Gwen Stefani: “I’m passive, I was never a rebel… None of that stuff matters”

Gwen Stefani is the cover girl for the September issue of Harper’s Bazaar, because if there’s one trend for this year’s September issues, it’s “eh, just choose anyone, no matter how overexposed they are.” Not that I’m hating on Gwen – I like her okay. But she’s not some huge “get” for HB. The photo shoot is particularly bad too. Guess who did it? Terry Richardson. He made her look so washed out and Botoxed, although I have been wondering lately if Gwen is actually tweaking, so maybe we can’t blame Richardson for everything. You can read the full interview here, and here are some highlights:

Kingston loves superheroes: “He just discovered superheroes, and he’s obsessed. It was like when I discovered Marilyn Monroe: ob-sess-ed.”

Her mom schedule: “It’s, like, the real deal, dude,” she says. “It’s superfun being a mom, but it’s hard too. Finding that balance between work and family is the hardest thing I’ve ever done—by far.”

Loving dress-up: “I’ve always been a girl who loves to dress up,” says Gwen. “I already put my makeup on twice today: I put it on to take my kid to school, and then I went home, washed my face, and put it on again to have lunch with you.” She even wears it at home because “I like to make my husband like me more,” she says, laughing, “and he likes it when I’m wearing makeup.”

Her hair: Gwen recalls how she felt when, at the age of 25, she spent eight hours in a hair salon in Long Beach getting her coveted white-blonde locks. “It was like I’d unlocked the key. I remember feeling like, ‘I have arrived. This is me. Finally.’” The red lip came when her grandmother gave her a crimson lipstick when she was in high school. “I remember sitting in my ghetto, beat-up Honda Prelude and putting on that lipstick in the rearview mirror and being like, ‘Uh-huh, I like that. That’s the s–t right there.’ I never stopped after that.”

Her body: “I hate talking about my body [all the time]; it’s ridiculous,” she says, referring to the number of times someone has asked how to get her six-pack abs. “There is no secret: You just have to eat healthy, work out, and torture yourself!” Jumping around onstage for a few hours for thousands of screaming fans is great cardio, and she says she hits the gym when her hectic mother-of-two schedule allows. “But it’s more for my brain than it is for my body.”

On how she stays sample-size: “I like to wear clothes too much, so I try to keep focused.”

Roots and hair dye: “Do you think Marilyn Monroe had to talk about this?” she asks, smiling. “Well, I heard she did hers with a Q-tip every 10 days, so I try to follow Marilyn’s rule.” I mention that she’s never been photographed with dark roots, and she points to the houndstooth fedora she is wearing. “And you’ll never see me with roots either.”

The first tour with No Doubt: “I did my own makeup, my own costumes; I did everything myself. I didn’t even know there were stylists.” She made many of her now iconic music-video outfits, though she admits that she used a glue gun as much as a sewing machine. “I remember there was a point when all the guys were sitting around eating pizza, and I finally said I needed some help. So I got an assistant, but guess who he was? A roadie. He took my first Prada dress, which Gavin had bought for me, the first designer piece I ever owned, and he washed it, and it came back this big,” she says, indicating Barbie doll—size with her fingers.

How she seems so “unaffected”: While her onstage persona is a jumping, screaming extrovert, in her real life she is, in her own words, “passive. I was never a rebel.” She credits that to her relationship with her strict Roman Catholic parents, who she lived with, unbelievably, until she was 25. “When I started dating Gavin, I was still at my parents’ house. Yeah, it’s a little weird,” she says with a smile. (She had a midnight curfew when she went to the prom with Tony Kanal, her bandmate and then boyfriend.) “My mom calls me a peacemaker. I want everyone to be happy. But I have a superbig opinion on everything artistic that I do. I know what I like and I know what I hate—that part of me isn’t passive.”

She doesn’t care about gossip or fame: “That someone would say something untrue or bad about me doesn’t bother me. It’s like water off a duck’s back.” This attitude applies to everything from best-dressed lists to rumors that her marriage is falling apart. “None of that stuff matters. There’s something in me, being this passive person, that those kinds of things don’t upset me. I know they can say anything; they can just make something up. But what are you going to do? It’s not part of my reality, so it’s okay.”

She was never in it for the fame: “We didn’t even do it because we were trying to make it. Now everybody wants to be famous. It doesn’t even matter what you do,” Gwen says. “Let me tell you how that first record happened: My boyfriend had broken up with me and I was devastated, so I wrote all these songs. I didn’t even know I could write. I was just a girl who was in love with this guy, then suddenly I’m a songwriter, and I’ve gotten you back so good. I went from being nothing, from being an ordinary, nerdy girl, to having power.”

[From Harper’s Bazaar]

She comes across as a nice, grounded person, and I have no real problem believing that she’s this chilled-out and peaceful in her real life too. However, I do think she cares about gossip, especially when it’s about her marriage to Gavin Rossdale. They might be strong right now – and maybe they’ve always been strong – but I believe some of the negativity affected her and that she and Gavin responded by putting themselves out there as The Strong Rock-Star Couple (posing for photos all the time). Also, I still don’t buy that Gavin prefers Gwen with all of her makeup. She’s always said that he likes her made up, but I think she just needs to admit that she does it for herself, because she loves makeup.

Photos courtesy of Harper’s Bazaar/Terry Rirchardson.

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  1. Jackie O says:

    she never seems able to accept her power. its always deferred.

    she breaks out from a band and has tremendous success….then goes back to the band.

    i bet she spends alot of time kissing the ass of her moody, less successful husband.

  2. lisa2 says:

    I love Gwen. She and Pink are my favorite
    different girls..

  3. little-red says:

    I don’t know what her natural hair colour is (does anyone??), but I think if it were brunette, she would be hella hot going natural. I like her but seriously, the bleach blond is a dated look for her IMO. I know it’s her signature but how hot would she be as a brunette?

    Also love that black dress in second and fourth pics – wow!

  4. Lukie says:

    Everytime I read her interviews, I am that much more disappointed. She just doesn’t do it for me at all…

    • CG says:

      Yeah, ever since she whined about “it’s hard to be this hot” in an interview a few years back, I just can’t with her anymore.

      • valleymiss says:

        What she actually said was, “It takes a lot of work to be this hot,” because she was pointing out that her figure doesn’t come naturally for her, and that she works out 5 or 6 days a week. She’s not Tara Reid or Lindsay Lohan – she doesn’t snort coke to stay in shape, and she doesn’t yap about how she can eat whatever she wants, a la Cameron Diaz. She actually puts in the time and effort and works out.

      • Al says:

        Exactly! I thought it was refreshing to hear a celebrity admit that she works damn hard to look good! Unlike Blake Lively who recently announced that she doesn’t work out.

  5. yellowshaba says:

    Ive always thought gwen was so beautiful, she looks a little tweaked yes, but not in the obvious way ..

  6. paola says:

    Her skin is flawless and i’m so glad that finally there is someone out there that actually says it as it is when it comes to have a six pack and a fit body: “There is no secret: You just have to eat healthy, work out, and torture yourself!”

    there are no miracles, if you want that body you have to work out every day, no bullshit. i hate people who say ‘i eat all i want and never exercise’. that is just bullshit.

  7. beyonce's bump says:

    Ummmmm no one else noticed the “he likes me with makeup on comment???”, maybe kaiser is right, and she is not being truthful and does it actually for herself, but if she is wearing makeup around the house because her husband likes it…..kind of messed up non???

    • ronnie says:

      I always think it’s a little weird when women do things just because their men like it. Example: my sis in law only picked a perfume her husband liked. That’s odd to me. When I was picking my perfume my boyfriend was buying it but I picked the one I liked, figured he would get used to it and relate it to me and eventually love it.

      But let’s not judge every relationship. They are all different and everyone makes their own rules.

    • Mimi says:

      Back when they were first married, she did an interview for Vogue, I believe, and she said exactly the opposite re: wearing makeup, and that Gavin preferred her au natural. I think Kaiser nailed it and she’s justifying *her* need to spackle her face like that.

      • Kimlee says:

        Ether way it’s sad.

        A ) The fact that she needs to show her husband in a poor light to cover up the fact that she dose it for her self but dosent what to seem shallow.

        B ) Or the fact that she feels to make her husband like her more she needs to be do up 24/7 even when she just hanging around the house.

  8. Bubbling says:

    Gavin looks sooo gay to me, it’s really hard for me to believe he is straight.

  9. Jenny says:

    I was a fashion assistant on a shoot for Elle magazine a couple of years ago with Gwen. She was absolutely lovely, couldn’t have been more normal or friendly. And her body is insaaaane. She’s even better looking in real life.

  10. Crystal says:

    Never been a fan of her and her bullsh*t cultural appropriation but she is AGELESS and STUNNING. BOW.

    Her body is always on point tbh and you can tell she works hard for it. Good for her.

    “I like to make my husband like me more,” she says, laughing, “and he likes it when I’m wearing makeup.”

    The f*ck did she say ???
    LOL. No. Sorry, I’m not here for that. I feel like she’s made it her life’s mission to keep Gavin’s eyes from wandering. Hopefully I’m wrong but if I’m right then that’s sad tbh.

    (Do they still sell that tacky ass L.A.M.B collection in stores?? Can’t remember the last time I saw any of her clothes but that shit was up there with Beyonce’s ‘House of Deranged’ clothing line. Not a good look)

  11. LittleDeadGirl says:

    Well of course she wears makeup mostly for herself but I think it’s honest of her to say part of it is for her husband. I mean half the reason we dress up and put on makeup and do whatever is for who we’re dating or want to date. I mean half the time I dress up for myself but the other half is for someone else I’d be walking around in sweatpants all the time.

  12. eric says:

    Read a blind item, that he demands that she wears that clown makeup at home all day long, if she stops wearing he runs to drag queens.

    • Kimlee says:

      She said that she puts on makeup first thing in the morning and put it on even if she dose’t go out. In past interviews because that’s what Gavin likes.

      I think it sad that she feels she has to put on all that makeup 24/7 just to keep him happy, I hope he dose somthing like that in return for her.

  13. eric says:

    They sell that tacky L.A.M.B collection on HSN network.

  14. Allie says:

    Terry Richardson is a terrible photographer! Why does he keep getting high profile jobs? His concepts, composition, use of light…all terrible. I’ve met Gwen Stefani and she is so much more attractive in real life.

  15. Lipsy says:

    I don’t care, just like Britney, I’ll always love Gwen. I grew up with them! The moment I heard ‘Just a Girl’ and bought Tragic Kingdom (my second CD ever, after Jagged Little Pill hehe), I fell in love!

  16. Kate says:

    i’ve always liked gwen. I was in the 6th grade when No Doubt came out with their first album (my first CD lol). And it was the first time i saw a chick who looked different from everyone else, doing her own thing. She just seemed so cool and normal. That same year she was on the cover of 17 magazine, i remember the little boys on the school bus saying “she’s kinda wierd and needs bigger boobs”. It made me think, that this chick is the sh*it! She could have changed and been like everyone else in LA but 20 years later she’s still unique.

  17. velourazure says:

    the need to wear makeup at all times sounds like insecurity to me.

  18. Zorbitor says:

    Ironically, her face looks just as good without makeup.

  19. NM6804 says:

    I think Stefani is the kind of girl that stays in love forever and will do anything to hold on to that love. That and her children of course.

    It must be fun for a guy to have a woman like that but I can’t imagine it’s healthy in general. It must be exhausting for the woman to always work to keep things together and the fact that she and Rossdale aren’t afraid of a “happy family photo op” convinces me that she is not as passive as she likes to claim.

    I actually pity her. I wonder how it feels to look in the mirror and apply that make-up every day knowing it’s for the “good” of the marriage. Yikes. Not exactly a compliment either that Rossdale doesn’t like her as much au naturel. What’s more romantic than waking up all scruffy and still love your partner to bits?

    She is an amazingly gorgeous woman though who makes very good music and has a KILLER body. She works hard at everything in her life it seems.

  20. MST says:

    I never saw the fuss about this woman. Without all that makeup she is rather plain and that bleached blonde hair and red lips looks so artificial. And she can’t sing. Their remake of Talk Talk’s wonderful “It’s My Life’ with her screeching was a crime, and even sadder, people think that No Talent version is the original.

  21. valleymiss says:

    I think Gwen has *definitely* ‘toxed up her forehead, cuz she has perma-Angryface now. The inner corners of her brows are down so low now, while the outer corners are so high in comparison. It looks like she’s scowling. I totally noticed it in the “Settle Down” video. Having said that, she still looks great and has taken great care of her pale skin.

  22. pf says:

    I remember seeing her up close when No Doubt first became famous, in 1995 or 1996, and her skin was really bad. I don’t know if wearing too much make-up caused break outs or the make-up was a defense mechanism for acne, but anyone who is that obsessed with make-up must be insecure. Especially knowing that she is 42 or 43 years old. Grow up, Gwen! I don’t hate her, but anytime I read or see one of her interviews I am greatly disappointed.

  23. Christian says:

    She’s always struck me as passive-aggressive and insecure. Hell, just read her lyrics. And the fact that she’s so against Gavin’s lovechild with that model (who he hooked up with waaaay before he ever met Gwen) is ridiculous. I don’t see why she tries so hard to keep her less-successful gay husband around anyway.

  24. erica says:

    I LOVE THIS WOMAN!!! Ever since “I’m just a girl”, I’ve loved her. I love her even more now, she’s so stylish and gorgeous and so chill…I love how she describes when she tried the red lipstick for the first time. Yep, I’m girlcrushing hard.

  25. Cel says:

    The make-up for my husband thing bothers me. Meeting with friends and just did a quick poll – does your partner like you with or without make-up? Different answers but one thing did stand out and that is men do not like kissing a woman wearing lipstick.

    Gwen appears to like the heavy lipstick look, so maybe not a lot of kissing going on in their relationship? She does seem to want to hold on to Gavin no matter what.

  26. Dee says:

    Ummm, why are some people saying things like “she wants to hold on to Gavin no matter what”. Duh-that’s her HUSBAND. Don’t be jealous bc you can’t keep a man.

  27. abbizmal says:

    Look, it’s a Barbie doll parade. Sheesh

  28. sup says:

    right she didn’t wanna be famous i recall a vid of her on youtube where she’s in school saying she “wants to be a star”

  29. Annie says:

    Is it just me, or does she look a little like Heidi Montag in these photos. Not a compliment to HP’s photoshop department.

  30. ViktoryGin says:

    I work part time in a lingerie store and it irks me to death when these bitches refuse to buy an item unless their husband issues his blessing or brings back an item because hubby doesn’t like the color some other inane shit. U understand that women want to please and need valudation from their husbands, but that is too much.

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