Britney Spears: ‘I would really like to have another baby, a girl, like a Mini-Me’

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Britney Spears covers the January issue of InStyle Mag. I like the cover. It reminds me of Brit-Brit circa 2002, just when the wheels were coming off but no one knew how bad it would eventually get, and Britney still looked like a pert teenager. Yes, I’m sure there’s some Photoshop magic, but I also think Britney is doing a lot better these days. My theory? They’ve finally worked out the kinks with her meds. She just seems more cognizant and “present”. Here are some highlights from the InStyle interview:

She’s had some minor plastic surgery: “A doctor I see, Dr. Kanodia, does fun stuff to me sometimes—I’ve had lip injections before. He has this peptide-based face-care product; it’s green and slimy, and you mix it together and put it on your face. It does wonders. You leave it on overnight. Can you tell I love skin care?”

Fashion: “When I was younger, I cared a lot more about what I wore. But the older you get, the more you think about what’s easy and comfortable. I do like to look good when I go to events, and I like to dress up. That’s for the show of it all!” she says. “When I perform, that’s the time I know what people expect from me—to have the glitz and the glam and go all out. I understand that. But in my everyday life, I’m more low-key.”

Body insecurities: “I think it’s important to look good and feel good about yourself, but I go both ways on it. I think it’s cruel how the world puts so much emphasis on our looks.”

Defending Kim Kardashian: “I see Kim and what she went through when she was pregnant—the tabloids were so mean to her because she was big. At one point in the show she was upset and said something like, ‘I would be lying if I said that the criticism from the paparazzi while I’ve been pregnant hasn’t taken a toll on me.’ And I was like, ‘Bless her heart,’ because I remember that time. First of all, you are already emotional, and then the paparazzi are taking pictures of you pregnant. That should be the time when your body is the most treasured. I loved being pregnant for so many reasons, not to mention the sex is awesome then. But in this business you make a deal with the devil. I’ve learned you kind of have to go with it. What I do calls for me to look good. People expect that. I kind of take it as my job.”

Wanting a baby girl in the next five years: “I would like to be busy the first couple of years, but then I would really like to have another baby, a girl. I think she would be like a mini-me. I think it’s going to be crazy. I’m not going to feel as alone in the world anymore. I’m going to feel like I have a second person, like, that’s me.”

Mom questions: “As a mom, you have all these situations you go through, and you’re like, ‘What is going on? Is this normal? Is this a phase? Or what is this?’ and then you feel silly for asking questions because you think, I’m a mom, I’m supposed to know these things, but you don’t. You’re human. To be honest, I wish I had more mom friends.”

[From E! News and HuffPo]

I wish she had more mom friends too. Why doesn’t she? Why don’t the moms of Jaden and Sean’s classmates befriend Britney? I would want to befriend Britney. I think it would difficult to be her friend and NOT want to take care of her a little bit, though. But maybe that’s what she wants too – she wants to have some mom friends who will take care of her and look after her a little bit. It’s not the worst thing.

Brit-Brit also has a new interview with The Telegraph, which you can read here… I’m skimming to see if there’s anything interesting… Britney talks a lot about her Vegas show and how much she’s been rehearsing (side-eye) and she actually says these words: “I need to rehearse more now than I did before. I feel I’m more of a perfectionist these days.” O RLY? Her mom is back in the picture too, which I didn’t know. I thought it was mainly Jamie Spears looking after Britney and Britney’s career these days, but Lynne Spears seems to be involved with “handling” Britney, just like in the good old days. I’m not sure how I feel about that. Britney also talks about “heartbreak” after she and Jason Trawick split – but it’s kind of vague and I do sort of wonder if she really loved him that much or if the relationship was just a matter of convenience.

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  1. Anna says:

    “I’m not going to feel as alone in the world anymore.” – Aww, poor Brit-Brit. She is [sadly] not ok.

    Re: rehearsing – I think it might be true. I dont think Vegas would let her half-@ss it.

  2. Buckwild says:

    I’m just glad she’s safe and out of the manipulative and exploitative grasp of Sam Lufti and whatnot. Those were actually scary days to watch for Britney.

  3. whipmyhair says:

    Britney, have more babies, and be happy. She is the celebrity that I will always root for and I wish her every happiness.

    But with her father controlling her life it seems like she has to keep bringing in the bacon.

  4. pp says:

    A GIRL??
    I have no kids and i’ve never been mentally ill, but if i had a girl i’d fear all day long to be passing on my own insecurities as a woman. I think coming from her, this is absolutely selfish.

    • Kiddo says:

      Because boys never suffer insecurities or mental illness.

    • Maria says:

      I agree with pp. Just like a man doesn’t give you fulfillment, neither should a child. Once you are happy and stable with who you are then your children and your man add to your life. And this idiotic statement by moms saying they want a Mini me or have a mini me is wrong as well. Your daughters are not a mini me. They are individuals and you, as parent, nurture that individual to be the person they are meant to be.

    • Dubois says:

      My question is why doesn’t she feel like her sons fill that void? Kids are kids regardless of gender. She shouldn’t need a girl to feel complete. I think she would live vicariously through her and that’s probably what she’s yearning for.

      • Montréalise says:

        Living vicariously through your child is a terrible burden to put on that child. A daughter is not a “mini-me”; she’s an individual with her own personality and interests, which might be very different from her mother’s. Unlike I’m mistaken, isn’t Britney still under conservatorship? And doesn’t the father of her kids have primary custody because she cannot take care of them, even on a part-time basis? If the answer to these questions is yes, she shouldn’t be thinking of having another baby.

  5. Anna says:

    Has anyone else heard her little sister, Jamie-Lynn’s new song?
    I actually quite like it!

  6. Stef Leppard says:

    “I’m not going to feel as alone in the world anymore.”

    It’s sad that she feels all alone. I wish her “handlers” would just let her go now. It sounds like she’s really yearning for a normal life with her kids, some cheetohs, a muffin top, and some mom friends to drink wine with. I’m sure if she retired and moved to Louisiana no one would ever bother her again.

  7. MrsBPitt says:

    I felt so sad for Britney reading “I won’t feel so alone in the world”. But, she should not be having any more kids. You don’t have children to make you feel less lonely. She needs to concentrate on the two boys she has, and staying mentally healthy…

    • Kiddo says:

      It sounds like she needs to get out of the business.

    • KromBoom says:

      Yep, agree.

      Freeze a few hundred eggs, Britney! Cancel Las Vegas and go live a normal life for five years. Then, maybe, have a daughter but promise her (and us!) that she’ll never be a Mouseketeer.

    • Hiddlesgirl85 says:

      @MRSBPITT: +1! People really shouldn’t be having children because they feel lonely. This kind of mentality is selfish and is not in the best interest of the child. My advice is for the person to take care of themselves first, because caring for a child is not for the selfish.

      • Tammy White says:

        My mom got pregnant with me at 16 because she wanted/needed someone to love her & to feel loved. She felt unloved because she was being physically & mentally abused repeatedly by my grandfather. It was hard at times when I was a kid because I felt like I was raising her & my younger sister. And my mom had a lot of rage/dependency/drug addiction issues, which was heartbreaking for me. She almost died when I was 15 & she said seeing me in the hospital is what forced her to fight for her life. I turned out okay, though. Took a long time & a lot of strength to want something better for myself. I think Britney doesn’t know that it’s selfish & she shouldn’t have a child for those reasons.

      • hiddlesgirl85 says:

        @ Tammy White, Thank you for sharing your story. It takes a lot of strength to make it through the experiences that both you and your mother had. (I respect you both immensely!)

        I agree with your point about Britney not knowing that her wish is selfish. It’s a difficult thing to know that what we believe will be best for us, may not actually be the best thing for us. I think many people sincerely believe that having children or being in a relationship, for example, will help them alleviate their feelings of loneliness and hopelessness. Well, it actually doesn’t and oftentimes compounds those issues. Sometimes it does take actually getting those things and going through hell, for an individual to relieve that point. The best kind of love is self love and as difficult as that may be for a lot of people to realize, learning to love our own selves, will help us deal with those feelings of lonliness and helplessness.

  8. mk says:

    Yikes. I don’t think she should have any more kids. She’d likely try to have a do over on her own life and live vicariously through a daughter.

  9. Suze says:

    Hoo boy. I promised myself I wouldn’t click on Britney stories anymore. I always feel like I’m exploiting her somehow and they leave me depressed. Stupid, I know.

    Between the “fun” facial injections and the loneliness comment I can’t shake off the feeling that she’s not quite back in form yet.

    I do hope she makes a good go of the Vegas gig and has a daughter someday – maybe a little way down the line when her feet are under her more firmly.

  10. matia says:

    She needs to retire for her own well being and take some Britney time to just be a mom and make mom friends. She has all the money she could ever need.

  11. Murphy says:

    If she was sad at all about Jason it’s because she lost a chance to have a baby with him. Jamie isn’t going to let her have a kid with just anyone.

    I was really surprised to hear the candidness of this interview, actually it makes me doubt wether she really said it

  12. mickey says:

    She sounds like an immature teenager:

    “…but then I would really like to have another baby, a girl. I think she would be like a mini-me. I think it’s going to be crazy. I’m not going to feel as alone in the world anymore. I’m going to feel like I have a second person, like, that’s me.”

    She has her boys, her family…and she thinks she needs a baby- a girl baby- not to feel alone? That’s the saddest thing I’ve heard in a long time. And a pretty bad reason to want to have a baby (not that people need reasons to have babies- but she brought it up first.)

    And when talking about having another baby – and that it’s going to be crazy (I’m sure she means a ‘crazy time’)- is not the best combination for someone with her past. I don’t like to speculate on someone’s possible/probable mental health issues, but her incidents were in public and well-documented so I feel only marginally better bringing it up. Also, I’m speaking from experience about pregnancy and babies and mental health issues. No matter how much help you may be getting, it’s more difficult when adding mental health issues to your life.

  13. lucy2 says:

    Those last two answers make me sad for her. She still sounds very isolated, but does seem to be doing a lot better. I always wish the best for her.

  14. Maureen says:

    Wow, The two children she already has don’t help her feel “not alone”?

    • DreamyK says:

      That made me incredibly sad for those boys. Can you imagine your mother or father saying that to a national publication? That would be devastating.

      Britney. Get your head on straight. A little girl will not be your mini-me. She will be her own person and as a mother, you should know that by now. Don’t place your expectations on a child like your parents did to you. Just don’t.

      K-Fed needs to address this with his boys. So sad. They’ve been through so much and now this. Ugh.

  15. Anaya says:

    Britney loves her sons yet I sense she would prefer a daughter over a son. It’s PC to say you want a healthy baby but some women or men do have a gender preference for a number of reasons. Baby gender disappointment is real yet it’s rarely discussed due to others shaming you for admitting you have a particular preference. Sure she seems lonely but there’s nothing wrong in my opinion with admitting that you desire a particular baby gender. It’s natural and normal. Britney has her issues but I see that she is mostly surrounded by men. The only women she’s in regular contact with are her mother and sister who both reside in Louisiana. I’d love for Britney to get out of the spotlight because she clearly isn’t happy living in the celebrity bubble and she needs to get away from it in order to achieve true love, independence, and happiness.

  16. nico says:

    Discussions about Britney always depress me. Sometimes people seem to have a negative view about her future because of her mental illness. With therapy and medication, most of those suffering from mental illness can live a full life. Why do so many people refuse to believe that Britney can get better?

    • Josephine says:

      I don’t think it’s the mental illness; it’s the fact that she is still being legally controlled. Someone who is too mentally ill to control her own finances and life decisions, and who has limited custody of her own children, is not a woman who should be out there working a rigorous schedule.

    • RN says:

      ” With therapy and medication, most of those suffering from mental illness can live a full life.” I’m not sure what you’re basing this on. As a healthcare provider, I can assure you that a “full life” is extremely subjective. People with mental illness cannot be grouped together, and individual limitations do exist. It’s not always wise for every woman diagnosed with a severe mental illness to experience the hormonal shifts of a pregnancy. A high-dose medication regimen will often contraindicate a pregnancy anyway.

      Britney’s interview is telling, in that she’s not expressing how her life can benefit a child. Rather, she’s verbalizing a teenager’s developmental view by describing how the child would be expected to fill a hole in her life. That’s a warning sign right there.

    • Belle Epoch says:

      Yikes! I was going to say she looks unrecognizable. It’s like they took her face and stretched the photo longer while PhotoShopping.

      I’m not sure she would really benefit from “me time.” She has been a performer all her life and probably feels even less sense of purpose in her life when she’s not working – despite her complaining.

      The hard part is: she does not know what is best for herself. She still NEEDS her father to make decisions for her. The comments about having a mini-me indicate that she has no clue what having a daughter would really entail.

  17. Marigold says:

    There are parts of this where she sounds pretty healthy. But then there are parts that sound like she’s very lonely. I’m always a bit bemused that her parents are her caregivers given that when you boil it down, allowing her to evolve as she did, shoving her into the limelight as such a young age-they kind of paved the path to her current state, didn’t they?

    Either way, mini-mes, companionship-not reasons to have children. She wants to put all that on a baby? Children don’t fix things. She’s not the only person that needs to learn that, particularly in Hollywood.

  18. Neelyo says:

    I used to hate her but since her breakdown and BLACKOUT I have much more compassion and respect for her. When she was young and had the chance to grow, her management tem paid no attention to her education obviously and did nothing to foster her artistic growth, but instead kept pushing her out there to do the same safe material that was selling. And at her peak she was working her ass off.

    Now I feel like post-breakdown instead of taking more chances, they’ve trapped her in amber and she doesn’t have the intelligence or stability/confidence to get out of it. And her management has never had good taste. She may not be the most technically gifted singer but she has a distinct style and has an innate vulnerability to her voice. When she worked with the right songwriters/producers in the past, she created some great pop music. On this last album, she worked mainly with will i.am and that’s all I’m going to say about that.

  19. Wellsie says:

    I have a hard time believing Brittany said “peptide-based” anything.

  20. Amanda_M87 says:

    Unless she’s being facetious, that is one of the worst reasons to have a baby. At least she looks pretty and not trashy on the magazine cover.

  21. yeahright says:

    Oh Britney. She just sounds… I don’t know. It sounds like she’s just going through the motions. She sounds defeated.

  22. Jess says:

    Awe, this made me a little sad for her. I would definitely be friends with her as well, wonder if people are intimidated by her or something. I have a daughter and there is definitely a special bond there, I hope she gets that one day!

    • Marigold says:

      Special bonds can happen regardless of the sex of the child. Also, one need only look to all the mothers and daughters that fight like cats and dogs to understand it can be far more complicated than getting a “mini-me”.

      You say you hope she gets that bond some day. I say I hope she already has it with the kids she actually has.

  23. Naomi says:

    I do not think Britney should have any more kids. She does seem better but not enough to care for a child. I see that she spends time with her boys and I believe she adores them but I do not believe she is stable enough nor is really allowed to raise them. I believe her life is HIGHLY controlled. Her comments referencing her loneliness and desire for more mom friends speak to me of isolation. Also the way she phrases her desire for another child, gender aside, it’s almost as if she is saying I want a child of my own to love and love me. Subtle reference to sharing custody and wishing her boys didn’t go back and forth.

  24. Kelly says:

    I have a friend who’s immature like Britney and she has a daughter who is more mature than her. She almost takes care of her mother and is very level headed. Some might say that it’s unfair for the child but my friend’s daughter is growing up to be an intelligent and responsible young woman so I think my friend did something right. I’m sure if Britney did have a daughter it wouldn’t be anything like she expects it to be, but it could work out for the best if she had the right support.

  25. Jayna says:

    Britney was so adorably cute that if I were her I would want a little girl to look like her too.

    But I think she really suffered from postpartum depression last tiime her second pregnancy. So getting pregnant might not be a good thing.

    She sounds so much better, though. It’s good to have Britney back.

  26. Red32 says:

    I have to giggle whenever moms say “my little girl who will be just like me” (also dads/sons). My mom would like to have a talk with these ladies. She’s a great mom, but I sometimes I think she wonders if I was switched at birth.

  27. elo says:

    Reading about her and seeing her always makes me feel so bad for her. I don’t think that I have ever wished for happiness for a celebrity like I do for her. How lonely her life must have always been.

  28. prissa says:

    “But in this business you make a deal with the devil. ” – Such a telling remark.

    I’m glad she is doing better. I will always have a soft spot in my heart for Britney.

  29. Immy says:

    I know a lot of women want a daughter, just like most men want a son. The ease of relating to someone of your own gender.
    I hope that is what she meant. Britney is a girly girl. She probably dreams of dressing up a little girl, take her to dance lessons, picking out a prom dress, etc.

    The part about not feeling alone anymore is heartbreaking though.

    She probably imagines that her daughter would be her best friend. That a pretty heavy burden to place on a child. It pretty well known that Britney is closely guarded, and probably doesn’t have close friends these days outside of her family. Poor Brit!

  30. Melissa says:

    I’ll always love Britney, she’s so down to earth and there doesn’t seem to be any cruelty or malice in her.

  31. Cupcake says:

    It’s so sad to me that she hasn’t found that connection with her two sons. The mother son bond is immeasurably special. Poor woman.

  32. Naomi says:

    I don’t think Britney has primary custody of her boys although I think there is liberal visitation.

  33. Meggin says:

    Not to be mean but she can barely take care of herself.. she does not need to be having more kids. Also, kids rarely ever turn out exactly like their parents. Everyone is different!!

  34. Jennifer12 says:

    Feeling lonely was why she chased Federline and had two kids with him. It’s not a reason to have children. And she HAS two kids; why does she feel alone in the world?

  35. d says:

    Britney’s the only famous person I wish I could be friends with, to help ease her lonliness and to be around normal people. I think she missed out on a lot when she was young, due to a broken home, poverty, being in show biz, and she’s always seemed to crave normalcy and I think wanting to have a girl is part of that somehow. I really do wish she had more mom friends. Why doesn’t she? I would have thought she’d be totally surrounded by LA moms! Is she that isolated from people? Very sad. I hope she does find a way to grow and mature as a person because she’s clearly needing that, even if she doesn’t realize it, but can do that without placing such a burden on an innocent kid.

  36. Nroth Wset says:

    We no want another little, isolated, RICH wreck…enough. BREAK FREE BRIT BREAK FREE.
    ****Its like she’s being held prissoner by the Scientology freako’s****

  37. Margaret says:

    That’s a very selfish reason for wanting a baby! She can’t take care of herself much less the 2 kids she has. I hope she doesn’t bring another one into the world.

  38. winterwilde says:

    I have always liked Britney since the first time I heard HIT ME BABY ONE MORE TIME and then saw the video…I knew she had something. I know we do not know what her mental issues are..but speaking from someone who was experiencing bi-polar and manic depression symptoms as a young girl I could see how Britney was able to survive as young girl and teenager, because she obviously loved to sing and dance on stage and everything else apart from that was taken care of for her…I think in her teens, her team knew there were mental issues and tried to medicate her and it prob. worked until she became 18 yr s old and then after decided she wanted to run her own life…..not realizing she had no EXPERIENCE handling any of life’s most basic day to day issues…anyhoo… I think as strongwilled as she seems, if she did not have the conservatorship…she could stop taking her meds… begin acting out again and poss. end up on the streets talking to herself…..