Ben Affleck, EW’s Entertainer of the Year: ‘My wife is a very polite & kind woman’


Ben Affleck is named Entertainer of the Year in this week’s Entertainment Weekly. He’s been all over the place lately, and that’s not going to change until awards season has wrapped. EW has a preview of their interview with Ben, and there’s nothing particularly notable about it. He’s been doing this song and dance for a while, and he wants us to know he’s ready for what comes next: the accolades from his industry and the awards. So he’s telling the same story in slightly different ways – he’s a family man now and he’s learned from his past. Somehow he keeps giving his wife, Jennifer Garner, the short end of the stick though. In the context that he’s calling her “polite” and “kind” here, it’s understandable. He’s talking about how she responded to his 70s Argo shag beard, and she probably acted superficially “nice” about it and didn’t give him too much sh*t, while making it known she wanted it gone. But this is familiar from Ben. He’s called Jennifer “kind” before, when asked what drew her to him, and added “it’s one of those things where it becomes almost aggravating at times.” So it’s telling that he’s using similar wording here. You get the impression that Garner being “kind” gets under his skin because she’s not confrontational at all. Here’s more from EW:

Having captivated moviegoers both in front of and behind the camera with Argo, Ben Affleck earned the number one spot on our annual list of the most talented and original performers who entertained us in 2012.

Fifteen years after he bounded onto the Hollywood scene in 1997′s Good Will Hunting, the 40-year-old Affleck is now older and wiser — and may very well be headed back to the Oscar stage for his political thriller about the real-life covert CIA mission that freed six diplomats from Tehran during the Iran hostage crisis. “I had very low expectations for Argo‘s performance,” says the leading man-turned-director. “I just hoped that over time people would find the movie. Also, being at a place in my life and my career where I know what I’m trying to do, it’s different than being 26. When you’re younger and have the early success that I had — it sounds like the worst Hallmark cliche — but I didn’t have anyone to share it with. I don’t mean I wanted someone to sit by the fire with. But when you have a family and children, you kind of see yourself reflected in them. I want to make the kinds of movies that my kids are proud of. I have higher standards, in a way, for them.”

Not that everyone back at the Affleck household was thrilled about his shaggy ’70s Method hairdo and beard. Says Affleck of his wife Jennifer Garner’s reaction: “My wife is a very polite and kind woman. She and the kids did not like the beard. It had an exposed wire vibe. It was hated in my home.”

[From Popwatch.EW.com]

That’s the Ben I know, the guy who will tell you what’s going on at home but think he’s playing it cool. This is probably why he got into so much trouble during the J.Lo phase – he couldn’t hide his douchiness. Now that he’s matured and has a family, he still can’t help letting you know his issues. I honestly don’t think he’s a bad guy or anything. I like him as a person and I find him very talented and deserving of this success. I just see him trying to play the game and ending up a little too candid, just like before.

Here’s Ben with his daughters outside the dentist on 11-27-12. Ben and Jen are shown out on 11-2-12. Credit: FameFlynet

 

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  1. KellyinSeattle says:

    Entertainer of the year?! What’s with that?
    He needs to get rid of those pants. Personally, I’m tired of his smirky look. And I’m sure Jen is nice and polite, but does he call her “mama”? That is the question…. :)

    • Esmom says:

      Lol. And I seriously doubt she calls him “Daddy.”

      I kinda like his pants. They’re better than hers, anyway.

    • ugh says:

      “But when you have a family and children, you kind of see yourself reflected in them. I want to make the kinds of movies that my kids are proud of. I have higher standards, in a way, for them.” — that is word for word, what Brad Pitt says in every interview. Affleck, you’re fooling no one, we have your number, and we checked – you are still a douche. Only surprise in this paid for fluff piece is that it looks like for once, he did not mention ‘J.Lo.’ He brings her up constantly interspersed with Blake Lively mentions – to the point I’m betting he and Garner are toast by this time next year. She’ll have primary custody with generous visitation from Affloxious. Just the way he wants it. Easier to get back to booze, broads and iphone nudies from wannabes.

      • Molly says:

        He needs to lose that look- the “Jennifer roped me into having 3 kids with her and I never wanted to be a dad with kids.” Guys who love their wives and kids and show their enthusiasm are the best and most appealing.

        He just seems so depressed and angry.

    • acp says:

      I love that this is the second set of photos this week alone of Ben’s little girls carrying African-American dolls! There was another photo of them stepping down from a private jet and one of them had another African-American doll. I know it’s a random comment/observation, but I think that is so cute!

  2. Caroline says:

    Finally Jennifer Garner loses the boot cut jeans! Yay :)

    Also, I don’t think him saying the beard was hated in the house was douchey. I would hate a wiry beard on my husband too. And wives have a way of letting their opinions be known in the house. NBD :)

    That said, I can’t help feeling he had a stylist come over and lay out all his looks for these award campaigning months … these “candid” pap shots all have a weird, I’ve-been-hit-by-Queer-Eye-for-the-Straight-Guy feel to them.

    • Esmom says:

      Agree that he looks excessively styled.

      And maybe it’s that stylist who’s responsible for Jen’s jeans upgrade, too. Although I think the fit is a bit wonky even if they are skinny.

    • Tastykakes says:

      What’s wrong with boot cut jeans? The cut is universally flattering and classic. Every time I see skinny jeans I think of unflattering clothes from the 80′s. I suppose people who don’t remember the 80′s would think they look “cute” and “fresh”. I do like skinny jeans when covered by boots though.

      • Esmom says:

        Nothing wrong with bootcut jeans but the ones Jen wore were always too baggy and seriously unflattering. She needs some help with fit, no matter what cut she goes with.

        Too bad the stylists who make her look generally so good on the red carpet don’t help her out on that front.

      • Becky1 says:

        I agree in regards to skinny jeans. I have a few pairs but only wear them with boots. Otherwise they remind me of the jeans I wore as a teenager back in the 80′s. I love boot cut and flared jeans. I hope the skinny jeans go out of style soon. I wear them occasionally because I want to keep up with fashion (at least to some degree) but I don’t particularly like them. Maybe I’d like them if I were 20 but being 40 and having already worn 80′s fashions (which I never really liked that much even back then) I’m not a fan.

      • Zelda says:

        Boot cut jeans are the new mom jeans.
        Fashion’s just cyclical, that way.

      • Esmom says:

        Becky1, I’m the same with with skinny jeans. I have a couple that I wear with boots but then when I have to take the boots off I feel like a try-hard, hipster wanna-be, fashion slave. I, too, wore them in the 80s and that was enough for me!

        But I agree that if you don’t want to be part of the mom jeans group, you have to embrace them. At least acid washed hasn’t come back in a huge way!

  3. Madriani's Girl says:

    I just don’t think he is into having a wife but until something more interesting comes along, he’ll stay put and continue to refer to her more in terms of a brother than a lover/husband. A**hole.

  4. Agnes says:

    He always comes off as lukewarm about his wife. Not hot.

    • Eve says:

      Not only that, but he talks about her almost like in an “out of duty” sort of way — whereas he always sounds so lively when he talks about other women (pun not intended, but it stays).

      • vale says:

        I don’t think they are mental equals. They seem to have different interests, him being incredibly busy with writing, directing and acting, which is a massive task, whereas she opts for motherhood first. I think at the end of the day, they don’t share their life. That’s the sense I get from them, and when he describes Blake Lively as “fabulous”, it’s the opposite end of the same spectrum: she isn’t his mental equal either, she’s just the “whore” to Jennifer Garner’s “Madonna”. I may have overthought it, but I don’t get the same dynamic of equals from them as I do from Beyonce-Jay Z or Brad and Angelina.

      • Heebeegeebee says:

        Has he ever actually used her name? I find it really odd that he ALWAYS refers to her as “my wife” .maybe she wants it that way but it seems so forced.

        Also I think his comment about the exposed wire vibe meant that she is all about appearances. It’s an insecurity thing.

      • Eve says:

        @ Vale:

        That’s actually a valid point.

        @ Heebeegeebee:

        Interesting…I had never noticed that. Perhaps because I don’t actually pay much attention to Affleck (or Garner, for that matter). But yes, now that I think about it, he usually says “my wife” — and I could be wrong but I think I’ve heard/read her calling him just “Ben”.

      • Tiffany27 says:

        I agree with Vale. I think he thinks Garner is a really wonderful mom and a good person, but they’re not on the same level mentally. I think he is insanely bored by her and just stays with her because it makes him look good and he loves the hell out of his children. I think he seems excited when he talks about other women because at least they don’t bore him. This may sound harsher than I meant it to.

      • Miss Bennett says:

        @Eve
        Yes, talk about “damning with faint praise”. :(

      • Meredith says:

        I agree with all the comments in reply to Eve. It’s an out-of-duty compliment – like he has to say it if he really wants that oscar award. Same thing with the clothes for the recent paps campaign. Looks like someone is styling him. And just remember the oscar winner curse – Reese Witherspoon, Julia Roberts, etc. No marriage-relationship can outrun the curse! Or is that just for best actress?

    • ChocoChipDstryr says:

      He sounds like he’s talking about an employee or the guy who changes the oil in his car – polite, but not really involved.

  5. LeeLoo says:

    Eh? Seriously? What has he honestly done to deserve entertainer of the year?

    I do not understand how this man can be so ignorant when it comes to PR. It’s an essential job function of his job in the entertainment industry. Then he seems ignorant when it comes to talking about his family in a PR situation. I’d rather be lied to and have over the top love ala Seal and Heidi Klum even if it is all bs. The real problem I have with him and Jen is just how manufactured and contrived everything seems to be with them. At least play the PR game legitimately though. Everything with Ben just seems like a setup when it comes to family. Kids are not PR tools!

  6. The Ugh Monster says:

    Just ONCE I’d like him to compliment his wife by saying, “I love her – she’s beautiful, amazing wife and mother, etc…” SOMETHING! He describes her like she’s his friend, or sister-in-law.

  7. Birdix says:

    it looks like she’s slipped comfortably into the pattern of mother first, movie star as a role she puts on when she needs to, while his persona is still movie star first, then father/family man when he needs to

  8. Amelia says:

    I can’t bring myself to be that interested in him any more. He’s exhausted his Happy Family schtick too early.
    Honestly, I’m more interested in why Charlize Theron is commenting on Jennifer Lawrence.
    Didn’t know they had worked together!

    • Christie says:

      I didn’t either! So I looked it up and they co-starred in a 2008 film called The Burning Plain. Charlize played the older version of Jennifer’s character.

      • ugh says:

        Jennifer sure looked different than she does now 4 years ago. Her waist is so tiny now, did she get a rib removed?

      • stellalovejoydiver says:

        @ugh: she did lost a lot of weight, esp during campaigning for the Oscars 2011, but she would never loose weight for a role, she is obese, Val Kilmer on the beach and of course the only actress that will never have anorexia rumors because SHE EATS UNLIKE OTHER ACTRESSES! She is such a hypocrite, the more I think about her the less I like, until I watch an interview with her and then I like her a little bit better and then she says something stupig again, ugh.

  9. aston martin says:

    haha, mama… that was awesome.

    The thing with Ben, with me, is that he’s at odds with himself, you can just feel it. He can’t pretend his marriage is easy or perfect; he doesn’t say stupid stuff about sex scenes being SO not a turn-on, and frankly annoying to do; he’s kind of a square peg in a round hole, and I get the feeling that he really is trying to reconcile both sides of himself. It’s just hard. And people can see someone’s cards when they show even a little of their hand, you know?

    Marriage is hard. Kids are great, but hard, and both together get complicated. And a couple comprised of two opposite personalities could get even more complicated? I know it sometimes does in my family. I get the feeling Ben really, really does want his marriage and family to work, but that the darker side of him will always have a magnetic pull, and he will forever be trying not to f**k it all up.

    • LeeLoo says:

      I get it l, but it’s like he doesn’t want to acknowledge that part of his past or that part of his personality. I don’t like the way he uses his family to hide behind all of that. When using his family doesn’t work there is always some convenient way for him to blame someone else.

      • Laurie says:

        I almost think the couple is guilty of over-analyzing their situation…in other words they know hollywood marriages don’t last..perhaps she figures she is better off than Katie Holmes who lost her career in marrying Tom Cruise and she will end up like Tom Hanks’ wife…still on the inside A-list of Hollywood but still as the wife of someone more famous. People like her acting, etc. she is now modeling, etc. probably keeping her own things going…but her star is definitely faded next to him…and he does seem to lack the maturity to really thank her for her support..perhaps because he is disappointed in her lack of star power herself. Maybe she is pissed off deep down that she is now second tier compared to him. Definitely reading too much into this but if I were her I would get her career going again and not lose it completely.

    • ugh says:

      LOL, thanks Gwyneth – you would know. Yup, this is on the money.

  10. lori says:

    Still can’t like him after the Scott Peterson comments. Can’t do it.

  11. Tim Whatley says:

    Why does it always look like he is wearing ladies clothes? There was that sweater several weeks ago, that looked like it was Jen’s, then this pea coat…I want him to add matching pumps and a handbag.

  12. Happy21 says:

    I like Ben don’t get me wrong but I predict some sort of scandal in his future…

  13. TheOriginalKitten says:

    God, he’s looking good lately..he and Brad Pitt..I think I probably just need to get laid.

  14. tabasco says:

    i think at least some part of his marriage holding is that he knows that garner is good for his image post-JLo. she’s the anti-JLo.

  15. claire says:

    Entertainer of the Year? Isn’t that usually awarded to people doing lots of, you know, entertaining things? What does Ben do, exactly? He has a movie coming out, and participates in the pap-my-family game with Jen, but…is there something else
    I’m missing here?

  16. Aubra says:

    “Scotty” still needs to have a stadium full of seats tho!

  17. Arock says:

    His head looks huge on that mag cover. Maybe he just has really small hands. Like a carnie.

  18. Mara says:

    He is lucky to have such a beautiful and kind wife and she is lucky to have such a good looking and talanted husband.

  19. I.want.shoes says:

    Whenever I think of Ben Affleck, i think of this 2006 interview, where he discusses the interviewer’s (WARNING: major bimbo) breasts.

    http://www.ameriquebec.net/2006/10/28-entrevue-video-de-ben-affleck-des-seins-danne-marie-losique.html

    • Chatcat says:

      marie…do you doubt Benny boy bought and paid for that award? I don’t…EW gave it to the highest payer and Ben want’s his Oscar! And don’t even let me get started on what a shit for bains he is as a husband…UGH.

      • kaligula says:

        I think so too (that he bought it/traded something for it). Reminds me of when Jen Aniston won some media outlet’s award for Most Desirable Woman In The World. I was like, “Huh???!” My wiser and better half was like, “It’s called having a really, really good (aggressive & connected) agent.”

        Plus H’wood is embracing the crap out of this movie. They really want people to see it. Hmmmm…wonder why…?

  20. anniel says:

    He seems like the type of man that is into curvy women. He would be perfect for Kate Upton or Kim K , dont kill me ladies I know KK only dated black guys but Ben seems like the type of guy that is into rough sex talking dirty and curvy woman and well Jennifer G is a lady she seem too classy and boring for him. She needs to sex up her image.

  21. mimi (a different one) says:

    Because it is every woman’s dream to be called “polite”.

  22. goodquestion says:

    I love her coat.
    That is all :)

  23. Lachica says:

    If he doesn’t love her but is staying out of a sense of duty, at some level Jen knows this. At least he communicates respect for her. Why do we need him to pretend an excitement he does not feel?

    • Meredith says:

      I understand your comment but there’s nothing respectful about staying out of a sense of duty, IMO. I think it’s like watching a clock at work, waiting for your shift to end. That’s the sense I get from him as a “family man” and it just hits a nerve with me.

    • Bitca says:

      I think it’s more of an “understanding” between two somewhat emotionally shut-down people. Jen seems to have what she wants, as long as Affleck keeps his affairs etc quiet.

      Her post-TV career was not exactly steamrolling along before they married, but as someone above mentioned, she’s still working and staying in the public eye with the pretty kids. Doubt they’ll break up unless he seriously falls for someone.

  24. aims says:

    The girls realky look like there mom

  25. Bella says:

    Jennifer needs to dump his behind or just take a break and call Ryan Phillippe or Ryan Gosling and have crazy wild sex and come back the next week with a new look and show him who is the boss.

  26. Bugsrunny says:

    I love the movies he writes and directs. But whenever I read about his personal life, I think of Gwyneth Paltrow’s comment ages ago about him being a “knucklehead.” It fits, no?

  27. RobN says:

    I’d like to see him describe her as something more than nice and polite, but, unfortunately, nice and polite is the only vibe I’ve ever gotten from her. I’m picturing missionary, eyes closed, and lights off.

  28. junegorilla says:

    Kudos to placing Ben’s nice if lukewarm comment about his wife right next to an article on what a shrew J Lo is. That douchebag dodged a bullet no marrying that mess.

  29. Andrew says:

    What’s with all the damn hate on him? None of you know him personally, and yet y’all judge based on some pictures and a few comments that document the smallest speck of his life. Grow up, the guy’s talented, and we don’t know what he does every moment of the day. Seriously. Y’all are ridiculous.

    • Belle says:

      Agree. No matter what the guy does or says, the comments are always the same here. People think he cheats and doesn’t love his wife, and that she just looks the other way. No evidence of course… but that doesn’t matter.

      I will say that I don’t think most of Ben’s interviews translate well to print. Whenever I’ve seen him interviewed, he always comes across as funny and charming.

      These recent comments from Ben seem perfectly funny and appropriate if taken within the context of what he was talking about.

  30. Bella says:

    I was thinking the same. She seems like those couples that sleep with the kid in the bed sexless couple.

  31. Steph24 says:

    Jennifer Garner has the worst style! Oh my goodness!!!

  32. Tazina says:

    I think he finds her a little on the boring side because she has no feistiness in her, just polite and kind=boring. When you always are kind and polite about everyone, it makes for very dull conversation, as odd as that may seem. He seems to have pretty much given that impression by his lukewarm comments about her lately.

  33. Mia 4S says:

    He talks about his wife, like I talk about my grandmother! (nice, polite, steady)

    I suppose I wouldn’t sideeye so much if there weren’t so many stories about his, *ahem*, side interests.

  34. Elisabeth says:

    in every picture he looks like an overpaid babysitter

  35. Amy C says:

    LOL You remember an interview of his wife last year saying ” he said to me I keep you out from my interviews how come you not”? hahaha this year it all he talks about is my kids and my family … to the point you can’t distingiush which interview is his or Brad Pitts in family matters…. shameless and desperate for award . omg. Are the award people go by who screamed the loudest for real?

  36. Diva says:

    Why complain about how he talks about his wife? Hasn’t he always talked about her like that? She seems to be happy to be his carpet. I see why her and Jessica Biel are friends.

  37. Katie says:

    Wow, the number of people who have fallen for Jennifer Garner’s b.s. is ridiculous. She is just as conniving as Reese Witherspoon when it comes to her image. She knew what she was getting into with Ben (as did anyone else who picked up a gossip magazine before 2004). She jumped from her ex-husband to Michael Vartan to Ben in less than 2 years, with some overlapping. He’s no angel, and she’s no saint.

  38. Toot says:

    Exactly Katie! Jennifer is an Aries, and Aries are controlling and often selfish people. Jennifer’s dimpled smile is a great cover for her. She and Ben fit perfectly.

  39. Nev says:

    But don’t most men in the public eye…him…PETRAEUS…Arnold…Tiger…they have the wife at home that they lean on and have their kids with…then as soon as someone comes and kisses their ass about their career their dicks get hard and they are suddenly bored and restless and then they want out….really.just.gross.

  40. stellalovejoydiver says:

    I think it´s the perfect fit that he is getting interviewed by George Clooney. Like Clooney last year he wants it too bad, is campaigning exhaustively, starts to be annoying and will loose to someone superior. If Ben thinks he will win over PTA, Spielberg or Tarantino then he got his head a little bit to far up his own ass.

  41. Vesper says:

    Yet another set of pics in which Ben looks miserable with his family.

  42. MJsinAustin says:

    I think Jen looks like a good person. And I see the fiestiness in her – shes prob just being supportive of her husband (douche though he is) and loving her babies and being a mom. I hate when men (and in her case the media, public) diss women for being moms. as if that’s all they are now. She has her priorities straight – why all the hate for her?

  43. Dea says:

    Cant stand manipulating and canniving Jen Garner. With every man she has been there is a plan calculated well.

  44. MJsinAustin says:

    And for the record, it pisses me off how Ben talks about other women with enthusiasm and passion and then says his wife is “a nice person”. F U Ben. She is your WIFE! She is the most amazing, wonderful person in the world (to you). Jerk. She should just dump his ass and let him go crawling back to JLo to be the full-on douchebag he longs to be.

  45. lisa2 says:

    My boyfriend has a friend that reminds me of Ben. At first look he looks like the most average guy. clean cut and easy going. But the man is a freak. He married the girl that everyone said he should marry. I don’t know if he has stepped out on her and don’t want to know. But when they are together the just seem like that “old married couple”.. no kids and I don’t know what will happen when they do have them.

    I say that just to show that Ben and Jennifer just look like they are missing that chemistry. I was trying to find pictures of them that showed them more into each other. I just think that spark is missing. But maybe I’m just missing it.

  46. G says:

    You know how when you’re hanging with your girlfriends (or the boys) you let a few sarcastic jokes fly about the “better” half.. I almost feel like Ben connects with the interviewers and loosens up and that’s how we get these comments from him.

  47. JoJo says:

    About Jen’s jeans – there’s something wrong in all the jeans she chooses, and it always bugs me trying to figure out what it is. She often wears baggy jeans that look really bad. But, I finally realized why skinny jeans (and other styles) also look so bad on her. She has a long torso, and her legs aren’t that long. Yet, she mostly chooses jeans that are very low-waisted, which is wrong for her. It ends up making her top half look weird and too long, and her legs look too short. For her figure, she needs to choose a more mid-waisted (or at least not super low-waisted) fit.

    And, on them as a couple, I agree that they’re just an incredibly odd couple and have always thought that. He’s an A-lister, a smart, increasingly powerful player that can act, direct, write, and produce. It’s not a ding on her that she’s more of a B-movie and TV actress, but I just never saw them as compatible – they seem incredibly boring together, or I should say, they seem incredibly bored with each other.

  48. megsie says:

    Jen and Ben have a relationship built primarily on friendship, I believe. The visible passion and desire we expect from our HW couples are noticeably lacking, at least to an outsider’s eye. Where’s the drama? They’re … *gasp* normal. Well, who wants that?

  49. crizomar says:

    Why is he in the top now? he is not new in the business of hollywood he is almost an old timer,what is the deal now about him ? did you people just weak up?

  50. Kosmos says:

    His wife, Jennifer Garner, IS a very nice, polite and kind woman. She’s also beautiful…to think that he nearly married JLo years ago, GASP!! What a fatal mistake that would have been. Two completely different women, and JLo being the self-centered, narcissistic, snob with almost zero talent to boot! Yay for Ben marrying the right woman!