Huma Abedin’s poorly timed essay: ‘Putting yourself out there comes with a cost’

Well, this is interesting. Harper’s Bazaar just published an essay by Huma Abedin, wife of Anthony Weiner/Carlos Danger, online. The essay apparently appears in the September issue of the magazine, and it features this attractive photo of Huma. Of course this piece was written before yesterday’s awful joint press conference in which Huma stood beside Carlos Danger for the second time while he admitted highly inappropriate sexts and sending dong photos to other women. Huma really is Hillary Clinton’s spiritual daughter here – and by that I mean we’re all looking at Huma and saying to ourselves, “Why don’t you leave him? Why aren’t YOU running for office?” Here’s Huma’s essay:

Three years ago I was a single workaholic, traveling the globe with an amazing job at the U.S. State Department. I could not have imagined how much my life would change in three short years. Today I’m married, with a feisty 20-month-old son, a full-time job, and a husband running for mayor of New York. My friends will tell you that I don’t like calling attention to myself. For years I spent my professional life at the back of the room, far from the stage or the microphone. I kept my personal life private, even as the people I was close to lived in the public eye. But all that changed two years ago, and Anthony and I have spent these past few years working through the very private challenges we faced on a very public stage. So when people tell me they’re surprised to see me out on the campaign trail, I understand because, trust me, no one is more surprised than I am.

So why am I doing this? Because Anthony has always been a smart, caring, and dedicated person, and while he’s the same public servant who wants what’s best for the people he represents, he is now something else—a better man. New Yorkers will have to decide for themselves whether or not to give him a second chance. I had to make that same decision for myself, for my son, for our family. And I know in my heart that I made the right one.

Quite simply, I love my husband, I love my city, and I believe in what he wants to do for the people of New York. I didn’t grow up in New York, as Anthony did. But I spent just about every summer with my cousins in Queens, chasing the ice cream truck up and down the block, playing in the street, and getting a taste of the New York childhood that Anthony always talks about. Now I’m one of the millions of New Yorkers who have come from virtually every other state and country to make a life here. Putting down roots has reinforced for me that this is the greatest city in the world to raise a family, start a business, pursue dreams—anything is possible.

Through our professional work, Anthony and I have had extraordinary opportunities to meet and work with inspirational people and give back to the communities and country that have given us so much. But by far, the greatest blessing was the birth of our son, Jordan. It’s a life-changing experience, as every parent knows. It has given us joy we couldn’t possibly have imagined and made us even more grateful for everything we already had. It also made us view the world differently—we worry about things we never thought about before. We worry about Jordan’s education, his health, his safety. Like all parents, we worry about the future.

And in the end, that’s why Anthony decided to run for mayor. People have said many things about my husband—some nice, some not so nice. And that will surely continue. Launching this campaign was not an easy decision for our family to make. Putting yourself out there comes with a cost.

[From Harper’s Bazaar]

“Putting yourself out there comes with a cost.” God bless the double-entendre. Insert dong photo here. Ugh, poor Huma. While Huma comes across as incredibly likeable, a quiet, classy, behind-the-scenes public servant, Carlos Danger really comes across like a cold-blooded sociopath and narcissist, right? That’s not just me?

Photos courtesy of Harper’s Bazaar and WENN.

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  1. Pinky says:

    “Why don’t you leave him? Why aren’t YOU running for office?”

    ^ This exactly.

    • Teddy says:

      Two things:

      1) Campaign funding; its hard enough to fundraise for a female. Now add to that her middle eastern heritage. It could happen but she would need to spend more time building her profile

      2) Personality; She is describing herself as an introvert. A brains behind the operation type. I think she would be great in high office but does she have a politicians temperement?

      • Bijlee says:

        She’s not middle eastern. She’s half Pakistani, half Indian. Either way it slims her chances incredibly.

      • Jacqueline says:

        I think she could win hands-down against a white guy who is sending pictures of his wang to everyone on his contact list.

      • Teddy says:

        Bijlee

        Thanks. I should have said South Asian heritage. I must have internalised the Middle Eastern thing from the Michelle Bachman bs attack on Huma. Although having say a Dubai heritage would be seen more favorably than the Pakistani connection. Voters ARE that dumb.

      • xera says:

        She doesn’t have a clean record herself, the NYT named her as one of the collaborators of Hillary Clinton who were benefitting from their boss’ “ethical blind spot” trading their proximity with the Secretary of State for some private lucrative contracts

      • bettyrose says:

        Running for office is the wrong point to focus on. Why doesn’t she leave him, continue her own career, and find a partner worthy of an intelligent, attractive, loyal woman like her.

      • Bijlee says:

        @jacqueline you have far too much faith in the voting public than I do.

      • Crap says:

        Her credibility is shot simple because she KNEW what was going on, yet opted to support the scumbag despite that knowledge. If it’s because of her upbringing, so be it.

      • Janet says:

        If she is Muslim, the way things are in this country right now, she couldn’t be elected dog catcher. The prejudice against Muslims is incredible.

    • fabgrrl says:

      It’s hard enough for women to get elected. Throw being Muslim on top of that. Sadly, she has a very slim chance of holding major office in this country.

      • Lara says:

        That’s a pretty discriminatory remark.

      • Bijlee says:

        @Lara …not really it’s just telling it like it is.

      • Bridget says:

        Seriously? The last 2 elections there were groups of people claiming that Obama is a secret Muslim plant because his middle name is Hussein. Yeah, a Muslim woman is going to have a hell of a time being elected for public office.

      • Cait says:

        It’s not discriminatory. It’s simply true.

        And it’s not right or just.

        The point is that there’s a tremendous stigma towards Muslims in this country, and Michele Bachmann’s recent McCarthyist witch hunt targeting Muslims (and specifically Huma Abedin) is evidence of just how far we have to go as a nation.

      • Pinky says:

        Let’s not forget: she would not be running for office of NYS (like senator or governor), she’d be running for Mayor of NYC. Even after Sept. 11th, you will find that NYers are still open-minded, accepting, and able to look past someone’s religion when evaluating their suitability to serve.

      • Janet says:

        Pinky, I’ve lived in NYC all my life, and even though New Yorkers tend to be much more open-minded than the rest of the country, I think it would be very difficult for a practicing Muslim to get elected mayor.

    • Kaboom says:

      +1

    • LeeBlaylock says:

      If she isn’t running for office, its probably because she is taking care of an infant right now and that is a 24/7 job.

      Also, I don’t know why a woman has to “prove” that she can make it in a so-called “man’s world”. Perhaps she does not wish to run for office, what’s wrong with that?

      • Bridget says:

        Huma has a job, she’s not caring for an infant 24/7. And keep in mind that this is actually comi from a stay-at-home mom, but it kind of offends me that you just assume that she’s dropped her own career to stay at home.

      • Mia says:

        @Bridget-Thank you. What a weird assumption to make.

  2. DeltaJuliet says:

    “While Huma comes across as incredibly likeable, a quiet, classy, behind-the-scenes public servant, Carlos Danger really comes across like a cold-blooded sociopath and narcissist, right?”

    Thai is exactly how I read them too. I can just imagine what he’s saying to her behind the scenes. He’s SUCH a douchebag. Ugh.

    • xera says:

      you can tell by the way she’s entered politics – shadowing Hillary clinton – that she isn’t in politics by idealism

      • TG says:

        Totally agree this woman is just as ambitious as Hilary and it has nothing to do with wanting to helping people. It is all about getting ahead. The exact same reason Hilary publicly forgave her husband.

      • Scuttlebutt Luver says:

        I have a different take on this situation. I suspect Carlos Danger is a sex addict. Secondly, I don’t think she knew about his new dong photos. They are coming out now because he is running for office. She will stand by him for this election and then leave him after it is over.

    • Azurea says:

      He actually seemed to be enjoying that press conference, & didn’t appear in the slightest to be embarrassed. In fact, he seemed to be suggesting there are more things that could be exposed (pun intended) and that it’s no big deal. Absolutely no conscience and ni idea how he is really presenting himself. So yeah, narcissist and sociopath, like so many politicians.

  3. Jennifer12 says:

    If he becomes mayor, it won’t be from my vote. And I will be forced to move.

    • Tapioca says:

      On the plus side, he’s clearly no good at constructing giant, intricate webs of lies to cover his tracks, which is probably the best you can hope for in a politician!

      Is the guy you just know is going to get caught out when they misbehave maybe the lesser of the potential evils?

      • Mrs. Peacock says:

        I like someone who looks on the bright side. He’s a moron, but at least he is too moronic to hide his moronicism (hey it can be a word).

      • claire says:

        LOL. Well when you put it that way….

      • cat1 says:

        that is sort of true since none of us know all the things mayor mike bloomberg has been able to hide but certainly are there!! the media and his money have covered it up over the seemingly endless 12 years of his tenure. (last term bought with his $100 million and he just squeaked by…)

      • Mia says:

        Dang, you have an amazing ability to find the positive in any situation, lol.

    • Nicolette says:

      +1. No way in hell would he get mine.

    • Bubbles says:

      You know what, looking at this, I’m glad that I’m from a country where the politicians personal life doesn’t matter. He had a sex scandal? So what? That’s private. Is he a good politician? Leader? What are his programs for the city?
      I don’t know if my prime minister has children and I would probably not recognize his wife if I saw her ond the street. And thank God for that.

  4. ZigZagZoey says:

    Yes, it takes balls….

  5. bowers says:

    No, that’s not just you. She should probably leave him because he’s not going to change. Maybe they have some sort of arrangement.

    • Meaghan says:

      I agree, we have no idea what is going on behind the scenes. For all we know, she is running everything and he is just the face running. Beacuse as both a woman and a minority America would not embrace her with open arms.

      Maybe she has a piece on the side, and they have an open relationship. Who knows. But we shouldn’t be so quick to judge. Hilary forgave Bill, and you’d be stupid to think that he hasn’t had constant side pieces throughout. And yet people still love Clinton, yet hate Weiner.

    • Raquel says:

      She should leave him. This isn’t even a parallel to the Clinton situation, here. No presidency hangs in the balance, just her asshole husband’s campaign run…and, even if he hadn’t actively sought out and lied to the public, he is hardly the only promising politician in NY.

      Not only that, but this isn’t the 90s anymore. Staying with him will only hurt her in politics. If she leaves now, she looks classy, but powerful. She gave the Weiner some leeway, but wouldn’t let him humiliate her in public forever. If she stays, she looks like a weakling who twiddles her fingers nervously and mutters something about not wanting her personal problems to trash his political career. A career he, himself, is making damn sure goes nowhere. I can’t back a weakling. Female voters & politicians will have trouble getting behind one, too.

    • Alarmjaguar says:

      I’d respect both of them a lot more if they said, look, we have an agreement and an unconventional marriage and we are okay with it. Move along, nothing to see here. But that doesn’t seem to be what’s going on, does it.

      • TG says:

        But the whole point of the agreement and unconventional marriage is to hide the truth from everyone and pretend they are in love and have a solid marriage since that is what voters want, otherwise they would just divorce. Same reason actors feel they have to be in fake relationships to protect and/or help their career. But I do agree with you.

  6. Anna says:

    There was some shade thrown her way when she worked for Hillary back in 08? for her extravagant ways and other behaviors. I think her standing by her man is part of a bigger strategy. After all, look what her mentor did with that kind of legacy…

    • Lee says:

      It’s her Muslim Brotherhood connections (along with her mom and brother). Sticking with him after being caught doing this twice seems a bit odd, doesn’t it? She’s not too bright if she stays with him after this.

      • Anna says:

        Not all marriages are conducted in pursuit of domestic/sexual/romantic bliss… Tho I think at this point in the scandal, and in 2013 vs 1998, she would win more politically by ditching him.

      • Virgilia Coriolanus says:

        I watched Anderson Cooper’s show when Bachman was accusing Huma of being part of the Muslim Brotherhood’s nefarious plots. What it was is that Huma’s father ran this charity (in Pakistan, I think), and a man donated money to this charity who was either found out later to be in the Muslim Brotherhood or close to someone who was.

        Yeah, so Bachman’s an idiot, especially since Huma’s father died like twenty years ago and Bachman was trying to say that she had really close, personal ties with the muslim brotherhood to this day.

      • Lee says:

        Huma Abedin’s mother, Dr. Saleha S. Mahmood Abedin is an influential member of the Muslim Brotherhood’s division for women, the Muslim Sisterhood. She is also on the board of Union for Good, which is led by Sheikh Yusuf al-Qaradawi, the chief sharia jurist of the Muslim Brotherhood. He’s issued fatwas endorsing suicide bombings against Israel and terrorist attacks against American forces in Iraq.

        Huma was, from 1996 until late 2008, a member of another of her mother’s Islamist organizations, the Institute of Muslim Minority Affairs.

      • Lee says:

        ugh, now I have to change my user name. I do not want to be associated with these comments…

        -A different Lee.

  7. BooBooLaRue says:

    Run away!

  8. Bridget says:

    I didn’t realize that they’d only been together for 3 years. I say let the scandal die down, then cut your losses Huma!

    • BooBooLaRue says:

      Bridget, this sounds like a most sensible plan. “Carlos Danger” is a douche.

    • Bridget says:

      The part that I find interesting is that there are bigger implications in all this – Huma is still a part of Hilary’s team, and Huma’s personal choices may end up being a part of Hilary’s larger image. In this regard, Huma’s personal decision will potentially affect her professional track, potentially for the rest of her life. I would imagine that she hadn’t expected fidelity but HAD expected discretion, and Weiner has managed to spectacularly fail again. His political future is dead in the water,now the question is whether hers is.

  9. Bijlee says:

    This man is disgusting. He’s also like Bill Clinton’s spiritual son no?

    Damn…jon stewart HAD to be away this summer.

    • alexandra says:

      OMG – Bill Clinton’s spiritual son — you hit the nail on the head!!!

    • Onasan says:

      I know, right? I’m in full John Stewart withdrawal syndrome…

      Well, that’s one thing to look forward to this fall! 😉

      And I agree with the posters above, she should let the scandal die down and then leave him. She has way too much potential to be with this douchebag…

    • QQ says:

      I almost lost it at work cackling!! OMG

    • Raquel says:

      I cannot do that comment adequate praise, so I’ll just say THIS +1000.

  10. lenje says:

    He’s a douchebag, but she’s not less ambitious. Which is not necessarily bad. She’s way more capable than him to run for any office, but being a woman of color – and of Muslim background – it won’t be easy for her. And she, of all people, knows it very well.

    • bluecalling says:

      yup +100000

      she is not stupid. it can happen, but it would take near perfection (see obama campaigns in 2008 2012) and then some (since she is a woman). and that is a lot.

    • Kiddo says:

      Yes, but remaining by his side diminishes her credibility. Hillary Clinton had many years invested with Bill by the time scandals hit. This relationship hasn’t been as long and already his sexual predilections and lack of control have been exposed. She should cut and run.

    • Samtha says:

      Also, his scandal has wrecked or at least severely diminished her chances for holding office, should she ever decide to try. At least IMO.

  11. Stevie says:

    I know it seems naive because cheaters gonna cheat and all that but this guy scores a beautiful talented wife and he can’t even go a year without cheating. I think I’m gonna swear myself to singledom.

    • Cazzee says:

      It has nothing to do with her. Whether Carlos Danger was married to a supermodel or a ham sandwich, it wouldn’t matter – he’d still cheat.

      It’s all about him. It’s ALWAYS all about him.

      Also I totally agree with the ‘sociopathic narcissist’ observation.

    • claire says:

      It’s all him. Cheaters love the thrill.
      That said, I agree: she is very beautiful!

      • Stevie says:

        No I totally agree it’s about him, I just don’t understand men who would risk losing a beautiful talented woman for some cheap thrills. Although I guess there’s no risk if. women don’t leave.

  12. LAK says:

    That essay gave me shades of Bill and Hill. Oh for Christopher Hitchens to skewer them like he did Bill and Hill.

    • Kate says:

      The Bill/Hillary comparisons fall flat when you consider that Bill actually had a great deal of political skill and talent. Weiner is an absolute non-entity. He was a nothing congressman. And stay tuned, Andrew Sullivan is still out there. So is Maureen Dowd. They might transfer their Clinton-venom to these two.

      • TheOriginalKitten says:

        In terms of putting politics before personal matters, there is a very strong parallel between the two couples mentioned.

    • Bridget says:

      But can we at least agree the Anthony Weiner is no Bill Clinton?

    • LAK says:

      Kate – i am not comparing them in terms of skillset, rather in the masterfully written essay that manages to avoid the elephant in the room whilst pushing their agenda forward.

      This essay could have been written by Hilary.

      That’s what i meant by my comparison. I have no opinion on Anthony Weiner as the only thing i know about him is the sexting.

  13. Cerulean Skygirl says:

    I think the most likely reason is the six figure salary she’s getting. Apparently, Hillary is making sure Huma is well taken care of. She wouldn’t be the first woman to sell out because of money. Here’s a link to one of the MANY articles that discuss this:

    http://www.govexec.com/pay-benefits/2013/05/huma-abedin-had-incredibly-sweet-deal-state-department/63259/

    Her husband is a sleazebag and she’s not doing anything to help her reputation by staying with him. Is it possible she really loves him and doesn’t mind him sending lewd sexts and photos of his penis to everyone? Possible. NOT IT’S NOT!!!! ARGH… wake up WOMAN and toss that piece of garbage to the curb.

    • claire says:

      What does that have to do with him? If I’m understanding your post correctly, you’re implying she owes her success to him. Wasn’t she successful and Hilary’s aide or whatever already when she met him?

      • Cerulean Skygirl says:

        What I was trying to imply was the opposite… that she would be equally, if not more successful if she left him… so why stay? I didn’t word my post properly.

        I know there are many reasons a woman would stay with a cheating husband, or a husband who has “issues”, is abusive, etc. Perhaps for the sake of family, reputation, etc. I guess what I’m surprised and disappointed about is NOT that she’s necessarily staying with him, but that she’s supporting his political aspirations in such a public way when it’s obvious (from her body language and facial expressions) that it’s difficult for her to say the things she does during these press conferences.

    • JL says:

      135K isn’t that much money for a salary. We make that here and the cost of living is much less than NY or DC.

      It is however a comfortable living wage and she could make it without Weiner.

      If she’s staying then she wants to, apparently there’s some grand plan she has.

      • MissM says:

        The point is that she was making $135k as a part-time employee of State; she was also allowed to become a consultant and she worked with Teneo (one of my company’s competitors) where she made another 6 figures on top of her State gig.

      • Lauren says:

        Exactly MissM – that’s part-time pay, from the “low paying” of her jobs.

    • kibbles says:

      Money and power are definitely at play here. A couple that makes nearly $500k in one year will stick together if it means the possibility of more power and making even more money if he wins office. I’m sure a lot of people would stay with a cheating spouse for way less.

  14. Nicolette says:

    Excuse me? ‘Poor Huma’ my ass. She is making the decision to stay with this little dick. No one is forcing her to. She must want the possibility of the title of first Lady of NYC really bad to put up with his repeated garbage. Is this the message that should be sent out to wives across the land? That your husband should have no respect for you or your marriage and you should stand by him? Bulls**t. Set an example of strength and independence Huma, and leave his sorry snake ass behind. He’ll probably be busy with yet another online affair, sending selfies/texts and be too wrapped up in it to notice. He certainly doesn’t seem to care does he?

    I had the extreme displeasure of seeing this dick up close at my son’t Little League game a few years ago on opening day, and he’s even more hideous in person believe me. How any woman out there is interested in getting into anything with this weasel is beyond me.

    He is an embarrassment to this city, and I can’t even believe that he has the balls to run for Mayor. After 3 bought and paid for terms of Bloomberg and his self imposed ‘Nanny State’ mentality (now since his attempted soda ban failed miserably he’s preaching that we should all walk the stairs when able to instead of take an elevator, because you know HE rarely uses the elevator in his 5 story townhouse!) we don’t need a schmuck like this for at least 4 years.

    Is this the best we as voters can be offered? I know politicians and scruples do not go hand in hand, but this is beyond pathetic and ridiculous. And I have had enough of these women not having any respect for themselves, and just standing by their husbands as they treat them like crap. They must have sold their souls at some point to put up with it all in exchange for the lifestyle they can get by being married to an elected official. Just once at a press conference I’d like to see one of them go off on their husband the way they should be. Instead they just stand there like Stepford Wives and say ‘Thank you sir, may I have another’. Ugh!

    • Kiddo says:

      I have come to believe that all who are in politics are dirty. The type and level of dirty has infinite possibility and range with the pols, and none of it is good for the people.

    • UmamiMommy says:

      THIS!

    • NeNe says:

      @Nicolette:

      Well said!!!

      +++++++1

      • PHD gossip says:

        +1 – Please send this in as an op ed piece to the NY Post or NY Daily News! The NYC voters need to understand this!

    • LeeBlaylock says:

      How many politicians out there have never cheated on their spouse? My guess is, not many.

  15. Louisa says:

    If she is really looking to have a future in politics for herself, then she is doing herself no favors by staying with him. If he loses the mayoral race or has to drop out then his career is over.
    She will be better off leaving him and sticking with Hillary who is most likely going to run (and win) in 2016.

    If she is staying because she truly loves him and believes they can make it work, then I feel so bad for her. She will never be able to trust him and the anger and resentment will always be there. He is clearly very arrogant – to think he can keep getting away with this. Or very stupid. She is going to keep getting hurt.

  16. logan says:

    She is going to need a semi truck to haul around all that baggage! The whole situation is just creepy. I guess he follows the Bill Clinton way of thinking, “I did not have sex with that (those) woman (women).”

  17. lola lola says:

    She is awesome. I hope she does run for office someday soon. We need smart, strong women to take the place of the wienies!

  18. Itwillrain says:

    Wow, the timing of this is reeeeeally unfortunate…and the “better man” statement is cringe inducing. Wasn’t she rumored to be having a lesbian affair w Hilary? That would explain this “arrangement” she has with Weiner.

  19. ThruRoseColouredGlasses says:

    What gets me is how respectful she speaks about her husband yet he shows no respect for her in return. This mean should not be a part of politics. He is so gross and that’s being kind.

    I don’t think that Hilary standing by Bill makes he a likable person, it’s the work that she’s put in during the course of her own political career that makes her likable. Hilary is remarkable inn the fact that she was able to rise from her husband’s shadows and form her own identity.

  20. Cam S says:

    My boss just walked by my screen on my break and said “Hon, don’t waste your time on this buck tooth doormat or her pencil neck husband”. BOOM! Wow, just wow.

    “Because Anthony has always been a smart, caring, and dedicated person”- Riiight. She is delusional, or needs a dictionary to understand the meaning of those words.

  21. Sabrine says:

    He has had to restrain himself somewhat because of his ambitions. If it wasn’t for that he’d be at his dirty little habit full bore. He obviously can’t stop himself completely. She should chalk one up to experience and move on. This marriage is based on lies and deceit.

  22. superblackwoman87 says:

    this is the type of woman who will stay with their husband, knowing for a fact that he’s a dog…

    but as soon as he leaves her for a another woman, her ass would be on every magazine/tv show

    blaming her failed marriage on the other woman..

    it never fails….

  23. Deidre says:

    His days are numbered if he stays a fool and continues to play around with his good fortune.. knowatimean?

  24. Thinker says:

    I don’t think Bill & Hillary’s marriage is an unfair comparison. Bill& Hill met as young law students in 1970, they’ve had a long history and by all accounts are best friends with a deep respect for each other. Bill just loves women, and at some point Hillary decided that sexual fidelity was not a deal breaker. Many, many couples come to a similar conclusion.

    Contrast, Huma and Anthony have only been together 3 years, the entirety of which he’s been conducting secret cyber affairs. Frankly, the compulsive dick pictures seem more compulsive, more uncontrolled, more like a true sex addiction. Plus the level of narcissism, he goes to his Facebook fan page to find women for these dalliances. It just indicates he sees supporters as people to be used. I really didn’t like the message where he offered the girl a job at Politico in exchange for her deleting all the sexts. That’s how you get ahead in Weiner’s cabinet.

    I think New Yorkers would’ve forgiven him, along with Huma the first time, but you know that old expression: Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice… New Yorkers don’t like to be shamed!

    • Thinker says:

      Correcting my own horrible double negative, triple axel, disaster of grammatical proportions.

      What I meant to say was: “I don’t think it’s a fair comparison…”

  25. Aud says:

    I have no respect for such women. They are everything that is wrong with today’s society, giving off mixed messages, being terrible examples for all girls and women out there.
    One day her son will learn that all women are to be exploited and used, just like his mother allowed herself to be.
    This couple is the example of how these types of dysfunctional relationships continue, because one half of the couple stays and the other continues the BS. Why? Because that is what they must have learned from their respective parents. No woman [or man] wakes up one day and says that their ambition is to be married to such a person and tolerate it unless they’ve seen this example throughout their life and it has been reinforced as a viable example.
    Get this woman to a therapist.

  26. OhDear says:

    I think it’s unfair to say that the Clintons have a hand in Abedin’s decision – the Clintons are said to strongly dislike Weiner and only tolerate him because of Abedin. In fact, some people close to the Clintons think that her being involved with Weiner & his mayoral campaign may hamper her ability to be Hillary Clinton’s aide.

    http://www.nytimes.com/2013/05/24/nyregion/huma-abedin-is-an-unexpected-driving-force-in-weiners-comeback.html?pagewanted=all

    • kibbles says:

      Yes, I just read that the Clintons don’t like Weiner in another article. If Hillary really does see Huma as a daughter, it is likely that she would be just as furious as a real mom who finds out her baby girl is in a horrible marriage. Just because Hillary put up with cheating doesn’t mean she’d want Chelsea or Huma to go through the same experience. A lot of people here think Hillary is telling Huma to stay in the marriage, but I would place my bet on Hillary currently working with Huma on a variety of options from what to do if Huma decides to stay with Carlos Danger or when and how to get the hell out of this horrible marriage and use the experience to build her own political career.

      • gg says:

        I feel like they may be doing that now, and if so, good! But I don’t think Hillary started hating him immediately when the first batch of embarrassing stuff came out; and if she did, she’s a big ole hypocrite living out her vicarious fantasies of kicking out the man, which she never had the balls to do herself.

        One of those, “do as I say, not as I do”.

    • Thinker says:

      I believe it. The Clinton’s are hyper vigilant about making promises they cannot keep. Although Democrats, they are quite centrist and take a more balanced stance on issues based on a more national/international perspective. Comparatively, Weiner is a loud obnoxious representative of an opinionated region of the country. Weiner is like a local access weatherman. He’s a sideshow. He is about loudly declaring a stance on nearly every major political issue.

  27. JL says:

    Here’s a thought.

    Ole Billy likes a little on the side and I’m sure he knows how to use a phone.

    Hillary knows this and doesn’t care because, hey she’s got her on phone.

    Hillary takes her girl to a party and introduces her to “Billy Jr” and Weiner gets her number.

    Weiner throws out that dick on her just like the rest, she puts a little puss back at him, they come to a political agreement, get married by Bill Clinton none the less and the wedding pictures where something to see.

    Poor Humna, sheez Huma must be getting off on this just like he does.

    • Thinker says:

      This would make a wayyyyy better plot than the one written for Nailin’ Palin.

  28. roxy750 says:

    She is beautiful, very smart and I don’t know why she is with or even chose such a tool to begin with

  29. pantalones en fuego says:

    D*ck pics aside, she should divorce him just for using the name “Carlos Danger”.

  30. gg says:

    Poor lady. I feel like Hillary probably sat her down at the beginning and gave her the speech on settling, compromising your integrity and throwing all your plans of a healthy relationship out the window in favor of political gain.

  31. kingkayski says:

    She can try to Humanized him all she want,but what this comes down to is that she done saddled herself to a horndog ,and once a horndog is always a horndog.I kind of think she’s loving this too,(politician wife),otherwise why would she stay.

  32. dcypher1 says:

    His wife seems like a really nice person who supports her husband no matter what. I don’t understand why he looks for strange on the net when he has her at home. I don’t get it.

    • gg says:

      He’s a sex addict and needs therapy. He’s addicted to the sex and the danger – hence his little Carlos Danger moniker. Sickening.

    • CindyKennedy says:

      He has a sex addiction of some sort. Although he may never have actually had sex with any of these women. His wife may not consider flirtatious sex talk with bimbos to be real “cheating”.

      We need to remember that Weiner has not raped anyone or molested any children! What he has done pales in comparison to other public figures, such as Roman Polanski who raped a 13 year old & got away with it, and is still a big time movie producer.

      People need to let him alone, if you don’t like him do not vote for him.

  33. LaurieH says:

    Look, I get it. NYC is a liberal town. Anthony Weiner is a liberal guy. But in the greatest city in the world, filled to the gills with smart, creative people, is Anthony Weiner the best they can come up with? Can they not find someone to pimp their politics who doesn’t also publicly pimp his penis? Is that too much to ask? As to Huma, she’s smart for sure – but honestly, what kind of woman puts up with this crap (and please God, don’t say it’s because she lurves him…barf). When the price you have to pay for love is your dignity, you most surely aren’t getting what you paid for. As far as Huma getting elected (if she were so inclined, which I doubt she is) – why not? So what if she’s a Muslim? It’s NYC and they’re inclined to vote for a penis poser.

    • Thinker says:

      NYC politics are notoriously corrupt and controlled by entrenched interest groups.

      All the smart, creative people living in the greatest city in the world need to make enough money to live here. Politics just doesn’t pay the bills. Plus, you’ve got to pay your dues to the entrenched interests (the MTA, the Port Authority, the Police and Firefighters, the Wallstreet Banks) and you’ve got to make nice with all the scheming state representatives who, due to political gerrymandering, are reelected term after term in guaranteed districts, all while facing indictment for bribery, perjury, fraud, etc. (Consider congressman Charlie Rangel as an example). And finally, in New York there are people living about the law. International diplomats aren’t even operating under New York jurisdiction. It’s tough to run a city with all these factors balanced out. Bloomberg has been amazing because the man is a creative, successful New Yorker, who just happens to be richer than the Catholic Church, and thus is about bribery and able to make independent choices without fear of losing corporate support. The Soda Tax was ridiculed, but it was a big step against corporate interests.

      • Janet says:

        I have to give Bloomberg his props. He’s been a good mayor. He’s one of the very few Republicans I’ve ever voted for. That he could be elected three times in an overwhelmingly Democratic city says a lot about him, I think. Of course Bloomberg comes off as something of an anomaly when most Republicans in office seem to be competing with each other to see who can stand farther to the right of Attila the Hun.

  34. Kelly says:

    She doesn’t sound particularly smart to me. Hope he loses. Gross.

  35. Beatrice says:

    I am sick of disgraced politicians (of either party) further humiliating their wives by trotting them out at press conferences to show their support. I have no respect for the women that agree to that either. A woman may choose to forgive a wandering dong (or pic of said dong) but stay home and let the guy defend himself!

  36. Cazzee says:

    Plus, on top of everything else, there’s the fact that several of Weiner’s little texting relationships have been with teenagers or women barely out of their teens.

    Ew.

  37. ParisPucker says:

    she deserves better.

    • ParisPucker says:

      oh wow, just read that article about her shady behavior. does anyone fight for dignity anymore??

      • LeeBlaylock says:

        What shady behavior? You mean putting up with her husband? That’s been known for a long time.

  38. bonitamamcita says:

    Because Ms. Abedin forgave her husband, the public is supposed to forgive her husband? Is that what we’re supposed to think? I agree with Ms. Abedin on one point, this is between her, her husband and her marriage. Just because she forgave him and accepts him doesn’t mean voters will, nor does it mean they should.

  39. AnnaJoe says:

    I remember alot of Democrats forgave Bill Clinton and he did much worse. New York is very liberal.I don’t think sexting is a big deal to alot of people there,especially other liberal Democrat voters.I am a liberal myself and I’ll tell you that I understand that finding a mayor,governer or senator that can get people jobs and help them keep their unemployment and lower propery taxes is much more important to people than sex scandals.Sorry but it is true, in this economy people are much more worried about finding jobs and paying rent than who a politician is sexting or sleeping with.

    • Kiddo says:

      Liberal here too, but are there no other options? I mean really, the man lost everything and still couldn’t keep his eye on the bigger picture, instead he focused on the little picture of his dick. Someone better can look to deal with the larger issues like the economy and jobs, why is he so special that he should remain in the race? He’s not, unless you want to call an uncontrollable compulsion special. At least Clinton had charisma on his side to play the game with both parties and by comparison he was more discrete. Weiner is not the least bit charismatic nor believable. This is not to say I love Clinton. There are a lot of policies that he initiated that put us where we ended up, but let’s not continuously lower the bar of standards. It’s bad enough as it is.

    • Thinker says:

      New York independent voter here. The word is Weiner is toast now. He was leading with women voters, who forgave the last scandal and liked his wife. My opinion is that this new scandal, the timeline of it going down during his “I’m sorry” tour – with his wife there – women are going to feel lied to and disrespected by the callous obviousness of it. It seems more like a poor judgment issue, especially the fact he offered the girl a job in exchange for her deleting the sexts.

      Apologizing by day, sexting by night. The Carlos Danger Story.

    • Mia says:

      It was okay when Weiner pulled this crap the first time, but now it’s proven that he’s an inveterate pervert and probably a sociopath. Who does this kind of thing twice, knowing that you’re going to be running for Mayor of NYC, knowing that you’re going to be subject to public scrutiny? And then having the nerve to continue to run after being caught red handed? He has no shame, he’s a liar, and if he ever became mayor he’d become a liability that would be way too easy to blackmail with a bunch of sex scandals.

    • LaurieH says:

      I’m going to say something quite unpopular, but why not. Free country, right? I am a libertarian, not a liberal, but while Clinton’s politics bothered me, his personal life didn’t. Is that weird? Perhaps it’s because on some level, I understood Bill’s need to seek affection and sex elsewhere. Hillary may be a smart cookie, but she’s not exactly what anyone would call sensual. Bill, on the other hand, was rather dripping in sensuality, if in an Arkansas bubba kind of way. Weiner, on the other hand, is annoying to me on all levels. Not just his politics which for me are so ridiculous that they’re easy for me to ignore, but his smarmy face and grating voice. I think Huma is way too good for him, but I honestly do question her attraction to him (and all the sexting women): are women really that hard-up to get close to power that they’ll sell their souls to sidle up to a pervert? I guess so! I can understand Hillary forgiving Bill to. Theirs is a marriage of political convenience. She took his infidelity and used it to her political advantage and there was advantage to be had because her husband had been President. No judgment – if they are cool with that, so am I. But Huma? She’s no Hillary Clinton. And Weiner? He doesn’t have Bill’s political coattails. In short, Bill was a horny guy. Weiner is a creep.

  40. Squee says:

    she’s giving me major anne hathaway vibes in the first photo – in a good way!

  41. taxi says:

    If she were smart, she’d have taken off a long time ago. There’s something way off about a woman who tries to convince the public that her husband’s obsession with displaying his schlong won’t in any way affect his ability to perform the job of NYC Mayor. Toss his phone, Huma, grow a spine, and go solo. Unless she gets off on his sexts?

    • cw says:

      well said!!

      there is something wrong with a person who’d stick up for that

      maybe the first time, she was preggers….well….but now NO WAY

  42. Harryg says:

    Leave him Now.

  43. Ktx says:

    Well, she certainly has better taste in clothes than she does in men. I adore that blue dress she’s wearing. Gorgeous!

  44. lisa says:

    her caps are gigantic

    she and miley should form a support group for victims of expensive but bad dentistry

  45. Liz Johnson says:

    My husband and I are good Baptists who worship every Wednesday and twice on Sundays. My husband is an upstanding member of the community. We are conservative and have strong family morals, but that doesn’t hold us back from having fun.

    When we get home Sunday nights, we tuck the kids in then I get our secret laptop out and start cruising Craigslist Casual Encounter advertisements. I pick out my five favorites and then he chooses what role to play for the evening. His favorite is the fat dirty old goat farmer who loves spanking young ladies in the back of his beat up old pick up truck. Other times he’s a 21 year-old stripper who is a nymphomaniac. It’s so uplifting to see God working within him!

    Used to love sending our own pictures out until I sent one of my unmentionables to our preacher’s wife! If your husband says he’s never been on CL and at least thought about some anonymous sexting: it’s 100 percent truth he is not being honest.

    After two hours of sexting my husband gets off that computer and on me where he fills me with the Holy Spirit! Hear my testimony: that couple that sexts together have SEX together and stay monogamous.

    Embrace technology and let that freak flag fly high! CAN I GET AN AMEN?

  46. Tig says:

    Here is a bit of sick humor- who have thought SC and NYC would have had 2 lying cheating scumbags running for office AGAIN after being caught out? Now, SC voters returned Mark Sanford AKA Tanlines to US House- remains to be seen what NYC voters do.

    • taxi says:

      That did surprise me. I’d think the whole “hiking in Appalachia” while he was really smooching w/his version of Ms Argentina would have shut down any female voters, as well as anyone else who expects honesty. Sympathy votes because his wife left him eventually?
      Spitzer’s problem is perhaps more “curable” than Weiner’s. Weiner was widely disliked by his congressional colleagues, in part due to his abrasive personality.

      • Tig says:

        In SC, once you win the Republican primary, you’re pretty much in. There were many folks running, primary turnout is usually low, and other than that, have no logical explanation for you. Some folks theorized it was the fact he had “name recognition”- go figure.

  47. Mia says:

    He’s totally a sociopath. He’s not even embarrassed and he’s arrogant enough to still continue with this campaign despite the fact that he was caught red handed. Classic sociopathic behavior. I wish his wife has some dignity and finally decides to leave him, after his second time pulling this crap. I hope Christine Quinn ends up becoming mayor. She has the best chance of becoming mayor, she’s progressive, and she’s always been heavily involved in community service. I wish she wanted to completely get rid of stop and frisk, but with her we have a better chance of modifying it then we ever have with Bloomberg.

  48. Ellen says:

    I lost all respect for her at the latest press conference. I now believe she is as big a tool as he is.

    I had sympathy and respect for her original choice. I have none now, and certainly would never want her representing my Democratic self even as dog catcher.

    At this point, she deserves what she gets. Venereal or otherwise.

  49. cw says:

    UGH! what is wrong with the stupid bloody woman

    Leave him already

    I’m starting to think there is something wrong with her.

  50. Cici says:

    For all the people saying Huma is anice, beautiful, smart, brilliant, woman who doesn’t deserve him, can do better, etc. How do you know? From what I can see, Huma had a pretty great career going and then picked out this smug, scummy, sleazy, narcissistic, douche, possible pedo, pervert to marry and support in his political career. Then when it becomes public that he is a pervert, she uses all her talent and energy defending him and plays along with his lies. She gets pregnant, and presents the picture of a happy family with him as the reformed, chastened adoring husband. She poses for pictures and articles and gets lots of attention for it all. When it becomes public he is STILL a pervert and STILL a liar, she goes public and does more interviews about their marriage, therapy and life together and his greatness as a man and a candidate. This is classic enabling to me. She’s no different propping him up, than the partner of a drug dealer or a drunk driver. No thanks.

  51. Ravensdaughter says:

    She should have stayed at the State Department.
    The essay itself is a textbook example of a woman trying to keep her world from falling apart.
    It’s also a lengthy endorsement for Weiner for Mayor of NYC.
    He doesn’t have a chance……

  52. good artical for me. thank you.