Benedict Cumberbatch has a girlfriend, claims ‘Masterpiece Theatre’ boss


Here is what happened: I clicked on a Page Six story that I thought was going to be about Downton Abbey, and as I skimmed the piece, I was floored to see Benedict Cumberbatch’s name crop up. Then it got worse. MUCH WORSE. Apparently, Rebecca Eaton – the Masterpiece Theatre boss and executive producer on such shows as Downton Abbey, Sherlock, Miss Marple, Poirot, and many more – told Maureen Dowd that Benedict has a girlfriend. Sort of. That’s what it sounds like.

PBS “Masterpiece Theatre” boss Rebecca Eaton revealed that President Barack Obama almost ripped Lady Grantham’s dress at a White House event that drew the “Downton Abbey” cast.

Obama accidentally stepped on the gown worn by actress Elizabeth McGovern, who plays Cora Crawley on the popular British series, Eaton told ad execs Tuesday at the Cannes Lions festival. Eaton, who spoke as part of a panel along with New York Times columnist Maureen Dowd, said her core audience of 60-something women loves shows about love lost.

That might also explain her other job: helping British hottie Benedict Cumberbatch find a new love interest. She wouldn’t say whom the “Sherlock” actor has met, but she said it’s time for all those “Cumberbitches” — the name used by his huge base of female followers — to move on.

[From Page Six]

*wrenches hair, cries*

So, this is much bigger than some foreign paper randomly calling someone a “wife.” SO MUCH BIGGER. I’ve been covering all of the random gossip about Benedict maybe having a girlfriend, but I guess I didn’t believe it until now. His boss basically outed him and even takes credit for setting him up with someone. Rebecca Eaton needs to shut her wh-re mouth!!!! No, I take it back. She brings me the Anglophile shows that I love. Eaton needs to stop fixing up Benedict (NOOOOO) and bring me some more Miss Marple episodes, for the love of God.

As for the girlfriend… Lord knows. I doubt it was the brunette at the French Open – their body language said “friends” or even “relatives” to me. But it could have been that blonde at the Formula One Grand Prix in Monaco. Ugh!!!

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  1. GoodNamesAllTaken says:

    I love him and I hope he’s happy. Says the little angel on my shoulder.

    Who is this tramp? Says the devil on my other shoulder.

  2. Sixer says:

    It’s Jane Arthy! Rebounds rock.

    (If this could only be true, I would revoke my atheism and pray for it every night.)

  3. Roberta says:

    Oh my god it’s the beginning of the Apocalypse!

    If its true kudos to him for keeping her under the radar, unlike one of his friends *cough*

  4. SpookySpooks says:

    Hahahahhaha, I can’t wait for the tumblr meltdown.

  5. iskra says:

    and I can already see this will have like million posts. LOL.

    On topic – isnt it dumb that your boss outs you in the media??? Come on, it sounds like heavy PR.
    Personally, BC is not really my cup of tea, I totally believe he has been dating and banging someone all this time, I just find it stupid that your boss comes out with it publicly.

    • SpookySpooks says:

      It is heavy PR for sure.

    • Intro Outro says:

      Either PR or a public message sent through his friend/colleague.

      • Nic says:

        Do you genuinely believe that he would be a) bothered enough to try and surreptitiously leak info on his private life to the public and b) make a quick call to Rebecca Eaton of all people and say ‘ooh, you wouldn’t do it me a favour would you? Are you speaking at any public events any time soon? good. Do you think you could namedrop me into the conversation and then find some way to say that I’ve got a girlfriend? Thanks’

        How odd.

      • Katie says:

        I think he’s had girlfriend for a while but would be super surprised if he sent message or greenlit anything through Eaton. Too random and not enough reach.

        Just noting she’s not really his ‘boss’ either. PBS has airing rights but isn’t directly involved in production. His bosses are the BBC/Sherlock management team.

      • Isadora says:

        Hard to say if it’s PR or a pissed of “boss” who can’t anymore with the fangirls lol… If the latter is true it was not exactly a nice move by her though… (I mean nice regarding Benedict’s wishes for privacy, I don’t care about the tender sensibilities of his fangirls).

      • Isadora says:

        I meant “pissed off” of course… *side-eying my f key*

      • Intro Outro says:

        @Nic: I have no idea how close Ben is to Rebecca Eaton, and no idea if he authorised her “leaking” info or not *shrugs*. She could be pulling his fans’ leg? It could be PR connected with him starting filming Black Mass in the US? It could be a misinterpretation?

        Personally, I am much more interested in pics from BM set. Really curious about how Cumby and Johnny will look together.

    • Sighs says:

      What strange PR. There’s nothing in the Mail, they’re usually the first with that kind of thing.

    • MissMary says:

      Color me cynical, but it sounds like Eaton is tiref of his fans making demands and swamping PR and is being pissy.

      • Katie says:

        @ MissMary, definitely comes off a bit like that.

      • iskra says:

        But still, no matter how annoyed you are, it is highly unprofessional to talk about someones´ personal life in the media. Unless Cumby wanted this to happen. Are him and Eaton very close friends?

      • Katie says:

        No arguments there, iskra, but this is the same person who complained about Maggie Smith being a pain on the DA set in public and revealed a plotline the showrunners actually filmed in secret to avoid just that so…not super professional.

      • MissMary says:

        As far as I know, he and Eaton aren’t close at all. The only time they’re ever “seen” together is at PBS events to promote Sherlock or other shows he’s in that end up on Masteriece Theatre stateside. I mean, IRL, they may be best buds and he sends her flowers for her birthday and she stops by to make him dinner weekly, but I doubt it.

        Given her past comments about Maggie Smith, her unprofessionalism re DT and just pretty much how she comes off (to me, anyway) when she’s interviewed, I’m skewing to the side of she was either grossly misquoted, she was making a flippant remark and it didn’t fly well, or she really is trying to set him up with folks and feels she’s a matchmaker for the guy. Or, like I said above, she wants the Cumberbitches to step off her PBS and stop showing up to the open-to-the-public events or slamming websites, etc, with questions and “OMGS!” whenever he’s announced at a panel they’re hosting, etc.

      • delorb says:


        I agree with you. She seems to put her foot in her mouth often, with regards to reading the room. I still think she’s great, because of what she brings us, but I’m under no illusion that she has some inside scoop on Benedict or his private life.

        PBS has taken a ton of heat for when they showed Sherlock. Plenty of people were upset that it wasn’t shown here in the states at the same time it was shown in the UK (I was one of them). Or they were upset that it was shown at a late hour (I fell asleep once). Or that it had very little pr push behind it. It did really well considering its on PBS, but a lot of fans wanted more. So I can see her getting upset at all the negatives thrown her way.

        Doesn’t excuse her outing his private life if that’s the case, just an ASSUMED explanation on my part.

  6. anon says:

    This was in the Boston Herald under “seen around town” – Sherlock” star Benedict Cumberbatch , in town to play Billy Bulger in the Whitey Bulger “Black Mass” flick starring Johnny Depp, taking a date to  Sonsie’s for dinner ..

    We need to get Lilacflowers and Miss Jupiter onto this stat!

    • Lilacflowers says:

      Surprised the Herald gossip columnist even knows who he is. She’s usually too fixated on trying to get Ben Affleck and Tom Brady together to pay attention to anyone else. She also is a tad out of touch – spent most of the past season expecting Kim Kardashian to show up at one of Kris Humphries’ Celtics games – and she makes crap up. So, it could have been a date or it could have been his mother. Sonsie is a “see and be seen” sort of place.

    • Lilacflowers says:

      And I haven’t figured out where the cast is staying yet, although I understand he likes to stay separate from others. Any way, he was supposedly filming in Southie yesterday.

      • Kate2 says:

        Really? Crap. I had to work and then had a late Dr. appt so I didn’t get home until 7:30-8. Do you know where specifically in Southie? I’m going for a run tonight along the sugar bowl and down Day Blvd so maybe I will see them. I thought I saw them setting up on Friday on W. Broadway on the way home from work. I almost got into an accident trying to take a pic. I posted it on my Twitter hoping someone would confirm. No such luck.

      • Miss Jupitero says:

        Report back when you know!

      • 'P'enny says:


        come on… get on it!

      • Isadora says:

        I think you need a new title: Lilacflowers, official CCC (celebitchy cumberbitches correspondent), live from Boston, USA.

      • Lady Macbeth ex Hiddles F. says:


        Are you the ‘unofficial’ CB journo there? LOL Must take a shot of Cumby plus gf! XD

      • Lilacflowers says:

        @Lady MacBeth, I think I’ve earned the post because I don’t fancy him at all so he’s safe with me and will leave plenty of him for all of you. They were filming on G Street in Southie yesterday. BC was there but not in costume. Apparently, Peter Sarsgaard is in this thing too and he was in costume. The Globe actually printed an article featuring the word “Cumbermusk” today. They’ll be up in Lynn next Monday beginning at 5 AM and need extras for a St. Patrick’s Day parade scene.

        I really feel sorry for Depp and anyone else wearing heavy makeup in this thing – it is very hot and humid today. Aside from seeing Depp filming in the North End a few weeks ago, my travels, and I HAVE been traveling about the city, haven’t turned up any cast members in their free time. Although I did run into Giselle Bundchen last week (God, why do I always encounter Giselle but not Tom?), some random baseball players, and there was a fleet of black Cadillac Escalades and black-suited men outside the Ritz this afternoon, but that somehow looked more “government official” than movie-related.

      • Old Enough says:

        for filming locations check onlocationvacations. they have a link to a page, someone collated all the info on locations in South Boston. All this week then a gap so perhaps in studio or a different part of town. I’m stuck at work or I’d be out there having a peep.

      • Lilacflowers says:

        @OldEnough, they’re filming up in Lynn as well. There’s a casting call for 5 AM Monday in Lynn to film a St. Patrick’s Day parade.

      • Kate2 says:

        How do you see all these people? I walk home from my office 2-3 times a week and I never see ANYONE. I go through the Garden and Common and nada. Maybe I gotta look around more. ;)

      • Lilacflowers says:

        @Kate2, while you’re doing the stroll along Haffenweffer Way (whatever its name is) through the Garden and Common, look at the people passing instead of doing the usual commuter dash. With all the sports teams, theaters, concerts, hospitals, and universities around here, there are always celebrities about. Lots of singers get their throats treated at MAss Eye &Ear and the other Partners hospitals draw people from all over. The hotel restaurants and bars around the Garden/Common are good areas to see people. The registry isn’t a bad place either – local celebs do need to renew their licenses too.

      • Lilacflowers says:

        Well, apparently, I experienced another Johnny Depp sighting but was completely unaware of it. We attended an Alison Krauss/ Willie Nelson show at the “Your Name Here Pavilion” on the harbor the other night and Depp was playing in Nelson’s band for the whole set. Willie just introduced him as “Johnny on guitar” and he was clear on the other side of the stage from where we were. Only today, the Globe is making it known that “Johnny on guitar” was Depp. No sign of any other members of the cast but they could have been in attendance.

    • Miss Jupitero says:

      I love Sonsie’s!

      If you go there, get a table near the front and DO order their grilled Cuban sandwich. Mmmmmm….

    • balehead2012 says:

      Oh, no, no, no, Sixer and all! Back up, girls! Ragnar/Travis is definitely mine :D Unless Lagertha steps in and kicks my butt.

  7. Clairewobble says:

    Hello! I’m new here….but long time lurker. I love reading your comments! All very funny!
    There’s no Bostonbatch pictures yet?!
    OOOhhh maybe we have seen his GF somewhere with him already, i hate it that he keeps us guessing..

  8. PunkyMomma says:

    My Otter has a mate? He’s kept her hiding in the kelp beds, must be. Is he lavishing her with bivalves? Is she ensuring his chapeaus are the correct size? I think not. (Cracking open an oyster in denial.)

  9. T.fanty says:

    I hope this is true. Maybe I’ll have a shot at getting tickets to Hamlet now.

  10. MissMary says:

    Meh, either PR or mis-spoken esp as he’s been seen solo in and around London and at events with random women. By all accounts, except the sighting at Sonsei, he’s solo in Boston as well.

  11. GeeMoney says:

    Well, if it’s true, can he just confirm it already?

    And yeah… I hope he’s happy. *hangs head in sadness*

  12. MediaB says:

    Haha, it only really matters if the secret girlfriend is you* and if you have to ask, it’s сlearly not you!

    *or your bestfriend, sister or mother but in those case you’d probably already know…

    Good luck to them if they are managing to keep it quiet, unlike the blabbermouth exec…

  13. Solanaceae says:

    Good for him, if it’s true!!

  14. Koko says:

    Love this, can’t wait to read the 600+ comments.

  15. kristen says:

    Of course he has a girlfriend.

    He’s Benedict freaking Cumberbatch.

  16. OhDear says:

    * offers popcorn *

    Oh here go hell come. Assuming this is true, I hope people are at least not unkind to her.

  17. betsy says:

    I suspect its the posh bird Lady Kinvara Balfour. Niece of the Duke of Norfolk. Balfour is always in New York at fashionable soirees. The type of events the PBS woman would be at. Cumberbatch has known her years and with both of them single it would make sense for them to hook up.

    The woman in France is a friend of hers too so it all fits together nicely.

    • Sighs says:

      I think so, too, if this is true. She’s been either at the same events or in the same vicinity as him for months now.

    • Lindy79 says:

      If she’s in the fashion game she really needs to sort him out.
      Maybe that’s why no sightings, she’s refused to be seen out with him when he’s in any of the following

      -Maroon pants
      -That stripey t-shirt
      -Blue denim shirt
      -Rain coat thing

      Only time she’s been seen with him, he was in a suit and the cheeky bugger probably snuck the sunglasses and white hat in, it was too late for her to do anything. I still would have ripped them off and chucked them in the sea when they were on the RedBull boat though.

      • Sighs says:

        Yes, but if they’re still in early stages, she has to make it appear as if it’s an accident.
        Oh darling, may I borrow your sunglasses? It’s frightfully bright out here.
        *chucks them into the sea*
        Oh, I’m such a silly ninny. I’ve dropped them and now you’ll never get them back. I do hope you can forgive me!
        (Simultaneously blocks all access to websites on his phone where he can purchase said glasses)

      • T.fanty says:


        She might have lost her job “in fashion” on the basis of this rumour.

      • Lindy79 says:

        Oh Sighs that’s exactly how to do it. I’ve accidentally ruined several items belonging to Mr Lindy.

        TFanty, she’s liable to get judgey looks from her fashionista mates when old Benny boy comes rocking up in his denim shirt, thumbhead hat and maroon pants.
        I’m thinking more and more, the keep it quiet might have been her idea. In private he can wear his birthday suit and everyone’s a winner (babe!)

      • Lady Macbeth ex Hiddles F. says:


        I can’t do it with my hubby because that would mean I should send him around naked *thinks of setting on fire the whole wardrobe*

      • Isadora says:

        LOL! You wonderful ladies made my day with your comments!

      • Lindy79 says:

        It’s an uphill struggle. Luckily he doesn’t go shopping more than twice a year so my regular culling seems to weed out the most eyeball offensive stuff.

        Maybe tell him a feral weasel got in through an open window and shredded all his clothes?
        One of our cats ruined a rather horrible jacket by getting into our wardrobe and using it as a climbing rope. He went mental, I gave the cat a tin of tuna.

      • Sighs says:

        Lindy- it got lost in the dryer. Or got washed with a pen or a red sock. Works like a charm. Though you may have used that one too many times. Are feral weasels native to your area? Perhaps a raccoon, or the neighbors meth’d out teenager?

      • Intro Outro says:

        I go a stealthier way, ladies. Whenever a pair of socks or a tee gets outrageously threadbare but hubby keeps refusing to throw it away, I keep forgetting to put it into the washing machine. He has no choice but put on the new and nice garment items which passed my approval. All the while I keep pushing his old rags deeper and deeper into the laundry basket. But, if he suddenly recalls their existence – I can always say I just forgot to wash them – and present the evidence! When after a month he successfully forgets about them, I quietly throw them away.

      • LadyMacbeth ex Hiddles F. says:


        I will probably get a kitten following your suggestion and accidentally leave the wardrobe doors open. If I set fire to it the house could burn too lol
        I tried to bleach the most horrible stuff and hubby kept wearing it anyway… Hopeless lol

  18. Katie says:

    Good for him if he does! It’s Page Six though.

    Not quite on topic, but this is kind of…weird? Eaton’s a little odd, granted, I remember her from a PBS panel. And she’s the one who dragged Maggie Smith publicly and gave away DA plotlines, I think? Not PR, imo, as there’s better outlets available, ones that mainstream media would actually pick up and distribute the message from.

  19. Kali says:

    Yeah, I’m still not recovered from the Mountain/Viper fight (I knew it was coming but STILL, the NOISES *jesus christ*). I need everyone else to be as depressed as I still am!

    *Grabs popcorn*
    *Fans the flames*


  20. Lindy79 says:

    I’m actually impressed if he’s had one he’s managed to keep her on the QT. He’s been everywhere since Jan.
    Hopefully he’s thought this might be the best way to break it gently, have someone else do it…if not she’s opened her mouth and he wont be too impressed because now this pretty much 100% confirmation is out there, interested people are going to be thirsty to get a pic of her.
    Whoever she is, batten down the hatches my dear! (and PLEASE buy him some new sunglasses!!!!!)

  21. Leo says:

    This has to be one of the most bizarre articles ever. Obama dress-ripping and TV shows.
    I’ve seen several panels with Rebecca Eaton and she has a very interesting way of speaking in public, to say the least. Who knows what she actually said and how misinterpreted it got. It’s Page Six after all.
    The matchmaking part, this isn’t the first time she mentioned it. In her book she wrote about teasing BC about it at the GG a few years ago.

    And how would she even know anything about his personal life or the current state of his love life?
    Somehow I don’t think RE would be in the know about his secret (?) GF.

    • Nic says:

      Of course she wouldn’t be privvy to his personal life. They’re more colleagues than anything, I’m sure. But that doesn’t seem to have occurred to most people as usual. Once again, the weekly ‘OMG a girlfriend!!!’, rather than actually thinking about things logically. So boring.

    • janey says:

      She would likely only know this much about his (very well protected) personal life if he were involved with someone she also knows well. The time she mentions her matchmaking in the memoir is interesting – most of that excerpt involves reminiscences of her family; the part where she namedrops BC is practically bookended with references to her daughter. Subconscious free-association, or intentional? Her recent remarks strike me suspiciously like a mama bear marking out territory. No?

      • Lindy79 says:

        If that’s the case then I hope if he’s not ok with her making comments about his private life like this, he lets her know.
        She’s also unleashing potentially a wave of crap onto her daughter. If they’re dating and have kept it quiet so far, why feel the need to do this? It seems really unprofessional and also a bit controlling.

  22. Jessi says:

    Am I the only one who didn’t read RE’s comments as confirming anything? I interpreted it as “the 14yr old fan girls need to calm down and realize he’s never going to date them.” Where did the “gf since January” confirmation come from?

    • Leo says:

      No, I thought the same. I’m just afraid to be labled a delusional fangirl :-D
      The whole context is beyons silly to me.

    • PB&J says:

      No, I was a bit confused, as well. And I wouldn’t be surprised if he does have a girlfriend (he’s about due, I figure…), but from the wording here, it’s a bit strange? Her second job is to find him a new love interest. But… if he’s already found one, why is she still helping? I dunno.

      And I’m never sure the magnitude of the cumberbitches. Quite frankly, isn’t that crazy, passionate fan base the same fan base that rocketed your quirky leading man from BBC regular to international star? If they move on (to another quirky British man, no doubt), is there enough to sustain Batch? Can we say he’s well and truly established? Although, I would agree. Some of the extreme Cumber-followers are…. a little intense?

    • Isadora says:

      Oh no, Jessi, you are ruining all the fun!

    • Raven says:

      I have to agree with you. I think this is getting misinterpreted and blown out of proportion. I’m not sure what kind of authority Rebecca Eaton would be on his love life, anyway. Perhaps she set him up with someone and they went on a date or two, or maybe she’s just winding up the fans for whatever reason. I think she’s a bit Cumberbatched herself judging on her previous comments on his backside so maybe it’s that she wants him all to herself…;)

    • Lilacflowers says:

      Jessi, I had the same interpretation you did.

    • From North of Boston says:

      I thought the same thing.

      Plus, he may very well have a girlfriend, but I don’t think the first public announcement of it will come from Rebecca Eaton, Exec Producer of Masterpiece and therefore in some ways BC’s boss. She does have a tendency to say some of the oddest things about people whose shows air on PBS: Maggie Smith for one, and BC too. I think she is secretly a “fangirl” herself; she made rather unprofessional fangirlish comments about him and his physique at the PBS/Sherlock session in NYC a couple of years ago, and seems to be a bit odd about being near the ‘Sherlock’ inner circle (in a bit of a too-pleased, smug,”I’m cool and you little people in the audience aren’t” kind of way)

  23. Altariel says:

    Dang…..she told the Cumberbitches to “move on”? I fear for her safety. Actually, nah …. she’s got it coming. One does not simply diss on the Cumberbitches.

  24. Altariel says:

    I would love to see what would happen if Jane Arthy jumped over to Benny (why do I get the sense TH would be relieved?).

  25. Dani says:

    Hope she can handle the unfortunate backlash she’ll receive once she’s ‘exposed’. Good for him though, he is getting older.

  26. Miss Scarlet says:

    You know it’s Lady Balfour. She’s basic, blonde, and blue-blooded. She’ll get Mummy’s stamp of approval for sure.

  27. Shiv says:

    Telling the fangirls to ‘move on’ is very rude and I bet he didn’t sanction that if he did tell her to say something – he knows who his fanbase is. There are many young girls who have stepped onto the Cumberbus and will just as easily step off and move on to someone new. I won’t as I’m too old to be getting upset over him having a GF haha. I just can’t see him asking her to drop that casually into the conversation – are they not colleagues as opposed to friends? On the other hand, for alll we know it may no longer be a secret he has a GF and it’s just that he doesn’t address or discuss the subject and that’s why Rebecca felt at ease saying what she said.

    This is a page 6 article so for all we know she has made a flippant comment and they have twisted it. It wouldn’t be the first.

    I definitely don’t think it’s Kinvara. She publices everything and anything she is at and she is definitely not in Boston on a ‘date’, she’s in London judging by her daily updates.

    Final note, I’d like to think celebs are just like us ‘normal’ mortals when it comes to relationships. I don’t know who I look down on more – the man who hides his girlfriend and waltz’s around with various members of the opposite sex at public events which is then discussed and speculated on every gossip
    site going or the girlfriend who is absolutely fine with it.

    Final final note (proooomise) – a company was tweeting quotes from the event – could be *ladies* don’t have a chance at all 😋 or more likely, he wouldn’t date one of his fans. I don’t think it is meant that he has met the woman of his dreams so ‘Forget it’ especially if it’s a new thing…

    • Lindy79 says:

      I kind of agree on your point about relationships. I personally think it’s fine to keep a relationship private until you’re ready. I met my husband in work and we dated for over 6 months before telling anyone in work. Simple as you don’t know how things will work out and if it doesn’t you’d rather just go back to the way it was without all the questions/gossip that happens in a work place/public setting. Its possible she’s none of them and just works a reasonably regular job (not 9-5 office but not in public eye, maybe PR or something related to the industry in some way) and having a career hasn’t had time off to go swanning around with him but having said that yes it is odd that he’s been seen out and about in the company of so many women *if* one of them isn’t his partner.

      It’s worse if she’s hinting that ladies specifically don’t have a chance (if I’m getting your meaning). That’s a whole other discussion.

    • OhDear says:

      I think it’s more her saying that he’s a celebrity and the chances of a fan meeting, much less dating, him is very slim.

      Personally, I’d be weirded out if a celebrity dated a fan, especially someone like Cumberbatch with the fanbase that he has.

      • GeeMoney says:

        “Personally, I’d be weirded out if a celebrity dated a fan, especially someone like Cumberbatch with the fanbase that he has.”

        Stranger things have happened… you never know. I bet a lot of celebrities have dated fans (they probably didn’t date the crazies, though).

        Not to mention, didn’t someone mention awhile back about how Kristen Bauer van Straten (Pam on True Blood… love her) was a huge fan of her husband and sent him a few emails and got him to go on a date with her (and the rest is history)?

      • OhDear says:

        Sure, there are probably a lot of celebrities who have dated fans. I think it’s different if it’s a “hey, I love your work” fandom versus the fan who’s projecting a lot onto the celebrity’s actual personality (which, for example for Cumberbatch at this point, is a lot of his fans).

        Apologies for not being clear before.

      • Isadora says:

        Yes, I mentioned Kristin Bauer van Straten! Her story is just too adorable. But it was said (quite rightly) that she was an actress and celebrity in her own right.

        I kind of agree that it can be weird if a celebrity dates a fan. I’m not only talking about the nutcases but if you really, really adore a person’s work you have not only normal rose-tinted glasses but practically hot pink sparkling ones. It would be a strange power dynamic between a fan and a celebrity I think.

    • A.Key says:

      Telling the fans to move on is a brilliant tongue-in-cheek joke. But also quite right. People should move on, he’s never gonna date the obsessed fan, single or married.
      And why would you look down on someone who has a secret relationship? It’s their business. I can’t believe people are so judgmental. You’re not entitled to the private life of either TH or BC really. So why look down on them for not going public with their partner?
      I worry about people who are offended when famous actors don’t bother to notify the world about their sex lives.

      • M.A.F. says:

        Then they take to social media and start harassing the person/people involved. Makes me question society at times.

      • Shiv says:

        Look, I would look down on any man who would keep their girlfriend a secret, famous or not. If you think a strong independent grown up female is fine with being a secret while her BF goes out with numerous other females to throw the scent off…..then…..well that’s your opinion.

        You’re right, he doesn’t owe us an explanation on his love life. No one would expect that. We are on a gossip site…gossiping. You have your opinions and I have mine.

        Also, what has TH got to do with it? Not interested in him/his going ons at all.

      • Isadora says:

        I’ve already said it with the other guy: I think the whole “hiding girlfriend” is a huge difference if you are famous. Because really, not for one second do I believe that BC hides a girlfriend from his family and friends. He obviously hasn’t hidden her from his boss either, if the rumor is true. And those are the people that count, those are the people a couple interacts with and those are the people a boyfriend should show that he loves his girlfriend. That’s what non-famous people do after all.

        I don’t know why a famous person has to do and prove MORE than this. Why should he “announce” his girlfriend to people he has never met, who only know his public persona and aren’t involved in his daily live at all?

      • Secret Squirrel says:

        Here here Isadora. People seem to forget that there is another person involved in these celebrity relationships. Not everyone wants to be part of the public life dramas and prefer to keep as many moments private as possible.

        Others lap up the attention and become mini-celebs in their own right (for all the wrong reasons).

        Some of the strongest Hollywood marriages are the ones where the partner stayed away from the limelight most of the time. Lesson to be learned…

      • A.Key says:

        “Why should he ‘announce’ his girlfriend to people he has never met”
        This, precisely what I was thinking.

        “If you think a strong independent grown up female is fine with being a secret” – how do you know she’s a secret?? She’s a secret to fans, who don’t have the right to know about her anyway. She may not be a secret to his friends and family. And that’s the only thing that counts.

    • Ruth Dunbar says:

      The point Shiv made about the knowing who his fanbase is and them moving on to someone new is, I think, an excellent point. Speaking as an “old” Cumberbitch, I regret to say I’m losing interest in him and, if he doesn’t start being interesting soon (I get that he’s filming a new movie, but still), it will not be long before I no longer give a crap, girlfriend or no girlfriend.

    • Katie says:

      Good points, Shiv, I agree with a good chunk but I can see the other side of it too, I guess? Bear with me, my work day has been wild LOL.

      If the hypothetical girlfriend isn’t in the public eye and will not benefit from the attention work-wise, I can see her not wanting to go public unless they’re engaged or something. Why go public if it’s not set in stone? Then everyone will know your business if you’re dumped plus you put up with the hassle for ultimately no reason.

      Undecided on his fanbase. It may need to thin out now…while I don’t think he’s established either, he seems to be at the point where his body of work is garnering opportunities as opposed to a fanbase. Dedicated fans are usually far more valuable in the earlier stages of your career unless you lack talent.

  28. M.A.F. says:

    Is he in Boston filming? Anyone know?

      • Lilacflowers says:

        It really makes me laugh that the Globe printed the term “Cumbermusk”

      • Secret Squirrel says:

        Is that a new type of cologne?? I can see the ad now. It involves a Jag on a windy road, it’s night, raining lightly. Inside sits Ben behind the wheel, dressed in a tux (with the bow tie not yet done up) and humming along to the tune on the radio (Flight of the Valkyries). He turns to camera and says “Cumbermusk. It’s my scent”

        From the boot, the muffled voice of Sean says “only $49.95 With free steak knives. Can I get out now? Please?”

      • Lilacflowers says:

        God help me, but I love what we have done to Sean!

        @Abby_J, if you are viewing since our other thread was shut down. Our boy is safely home. She forgot to take his phone away from him. When I texted him, with my immaculately clean, long, perfectly shaped nails that he just loves to feel on his back, the poor dear was crying that Jonny and Colin may have been injured in her ambush and was afraid to come home. He also had opened up the gash in his forehead again in the struggle. Took a bit to calm him down. (although not as long as it took to calm down poor Colin) I assured him all was well, and we were all waiting for him anxiously at home. She was so busy watching for Jack Bauer and Mark Strong that she didn’t notice as he simply walked away. Colin’s out in the yard, grilling us all some steaks. Mark is making drinks for everyone, even Sean. I’m letting the boys out of the shackles just for tonight and they’re bouncing around the kitchen to Grand Funk’s version of The Locomotion (RIP Gerry Goffin) and waiting for the brownies to finish baking. All is well. Tears are wiped away. Happy times. He’ll be ready to go running with you first thing tomorrow morning.

    • Kate2 says:

      Yes, he’s here. I hope he isn’t melting, its been 90 the last 2 days. I love it but I could see how it might be a bit much for a Brit.

  29. Green Eyes says:

    So, if there is indeed a Secret Girlfriend, how long do we give this relationship? A couple of weeks? Months? He was only with Anna for about 6 months and she was his last serious GF. The first few weeks/months are always hunky dory, but who could put up with his work schedule/travel (and work ALWAYS comes first with BC); his terrible fashion sense and the fact that he cannot sit still and be quiet for no longer than 35 seconds. As much as I would love a night of shenanigans with naughty Cumby, I think I would have to tape his mouth shut whilst doing so.

  30. Shiv says:

    With all the recent speculation, who here actually believes he has a GF – secret or not?

    I don’t. I think he’s having fun 😉 and when there is, I don’t think he will really care what the reaction would be and he will likely just step out with her but not discuss it.

    • Solanaceae (Nighty) says:

      Yeah, same here… After 12 years dating someone, he’s like back to his early 20′s and having fun; plus his work comes first….

    • Lindy79 says:

      I genuinely don’t think full time GF, (mainly because I just can’t see how he’d be able to maintain one with his schedule this year and he’s spotted by fans out and about a fair bit so unless they only see each other in their respective homes) but I’d say he’s doing a helluva lot of sampling/window shopping. or has something very casual going with a view to it becoming more serious.

    • Sophie says:

      @Shiv ITA
      I just don’t believe he’s got anything serious going on with anyone right now. When I see pics of Ben canoodling with this mystery girl , maybe I’ll believe it. I don’t think he’d hide someone that he’s serious about.

    • MissMary says:

      He’s referred to as “Benedict the Shagger” by a close friend, there’s rumors of him hiring “pros” and he’s consistently seen solo, with guy friends or with platonic female friends… Yeah the rumor is b.s. and Eaton was either misquoted or like I said above, she wants the Cumberbitches to back off her PBS.

      • Boredwithimdb says:

        What close friend refers to him as “Benedict the shagger?” First time I’ve heard that one.

      • Miss Scarlet says:

        Oh MissMary, please link to the shagger comment, and thank you for the amusement!

      • Nic says:

        Um.. Excuse me? ‘Benedict the shagger’? What on earth…

        And which trusted and reliable source would this have sprung from?

        And while we’re talking bullsh-t, no there are no rumours of him hiring ‘pros’. ONE trash gossip and blind items site, which has also admitted in the past to completely fabricating their blinds, invented that.
        Seriously, I don’t know why people think these lies are even convincing or consider how damaging the can actually be to a person and their reputation.

      • Lindy79 says:

        Didn’t Matthew Goode basically say in a GQ interview, that Ben is living and loving the single life?

      • MissMary says:

        Re the “shagger” —it was Matthew Goode himself, iirc, making a laughing comment in an interview within the past two years. I’m looking it up now but am at work so it may take a bit.

        Re the “pros”– It popped up in a few places and while most of the fans clutched pearls over it, it didn’t ruin his career. I personally wouldn’t be surprised but I’m cynical.

        Re Matthew Goode: Yep, he did say that Lindy.

      • Shiv says:

        Who referred to him as a shagger?

        I know Matthew Goode said ‘look, he is a man’ and is enjoying himself until he finds a long term partner….enjoying himself with the cream of the crop who are heading his way.

      • Nic says:

        Sorry, but the lies on this board are staggering. I can’t believe people believe them. Matthew Goode has never called him ‘benedict the shagger’ in an interview.
        And the GQ one had a rather crass comment about conquests, which I think said far more about Goode than anyone else.
        Yes, the nonsense from that blind site appeared in a few places because it originated from there and foolish people spread it around. Nobody was ‘clutching pearls’, thankfully most people had the sense to disregard a grotty rumour from a site that openly pedals lies.

      • MissMary says:

        Nic: I have no reason to make up anything about anyone, esp some celeb I know I am not meeting. And we must be visiting different sites because the was a lot of “pearl clutching” over the idea BC might *gasp* hire a hooker or escort. Tumblr can be a pit of pearl clutching, esp on fan sites for popular British actors.

        OH LOOK HERE IS THE QUOTE! ON THIS SITE EVEN! *gasp* Comment #22, posted by Shiv, and the comments following. Thanks.

        I *WILL* concede that I may have misread the thread as I can’t find the exact quote in GQ but as to my “source” that is where I got the term.

        Sorry if my post offended your sensibilities but yeah, no reason to lie about the man and seriously, if I was making shit up, I could do so much better than a dumbass quote from one of his co-stars. Like, I don’t know, claiming to be his matchmaker or some shit.

      • Shiv says:

        Erm, I wrote the actual quote and when someone said it was pretty much throwing BCumbs under the bus, I made a joke about Matthew saying ‘Benedict the Shagger’ – I also put numerous 😂😂😂 to emphasise the joke.

        Anyway, let’s keep things fun – agree to disagree and all :)

      • Green Earrings says:

        Yes, the “Benedict the Shagger” stuff came as a result of a quote from Matthew Goode in the GQ article. It was something about the cream of the crop of women throwing themselves at him right now so of course he’s going to sample them, especially after a twelve year relationship. People read it and said MG wasn’t such a good friend to basically out Ben as a shagger. That was last fall. He’s been all over the world since then spending weeks at a time abroad.

        Recently, he’s been photographed with several women at events who have been called old friends/colleagues (Kinvara, Sophie,ViviK). What girlfriend would sit at home while their boyfriend attends cool events publicly without them? Of course, it could be Kinvara or Sophie but their photos together didn’t scream romantic, more platonic. He is an actor, after all, and a very good one, but why hide the fact? Other posters were right that KB would be all over that. He would definitely raise her profile. So, IMO, if it’s happening at all, it’s either early days and/or casual/FWB. He’s not a monk.

        Still seems like a misquote to me. Page six of the New York Post is not dissimilar to the Daily Fail. And Rebecca Eaton is vile. She would be more than happy to tell his fangirls to piss off. And let the chips fall where they may.

      • MissMary says:

        @Shiv: Yep, hence my ‘I may have misread’ comment–it’d been a while since I Saw it and didn’t look for it again till today. So I apologize for confusion and my own derpiness but I stand by the fact I saw it, lol.

        @GreenEarrings: That’s my thoughts, too… Unless she is super secret top level spy and can’t ever be seen in public or something, why hide her for so long? He’s never “hidden” gfs in the past though he has been very firm about privacy and stuck by it, even while dating openly. I’m much more of the opinion he has a string of FWBs or casual situations esp as he’s also been openly hardcore into his career and focused on building his name and brand (so to speak).

      • Green Earrings says:

        @MissMary As usual, we are in total agreement ;) He has been very busy lately building his name and brand and the next 2-3 years appear to be just as busy for him. Work has always come first. He must strike while the iron is hot and that’s why a serious relationship just doesn’t seem to be feasible. He’s filming Black Mass, next is Yellow Birds, then Richard III, and a possible Oscar campaign for TIG. That will go until March. LCOZ is scheduled for January, then Hamlet. That’s almost all of 2014 and 2015 right there. The secret gf would have to have no career and be willing to take a backseat to him and his. And you know the LCOZ shoot (if it happens) and prep for and performances of Hamlet will be grueling. Even if he is “eager to please” as was suggested above, he’s going to have other priorities like getting an Olivier and establishing himself as a leading man who can be successful in a action movie (LCOZ). That doesn’t leave a lot of time for serious relationships, but dating, yes, IMO.

        Don’t understand any of the furor above. Keep smiling.

  31. A.Key says:


    Someone leak the porn tape, please!

  32. Joanie says:

    Since people seem to be getting a bit emotional on this thread…here’s some Third Star Birdyshorts Batch.

    You’re welcome ; )

  33. Shiv says:

    I think I am going to die with laughter…..a girl has just outed herself as the GF over on IMDB! 😂😂😂

    • MissMary says:

      LMFAO WHAT? Oh my lord. Like…earnestly? Or more of “Oh ha ha it’s totally me, guys”?

    • MissMary says:

      LOL I went over and had a peek at some of the threads and oy, the level of nannying… I had no idea it was so bad! Same with the percolating unhinged-ness some of the posters seem to have.

      • Intro Outro says:

        I did the same a couple of days ago. Got as far as someone earnestly believing that all directors flock to Benedict with the most interesting roles there are in the industry and had to back away :P However, I still saw some really nice, thoughtful and balanced posts there, too.

    • Raven says:

      Oh my god. That is truly a new level of lunacy.

    • Katie says:

      Apparently that IMDB ‘troll’ is a fan that they had to ban from OzCon when he was there? BC’s people knew who she was and she wasn’t allowed in.

      …she’s probably not trolling but a stalker. Yikes!

      • Isadora says:

        If those Brit boys would get a film role for every really weird stalker they have, they would actually drown in scripts the way some imdb posters seem to believe (as Intro Outro said).

      • Green Earrings says:

        How did you find this out? I tend to stay away from IMDB. Situations like these would make people think long and hard about becoming famous. If I were him, I wouldn’t go anywhere without security. His fan base really is, I don’t know what to say.

        That really is creepy that she would have to be removed from a Comic Con, which she obviously would have had to pay to attend. And IIRC, those ticket packages weren’t that inexpensive. Yikes is an understatement.

      • Lindy79 says:

        I had a look, and good lord…I hope he never gives fans a direct outlet to contact him, even if 90% of fans are fine, it’s this 10% that would scare the bejeesus out of me.
        She admits that she was escorted off by security TWICE at two different Cons (only when someone outed her as the same girl) but says “Ben” organised the cancellation of her tickets because he was worried for her safety. It doesn’t sound like someone trying to wind people up by taking the mick, she genuinely sounds….delusional is the only word I can use.
        Its actually scary to see it first hand, what can happen.

      • Katie says:

        @Green Earrings,

        Someone mentioned it on another board, and when I actually went and looked at the IMDB posts, the 2nd one I saw was her mentioning security tossing her out ‘on mistake’ at OzCon.

        Just what I was thinking, Lindy79. I don’t think I’ve seen anything quite that off before. She needs help, hopefully she’ll get it.

      • Lindy79 says:

        Katie that’s just it. The story goes far beyond anything I have ever seen. She claims he cancelled her tickets (bought and paid for herself…), that he tried to tell security she was his girlfriend but they “laughed in his face”. I had a quick look at her Facebook (someone briefly posted a link and I was nosy, not going to lie). She is listed as In a Relationship, refers to him as her boyfriend and looks to have bought the Oz Comic Con DVD and claimed it was an apology from them for the mix up.
        She has no texts, no pictures of them, says he always calls her and she’s spoken to his friends on the phone which is how Rebecca Eaton knew about her…it’s frightening.
        I honestly hope she has good people around her who can help her. That level of obsession is disturbing and so unhealthy.

      • sonalaceae (Nighty) says:

        That’s pretty crazy, imo…. my god… scary…

      • Katie says:

        Lindy79, I missed the Facebook…JFC, that’s bad.

        While his fanbase usually overreacts to overzealous fans who just aren’t thinking, this is a genuine example of a person who is alarming and in desperate need of help at the same time. She sounds like she truly believes what she’s saying, I just couldn’t believe what I was reading.

      • Raven says:

        She is a young teacher from Australia who somehow believes that she and Benedict are in a relationship, despite the fact that…well, she lives all the way in Australia, and she admits they’ve never personally met. But then she changes her mind and insinuates they HAVE met, and they’ve just got to keep it a secret to protect her from his crazy fans (the irony). The saddest part is that she’s still clinging to this story and posting love songs to him on an almost daily basis. Very sad.

  34. Marcy says:

    I have to say this conversation fascinates me; I’m a older, newer member of the BC fanbase (mostly through Sherlock) and admit to sort of a celebrity crush. It feels so weird to me sometimes, but oh well, I adore him. Not sure how long it will last, but hey, I’m riding out the bliss for now.

    But I can’t remember such a rabid fan base in my life–it’s just WILD–ok, my point/question–which do you think folks (meaning the more intense members of the fandom) would accept more–BC having a girlfriend or BC being into guys–I only ask because I read a comment above about an item suggesting “ladies” need not apply or something…Talk about the internet exploding.

    Sigh, I should be working. But this speculation stuff is way more fun…

  35. allheavens says:

    God, I wish Cumby would find a GF or if he has a GF would walk the red carpet with her; give her a big sloppy kiss with obvious tongue; point his finger at her while silently mouthing the words “this is my girlfriend” and get it over with already. The world will not come to an end.

    Oh, if Rebecca Eaton was quoted correctly she needs to have a big, heaping, helping of STFU. Even if she was asked to do him a favor, she should not be running offense for a grown-ass man.

  36. Noodles says:

    Wow im so glad I found this place. My twitter is currently going crazy because of this rumour. How do we even know if its true? It could be PR, it could be a flippant remark. Last week he was rumoured to be dating Anna Prus. Eh if its true good luck to him I hope hes happy however i wish she would teach him how to dress!!

  37. Altariel says:

    Don’t think I’d mind being a secret girlfriend, for someone this famous with his level of fan base crazy. Just look at all the entertainment from the speculation! And then again, there’s the crazy….need to stay secret, lol

    • Isadora says:

      Yes, I understand what you mean. But then again, I always wanted to be a super-secret spy or something when I was a kid lol. There is a certain (sexy) appeal at being clandestine and fooling the world, only those two involved know the truth. I would totally wear huge sunglasses all the time and orchestrate seperate innocuous arrivals and departures from expensive hotels.

      It’s probably only fun for a few weeks, but still…

  38. Altariel says:

    He certainly knows how to rock the “I’m a huge star” look :)

  39. betsy says:

    I don’t get Eaton’s job. She just buy’s in UK programmes and puts a stamp on them as PBS produced. They don’t produce a damn thing.

  40. Joanie says:

    As I’ve stated before, I’ve lived in LA for a while now, and work peripherally to ‘The Industry.’ I’ve got a thing or two to say about celebrity SO’s.

    A few years back, I hung with a now VERY famous actor that everyone on this board would recognize (no, not Cumby or Hiddles, LOL). At the time, he was known, but wasn’t the paparazzi bait that he is now. We made out a few times, and I briefly considered pursuing him more seriously, until we went out in a group of friends.

    It was a NIGHTMARE. Every chick in the place wanted a piece, and they were pushy and shrieky and rude about it. People bothered him the ENTIRE time we were out, although it was very clear that he was enjoying private friend time. Some publicist came over to our group and tried to hook The Actor up with his D list actress client – who was also at the establishment – right in front of us. The Actor handled everything with his grace and good manners – he is as lovely as his image would suggest, which is a rarity – but all I could think was, ‘this would be FAR too much work for me to handle.’

    You have to be SUPREMELY confident to date someone famous. They are offered sex several times daily, from other celebrities, crew members, their staff, people they meet at events, models on shoots, the barista at Starbucks, you name it. You are shuttled to the side at events, because your SO is the one that people want to see. Your SO is away from you for weeks/months at a time, surrounded by the aforementioned people who will do anything to get him/her into bed. You are forced to go into hiding, or be escorted by handlers, wherever you go, if your SO is very famous. Your private life is picked apart, by blogs such as this. It is not the kind of life that many people can endure, and accounts for the very short shelf lives of most celebrity relationships.

    Of course, if you’re a famewhore, it’s a dream come true. Personally, if I were Cumby’s ‘secret gf,’ I’d stay in hiding as long as I possibly could, and make sure I really felt in my heart that he was worth the trouble.

    • Raven says:

      Thanks for your experience, Joanie. Dating a celebrity sounds nightmarish to me but I suppose some have the fortitude to pull it off. I can’t see BC having anything serious with anyone unless they are extremely understanding about him being gone more often than not, and out with other women all the time. Eaton’s comment means nothing to me as it wasn’t directly quoted and a tweet from a conference attendee made it seem more innocuous than the tabloid reported. We’d all like to see him happy, but let’s be honest, he is living the life whether he’s single or not. And I’m sure he’s in no rush to marry any potentially new girlfriends. He’ll marry and start his family in his own time and with the right person. Luckily, as a man, he has time to wait and be sure.

      • Joanie says:

        My post isn’t about Eaton and it isn’t about BC, specifically. It’s the reality of dating a celebrity if you’re a ‘civilian.’ Unless that person is extremely solicitous of you – almost abnormally so – you have to get used to being in second place all. the. time. When your SO is on a big project, you’ll slide lower than 2nd place with lightning speed. Hence, the need for an incredible amount of maturity, a tendency towards self sacrifice, confidence in your own skin, and contentment in your own company, which you will be in more often than not.

        Unfortunately, very few actors achieve fame without laserlike focus and a good dash of narcissism. Not healthy for a long term relationship.

      • Felice says:

        Is that why 10 years is seen as a ‘successful Hollywood marriage?’ And not to be a jerk but do you think Cumby even gets to that level of people coming on to him? I mean, I always thought that Hollywood was more into looks or does it not matter if you are just well known?

      • GeeMoney says:


        You make some valid points. But I also think that it really depends on the celebrity and how they handle their fame. Of course, the SO is going to have to deal with a lot. One can only imagine what they would have to put up with. But I think if the celebrity is fairly stable, is ready to settle down and work hard to balance the crazy life they lead along with their family responsibilities, his/her relationship just might have a chance.

      • Sighs says:

        Gee- agreed. I think it probably depends on the celeb. There are some you just never hear about because they know how to stay out of the limelight. Why do you think you hear so much lately about celebs that are moving out of LA? If you want to be anonymous, you can be. I would imagine that’s more difficult in lala-land. If you’re going to a place that is frequented by d-list celebs and agents, then you probably want to get seen.

      • Joanie says:

        Felice – yes, 10 years is like 50 in a civilian marriage. Big accomplishment. Those couples have one self sacrificing spouse whose life revolves around their partner’s work schedule, or they are both working actors who stay home while the other is working, then switch.

        People who talk about ‘handling’ fame haven’t seen it wreak havoc in a person’s life. It’s a hydra. Cut off one head, another rises to breathe fire.

        Yes, I think BC gets a lot of offers. Plenty of women think he’s attractive, or want to be seen with him, or want to say they banged Sherlock. And yes, fame is plenty without looks. How else do you explain Gene Simmons’ 5000 groupies?

      • Secret Squirrel says:

        @Joanie – Whoops! I was totally thinking of Richard Simmons, not Gene Simmons and was suitably impressed he had 5000 groupies!

        My bad!

      • Felice says:

        Yeah I can see that. Gene Simmons can rock out hard while Cumby can act out hard.

    • Lindy79 says:

      I can only imagine. As much as I’d like to think I’d be happy to be seen with him, and give two fingers to everyone I’m not sure I could put up with it.
      I’m also guessing in my head who the guy is ;)

    • Sighs says:

      And this is why famous people date other famous people. They know the score.

    • UKBound says:

      Wow, Joanie. That is very depressing. I wonder why anyone would want that level of fame.
      Girls, if you want a hot English man, they are everywhere in London. I go to London almost every year and you cannot throw a cat without meeting a good looking guy. And most of them like American accents. Just like we find them sexy, they find us sexy. Just like we want to hear Benedict talk, they want to hear us talk. It is a mutual admiration society.

      I’ll be going to London soon for an extended stay and will gather together some sexy English men and bring them back for you. ;)

      • Altariel says:

        Wow, thanks for sharing that! I’d never have imagined they care for how we speak.

      • Joanie says:

        UKBound, it can be depressing. It’s a life that comes with many unique frustrations. People pay dearly for fame.

        You’re right about the British boys! I’ve spent time in London too. So jealous of your trip!

      • UKBound says:

        Joanie, I Love the attention I get in London. You almost feel like a sex symbol there. Ha. I miss that when I am in boring America. I still really enjoy talking to my ex in London every week. That English accent is sex on legs. ;) The only downside of it is that everywhere you go, people listen to you talk. So, you are in the grocery store discussing food and people start to listen to you. It is kind of like being famous. You cannot just blab on and on with privacy. You stand out. I’m considering a long term move to London. I lived there a long time ago and really enjoyed myself. It appears the only way to go is to be a student. That is an easy permit.

      • Joanie says:

        I love the attention too! It’s like I’m a 6 in LA and a 9 in London. It definitely does not suck. I see no downside whatsoever! LOL

      • Green Eyes says:

        ITA about the British guys. When I lived in London (many years ago) I felt like the belle of the ball. I was constantly getting asked out and did my fair share of dating. I really had a blast.

        @UKBound, I did the student work visa thing and it really worked out well for me

        @Joanie, thank you for sharing your perspective. I could never date a famous person. Ever. I have worked around a few famous academics and that was bad enough!

    • Green Girl says:

      Thank you for your the insight. In my younger years, I would have thought it would be cool to date a celebrity. Think of all the perks! But now that I’m older, I’m also wiser. While it would be fun to date a celebrity, you really need to be cut out for the role.

      I think of some of my favorite celebrities who are married to a “normal” person, and I am always curious as to see what *that* person’s life is like. Do they get a normal 9 to 5 job to keep it real, do they stay-at-home so they can have a free schedule?

      • Joanie says:

        Any ‘normalization’ (setting schedules, hiring and supervising ‘the help,’ etc) is generally the ‘beta’ spouse’s job.

        Everyone I know who’s dated a celeb and is *not* a famewhore was made miserable by it. And all of them were cheated on. Every single one.

      • pushkar says:

        This is funny, I am a London girl and we get attention when we are in the States! I also work in PR in London, nothing as glamourous as show biz, though Benedict Cumberbatch has been in once or twice with a (male) friend in the past, I adore him. Anyway there are a couple of jobbing actors in work and everyone is saying he definately has a girl if the rumours in theatre land are true. Also highly likely to be Kinvara Balfour….she even looks like his ex alittle. In a way I hope its not because she is supposed to be an awful vain stuck up person…but hey I don’t know her.

        Lady Kinvara Cumberbatch….you couldn’t make it up!

      • Felice says:

        Rumours are rumours but I can actually see that happening. I remember on tumblr a while back some Russian psychic said he would end up with an English aristocratic woman ‘quite soon’ (way before Monaco, like in February) so if it’s true I will just be like o_0

      • SophieK says:

        In lieu of doing any actual work today, I am thinking the whole secret GF thing is true and the Lady Kinvara thing makes sense. (Too boring for me to actually get too excited about it. I was hoping BC would date someone more fun, though honestly, I don’t know much about her.)

      • GeeMoney says:

        If he has a gf, he has one… although I find it hard to believe that whoever she is would let him keep dressing the way he does, especially if she is the daughter of an EARL.

        If it’s Kinvara, it’s Kinvara. But in my opinion… if she’s that secret that NO one can confirm who she is, either this gf thing is just a rumor or the relationship is not serious. I mean, it’s been months now… who would want to stay in a secret relationship for THAT long??? And as wonderful as I think Benedict is, no man (celebrity or not) is worth all of that secrecy.

      • SophieK says:


        I agree, if he has a GF and it’s serious, then the secrecy has now reached the level of ridiculous. BC is a celeb and even if the GF wanted privacy, sooner or later, she will have to deal w/ BC and celebrity status and his fandom and all that fun stuff.

        I also find it difficult to believe that if he is indeed “off the market” that he has managed to keep it a secret for this long. But if he has, hat’s off to him. Truly, take the hats off, Benedict!

    • Adlers says:

      Thanks for your insight on this. I love Cumby and Hiddles, but all joking and oggling (and the fact that I’m married) asides, I would HATE being with someone famous. I love peace and quiet too much, and I need someone who can reassure me and whom I can trust – in short, the exact opposite of what you said. Besides, the divorce rate is such amongst celebrities, you start to wonder if there’s any chance at a healthy, everlasting relationship in this sort of business.

    • A.Key says:

      Nice post, Joanie. I agree completely.

  41. Shiv says:

    Oh for Gods sake – Metro have run an article. I’m waiting for Daily Mail to run with it next!

  42. Portia says:

    I’m curious to see his girlfriend. I’m not a huge Cumberbatch fan but I do watch most of his films, and after seeing his interviews, I’ve always wondered what kind of a woman he’d end up with in the long run. Who knows if this new lady is the one for him but I’m still interested to see who it is.

    Btw, my favorite will always be that whenever he’s spotted with a blonde, all his fans go, “It’s his niece! She’s his PR agent. It’s his NIECE!” Then it turns out it’s a friend or a current flavor of the week or month, wah wah.

  43. Maria of MD says:

    Good for him. Hope it works out.

  44. blended says:

    my this got blown out of proportion fast. shows how misquotes get spread quickly, and now everyone believes it. personally i think he has a few fwb’s, none of whom are serious relationships. i’ll wait for further proof of a gf before i draw any conclusions, but if he does have a gf, he’s been hiding her well.

  45. Camille (The Original) says:

    LOL! I hope he gets married and goes on to have a ton of kids.

  46. Chilicat says:

    Love the cumberbatch with or without a wifey. I’m up late (in the uk) by chance just switched on to a Miss Marple episode and it’s the ep with the lovely cumberbatch in it. I almost squealed in delight. Love cable tv.

  47. pru says:

    I have never thought that BC is going to bed alone every night. For some reasons fandoms, even if they aren’t compromised of young teenagers, sometimes take an innocent attitude to when a famous actor/movie star/celebrity says he is single, and assume that means his dance card is completely empty. He’s a grown man and sex symbol, so of course there are ladies in his life.
    If he is in a relationship that he has been able to keep private, Well done! (Although if he is in a relationship and he pretends his SO doesn’t exist, I will probably side eye him hard!)

    • sonalaceae (Nighty) says:

      No one thinks that….anyone thinks that???

      *scratches head wondering if there are people that innocent…*

      • Felice says:

        I’ve had the idea that sometimes he’s too tired at the end of the day but I’m sure during the breaks he gets, he goes on a few dates. You never know what a typical day for him is.

      • pru says:

        @sonalaceae: Um, yeah, I think there are fans that take BC (and TH) literally. I think this is what causes tumblr meltdowns; genuine shock that the ‘Perfect Prince’ they believe in isn’t the person that thought he was, is doing something they don’t know about, and has a real life. Many like to think that they know everything he is doing from day to day and no part of his personal like is unknown to them.
        Although, now thinking about it, maybe delusional is a better word than innocent.

      • Isadora says:

        Delusional, yes. But explicable too. Fans look at these guys and see all the perks of their life/jobs – so many people dream about acting/working on sets/doing films/etc., helping the stories/screenplays they love become something to see on TV/in cinemas, meeting all those interesting co-stars and industry people, having fans look up to them, having a nice paycheck, nice house/car, being sought after by really attractive people etc. There is of course a certain fascination to it.

        And on the other side we have the lives of the delusional fans or the more-than-delusional real crazies. If you descend a bit into the abyss of the darker parts of tumblr/twitter/etc. you’ll notice something: most often those people aren’t exactly happy. They are for example teenagers with no friends that get bullied at school, unhappy housewifes stuck in bad marriages, women in an abusive relationships, people fighting depression or anxiety disorders, people who are deeply unhappy about past life choices or their jobs or simply extremely lonely etc.

        And then they see the strange, adventurous, seemingly wonderful and happy life of their crush. They can of course never live the dream, but they can glimpse it through BC or TH and therefore want to follow EVERY single detail about this person’s life, his daily schedule, his every step, all of his friends – because it becomes their own life, schedule, step and circle of friends in their escapism fantasy.

        Secret girlfriends or other stuff that wasn’t part of the carefully crafted fantasy destroys this effect and therefore the meltdowns.

        And as weird, absurd and hilarious these meltdowns often are I sometimes feel a bit sorry for them because they must be in a shitty place to begin with…

      • Noodles says:

        yes the girls on twitter are that naive.

      • 'P'enny says:


        “you talking about me! you talking about me?” [doing a bad Robert de Niro impression]

      • Felice says:


        I’ve seen that with the Harry Potter cast too growing up and usually after they go through what they were going through, they move on.

      • Intro Outro says:

        @’P'enny, i am quite sure Isadora did not mean you ;) You are too self-aware and you make fun of yourself as a fan, as well as of Hiddles, Cumby and i am sure of any other celeb you might fancy. Imo 1 of the definitive signs of a truly dangerous celebrity obsession is when people become dead serious about it.

  48. Chilicat says:

    I honestly don’t think I have ever seen so many comments over something that’s really a non story, “Actor might have girlfriend”. The cumberbatch love is strong here. Haha I feel proud for him

  49. Ellen says:

    I’m still laughing at the Benny and Jane romance with photo bombing. They’d make a good couple actually. Also Benny likes fanbaiters after the Katia incidents.

    Hiddles to take Bunny with him to Wimbledon this year. Now she has been kept hidden for months that it has now become a scandle

  50. Duri says:

    Random tidbit…Benedict was spotted in Boston and in the pics you can see his phone case which is very Japanese like. Fans were so quick to figure this shit out, they found out he has the exact same phone case as Alice Eve.

    Wait for she is his secret gf rumours to begin soon lol.

    • Nic says:

      If people suggest that, then I know the world has truly lost its mind. They really think that the same iPhone covers are suggestive of a relationship? I mean…Whut? Are the people actually saying this eleven years old or….?

      • Leo says:

        Alas, if it was only the iPhone covers! I’ve seen people claiming that being in the same time zone is a solid proof of a relationship.

        Anyways, this is getting a bit too crazy for my taste. That poor disturbed girl on IMBD, articles based on a throwaway remark with no context or anything resembling a direct quote by a person that by all accounts has nothing to do with BC’s personal life that look like they are intentionally written like a parody, Tumblr looking forward to babies by a couple that probaly doesn’t exist…

        Sigh, maybe I’m too old for this :)

      • Jany says:

        It’s all a bit much for me too atm. It was fun ‘discovering’ BC a few years back, things were normal back then, fandom wise. It’s all starting to get out of hand. I don’t care about his marital status at all, but I think only marriage and kids would weed out the majority of the crazy. Jeez. He’s not your boyfriend or secret love people. The intensity is very creepy. Like some people want to come over to London for longer than a month when he’ll be playing Hamlet and see him 3 times a week. I just CAN NOT. Put on a damn DVD if you want to look upon his face all the time. Much cheaper too.

      • delorb says:


        I think I’m too old for this shyte too.

    • 'P'enny says:

      exchanging engagement rings is so old fashioned now, it’s all about phone cases. didn’t the world know?

      • sonalaceae (Nighty) says:

        ahahahhha… Next boyfriend I’ll have… “Honey, we have to have the same phone cases… if you truly love me, you’ll have to have one exactly like mine…. “:P

        Oh, what if she has a pink one and demands BC to have also a pink one??? With a pic of Hello Kitty….

      • MissMary says:

        I should go tell my SO we need to ditch the rings and go for matching phone cases! Oh, but…well, we use Android and not iPhones! Does this mean our love is less real since the cases aren’t as cute?

    • Raven says:

      I would guess it was a gift to him from Alice or they both received the same cover from a friend or an event goodie bag. He’s been using it for ages, since the beginning of the year at least. In any event, Alice has been in LA and NYC for most of this year and was in London when BC was flying to Boston, so I doubt she’s the secret gf (if any does exist).

  51. Lilacflowers says:

    The Boston Herald’s gossip columnist is very excited that the internet world has latched onto her claim that Cumberbatch was on a “date” at Sonsie, so she will be running non-stories about him daily for the coming months, even though the “date” could have been anyone and not a date. In her usual style, she will do everything possible to somehow link him to Tom Brady, Ben Affleck, and random minor Kennedys. And if she can’t find stuff, in her usual style, she’ll make stuff up.

  52. Just here says:

    Sorry, I just had to poke my head up from the shadowy depths of lurking and add something.

    I definitely believe he has an SO. He went from saying he was single in Dec. ’13 to not commenting on his private life, and what I’ve noticed with celebs/anyone in the public eye (generally speaking) is that when a relationship is on, they go quiet. I’m theorizing she might be gentry/aristocratic: that set is intensely and notoriously tight-lipped, so I have no problem believing in a ‘secret’ gf… if it isn’t this Kinvara chick, it may be someone else in a similar set.

    True, he has been all over the place for the past few months. But the guy has friends on both sides of the Atlantic; nothing can stop two people meeting at shared friends houses, or carrying on a long distance relationship. I’m planting myself in the ‘secret gf’ camp, lol. A part of me hopes it is someone lovely and, well, ‘normal’ in the sense she isn’t some posh snob. But he’s been single (publicly speaking, of course) for quite some time now. Yes, I’ve no doubt he’s been living it up being single, but I still get the impression this is a guy wired to commit and settle down. Yup, I’m in the ‘secret gf’ camp. :)

    Okie doke, now I can return to lurking, hehe. *disappears into the depths*

    • From North of Boston says:

      I wouldn’t be surprised if you were right, about him having a significant other. And I don’t think him keeping that person out of the public eye would be odd…given the media and fan attention on him, I think it would be very smart, especially in the early days of a relationship.

      That said, if he did, I don’t think a producer at PBS/Masterpiece would be the first official announcement of it. I think either Ms. Eaton is being misquoted, misunderstood, or she spoke out of turn about something that’s none of her business (the personal life of a business associate)

  53. loribear says:

    I hope if he does have a girlfriend that she looks after him, i am sort of happy for him sob sob lol, but i can’t really see it being that blonde in the pic, she looks too plain & boring for a hansome man like benedict, & from what ive seen on the web he seems to prefer brunettes more than blondes. Well thats just how ive seen it lol.