Benedict Cumberbatch has a secret, non-famous girlfriend, ‘sources’ claim


This is only the most ridiculous of speculations and a blatant attempt at a Benedict Cumberbatch click-bait. This story is even less “confirmed” than last year’s mess with Katia Elizarova (for the record though, she really wanted us to think that she was banging the Batch, and I believe she was). Showbiz Spy seems to have gotten the ball rolling, because I literally can’t find other site claimed this. Showbiz Spy says… contain yourself… that Benedict Cumberbatch has a secret girlfriend. So secret, in fact, that I’m carrying his baby and he doesn’t know it. I will name the baby Timothy Krishna Carlton Cumberbatch. For real.

BENEDICT Cumberbatch has a secret girlfriend! Insiders say the British actor has been romancing a mystery woman for the past few months, and is desperate to keep it under wraps.

“Benedict has a girlfriend,” said one insider. “He’s keeping it very hush-hush. But it’s safe to say he’s smitten! He’s been seeing the lady in question for the past few months. She isn’t in the public eye, and has quite a serious career, so is keen to remain anonymous for as long as possible.”

Cumberbatch, 37, keeps his love life notoriously private.

“Every time I’m seen at a bar with a girl, I get photographed,” Benedict told Time magazine last year. “Anyone with a computer knows my entire dating history.

“I get it,” he added. “Paparazzi is an inescapable, immovable obstacle.”

The Sherlock star has previously dated Olivia Poulet, whom he met at university. They amicably broke up in 2010 after 12 years together.After Poulet, he dated London-based artist Anna James in 2011 but the couple separated a year later.

[From Showbiz Spy]

I’m including some older photos of Benedict with Olivia and Anna. He was with Olivia for a crazy long time, and he still talks about her in interviews to this day. I sometimes wonder if he misses her or if he misses the comfort of a long-time relationship, someone who knew him and loved him before he was famous. And then I remember that I’m carrying his child and I’m his secret girlfriend and all you ladies can eat it. Whoops! I mean, I have a normal crush on him. Completely normal.

As for this whole “secret girlfriend” thing… it could be. I could see him making the effort to have a quiet relationship with a non-celebrity, someone intellectual and posh. Of course, I could also see him having a torrid love affair with Lupita Nyong’o, so I don’t know what to tell you.

Showbiz Spy also had a story with some older quotes about what Cumberbatch is looking for in a lady: “A woman who knows that she doesn’t have to get all decked out to look good is sexy…A woman who can make you feel smart with her conversation skills is also sexy. I believe the sense of humor is important. I also think someone who is good at working with others is sexy. It’s like playing a tennis doubles match. You need to be able to work well together if you are to stay as partners for a long time. I would like to first get to know the partner and build a trusting relationship before making the commitment.” PICK ME! I wear sweatpants all the time, I’m awesome at Jeopardy (except for any category having to do with rivers) and I have an impressive lexicon. Antediluvian. Epistemology. You get the idea. Call me, Cumby.




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  1. Lindy79 says:

    I saw this, this morning. Apparently it was the girl who photobombed him at the vineyard he was at a few weeks ago (in Oz or Malaysia, not sure the pic was on Instagram). She made some comments on her Instagram about being his girlfriend but has now made it private. Probably because she got bombarded.

    Would definitely see him keeping it on the QT if he was seeing someone, I wouldn’t blame him. I just honestly doubt she is. He’s spotted by fans everywhere he goes so someone would have seen a picture or reported it.

  2. Valerie says:

    Cat’s out of the bag, folks, I come forward as the secret girlfriend. I apologize for nothing! Hehehe

  3. paola says:

    Ok.. It’s time to come clean. It’s me.

  4. Ruth Dunbar says:

    Hey, Ben, if you’re interested in having a go with a movie nerd, PhD economist, call me!

  5. allons-y alonso says:

    Poor guy! He’s photographed and sadly stalked everywhere he goes and somehow, I believe he’d let it slip that he was with a lady….. so I call shenanigans.

  6. Loopy says:

    LMAO at these comments, you guys realise Kaiser will hunt you down using your IP addresses lol

  7. Sixer says:

    I’m Spartacus! No! I’d call the baby Spartacus! No! I don’t care! You can have him!

    Antidisestablishmentarianism. That’s the best one to impress a posh Brit. There. A vocab gift, Kaiser. From me to you. Give me one back to get Tom Blokeman Hardy.

  8. don't kill me i'm french says:

    Good for her and him!
    I ‘m listening all his fans crying!

  9. Francesca says:

    I will never get the appeal…

    • FLORC says:

      As far as I can tell when asked what you find attractive about him ladies say mostly his accent and his roles. Also how he acts in public and interviews, but that circles back to accent.
      The way he acts seems relatable to how Chris Evans acts. Very Passive.
      Sounds like there’s an attraction from his SH roles that feeds to the crush, but that’s what i’ve gathered.

      And I thought he’s gay, no? Also, that blonde hair is a disaster. I read Girlfriend and immediately thought Beard.

      • LadySlippers says:

        Sorry Florc, but I honestly think he’s physically sexy as H*LL. And I adore his intelligence. His accent does almost nothing for me.

        (Did you see our comments from yesterday??)

      • Platospopcorn says:

        You know, I have had moments where I’ve wondered if the answer to the ongoing “where is Benny getting it” conundrum is actually found in the ever present male companionship. However, I honestly think he would have a hard time pretending or hiding his sexuality if that were the case, because he seems to have pretty strong convictions about such things. That coupled with his tendency to overshare and/or speak without a filter just makes me think he would have a hard time with that level of pretense and could never go the “bearding” route. I could be completely wrong on this point (and every other point), but that’s just my feeling.

      • LadySlippers says:


        I agree with you. For what it’s worth.

      • FLORC says:

        I’ve felt the same, but personally found myself making my beliefs another persons. More often i’ve been proven wrong in terms of Bearding and hiding sexuality. If they want to they can have strong convictions (or claim to) and still fool the public.
        I’ve been fooled by many actors that are incredibly open and honest except when it came to their beards.
        I’ve been on a few BC posts and usually get quickly attacked when asking why people think he’s attrative, but moreso saying I find his acting to be poor and that he’s not a leading man in any sense.
        Don’t yell at me! It’s just why I tend to avoid the BC threads unless it’s about something more than “BC Parts His Curls To The Left For New Role” “BC Wears Flip Flops For Summer”. You know?
        But hey. If BC floats your boat more power to you.

    • KB says:

      lol I feel like everyone can see something I can’t. I want to understand, but this dude is one of the most unattractive people I’ve ever seen. I know that’s harsh and I’m not trying to be nasty, but I truly, truly do not understand it.

  10. Rusty machine says:

    OMG Benedict and that beard. Increased his bangability exponentially. And then……I saw the blonde hair and nearly stopped breathing.

  11. betsy says:

    Tom I’m all man Hardy was looking ruff as a dog in Birmingham yesterday. Really grey round the gills.

  12. Platospopcorn says:

    I posted yesterday that I sooooo want this to be true, just because I’m hugely curious to see what sort of woman he’ll choose. However, for shits and giggles I had a look back at his schedule since November via photographs on a popular tumblr’s archive. There is NO WAY this could be true in a “several months” kind of way. There were a few quiet, undocumented weeks over a December/January time frame, but that’s it. I mean, theoretically, he could have been romancing someone then, but after that, he was only ever photographed with his stable of travel mates (Jesse Peyronel, Adam Ackland). And someone’s excellent Kinvara Balfour suggestion is a dead end, as well, because she’s in Thailand and he’s still in Oz. Damn. I know too much about all this stuff. Excuse me while I retreat to contemplate my life choices…

  13. GeeMoney says:

    This post almost gave me a HEART ATTACK. He’s mine, people!

    If he does have a gf, I definitely believe he would keep it a secret. Only for awhile though, only because he’s so emotional and would have a hard time keeping the fact that he’s in love to himself. He’d want to shout it from the rooftops.

    I still believe he’s single… fingers crossed.

  14. Beth says:

    I hope this is true and she’s awesome and they get married and she gives him lots of babies. Daddybatch could break the Internet.

  15. T.fanty says:

    He referenced having a girlfriend at Christmas in an interview recently.

    And they all want someone smart and self confident with a GSOH until they realize they can get laid by a blonde model socialite.

  16. mel says:

    I never thought he was attractive until I watched him in Sherlock….and WHAM…totally got the appeal. HIs pics never do him justice. I love how he seems to still care so much about his first girlfriend…this makes him so dreamy…..sigh……

  17. 'p'enny says:

    @celebitchy “This is only the most ridiculous of speculations and a blatant attempt at a Benedict Cumberbatch click-bait.”

    And you follow suit! LMAO

    you could have mixed this with Hiddles looking sexy in his Crimson Peak Victoriana-Loki

  18. Good for him. Bad for us. I coulda been a contender…

    I’ve finally found the place where women with large brains, stunning vocabularies, and advanced degrees can throw themselves publicly at their celebrity crushes and be in excellent company. I’m in ecstasy.

    Oh…..and Team Hiddleston…

    *scampers away like Gollum+

  19. silken_floss says:

    Is Benedict considered to be more of a dandy or a bloke? #murican

  20. Kim says:

    I’m not going to lie. I have a google alert set up – my one and only – on Benedict. And out of all my emails from family, friends and deals (planning a trip this weekend so there have been a lot of emails) it is the first email I click. So I got this yesterday, read the article and wondered which one of my close sources gave away my secret relationship!

    I’m going to have to kindly ask Ben (that’s what I call him) to stop calling and texting and skyping until all this talk dies down.

    And to those that don’t get the appeal of this wonderful man, please don’t. There’s enough of us and I’m tired of all these bitches sniffing around my man.

  21. mayhem14 says:

    Reading the reactions on tumblr – the anguish, grief, despair, fervent hopes it isn’t true, defiant insistence it must not be true… and not just from teenage girls, but grown women!

    I do not understand it. Its not as if his getting a girlfriend would be the only thing standing in the way of him turning up on their doorsteps and declaring eternal devotion.

    Any relationship fans have with him will be a fantasy. Always. So it doesn’t matter if he has a girlfriend or gets married or declares he’s gay or whatver.

    • mayhem14 says:

      Reading the reactions on tumblr – the anguish, grief, despair, fervent hopes it isn’t true, defiant insistence it must not be true… and not just from teenage girls, but grown women!

      I do not understand it. Its not as if his getting a girlfriend would be the only thing standing in the way of him turning up on their doorsteps and declaring eternal devotion.

      Any relationship fans have with him will be a fantasy. Always. So it doesn’t matter if he has a girlfriend or gets married or declares he’s gay or whatver. And I know you folks are joking but elsewhere the grief is real and kind of disturbing. I get celebrity crushes and fangirling but I don’t get actual grief that someone you will never meet has a girlfriend.

      • icerose says:

        that part of fandoms I never understand-but I guess if you fantasize enough you start to believe it just might happen

      • Abby_J says:

        I agree. Next they will be looking for reasons to bash the girl (had it been true) and there would be websites dedicated to hatred of her. Really, I think a woman would have to think long and hard to get serious about one of these guys.

        I imagine that it wouldn’t make a difference to most of us there. He would still be our imaginary boyfriend. :)

      • Becks says:

        Oh, come on now. I know I’ve said this before, so I don’t really want to bang on, but please can people give the fictional drama a rest? What on earth makes you think there would be ‘websites dedicated to hatred of her’? I’m sorry, but that’s an utterly ridiculous thing to say.
        Why do people insist on inventing these scenarios? Some goes for the people declaring ‘meltdowns’!!! And ‘frenzy’!!!’.
        There’s really no such thing at all. All this does is serve to paint a nasty picture of a group of people which really does not exist at all. Yes, there will always be a very small minority of people who will make ignorant and bitchy comments on any situation, but they usually are far more isolated and insidious.
        Nobody made ‘hate websites’ for his previous girlfriends nor would anyone do so for future ones. Seriously, some people seem to revel in disharmony to the point where they imagine it as fact.

      • LadySlippers says:

        Tumblr is well known for meltdowns and frenzies. Not to mention hate blogs.

        Sad but true.

      • Becks says:

        But there’s been no meltdown over this ridiculous and fatuous ‘article’ and nobody has made a ‘hate blog’ for any of his girlfriends.
        In fact, all I see is the rampant ‘OMG, OMG, OMG.. I’m so so happy!’ messages, which in terms of positivity and feeling are nice, but still far too far involved and over invested. Especially in light of ONE dim witted gossip click bait.

      • Isadora says:

        Beck, Hiddleston’s ex-gf had a few hate tumblrs afaik. So yes, there are the “so happy” messages from a few and the hateful ones too.

        @Abby: “Really, I think a woman would have to think long and hard to get serious about one of these guys.” Yes in terms of privacy. But not really because of fans, I’d say. I hope any future girlfriend of them is secure enough to not give a sh*t about what teenage girls on the net are writing. Anything else would be a bit worrisome.

      • Abby_J says:


        I actually meant because of the privacy issue. I mean, it seems like we see these guys where ever they go. Of course, they likely won’t be quite so famous (or people will get bored of them) forever.

        I’d imagine that someone who is actually concerned about the teenage girls probably wouldn’t get their attention anyway.

    • GeeMoney says:

      Heaven forbid someone have a crush on someone and be disappointed that they weren’t the one chosen. Geez.

      • Mayhem14 says:

        But you weren’t EVER going to be chosen. None of us are. So if our entire relationship with the celebrity exists solely in our imagination, why can’t we just imagine that the girlfriend doesn’t exist?

      • GeeMoney says:

        Who cares if I or anyone else wasn’t going to be chosen? All I’m saying is that there is nothing wrong with being crushed that a person you liked chose someone else, regardless if you had a chance or not. People like people just because. No one can control it. Just like they can’t control it when they get upset when they can’t have the one they want. It’s just life. It is what it is.

        I just don’t see the point of you complaining about it. I’m pretty sure you’ve felt the same way about someone in your lifetime that you may have never had a chance with.

      • Kelly says:

        “So if our entire relationship with the celebrity exists solely in our imagination, why can’t we just imagine that the girlfriend doesn’t exist?”

        Ahahahahahahahhaahahahhahaah, this is pure gold!!


    • Isadora says:

      Fantasy? B.. b.. but…. Kristin Bauer and Abri van Straten!!! Ha!

      (No, just kidding, getting distraught over a celeb’s relationship is of course quite senseless.)

    • Becks says:

      Where are you seeing the ‘anguish and despair’ on Tumblr? I’ve not seen anything remotely like that. In fact, there’s very little interest in this crappy article at all.

  22. Isadora says:

    Kaiser, I just wanted to say that your unborn child’s name is outstanding. I wish you and Cumby all the best just based on this.

  23. Hello Kitty says:

    Sadness. It’s like finding out Nick Carter from the BSB got married all over again!

  24. Miss Jupitero says:

    I have disheveled hair that I hate blow drying because I just can’t be arsed, and I have an advanced degree in poetry. Erudite as hell. Brazenly confident. Come to me Cumby.

    Oh wait, you’re already here…. Bring me a latte luv, since you’re up. Thank you…..

  25. Miss Scarlet says:

    Not saying this story is true or false, but I’d like to add a few points:

    - that photobomb pic. I could be wrong, of course, but BC is clearly posing with her behind him. I don’t think he’d do that for a fan he’d just met. I remember seeing the original post and thinking ‘well, they’re friends, or she’s a friend of a friend.’ Doesn’t mean she’s a gf, but I doubt she met him that day.

    - if he’s romancing a woman with a ‘serious job’, I’m assuming she can’t travel with him, so why is he doing all these cons and running all over the place? How do you get a relationship going with constant travel? Then again, Olivia (reportedly) ended it because he wouldn’t stop working and kept canceling their personal plans for jobs. Apparently Anna (allegedly) ended things for the same reason.

    - I doubt we’ll ever get confirmation of any relationship until he’s planning a future with the woman in question. He’s not a ‘power couple’ type of guy IMHO, so I totally believe that his current or future partner is/will be nonfamous.

    - has it occurred to anyone else that *maybe* this story was planted by his people to get his rabid fans used to the idea, since it’s only a matter of time before he’s spotted with her? He may be able to ‘hide in plain sight’, as he puts it, but as others stated above, the man is under constant surveillance. PR people often plant an ‘unconfirmed’ story early on so that the inevitable ‘reveal’ is less crazy…especially when the new partner is a ‘civilian.’

    There have been women. No way has he been a monk this whole time. I’m betting that we’ll see a woman with him before he shoots off to film this summer.

    • Felice says:

      I think the monthly quota on the site was low. I think the fans get it will happen eventually, at least the sane ones. I don’t think he’s a monk but he ain’t superman either. I say that he’s far too focused on work but I don’t know the man.

    • LadySlippers says:

      My serious beef with this story is that he doesn’t get stuffed leaked. We can source almost everything we know to friends or his publicist.

      As Plato said WAY up thread, he’s pretty open and honest about stuff too. I think this story is pure fiction as the same site re-cycled a story almost verbatim about him still adoring Olivia two days ago. I think they tested the waters with the re-cycled story was liked the results.

      • PB&J says:

        I agree it’s mostly likely this story is BS, and that inevitably there will be a girlfriend at some point. However, I’m wondering if he still is as open/honest as he was before the internet decided to love all over him? I think he’s much more prone to keeping things as private as possible. Not outright lying, but not commenting/bringing it up, type deal? I wonder if he would casually drop it into conversation that he has a girlfriend? I keep thinking it’ll most likely have to be him seen with her out somewhere, either by fans or paps, that eventually drops the cumber-girlfriend bomb.

      • Felice says:

        Judging from Oz, I don’t think he really cares what his fans think anymore.

      • LadySlippers says:

        I think he does keep certain things private but we would have spotted her with how many sly pics that fans get of him.

      • Miss Scarlet says:

        Felice, you’re so right. I saw snippets where people would ‘awww’ at the slightest thing, and at one point he said ‘fuck ooooffffffff’ in a low voice, then jokingly, backtracked and said ‘you’d go ‘awww’ if I told you to fuck off!’

        I think he’s tired of the circus. I think there is a woman on the horizon, and he will do his best to protect her privacy for as long as he can.

      • Shiv says:

        I don’t think he is as open as he used to be. He only recently refused to discuss his relationship with Olivia.

        Saying that, he did publicly announce he will always adore her round about the time she stated in an interview she wished people would stop asking her about a relationship which was over 2 years ago (both interviews were late 2013 mind). No wonder he doesn’t speak about it anymore. Kick him where it hurts Olivia!

        If this so called GF has a serious career she wouldn’t feel the need to travel around with him. Furthermore, these cons/events could have been agreed/planned before the alleged romance if it’s only new. I still think as most have commented that somewhere/somehow in this big bad world of social media, he would have been spotted with her! Hence I think it’s made up…or he is dating and they are exaggerating the story!

      • Felice says:

        Less than a year ago he said ‘he could wait.’ I’m sure he wants to work but he’s probably getting some. Maybe not a serious relationship but guy’s gotta eat.

  26. Reece says:

    Hmmm…Beardy Batch is creepily sexy. A little more creep than sex.
    Blonde Batch is a no. No. NO. N.O!

    Anyway, IF, true then a few months isn’t necessarily a Girlfriend, it could just be dating specifically.

  27. Kelly says:

    Nevermind that, what about those pictures of Hiddles as the sexiest Poe creepster ever created in time and space!?!?? I haven’t been able to think straight the whole day!!!

      • Trashaddict says:

        That’s OK! There’s been multiple Sherlocks, there can be multiple Ian Fleming projects. But I’d take this as a good alternative: Cumby doing the voice-over narration for an animated version of Chitty-Chitty Bang-Bang, which Ian Fleming actually wrote! It’s a great little novel, nothing like that idiot treacle that Disney made out of it. Wish I had the rights to the book..

        and a lunch to talk my Sherlock into the role. Delicious.

    • jammypants says:

      If he accepts this, then it lessens the impact if he gets the real deal, Bond or a Bond villain. Tough spot to be in, since Fleming based Bond quite closely to himself and the people in his life.

      • 'p'enny says:

        @jimmypants he will never get offered the real deal, he is 38 and Daniel Craig has two movies to go. With respite in between actors, you would be talking offering Benedict the role James of Bond past 45. There is no investment possibilities for Broccoli and Co, to hire an actor for a long running franchise that late in his age-bracket.

        And, Chewy has the main bond villian role for this years JB

      • jammypants says:

        Ah, that’s true. He’d be into his early 40′s by the time Craig is done. I wonder if they’ll reconsider Henry Cavill as he’ll be the right age by then. Honestly, Cavill has the charisma of paint drying.

      • 'p'enny says:

        Cavil? hooked into Superman franchise, it confuses stuff. he was okay in Tudors, but as long as they DON’T suck Hiddles into it, because i too think he will be to old too, by the time they come to make James Bond pt 300002421325 AD. I really don’t want Tom wasted on that misgionystic crap.

      • Isadora says:

        @’p'enny, it really depends on the director for Bond. And you can’t compare older Bond movies to the new ones qualitiywise. “Casino Royale” had with Eva Green one of the most interesting Bond “girls” who was layered and interesting, with an own agenda. And “Skyfall” was just a very beautiful movie with wonderful cinematography. Thank you, Sam Mendes. Also the quality of the cast with Craig, Bardem, Whishaw, Dench and Fiennes was stellar.

        The problem with Bond is just that he is “sticky” – you’ll always be connected with this franchise whether you want it or not. And Hiddles has quite a range he should be known for a myriad of roles not only one. On the other hand I would (quite selfishly) love to see him in tailored suits with guns, busting someone’s ass.

        And back to Cumberbatch: I think him as Ian Fleming would be quite interesting. Fleming was a kinky bastard which means a rather new and different role for Cumby.

      • icerose says:

        ‘p’enny my thoughts entirely. The Bond franchise seems to limit the roles you get offered as well. I often think that maybe Daniels career trajectory might have been far more interesting if he had given Bond a miss.

      • jammypants says:

        Is it bad that I cringe at the thought of Benny being kinky? He just seems more the romantic type. Maybe because I associate the kinky with the creepy paedo he played in Atonement *gross shudder*

        Also the miniseries version with Dominic Cooper was good but Cooper has this dead in the eyes look combined with his baby face. The kinky was just weird on him too. Oh and Lara Pulver was basically Irene Adler again.

      • 'p'enny says:

        benny can’t do kinky – he’s too stiff, we look at hiddles in those crimson peak photos and we can totally see kinky pervy sex, if it was Benny we would be think intelligent conversation and cute kisses.

      • Kelly says:


        that’s funny since Benny was originally cast in Hiddles’ role for Crimson Peak, but he pulled out

        but I think he can do kinky, I can totally envision Khan as a kinky bastard

      • 'p'enny says:

        I know Kelly, that’s why i said it. LOL. Khan doesn’t do anything for me at all. I was very disappointed in that film. I liked the first Star Trek reboot and then i got excited about Benny in the second, but to be honest it lacked spark.

      • Lilacflowers says:

        @’p'enny, agreed on Star Trek – and I saw it with a trekkie, who was absolutely appalled. And looking at those Tom pictures, I see kinky sex AND intelligent conversation before and after.

      • Intro Outro says:

        @’p’enny, Lilacflowers:

        Can i hug you ladies? Because I watched almost all of Star Trek: Into Darkness curled up into a ball and peeping at the screen through my fingers because storyline and dialogues were that embarrassing. And I consider myself a fan, at least of the older TV shows. I decided to watch it mainly due to Cumberbatch – and even he disappointed me in it =/ Khan is flat and absolutely non-menacing imo. Can’t believe it has 87% on Tomatometer.

  28. chaine says:

    um what is on his head in the last pic? #worldsworsttoupee

  29. Shiv says:

    Ah Lady Balfour – same age, pretty, well educated and VERY posh! She definitely has her own successful career but as someone mentioned above she has multiple social pages and is hardly an unknown. Her marriage was publicised as royals were in attendance and her divorce was also publicised.

  30. Platospopcorn says:

    DING DONG!!!!!!!!!!! The IMDB thread for this “Secret Girlfriend” dust up has GONE MISSING! Oh boy. I love, love, love a good conspiracy. What say you, Celebitchy????? Why have they allowed gazillion page threads on all those other alleged hook-ups (not to mention thorough discussions of dong muff and the rumored color thereof), but apparently deep-sixed the speculations surrounding this article????? WHAT SAY YOU?????

  31. Shiv says:

    I have literally just been looking for the thread to see of they had some new info and your right, it’s gone.
    I saw it earlier today – nothing at all untoward at that point. They were more joking about him dating an elephant (yes an actual elephant) – crap old joke!
    The only time I’ve seen that was when the evelina fox rumours started on data lounge i.e she was back stage with him at jimmy fallon or whatever show he did the R
    Kelly thing on and the thread was deleted/just disappeared…

    • Raven says:

      I remember that, too. But before that rumour gains any new life in the wake of this breaking tabloid news, I want to remind that it was mentioned in the same thread that Evelina Fox is a friend (or maybe friend of friends) of BC who has a boyfriend, and her “Harrow boy” was actually someone completely unrelated. Everything else was invented by Tumblr girls and was the result of obsessively searching any and all hashtags related to BC and then drawing their own conclusions because they happened to be in the same place at the same time. The same thing happened on Datalounge with Birgitte Hjort Sorensen, pages of speculation kicked up all because James Rhodes followed her on Twitter. And now Trese San Wong because she took a picture with him on holiday. Is it any wonder these women take their profiles private with this sort of scrutiny.

  32. Boredwithimdb says:

    It won’t be his “people” who removed the thread on IMDB, it will because its been reported by the band of self appointed Benny Nannies who patrol the site in search of any discussions they deem “invasive” of their sacred idol’s privacy.

  33. Ellen says:

    First Hiddles now benny, when would these secret girlfriend rumours end? Why would/should they keep their lives on hold for fans?
    If either of them dated someone really special I doubt they’d give two hoots what people think to hide her.

    I’d be more disappointed in them for not growing a pair and facing fans if they felt that they had to hide someone.
    Nobody should love in secret

  34. Shiv says:

    ….but there is other ‘personal/speculative’ threads still up on IMDB….

    This is getting a little kray kray!

  35. Kelly says:

    Why can’t he just get together with Louise Brealey!?

  36. Katie says:

    No one leaks to Showbiz Spy, so this wasn’t his PR.

    I doubt it’s true but it could be. If that’s the case, rule out actresses/models/wannabe famous types since they’re all in the public eye. No one mentioned in this post would fit.

    • Skittle says:

      When you think about it, it’s really quite easy to start a rumour like this. Take one notoriously private actor, claim he’s dating a bird who’s out of the public eye and wants to stay anonymous, and BOOM! There you have it. No need for the woman in question to actually exist; that’s merely a formality.

      • CoffeeCat says:

        Being notoriously private is a baaaad, bad, bad habit IMO. It rarely works to your advantage. Secrecy breeds curiosity so the more you hide, the more they dig because, well, if you’re hiding something, you definitely have something to hide!

  37. Aly says:

    Wow, his second girlfriend couldn’t be more different from his first one pictured. It’s like the girlfriend you have before you are famous versus the girlfriend you get after you make it.

    I know she is an actress too. She was in an episode of sherlock and she was pretty good for the small role she had. Funny how both Benedict and Martin were able to get jobs for their significant others on their show.

  38. pru says:

    Nothing can get me through such heartbreaking “news” like the CeleBitches – a fun and clever post as ever!!

    You are all awesome!

  39. Pinky says:

    I think the difference between this bit of gossip and the gossip from last year re: the women he was spotted with is just that- he was spotted with them. everyone knows he was banging katia, but charlotte? i think he wanted to remove himself from katia and his friend charlotte was there and she let him. hes become super tight lipped since then so i have doubts about him letting something slip. if he is seeing someone and wants to stop hiding it for whatever reason, leaking it to the fandom through a non reputable source is an easy and quick way to do it. lame, but effective. pretty soon his people will be feeling pressure to respond to the rumor. thats how we’ll all find out for sure. my theory anyway.

  40. Kate says:

    This whole secret girlfriend theory for any actor is simply hilarious! Hell there are still people who believe Hiddles has a secret GF after a whole year whom was never seen anywhere with him, didn’t go out to parties with him after Coriolanus when he was with a majority of his other friends, never was seen at the bar he frequented after his Coriolanus performances, never goes to any events, let’s him attend many parties alone where he has hit on other women, hasn’t traveled to see him Toronto, didn’t attend the Oliviers, only seems to know things on twitter after the fans do, after he’s denied their relationship on many occasions, I believe I’ve heard he’s been flirting with quite a few women in Toronto, not to mention don’t you think he would have had a picture of them somewhere in his Coriolanus dressing area/mirror where he displayed tons of things from his family. I mean heck the man obviously had a few days off before the oliviers and he stayed in Canada, I am aware of no man that wouldn’t be heading home to his girlfriend of a year the minute he had the chance. Heck there have even been fans who’ve asked him recently and he’s said he’s single but there are still some that stand beside these actors ‘protecting’ these girls. These are women they don’t need protecting and these men aren’t going to put there personal lives on hold enough to hide someone they care about to please their fans.

    • Raven says:

      Yes, it’s all bit hard to swallow. I’m sure if and when they have serious partners, we’ll know. Whether by their own admission or seeing them photographed together or at events.

    • Ellen says:

      Well said Kate. And if what was said is true his girlfriend wouldn’t have to or need to favourite everything on twitter.

      In the meantime enjoy this

    • 'p'enny says:

      @Kate, Hiddles would flirt with a table leg if it spoke back, its natural to him. I’m not sure if bombing this thread with is he/is he not is a good thing right now. It’s been discussed to death on this board and nothing new is forthcoming.


      Her twitter has an interesting link to Damon Albarn’s latest song – it’s rather heartwrenching.

      • Ellen says:

        They probably were fwb but she fell for him but he doesn’t feel the same way back. I don’t know why she seems to send out hints that she wants him. I feel sorry for but she really does need to move on. It’s clear he doesn’t feel the same way.

        This is why it’s a good thing benny and his rumours aren’t on twitter.

    • Kelly says:

      Yes, but they aren’t girlfriends, they’re F-buddies. When you look at it that way, it makes sense :P

      • Kate says:

        @Ellen Exactly, it’s just a bit embarrassing.

        @’p'enny While I know it has been discussed, the above subject brought it up again and I just find the whole thing quite hilarious. Anyone out in the dating world knows this behavior is not typical of anyone in a healthy relationship, you don’t hide people you care about period. When you’re in love all you want to do is brag about the person at length, it’s why new couples are so annoying lol. Let alone a year, it simply isn’t possible. Especially when we’re talking about a man who has had no qualms about discussing his girlfriends in public before, quite often actually. As for his flirting, I’m sorry but I am aware of no man who dates a woman for a year, and is still openly and visibly hitting on women and attempting to sleep with them.

        @Kelly I 100% agree. These two smell of buddies with benefits and that’s been said by many people, nothing wrong with that at all. But I think so many people want to believe he’s in love, they forget he is a man and a young sexual man at that.

        But with these secret girlfriends, no one is going to believe they aren’t with anyone (Ben or Tom) until they show up on the red carpet with someone else, like Raven mentioned above. Personally I don’t see why so many people think these men have to be attached to someone because of their looks. Most good looking & successful men in their thirties aren’t looking for a relationship they’re looking for fun and with Ben and Tom’s career trajectory I don’t blame them, there couldn’t possibly be much time for a relationship at all.

    • Hannah says:

      But would she still show interest in him if he had dropped her like a hot potato after Wimbledon? They may not be in a relationship but I suspect they are still seeing each other. And how could you even know whether or not she flew to Toronto? She’s not famous and she only tweets about work-related things.

      • Kate says:

        Probably not, she seems a bit obsessed to be honest which is a little fangirlish. I would say the thing that speaks volumes is the fact that he flew to Toronto the day before the Oliviers and left the morning after, especially when he had a few days off before, there is no way a man who has been seeing someone for any length of time would avoid someone they cared about like that. This whole debacle had been the epitome of grasping at straws, almost a year after this whole thing and people are still speculating. It’s really no wonder these men stay private, because they can flirt, sleep with, tell other women their single, and people say “They’re secretly in love and hiding a girlfriend.” It’s simply not how love works, when someone is in love or committed it’s blantent. I mean heck Tom sat next to a random girl at the Oliviers and people were freaking out all over tumblr. If either of these men stand next to women or sit next to them they are then in a secret torrid love affair to protect them for their rabid fans. The fan fiction writes itself

      • 'p'enny says:

        Kate you seem to know a lot,

        How do you know he had a few days off before travelling to London? because he wasn’t on the ‘one day’ outdoor shoot with Charlie and the ‘one day’ shoot with Mia? i noticed as well, you mentioned he had been attempted to flirt and pick up women in Toronto? maybe he couldn’t get the flight earlier or was booked weeks in advance etc etc etc, was this on Twitter/tumblr? because i think people read way too much into stuff. If he sharing a hotel with the lead cast, all of them involved in relationships chances are he is sharing a drink with Charlie and collapsing dead after a long shoot. If he is picking up women as much as some pertained by others, he’d be all over the gossip columns. [ i am not saying he is monk, i just don't think he flaunts it as much as datalounge or lipstick alley or blind alley and the like pretend] Secondly, the woman that he maybe or maybe not hiding has a high-flying day-job, and managing Clint Mansell at the moment who is hot composer for the film Noah and can’t drop her schedules just to fit his. If they are involved, she is called the shots and its probably because of her job. If i was her, i’d want to remain hidden with the bat-shit fans he has out there.

      • Isadora says:

        I’m really no relationship expert because I normally avoid them like the plague, but it’s somehow interesting to me that people seem to have very rigid ideas of how a relationship works. For example: people have been saying about both Cumberbatch and Hiddleston that they can’t have (secret) girlfriends because their fans trace their every step. Yes, to a certain extent. But due to laws and remains of human decency their traced steps are mainly official work stuff (award shows, after parties, comic conventions, etc.) and random sightings at cafés and such. So yes, of course people would notice if Hiddlesbatch walks down the street hand in hand with his sweetheart or have candlelight dinner in a famous restaurant. But other than that? Why should she be at their work places? Nobody knows with whom they spend their evenings at home and if they have candlelight dinners there. If a non-famous secret girlfriend arrives at the same hotel as Hiddlesbatch and checks in there, nobody would notice that. If they are sexting all the time, nobody would know.

        So my personal conclusion: I have no idea if they are single (quite possibly they are), but it’s not impossible to be very very low-key (lol) with a relationship, I’d say. Even with all the fangirls.

      • Ellen says:

        ‘P’enny If by what is been documented to death is true about her behaving like a batshit fangirl on twitter, then it doesn’t strike me as someone who would want to stay hidden if they were in a relationship.

        Why would either of them keep it hush hush anyway? So many of the batshit fans want them to get a girlfriend anyway.

        The fact is if there was something to write about they’d say it. Neither has kept relationships secret before either.

        I mean if they fell in love and get married what the hell do they do then? It would become ridiculous not to mention unhealthy for the relationship

      • Kate says:

        As someone who has had a few serious relationships and know many people in happy long term relationships I can tell you the above is not normal for a relationship at all. You simply don’t hide a person and frankly at a certain point you don’t care if people don’t like them, because you love them. Now, it’s very on point for a FWB relationship though which is what many people concluded a while back but I digress. While it is no one’s business and we don’t know all the details it’s quite hard to hide a secret affair (to which no proof is available) after a year. Something would have come up by now, and people who are in love speak about each other, Tom has never been shy of speaking about his exes in the past, even when the incident didn’t call for it . This seems to be like the whole Sian Clifford incident, she was a friend of his spotted with him a couple times, everyone assumed they were dating when there was nothing to it and a little girl on tumblr actually asked him in the beginning of last year (referring to Sian) if he had a girlfriend and after stating he didn’t, a user on tumblr actually accused the little girl of lying about it and stating he was at the time ‘protecting’ Sian. It seems as if this has turned into a whole other Sian incident.

        I’ve grown up with guys, have a group of six guy friends I hang out with and I’ve dated and I can tell you out of all the guys I know who had various types of professional jobs I know none who would have or would currently state he was single to other women, state he was single to people he causally speaks to or out in public blatantly (in a magazine) if he was in love with someone. Tom would have to be the only man I know who would, and this lady would be the only one I knew who would put up with it for so long.

      • Isadora says:

        @Kate: I don’t think you can compare non-famous people speaking about relationships to famous people. Because a normal guy would have no reason whatsoever to “hide” a girlfriend, but there are several reasons for famous people not to tell the world immediately the second they fall in love. After a year of a constant relationship? Yes, maybe. But after a few months? Not really. And I guess the ones with the problem of making it public wouldn’t be Tom or Benedict. I can imagine that a decent, normal woman wouldn’t like to be in the public spotlight just because she is in a new relationshipt with someone famous. I know I would rather have my famous bf tell people that he is single than having my whole life/background etc. spread out on tumblr, if I were in their shoes. It’s not at all about the public liking the significant other or being “denied” as a gf, it’s just about having some peace and quiet.

  41. Just Here says:

    Am I the only one who thinks Poulet is lovely? Not that it matters, but I like her over the other ex.

  42. Gia says:

    This website sounds like they stole a fan fiction prompt. All someone needs to do is write a meet-cute for Ben and his mystery GF, she-who-must-remain-hidden. Throw in some scenes of Cumby phoning her from all the different places he’s been in the past several months and you’ve got a story going!

  43. MissMary says:

    Awwww, apparently the same site which originated the story is now saying Benny dear is “furious” over the leak and is trying to plug it and “thinks he knows” who did it. Yeeeeeah. This is so fanfic it hurts. Because obviously, if this is true, his “inner circle” is leaking like a sieve.

  44. Boredwithimdb says:

    I’m still inclined to believe its just something the site made up. But they do seem to be sticking to their guns on it. So dunno what to think now. So many possibilities. So little evidence.

  45. Shiv says:

    Is that on the site now @missmary?


    Just seen it! I must be totally gullible as I’m starting to believe someone is leaking stories and there is some truth in it….

    *hides away ashamed*

    • Gia says:

      *sigh* Showbiz Spy is continuing the drama, I see. I’m waiting for the Daily Fail to get ahold of this one, with pics, for me to think this is serious.

    • MissMary says:

      TBH I think they are either trying to s tir a reaction from his camp and it’s now set in a way that will look like they have the inside track (if he denies it, see he DID plug the leak! if he says it’s true, see, they DO have the facts), or they’re trying to up their clicks because he’s so popular and they know people will visit the site.

    • Becks says:


      They are continuing with this embarrassingly juvenile display because they witnessed traffic to their site shoot through the roof either the last bullshit guff they wrote.
      Christ, it looks like it was written by a 10 year old!

      ‘He’s furious someone has leaked the info from his INNER CIRCLE and he’s trying to plug the leak!!!!!!!!’

      I mean….. WAKE UP, PEOPLE!!!!!!

    • blended says:

      in the past his camp has always ignored rumours. i don’t know why this time would be any different. not believing any of this.

    • Froop says:

      I’d say this was BS, unless it pops up somewhere more reputable. Not that the Daily Fail is reputable but you know what I mean – they get a lot of legit leaks from publicists. I’ve never heard of this source site before but I’m sure they’re enjoying the site traffic.

  46. Nosey says:

    seems like this thread is dead, but if anyone is interested, someone did post on smarp that he was spotted in finland with his girlfriend in early feb.

  47. pushkar says:

    Ladies you are so funny! Hi I hope you don’t mind me chipping in, I am a middle aged Mum who is also a BC fan..sad I know. Anyway I live in London and a friends sister (I know I know but this is true) went to a friend of hers house for dinner, about 8 people, all in theatre and BC was there and he was definately single, this was in Feb. Though I suppose it doesn’t mean he didn’t have a really really secret love. Oh and I happen to live in the part of London where Tom Hardy grew up and have seen him about occasionally, can’t see the appeal but nice man.