Rupert Everett “can’t think of anything worse than being brought up by 2 gay dads”

Rupert Everett

Rupert Everett is no stranger to sounding like an abrasive, bitter, and slightly delusional pill during his quest to complain about about nearly everything in life. In particular, Rupert takes great joy in complaining that his flagging career (which really isn’t so bad — he’s done some television work this year and has a few movies in production) is the result of his decades-old decision to come out of the closet. Even though he seems like a terribly unpleasant person, Rupert is convinced that his talents are nearly entirely wasted because he’s just so gay.

Never mind that Rupert himself seems to be the king of gay bashing, since he’s characterized the gay marriage issue as “tiresome” because of all of the “middle-aged queens” who are so terribly “egocentric and vain” at the movement’s forefront. True, those statements were made a few years ago, but Rupert hasn’t changed his tune at all. Now in an interview with the Telegraph, Rupert would like to remind us all that he’s judging all the gay men who aren’t himself, and he wants them to know that he doesn’t need their “community.” Further, he wants everyone to know that gays with children are, like, the worst thought that he can manage to conjure up in his narrow little mind. Seriously, what is this guy’s damage?

Rupert Everett

Gay parents according to Rupert: “I can’t think of anything worse than being brought up by two gay dads. Some people might not agree with that. Fine! That’s just my opinion. I’m not speaking on behalf of the gay community. In fact, I don’t feel like I’m part of any ‘community.’ The only community I belong to is humanity and we’ve got too many children on the planet, so it’s good not to have more.” Everett also told how his family’s military background, which included his father serving as an Army Major, meant “some things were simply not talked about.”

Rupert’s mom on her son’s sexuality: “In the past, I have said that I wish Rupert was straight and, I probably still feel that. I’d like him to have a pretty wife. I’d like him to have children. He’s so good with children. He’d make a wonderful father. But I also think a child needs a mummy and a daddy. I’ve told him that and he takes it very well. He doesn’t get angry with me. He just smiles.”

[From Telegraph]

Obviously, the sour apple doesn’t fall too far from the tree where Rupert and his mother are concerned. Also, I’m wondering if Rupert’s comments aren’t specifically directed towards high-profile gay parents such as Elton John and David Furnish. Elton, of course, has recently expressed his own concern that his son will be teasedbecause he doesn’t have a mummy.” Although Rupert never mentions Elton here by name, he does have a history of making rather catty and judgmental statements about Elton.

Otherwise, I think these latest statement is just Rupert being grumpy, hyperbolic Rupert. He really seems to think that all of his problems source from being gay, and he doesn’t really notice that he’s an incredibly unpleasant person to witness. There’s no evidence at all that two gay men will do any worse than a hetero couple at raising children. In both cases, one learns as one goes.

Rupert Everett

Rupert Everett

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  1. Anna says:

    He and his mother are fully entitled to that opinion.

  2. lucy2 says:

    Funky plastic surgery and a bad attitude tanked his career, IMO.

  3. Tifygodess24 says:

    I’m going to ignore his ignorant comments , because thats- even at his age, some big mommy issues/shame/anger going on there. And bloody hell he is not aging well at all! He looks like wax in the first picture!!

  4. SueD says:

    He’s entitled to his opinion but it truly limits his life. I’ve seen all types of families thrive. Despite public speculation, Same sex parents, blended, adopted, inter-racial families can all have a wonderful experience. If the kids face some extra adversity then it will simply strengthen their character and coping mechanisms. Been there, done that.

  5. Nanz01 says:

    Sounds like self-loathing projected into others. That is my armchair diagnosis anyway. BTW, what did he do to his face??? He looks like a wax figure in the Hugo photos.

  6. MacScore says:

    I’m going to have to disagree with the tone of this report. I’ve read Everett’s autobiography and it’s actually very very funny – full of swipes against himself, as well. He’s just being a public curmudgeon – sarcasm (often self-directed) is something Brits do quite well. Don’t take it all so seriously.

    • Kimbob says:

      @MacScore….I was scrolling down reading the comments, about to make a comment of my own when I saw yours.

      I definitely agree w/you. Rupert has always BEEN TERRIBLY BLUNT, NOT “politically correct,” and you know, to me, that is SO refreshing! So what he tells it like he sees it…and, from what I’ve read/heard of his quotes, he is refreshingly honest and candid. No, most people won’t agree w/him, but he’s entitled to his opinion…just like everyone else.

      Also, BTW, I definitely agree w/his quote of, ‘The only community I belong to is humanity and we’ve got too many children on the planet, so it’s good not to have more.’ This is a topic very near and dear to me. Many women of childbearing age don’t like to hear it, but this planet IS OVERPOPULATED, & we should be good stewards of this earth & plan families responsibly. I know I’ll catch hell w/saying this, but there is already irrefutable evidence this earth cannot keep supporting population explosions….so there…I said it.

      Edit: Also, I forgot to mention that, yes, he’s not aging well at all. He should address this because he used to be good looking….oh well, that’s his prerogative also.

      • Emily says:

        That over-population thing is a decent argument…but aren’t a lot of gay couples adopting, not having kids of their own? It doesn’t make a lot of sense as part of his argument that gay parents would be the worst.

      • olaf78 says:

        Hey don’t conflate issues together.

        Saying that people will be bad parents due to their sexuality is bigoted and delusional. Bad people make bad parents, and sometimes self-involved people make bad parents. It has nothing to do with sexuality.

        Also if you are truly concerned about over-population direct your energy towards education and support of impoverished women. Legislate to promote and protect a woman’s right to her fertility; and fight hard and long against sexism in all forms (in other words promote civil rights; decry bigotry in ALL forms, the overt and the quietly accepted like the trash that Everett is talking).

      • yolo says:

        IDK, olaf, I dated a guy that had 2 moms and he just didn’t understand the way relationships work. You would think that being raised by 2 women would make him the perfect guy, but not so much. He had major confidence issues, didn’t know how to communicate and was too sensitive. Maybe these were his own personality flaws, but I know to this day, he still had issues with dating. I’m not saying this is the case for all same sex parents and I applaud whatever decisions people make for their owns lives, but I can see the point Rup is making… And I also find it refreshing when celebs tell it like it is. I’m over contrived, boring, say the right things to please the masses interviews.

      • Steph says:

        THANK YOU!! Finally, someone said it!

        Yes, the planet IS dangerously overpopulated. I wish people would take this into consideration instead of having so many children.

        Ultimately I think that’s the point the Rupert Everett was trying to make.

    • Mitch Buchanan Rocks! says:

      He’s fun – this interview rocks :) so much more entertaining than those waste of benzodiazipine eye’d famewhores who shall be not named.

  7. L says:

    Well to me it sounds like he’s anti-kids in general. “the only community I belong to is humanity and we’ve got too many children on the planet, so it’s good not to have more.”

    But yea he’s a grump. And not in a fab way, but in a grumpy way.

  8. Jackie O says:

    its hard to take someone seriously when they have made themselves unrecognizable with plastic surgery.

  9. sara says:

    Poor Rupert. His mother has made him completely self hating and bitter.

  10. neelyo says:

    He suffers from Famewhore Tourettes syndrome. A microphone is placed in front of the subject and they can’t help themselves, they have to say the most ‘controversial’ thing they can and wait for the fallout. See also Sharon Osbourne.

  11. Brown says:

    This article has WTF written all over it.

  12. mln76 says:

    So its better to have been raised by say Dina and Michael Lohan than Elton John and David Furnish ?????

  13. I Choose Me says:

    It’s too early for me to let this ignoramus get my back up so I’ll just say his ugly is showing, outside as well as in, and leave it at that.

  14. Sam says:

    Wow,his mother sounds like one hell of a narrow-minded biatch. No wonder Rupert has no love for the gays. He has a point though, we are way over populated. But I don’t think gay men have children are to blame. Maybe he should aim his attack at the Duggars. Oh and I think being raised by a mum and dad in a family of 19 is much more damaging to a child than gaving two gay fathers. WHY AM I NOW TALKING ABOUT THE DUGGARS? The end.

  15. T.C. says:

    He sounds bitter and brain washed by his mom. You can talk about over population without pointing a finger at gay couples. Gays are a very small percentage of the population. They adopt one or two kids. Hereros rule the planet and tend to breed huge families when ever they want.

  16. Jag says:

    His mother is delusional if she thinks that his kind of attitude would make for a good father. I really hope he never reproduces because he is so unpleasant, and children need kindness and understanding.

  17. Mel says:

    Well I for one love his comment “I don’t feel like I’m part of any ‘community.’ The only community I belong to is humanity “. Its essentially saying you are the same as everyone else on earth. And for too long people have been placing themselves and others into categories which in a lot of cases, only serve to drive wedges between us all. So for that reason I love his comment.
    But yeah, he definitely is a bit of a curmudgeon as someone noted above!

  18. Mia 4S says:

    Rupert dear, you’re career didn’t stall because you are gay, it stalled because you have been thoroughly unpleasant to people AND did God knows what to your face.

    It’s a shame, he was awesome in An Ideal Husband.

    As for his comments? *eye roll* If that’s the worst thing he can think of he’s a drama queen in more ways than one. Give me a break!

  19. WaywardGirl says:

    He is the true definition of bitter.

  20. Bored suburbanhousewife says:

    He is a wonderful writer. Sad he looks like a total ruin when he used to be really gorgeous as a young man. Maybe that’s why he is so grumpy.

  21. Would Vincet Cassel Wear This? says:

    “Seriously what is this guy’s damage?”

    Hmm. Nice turn of phrase. I don’t agree with his mum in theory but in the context of what she believes I think her comments were fairly moderate. She’s no Fred Phelps.

  22. Ann says:

    The botox leaked into his brain.

  23. Tillie says:

    I don’t think gender or sexuality is an important factor in deciding whether someone is a fit parent or not, but how you raise and love a child.

    By the way, he sounds so bitter, as does his mother. Blegh.

  24. Josette says:

    I love everyone….white, black, gay, straight and everyone in between…but if I had my choice, I wouldn’t want two moms or two dads. I don’t feel as if it’s the worst thing the way he does, but I don’t totally disagree with him *ducks*

  25. Darlene says:

    Bless his heart. (I’m southern; y’all know what I’m saying here.)

  26. Mrs.Darcy says:

    The article is actually from the Sunday Times, and his mother in the rest of the interview goes on to say how proud she is of her son, that she has known he was gay since he was 18 (before he came out). She comes across more as an old fashioned but not terribly judgemental lady really. She was just being truthful and I don’t think she meant any harm. It seems as though Rupert’s very English upper middle class upbringing has influenced the way he relates his personal life to his family.It seems like it is more his choice not to discuss it with them. I think he is just trying to make a few headlines for his new book, which I for one am planning on reading as his last one was hysterically funny and irreverent. Yes he’s a bitter queen, so what, he’s a true wit and raconteur. He has a right to not tow the party line when it comes to gay marriage and kids, lighten up.

    • vic says:

      Agreed. But if you don’t agree with these folks you’re a washed up bitter old queen psychologically ruined by your mother. Some gay advocates are the most close-minded individuals out there. Vicious really.

      • A~ says:

        Would you say this to an African-American objecting to a racist statement? “That KKK member has a right to his opinion! Don’t be so intolerant!” Yes, he has a right to his opinion. And I have a right to think that his opinion proves him to be an ass.

      • Mrs.Darcy says:

        Rupert made a few flippant remarks regarding gay parents, I don’t think he probably even thought very deeply about it (and to be fair he’s mostly poking fun at Elton, who is indeed a pain in the arse adopting a kid at 60 and acting like children are a revolution -why has no no one discovered this before?!). Bedhead has captioned and framed those remarks in an inflammatory manner imo, to what end I don’t know.

        They seem to love to pick on Rupert here, and I honestly don’t give a crap about it really but he is one of the few actors who has written (not ghost written) an intelligent and funny memoir that I imagine would be far more helpful for young gay men than what many other of the few out male celebs have done. No, he doesn’t march in parades or front numerous charities, but I can’t think of many other men in his position who would have come out when he did. I don’t know, he just reminds me a lot of my own g.b.f., who can be catty and mean but is always fun and never boring. What can I say, I like my gay men with an acid tongue and a devil may care attitude. He’s not posing for the cover of Hello or People declaring gay people shouldn’t have kids, he’s just being himself. As for everyone bashing his appearance, at least he owns up to and jokes about the botox, unlike 99.9% of the other waxworks in progress (Angelina, Kate Winslet, etc. etc. amen).

    • jaye says:

      I agree with your statement. I think that people are reading too much into his mother’s statement. I didn’t take her comments as particularly homophobic so much as out of touch, maybe. As far as comparing what she said to a racist comment, I encountered a very elderly gentleman in a grocery store and I let him go ahead of me in the line. He started to talk to me about the “colored” fellows he worked with many moons ago. He told me how they were all his “best friends” and how they all would stick up for him, a little jewish guy. I’m sure he was just trying to find a way to relate to me, a black person. He made some other comments about “colored” folks and while I was a bit taken aback at first, I got a good chuckle out of it. I just chalked it up to him being an out of touch elderly man and I didn’t think he was trying to be offensive. Some times you have to consider the frame of reference of the source making comments like the ones my little old guy or RE’s mom made and realize that they really don’t mean any harm.

  27. Annie says:

    Nothing worse than a self-loathing gay or a misogynist gay. Both can be so mean and bitter in my experience, but very depressed too. I feel like Rupert feels guilty for not pleasing his mother and being gay and not straight. He doesn’t like being gay, perhaps because his mother reminds him all the time that he’s a disappointment so he lashes out on the community. He needs to cut that umbilical chord asap. It’s never too late. Most gays have parents who don’t approve. He needs that community. He would be happier.
    Also lady, you want grandchildren like you were good with children in the first place. You don’t deserve them if you made your own son hate himself.

  28. Shitler says:

    Does he think the bigotted heteros will love him any better cause of his stance? He sounds really ignorant & stupid. A child needs loving & supportive environment in which to grow. If hetero parents were doing such a great job maybe we wouldn’t be in the mess we’re in.

    • Kayla says:

      Yeah and gay parents are going to save the world, right?

      • Van says:

        Well, they must really want to be parents if they fight so hard for it, don’t you think? I think people who fight hard to have children, no matter their sexual orientation, show they have a true calling and are the best parents because of it. Definitely better parents than those who have unplanned children when they are not ready, or those who have children to save relationships. Or those who have children because they “have to”. Or those who have babies to keep their significant others around. Tons of bad couples have children, nobody questions their right. People have the right to be a parent no matter how awful they are, why are gays not allowed but crackheads and alcoholics are?

        If I were to give a baby up for adoption I’d choose a couple who fought long and hard to have a child. They would appreciate this kid like no one else. They really want to be parents. And I think I would choose a gay couple. Definitely.

      • Shitler says:

        Thank you Van. Everyone no matter their sexual orientation has the right to parent.

      • RdyfrmycloseupmrDvlle says:

        Personally, I think his honesty and refusal to parrot the party line and spout out whats expected of him by his community is refreshing and honest.
        Its like everything in life…I know some amazing gays in NYC that would make amazing parents…..however, also, I know some vapid, overly dramatic, self absorbed, infantile, drunken oversexed gays that would make really awful parents…..his openness and honesty is really refreshing and a welcome bit of perspective in what has become a bit ridiculous and off kilter. Just because your gay doesnt mean you have special powers and abilities to parent.

  29. Kate (newer one) says:

    There’s actually some genuine academic evidence on this, though pertaining to children of lesbian couples, for obvious reasons. There have been cohort studies in which kids raised by lesbians do, on average, better on all fronts than the wider population’s average. Educational, social, the lot. Better educational outcomes, more likely to go on to higher ed, less likely to end up on drugs or a teenage parent, everything you’d hope for for you own kid. Though it isn’t really too amazing, when you think about it. I mean, a gay couple can’t have an “oops baby” in a chaotic, drug-addled and/or short-term relationship. By definition, any child of that relationship has to be carefully planned and thought about, and can only be conceived with outside help, which usually takes a while to track down. So you immediately have two committed, engaged and positive parents.

    I do think people should look at kids born to drug addicts or severely mentally ill or violent parents before worrying about those born to people who happen to love someone of their own sex.

    I should say that I know about the evidence because this issue really affects someone in my own family, so it makes me sad to read this. They’re a lovely family unit and the fact the parents are the same sex is not relevant, to my mind. They’re a married couple (her wife is one of the family’s favourite additions – even my 80 yr old Grandma loves her and gave the same amount of £ towards their wedding as the rest of us got for ours) and no baby could be more loved – and certainly couldn’t be more wanted, short of people who have fertility treatment.

  30. Samigirl says:

    There have been studies done that show there is Abuse in 0% of homes where children are being raised by gay couples. Sounds to me like being raised by 2 gay men would be amazing.

  31. Isa says:

    I can think of a lot worse things! What a stupid statement. I’m sure children born in homes of abuse, neglect, drug or alcohol addiction would agree with me.
    It seems like he made the right choice to not have children.

  32. Annie says:

    People who say two gays would make terrible parents, like all straight parents are good parents… You have no argument here, you do realize that?

    Having Gay dads would be awesome, I think. Dads are calmer and let’s face it, easier to get away with things with them. Although it would be hilarious to witness how they manage diaper changing because men hate it :P “your turn! No, your turn!” *backwards diaper*.

  33. Angi says:

    He seems to be full of self hate.

  34. Tedda says:

    He is entitled to his opinion and so am I. I happen to agree with him.

  35. Tedda says:

    Sorry but kids growing up in gay homes will have a ton of issues whether you want to believe it or not. Homosexuality is not normal nor is it natural.

  36. Lindsey says:

    From what I gather, the Everetts are a bunch of bitter queens.

  37. RayneBeau says:

    I can’t think of anything worse than his face.

  38. Jaded says:

    He and Stephen Fry should sit down for a good old chin-wag, I can imagine Fry would have a few bon-mots to say to him.

    “The Bible contains six admonishments to homosexuals and 362 admonishments to heterosexuals. That doesn’t mean that God doesn’t love heterosexuals. It’s just that they need more supervision.”

  39. debbi says:

    I don’t agree with his view but he has the right to have his opinion and express it, and my disagreement with his sentiment should be expressed and spoken respectfully. He is not a bad person for feeling this way, even if I think its a narrow and small view.

    That being said he could be a giant pain in the butt and not a nice person, however, this view is not what makes him one. I also imagine he is tired of constantly being asked about his sexuality and issues pertaining to it. I mean straight actors aren’t constantly asked so I am sure its annoying. Personally I liked what he said about not being part of any community other than humanity. Hopefully we will get to that point.

  40. muppet_barbershop says:

    I think he makes me even crabbier than Morrissey does. Just go hide if you can’t cope with anything, Rupert.

  41. Jay says:

    Perhaps his comment is directed at his mom. She wishes he’d find a “pretty wife” and have kids. Well, since the first one isn’t happening, he’s possibly repeating his argument to his mom about why he’d never have kids. It sounds like something someone would say to their parents to avoid saying “*I* don’t want to” and then have to belabour the point.

  42. hoganbcmj says:

    I can’t think of anything worse that Rupert Everett. What a miserable old unattractive person he turned out to be. Shame, because he’s talented and has had great success in his life. He should be thankful and feel blessed.

  43. babythastarsshinebrite says:

    He sure is entitled to his opinion and my opinion is his self-hatred is sad.

  44. Meanchick says:

    Okay, WHAT THE HELL? He looks terrible! I also have a theory about people like him and I don’t mean gay. Misery loves company. Miserable people bring their dysfunctional and negative attitudes around for a bit of attention and mahnify that by 1000 with “Whatever Happened To” celebs like him. They crawl out of their misery long enough to say something provocative, irresponsible and stupid to get some attention.

  45. Cinesnatch says:

    When I came out he was one of the few out celebs. And he was super hot. (this was right before my best friend’s wedding). Getting old is not easy. Getting old and being single isnt easy. Being gay, single, and getting old isn’t easy. Being gay, single, having a mom who still wants you to be straight, and getting old isn’t easy. and his wtf plastic surgery doesn’t help matters.

    My inclination is to criticize him. But, I simply don’t envy him. I hope that he can find peace and happiness in his life. I have to believe that it’s never too late.

  46. PrettyTarheelFan says:

    I don’t hate what he, or his mother, is saying. It’s a really difficult topic, but if we suddenly given a choice, on a topic where we previously had no choice…wouldn’t most of us choose to be a part of the majority? Haven’t you ever wished you were more like those around you? I wish I had some color (ANY effing color) to my skin, and if I could choose to have lovely golden skin without paying for it in wrinkles and cancer…I would choose it in a heartbeat. I think Rupert’s mother is saying she would choose that he was straight, because it is an easier life-choice in many respects.
    I look at my 15 month old, and I know I would love him no matter what, but if he is meant to walk a path of greater resistance, it will hurt my heart. Not because of any dislike for that path, but because he’s my child and I want his life to be easy. I don’t want him to deal with people saying he’s gross, he should burn in hell, he isn’t a citizen and doesn’t deserve the same rights. Similarly, having 2 dads and no mother wouldn’t mean those men don’t love that child just like any other parent, but that it’s a tougher road. Same with any adoption that crosses preconceived ideas of family: 1 Man, 1 Woman, all the same race, ethnicity, religion, etc.

  47. anya says:

    He’s just saying that he personally would not like to have two gay dads. That does not necessarily make him bitter, grumpy or a terrible human being.
    Not being perky and ‘positive’ is not a crime.

  48. Ann Emmess says:

    Ugh, the self-loathing drips off this guy like acid. He’s too timid to fight for his own self-respect and jealous of everyone who has it.

    And why now? Who on earth is this supposed to impress, except belly-scratching provincials Rupert surely despises? He’s not thinking about the rubes, he’s just lashing out at the gay people who dare to reach for a life that scares him.

    With his resources, at his age, he should be able to live in his own skin by now. He wants to be a provocateur, but “outrageous” is hard to pull off when you’re just a timid little thing.

  49. Kiyoshigirl says:

    I think he’s saying his objection to having children has nothing to do with the makeup of the parents, but that he doesn’t think anyone should procreate due to the planet being over populated. We don’t need to judge people who don’t have the procreation gene, just as we don’t need to judge people who do.

  50. Grace says:

    Poor guy. It must be awful to wake every morning and look at that mutilated face in the mirror. He is entering elephant man territory in the second picture.

  51. garvels says:

    The guy just gave his honest opinion. He specifically stated that it was his opinion and not that of the gay community. It sounds to me like Rupert wants to be defined by his work and not his gayness….I think it is sad that people rip on other people if their opinion is not the politically correct opinion of the day.

  52. Suzy (from Ontario, Canada) says:

    There are a lot of children already on this planet who need homes and people to love them. I don’t care if those people are a man/woman or two men or two women or one of either sex as long as they love the child and meet his/her needs to the best of their ability.

    I think some people are great with kids and great parents and some people aren’t and it has nothing to do with who they prefer in their bed.

    People are entitled to their own opinions and if they don’t want kids, that’s fine. It’s their life. But if people do want a child and have love and energy and attention to give to that child, then more power to them.

  53. giddy says:

    Rupert is wonderful. Would marry him in a minute and live a life of total celibacy — enjoying every delicious minute of this man.

    It is hardly a “new” or “surprising” concept that children generally fare better (all things being equal) in households with a mother and father. If that statement were untrue — then the world would look very different — and Darwin would be castigated by more than just fundamental Christians. So beyond the fact that Rupert has the “right” to an opinion, and the “courage” to give voice to it, his statement is supported by science.

    He IS terribly bright and wonderfully judgy. He’s a man, who happens to be “gay” and doesn’t CHOOSE to identify himself with the great unwashed — aka the “gay community” writ large. Why would he? What’s it to him? He doesn’t OWE them anything or vice versa. Why should he limit himself to GAY? Why should anyone? It’s absurd.

    • PinPunk says:

      He OWES the gay community the same thing we woman OWE all the women throughout history that are responsible for us having rights, it’s called a moral obligation, it’s called gratitude, it’s called respect! I OWE my freedom to the stonewall gays that fought for MY rights, I OWE the suffragettes, the first feminists, the human right activists that lost lives on the line fighting for me, for you, for our children, I OWE the world to pass it on!

      and scientifically proven? HA! show me the proof! where is it? 100 years ago it was “scientifically proven” that people of colour have smaller brains, that women have smaller brains, how stupid does it sound in 2012? (unless you believe that too) I say it sounds like you and him should marry, perfect match.

    • RdyfrmycloseupmrDvlle says:

      totally 100% on board with all you said. You took the words out of my mouth.

  54. PinPunk says:

    I feel what he said was more than just bitter and silly, it was irresponsible and damaging! about “not being a part of a community”, well, all that crap about being simply human is nice and all, BUT, it will be relevant only in a world free from homophobia, misogyny and racism, the reality is – as long as homophobia is alive and kicking there NEEDS to be a community, that 15 year old gay child being bulled NEEDS a community, the gay man not allowed to visit his partner in the hospital NEEDS the community, I, that love my lady dearly and don’t have the right to marry her legally NEED the community, he is distancing himself from us because he hates him self, I am a part of the gay community, that doesn’t stop me from being a part of the general human rights movement, the feminist community, the animal lovers community, the artists community, and yeah..the general human being community, all it means is that I stand up for what I believe in, and I believe in equal rights for ALL.

    now about the gay parent thing – what a bunch of bull! 2 loving parents are better then no parents, better than abusive parents, better than negligent parents and absolutely better then self loathing parents! I was raised by a single mum, and my mother had the worst taste ever when it came to men, she tried so hard to give me a father figure, but ended up just bringing several abusers to our home, going through ordeals my entire childhood, being beaten, molested and abused, well, that was THE WORST THING!
    having 2 mums or 2 dads that love you, or even just one parent who loves you and able to properly care for you, that is not a problem, and absolutely not “worst thing ever”!
    teased? kids get teased for EVERYTHING (ginger right here, and an immigrant, boy was I teased) and about them growing up well rounded individuals, you know what? LOVE and GOOD PARENTING takes perfect care of that, and that’s all.

    P.S: you suck Rupert, grow the F***ck up and take responsibility you silly old queen!

  55. Quinn says:

    99% of commenters seem to have missed the point of this article. Rupert very specifically states that HE wouldn’t like to be raised by gay parents, but clarifies he’s not speaking on behalf of everyone else. So maybe get off the high-horses!? I think he is actually neither for homosexuality or against it, he just doesn’t feel the need to feel part of a gay community’ which doesn’t make him self loathing, just that he is part of a singular race which shouldn’t be reproducing due to over-population.

    In regards to his mums comment, I also get the impression she has made peace with her sons sexuality but if given a choice would have liked grandchildren (which is where she is misguided because I doubt he would have had any even if he were straight!)

  56. lisa2 says:

    He like we all has an opinion. I don’t agree with his.

    I loved him in My Best Friend’s Wedding and The Ideal Husband.

    He messed up his face. Sad.. He looks better with scruff.

    OK.. done

  57. Lisa says:

    I’m not agreeing with him at all, but he is right in a way. There are close-minded people out there who still feel like it’s their business to make someone else’s life a living hell because of who they love. A child brought up by two gay parents will have to face a lot of shit because of that.

    Of course, it’s the context in which he brought it up that ruins everything, so I can only conclude he’s pretty damn self-loathing.

  58. Love him... says:

    It is so refreshing to have someone speak his mind without trying to cater to the mainstream. He is fearless. I love it! I found him so attractive in his younger days. Too bad for women he’s gay. :)

  59. Loulou says:

    He’s friends with Madonna, of course he’d bash Elton!

  60. gg says:

    He’s made some comments before that sounded to me like he’s a bit self-loathing. I get the feeling he doesn’t like being gay terribly much. Too bad because he’s a good actor and likeable onscreen.

  61. Jayna says:

    Rupert, what is worse is a gay boy being raised by a homophobic heterosexual couple. Ring any bells?

  62. pato says:

    I don´t agree with him on the main part (being raised by 2 gay dads) but I agree with this “we’ve got too many children on the planet, so it’s good not to have more”, that´s why I don´t have kids and I won´t have.
    or maybe we are just trying to convince ourselves of that not to face something. who knows.

  63. uncle Frank says:

    Please remember Rupert is an upper class Englishman who enjoys speaking with a certain amount of flippancy. Comments like this definitely aren’t meant to be taken too seriously. Likewise his comments re ‘community’. The bottom line is he’s just saying in his own funny way that ‘it’s not for him’. He’s not proposing that everyone follows his lead.

    A late friend of mine spent some time with him when he was filming in Sydney 25 years ago and said he was one of the most kind,sensitive and funny men she’d ever met.

    I’ve only just discovered he’s written several books and intend on reading them as they’ve been very well reviewed.