Hugh Jackman gushes about his lucky wife: “she’s the greatest woman I’ve ever met”

Hugh Jackman did an extensive sit-down interview on Katie Couric’s show earlier this week. A lot of outlets are focusing on Hugh revealing that his wife of 16 years, Deborra-Lee Furness, suffered two miscarriages while undergoing IVF early in their marriage. Hugh and Deborra went on to adopt two children, Oscar, now 12, and Ava, 7. This isn’t the first time that either Hugh or Deb have discussed their issues conceiving. They’ve both talked about it in past interviews, and last year Hugh said that he and Deb “are believers in I suppose you could call it destiny. We feel things happened the way they are meant to. Obviously, biologically wasn’t the way we were meant to have children.” It was a very sweet sentiment. In this story I’d like to focus on how glowingly Hugh praised his wife, and her talent, in his interview with Couric. It really touched me. This is a dedicated husband and father and it is in no way a put on. He adores his wife.

On how Deb deals with his sex symbol status
I remind her most days, come on. A lot of people ask me, what’s it like for Deb… what I always do on every film is we’ll all go out and have a dinner together. Any of them [his female costars] meet Deb, they’ll all prefer her to me.

On what makes his marriage work
I’m an indecisive person. I’m terrible to go to a restaurant with, I can spend 10 minutes deciding… When I met Deb, I don’t know what it was. It was the clearest thing in the world for me. I knew 100 percent… I’ve never known anything as confidently or sure in my life that she was the one I was going to be with… In any marriage there’s good times, bad times, hard times and bad times. Whatever happens I know we’re going to tackle it together. Truly she’s the greatest woman I have ever met.

On Deb giving up her career in acting
I think for me, she is one of the great actors I know, she is incredible. In fact, she had a time in Hollywood and I run into people, really powerful, big people, who say, ‘Congrats to you, but your wife is really one of the most talented’ and every time I hear that, it reminds me of the sacrifice she’s made, her selflessness, her love and what she’s done for the kids… We always made family a priority but I’m acutely aware, everyday, that actually, when it comes to sacrifices, Deb has shouldered most of those.

She will come back, she will come back to work and in fact, I was telling her right now, ‘You need to get back to work because you’re just too good to waste that talent. Everyone needs to see it.’

[From Katie Couric's show and partially via Contact Music]

Compare the way Hugh talks about Deb as his partner and equal, as someone who gave up her career and is the “greatest woman” he’s ever met and a “great talent” to how someone like Ben Affleck grudgingly praises his wife Jennifer as a good mother and a kind person. (The comparison is particularly relevant because they’re both in the midst of Oscar campaigns.) Hugh loves Deb and appreciates all she’s done for him. He admires her and sees her as his partner in life, forever. I just hope they stay together for the rest of their lives. I know that’s unrealistic in Hollywood, but I’m rooting for them.

Hugh gushes about his wife:

Hugh talks about his wife’s miscarriages at around 3:00 in

These are photos of Hugh getting his star on the Walk of Fame on 12-13-12 and of The Museum Of Moving Images Salute to Hugh Jackman at Cipriani Wall Street on 12-11-12. Credit:

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  1. Gracie says:

    That 3rd pic with his eyes bulging would make a great meme. Anyways, they seem nice enough. I don’t follow Hugh’s career, nor does he melt my butter.

  2. dahlianoir says:

    That’s refreshing and very sweet but… I’m getting tired of all this exposure just to get an oscar.

    • Barbara says:

      Because of presenteeism no one can win awards. It’s normally routine for any actor promote his job when there’s a upcoming movies. Actually, if he get an Oscar, will be because critics and experts have finally realized that so far they have underestimated this amazing actor. Jackman is finally getting the recognition he deserves, he’s one of the most talented, performers around, equally at home on film and on stage, the only one who can keep up with the greatest actors of the Hollywood golden age. About his wife, googling the wives of Aaron Johnson (he’s 22 years old and she’s 45) and Mark Webber (he’s 36 years old and she’s 49). Million people worldwide are married to older women and no one writes science fiction novels about this ordinary matter of fact. Deborra Lee Furness is a normal woman not upholstered with silicone even in the brain and her marriage lasts for more than 15 years. Jackman is 44 years old, not a teenager married to a woman nonagenarian.

  3. Lauren says:

    His wife looks really old.. Or is it just me…?

  4. HadleyB says:

    With all his money she should be looking better – hair, clothes, bod.

    I mean sure they can hire a chef, trainer, stylist etc. This woman needs help asap.

  5. Kallie says:

    It’s sweet to see a man so appreciative of his beard.

    Though I think he/they are gay, I also think they’re good parents, so kudos to them.

    • Joanna says:

      I don’t believe he’s gay.

    • Talie says:

      Lainey confirmed it at her SMUT soiree. I think it is lovely that they make their family unit work so well.

      • Amelia says:

        Because Lainey is of course a fountain of accurate information. Granted, she seems to get some things right, but most of the time blinds are to be taken with a traffic-cone sized Cracktini and a mountain of salt.

      • BeesKnees says:

        @Amelia: I have been reading Lainey for a few years now because I think she has great inside info, but boy do her and the other writers on that blog make me want to punch my computer screen sometimes. Catty and pretentious don’t even begin to describe them. And the stuff they get hung up on is ridiculous! I don’t think she is 100% all the time, but I’m inclined to believe her on this one. I think Hugh loves Deb, but I think he has relationships with men too.

      • Talie says:

        I buy into her blinds…she’s one of the best in the biz. She called the Amy Poehler/Will Arnett split before anyone. I mean, no one even would’ve guessed that they had problems. As for the Hugh news…it wasn’t even a blind, she just said it. So, he must be very out on the Hollywood/New York scene.

      • andy says:

        “Lainey confirmed it at her SMUT soiree. I think it is lovely that they make their family unit work so well.”

        Unless Lainey is in their bedroom, she doesn’t know what is going on. I hate it when people declare something to be true because a gossip columnist said so. Does she have any proof? Nope, but people still believe the stuff she says anyway.

        Lainey is not Woodward and Bernstein.

      • andy says:

        “She called the Amy Poehler/Will Arnett split before anyone. I mean, no one even would’ve guessed that they had problems.”

        The National Enquirer broke the John Edwards affair, do you believe everything they print is the truth?

      • V4Real says:

        I’ve also heard the rumors that he is gay but I don’t give a flying f_ck. I love Hugh. People throw that word around as if it’s a bad thing. I think some people assume he is gay because he is married to an older woman who some don’t find attractive. Years ago it was said that Hugh used to be a womanizer but changed his ways after he met Deb on the set of an Australian Television show. Is it possible that the man met a woman who he fell in love with and married despite their age difference?

        But even if he is gay/bisexual it’s his business and if he wanted to share that part of his life with the rest of the world he would. But how shallow of people to assume he is guy because his wife is older and doesn’t look like Sophia Loren or Raquel Welch. All that matters is that she’s beautiful to him.

        But if it turns out that he is batting for both teams I don’t care I will still throw him a pitch because the man is hot.

      • Audrey says:

        @ Andy, actually, the NE tends to get more stories right than wrong…

      • Tiffany27 says:

        See I thought Lainey confirmed it was Matt Damon who was the blind riddle, not Hugh Jackman.
        Either way, Ben Affleck please take notes. This is how you talk about a woman you love who is the mother of your children. It’s really not that difficult to do.

    • Kim says:

      He is gay you can google his ex boyfriend .I believe they love each other and are soulmates and best friends.I can’t judge them because I almost married my Gay best friend.So c’est la vie

    • Lishka says:

      Note that these accusations of “bearding” are an American thing. In Australia and the rest of the world he is just a good guy, good Dad and good husband.

      What the hell is up with Americans and American media that is so hell bent on the “must be dating woman of equal or greater aesthetic standing” issue and if not equals gay???

      Its the whole gay bashing culture, pretty sad. Fred Astaire danced and sang, was he gay too? Who knew! *SMH*

    • bns says:

      I think he’s gay, too. Lainey’s opinions are one thing, but her inside information is legit.

      • A says:

        Yeah, Lainey’s blinds tend to be far more accurate than others (Will Arnett, Uma, Ashley Greene, etc). That said, just because Lainey is far more accurate does not mean that she is correct even fifty percent of the time. I view the tabloids as being partially right 5 percent of the time, completely correct 2 percent of the time, and Lainey being correct 25 percent of the time. I think Hugh is bi but truly loves his wife.

    • Kayla says:

      I think the whole gay thing started when Hugh Jackman was doing broadway and everyone was expecting Wolverine.If its over his wife looks than thats just sad on anyone who thinks that.He seems pretty devoted to his wife and kids and I say leave them alone!

      • wild flower says:

        He played Peter Allen, a singer/dancer who was gay, in a musical on Broadway.

        I agree with other posters that we are weirdly enthusiastic about labeling many male actors as gay. Matt Damon, Tom Cruise, Justin Beiber and more I can’t think of. Yes, I know John Travolta really caught me, but please.

  6. blueanemone says:

    two words for him….class act.

    and as for the people who say she should look better….she’s not a 20 year old or a hollywood starlet. if he loves her this way and they are happy as a family, then who the hell cares what she looks like? Not everybody in this world cares about looking like an overinflated fake barbie doll

  7. Ally says:

    Debs seems like a genuine woman. I hope their marriage is for real.

    I often wonder about the Lainey Cuba Blind from a few years ago, people narrowed it down to Hugh and Matt Damon. Personally I thought it was Matt.

  8. Bamster says:

    Kudos to them! But its a shame that he won’t pass on those beautiful genes to someone else. Can we send him to a sperm bank please?

  9. serena says:

    This man is great and he needs to win an Oscar asap!

    Anyway you’re right about Ben Affleck.. he should be hiding in shame now. I really wanted to hit him when he said his wife was ‘kind’ and ‘cool’ and whatever. Now suck it.

  10. shewolf says:

    He has always gushed about his wife. I think its just amazing. Its beautiful when a man truly loves the woman he is with. I hate when people are critical of Hollywood wives. They did it to Andy Whitfield’s wife as well and I just don’t know why.

  11. gigi says:

    I think he meant greatest beard he has ever met.

    • Barbara says:

      @Kallie & gigi: Discussing just for ‘fun’ about sexuality of someone you don’t know personally is, regardless, something stupid and insulting, as well as defamatory. It’s a matter of respect, especially when people have gone beyond all limits of decency, insisting on the same useless issue like a broken record. Jackman is an actor who you see in movies, nothing else. None of us know personally Jackman and his wife like our relatives or friends.

      • Kallie says:

        Calling someone gay isn’t the least bit insulting, at least not to me. This sort of blog is all about making assumptions about peoples’ sex lives. I do think it’s fun, or at least somewhat amusing, and I think you’re on the wrong blog if this upsets you.

      • gigi says:

        @Barbara You do know you are in a gossip blog right lol? If you are getting worked up over such a comment then I don’t even know why you are here.Take a chill pill.

      • Barbara says:

        @Kallie Upset, NO. Disgusted, absolutely YES. It’s time to stop with this broken record because it’s boring. Doubtless the term gay is used in a derogatory sense whenever you talk about this actor so avoid being hypocritical. Those who have a satisfying sex life doesn’t need to snoop what others do in bed, because judge people by their sexuality is a clear sign of lack of personal sexual life.

      • Christina says:

        ”Those who have a satisfying sex life doesn’t need to snoop what others do in bed, because judge people by their sexuality is a clear sign of lack of personal sexual life.”

        Hmmm… is this the same Barbara who was just now telling people off for making comments about the sex life of people they don’t ‘personally know’?

      • Lishka says:

        With Barbara on this. Sorry, Kallie and gigi, but just coz you’ll never get to screw him, even on a bad day of his, doesn’t mean you have to say he’s gay and his wife is somehow an idiot for not knowing, or worse, that his wife too is gay. It really smells of sour grapes, a bit.

      • Kallie says:

        @Lishka – you’ve got it backward. I’m cool with him being gay. No fantasies of mine have been ruined. As for those of you who are so invested in believing he’s straight… well …

        @Barbara – no, I didn’t mean to use “gay” as a slur and the word “hypocritical” doesn’t mean what you apparently think it means. Being gay makes him more interesting in my book.

      • Miss M says:

        “Those who have a satisfying sex life doesn’t need to snoop what others do in bed, because judge people by their sexuality is a clear sign of lack of personal sexual life. ”

        Does it also mean that people who were impressed with fifty shades of grey have a bad sexual life?

  12. Harpreet says:

    Lainey has mentioned that even though Hugh has a John Travolta situation going on, she still loves him and somehow it doesn’t matter.

    • Christina says:

      I’m inclined to agree. I do think Hugh is gay – and no, this isn’t because his wife is much older and less attractive than him, more because they seem like brother and sister, or perhaps good platonic friends, rather than husband and wife. But they do seem to love each other in their own way, and are certainly devoted to their children, so whatever works for them.

      • Leni says:

        I agree with you Christina. Their sexual orientation has nothing to do with whether they are soul mates or not; or whether they are happy together-they appear to be happy (thou I hate her shoes) so what does who is what have anything to do with it.

    • Barbara says:

      Lainey is not Bible and gossip was invented by a dirty mind in order to ruin reputation of someone who people don’t personally know. Don’t believe blindly in all the garbage you read in this type of blogs and magazines.

      • Christina says:

        With respect, if you’re averse to speculating about ‘people you don’t personally know’ why do you choose to comment in a celebrity gossip site?

      • Jess says:

        There isn’t a shred of evidence to support the claim that Hugh Jackman is gay other than the fact that his wife is older and less attractive, and he is a song and dance man. People are so closed minded. He likes to sing and dance so he must be gay! What century is this? We should take people at their word, and not try to define their sexuality for them. Lainey is a real pro at that.

      • Lala says:

        Barbara, you sound like you work for him or something sheesh getting worked up over every comment. I agree with the others who say why are you in a gossip site. Why not be disgusted by the other comments who talk about his wife’s looks or something? At the end of the day if you can’t take the heat, stay out of the kitchen!

      • Harpreet says:

        If by “Lainey is not Bible” you mean that Lainey can say false things, I know that, but I also know that the Bible is a book of faith, yet it is not 100% accurate, scientifically, and that is fine,not hating, religious texts are not for the most part.

        But even if she reported Hugh was gay, I don’t consider that an insult to him. Even if he was gay, that is fine, I’d still be a fan. Hugh and Deb still seem to love each other.

      • Barbara says:

        @Jess: The classification of men who dance and sing as gay is stereotypical and can be very offensive Yes, you could classify it as gay if that’s how you see gay, but there are plenty of gay men who don’t sing and dance, and plenty of straight men who do. I’m just saying that society needs to move on and get with the program. Men dancing and singing doesn’t make them gay. Baby, many years before you were born there were people like Fred Astaire, Gene Kelly and Howard Keel, they have made history with musicals, showtunes were part of professional skills of people like Frank Sinatra, Dean Martin and Sammy Davis Jr. but none of them ended up working in gay bars dying poor and underestimated because of sick clichés. Anyone who does or loves Broadway shows, aren’t gay by default. Talent isn’t a matter of sexuality, a real actor must be able to do everything and Jackman is a real actor. Nothing else.

      • Barbara says:

        Gossip has done more damage to the people’s brain than a radical lobotomy as well as having damaged the cinema and professionalism of the actors. It’s better and more smart read good books, instead of wasting time with this crap. Generally speaking, and I emphasize GENERALLY, when there is no coming out declared by the voice of the person directly concerned or through official press releases shut the f**k up and learn to respect people.

      • Jess says:

        Way to miss my point, Barbara. I was being sarcastic, calling out others on their ridiculous reasoning. I was not making that statement myself.

      • Audrey says:

        Then why are you here, Barbara?? Why bother to exert your negative energy, and get angry, on this blog site?

      • Christina says:

        ”Gossip has done more damage to the people’s brain than a radical lobotomy as well as having damaged the cinema and professionalism of the actors. It’s better and more smart read good books, instead of wasting time with this crap.”

        I’ll ask you one more time, Barbara: If you think celeb gossip is such an evil and brainless pursuit, what in hell are you doing commenting on a celeb gossip site?

      • Barbara says:

        @jess: Spare us your sarcasm from peanuts, it’s pointless.

      • Joanna says:

        Exactly. Seriously, if he’s gay, why would he stay in the closet? There is more support FOR gays these days. That’s the bad thing about gossip. People can have no proof but still spread it around and damage someone’s reputation.

        here’s my blind for the day: what gossip colummnist accuses a certain song and dance man of being gay but the writer is the one who is actually in the closet?

        ha, ha, jk. i just made that up, like the blinds that people publish, that others buy blindly? anyone can make crap up and people buy it. are ya’ll that naive that you just believe anything you read? lol. maybe i need to take up “blind” writing. apparently, you don’t need any proof, just a good imagination.

      • Christina says:

        @joanna. I disagree. Just because there’s little overt discrimination against gays these days, it doesn’t mean that it’s a good career move for an actor to come out as gay. That’s especially true for an actor like Hugh, whose appeal is to a large extent based on how sexually attractive he is to female audiences. How many A-list actors are openly gay?

      • emmie_a says:

        Barbara does not condone gossip OR sarcasm. I’m picturing her looking like the Church Lady from SNL.

      • Kim says:

        If you want to talk about Hugh’s acting maybe you should visit one of the hundreds of film websites not a gossip site that gets most of its stories from tabloids.

      • Jess says:

        Oh FFS, Barbara. Read my post again, perhaps you’ll see that I was agreeing with you, dear. That is why I was replying directly to you. Obviously a mistake I will never make again. Lol.

      • Veruca says:

        All right, I know I wasn’t part of the argument, but WTF was that???

        Wow! *shakes head*

      • Anti-Hippocrites says:

        First time poster, Barbara I absolutely agree with you. Thanks for calling out so many hipocrites on this blog and posing your arguments in a logical manner.

        Worth noting, that as usual when said posters lack the rationality to counter arguments they resort to “why are you here” or “don’t come here” as if to stake a claim in some imaginary blogosphere ownership.

      • Sweet Dee says:

        I think it’s valid to ask someone why they’re on a gossip site when they say they think gossip is dirty and evil.

        It seems like you’re both preach-trolling.

      • Lauli says:

        To believe blindly to everything people say is not a safe way to interpret reality. In an ideal world where people were sincere gossip would be useless, in our real world, ruled by PR people and spin doctors – aka manipulators – gossip is the right counterbalance to their BS.
        Why are you on a gossip site if you hate gossip? Why are you so invested in this? Are you his PR?

  13. Vesper Lynd says:

    Well that is so sweet of him to talk that way about his wife! Deb surely seems like a very special lady. Jackman sounds so genuinely loving of her after 16 years of marriage!!!! WOW!!!!
    If only Affleck could at least fake to utter such words about Garner and sound somewhat honest while saying it, he’d regain some “likeability”…sighs…I guess you gotta really feel it in your heart first before you can say it.

  14. Missy says:

    What acting career did she ever have? I’m Aussie and over here all she’s ever been known as is his wife, even before the kids she was never much of a working actress, so she didn’t have some great career she gave up, the man is full of crap, no way is he going to beat real actors like Daniel Day Lewis or joaquin Phoenix for an Oscar.
    I was also surprised she’s only 57, I would have guessed mid 60′s for sure

  15. lisa2 says:

    Hugh seems like a nice guy. and love how he talks about his wife. And how lucky he is that he can do that and not be accused of pimping his life. That he can have pictures of him with his children and not be accused of using them for his Oscar campaign. That we can see family pictures of vacations and out and about in the city where they live and not be accused of calling the paps. That he and his wife’s relationship can be encouraged to last a lifetime and people not be wishing for a break up.

    I’m always just open mouthed by the way comments go.

  16. Cody says:

    They seem like a great couple,but there are few Hollywood Power couples that are in it for the long haul. He is only 44 years old and just beginning to be recognized for his talent. If he gets an Oscar nod and more and more juicy roles, Hollywood will suck him in even more and things may change for the both of them.

  17. Aubra says:

    That’s REAL shit right there!! I want a Hugh Jackman of my own!!! GO DEB!!!

  18. epiphany says:

    There seems to be a division in opinion as to whether their marriage is for real, or she’s just a great beard.
    If, by a real marriage, you mean one where they are sexually active – with each other – then, no, IMO, their marriage is not for real. If, on the other hand, the criteria are does he truly love, respect, and admire her, and are they a genuine family, raising their children together, then, yes, I think they’re for real. There’s emotion and sincerity infused in everything Jackman said, but it’s devoid of passion or romantic sentiment. They’re the sort of statements one would make about a best friend, or even – a mom. IMO, he is gay, but their love for each other is strong and for real – it’s just not conventional, and certainly not sexual.

    • boredsuburbanhousewife says:

      This is my gut reaction and if true it is totally fine. My biggest reason is not that she’s older or he likes to sing and dance or anything like that. It is my long experience and knowledge of long and happily married couples. Hetero men, even if they are still strongly sexually attracted to their wives of 20 odd years on (in addition to loving them generally as partners and best friends), just don’t gush about them this way.

      • HannahF says:

        Sorry to burst your bubble. My parents have been married for nearly 58 years and my father speaks this way about my mother. The other day he called her a “very grand lady.” English is not my dad’s first language but his meaning is crystal clear.

    • Lucinda says:

      I disagree. My husband has said the same things about me to many people and I assure you, our marriage is real in every sense. If he went around telling people how sexy he thought I was, I would be uncomfortable because that is between us and for us. Perhaps that is how Hugh feels as well. I don’t know. I do know they have laughed off the rumors in the past and no longer bother addressing them. Why should they when what they say will do little to change people’s minds?

    • Lishka says:

      After 16 years together I don’t know who would be still at it like rabbits…relationships mature just like people do, needs and wants change and people learn to live and work together because of the shared love they have for each other and their kids…and the life they have built together.

    • Eleonor says:

      After 16 years together and two children, I think things are different, this doesn’t exclude they don’t have regular sex. By the way he is talking it seems they have a beautiful relationship.

    • pepper says:


      IA 100% with your post.

      I sometimes think its the mom thing going on here. His mom walked out on their family when HJ was just 8. Poor kid. He subconsciously supplanted his mom in his mind with another mother figure.

  19. Betty says:

    Look at Pierce Brosnan’s wife, she’s not all Hollywood, and he clearly dearly loves her.

    Handsome men I think need grounding.

  20. Lucy2 says:

    I knew she was a few years old but didn’t realize she was 57. They seem happy and great together.
    I’ve always thought he was a really nice guy and multi-talented, but I never thought about him as an Oscar calibur actor. I havent seen LM yet, but I think the award is Daniel Day Lewis’.

  21. Samigirl says:

    THAT is the way someone should speak about their partner. I love it.

  22. Lala says:

    Barbara you are doing great PR work. I hope they give you a raise girl :)

    • Hoya_chick says:

      Lol, it’s been particularly weird today. Not just this thread. It’s a gossip site. To all the newbies, in all the years I have been visiting this site I have not known it to be anything but full of fun, intelligent people sharing their opinions with a large dose of snark. Nothing meanspirited or mean. Please calm down and don’t cyber stalk people you don’t agree with for posts that are harmless and all in fun. It’s a gossip site. Relax.

  23. videli says:

    Bearding reports and rumors are the most boring part of gossip. How can it satisfy anybody to know about the ‘true’ sexual preference of an actor/actress? This is too low. And getting to out people it’s not OK. Unless a homosexual somebody is actively fighting against gay rights or is part of an organization that does so, outing is not OK. Lainey is just a middle-age, average in spirit bitch.

    • andy says:

      ^^^This. It’s not okay to out celebrities.

      No one has the right to label or define someone else’s sexuality.

    • Kim says:

      But it’s OK to speculate about cheaters,drug addiction,eating disorders,baby bumps…but not OK to speculate about sexuality? Where is the outrage when Depp or Afleck are being of accused of cheating?I can’t recall anyone screaming defamation despite the fact there was no proof

      • Korel says:

        I know right? people nitpick people on this site over the smallest things (as in most gossip blog), I have seen actresses made fun of their looks, people accused of cheating, poor Johnny Depp was ripped to shreds for the cheating allegations despite lack of any evidence yet people are clutching their pearls when we assume Hugh Jackman is gay? lol

      • andy says:

        “But it’s OK to speculate about cheaters,drug addiction,eating disorders,baby bumps…but not OK to speculate about sexuality? Where is the outrage when Depp or Afleck are being of accused of cheating?I can’t recall anyone screaming defamation despite the fact there was no proof”

        Are anorexics/bulimics, pregnant women, drug addicts or cheaters denied the right to marry? Victims of hate crimes? Committing suicide because of bullying?

        ETA-I know someone who attempted suicide after being outed on the internet, and that is why I despise outing.

      • Lucinda says:

        Because betraying your partner and lying is a choice. Homosexuality is not. That is the difference.

      • shala says:

        I can totally see the hypocrisy. I also remember when Johnny Depp was accused of leaving Vanessa for a younger woman, there was no evidence what so ever and people ripped him a new one. I have seen people accused of cocaine addiction, faking pregnancy(beyonce) but don’t you dare suggest Hugh’s wife is a beard despite the rumors surrounding them for years.

        I think people are upset when someone mentions that Hugh’s wife is a beard because it ruins the fantasy. She is someone people can relate to, looks like your everyday 57 year old and not the typical starlet/model and is married to a Hollywood actor. People love that. How dare she be a beard? Never!

        Personally, I think as long as they happy and the kids are happy, then they can do whatever they hell they want, life’s too short.

      • videli says:

        False parallel. Cheating is not the same as being gay. Also, personally I never accused the Depps and Afflecks of this world of being adulterers. I kinda make my opinions based on facts.

      • marie says:

        I hope your friend is ok now Andy, that’s sad to hear..

  24. bns says:

    Why are people so appalled at the thought of him being gay? It’s not a bad thing, and if he and his wife have it all worked out then good for them.

    He is really thirsty for that Oscar, though. I don’t think any other contender has campaigned harder than Hugh and Anne Hathaway. At least not publicly.

  25. Kallie says:

    (Never mind, post I replied to got deleted)

  26. Dirtnap says:

    Rather than wish he was “straight” or in a “real marriage” (because my own happiness is in no way tied up in these things), how about I hope that he is happy, that she is happy and that their marriage, however it is structured, works for THEM. Because that is what I would wish for anybody! Happiness in its limitless forms. It’s a shame that people can’t just accept other people’s happiness in whatever way it shows up in their lives.

  27. Sam says:

    I hate the term “beard”. She is his wife. They have been married for 16 years. This is not some hot piece in a long line of hot pieces that he switches out every 6 months. This is a woman who for better or worse has stuck with him for SIXTEEN years. I don’t care if he is straight, gay, bi, asexual, an owl in a humans body, etc. That is his WIFE. I think she earned the damn title.

  28. Asiyah says:

    I know that there are rumors that she is his beard (and I can believe that), but this does not make the love and respect he has for her fake. I think he genuinely loves her as a human being. She seems ok with the arrangement. Maybe because she feels loved? I don’t know, but they seem like the real thing to me and I truly feel their love is deep.

  29. exxo1111 says:

    Sorry – her shoes say lesbian to me – also her style of dress

    that being said – I beleive -especially their body language that they really are in love as a family

    also they fell in love b/f he made it big – so thier relationship/friendship is def real

  30. Sweet Dee says:

    I don’t know or care if he’s gay. I don’t know much about him and I usually skip his posts on celebitchy because he never interested me much.

    That said, I’m happy I came to this one, though I’m surprised by the comments because I’m not sure I’ve ever seen such trolling here. Does this happen often?

    Who cares if he’s gay? It doesn’t matter to me because I think he truly loves his wife and his family. Their marriage is not on TV, and they have not submitted it for our approval. I will say that it’s a bit cynical to assume every hot guy with an older wife is gay.

    Speculation is fair game, IMO, but to me these are just pretty people we don’t actually know who say stuff and dress up. Maybe they’re “fake” while Brangelina or some other couple are “for real,” who knows? You’ll probably never know for sure. Hollywood is f*ckin weird, man.

    I’m just going to take this at face value, like every other post, and say that the words about his wife were lovely.

    • Christina says:

      ”Their marriage is not on TV, and they have not submitted it for our approval.”

      Oh, I dunno.

      Hugh talks about his family life quite a lot in interviews, and he’s been cranking up the ‘happy families’ stuff as Oscar nominations day approaches. We call out Anne Hathaway on this type of thing all the time, but Hugh seems to get a pass because a) he’s hot, and b) he seems like a genuinely great guy. But he’s not above using his family for PR purposes when it suits him.

      • Sweet Dee says:

        I don’t think you understand what I meant. I meant that they do not have a reality show, and he doesn’t seem to care what people think about his marriage.

        There’s a difference between talking about your life when asked and needing people to know about your personal affairs. Though I don’t like her, I don’t think Anne has submitted her marriage for our approval, either, to use your example. She talks about her husband very much like he spoke about his wife.

        My point was that if he gave a damn what any of us thought about his personal life, he’d be with someone much more “Hollywood,” Clooney-ing it up on a yacht with a new young piece or Afflecking in happy family photo ops.

        Ice and Coco they are not.

      • TheOriginalKitten says:

        *HEAVY SIGH*

        I got what you meant, Sweet Dee. Agree with everything you said and I generally refrain from speculating about the sexuality of celebs. If they say they’re straight, I take their word for it.

      • Sweet Dee says:

        @OKitten Great minds think alike, eh?

        I mean there are some celebs who put it ALL out there like LeAnn, Affleck and Riri. They know people care enough to speculate, and obviously they love that attention. They even try and feed people tweets to keep ‘em guessing. Then there are those who expose themselves on reality shows, and those that try hard to PROVE they’re in love for the sake of a certain image (side-eye to Travolta). Hugh just doesn’t strike me as the type to do that.

        He made his decision and stuck with it, and I think he loves the woman, which was his answer when he was asked. There’s just too much hate out there for people who don’t fit certain molds, like the traditional family mold.

        Also a lot of hate when two partners are of different attractiveness levels, as perceived by the masses. Personally, I think that’s where his gay rumors likely come from. It’s easy to write blinds about closet cases because all the BI writers all vow not to out people and they never get revealed. Either way, I accept his words at face value and they make me like him better.

        I should get off my soapbox and go eat cake now. It’s my birthday. Okitten, Mykitten, I raise my bowl to you in solidarity :)

  31. Lyn says:

    Don’t know whether he’s gay or not, but after the interview from a few weeks ago about how his mother abandoned him when he was young, his marriage and evident devotion to an older woman make a lot more sense to me.

  32. Moi says:

    I personally feel that Hugh chose an older woman and wouldn’t let her go (break up with him) like he stated on 60 minutes, because of his mom issues. But it turned out great. She’s a lucky woman and it seems he is lucky as well. If Hugh says he is not gay, I chose to believe him. Everyone that meets my nephew believes he is gay. He (my nephew) has got to the point where he says he doesn’t let it bother him. And if my N did happen to come out one day, I will support him wholeheartedly.

  33. frost says:

    When Ben Affleck and Anne Hathaway bombard us with their wholesome happy images people scream Oscar PR shams, we call them out but dear Hughie and wife get a pass? I see…

  34. fan says:

    she’s 52, do the maths!
    He’s 44 and it’s said she’s 8 years his senior.

  35. emma says:

    aww that’s lovely. Shame about all the plastic surgery.

  36. Hahaha says:

    if these 2 want a 3some, they can ALWAYS call ME…untill then, i’ll dream away..

  37. Hahaha says:

    Before i read the comments, i commented…So after readding i have to ask:IS HE GAY?Pls dont make me jump of a bridge.Wolverine cant would shatter my world..a ‘John Travolta’ as one of you mentioned, o my.* me very sad*

  38. Genevieve says:

    You know what’s attractive? A married man who sincerely & totally loves his wife. That gives me hope.

  39. Loira says:

    This lady and I have some things in common.
    I am 10-11years older than my husband, do not wear lots of makeup, and since I have an ankle problem, I am careful with the shoes I wear. I also married in my 30s, tried to have children, but could not.
    The style I choose to wear everyday is not as girly, and rely on pants a lot, some people may have wondered about my preferences…
    People can be very superficial! She does not look “old”, she is not tiny thin, and her features remind me of a younger Judi Dench.
    Now about Hugh, I love his movies and it is wonderful that he can be in a badass movie and in musicals. I like that he has a great family, I hope they stay together long!

  40. Alicia says:

    Wow!!! I really love this story :)
    We can all speculate what the truth is, it is a gossip website. I chose to belive that he truly loves her and that this types of relationships are possible, beliving in this makes me happy inside and gives me hope that one day I can too be in a relationship like that. the world would be such a different place if we all came from such loving bond

  41. rose says:

    Whether the rumours are true or not U are still awesome

  42. Alicia says:

    Loira I am very interested to know how long you have been married for. I met a guy 2 years a go we are always on and off ( complicated story) I am 10 years older than him ( 35) I am so afraid because people are always telling me it wont work because of the age difference, i know i should be more secure but i get affected by those coments :( Has the age difference been an issue for you both?

    • Loira says:

      Married for almost 7 years. Tell you more tomorrow.

    • Loira says:

      H, Aliciai! I hope you see my comment
      When we got together he was 24, me 34. We hit if off great, had lots of things to talk about and physical chemistry was great too!
      We got married 1.5year later, and his family was kind of incredulous, just as mine when they knew his age (we live in a small city, so, imagine that…)
      I just never cared about the age difference, it is a bit uncomfortable, yes, when his friends his age are marrying 20somethings, and are having children when we could not (got preggo, but miscarried, and then it came 3 stressful, years of caring of my terminally ill parents) we survived that.
      The issues we have had had relate more with our personality issues that we had to acknowledge with a therapist’s help. I was raised to avoid conflict (my mother was like that, and my dad was verbally agressive when drunk, I had to learn to be a lot more assertive), and he had issues he had to solve too (womanizer dad).
      To make things short, our issues have nothing to do with age. I am a bit afraid of aging now… but I take care of myself and make myself up (try to, Tropical weather is a bi**ch. )

  43. The Original Mia says:

    Love Hugh! He & Deb are a lovely couple. Wish them all the best.

    Hey, Ben, this is how you speak about your wife.

  44. ms. heart says:

    why this is even a discussion, I don’t know. they’ll never admit it. they’ve played the game for too long.

  45. girlindisguise says:

    BEARD! But that’s okay, they seem happy with that arrangement, and he seems like a great guy, regardless.

  46. xoxokaligrl says:

    I thought it was Jessica Lange at first.

    Too much surgery.

    Good for them though.

  47. Queen says:

    Saw a preview of Les Mis last night – Hugh was AMAZING as Jean Valjean. Oscar nom for sure!

  48. Ally says:

    I seems a lot of people think Hugh’s gay. I’m not so sure. Why would he need a beard when he was a young tv actor in Oz? Bearding is a Hollywood PR thing.

    I’ve never heard or seen Lainey confirm Hugh as Cuba. On the other hand she’s hinted about Matt Damon a few times.

    Either way any hollywood actor’s sexuality is irrelevant to me personally but it does make me feel sad they have to hide such a big part of who they are.

    And I think all the negative comments about Ben Affleck are unfair, he’s a good guy (so many kindness blinds about him over the years) but he’s not very articulate.

  49. SJI says:

    Wow, she is really very unattractive. I literally thought she could be his Mother when I saw the photos of her. Why did she ruin her face with that plastic surgery?

  50. Victoria says:

    I do believe they are truly committed to eachother.. forever. But I wonder why he doesn’t wear his wedding ring? Is he one of those guys who just doesn’t wear jewelry? Just askin’

    • the original bellaluna says:

      Some guys just don’t wear rings. With my ex, it was a “job hazard” (it conducted electricity, which was BAD considering what he did; plus it cut into his cheating game) and with my current, his profession involved dirt, which got under said ring and created a very nasty-looking rash-type thing.

      As far as Hugh and his wife, I think they’re the real deal. He seems to adore her, and he’s always out doing stuff with his kids. NOTHING is sexier than a good family man. (To me, at least.) ;)