Hey Girl: “Ryan Gosling believes in marital commitment before children”

Hey Girl. Ryan Gosling wants you to know that you are super-duper special. You are his special lady, his heart, his love, his soul, his Disneyland. But he can’t you get pregnant right now, baby. He knows you want his seed, girl. He knows that the two of you would make sweet, sweet love and out of that love would come beautiful babies. But, girl… Ryan Gosling needs you to put a ring on it. He’s not going to give the milk away. You’re going to have to buy the cow, girl.

Just a couple of months ago, Star reported that Eva Mendes was upset that Ryan Gosling didn’t want to have a baby with her. But now he not only wants to have a child, he wants them to get married first!

“Ryan believes in marital commitment before children,” says an insider. “But Eva doesn’t support the institution of marriage. She’s very outspoken about it.”

Still, the 38-year-old knows her babymaking years are on the wane, and she’d love a child.

“She considering caving and actually proposing to Ryan on their one-year anniversary in September,” the source says.

[From Star Magazine, print edition]

Hey girl… Ryan Gosling thinks you’re kind of whorey for wanting to have his baby out of wedlock. Right? I feel like Gosling is judging ladies who get pregnant out of wedlock. Hopefully, it’s just a personal thing for him. Like, he’s so sensitive and you mean so, so much to him that he wants everything to go down the “honorable” way. Some dudes are just like that. So I’ve heard.

Anyway, I’ve actually been thinking that Eva Mendes will probably get pregnant. I’ve mentioned it before, because I’m trying to prepare the Gosling-loonies for that eventuality. But will it be worse for the loonies if Ryan and Eva get married, and then have a baby? Ooh, I don’t even want to think about that.

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  1. Birdie says:

    He is not my type, but that is kinda hot.

  2. beyonce's bump says:

    “Hopefully, it’s just a personal thing for him. Like, he’s so sensitive and you mean so, so much to him that he wants everything to go down the “honorable” way”

    I like this better kaiser!

  3. gee says:

    This makes me like him even more.. I love Eva and Ryan together I want them to marry and make tons of pretty babies.

  4. Sue says:

    ITA, you need to totally commit to each other, before you start bringing other people into the situation. Saying you are committed is a lot different than signing a piece of paper that says you are. This of course is IMO.

    • Sam says:

      I think people can be still be committed without that piece of paper. Saying your committed or signing a piece of paper doesn’t seem half as important as actually displaying that you’re committed somebody. Anybody can say something or sign something to say they’re committed, but it doesn’t really mean anything unless they back it up. Just my opinion anyway.

      • mln76 says:

        Yup and there are plenty of jerks to whom a marriage certificate means nothing. Is rather have the emotional and spiritual commitment than the piece of paper.

      • Dani says:

        That’s not necessarily true. Just because a guy is emotionally and spiritually committed now, doesn’t mean it’ll last forever. That piece of paper is surprisingly a backbone to a lot of women. Yes, he can still get up and leave you when you’re married but it’s more beneficial in the end to have that piece of paper; especially to your child.

      • Sam says:

        Why is it more beneficial for the child to be married? You might get married, have a child and get divorced. Or you might never get married and stay together. I’m obviously not saying that this is what always happens. But I don’t see how a piece of paper is beneficial to a child.

        Yes, you can change your mind and go from being serious and committed to not, with or without a piece of paper. If two people don’t want to be together anymore (which is perfectly natural and understandable, because who can say what sort of person you’re going to be in 20 years, let alone the person you’re with) then I can’t see how a piece of paper is going to make much of a difference, except the cost of divorce. Personally, if my relationship was going downhill, I wouldn’t want someone to stay with me because we had once signed a piece of paper.

    • the original bellaluna says:

      At this stage in my life, I know that signing a piece of paper and making a “lifelong commitment” to another doesn’t necessarily make it a lifelong commitment. (I agree with you, but it doesn’t seem to happen often these days.)

      Does that make me happy? Heck no. I wish it was as you stated.

      But it does make me a realist. Unfortunately.

  5. Phaedra says:

    Loved how you put “Hey Girl” in there!

    If Ryan doesn’t want to have children, then he needs to cover it up! I think he and Eva should discuss this and agree both if they want to have children and if they want to get married. If not, then they should think if they want to be together like this.

  6. Lady_Luck says:

    Ryan’s dog really is cute. Terrible mischief maker – but very cute.

  7. Maritza says:

    She looks too old for him, Ryan Gosling would look better with someone like Kate Upton or Minka Kelly or one of those pretty Gossip Girls.

  8. tracking says:

    This post cracked.me.up. Loved the “hey girl” riff!

  9. Beth says:

    Ugh. I really don’t like her.

  10. Helvetica says:

    Who is this “insider?” These stories are mostly fluff.

  11. Liberty says:

    RG: But Jennifer asked Justin!

    EM: Totally opposite!

    RG: How? (pouts, folding arms over Talbots top)

    EM: She is buying the whole toy, and having it snipped. I just need a dime bag of your super seed.

    RG: But I would be there for you!

    EM: Like you were there for…George?

    RG: Tabloid trash! Ask all the gurrls I bang with the utmost sensitivity!

    EM: There’s that too! Anyway, no one wanted Justin seed. Who wants to push a head like that out for sixteen hours, then end up with a kid with flipper legs? You should be happy I want your kid!

    RG: Taylor even asked that high school kid and they just met! Give me a ring in September – I feel so dirty anymore. Aren’t I good enough? should I lose weight? Is it my chest?

    EM: I have my hair career to think about. The whole ad concept is based on my luscious singleness. I am practically the “other” Kardashian.

    RG: Whhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhy?

    EM: Okay, okay, we’ll get double-married with George and Stacy someday, how about that?

    RG: Hey girl — I hate you! (runs off sobbing)

  12. DanaG says:

    It could be a ruse to dump Eva. He wants marriage she is anti marriage and actually anti kids too. This way it get’s out the want different things so the split won’t be a huge surprise. Doesn’t “their” movie open soon? They will be over right after that opens.

  13. Missy says:

    she’s also gone on record and said shes not the maternal type and doesn’t want kids, so I call BS on this story.
    Anyway, Ryan is lost to me since hooking up with her…..geez Ryan, you were the king of Hollywood last year, you could of had any woman and she is what you chose!! Haha what a joke you’ve turned out to be…

  14. ataylor says:

    He grew up Mormon. His family still is too. It’s no wonder marriage before babies is a requirement for him. I’m wondering if his relationship with Rachel McAdams didn’t work out because she refused to convert?

    • Talie says:

      Wow, for real? Does he practice?

      • ataylor says:

        I don’t know if he is still active. I mean, the guy got arrested for a DUI a few years ago. That doesn’t sound like he’s very devout or still an active member. That being said, with marriage before kids being so emphasized during his formative years I can see why that issue might be essential for him.

    • Jackie says:

      Though he grew up Mormon, he doesn’t follow it anymore. He said in an interview that his mother and sister still followed but he didn’t. Why Rachel broke up with him? I heard 2 rumors, one was that his mom meddled hard in their relationship and she couldn’t put up with it and the second was that he was unwilling to live in Toronto, he wanted her to move to L.A but she wanted Toronto to be their home base and to stay in L.A part time. They couldn

      • Jackie says:

        To finish my thought, they couldn’t compromise.

      • ataylor says:

        Ahhh…mothers-in-law. Yep. That’ll do it every time.

        I doubt it was the whole location issue. Actors spend most of their time traveling from set to set, location to location. If you think about it “Home Base” other than Hollywood really doesn’t exist.

      • Jackie says:

        True but she does still live in Toronto and says that she only leaves when it’s for work. Her life is in Toronto, that’s where her family and friends are. As a Canadian, I love that she stays here instead of feeling the need to be in the spotlight in Hollywood.

      • the original bellaluna says:

        Jackie, if I was famous, you couldn’t pay me enough to live in H-Wood or LA or even Beverly Hills.

        If I could afford to live wherever I wanted, bet your ass I’d pick somewhere else.

      • cindy says:

        LA would be the last place I’d ever want to live, if I was a rich, famous person. It’s such a strange, fake, weird and vapid place. I’d always admired Rachel McAdams for insisting on staying in Toronto. I think it gives you some distance from that whole lifestyle which destroys so many. Some of the best actors don’t live in Hollywood, actually.

      • queen says:

        I can believe that even if he isn’t a practising Mormon, that it was being bought up in the religion that makes him want to be married before having kids.

        I was also bought up as a Mormon, and I although I dont identify as one now, even though I lived with my husband before we were engaged/married, I wouldn’t have wanted to have a baby with him before I was. I dont know why, its just what my parents have instilled on me I guess

    • Nina W says:

      Well, I was not raised Mormon nor was I programmed by any other religious institution but I still favor marriage first, children second. My reasons have much more to do with what I believe is best for children then any religious or moral conviction. Children need both their parents to be present and involved in their lives whatever their marital status.

  15. Talie says:

    I think eventually he’ll be bald…his hair is actually quite thin. Random observation.

  16. debbi says:

    I think that is sweet and makes me love him more. Its not a requirement for me, but there is something great about going the traditional route too.

  17. TheOriginalKitten says:

    This makes no sense whatsoever. So the article says that she is very outspoken about not supporting the institution of marriage, but that he believes in marriage and then goes on to say “she considering caving and actually proposing to Ryan on their one-year anniversary in September,”.

    What? So her solution is to propose to him? If he’s so into marriage and she isn’t (but could change her mind) then wouldn’t the natural approach be to wait for HIM to propose?

    This is all BS and for the record, I don’t see these two lasting, much less her getting knocked up.

  18. Samantha says:

    His deep V-neck devotion lowers his hot factor. A lot.

  19. Kate (from Canada) says:

    that dog is so cute!!!

  20. Ranunculus says:

    Within a year Gosling went from “respected actor” to “biggest joke in Hollywood”. For his own sake he should dig a hole, crawl into it and not come out for at least a year and only if he has a good movie on his hand in which he gives a great performance.

  21. Julia says:

    Yeah, some guys just are like that. Had two ex-bfs who could not wrap their heads around a relationship without marriage as a final destination, before I met one who did NOT mention marriage after a few months of being together.
    But I honestly would not have expected it of Gosling. If true, I’m actually kind of shocked. He just always appeared so…socially liberal to me, or something.

  22. G says:

    So, he believes that a child should be wanted by two commited parents?

    He’ll never make it in Hollywood with THAT attitude!

  23. ruby says:

    I don’t see them getting married, but I do see them having a baby if things keep on this way. I could be wrong of course, but that’s the vibe I’m getting.

  24. Grace says:

    But what if Eva is already pregnant and hasn’t told him yet? Will he get a quickie marriage?

    • anna says:

      She has been going around wearing maternity clothes lately, and making a point of covering up her tummy. I think it’s more a ploy to get attention. We all know Eva wants everything to be about her. She is the queen of PR. Shame on Ryan for becoming involved with her, and letting her wh*re out his personal life to the media. Or maybe he doesn’t mind, which would mean he is playing the game too, and lying about who he really is. Both are fake to me.

  25. claire says:

    How is it judging? It’s his personal preference for his own life.

  26. the original bellaluna says:

    So, no maybe-baby then?

  27. marybeth18 says:

    Maybe I’m going woozy from the current heat wave, but she looks really pretty in those two pictures.

    Normally, I find her a little meh, but especially in profile, she’s gorgeous.

    • Rada ura says:

      She reminds me a bit of Kardashian, so if you like those kind of girls – although K is prettier in the face. EM looks pretty underwhelming when she is not done up. If Gosling is still shacking on her he is stupid. I could totally see her leaking privat stuff to the gossip rags.

  28. Dani says:

    Just wanted to say that the first paragraph had me laughing out loud.

  29. Suzie says:

    Wow, I think that is SO responsible. Am I wrong or do most males not air this view? If only more guys would speak out and communicate such very important principles and values to their girlfriends – in writing. Far too many women are hugely self-centered about wanting a baby. They just want a baby and that’s it, and the baby grows up and pays the price for being fatherless with a single mother. If the girlfriends dont give a damn and fall pregnant regardless, then the guys shouldnt have to pay child support. Hopefully then the girls would give the baby up to so many needy, childless adoptive married couples, and think twice before ignoring a man who is responsible enough to tell them beforehand.

  30. Mazunte says:

    “If the girlfriends dont give a damn and fall pregnant regardless, then the guys shouldnt have to pay child support. Hopefully then the girls would give the baby up to so many needy, childless adoptive married couples…” …

    Are you aware of how misogynistic what you wrote is? If a married or unmarried woman gets pregnant, there were two people making that child. And nothing, absolutely nothing should ever be used as an excuse for a man (or a woman) not being responsible and careful with a child he/she brought into the world. I belong to those who believe love and respect are much more important that a signed paper or any social “values” and that commitment should have nothing to do with marriage.
    I do respect marriage though and those like Gosling (if there is any truth in this story, which I doubt) who find it important.

  31. ToastedSkin says:

    Please god, no. Just..no.

  32. lil says:

    First photo of Eva is a terrifying duckface. How much crap has she injected in her upper lip? She looks ridiculous.

  33. gina says:

    I feel really sorry for this future kid. She doesn’t want it for the right reasons.

  34. Hikkilove says:

    Eow i dont even care about gosling, but seriously i loved this article. Its so brilliant that it won my heart.

  35. SugAveryPee says:

    First …. I am was born and raised in L.A and have to say the idea you all have about this city is wrong… I think alot of you all assume that L.A is the way Access Hollywood and those shows portray it… It is a regular metropolitan city like any other…With great weather and expensive living… but “hollywood” which is a state of mind really is a small percentage of the city.. so we are not all vapid and self absorbed people… wanted to state that cause I take offense to it… *in a not so serious way* LOL… Second I wonder if she does not believe in marriage because no one has ever asked her…. I mean whether you like it or not marriage is a religious and holy thing so if people do not believe in it I suggest you do not enter into it… (and yes i am aware it is also legal)… but I often here these women that are hitting 40 start talking that crap about “I do not believe in marriage” or “I never wanted kids” … not sure I believe she never wanted any as much as I believe she is at that age where her clock is ticking and she just hasn’t …. but just my opinion so please do not get upset

    • cindy says:

      I guess not all of LA is bad. I probably should have said just Hollywood. The lifestyle that a lot of celebrities adopt there is not the healthiest, and sometimes they stay more down to earth if they choose to live elsewhere. Without all the paparazzi, Hollywood parties, etc.

    • the original bellaluna says:

      SugAP – No, not all of LA is bad. But LA County as a whole certainly has its problems. (What metropolis doesn’t these days?)

      My deal with the area north of San Onofre/San Clemente to oh, say, Santa Barbara? (it’s been awhile since I’ve been there) is the poor air quality (even a weekend visiting family in Orange or at Disneyland KILLS me) and the traffic. Oh, and the LA County court system, which allows things like liberal justice for the famous and/or rich.

  36. verra says:

    I don’t think Gosling is the sharpest tool in the shed. Neither is she. Both must be playing the PR game for their upcoming movie.

  37. mimi says:

    If he is not sure about his relationship with her, then he should not let her hang there when she is not 22 years old.

    If he wants marriage he should propose.
    IF she wants kids, he should make up his mind soon as he might be wasting her time.

  38. M. says:

    Gosling just doesn’t do it for me….maybe it’s just that he’s not my type (I much prefer actors like Mark Rufalo or Josh Brolin, Jeff Bridges) I like the older dudes!. I also don’t find him to be that
    great of an actor……I guess that’s it .really