Marc Anthony’s ex wife, Dayanara Torres, was pretty much blindsided by his then-romance with Jennifer Lopez. Former beauty queen Torres and Anthony had been married just three years and had two young boys together when Anthony left her for Lopez. (They had separated prior to that but had renewed their vows afterwards.) Anthony secured a quickie divorce in the Dominican Republic in 2004 and then married Lopez. Torres hasn’t confirmed whether or not Anthony cheated on her with Lopez, as was widely assumed, but she did explain how his leaving affected her, and how she was so shocked and devastated that she stayed in bed for days afterwards. So in a roundabout way Torres sort-of claimed that she was not separated from Anthony when he took up with Lopez.
That was nearly ten years ago, and Anthony has of course inevitably filed for divorce from Jennifer Lopez. That divorce is not finalized yet and it’s been about a year and a half since Anthony filed. (He now has a 21 year-old British girlfriend, Topshop heiress Chloe Green.) In the mean time, Torres wants her child support raised from $13,000 a month to $113,000 a month. TMZ reports that she’s living in a small apartment and can’t afford to make ends meet:
Marc Anthony’s ex-wife claims the singer has turned a cold shoulder on her children … forcing them to sell their home and move into a hovel in the Valley … while he lives like a king.
Dayanara Torres — the 1993 Miss Universe — wants a huge increase in child support — from $13K per month for their 2 sons, to $113K a month. It’s an enormous increase, but she says it’s a drop in the bucket for Marc — who this year boasted he makes $1.25 mil a month — MINIMUM.
It’s especially infuriating for Dayanara, who claims Marc played the poverty card during their divorce, claiming he had such money trouble he had to sell his private island and let some of his staff go. Now get this … the week the divorce became final, she says he bought JLo a $4 MILLION RING!
Dayanara says Marc goes weeks and even months without seeing their boys, one of whom has special needs. She mentions one instance where he told the boys he couldn’t visit because of work, but then they saw him on TV cavorting on a beach with JLo. They were devastated.
Dayanara gives Marc backhanded credit for giving the kids lavish gifts. For example, last XMAS he sent them 4 huge boxes of toys, including an extravagant Lego set. But she says their apartment is so small they have no space to play with them.
She also grouses that Marc actually PAYS JLO child support, and a lot of it — way more than she gets.
I don’t understand how someone is unable to live on $156,000 a year. Of course Anthony should pay more support to his kids given his wealth, but at the same time I don’t get how someone making over six figures has to live in a small apartment. I live in the country now though, it’s expensive to have a home in populated areas and from what I understand California is especially pricey. Also, J.Lo gets child support?! Her estimated net worth is $250 million dollars.
This reminds me of the recent story of Jon Cryer’s ex wife wanting her child support, for their 13 year-old son, increased from $8k a month to $89k a month. Cryer’s son goes to an exclusive private school, where his mom’s measly $96k a year in child support is chump change.
It does seem supremely unfair that Lopez, with her massive earnings and bought and paid-for lover, gets more child support from Anthony than his first wife. More than that he doesn’t seem to care about his kids from that marriage, which is just sad for them.
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I don’t make $13k in a YEAR. I manage to live in a small apartment in the Keys just fine, and support a furry family. While, yes, a man like MA who makes obscene money should pay more in child support than your average Joe Schmo, 113k A MONTH is a little ridiculous.
I think the extra cost has to do with the fact that the article mentions one of their kids is special needs. Depending on how severe, that could be extremely expensive. It’s still a TON of money, but I can see how they aren’t living lavishly
I don’t know, but suspect that he’s also paying for any medical needs, school, and whatnot. She could easily get a nice rental in Calabasas for around $5k, let her kids go to public school and have enough for them to live on at $13K a month. She’s just not living the lifestyle she imagined she would being the ex-wife an international celebrity.
When I lived in LA waaaaaaaay back, I worked in Beverly Hills and the jewelry designer there tried to get me to go out with this Iranian multi-millionaire who used to come in and ask me out all the time. This is what he said to me, “Go out with him, get him to marry you, punch out a couple of kids, divorce him and you’ll be set for the rest of your life.” I think that is a prevailing thought of many in that area.
Sherry, it’s not a question of her living the lifestyle she imagined, it’s her (and HIS) kids. The way child support works is that the kids are most certainly entitled to live the lifestyle of children of an international celebrity if that’s who one of their parents happen to be. MA doesn’t get to say “they have more than the average American family” and be done with it.
And no, $13K a month in LA does not equal international celebrity. Period.
Totally agree, TQB. I think people get pretty fired up at these sums of money but the principle is sound. We need to quit thinking about how that amount of money impacts our lives, rather than those children being also-rans to Jennifer Lopez’s kids. Which isn’t frickin’ fair.
Okay… to those saying that the kids are entitled to live XYZ life – NO. They’re not. Frankly, I don’t think ANYONE is entitled to live the the lives these spoiled, pampered twats live, but those are the values of the world we live in… save lives or teach people to read and you can struggle; spit out some formulaic pop and flash your business on the red carpet, and you get a car that costs more than people’s houses. But hey, is what it is. HOWEVER… it’s still not those kids that made the money. They’re entitled to be safe, well-nourished and educated. Not to be raised like little princes because Daddy hit the jackpot. While I agree that it’s pretty disgusting for someone that rich to shaft his kids, they’d be a hell of a lot better off receiving a normal, comfortable-but-not-lavish upbringing from a Dad who loves them, then being showered with money and turned into entitled little monsters.
I live in So Cal, and we sure as hell don’t need 13k a month to do so. We own a house. While living in CA can be expensive (gas prices!), it’s really not unattainable. One does not need to live large to have a great quality of life.
But the issue isn’t whether or not they can manage — it’s the huge disparity between his income and his child support.
Plus, they are kids of a famous father and there is a a HUGE expectation people will have because of that. That makes it tough.
Is it so difficult to figure out. He should pay for Dianara’s two kids exactly what he pays for JLo’s two kids.
Agreed. If he’s making that type money, then some of it should go to his children. ALL of his children. If he’s pulling in millions a month, then surely he can give his kids a small portion of that. Its about 10%, right? Surely his kids are worth 10% of his monthly earnings.
She doesn’t deserve more money for any reason. If there are legitimate extra expenses for the children such as school or activities or therapy or whatever Dad should pay for it but $13k is more than enough for a family of three to live quite comfortably. I’m sorry she didn’t get all she wanted out of her marriage but she picked him and she lives quite comfortably as a result of that choice.
I feel bad for the kids if Marc Anthony actually doesn’t see them, but how is it impossible to raise 2 kids on 13k a month?! I’m guessing she doesn’t work? 113k a month is more than some households make in a year and they raise two kids on that.
Anne, so true. Since they’re her children too, she should get a job; like many of regular divorce women do.
we don’t know the degree/severity of the “special needs” the one child has so it’s quite possible, paying for extra care for her special needs child while she’s at work would end up in a net loss (heck, for many women, the cost of child care while they’re working eats up much of the income from their jobs)
Why should she get a job, when their father is making millions a month? Seems to me that she shouldn’t have to ASK. Does he think so little of his children, that he’s okay with keeping so much, while they have little (compared to what he’s earning)? I understand not wanting to give HER any money, since he’s no longer married to HER. But there is no way to separate the child from the mother. She’s their primary caretaker. So any money will HAVE to go through her. AND on top of this, HE left THEM, not the other way around.
I was thinking while reading this: “Where do you get the numbers to jump up almost $100K?” I would assume that if this goes into court, the judge is going to ask that question and look at what she is spending her monies on.
The judge should be looking at her exes income, and he’s stated he makes $1.2 million a MONTH. GIven that, do you still think $13K is fair? I don’t.
I never brought up his income because obviously it is a significant amount. But what I’m asking is, where does she justify coming up with almost a $100k increase in support? Also, how would a judge in a case like this see where the expenses would go to that would be appropriate to give her the raise in child support?
It’s not my place to get into that Steph. But I do think she’s justified in asking for it.
Let me ask you this. You have two children, and your ex has two children with another woman. You’re getting OK child support, but you find out your ex is paying his other ex a lot more money than you are getting in child support even though that ex makes more money than you. As the whole child support thing is about parity in a family, would you still feel OK about the other woman getting more money? Would you worry how it would affect your children? I would.
In California the courts use a computer program called the Dissomaster. Its purpose is to take into account the high cost of living here, it does make allowances for child care, schooling and other such things the non-custodial parent may pay. So, I doubt Dayanara just pulled that figure out of thin air, she probably got it from her lawyer, as running a Disso report is one of the first things they do when looking to adjust child support. It goes by income and time spent with each parent, which it sounds like is 100% with their mother in this case.
I have a friend whose ex took her to court to try and lower the paltry 400/mo he was paying for two kids, who he barely saw, and he ended up having it raised to 1200/mo. The judge told him he was lucky because he could raise it higher, as the ‘father’s’ first response was, “How am I supposed to pay MY bills?” *eyeroll* And, yes my friend works, a lot.
Sorry for the rant.
Child support is based off of the non-custodial spouse’s income. So if he’s making a lot more than he was at the time of the amount being set, then he shoukd be paying a lot more. That’s how it works,
It would be good of Marc to give her her say another $10 K a month. She could live very well on that. As it is now, she’s just plain greedy. The courts should not change the original agreement. What she’s after here is to feather her nest for when the kids are grown.
He seems like a total jerk and should do right by his kids, but if she’s living in a “hovel” on $13K/month, she doesn’t need more money, she needs money management classes.
This. She DESERVES more money given what the man makes, but the fact that she’s claiming to barely make ends meet is ridiculous. Fiance and I combined clear around 40k a year. Which is better than a lot of couples, and we do live in a small area. We are only in our early 20s, and managed two buy a house that suits us, have around 2acres of land with that, own two newer cars, and pay student loans without being super tight for money. This woman is bringing in more than 110k a year JUST off of child support.
Why does she deserve more money at all? Their marriage is long over and their children are well cared for. She’s just greedy.
Sooooo true !
Parents should make the same contribution to their kids upbringing once seperated as they would have if they’d stayed together. True most of us could manage to survive quite well on 6 figures but why should patents get to treat their kids lesser than they treat themselves. Pretty sure Anthony isn’t restricting himself to that much.
Agreed.
+2
Exactly!
I also agree.
Just a small increase to adjust for inflation, then.
Ha!
SMH
I simply don’t understand how $13,000 isn’t enough to live on, irrespective of the details of his earnings.
It’s not about what she can live on. It’s about what he’s putting her through and what she deserves as recompense for that. He should give her what she wants just because he’s a sleaze and a deadbeat. She shouldn’t have to “get by”. She should have some modicum of luxury. Raising two kids alone, still a young woman. She deserves it. He should give her what she wants — no questions asked.
Not sure he should have to write her a blank check, but I do think your point that she and her kids shouldn’t just have to get by is valid.
Just bc she had kids by a rich guy, it doesnt entitle her to ridiculous amounts of money forever. shes entitled to enough to support the kids and thats it. no way she needs 113k a month. If he didnt have money, she wouldnt have lookec at him twice, much less married and had kids by him.she was looking for a feee ride then and she is now.
@ snowflake
He left her for another woman with whom he created a new family. A woman — lest we forget!! — that he’d had a relationship with before his marriage. A woman he’d been pining over for years. THIS woman is the one he dumped his wife for. Yes, she deserves a lifetime of support for being dumped, publicly humiliated, and left with two kids — one with special needs — to care for. I have not suggested she be given a blank check or ridiculous amounts of money. I’m suggesting that at the very least she be gifted with a modicum of luxury as recompense for her life being completely up-ended, and for being left as a single mother.
Suggesting that was she looking for a free ride then and is now is really cruel. You know nothing about this woman, and the fact that you see her as a gold-digger when she had a legitimate relationship and created a family with this man really shows a cynicism and mistrust of women.
@maureen, just bc someone does you wrong, that does not mean you deserve to be supported for life. people get married, have kids, take a chance, every day. just bc it doesnt work out, doesnt mean he has 2 support u for the rest of your life. So what shes a single mom? Many are and they dont get 13k a month. somehow tbe other sinlr who didnt golddig are m this is another golddigger trying to get moyney
Maureen, what you’re describing isn’t child support, it’s alimony.
I just said what TRJ said. Child support isn’t based on what we think is appropriate. There’s supposed to be parity between the two households, and Antony has houses all over the world. $13K a month is not a lot by his standards at all. In fact, I’d go as far as to say it’s criminal he’s paying so little.
Think about what regular people have to pay as a percent of their income and do the math. He’s been getting off easy.
@snowflake – you clearly don’t understand how child support works. Its based on the ome of the non-custodial parent – as in, what they woukd have been contributing if they were still a part of thatbfamily. We may not agree with how she spends that money within her family, but it doesn’t make her any less legally entitled to it.
Child support is based on income & who has physical custody. If he’s making over a million a month, it should be adjusted upwards & a child’s special needs is also factored in. Maybe not 113k a month…I think maybe 25k per month & he covers medical expenses.
I agree that it’s silly to say she can’t make ends meet, but I hope she gets an increase. I can’t understand or sympathize with men who forget about their children when they leave their wife. What a jerk.
Totally. And I think the actual numbers are irrelevant. It’s the principle. She has to say she can’t live on what he’s giving her in order to sue for more. I don’t take it literally.
He publicly humiliated her and acted like a dog in heat chasing after JLo. To watch that play out in the press must have been excruciating. She earned the money just for going through that hell.
That aside, based on everything in the article, I would go after as much money as I can just to even the scales. Hit him where it hurts….in the pocket.
I hope she gets it.
Totally and 100% agree with Maureen and Tiffany.
Too many of you are getting hung up on the numbers. Just because he screwed her over within their marriage doesn’t mean the children should have to pay.
She’s probably asking for a normal percentage of his take home pay — much like it’s figured for us normal folk.
If they live in LA and the kids go to private school…………there goes at least 13k a month easy.
Not to mention that the one child has special needs. That can mean increased medical needs, special schooling, technology to meet the child’s needs. It gets very, very expensive.
Also, he could have a stipulation in their divorce agreement about where the kids can live. If she’s legally required to live in LA to make visitation for him easier, she won’t be able to find cheap rent.
Technically, she might also end up supporting the special needs child well into his adult years, if not for the rest of her life.
Many non-custodial parents pay half their income in child support.
Just on the J.Lo point… Yes, she is worth more money than I can imagine, but I don’t see the issue with her getting child support if the kids are in her physical custody most of the time. He is the father and should still contribute to the financial costs of raising his kids. If he was the parent with primary physical custody, I would argue that J.Lo should have to provide him child support the same way, even though Mark is worth millions on his own.
Emilly, I believe you missed the point of the J.Lo reference – it did not make an issue of the fact that J.Lo is receiving child support, but that even given her net worth she is receiving more child support for her children then D.T is
I don’t know about anybody else, but I see a HUGE issue there
I think that was a separate point, but I believe there was also an implication that maybe J.Lo shouldn’t get any child support. I was making my argument based on this specific line: “Also, J.Lo gets child support?! Her estimated net worth is $250 million dollars.”
I was just saying why I thought that line was unfair. The comparison between J.Lo and his other ex’s child support is another issue I wasn’t even touching on. The thought that some parents with primary physical custody should shoulder almost all of the financial costs of raising their kids because they make a certain amount when the non-primary custody parent is able to make a contribution just annoyed me.
I haven’t seen anywhere where people say Lopez shouldn’t get child support. He helped make them, he needs to support them. That being said, it is criminal she gets more than his first wife.
Sounds less like child support and more like ex wife support. A kid needs school tuition, food, clothing and legos. That’s not six figures a month.
When their half siblings live Lopez’ lifestyle and their father as well? Talk about issues for a therapist in a few years.
No way, it’s ridiculous to suggest they will have mental health issues because their siblings live a more affluent lifestyle, come on! Yes, materialism is rampant in our culture but money doesn’t buy happiness and I could give a damn how much money other family members have. Being poor in a rich family does not make you crazy it makes you appreciate how empty and worthless money can be.
Marc Anthony makes me sick. Look at him standing there in that picture with all those crosses and religious medals around his neck. Hypocrite!!!
As for the exes and money: Whether she “can get by” on what she has or not I don’t think is the issue. I have to admit I too would be furious if my extremely wealthy ex was living the high life while I got by on less than a doctor’s salary while raising two children alone. I don’t honestly think there’s ENOUGH money to give her for what she deserves. He should man up and give her whatever she wants. JUST BECAUSE.
I agree with you. Plus she is not asking money for the other baby, baby Casper.
Why does she DESERVE a 1000% raise, though? She’s a beauty queen who married a singer – it’s not like she actively contributed to his career, as if they had been business partners. Obviously he should pay a fair and appropriate amount of child support, but expecting never to have to work again because you were pretty 15 years ago sounds a tad gold-diggery to me!
No one is claiming she deserves to be paid because she was pretty 15 years ago.
YOU said that. YOU are mocking and deriding her because of her past as a beauty queen. And what does her having married a singer have to do with anything?? Does she deserve to be treated with less respect because she was a beauty queen who married a singer? Would it be better if she were a former lawyer who married a doctor? What exactly would it take for this woman to be respected by you after her husband left her and their children for another woman and made a new family whom he financially contributes to?
I outlined clearly why I think she deserves to be paid what she wants.
When you are a single mother of a special needs child your choices are to not work and stay home with the kids, or hire a nanny so that you can go work. Both of those options require support from him.
she deserves the raise because he can afford it and all his children should be given the same lifestyle. and she has a special needs child which requires alot of money and can eat up that 13K a month quickly.
@Maureen:
“What exactly would it take for this woman to be respected by you?”
Maybe if she got a job of her own? Or learned to budget? This woman did nothing but had a couple of kids with a wealthy man and expects to live in the lap of luxury for the rest of her life because of it. That’s completely different to a doctor/lawyer giving up their career for their family…
@ Tapioca
You’re one of several people in this thread who have bashed this woman for 1) being a former beauty queen; 2) marrying a wealthy man; 3) having children with her own husband.
It’s really, really distasteful to me and I’m going to back away from this thread now. This is too much negativity directed at a woman who is a mother and who has never shown ANY evidence of being a famewhore or a gold-digger or anyone but a nice person. She isn’t asking you all for your money. She’s asking her ex-husband, as is her right, and her motives (as well as the details of her personal life and those of her children) are known to her and her only. Everything else here is gross speculation that makes me really uncomfortable.
Tapioca, I don’t think the numbers are relevant. It’s not about budgeting or living within her means. It doesn’t say anywhere that she isn’t already doing those things.
As I said up thread, she went through a very public and humiliating breakup with him. He’s worth a ridiculous amount of money, yet he gives JLo more than her? Why? That’s totally unfair – especially since she is caring for a special needs child, which many have said can eat up a good portion of that $13k.
However, based on what she went through, I think this is more about payback and evening the scales. The amount he is giving JLo opened the door for her new lawsuit, and I think anyone in her shoes would do the same.
I hope she wins, just for the principle.
He needs to give this woman and her two children a better life. It doesn’t matter whether she contributed to his finances or not, she is raising these two kids alone. These two boys are his and if he had any integrity as a father/man, he would do the right thing by his children.
I’m sure she expects the figure to be cut down. Aim high and get something in the middle.
Still makes her sound RIDICULOUS.
Maybe the special needs child has large expenses?
“Maybe the special needs child has large expenses?”
Ya think?
Hey, I don’t know what her child’s issues are. Octomom gets extra money from the government for her “special needs” children but I couldn’t tell you what their problems are. “Special needs” does not necessarily mean something horribly expensive. Do you know what is wrong with the kid?
Sometimes men should just keep it in their pants.
No. Men shouldn’t dump their wives and children to get new wives and make new children. It’s that simple.
JLO is all about money and probably negotiated airtight legal documents before she married him she wanted kids and he signed on the dotted line to pay their way.
Obviously.
Ordinarily I can’t fathom the “I can’t get by on $13K so I want $113K” but you know, factoring in the circumstances, I’m on her side for some sort of increase. Plus there’s a premium to be paid if you’re as absentee as he appears to be.
Normally i’d agree that she should learn to live in 13k a month, but if Jennifer Lopez’s 2 kids are getting 100k + per month, why should his older sons receive a substantial amount less when both women have 2 children with him?
particularly when JLO isnt exactly hurting for her own cash. Marc antony is gross either way.
EXACTLY.
I don’t understand why people believe that children “deserve” that much money for child support if the father is super wealthy.
I’m sorry but even if the daddy is a billionaire, if he wants nothing to do with the kids, paying 10k a month is more than generous. That’s enough to raise the child appropriately with music/sports lessons, camp trips, etc. and also to hire babysitters and nannies.
I’d like to add that the father could “raise” the child by himself through hiring a full time nanny and not have anything to do with the child and keep the money spent super minimum. As long as the child is fed, has a roof, etc. then the law can’t and won’t do anything so again, I hate this attitude of “well if the father is super rich, the kid he doesn’t want deserves 100k a month in child support.” I remember this similar sentiment over Salma Hayek’s husband not “giving enough” child support to his son compared to how much was being spent on Salma & his child.
because all your children should be treated fairly and equally without favoritism. how would you like it if your parents treated you like the castoff child they wanted to forget? children are not objects to be tossed away when you don’t feel like it anymore.
So you think it is okay to lavish time and money on the kid that the wealthy man does want but the one he doesn’t want should just get by on the minimum? Makes me sick this attitude. If a man doesn’t want kids by a certain woman then don’t have sex with said person. Marc Anthony wanted those kids before JLo came around. I even remember JLo playing the loving step-mom to those kids. I knew she was fake even then and so was he.
Put yourself in those children’s shoes. How would YOU feel if your siblings lived much better than you, and found out your dad pays a whole lot more to keep them happy than he does you. I say there isn’t enough money in the world for your therapy bills.
The law doesn’t let you decide which of your children you like best. Child support is based on income, not parental favor (and sensibly so, because otherwise it would encourage frugal people to abandon their children emotionally so they could have lower child support payments).
Aside from all that, it’s unfair to characterize these children like as being ones he “doesn’t want.” He wanted these children plenty while he was married to their mother.
Gossy — the laws differ from state to state. I am not sure where Daynara and the boys are living.
But I think the baseline assumption might be that offspring have an expectation of a lifestyle similar to what would have been provided had the parent remained in the family unit.
But there is a lot of variation on that idea.
I was just thinking that she must have not had anyone watching out for her best interests when she signed papers. Because the child support seems comparatively small to Marc’s earnings.
But then again, I have read about the ridiculously stupid things that Marc Anthony does with his money (aka – not pay taxes)
I get the impression that he p-sses away a lot of money on his lifestyle and just plain stupidity. He may actually generate a large income, but wind up saving precious little at the end of the day. It is an easy thing to do.
Havent there also been some questions about Marc’s financial state? when he and Dayanara divorced JLo was the one with money, and I want to say that within his and JLo’s relationship she quietly kept her own assets separate from his (aside from what they produced together). Marc’s shady and it doesnt shock me that he’s glommed onto Green’s daughter, though it shocks me that she’d go for him.
Well since the wealthy men are paying over 100k a year for child support for a single child, the child isn’t being tossed away and that’s way more than enough to take care of the kid.
Also, maybe the women shouldn’t have sex with men who don’t want their kids.
My complaints were more directed towards the Salma Hayek husband thing instead of Marc Anthony. I remember that the husband of Hayek told the model he didn’t want the child but she chose to have it anyway (and it wasn’t too late for an abortion). So in that case, if she wanted the child so much, be grateful for the 50k a month for child support since he told her in clear terms he didn’t want it.
This is absolutely nauseating to me. I am a single mom of a 13 year old daughter. I work and my ex does not pay me child support per se, but instead he contributes greatly directly to all her activities, clothing, etc. Child support is for the CHILD!! Not the ex-wife. Grow up and stand on your own two feet. Women that try to take advantage of this (like Brooke Mueller) make me ill.
Brooke Mueller and this woman are not comparable at all.
They are a little. This woman is ticked off and has been since the whole split. And while I understand why, her attempts at additional $$ (and there have been other attempts) have been petty and put the children in the middle. I don’t know all of the details but MA has historically seemed to be a good, responsible father. Remember he has a daughter older than these 2 and you never heard of any issues related to the child support, etc.
That’s a good point. If I were here, that’s how I’d approach it, I’d hire a nanny for the times that I need to work (which he would pay for because he’s not there to share the responsibility), and then arrange for all the kids needs, including groceries, and just submit the bill to him. It’s a good way to reduce his resentment, if she supports herself, and he supports the kids.
I would venture to say that this woman has an opportunity to extract herself and her children from the perils of fame and rid herself permanently from this man. Money is not the answer. People get consumed by comparing themselves with others and ultimately with what’s *fair*. Guess what? It’s not. Having tasted fame and wealth doesn’t guarantee if to you for life, although at that level of child support, you are wealthier than move of the freaking world! Move to a less expensive place and suddenly you’re living like kings. The idea of offering any sympathy to this woman in ludicrous. A judge should ask her if she’d prefer the money go to children that are starving. And finally, those kids are BETTER OFF without the silver spoon.
Whatever he’s paying JLo for child support, should be the same amount he pays to his first wife and their two kids. Fair and square across the board. I’m thinking that’s where her number came from. I think that has more to do with it than what she can ‘get by’ on.
I agree. There’s no way I can see JLo being ok with $13K/month. She spends more on her hair than that.
He may be paying her 13k in child support, but he is probably paying for their other expenses as well. Also, if the child support gets cut off when the kids turn 18, then she only has a few more years to get some money out of it. There is always 3 sides to every story, so I’d like to hear his side and then the truth will be in the middle.
I can’t even fathom 13k a month, my ex hasn’t paid support in almost a year and the arrears only amounts to $5k.
Kids need love. period. love does not equal money. and 13k a month is enough support. if gabe aubrey was asking for more child support, people would be flipping out. just bc youre a mom with 2 kids and your ex is loaded, it doesnt mean yore entitled to it. it doesmt cost 113k a mknth for 2 kids. she married him for his money, if she wants m
ore, sbe shkuld find another rich man or get a nosb making that kond of money
One of my pet peeves is when people use conjecture and pretend that it’s legitimate support to an argument. You have no idea how people would be reacting if Gabriel asked for more child support. Personally, if he was getting a very small amount, I’d say that he deserves additional. Halle used him for his sperm the way people have accused Dayanara of being a gold digger. It’s evident in the body language of photos of Gabriel and his daughter that they love each other very much and that he is a doting father.
As I mentioned before, many states require up to 50% of the non-custodial or sometimes even shared custodial parent’s income to contribute to child support. In Michigan, special needs kids can sometimes get more than 50% income.
I don’t know what Dayanara needs all that money for, but considering Marc Anthony ran out on her when she was juuust about to give birth to his child, I think he should pay up. Maybe not that amount, but definitely more than $13K a month.
Most people here who say $13K is a lot probably haven’t considered the standard at which she’s supposed to live and raise the kids. Can she send the kids to any old school? Of course not. Private/international school tuition is a bitch. And what’s the cost of renting a luxury 3-br condo in LA these days? I think it’s around $6K/month and up? If he can afford to live like a king, then his children should also have a comparable lifestyle.
Since I used to watch Hispanic televisions shows back when I was a child/teen, I remember hearing that she was forced to sign a contract where she would never mention Jennifer Lopez name to any media outlets, write books, or give interviews about the specifics.
I’m not sure if Dayanara Torres had a lawyer when she signed the divorce or if she went on with whatever Marc told her, but if she did, the lawyer who handled her divorce was more than incompetent, he/she should have negotiated a better financial arrangement for her while she was signing her silence away. I’m sure Marc or maybe even JLo could afford big-money attorneys calling the shots for them.
It’s not for me to decide whether it’s okay Dayanara is asking for more money or not, but Marc not prioritizing is their kids while I’m sure he makes times for the twins is very hurtful and such a tough pill to swallow.
I remember this!! I saw the interview on a Hispanic talk show and she was crying, I could only make out a few things that she was saying.
I was curious so I looked up their settlement. She reportedly got a house in Miami, a house in Puerto Rico, $3500/month alimony, and $13K/month child support.
I don’t buy the whole “must maintain standard of luxury” argument, but I fully believe he should support all of his children equally, and if he’s really making that much now (really???) then his support should be adjusted accordingly.
Good post, Melissa.
I read another article somewhere where his lawyer came out in defense and said he pays for their schooling, and all medical bills. A lot of other things were mentioned that he paid but I can’t remember them all specifically, but if that’s true, exactly what is it she needs the money for? Revenge?
No. Not revenge. Parity. He pays all that for his other children as well, plus more money to their mother.
She’s just angling for sympathy to get a larger payout each month. She’s not suffering and neither are her children, she just wants more.
I had no idea, one of her sons has special needs, I don’t care what is going on she deserves more money!!
Skeletor could have at least bought her a small home free and clear.
JLo probably gives his support to Casper to play with.
Marc is bogus for not treating his kids the same, I have not seen this family in a long time w/their dad.
She is aiming high and I don’t blame her, Marc attorneys are gonna low ball her anyway.
Well, she doesn’t expect to get that amount, but her child support is supposed to follow the guidelines commensurate with his earnings. So he obviously must be paying below that with what he is earning for her to go in and want to modify that, but the amount she is asking for is astronomical and I think just the way her attorney is playing hardball starting out, realizing this is not what she will end up with.
And I think this obviously must stem from she found out wealthy Jennifer Lopez in her own right was still getting far more in child support than she was from Marc.
While I can extend some sympathies to her since she went through a rough divorce, I get the vibe that she wants that increase in child support more for herself than her children. She’s picking a fight and wants the money as a resolution. She just seems to be accustomed to a certain lifestyle, and it’s not panning out the way she wanted, so instead of making a name for herself again, she’s going after MA’s cheese. Yes, he’s gross, but for all we know, he could be paying much more for his kids in addition to the current child support with her than she is letting on.
The problem with these kinds of cases is that so much money is involved that it immediately takes on the sheen of the gold-digger, and it’s easy to dismiss the petitioning woman. It’s an unrelatable problem for 99% of the world. To us, she’s already getting so much money, and she wants *even more*. We can’t help but see that as greedy.
But the issue isn’t about dollars and cents, it’s about parity. He has two sets of children from two different women. One set of kids is getting substantially more than the other. That is not fair. He has an equal responsibility to all of his children, so yes, he should be paying the same for both sets of kids. And that’s really all it is. Equal responsibility.
I’ve said it before and I will say it again. In these cases where a parent favors the children of one relationship over another, I really want to see a reality show down the line about how these kids turn out and what kind of relationships they end up having.
He has children by three different women, his eldest child is a daughter.
I agree w tapioca. just bc you get dumped, you dont get the right to use the kids to get back at him. those who disagree just think she should screw hjm out of money bc she got humiliated. what about me? Ive been humiliated before, can k get a retirement from my ex? Uh no.i work for my standard of living. she can too. i work for a living, not golddig.
If your ex makes his kind of money, you definitely should.
It’s not gold digging. Child support is based on who has custody & income. If he’s making over a million each month, then he can pay more.
I hope she gets her increase.
As others have already pointed out, child support payments are based on income and Marc is a very wealthy man. Moreover, ALL of his children should enjoy the same standard of living; it’s ridiculous that he’s been paying JLo way more child support all these years, especially considering one of his kids with Dayanara has special needs.
(Yeah, $13k is usually more than enough to live on comfortably BUT, depending on the nature of the child’s handicap, therapy sessions, medications, surgeries, etc. could easily burn through that very quickly. That would explain why she’s living in a small apartment. I can’t believe that Marc — who’s got so much money to burn that he bought JLo a $4 million ring — didn’t even buy Dayanara a modest house to raise their kids in.)
It sounds like Marc screwed this poor woman — and their children — over six ways from Sunday. First he cheats on her, then he lies to her about his finances so as to pay her as little as possible and, insult to injury, lies to the kids about not being able to spend time with them. Someone that selfish and irresponsible should never have had children.
totally agree. he should pay the same he pays to the others.
it is one thing that they “get by”, they could be saving that money, because after they come of age, they most probably will not get much from womanizing Marc.
Save up now!
Where I live the non custodial parents pays about 20% of their income for child support. If he isn’t going to be there emotionally for his children then he needs to make sure that they are very well taken care of. I feel like a lot of you people would be applauding if this were Brandi Glanville asking for more child support. Whoever compared her to Brooke Mueller up thread is ridiculous. Has this woman given an implication she is going to spend this money on METH?
Applause!! 20% of $1 million a month is $200K. He’s getting off cheap if he only pays her $113K. And $13K is practically criminal.
I simply believe 13k a month is enough for three to live comfortably and if the children need more for school or therapy Dad should pay for it directly. They’re divorced, she needs to get a job if she wants more money.
Why do her kids need an additional $100 K a month in support payments?
And why now and not before?
It may be that she’s only just learned of the child support payments that Jennifer Lopez is getting, and perhaps that she’s only just learned of her husband’s increase in income. I agree that all the amounts we’re speaking about are very high, but I think there’s a valid argument that if he’s making far higher payments so that one pair of children can live in luxury, it’s unfair for their half-siblings to receive far less support from their father.
So what if she was a gold-digger? Apparently, that’s who (what) Anthony wanted at the time. His money in exchange for her good looks. Well, she held up her end of the bargain and was a trophy wife for him to show off, and gave him two kids too. Time for him to hold up his end of the bargain and fork over some more money to her and their kids. It’s not like he can’t afford it.
Child support is a legal issue, not a moral one. Every state has child support calculations, and those are based on income, not on what seems fair. Marc Anthony should be paying an equal amount of child support for both sets of children, full stop. It doesn’t matter if the amount is insanely high! Of course a person can raise 2 children on $13k a month, but that’s not the issue here- the issue is that Marc is not paying the same for these children as he is for the twins. It’s what Linda Evangelista went to court over- she can afford to support her son just fine on her own, but her son deserves the same financial arrangement as Salma Hayek’s daughter, because they are both the children of Pinault, regardless of which he “favors”. Marc’s two older children deserve to be financially supported the same way that his younger children are by him.
You are 100% right, Ctkat1!
The legal precedent is a father is legally obligated to support all of his children equally. Dayanara is no gold digger; I can’t believe how so many posters are condemning her now, when before they were all for Linda Evangelista’s successful quest to get everything for her son that his half sister Valentina has.
I’m on Dayanara’s side, her kids should receive the same child support than jlo’s kids receive, it’s only fair. Dayanara’s kids deserve the same perks, lifestyle and private school education.
As their mother is not JLo they will never have their siblings lifestyle.
He has children with 3 different women. His oldest child is a girl, not sure how old she is now, but I wonder how much child support he pays for her? Seriously, he should stop having kids, especially if he’s not even being a real father to them and isn’t supporting them how he should be.
If you’re a mother who find out that your ex-husband’s kids with another woman are getting a lot of money while your children do not even get 10% of that, you’ll be angry, too. It’s not about whether you need $100K+ every month but all the kids should be treated and provided for equally.
J Lo’s twins are getting a heck of a lot of money from their Dad monthly and Dayanara’s kids are not. What exactly do JLo’s twins need more than $100K every month for? They deserve that amount of money but Dayanara’s kids don’t? The twins can live in luxury but Dayanara’s sons should only get money for basic expenses like school tuition fees and doctor visits?
It’s never about the expenses every month and counting the receipts but about the kids being treated unequally by their father. MA makes a lot of money and likely spends more than $13K a month on himself and his luxuries. Why not extend that generosity to his older kids?
He’s an absentee father who sounds like he rarely sees his older children. Disgraceful. The most he can do is make sure ALL of his kids live in the same luxuries that he himself enjoys.
Don’t look at the $13K/month for 2 kids. Anyone would decide that is a lot of money for an average family. But MA is not your average deadbeat Dad.
If 2 kids gets $100K per month, then the other 2 should also get the same.
My problem is this article is talking about events that happened back when he was married to JLO why did she not seek a raised in child support back then.
What I don’t get is that Marc Anthony was married to his first wife Maria Von Ritchie Lopez from 2000 to 2002 but he was married to 2000 to 2004 that’s not adding up unless their is an overlap.
The article never said how much JLO gets so where do you get $100K per month?
Maybe because she didn’t find out about the child support disparities until he got divorced from JLo and had to pay a lot of money as support to the twins. Maybe Dayanara trusted Marc to do right by the kids and that included sharing his wealth with them and actually spending time with them, both of which he doesn’t do.
Does it really matter why she’s seeking an increase now and not before? $13K is a smidgen of what Marc Anthony claims he makes, which is $1.2 million per month. His kids with Dayanara deserve more than what they’re getting.
$100K is the amount that JLo’s twins must be getting since that is what Dayanara is requesting. She’s asking for a $100K increase, so JLo’s twins must be getting that much money per month because many celebrities/wealthy people’s child support cases are about ALL the children being entitled to a) continue living the lifestyle they’ve been accustomed to before the divorce; b) live the same luxurious lifestyle that is equal to their other siblings’; or c) an amount of child support that is relative to the income of the parent providing the money and the income gap between the parents.
Look at Eddie Murphy and Mel B of the Spice Girls’s daughter. Eddie has to pay $51,000 a month for child support for one child. Look at Lionel Richie’s ex Diana getting a whopping $300K a month for 2 kids.
If you look at those cases, it makes Dayanara’s situation even more ridiculous since she has 2 sons, one has special needs, yet she gets such a sh*tty amount of money compared to other celebrities’ wives whose child support payments are sky high. Her sons deserve more from their father.
Why do people judge an ex-wife of a very rich star as gold-digger just because she wants more money for her kids? They are HIS kids and he is extreme rich. He pays his younger children more child support than his other children! And that´s ok???
It doesn´t matter if she wants millions or so. It just sounds obscene for us because we aren´t rich. I´m sure she can live without problems with the money now, but it´s only fair that all his children receive the same support. Her children have the right to live the same lifestyle as their siblings.
I’m surprised Marc Anthony has that much money and can get such pretty women. He seems like a gross douchebag to me.
I remember when she won! Dayanara is beautiful
20 years since she won already! gosh, I’m old!
$13,000 for two kids when he makes over a million a month? That’s not right. I would never treat my children that way if I had that much money. I would want the best for them as well. He probably spends 3 times that amount on that new young girlfriend of his.
Are the kids still babies? If not, she could always get up off her ass and get a job.
which goldigger was this one? she was his wife and they decided to have 2 children, so he should pay up as much as he pays for the other 2.
his four children should get the same amount of money.
It is only fair that they receive an equal amount. I agree with others that are criticizing her so much.
She was the wronged wife, who was dumped unceremoniously, but this is different, some children receive more that 100,000, and the other 2, just a 10% of that?
absolutely ridiculous.
You all need to understand that Marc Anthony is a HUGE superstar in latin america. He might be well known in USA as jlo ‘s ex husband but for us, latinos, for at least a decade he is considered the biggest salsa singer. He has a beautiful voice and his songs are amazing, he just finished his south american tour and it was sold out. Remember, we are talking about 22 countries here, thats a lot of $$$$. Having said that I would like to defend Dayanara against those who call her a gold digger. She has stayed very classy after the divorce, never said anything negative against Marc, but now that he doesnt even visit the boys and on top of that pays more child support to Jennifer whom is a miltimillionaire herself, even richer than Marc, I am sure she got upset. I would have done the same thing.
Can someone explain to me how HE gets these beautiful women?
Isn’t this the same situation as with Jon Voight, Marcheline Bertrand, Angelina and James? He basically paid for their basic necessities, barely saw them, and then when they were older he wanted to play happy family, and have them listen to whatever he said.
Same thing with my sperm donor–my mom took him to court when I was 12, because he refused to pay child support. She told him, before she took him to court, that all she wanted was 100 dollars a month (50 bucks per kid; me and my twin)–he basically called her a ho–said we weren’t his. So we got a DNA test, went to court–guess what? He had to pay 600 dollars a month, after that–and now he wants to see us (ain’t happening any time soon).
I can’t stand men (or women) who don’t take care of their kids–no matter what the relationship with the other parent. You liked that person enough to make those babies–deal with it. Maybe he’ll learn to keep his mouth shut about his money–as it is, she and her kids deserve every penny they get. Such a douchebag.
Oh please. . . $13,000 a month is more than enough to live on and properly provide for her kids. It’s probably not enough to fund her monthly botox treatments and $2,000 Louboutin heels, but it’s a pretty damn good chunk of change. Especially for someone who hasn’t worked since 1993. If she’s so dissatisfied with her lifestyle, she could always get a JOB and stop demanding her ex-husband take care of her.
These women tend to forget that they are not one of the kids, they should be supporting themselves and contributing a percentage to the support of their children, too. (Unless the father agrees to support them, highly unlikely.)
And yes, Virgilia…that’s what a lot of fathers do. Pay the barest minimum after they play hide the assets and when it is time to go to state play-offs (after not making the games or picking up the extra costs of football/basketball shoes/gear) wants that slap on the back w/ a “that’s my kid!” ….I could go on but it is best not…ahem, college. Proud of my kids!
Ugh. I can’t even hearing about these people who can’t “survive” off 13k a MONTH. A lot of people in North America don’t make that IN A YEAR.
I’m totally with everyone saying Marc Anthony probably should be giving her more money because he’s ridiculously rich and they are his kids but I find it hard to feel very sorry for this woman claiming she isn’t making enough to survive.
The real story here is that Jenny from the Block is receiving child support payments. Incredible.