Demi Moore’s 26 year-old boyfriend was friends with her daughter: bad form?

We heard just last week that ultimate sad cougar Demi Moore, 50, was dating a 26 year-old art dealer named Vito Schnabel, the son of painter Julian Schnabel. (At 61 Julian Schnabel is closer in age to his son’s new romantic interest. But of course the elder Schnabel has a 30 year-old model girlfriend, go figure.)

Anyway Demi was seen grinding all over young Vito at a celebrity party, and they’ve been “quietly spending time together” if that’s what you call it when Demi makes sure the press know every detail about her love life. It turns out that Demi’s daughter Rumer, 24, is in the same social circle as Vito and is said to be very concerned about her mom’s new relationship. This of course has made the already-strained relationship between Rumer and her mom much worse. Here’s more, thanks to Hollywood Life:

Demi Moore is back in the game, putting her failed marriage to Ashton Kutcher behind her and moving on with 26-year-old hottie Vito Schnabel. There’s just one problem: Vito is friends with her 24-year-old daughter Rumer Willis — and according to a new report Rumer is not happy that her mom is dating her peer!

Fifty-year-old Demi first met Vito in November when they both attended a birthday party in India, where they spent the night dirty dancing. Now things are heating up, as it looks like she will attend Vito’s annual Dom Perignon party in Miami on Dec. 6. However, there is one person who is not happy with Demi’s budding romance, and that is her daughter Rumer, 24, as she and her sisters Scout, 21, and Tallulah, 18, know Vito well.

“Rumer was pretty annoyed to hear any of it because all of them know Vito,” a source tells People magazine. ”They have friends in common. It’s too close to home.”

Demi has had a strained relationship with her daughters as of late, as they felt neglected following her emotional breakdown after her marriage ended.

“Demi’s trying [to mend their relationship]” the source adds, though we’d argue that dating her daughter’s friend isn’t the best way to do that.

[From Hollywood Life]

Note that Hollywood Life’s source is People Magazine, which probably got this news straight from Rumer’s people. I think HL is overstating it by calling Rumer and Vito “friends” when People just states they were in the same social circle. This sounds totally likely. Can you imagine your mom or dad dating someone you sort-of knew who was right around your age? It would take a lot of getting used to, especially if you didn’t have the best relationship with that parent to start with. Then again, Rumer’s dad Bruce Willis was 54 when he married the 30 year-old model, Emma Hemming. I have to play devil’s advocate for a moment – Demi’s age difference with her new beau is nearly the same as Bruce and Emma’s. It just probably stings Rumer more because she sort-of knows Vito. This is just going to push Demi and her daughters farther apart.

Vito with his dad in August. Credit: Demi is shown with Rumer in January. Credit: PRPhotos

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  1. Madriani's Girl says:

    God, say what you will about Demi being pathetic and all that (which she is) but at least in these pictures, she looks fantastic.

    • Jean says:

      Fantastic…right. Her skin is pulled to tight in her face and injected with so much filler, she can’t smile, frown or do anything but look like a deer in a headlight. Her neck gives away her age. Aw..Hollywood and it’s relationships makes for bitchy comments.

    • skuddles says:

      It’s bizarre you should say that because I was just thinking how bad Demi looks – she reminds me of a concentration camp victim. She is literally starving herself to death because she thinks it makes her look attractive… very sad.

  2. Jessica6 says:

    Demi, girl, you have to join the rest of us women who have reached the age of fifty and who have both accepted and embraced it. Time waits for nobody. Your jacked up face and living and behaving like a twenty-something will not stop or slow time the ticking of the clock. You are the Queen of Denial, honey.

    Demi and Courteney “Botox” Cox are really starting to resemble one another in the face and body. There are times when I quickly look at a photo of Demi and for a second I think it’s Cox.

  3. juju says:

    get a man more near to your age and stop acting like a total fool !! its doesnt look cute !!

    • V4Real says:

      Would you say the same thing if the shoe was on the other foot and it was a 50 year old man dating a 26 year old woman. Let’s just say this was Bruce Willis instead of Demi. What would your response be and be honest?

      Side note; I’m more concerned about Demi’s emotional state then the age of the man she is dating. She could use a little therapy.

  4. Sandy Pandy says:

    Sad cougar is right … I dunno. Personally, I think 7 years on either side of your age is enough May-December. After that, it’s just creepy.

    • the original bellaluna says:

      7 years is an acceptable difference (hubs and I are that far apart, him being younger).

      Frankly, I cannot IMAGINE dating one of my son’s friends/someone in his social circle, and I’m younger than Demi by about 10 years. (Son’s a few years younger than Rumer.)

    • Janet says:

      My dad was 12 years older than my mom and they were very happily married for 35 years until he passed away.

    • sunny says:

      ummmm…i have to call bs, sandy p.

      i’ve been in a long-term relationship with a boyfriend who is 9 years older than me, we’re very happy, and things are amazing.

      i think it’s not really cool to arbitrarily pick an age range that it is ‘appropriate’ to date within, and after that it’s ‘creepy’. you’re putting a value judgement on my beautiful relationship (and doubtless many others out there), based on nothing but random assessment of what you think is appropriate.

      as long as it’s legal and safe for the parties involved, i don’t think anyone should have to justify their love to someone else just out looking to tear them down.


      • the original bellaluna says:

        sunny & Janet – I’m happy for both you and your parents wonderful relationships.

        Prior to Hubs, I dated a man 13 years older, and it was great…for awhile. But we ended up not wanting the same things, not seeing the same goals for our future, so we broke up.

        I think if a couple has the same goals or “end game” in mind, the relationship will work.

        But I STILL wouldn’t date one of my son’s or daughter’s peers. That crosses a line I am personally unwilling to cross.

    • Polk8dot says:

      My husband is 14 years older. We got married when I was 26, and it’s been 21 years now. We are much more suited to each other than I ever was with my younger (i.e. around my age) boyfriends.

      There is no way I would EVER have dated a guy younger than me, but to each his/her own. There are as many successful relationships out there as there are failed ones, and they work or don’t for a variety of reasons, not just age difference. There is no need to call any of them creepy.
      (I admit Hugh Heffner, at 82, wanting to marry his 26 year old ‘girlfiend’ is gross, but…. Oh, OK, that one is creepy, but I guess only because he is a perverted creep in general). ;)

  5. Jessica6 says:

    Vito reminds me of Danny Bonaduce, “Danny” from “The Partridge Family”.

  6. eska says:

    “Revenge” tip for Rumer – start dating his father. Common ground? You both like similar footwear!

  7. regina says:

    this father and son duo look like a couple of bozos that probably do lines of coke together

  8. Leen says:

    Oh no Julian schnabel stopped dating rula jebreel? They were cute together, granted I only know her and not him, but she’s a sweet and intelligent woman (she’s a journalist and a writer).

    And now he’s fallen for the trap of dating models (sigh)

  9. Hubbahun says:

    Yep, Demi is a “sad cougar”. Bruce Willis is married to a woman 23 years his junior. JUST SAYIN’.

  10. Elceibeno says:

    I don’t see why the age difference is a such a problem for Demi’s daughters. It’s her life! All hollywood is doing it, for instance Madonna, Sharon Stone, michael douglas, the duchess of Alba, etc.

  11. Toot says:

    I don’t have any issue with Demi choosing to continue to go for younger guys. The guys her age or closer are going for women no where near Demi’s age.

    They’re consenting adults, so I say have fun.

  12. marie says:

    I don’t have a problem with her dating younger guys but.. does she really need to date a friend of her daughters? this story just makes her sound sad..

    • Zimmer says:

      It does and she will only be devasted again. I don’t feel sorry for her. She seems unable to learn from her mistakes. It also looks like a desperate attempt to make Ashton and even Bruce jealous. Demi has obviously never grown up. I understand admiring much younger men, she could even have a one-night stand, but dating them just reeks of desperation. For older men, relationships with much younger women just reek of foolishness, so I am not impressed with Willis either.

      Getting older is hard for most people, including me, but I wish our generation would learn to do it gracefully and not try so hard to be something we are not. There is beauty in age too and there should be wisdom.

  13. Starlight says:

    Okey, there’s nothing wrong? She will experience anothe heartbreak again. It may take years but it will happen.

  14. G says:

    If she just dressed more age appropriate (lower hem for one) and acted like a grown up she would be SO fabulous and have the richest, hottest, most distinguished gentlemen falling at her feet.

    (heavy sigh)

  15. LeslieM says:

    Dating someone close to the age of your children rarely goes well. There are so many cases where parent-child relationships are ruined by this, mostly when the children see the new partner as a gold digger. Demi just can’t accept she’s a middle-aged woman. I like the post that said keep the age difference to 7 years. I married a guy in my 20′s who was 12 years older. What a HUGE mistake on my part. We had no mutual friends. I didn’t realize a man his age was supposed to be a responsible grown-up. Twenty years later he’s still the same playboy who didn’t wear his wedding ring because he said he didn’t like jewelry on men even though he wore a monogrammed pinky ring and Rolex watch! I see Demi as having the same problems. My husband now is a year and a half younger and was a grown-up good guy when he married me at 28.


  16. Raised Brow says:

    Just curious, but is Jennifer Lopez a ‘sad cougar’ as well? Aside of not indulging in plastic surgeries and botox {cough}, her relationship with a 25 yo ‘boy’ is strikingly similar to Demi’s penchant for younger mates. It seems JLo gets far better criticism than ‘Poor, sad Demi’.

  17. booger says:

    you know Demi’s reached low heights when her potatohead kids look miles hotter than she does

  18. Mitch Buchanan Rocks! says:

    Demi looks like a dark haired Le-Ann Rimes.

  19. Bowers says:

    What in the hell do they discuss? And yes, you eventually have to talk.

  20. BooBooLaRue says:

    I’m still waiting for Rummer and Ashton to hook up…that would make Demi’s head spin off!

  21. lucy2 says:

    That big an age difference is always a little weird, but the real issue here is if she’s dating her kids’ friends.

    If she just met someone who happened to be younger and they fell in love, that would be one thing, but she seems to be actively trying to fight her age.

  22. The Original Original says:

    He. Is. So. Ugly.

  23. j.eyre says:

    OK, I know this is not what I was supposed to take from this story but:
    “when they both attended a birthday party in India” – wouldn’t it be fabulous if you could say stuff like this?

    “Sorry darling, I would love to come to your daughter’s ‘dance’ recital but I am off to Copenhagen for a soiree… you know, Deidre’s 41 1/2 party”

    Maybe I will just say stuff like that anyway…

  24. blonde on the dock says:

    Whatever about the age difference. This guy is sporting the bad helmut. Yuk!

  25. snark says:

    Demi’s boobs look sad in that dress. Sad cougar has sad boobs.

  26. skuddles says:

    Well when you’ve had one devastating car crash (from which you’re still recovering) it makes good sense to go out and have another one right?

  27. cruiz2 says:

    Perhaps her mentality is better suited to the 20 something crowd! Duh!

  28. GossipG says:

    her ‘toyboy, has Rumors face, OMG..and did you see her @Chanel Beachside Barbecue, pretty sad and very pathetic.

  29. Suzy q says:

    The dad looks like he escaped from an insane asylum. He is wearing pajamas underneath his blazer and coat. And check out his shoes…..ewwww.

  30. kmk says:

    When is she going to stop wearing that stupid red string on her wrist. All that it has done is bring her BAD luck!!!

  31. Zelda says:

    Whoa whoa whoa, hold up– the elder Schnabel’s girl friend is supposed to be 30?! I looked at her picture and actually said “yikes”, out loud. And that pic is 4 years old.

    So… Yeah, yikes.

  32. Emjay says:

    ITA! My husband and I are 9 &1/2 years apart (him older then me, and i persued him) and very happy and in love. I hate when ppl judge on age when it is up to the consentual parties involved.

  33. Talis says:

    it’s a shame we are so cruel to aging women in our society. It’s looked upon as a “failure” if you start showing your age! People are merciless about it.You can fight aging but you can’t beat it,why not look as young as you can (within reason) and have hot sex with a younger man who’s hot for you?!I guess when you’re 50 you should let you hair go gray, put your sweats on and have a private commitment ceremony with your vibrator.
    Men do it all the time (date or marry much younger women) and no one bats an eye! Why are we so hard on aging women? That’s what fuels all this cosmetic surgery and fillers etc.

  34. Grace says:

    The sad thing is that he won’t even admit to dating her. The age thing is no ones business but when your “boyfriend” refuses to ackowledge you, you need to walk away.

    Demi needs to move somewhere else and get herself together. California is brutal on women over-40(well over 30 really).

  35. Pythia says:

    Is no one seeing Demi’s dreadful knees?! They are like old stockings, one drooping below the other. Supposedly, she had knee lift surgery a few years back, but they look bad now. And that’s not even addressing her sick obsession with trying to have sex with her daughters’ friends. Google Demi’s mother, Virginia Guynes. You’ll see where her daughters get their looks and where Demi gets her behavior from.