does the best they can with what they know at the time.

    I’m sure this is likely the case with Kingston. He wants to be like his parents, and watches them focus on their appearance *way* more than the average person probably does, given that they’re celebrities. All parents make decisions about what their kids will wear, & in this case, he still seems (from what I can see) to be happy. I don’t think the decisions she’s made has caused him any harm. (& I can’t see her putting him at risk as far as the ‘bleaching’ goes. Perhaps they used a method that was less harsh than bleach.) I’m not saying this in such a way that I don’t understand the issues others have raised, however. I just think it really differs between families.

  28. guesty says:

    he’s the cutest 4 year old rocker ever.

  29. Ycnan says:

    I agree with almost everyone. No 4 yr old wants to bleach his hair. If he does then that poor kid is probably surrounded by all adults and not given enough opportunity to play with other kids.

    Nails and how he dresses are probably just fun for him and Gwen so who cares no harm.

  30. HakuraChii says:

    And I forgot to mention in my previous comment… Has anyone else noticed the tendency, lately, for children’s clothing to be miniaturized versions of adult’s clothing? I swear everything I see at the mall looks like it was designed for a tiny adult.

    That wasn’t how it was when I was a child. I didn’t wear little name brand heeled boots, tailored vests & carry my own little designer purse. I wore little pink bunny or flowered T-shirts and little skirts or overalls. Admittedly it does seem like kids don’t get to ‘look like’ kids as much these days.

  31. Sparkly says:

    Kids, especially at that age, are usually very secure in who THEY want to be. My kids make their own decisions about clothes and hair. Well, I mean, I tell them they have to get dressed (they prefer going around butt naked, but we can’t always do that…) My oldest daughter’s favorite clothes are her bunny jammy pants and a Grateful Dead shirt. Half kid, half like mommy, I guess, but I’ve never pushed that. My youngest likes costumes and tank tops. Neither will agree to cut their hair more than a trim, but their two friends who are the same age went out and sported mohawks (at their requests, not the pushing of parents). Once they hit 4, most kids start experimenting with their own “style”.

    I LOVE the fact that she’s letting her boy get his nails done at the salon. Granted, I wouldn’t be bleaching my kid’s hair, but my folks were giving me perms at that age, and I think those chemicals were likely just as bad, if not worse. (Perms are bad in general, but oh well. That’s why I let my kids make their own hair choices…I hated that crap.)

  32. LOVE ANGELINA says:

    There is non-toxic hair dye. I am sure he wasn’t given the strong chemical hair dye to dye his hair. I think its like vegetable hair dye.

    I think he is adorable. I think alot of you are just gonna have to realize that kids clothes are becoming more fashionable, which doesn’t bother me at all as long as they don’t go overboard. I like to think of the update of kids clothes like the update of maternity wear, for years women looked awful while pregnant and then that all changed.

    You have to admit that if you look at your old baby photos you look pretty bad. Now when you look back at your baby photos you can have some sort of style. Kids aren’t being raised the same repressive way anymore. They are given a lot more freedom to be who they are. I think its great as long as you still raise them to be respectful and all that jazz.

  33. tooey says:

    On a totally separate note, anyone know who makes those awesome sunglasses Gwen is wearing?

  34. mymy says:

    Cute is not a 4 year old dressed like a 20 something hipster. Dying your 4 year old hair is beyond wrong it is toxic.
    I can’t stand the kid as an accessory. Kids should have no clue about cloths. Besides comfort and the ability to allow hours of play in. What the heck has happened to this world. Were how you dress and look is the most important thing. Even for little kids? Has she no shame? Kids want to please mom and dad. And if this is what Gwen and her husband emphasize this is what the kids will do.They have made the children aware of thing that are so unimportant. Turned them into little models to display themselves in. Not good. Let them fish and hike and build forts and leave the fashion statements to the holidays.She seems to favor this child and he looks very spoiled. And she certainly suffers from narcissitic Personality disorder

  35. lisa says:

    The difference between Gwen/Gavin and Brad/Angie

    People are not calling Gwen a bad mother. Articles in rag magazines are not being written saying she is turning her 4 year old son into a girl. Fake psychologist are not going on talk shows and giving fake quotes to magazines on how Kingston will grow up to be abnormal. Sites are not posting pictures weekly of him and adult women are not attacking his mother on her fitness to be his mother.

    See there is a big difference. or shall we say Double Standard.. but don’t worry it only applies to Angie/Brad and their family. Other couples can do the exact same thing and people will apply the negative only to them..

    Good thing they don’t seem to give a shit. and neither does Gwen/Gavin.

  36. Elfie says:

    The only thing I’m not feeling is bleaching his hair at such age. Maybe he told her he wanted the hair like his mama. An she just proceed to bleach his hair, instead of just laugh and tell him ‘no’, or at least that he could do it when he get older.
    About the other things (clothes, nail, hair style) I think he’s just fine with it, maybe his parents are pushing him to dress that way, but we all do that with the kids right?
    Anyway, maybe he wanted to look THAT way, I remember telling my mom to buy me clothes just like my dad, so maybe he just asked for it? Though, I’m a girl lol

  37. sickofit says:

    almost all the ingredients of nail polish are toxic in one way or other. i do not care so much for the dying, if its done right… but nail polish? theres really shitty stuff in there, even for grown up livers and kidneys…

  38. devilgirl says:

    Shiloh tells her parents the clothes she wants to wear, and what she wants to be called, so why is it impossible that Kingston isn’t doing the same thing? Aren’t the two children basically the same age?

    I don’t get what the big deal is. He’s a cute kid. He’s having his nails done in colors? So what? She might bleach his hair, also not a major deal. He looks like a happy kid.

    My friends 5 yr old wanted pink streaks in her hair and my friend did it. Made the little girl happy.

  39. bellaluna says:

    I let my kids choose their own clothing (choose your battles – do you want your kid potty-trained, or wearing what you think is appropriate?) and I had no problem with painting my son’s nails (clear) when I did my own. And there is no bigger dude in the world than my son now. He’s 6′ 4″ and totally a guy. Leave the kid alone.

    Potty training is a struggle, and if you give your child choices in other things (what to wear today; which veggie with dinner; etc…) it lessens the struggle. Most parents know that. Potty training is all about who’s in control. So you give your child the illusion of control, and go from there. Let your baby buddy choose what he eats for breakfast, what he eats for lunch (both within reason; don’t be an idiot), and which veggie with dinner; boom, no battle for control.

    (Absolutely no bleaching the hair; I don’t care what the kid wants or how it may effect his “self-esteem”; if it’s not healthy for me, it’s definitely not healthy for you, little one. Deal with it.

  40. Emily says:

    I don’t think the bleaching is good for a little kid. But the nails? Sure. If that’s what he wants. But I worry about the chemicals in the hair bleach, especially since kids usually have much finer hair than adults.

  41. Mizz Tickles says:

    Good and thought provoking post mln.

  42. OXA says:

    From and apple tree you dont get pears.

  43. nnn says:


    Indeed, there is no difference…except in the treatment by people and the media from one kid to the other.

    The only difference is made by the ABSENCE OF COLLECTIVE HYSTERIA in here, by the media followed by so called specialists followed by obsessive weird adults commenting when it comes to the JP kids treatment because, objectively, I have yet to see one single snipset, article, analysis, comment or so called specialist evoquing even from far away any gender challenging problem or sexual confusion with this little boy, or criticiing his mum for turning him differently from someone diffrent from his gender, the way they have been doing for Shiloh for over a year !

    I however can find dozens of nasty articles about Shiloh’s, thousands of nasty comments related to her so called s*xual orientation problem caused by her mother (of course !), gender confusion ,even comments about her underwear looking boyish all this when after all she puts on clothes that both girls and boys usually put on for the past decades…it’s just that she EXCLUSIVELY put the masculine type or better yet the UNIsexual type of clothes that girls and women have been putting for decades when they don’t put the only girlish type.

    That’s the main difference, that’s the main obscenity : two toddlers with the same personal habits when it comes to clothes, hairstyle, ect but complete different reception of the same behaviour and total opposite treatment of both and their respective mother resulting in one : COMPREHENSION & UNDERSTANDIN, and APPEASEMENT and for the other one : NATIONAL COLLECTIVE HYSTERIA to a degree never reached about a three years old (at the time) boyish clothes and the blatant correlation made shamelessly with her (absent)sexuality, often even quoting blatant lesbianism or transgenderism by ADULTS in a so called advanced society !

  44. The_Porscha says:

    As for his clothing choices or getting his nails done, I don’t see the problem. I don’t think it’s appropriate for a child his age to have his hair bleached, though. The amount of chemicals involved alone is just insanity for adults, let alone small children.

    Anyway, let’s get to the real issue here – wtf are these pants Gwen Stefani is wearing?!

  45. Jennifer says:

    monkey see, monkey do, ya’ll.

  46. LittleDeadGirl says:

    I see nothing wrong with him getting his nails painted and his clothes. I got my own nephews hair cut in a little mohawk and yeah of course it’s my preference but he loved it and thought it was awesome. I showed him a picture ahead of time and asked him and he said he liked it, if he had said no, than I wouldn’t have done it and he would have said no, trust me, kids at four had no trouble expressing their opinion He saw me putting on makeup once and wanted to put on blush too and I let him but than made him wash it off because I felt cosmetics are chemicals and didn’t want to leave them on his skin but I let him do it so I wasn’t sending the messahe “only girls do this and you’re a boy and here is how boys act”.

    That being said I don’t think getting his hair bleached is a good idea … it is toxic and bad for his hair and he is too young for it but he seems healthy and happy and at least she is spending time with him rather then us seeing him with nannies all the time.

    I think what most people don’t want to admit is “girly” traits on a boy are wrong to them but “masculine” traits on a girl are fine. It’s what society pushes on us and its hard to fight against that.

  47. slymm27 says:

    you all know gavin and gwen dont care what y’all think right???? I will bleach my sons hair and polish his nails in awesome colours, i will make sure he wears them trendy boots, and designer labels…..its just what i will do, and the rest of the world can sulk…..who cares!

  48. Leticia says:

    His look on a 4 yr old boy would only be accepted in LA.

    And nail polish and bleach are toxic to adults, even more so to children.

  49. mojoman says:

    I am more amazed the fact that he is willing to sit still for (at least) an hour to dye the hair and nail polish. I’ll be lucky to get My 4 year old son to sit for ten minutes.

  50. Rosanna says:

    Kind of hard to say “no” to a child asking to bleach his hair when the mom’s hair is bleached. If she says no she sounds inconsistent.

    Besides, Kingston looks so metrosexual :)

  51. I Choose Me says:

    I agree that if Kingston didn’t want his hair dyed or nails done, he would kick up a fuss. I can’t imagine Gwen overlooking any safety issues when it comes to her son so I’m thinking the hair dye is of the non-toxic variety. As for the multi-colored fingers and toes, I think its freaking adorable. Neither Gwen or Angelina are bad parents for allowing their children to express their individuality.

  52. judyjudy says:

    Enh, clothes (or hair or nails) don’t make the man. He seems like a happy kid, so who cares?

    And at least his nails are clean. Most 4 year olds have pretty icky nails.

  53. Jacquie says:

    1- There is non toxic hair dye/bleach.
    2- No 4 year old I’ve ever met will wear or do something they don’t like without throwing a massive fit.
    3- People need to get off their soap boxes and stop judging an obviously healthy, well rounded, accepting of who their children are, family!

    That is all!

  54. Kim says:

    You know what they say
    “Like father, like son.”

  55. Kim says:

    Jacquie – my 4 yr olds NEVER complained, not once, about what was CHOSEN for them to wear. 4 is to young to totally decide on your own wardrobe. At this age the way a child dresses is how the parents WANT him to dress. Gwen wants her son to dress “cool” so she will be viewed as cool.

    Parents who use their childrens hairstyles (No 4 yr old desperately WANTS a mohawk) or clothing choices to reflect their coolness are the epitome of pathetic.

    If the child were 11-12 or older i would say bravo for him CHOSING his own style but no 4 yr old has their OWN style – its the style mimicking what their parents want- period.

    Perfect example – Do you think he has a clue what his shirt means???? heck no! Its his mother making the statement via her child wearing the shirt.

  56. LittleDeadGirl says:

    “No 4 yr old desperately WANTS a mohawk”: Ouch, don’t see why I merited being called pathetic for juggling work and school to take care of my nephew most of his life but alright. Guess I broke a cardinal rule or something. You know there’s no need to get so uppity about something like clothes, so your kids never cared what they wore, awesome for you, but all kids are different and plenty like to have a say in what they wear.

    All kids like to mimic certain styles and when I see kids that are dressed in a way that resembles their parents I don’t think “gee those parents are pathetic” I think “hey they are spending time together and bonding so much they even have matching outfits” and that’s kinda cool. In the end parenting is hard and I think as long as you spend time with your kids you are doing your job. Let’s get off the judgmental wagon.

  57. Jacquie says:

    Sorry I have to disagree, My step son and nephews all WANTED their Mohawks at the age of 3 or 4, NO one forced that on them. And while you may not have let your children pick out their clothes when they were 4 I know that my daughter had an opinion and wouldn’t wear something she didn’t like even if I bought it. I couldn’t MAKE her and that was a battle I was more than willing to lose. My child and all of the children I know had their own sense of self by 4 because they were given choice.
    Thank you for saying what I couldn’t in all of my huffyness! You rock!