Sometimes people get mired in their own misery, I get that, but I still can’t help rolling my eyes at Bethenny Frankel’s latest dumb statement. At 42, Bethenny is currently divorcing her husband of a whole three years, Jason Hoppy. This was her second marriage, she was previously married for a year, from 1997 to 1997, to an “entertainment industry executive” named Peter Sussman. Bethenny and Jason have a three year-old daughter together, Bryn, and chronicled their brief marriage on Bethenny’s reality show, “Bethenny Ever After”, the title of which became ironic after it ceased airing last year. (Bethenny now has a new talk show coming out called “The Bethenny Project”.) I only saw some segments of her reality show and was struck by how poorly Bethenny and Jason communicated, and how much they argued over trivial things. It doesn’t seem surprising to me that they didn’t last. Only Bethenny thinks that her personal pain is the worst thing that could happen to anyone. She really said something similar to that, and I don’t think I’m misconstruing it:
The 42-year-old reality star expressed her grievances to morning anchor Greg Kelly on Thursday while guest-hosting on “Good Day New York.”
“It’s rough,” she said. “I have to say, divorce is the most difficult thing you could ever go through in your entire life.”
While the creator of Skinnygirl cocktails expected the road to divorce from her husband of two years, Jason Hoppy, would be a bumpy one, she didn’t know how bad it would feel.
“I never heard how excruciating it is,” she described.
Frankel went on to say that the whole experience of divorce was a “brutal, unnatural situation” that she “never thought” she’d find herself in.
But amid all the rain Frankel’s found sunshine in her “amazing” 2-year-old daughter, Bryn.
“Kids make you do things you’d never do,” she said. “They bring out the best in you.”
And divorce can sometimes bring out the worst.
After Frankel filed for divorce from Hoppy in early January, he counter-filed three weeks later with aggressive demands. Her scorned ex’s papers requested primary custody of Bryn, child support, medical and dental expenses, and exclusive use of the couple’s Tribeca loft in New York City.
Some can speculate his demands are the result of a broken and bitter heart as Hoppy was spotted in a New York City park with Bryn on Monday still wearing his wedding ring.
“We have love and respect for one another and will continue to amicably co-parent our daughter who is and will always remain our first priority,” Frankel previously said in a statement. “This is an immensely painful and heartbreaking time for us.”
I get that divorce can be really difficult and gut wrenching and that, in this lady’s charmed life, this is the most difficult thing that’s happened to her. For people who have suffered tragedies though, that sounds ridiculous. What about car accidents, serious health problems, having a close loved one or – god forbid – a child dying? There is some sad, scary sh*t that can happen in life and it can happen randomly. Somehow a rich and semi-famous lady going through a divorce doesn’t seem even close to the “most difficult thing.” That’s not to lessen her pain, but she should have phrased it differently and made it more personal. As it is, she sounds kind of clueless and self-centered. I watched the interview (available on NYDN) and she didn’t qualify it or anything either.
Bethenny and Jason in May, 2012
Photo credit: WENN.com and FameFlynet
OK, so she’s been married twice, for a grand total of less than 4 years and she’s ignorant (or fortunate) enough to think that is the worst thing to ever happen to anyone? I don’t even have words for her. I’m not saying it’s not difficult, but STFU. People have and are going through much, MUCH worse than that.
I agree. You would think she would say her father’s abandonment and refusal to see her before he died was the most painful thing emotionally. But if she thinks the grass is greener wait until you argue with your ex over your child for the next decade. They can continue to control, hurt, and badger you.
Most of the comments here are SO stupid. She said divorce was the worst FOR HER. For people who try to hold a marriage together and really loved their spouse it IS excruciating. Either you’ve never been married or you didn’t give a rat’s butt about your spouse. It looks like you’re looking at her through jealousy goggles. Get a life.
You are the STUPID one.
Really? The most difficult thing you could go through in your life? Divorce after a whole three years of marriage? Please! Could she be more of a drama queen? I mean, divorce is no fun, but there are a whole lot of things that are much more difficult that a person could go through than what she is going through…like the death of a spouse or a child, severe injuries/illness, losing your home, etc. I think that’s an incredibly stupid thing to have said and I have no sympathy for her at all.
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I’ve been a fan of hers for a while but she is sorta self absorbed. Divorce was not the hardest thing I ever went thru…not even close. Lets try terminal cancer on for size Bethany. God forbid your child gets terminally ill…THAT would far surpass divorce..don’t cha think? Quit making stupid rationalizations…there are much much worse things in life. You lived thru it..your child lived thru i and all it cost you was time and money.
Count your blessings..
Really? I think losing a child would be a million times worse.
This woman needs to go away. Her obsession with weight and her self centered ways are enough to make me want to karate chop her into outer space.
” karate chop her into out of space”, that’s the best thing I’ve heard in a while 🌏
Yeah… There are myriad things that are infinitely more difficult. Stfu.
I actually liked her on her show but I’ll always remember her from that one season of the Martha Stewart Apprentice when Bethanny was just the WORST.
That’s sounds like a challenge to the universe to bite you in the ass. And based on first hand experience with this woman, she’s a miserable piece of work. Jason will be infinitely happier the day their divorce is finalized and she’ll always be a miserable shrew no matter how much money and fame she (in the short term) has.
I know she’s a monster but please tell us why you know Bethenny is a nightmare. It makes me a little nuts that so many people buy into her ‘I did it all myself [except for marrying for money, using boyfriends for money, having expensive educations, weddings and frivolous s%it paid for by the parents I trashed for fame and pity]’ shtick. She is a user and liar of the highest order.
So spill
She spends so much effort promoting herself and her brand, it’s all she thinks about. It’s no wonder she is successful with how driven she is but she has no respect for anyone else and is a classic narcissist. People are nice to her face because they are making money off of her but no one likes her behind her back. She truly thinks she is entitled to the world.
I’ve been a mom longer than she was a wife. Both times. If I divorced my husband, life would go on. If I lost one or both of my children, I would end up in the looney bin. So, I beg to differ.
No kidding. Some guy started up his riding lawnmower the other day and pulled out of his driveway, amputating his 2 year old’s legs and hand. (Tampa, in case you guys want to look it up) The parents are also in the hospital for mental anguish, no surprise. What about the parents of kids with cancer? Try looking into their eyes while their kiddo is dying on the table and tell me divorce is the worst thing. Stupid woman.
That is about the WORST thing you could go through.
Omigosh, TOT, that is so sad!
I have a girlfriend who is (step) mother to a little girl whose mother died of cancer. The little girl also has cancer. Even though she is not the childs biological mother, I know how much she hurts from watching this little girl suffer. I can’t even imagine.
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Thanks for the link Samigirl! I know what a good and loving mom you are. Pediatric cancer is just the worst.
I treated one family and both of their twins had bilateral eye cancer. Both of them. 🙁
I loved that job until I had my own kids, then I quit the week after I went back from maternity leave. I suddenly could not look the parents in the eye and know what they were going through.
I’m living in NYC right now and watched Bethany on the morning show. She struck me as a person not going through the worst thing ever. Just a bump in her road.
Completely agree. I love my husband and if he was no longer in my life (divorce, death) I would be devastated. But if I lost my child, I don’t see how I could recover from that.
They say (whoever they are) that divorce is the second most stressful event behind death of a family member or spouse. Don’t knock it til you try it, ladies. Getting divorced when children are involved is really f’in difficult.
I don’t think anyone disagrees with you, divorce is stressful. However, Bethanny says “divorce is THE most difficult thing…”. I think most of us would disagree that divorce is THE most difficult.
No one is denying that divorce is incredibly difficult. There are just things in life that ARE worse.
What about getting gang raped and/or beaten half to death? What about being in a serious accident and ending up permanently in pain and/or disablead? What about ending up homeless? What about getting kidnapped and being held captive for several years? All worse than getting a divorce, right? Not mention losing your children or knowing that something awfull happened to your children. Every single parent I’ve ever know always said that their biggest fear is that something happens to their children and that this would be the worst thing that could happen.
Look at the post next door, Bethany. Anjelina Jolie about wartime rape. Care to trade places with any of those women?
I have been through a divorce with 2 small children and yes, it is difficult. Painful and awful at the time, and even now that they are teens dealing with him is the worst. Having said that, there are so many worse things in life that can happen to you, illness, death, the loss of a child, just to name a few. I used to like Bethenny when she was on the Housewives. I watched 1 season of her show and that was all it took to show me what a narcissistic, neurotic, misrable pain in the ass she is. Every article I read about her or interview I see makes me dislike her even more. She is so out of touch with reality.
I always got the feeling she wanted a baby and the dream of having him/her while married to Mr Right and then got married to the first guy who came along.
Yep, so difficult she chose to do it twice. Used to like Bethenny but can’t stand her now. Self-centered drama queen. Oh, and the only reason Jason filed for primary custody was because she did so first, after apparently telling him she would agree to a joint custody.
^This. This is the thing that bothers me the most about this story; the one-sided, and inaccurate portrayal of her soon to be ex-husband.
She filed first asking for primary custody, medical benefits for herself and their child, that he carry a life insurance policy with herself and their child as beneficiaries, spousal support, and him out of their family home. He then filed for the same.
Do they fact check anymore, or is every reporting outlet just an arm of a celebrity, media PR machine?
YES! That bothered me too! Jason’s request was in response to Bethenny’s heavy-handed, over the top filing. But reading the above makes Jason sound like a scorned man out to hurt poor widdle Bethheny. I agree, where are the fact checkers in these articles – it’s actually scary!
I can’t stand her. To me this is another instance of making someone who has no talent into a name. She is better than the KrapTrashians because she didn’t rely on a nasty sex tape to get noticed but that’s the only thing that puts her one rung ahead of them on the ladder of no-talent fame whores.
Not the worst thing. Pretty horrible, but not the worst. Losing a child, parent, or beloved spouse is the worst.
A 15 day escrow is kind of horrible, too.
This lady is an idiot. She could benefit from a major life ass kicking episode that will give her a better perspective on her dumbass self created problems.
Here’s a wacky thought; why don’t you go through the hard work and sacrifice it takes to make a marriage work? It’s not all sunshine and roses, and sometimes, just sometimes, you might have to put on your big girl panties and realize that it’s not all your way everyday. Then perhaps it might just be a tough time that the two of you weathered, an experience that will make you appreciate and love your spouse even more. Wait, what’s that? That’s sounds like too much work? Which is the whole point of marriage. Compromise and working together, not, “Oh, well. This is too tough. I’m outta here”.
For a lot of people, divorce is a relief. It means getting out of a dysfunctional relationship or away from harm. A lot of times, STAYING in the relationship is far, far worse. I have never been divorced, but leaving my absuive ex felt wonderful! I think her real sadness is that she’s realizing that she turned into her mother.
I can easily think of hundreds of things that are a million times worse than getting a divorce from a 3-year marriage. This horrible economy has made real hardships much more visible. Death of a loved one is probably the most difficult thing for a human being to go through but there are tons of other horrible things like losing your job (and livelihood) and how that could create a domino effect such as losing your home, watching your children starve, going on food stamps to survive, becoming homeless, becoming ill or sustaining a horrific injury, becoming gravely ill and not having health care or money to go to the hospital, being in an abusive relationship, bullying, being one of the millions of people who have been unemployed long term in the USA and don’t have much hope of ever being self sufficient again, being a victim of violent crime, the list goes on….
I’m sure Bethany will find another rich and gullible man who will marry her and she can document that on her next reality show. This is not the end of the world for her.
I think knowing that you are ripping apart a family…that you will have to share custody of your child, have to spend time away from your kids on holidays, have to adjust the fact your child will not have both parents in the same home is pretty devastating (no not devastating as losing a child)…I think it was kind of a dramatic statement but a lot of celebrities have made similar comments.
I am going through a very difficult time right now with my father dying of cancer at only 54 years old. For the first weeks I have been very sad and I still am most of the time but I also gained some perspective. I am also grateful for a lot of things: for instance that he is well taken care of, that we have some time left together etc. So if she really thinks this is the worst, then she is not learning much from this experience…
I am so so sorry. My dad was in Hospice for 6 months and that was so hard, watching him get weaker and weaker. So sorry you are going through that
thank you, Joanna
I lost a lot of respect for her after her E! True Hollywood Story where she talked about marrying her first husband for money only, and she just sounded so cold and calculating about it all. I loved her on RHONY, but her on her own show, she was grating.
Chronic pain, death of a child, the list is long and divorce is at the bottom. Vapid, stupid woman.
if her divorcing after 3 years is the most difficult, what am I up against for 20 years under my belt? Instant death?
Apparently she hasn’t had enough life experience if she thinks her divorce (which was completely avoidable in her case) is the worst thing that could happen. Maybe it’s time to open her eyes (and ears) to the heartbreaks others experience. Has she heard nothing of Newtown, CT?
First thing that came to my mind as well…..still makes me tear up.
F*ck her! She is an idiot and has no idea what she is talking about! I watched my first born child diagnosed with stage 4 cancer at age 4, suffer for 3 months and then she passed away in my arms. It has been the most excruiciating thing I hav ever been through. The only sense of relief I can actually find from it is that she didn’t die in a scary, violent way. That her last moments on this earth were not moments of fear or sheer terror, but a moment of peace with my husband and I holding her as she left this world.
I never comment on any of these stories but I felt the need to this time. She needs to truly be humbled. What a spoiled b*tch.
I’m so sorry ……..
So sad. you poor thing. so sorry
Your story brought tears to my eyes and to my heart. I was fuming through this idiotic statement from yet another vacuous celeb, constructing my own list of ‘more horrible (my husband has cancer and my son is suicidally depressed), but your story sums up horrible and devastating for all of us.
Divorce is a choice, get over it like 50% of ALL MARRIED PEOPLE DO!
My heart goes out to you, your daughter will see your smiles from Heaven.
I’m so sorry. I’m tearing up just imagining what you’ve been through. My heart goes out to you and your sweet little angel.
I”m so sorry. That is more than any parent should have to bear.
Bethany is a self-absorbed idiot.
@GrievingMom, I am so sorry for your loss. You brought instant tears to my eyes and you are the parents I talked about in my above post. It killed me to even look at the parents sometimes knowing the heartache they were going through.
Seeing you at the hospital every day is one of the saddest things in the world. I’m a Nuclear Medicine Technologist and I want to tell you it was a privilege to be able to work on children like yours. I hope your healthcare workers were wonderful and caring and provided you with some comfort. Caring for cancer patients with love and kindness is the whole reason we do the job. At least it should be.
Again, I am so sorry you went through pediatric cancer. It is a nasty, aggressive business. Neuroblastoma and the like are terrible diseases.
I feel for you … So sorry for your loss … I believe we will be reunited with loved ones one day ..
My mother was 26 when her beautiful blue eyed, ringlet-haired 2 YR OLD daughter was diagnosed with Acute Myeloid Leukemia. In early 80s, it was an almost immediate death sentence, treatments were pure torture and non-effective.
She was there every single day, with a brave face, never shirking on bravery, love or support.
Seeing your precious baby covered in tubes, bald, still in diapers, being forced down, screaming, for yet another spinal tap (no anesthesia!!) is truly a version of hell. I don’t know how she handled it ….
I am so very sorry for you and your husband. I can’t even imagine the depths of your grief.
I am weeping for you. I am so deeply sorry that you lost your little one. It’s so unfair.
My friend died at the age of 29 from ovarian cancer. She had a 2 year old daughter. I’m sure looking into the eyes of your toddler child knowing you only have a few months to live, worrying about whether your kid will be ok, knowing that you won’t be there for her- that is probably one of the most difficult things one can go through.
EXACTLY!
And as incredibly horrible as what you described is, you still refrained from calling it “the worst thing”.
I used to not hate Bethenny Frankel. Now? Well…..
Because she’s the ONLY person to EVER go through a divorce, right? Guess it might seem that way since, apparently, the world revolves around her. And the more she talks about it to the tabloids, the more attention she continues to get, which just extends her 15 minutes.
I agree with others that she needs to go away. Hey, Bethenny, find something constructive to do with your time that will make you more interesting to hear from!
Her divorce would probably be less painful if she stopped talking to the media about it.
God she is not attractive. I have a hard time buying how painful her divorce was when she was the one that flipped the switch and ended it, she’s trying to garner some sympathy/pity because I think most people regard her as a harsh beatch.
I have to defend Beth. She desperately wanted a child and marriage. While on the RHONY, the viewer could see how badly she wanted what the other castmates had. In addition, her upbringing was much worse than most of ours with her mother and father essentially leaving her. (plus she had no family had her wedding and the show depicted how much that upset her) Her father died a few years back, so she does know the pain of losing a loved one. Yes she wasn’t married a long time but she lost something she yearned for a long time…stability and family.
I think the reason I dislike her is because, for all her crowing about wanting a family so badly, she didn’t seem committed to putting in the effort. She was dismissive towards her husband constantly on the show, she resented his family, among other things. If you are so desperate to make a marriage work, you need to put the actual work in of compromise and talking it out. She never seemed willing to. When jason would try to, she’d throw up her hands and say “I am damaged, I have issues.” Which doesn’t solve a thing. She paid lip service to marriage and family, but didn’t seem to want to put the work in to actually sustain those things.
Yes! His family couldn’t have been more kind to her. They welcomed her with open arms and she pushed them away over and over again. For someone that portrays herself as someone that just wants love and to be part of a family, it’s mind blowing how badly she treated every member of the Hoppy family.
I agree with you- she had a pretty miserable upbringing, and could very easily ended up a la Lohan- but didn’t. And a lot of successful business folks are driven and have tunnel vision. And I appreciate the fact that many folks have had crappy upbringings and do well.
I also think when you are in the middle of a crappy divorce, it DOES seem like the worse thing. Of course it’s not like being gang-raped or watching a loved one die, but if she had said ” oh, not the best feeling but so what?” Who would have believed that?
Yes, I totally agree. Of course her pain probably doesn’t compare to something more heinous like rape or losing a child, but who are we to say that what she’s going through right now isn’t infact painful and traumatic to her. I dislike that so many other commenters keep saying that her pain doesn’t compare to xyz. That’s not fair. If she had lost Bryn, would we then be like “it’s not the same as losing TWO children”?
She is pure UGLY inside and out.
In her mind it is the most difficult. Can’t judge her for that because I’m not walking in her shoes. BUT…girl is lucky if that is, truly, the worst. So incredibly lucky.
No, losing your parents at age three and being raised in a children’s home is worse. I’ve been through both, so… yeah.
I hope that’s the worst thing she ever has to go through.
Am I the only one that finds myself doubting what she went through as a child now? I bought into it in the beginning but now that I’ve seen all the shade she’s thrown at Jason, I have to wonder how much of what she’s said about her childhood is true. Maybe she was an incorrigable brat and her family has distanced themselves because of her behavior toward them.
I’ve thought that for awhile. She doesn’t take responsibility for anything she does.
… except for being fat, amiright skinny girls?
Blech. How sad to pretty much be able to summarize your character with such a ridiculous statement. Why are these people famous?
That was funny!
I would think it’s waking up and seeing that death mask of a face in the mirror each day
You would think after all her experience out there dating and being in two marriages she would have learned *something* about relationships but it is obvious she hasn’t. I hope she doesn’t put out a book about her experiences and what she has learned, because she is the last person to be giving advice with her record.
i was and still am a fan of Bethenny’s products & her success…except in this fashion:
if she thought she was gonna pull a Halle Berry and take that baby 3000 miles away from Jason & the grandparents and cut him outta her life, she’s got another thing coming.
i’m like Yolanda from RHoBH, i think it’s a straight up punk-ass move to use your money to bully someone just ’cause you can.
i’m Team Jason & Team Dads who are good Dads that actually care and give a damn about the kids. 🙂
I predict Bethenny will portray herself as a divorce expert on her show. And what’s with the title “The Bethenny Project”. Those “project” titles are now officially overdone and Mindy Kaling should be the last one to use it.
you are right.
she should have said you can DO. you usually choose to get divorced, so choose to go through the pain, etc. The other things you listed are fate and circumstance, no one sane is going to option for that. i have never been and hopefully will never be in a divorce but from what i’ve seen in life, it is one of the most difficult things you can do (if, of course, it was a “real” marriage to begin with).
Am I the only one who thinks that Jason was horrible to her during that last season of her show? I think she is annoying, too, but he left out no opportunity to put her down when he felt emasculated by her money. She should be glad to start a new life, but I have a feeling that he will profit greatly from this divorce. I think her main pain going through this may be the fact that what she thought could be forever turned out to be a big fat zero – and he now competes with her for her two only achievements in life: her daughter and her company. She was silly enough to think that the money she made would make their lives perfect and then found out it made it worse. She may be annoying but as a woman looking for a stability and a family to love, I feel for her.
Oh wow I just shocked myself. Let me look at pics of LeAnn and the Kartrashians to get me back to bitchy mode.
I’m sure, if asked, Jason would say the most difficult thing in life was being married to Bethenny Frankel.
I hate cancer so much. My heart goes out to each and every person who has been touched by such a terrible disease. Some friends of mine lost their 5 year-old son to recurrent sPNET cancer (cancer of the brain). He fought valiantly for 2 1/2 years and passed the Sunday after Thanksgiving. I don’t think a single day goes by that I don’t think of sweet Jaxon. His parents have such a strong foundation in Christ, which Jaxon also had, and their trial touched SO many lives and inspired more people than most of us could do with 10 or 20 times as much time. He was and still is an inspiration to so many. Earth’s loss was heaven’s gain and we just have to take solace in knowing he is released from his suffering and when we see him again, it will be FOREVER! What a wonderful gift from our loving creator!
All these plastic, self centered, gold digging, whining, bitching, cat fighting, cussing hos make me very tired. Every time you turn the tube on there they are. At some rich party cat fighting with each other, every other word beeped out. Why are they even on?
If it wasn’t for Big Bang, I wouldn’t even turn the damn thing on.
Yes to this.
I would get 50 divorces if only I could have my mother back for just one more month. Just saying… A friend of mine had her 11 month old baby die in her arms…
I really want my sister to date Jason…
My mother and her parents were in a POW camp during World War II. I bet that was harder.
I can’t believe she’s only 42. She looks 60.
OK, I USED to be a big fan of her self-depricating sense of humor on RHONY. Her and Jill had such a warm, charming friendship. Bethany was always making fun of herself and she came off as very down to earth. Then, I dont really know what happened, she flipped on Jill.
I watched an episode where she and Jill went out to dinner and was totally traumatized watching Jill reach out to her emotionally and Jill over and over shut her out. She was as cold as ice.
I felt so terrible for Jill.
After that I tried to like Bethany again but I always wondered if Bethany deep down lives to skewer people that love her.
Now after watching her joke of a marriage to Jason I really feel she is far more damaged than she initially let on. Jill Zarin is well rid of her. She now comes off as awfully, exhaustingly neurotic, narcicistic, petty, meglomaniac and just not nice. She has lost any and all of her initially charming and funny sense of humor and warm. She has NO funnyness now.
Funny how fame and money just brought out the worst in her. Awful. Maybe she has become her mother after all.
I agree with her on that – going through divorce is openly admitting failure. It’s painful. But I don’t regret it. 🙂
I just read “Two kisses for Maddy.” It’s about a guy, Matt Logelin and his daughter Maddy. Maddy’s mom, Liz stood up to go see Maddy in the NICU when she passed out and died from a pulmonary embolism.
I read his blog and I can barely look at the pictures he posts. I sit there and sob. Maddy looks just like her mom and I think of how unfair it is she doesn’t get to watch her grow up.
I admittedly have not been a fan of Bethany since her time on the RHONY. I even tried to watch her spin-off but quickly grew tired of it and HER. However, as much as I hate to admit it, I can relate to her comment on a certain level.
My divorce was finalized this past December and, even though it was something I HAD to do, it still has been one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to experience. And I wish it stopped there but some days it just hits you like a ton of bricks and you crumple.
Please don’t think I’m comparing the dissolution of a marriage to cancer, or losing a child, etc., because I *can’t* even begin to imagine that pain. However, I have learned that divorce can be “one of the worst” things to experience because it stays with you so damn long.
There’s a definite grieving period that divorce brings on but it often lacks the closure that the death of a loved one might. (I’m sorry if that sounds harsh.) Especially if you have invested years into the relationship like 11 years and you continue to have a co-dependent relationship with your ex because you can’t let go of that BBF feeling. I’m learning divorce can slowly poison so many areas of your life like your self-esteem and self-worth. I constantly question if I did the right thing. And if I did, why do I feel like such a failure? Why would anyone ever want a 30-something year old, washed up, divorcee?
Don’t get me wrong—leaving my marriage was the best thing I could have done. It was also the hardest decision for me to make. Even though it truly was a matter of survival…mentally and physically.
As I said, I know there are worse things out there to experience in this life. And I’ve had my fair share: gang-raped in college; forcibly anally raped by my husband; suicide attempts beginning at the age of 15… I could keep going.
In fact, after my divorce was finalized, I found myself locked in a mental hospital the day after Christmas for six days because of a near suicide attempt. (Full disclosure: I suffer from Major Depression and Bipolar and 2012 was full of extreme stressors for me. It so wasn’t just the divorce.) After that, I took a 12-week leave of absence from work so I could attend Intensive Out Patient therapy three days a week and try to get my sh*t together. But less than seven days before I was set to return to work, I ended up right back at the same mental hospital for another five day stay.
I also recently just reconnected with my father after seven years of not speaking. On Christmas Day of all days. (The whole being replaced by his new daughter and 10 year affair he had on my mother created a rift between us, to say the least. So yea, I have daddy issues.)
I’m not trying to garner sympathy. Or even side with Bethany. Or one up the conversation. I just wanted to throw my experience out there. For those out there that try their damnedest to make a marriage work and respect the commitment enough that it’s not something they do for a reality show or to further their brand, then yes. They have the right to say it is one of the hardest things to go through. But it does eventually get better. Or so I hear.
If she said “one of,” it wouldn’t be nearly as controversial a statement.
I’m truly sorry for all you’ve gone through.
Thank you. I really appreciate it. As much as I hate this statement: It is what it is. Like I said, I just wanted to give my POV of the divorce side of a real relationship.
I do think Bethany is a very smart, calculating woman though. She has achieved a decent level of success but I think she probably—or does—have a very Machiavellian approach to her success. She’ll cut ya like a bitch if you get in her way.
If she was anyone else, it might be possible to give her the benefit of the doubt about the divorce statement. People get caught up in emotions sometimes…it happens. However, she’s Bethany. And as others have commented, I think it’s a very calculated move on her part to try to garner sympathy and use that sympathy to fuel her new project…her talk show or book or whatever it is.
People eventually see through the bullshit. She’s not long for this [entertainment] world. Talk shows are a dime a dozen right now because everyone’s trying to be the next Oprah. I give her one season at most.
Personally, I think she’ll do as many shows as Chevy Chase did when he attempted a talk show.
First off… My lord is she HIDEOUS ..!!!!!!! Second…. Nah Bethenny you self absorbed tw$t I’m willing to bet war zone rape is worse …. Give Angelina Jolie a call … She could probably clue you in on what’s happening in the world outside of that giant head of yours !!!!!!!!!
She set herself up by saying it was the absolute WORST thing a person could go through in life when that’s obviously not true. Everyone knows the death of a spouse or child is far more devastating.
But I’ll be the contrarion on this thread and say I’m sympathetic. I think divorce is so common place today that people may not appreciate how incredibly stressful it really is. Even if you had a terrible marriage, divorce is cognitively taxing because it can completely change your day to day life – as well as your expectation of what the future was going to be. It rocks your world and that stress can make you more emotional, sensitive, anxious, etc. I remember when Jennifer Aniston’s “Vanity Fair” interview came out and people were so critical of her for things like having little moments where she burst into tears. But I completely empathized with her. It’s stressful as hell.
What about- say the death fo your mother? Or sister? Or heck— I can think of so many things that are probably more painful in some way- not taht divorce isnt, but… yknow. Perspective.
Wonder if she still has bulimia. . .her cheeks/jaw are looking pretty prominent
Being married to Bethany is the worst thing that could happen to anyone