Is Demi Moore playing her marital troubles for sympathy?

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Do you feel any sympathy for Demi Moore at this point? Whenever I start to feel a twinge of sympathy, empathy or pity for Demi’s current situation – that of emaciated, wronged wife who may be battling some kind of substance abuse problem, allegedly – I think back to her history as a willfully oblivious famewhore. Remember when Ashton Kutcher cheated on Demi last year? She posed in bikinis and posted the photos on Twitter, and she and Ashton went to Israel on some kind of romantic, paparazzi-friendly vacation. And now that Ashton has once again screwed around on her, she’s keeping her head down… but there are still reports of her wearing her ring, and there’s still no statement from her or her publicist about the alleged split.

Radar has a new report in which “sources” claim that Demi has now given up on counseling to fix her broken marriage. I guess I should feel sympathy for her commitment to making her marriage work – but mostly, I’m just mad at her for seeming like such a doormat.

A stressed-out Demi Moore can’t forgive Ashton Kutcher for cheating on her with Sara Leal and the marriage is over despite a last-ditch attempt at counseling. Moore and Kutcher were already separated when the Two And a Half Men star cheated on her — on their sixth wedding anniversary!

“They’ve been in counseling,” a source close to the situation told RadarOnline.com exclusively. But when Ashton cheated with Leal in San Diego in the early morning of September 24, it dealt a death blow to the marriage.

“They separated about six weeks ago,” the source said. “Both went to Kaballah counseling hoping to save the marriage. But it’s over now.”

Kutcher has been accused of cheating previously in the marriage. He denied hooking up with Brittney Jones last year, but has been quiet about his sexual encounter with Leal, who slept with Ashton in his penthouse suite in San Diego and then sent a text message to friends telling them about it.

Star magazine was first to report that the couple will now split a $290 million fortune and also features photos from inside Ashton’s hotel room as a party raged — a party that ended with Kutcher and Leal having sex.

Ashton and Demi are both still wearing their wedding rings but the source close to the couple says the marriage is dead and Demi is devastated. Moore has shocked everyone with her appearance lately, losing a substantial amount of weight.

“She is completely stressed out,” the source said. “She’s devastated.”

RadarOnline.com was first to report that Ashton and Demi dropped each other on Twitter and the once chatty pair have been silent about their relationship.

[From Radar]

At this point, isn’t it “Split or GTFO”? They’ve already separated – sort of. Ashton has allegedly moved out of the home he shared with Demi. Why not announce the split formally? Does she like the speculation? Does she think it’s none of our business? It’s a little late for that, considering how public she and Ashton have been throughout their marriage. So… what’s the hold up? Can Demi just not admit that the marriage has failed? Is she still clinging to some hope that everything can be salvaged?

I should point out – I’m not being critical of Demi because I blame her, or because she seems to be fighting for Ashton. I just think it’s really obvious that Ashton wants out, and has wanted out for a long time. Regardless of what he might be saying to her now, his actions speak volumes about how little he cares about the marriage, and no amount of counseling will change that. So… that’s why I think Demi should just bite the bullet and finish this junk and move the hell on.

(Plus, there’s the Schadenfreude Factor, in which many people have found Demi really annoying for years, so they just like to see her get some kind of “comeuppance”. I’m not judging that.)

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  1. atlantapug says:

    Does anyone even care anymore?

    Demi looks strung out and old.

    Ashton looks like a douch trying too hard to be relevant.

    Go. Away.

  2. GiGi says:

    I wonder if she feels that without Ashton, she’s just another Sharon Stone? Beautiful, still attractive, but definitely an older woman. I think she feels that he legitimizes her to a younger audience, regardless of the validity of their marriage.

  3. ladybert62 says:

    I cant get past those UGLY arms – she is in Madonna territority with those stringy twigs.

  4. Jackson says:

    Meh. Don’t like her. Don’t like him. I’ll save my sympathy for someone in her situation who doesn’t have millions of $$$ in the bank and homes and vacations and who still has to deal with a loser cheater husband and a possible drug problem. No sympathy for her gristly ass.

  5. N.D. says:

    Doormat? seriously? If they feel like working on their marriage some more before giving up there is nothing wrong or dormat-ish about it. It’s what responsible adults who care about their family do.

    I’m sure if/when she decides she’s done with it she won’t be screaming at the ocean and crying to reporters but will move on and find something or somebody else to amuse herself with. But until that moment it’s perfectly normal that she’s trying to save this relationship which lasted about 8 years btw, it’s not a stupid little fling.

    And re why she isn’t announcing anything just now – maybe she wants to come to terms with what happened first, to make sure that it’s final etc.

  6. fi says:

    I do feel bad. I was looking at old pictures of them and she looks incredible when she’s happy and in love. His BS is aging her fast. She needs to GTFO.

  7. Firecracker says:

    I still feel sorry for her…although the bikini in the bathroom pics were disgusting to me at the time. I really think they thought the marriage would work long-term. Gotta respect her this time for laying low.

  8. Rita says:

    This is what inevitably happens when adults marry children.

  9. Hautie says:

    Rich or poor. No one enjoys having everyone in town know their spouse is out ho’ing around. And making no effort to hide it.

    I still suspect Ashton lied to Demi last year, when he got outed by that jump-off. The one who claimed it all went down in Demi’s home.

    I wouldn’t wish this mess on to anyone.

    Except the females who make it a point, to tell all their friends, that they shagged a married man.

    Then call up Gloria Allred, to blackmail the man into paying you to shut up.

    If you are going to run your mouth. Be prepared for the back lash.

    I don’t want to see this current jump-off crying about how her privacy was invaded. She is the reason everyone knows.

  10. S says:

    if they were separated, is it really cheating?

    but yes, I agree that Ashton has wanted out for awhile and is nothing but a little p*ssy who can’t man up and end the relationship properly and respectfully. Maybe these celebrities get so used to doing nothing for themselves that it transfers to their personal relationships as well.

  11. suggabugga says:

    wow, it’s just unbelievable how people get off on other people’s pain and suffering. whilst I do not care for Demi, I still think she is really going through a lot right now and whilst we all knew that day was coming as I’m sure so did she, she does not deserve the Schadenfreude of all the neysayers in the world.

  12. juju says:

    did she think he was going to stay with her for ever ?? really he was a boy toy, you dont marry a boy toy you just use him for sex !!! that’s it !!

  13. Nev says:

    has anyone here ever stayed and worked it out with a cheating spouse?

  14. NeNe says:

    I do not think that she is playing this whole thing for sympathy. They both made promises to each other that he does not seem to be keeping. She should have dumped him the first time he cheated, but I am sure that deep down in her heart she truly doesn’t want to end her marriage, but there is only so much a person can take. Nobody wants to see their relationship end.

  15. whothefiis says:

    Who cares?! Why not stop wondering if she’s asking for sympathy and just give her some? Or not! Seriously. Who CARES!?

  16. Cerulean says:

    Well, not a one of us is surprised. She didn’t marry a younger man with a good heart and soul. A true actor who thinks about important things and growing as a human being. Nope. She married Asston Kutcher. So boooya. Who’s been Punk’d now Demi?

    After all the pain she’s endured to stay youthful looking, I mean staying hungry, poked, prodded, cut, sliced…all to end up looking old and desperate. She did this to herself.

    No pity from me.

  17. whothefiis says:

    why do you speak of this as if you are an AUTHORITY on her relationship?! You do NOT know her personally, and all of this is UNCONFIRMED SPECULATION.

    “Oh I don’t think I should feel sorry for her, because she’s emaciated and has a substance abuse problem” = ALL SPECULATION

    You make a living forming opinions about RUMORS. Re-evaluate your life.

  18. velourazure says:

    anorexia is not a good look on her.

    and commenter #18- why are you here? did you not know that internet gossip blogs = rumor and speculation?

  19. Green_Eyes says:

    It’s the same as when the older Male Celebrities find out there young wives are fooling around on them w/ younger men… (if it’s true)…

    Just saw Demi, Alicia, and Jennifer on “The View” promoting “Five”. She looks better on television than in print..but then again you really didn’t get up close shots of her arms.. At any age those look scary… There such a thing as to thin.. I think she’s past it..

  20. fabchick says:

    I feel sorry for her. Kind of. I have a friend who is having marital issues. The relationship is clearly over but like Demi my friend is holding on. My friend was once a confident strong willed woman, I don’t even know the person she has become. Self esteem is a bitch. Once you lose it,it’s hard to get back.

  21. Zzzzzzzzz says:

    I should feel some sympathy but I kinda feel Demi should have seen this coming. Ashton is as big of a man-child as they come. He was going to get bored eventually. She should have dumped him the first time he screwed around. Instead she comes across as a old hag desperate to keep her toyboy cheating husband no matter what. Not a good look.

  22. Jazmin says:

    Look at her mouth movements, smile and jaw line. She looks like she secretly had a stroke.

  23. Patricia says:

    Seriously this kind of thing happens to women all the time. I feel bad for any woman in this situation but hey it happens. And women survive. I don’t quite understand why it is so fascinating when it happens to celebrities. It’s pretty boring really. Same story different day.

    Demi has a lot going for her and she’ll be fine. She’s better off without this jackass in her life. Hopefully she’ll realize that in time.

    She needs to stop with the naked Twitter pics though. That’s just plain pathetic.

  24. anne_000 says:

    She’s 48 or 49 yrs old. Her boy toy has publicly embarrassed her in a big way year after year now. It’s time for her to act like a full grown woman instead of a girl and get on with her life. She needs to stop doing these photo-ops with him with her wedding ring on. She’s got money, looks, fame, and a career. She needs to stop seeming like she’s begging him to stay with her when he obviously doesn’t want her. Has he been having an affair with other older women? Nope. Only young ones. That’s an additional insult against her. Wake up Demi. Annual humiliation isn’t a good thing…

    And agree with the above poster about the naked (& semi-dressed) Tweet pics. It looks really very desperate… Again, she’s 48/49 yrs old now, she needs to act like a strong, grown woman.

  25. Camille says:

    I agree with what you said Kaiser. Especially this quote:

    “but mostly, I’m just mad at her for seeming like such a doormat.”

    It sucks to have a cheating hubby, but I have no sympathy for her for putting up with that. I wouldn’t.

  26. G says:

    I”m not a particular fan of either of them.

    Is she holding on or is she just letting him hang out there in his growing bad press?

  27. gg says:

    Be done with it Demi, and quit tweeting, ffs. We don’t wanna know about your marriage or your desperation or what you look like in a bikini. Maybe you’ll learn one day.

  28. Leticia says:

    Comment #25 nailed it. All of his alleged affairs are with 20 something year olds. This is a huge hint that he is giving her.

    By the way, her very first husband, the one from whom she took the Moore last name, was very married when she started pursuing him.

  29. Dani says:

    There will be life for her after Ashton. Believe it or not people can still enjoy their life well into their senior years. It is hard for our youth obsessed society to get that point. Everyone ages and it is for all the great equalizer. Move on Demi and find someone who has something more in common with you and start living your life instead of dwelling on your past.

  30. Redd says:

    Demi should just call up Marc Anthony and they can grind bones. No pity for Demi and she’s better off without Ashton, he was just waiting on a better gig all along.

  31. Hellen says:

    She needs to get off Twitter, kick his ass to the curb and stop playing the role of Mrs. Kutcher the Cougar.

  32. layla says:

    I don’t understand celebrities need, or the public/media demands, of celebrities to announce anything!

    Need to announce a divorce/separation.
    Need to announce sexual orientation.
    Need to announce a baby.
    Need to announce an engagement.

    I understand telling close family and friends – people who ACTUALLY KNOW YOU (as a normal people doees)… but why the eff do I care otehrwise. Ugh. Just deal with your sh*t and get on with life like the rest of us!

  33. Jayna says:

    What cracks me up was his interview about taking the Charley Sheen part. He said it was to be home for Tallulah’s last year in high school, that he hated to have missed so much before over the years on location. Haha. Playing the Mr. Sensitive Stepfather role while he’s out eff’ing girls four or fives years older. He’s such a phony.

  34. lola says:

    doesn’t it seem ironic this should all just so happen to go down when he takes over another well-known playboy’s role on a high rated show? Mmmmmm.

  35. Kloops says:

    Both are shallow idiots clinging to fame their “talent” does not support. Demi is relatively attractive and rich, but she’s making a fool of herself and she should move on from the man-child. Nothing wrong with marrying a younger man, but at least choose someone who’s emotional age exceeds that of your average 14 year old.

  36. Tiffany says:

    The situation as a whole is sad. As a woman who has been cheated and have had girlfriend experience this, no one deserves to be cheated on. Yes, your self esteem takes a hard hit but you come back. I feel for her b/c I think she is just hanging on for sheer pride and to prove she can keep him. The Demi of her 30’s would have kicked his ass, forgotten his name and had another man on her arm next week. I liked that Demi. Also Kaiser, you could have picked a better header pic for this post

  37. Jane says:

    I saw her on the View today and she is a walking skeleton. She doesn’t seem to have any body fat and at times had that look you sometimes see when old people have false teeth that are very prominent, especially the top teeth, and the upper teeth seems to overwhelm the bottom lip.

    She isn’t old by any standards, but if she doesn’t start realizing that a certain amount of fat is not only healthy but looks good, she will look even worse as time goes by. If she is losing weight over the situation with Ashton, she needs to realize he isn’t worth her health.

  38. Wresa says:

    anne_000 is spot on with her comment.

    I just wanted to say I wish people would stop acting like its all “‘cuz Demi’s an old hag!” It’s fair to say the age difference had an influence-emotionally, where they are at in life, etc.-but to say she is sexually unattractive because of her age is ridiculous. All human beings are sexually attractive because it is in our nature to reproduce. The rest is insecurity.

    Oh, and Demi would be sooo much better without this douche cake.

  39. Nev says:

    yes Tiffany, well said.

  40. ZenB!tch says:

    Sympathy? She married a 12 year old. I feel as much sympathy for her as I feel for a pervy old dude. Actually, less we should know better having been hit on by prevy old dudes since we hit about 14.

  41. ZenB!tch says:

    PS: If he marries one of those 20 somethings it will end up the same for him when he is 48.

  42. Ali says:

    I don’t know what’s going on with Demi but at least she’s not out screwing people in hot tubs. If he cared at all about her he wouldn’t be disrespecting her like that.

  43. Esol Esek says:

    She is such a waste of time. How many actually good movies did she make? She’s just another woman who had it all, and can’t deal with being old and not the center of attention anymore.

    She can’t find some dude her own age, even though she looks better than 95% of the women her age, but she has the baggage of competing with her cradle-chasing husband. She had to stay attached to some young perfect buck, and he’s probably finally realizing how fed up and manipulative it really was, just how young girls dump older men.

    She avoided reality for a long time, now she’s gotta face it. Boo Fing Hoo.

  44. Maritza says:

    The fact that she couldn’t give him a baby maybe had something to do him his straying.

  45. Judy says:

    Rarely do these marriages work out . Men who are in their 60’s think that 20 yr old is in love with them?? lol It is for fame and for money not for the honey. Demi wanted someone young because her ex is sleeping around with a bunch of gold diggers and one finally landed him and his check book. SO she had to marry one too. I think he got sick of seeing those 3 children she had with Bruce that he had to get the fk out. He married someone old enough to be his mother and that usually doesnt last.

  46. Victoria says:

    There is an idiom in Spain: I you sleep with children, you will wake up peed.

    I guess she likes urine!

  47. Estella says:

    You know, I never found Ashton attractive. He just came across as so dumb. But for some reason I now have the urge to tap that a**. Maybe I should take #18’s advice to Kaiser and re-evaluate my life. LOL!

  48. nag says:

    Could this be part of a pr thing to promote the new show? His ladies man thing is getting him great exposure for the new series..

  49. smh says:

    wtf i didn’t even recognize her just now upon reading her name i did! oh demi…

  50. d says:

    actions always speak louder than words.

    demi is wasting her life and her time with this guy.

    similar issue with a friend of mine. years and years of problems w/husband, kept putting up with it, trying, excuses, and THEN, finally ended AND THEN finally woke up and realized how much of her life she had wasted ignoring the signs, living in denial, waiting for him to plug the plug (which he did my his actions imo) when she should have done it herself and moved on, and now she has to start over, way older than she would have been, and it’s totally harder. very sad situation.

  51. Susan jasko says:

    I did a MDA telethon with Demi in the early 80’s. She was a major bitch. Soap opera diva. She is at least 50 or 51. Not a nice person then. Hmmmm.

  52. VintageBum says:

    @ susan jasko

    ooooo I knew it! Well she was in the brat pack and look at some of the brat pack now lol Irrelevant of course. When you grow up in the spotlight and then loose it… seems like the whole world is ending. I don’t exactly sympathize with her, but I can understand

  53. F5 says:

    This is disgrace! I thought she raised him better! ツ

  54. blasted1 says:

    #8 summed it up in a nutshell. I remember at the time thinking,”I didn’t know Demi Moore was stupid.” If her nerves are shot, she probably can’t eat and that happens to a lot of people. But, this whole thing is no big surprise. The clock was ticking from the get-go. Stay off that idiotic Twitter! Aside from being the lamest thing on the Internet, Demi’s posts make her look pathetic and desparate.

  55. Cher says:

    How desperate to try to keep a man having threesomes and sharing you bed with other women..Disgusting..and gross. She’s a loser

  56. Vesper says:

    I never could understand the public’s interest in Demi. What exactly has she done to attract such attention? It’s not like she is a good actress, she’s had many more bad movies than good. I can’t even remember the last time she did a film. She reminds me a bit of Jennifer Aniston, in the sense that she doesn’t seem to do much of anything. Does she have any interests? I just find her vapid and self absorbed. Same goes for her scruffy hubby.

    I guess I am in the minority when I say that I do not find her attractive nor do I find her aging better than any other woman in Hollywood who has the money for fillers and/or surgery. As for her body, she is thin, but it’s doesn’t appear to be due to working out. She doesn’t seem to have much muscle tone. She just looks unhealthy.

  57. Vesper says:

    Found this blind item on D-listed. There are two postings, but it is the second one that shocked me. I hope it is not true, as it is just heartless.

    http://www.dlisted.com/topics/blind-items?page=4

  58. SHump76 says:

    I just don’t get the Demi hate. I do feel bad for her right now. I get that she’s annoying, but she wasn’t always that way. There was a time when she was an actress who handled the break up of her marriage (to Bruce Willis) with maturity. They stayed friends and close for the good of their children. Most people can’t even manage that out of the public eye. Then she met Ashton and got all obsessed with youth and, honestly, to me, he’s to blame for everything annoying about her. Now she got this weird need for constant attention and obsession with staying young. It’s sad, and I’m sad for her.

  59. sauvage says:

    I don’t get the hate. Demi Moore has been cheated on in a very public way, something I wouldn’t wish on anybody. It’s not a pleasant thing to go through.

    As for the age thing? A lot of marriages between people who are not close in age work out. And a lot of them don’t. But then, a lot of marriages don’t work out anyway, no matter how old the parties involved are. Go figure.

    I think they were crazy in love, but it didn’t work out in the end because he’s an immature douche bag. What exactly differs him from Kelsey Grammar, who also cheated on his wife in a very public way? Immaturity is not a question of age, sadly.

  60. imabrat says:

    A desperate clinging woman is never attractive. If she asks me, I’ll tell her to move on and find an older, more settled man. Then she’ll look like the spring chicken she wishes to look like.

  61. pwal says:

    Personally, I don’t feel sorry for Demi. It doesn’t help that I’ve never cared for her (colossally overrated), but the fact that she’s not pulling the plug on this thing, if things are, indeed, this bad. With her first marriage with that Moore dude, I’m fairly sure she nipped it in the bud fairly quickly; with Bruce, I can understand getting all of her ducks in a row, especially since she had three little girls to think of; but with Ashton, what’s with the hesitation to pull the trigger? Are her daughters that attached to him that they would accept that their mother would just dangle there? It can’t be their financials – although Demi hasn’t had a box-office hit in years, I would think her money is still fine, and as for Ashton, when was the last time he had a box-office hit – Dude, Where’s My Car?, maybe?

    Maybe it’s Bruce. Who will get custody of Bruce?

  62. KMK says:

    I can’t believe that her red string that she wears around her wrist, did not save her Marriage!

  63. kwanitaka says:

    She used to be called “Gimme More” and got shamed out of Hollywood. Come on! She has been in the business so long she knows all about cheating…

    He got caught and made her look like a fool – the arrangement is you can do what you want, just don’t get caught by the press.

    All that “she’s too old” talk is the thing that will kill it for Demi.

  64. Mitch Buchanan Rocks says:

    Ashton looks good with a beard, and Demi, who would look awesome if she gained 20 pounds, looks like she’s been cooking with Bethenny Frankel.

  65. mimi says:

    I remember when I was a few years younger and casually dating a guy who told me he had been seeing a woman in her ..gasp…40’s. I was completely grossed out and thought something was wrong with him. I’m sure there is always the exception, but it just screams of insecurity on both parts when a young guy hooks up with an older woman.

  66. lisa says:

    I saw Demi on The View.. I don’t know what she has done to the lower part of her jaw, but her mouth area is off. Like she has had a stroke or something. It is almost scary to look at her talk. Creeped me out big time. And she has had work done. But you can see the age in her neck. Women forget that the hands and neck never lie.

  67. cutelittlehappything says:

    But…I thought…women didn’t HAVE Adam’s apples?

  68. Tazina says:

    It’s a terrible double standard but it can be difficult, older women with younger men. Ashton Kucher doesn’t have a wrinkle on his face. Demi is fighting a losing battle with Father Time. After a woman hits 50 which she soon will be, it’s almost impossible to look fresh and glowing. Although she looks good, she is aging now fairly quickly.

  69. Cinderella says:

    I thought she was the voice of female empowerment many years ago. Guess that went down the drain.

    I don’t think he strayed because she couldn’t give him a baby. He’ll probably do it to the next one who does reproduce with him.

  70. Ashley says:

    When at 41 you marry a 26 year old pretty much you know he is not going to spend a life time with you…No 35 year old guy in the world is married to a 50 year old woman and is faithful to her…this is insane and if it happens may be 5 cases in the world and those ppl have emotional issues.
    I am sure if she was an average 41 year old with not bags n bags of money NO 26 year old even would look at her let alone marry her.

  71. HeidiBitchy says:

    Beware what you want, you may have it!

  72. Dawn says:

    Why would anyone feel sorry for Demi? She has been a smart with her money, she has managed to keep her name out there while doing very little. I think she knew what she was getting into, she isn’t stupid. However she is too thin for her age and needs to eat something. Anything else is really not my business until she makes it so.

  73. Andie B says:

    Firstly, isn’t it good they didn’t have a child together? Given the train wreck their relationship has become. Secondly, Demi needs to eat a few square meals. She looks like a bag of bones. The same thing happened to my sister when her relationship went down the gurgler. Her weight dropped to 47kg..just not pretty, but a common side effect of stress in some women.

  74. JaneWonderfalls says:

    I don’t think she is playing the sympathy card. I just think she is embarrassed. Her an Ashton were so open about how great their “marriage” was especially via twitter with all the pictures and advice…She feels silly and devastated at the same time.

  75. JaneWonderfalls says:

    @Sauvage I totally agree with you. You hit every point on the head. Especially about cheating, people cheat regardless of age difference or not. It’s about respect and values. When Ashton went into this with Demi and vise versa he knew exactly who and what he was marrying. If he wanted children he should have never married her. There is never an excuse to cheat on anyone. If things don’t work out be a man/women and move on. Never cheat.

  76. Sassy says:

    Could this be a carefully crafted publicity ploy? He has new show, she is fading – maximize the faux drama.

  77. sarah says:

    I doubt this is as contrived as all that, though in H-town it’s possible.
    The reality is that she’s aging, and Demi is vain. She has lived off her beautiful face and body, which are on the decline with gravity.
    Meanwhile, her husband looks better than ever, and is intent to prove it with women under half her age.
    Even a confident alpha bit*h like Demi feels that sort of blow, both to her heart, and where it really hurts
    (ego)
    A few years ago she had it all, and I’m sure she thought having quality work done would keep Ashton happy, but she can’t even have his children. No matter what he thought in his early 20s, that’s not going to work for him.

  78. GTFOI says:

    Rumors were that they both screwed around and had group sex. So what is she bitching about? Doesn’t sound like much of a marriage.