Nicki Minaj’s advice to young girls: ‘Don’t chase any man. Put your school first’

Nicki Minaj

Nicki Minaj covers the August issue of Marie Claire, and I think I’m stating the obvious by saying she looks unexpectedly normal here, right? She still looks like herself, but the magazine has toned down Nicki’s usual technicolour nightmare in favor of a more flattering, red-white-and-black palatte. I think this look suits her, but I’m (perhaps unfairly) assuming Nicki probably didn’t enjoy the shoot very much.

In the interview, Nicki discusses her fandom (they’re called “Barbz”?), her short run on “American Idol,” and she hands out some surprisingly useful advice for young women. In addition, she hints that she really wants to be an actress, and you’ll have to tell me whether or not that sounds like a plausible goal. Here are some excerpts:

Nicki Minaj

On her special language with her fans — her Barbz: “I’m very aware that millions of people on Twitter have no idea what we’re talking about. That’s because we kind of have our own language. I used to think it was just a Queens language or a New York language or an East Coast language, but now it’s a Barb Nation language. I have South African Barbz, Japanese, German, Saudi Arabian. You can be a Barb wherever you live.”

On her time as a judge on American Idol: “The perception that people had of me completely changed because there are no cue cards, there’s no script, it wasn’t be performing a song. It was, ‘Let’s see you real personality.’ My core is a genuine human being who roots for other people. I didn’t want to blow smoke up their ass. I wanted every contestant to leave with something that they could remember.”

She wants to become an actress one day: “I at least want to do three more albums. If I can do that, I’ll feel complete…One day, when I start getting a couple gray hairs, maybe it will all be only acting. I just never know…I’ve kind of become the poster child for doing the things that no one expects.”

She almost became a lawyer? “I just loved the thought of going into a courtroom with mostly men and defending someone — just being able to persuade people with your words. It seems glamorous in a way. Very inspiring and ballsy.”

On her “weird epiphany” of her 2012 tour: “I was on a world tour, a big feat for a female rapper. For the first time, I allowed myself to feel proud of where music had gotten me, and I felt an overwhelming sense of gratitude. You feel the need to pay it forward, which starts with analyzing yourself with a true desire to grow. I was praying every day, ‘You know what, Lord? I want to be a mom one day, and I want to start becoming the woman who I want to parent my child.’ I wanted all of the feelings of entitlement to leave me, because some people have this life for a year or five or 10 — and a lot of them lose it. I didn’t want to become a person who wasn’t enjoying the moment.”

Her tips for seducing a lover: “Don’t chase any man. Put your school first. Men love independent women. You don’t have to be a bitch, but there’s nothing wrong with it at times. And: Men are kids at heart. They want to be nourished and pet like a dog.”

[From Marie Claire]

I have to laugh at Nicki’s perception of the daily life of a lawyer. Most of the work involved in the legal profession includes writing, writing, and more writing. Courtroom action is actually a rare thing for the vast majority of specialties, and even if one specifically goes into litigation, the goal is to settle most cases out of court. I guess Nicki’s been watching too much “Law & Order,” but I can’t fault her for that. It’s just funny to imagine her in her crazy-ass wigs while rapping to a jury.

However, what Nicki says to young women is spot on. If only I had avoided boys, things could have happened so much quicker for me, schoolwise.

Nicki Minaj

Nicki Minaj

Photos courtesy of Satoshi Saïkusa/Marie Claire

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  1. just me says:

    best words to have ever come out of her mouth. she’s looking a lot better these days too

  2. MyCatLoves TV says:

    Nicki Minaj said something that makes good sense. I feel faint.
    (….oh, and yes, she DOES look good here. Quick, get the smelling salts!)

  3. GeeMoney says:

    Right on! So many women get wrapped up in relationships, put off school, have kids and then wish they had went. I’m glad I’ve gotten my schooling out of the way… now I just need a man, lol.

    Honestly, everyone goes their own way at their own pace in life. But if you want to be a doctor, lawyer, professor, etc., and you have the choice btw following your man wherever or finishing school, choose school. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Or hopefully you marry a man that supports your education. I can’t tell you how many women I have met that chosen a man over what they want and then ended up regretting it later.

    Put yourself first, ladies. Men have no problem doing it. Why shouldn’t you???

  4. Renee says:

    She actually looks beautiful here and I like what she had to say. Good for her!

  5. QQ says:

    The Horsemen Must be close cause this is a first Top To Bottom, looking good, appealing and making some sense?!

  6. Lucinda says:

    The only thing I don’t like is saying men want to be pet like dogs. The rest is good but being condescending to men gets us nowhere as a gender.

  7. JL says:

    I don’t follow her, but I love this statement.

    ‘You know what, Lord? I want to be a mom one day, and I want to start becoming the woman who I want to parent my child.’

    WOW! I want to become? Whaaaat? Become the kind of woman you want to raise your kids then have them? What foolishness is this?

    All that can lead to is a mature, financially stable mother who chooses the same kind of father and knows what her priorities are…..

    Listen up young ladies, it’s good advice. Finish school, become a mature responsible woman the n worry about the man and the kids….

  8. Anna says:

    For real though, how many people do y’all think applied to law school because it seemed so glamorous on TV? I bet a whole lot. Even though 90% of lawyers never see an inside of a courtroom.

  9. de-Vine says:

    Wow. Totally unexpected voice of reason. About education at least.

  10. Runs with Scissors says:

    Bedhead, thank you so much for calling them “young women” in your write up!

    So tired of women being referred to as “young girls!”

    Young girls are 5-6 years old for god’s sake, so they better not be chasing men, lol.

    Gahh, it may seem petty, but these small changes in language and the way we casually diminish women in our culture really adds up. So thanks!

  11. Diana says:

    I know it’s weird, but hasn’t Nicki Minaj always said surprisingly pro-women stuff? I remember some quotes from a while back where she urged women to be more self-accepting and assertive. And it was all very practical, good sense stuff.

  12. Andrea says:

    Some of us are in court 3-4 times a week. It’s not as rare as you think depending on what kind of law you practice, you know.

    She is correct that it’s mostly men litigation. But it’s not glamorous. There is a lot of latent sexism in the profession and being a female litigator is really hard. You are alone a ton. Hence why celeb gossip can be a good release :)

    Her advice to young women is the best thing she’s ever said. She’s right.

  13. Maria says:

    i wonder what how the reactions would be like if she compared women to dogs.
    its really shameful how many women publicly dismiss males as being like animals and no one speaks up.

    there are even books telling women how to “train” men.

    its just extremely disgusting and so is Nicki Minaj for comparing men to dogs. seriously.

  14. marie says:

    I like her message to young women, hopefully some readers/fans take note. Young women should learn to nurture themselves before they ever try it with someone else.

    With all the extra she wears, it’s easy for me to forget how good she looks.

  15. Erinn says:

    Where were these intelligent words when she was singing that “stupid ho” song?

    I’m not a fan of her men as inferior kind of comments, either.

    Hopefully she’ll continue to grow, and mature, and put the other behavior in the past.

  16. Anna-fo-Fanna says:

    She’s actually talked lately about wanting to go with a more natural look, so I’m not surprised these pictures look so much less styled than some of her previous shoots. Now that she’s cleaned off all that gunk and ditched the wigs, you can see how beautiful she really is. Obviously the on-set art direction had a lot to do with the styling, but I bet she was all about going more natural.

  17. the artful dodger says:

    I didnt expect that out of her. I like it. Shame on me for assuming she was a knob.

  18. mercy says:

    I really like most of what she had to say, especially about putting your own education and development first, and working on becoming the kind of parent you want to be before having kids. I hope she practices what she preaches (except for the part about treating adult men like kids.)

  19. Bijlee says:

    Is this like a big problem? I feel like people over exaggerate how often this happens. I mean I’m sure some teenagers are stupid when they’re young, but once they get to college and get older I doubt many are chasing after men and not valuing their education….maybe my circle of friends is to small.

    • Masque says:

      Yep, it’s a real thing. Just look at Chris Brown’s female fans. Or Justin Beiber’s.

      • Bijlee says:

        I think these kids grow out of it. Theyre Tweens or teens they grow up and start to take life much more seriously. I mean girls my age arent chasing after men, they’re focusing on education. But I guess things change pretty quickly, I’m young so I probably just don’t have experience with it yet.

    • lady mary. says:

      trust me it is ,i have actually met such women ,who have simply given up their education or vocation,for the sake of chasing men with a good income ,to live an easy life ,some even justified their actions saying they were tired of standing on their two feet ,and follow their dreams,its shell shocking

    • Zoid says:

      I had this happen to two friends. One stayed to wait for her boyfriend to finish his job (neither ended up in college, but I think 4 years later they are in classes) the other gave up a full ride scholarship at an amazing school to stay in the same state as her boyfriend. I just graduated college so these are recent examples.

      • Bijlee says:

        I’m at that same time in my life, but I haven’t seen so many cases of this. Maybe one or two, but I don’t remember more than that. I should get out more. I always thought this was an exaggerated problem, but I guess not.

        But if I gave up a full ride for a boy, my mother would beat me (I could understand she worked so hard for me to get an education). That beatings not worth it for any boy.

    • anon33 says:

      Bijlee I am glad that so far you haven’t seemed to experience these situations (you say that you are young.) I think most of us “older” ladies personally know TONS of women who have done this…it’s quite common.

      • Bijlee says:

        Obviously I’m a lot more self-involved than I thought or hanging out with a very specific crowd of women. I have known women that will change their plans because they are in a relationship, but never forgo an education. Maybe a specific “dream” job I guess, but they don’t stop working.

        One woman I knew said she wanted to go to grad school, but during college she met a guy and ended up building her resume for a job at Amazon. Now they’re both going to Seattle, while he works at some other tech giant and she works at Amazon. A friend was going to go to med school, but changed to pharmacy when she realized she didn’t want to be a doctor so badly that she would lose her fiance. He even said we could make it work, but she was already having doubts long before he came into the picture. So he was probably the jumping off point. One girl got married (VERY YOUNG) and both her and her husband go to med school. Actually I know two couples like that.

        So I’ve seen women change their plans when a guy comes into the picture, and that annoyed me alot. But I guess it could have been way worse.

  20. TheOneAndOnlyOnly says:

    Now if she could only make decent music, because it really is garbage, and not lip synch her concerts – and please, everyone knows AI is largely staged to maintain ratings; she needs to step away from the famewhoring ways if she truly wants praise.
    She doesn’t mention that one main reason AI’s rating fell this past season was that people couldn’t stand listening to and looking at this talentless clown attempt to dispense singing advice – the blogs were filled with such comments questioning how AI could’ve hired her.

  21. A Fan says:

    Excellent advice.

    Girls need to hear that from their parents from day one ( in order to sink in and make it past the ‘vulnerable’ times.

  22. Joanna says:

    she’s a very rude person from what i’ve seen of her. cant stand her

  23. YoungHeartOldSoulNewView says:

    Love the words, love the look…I like how her hair has dark roots, whether its real or not. I’m just so tired of the straight-platinum blond look…on ANYone.

  24. Mayday says:

    This made me like her more. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with changing and most of all GROWING as a person. We all need to learn and grow. Nicki seems to be doing the same.

  25. truetalk says:

    The acting thing is not really strange. She was trained in theatre arts maybe that’s why she’s so theatrical in gestures and dressing

  26. Side-Eye says:

    Her music, dress, and personality on AI is absolute garbage, but occasionally she says decent things.

  27. Nicolette says:

    She’s completely right about men being kids at heart. They are pretty much little boys in grown bodies! And I really like her advice to you g women to not chase guys and put school first. She surprised me on Idol, I wasn’t expecting to like her but I did and agreed with most of her critiques.

  28. Marion says:

    I hate it when people say they “almost” became a lawyer/doctor/teacher because they had the NOTION to do it. That’s NOT almost. I’ve contemplated being an astronaut, but that falls incredibly short of ALMOST going to space. Shut up Nicki. No one cares anymore, it’s 2013 not 2011, she’s irrelevant.

  29. Mamacita says:

    I really don’t like her music, but I have to admit, I really, really like her! I find her super charming and so real, emotional, supporting, sweet, down to earth, witty, sharp, cute and a whole lot more in the things I’ve seen her in (AI and Ellen).

  30. Dommy Dearest says:

    Uh, her quote that is in the header for this thread is spot on. Even the part that they need to be pet and all that jazz. I wish I would have been more serious about school rather than texting that guy back.

    This is the only time I feel I’ve agreed with her.

  31. moon says:

    Couldn’t agree more with what she said about men!

  32. Thora says:

    What if you don’t like school? Conformity’s not for everyone.

  33. Grant says:

    If she was a criminal defense attorney she would actually be in court quite frequently for arraignments, hearings and such. Transactional (civil) attorneys are usually the ones that want to settle.

  34. kate says:

    College is NOT everything…..and can be very overrated in my opinion. Education does not equal a job.

  35. mel2 says:

    I am not a Nicki Minaj fan but I feel she always keeps it real and I like her advice on not chasing a man.

  36. Ashley says:

    OMG black ppl STOP with the harsh BLOND WEAVES AND WIGS AND COLORED CONTACTS…you look like clowns on some serious mind-altering drugs with huge ass pupils….i shake my head everytime in see this mess.

    fellow black person with natural dark hair and dark eyes…lol