Ashton Kutcher appeared on last night’s Conan. It was Ashton’s first interview since becoming a dad and you can just tell that he’s really jazzed about his daughter Wyatt Isabella. Ashton tells Conan that fatherhood:
“It’s unbelievable. It’s the greatest thing on Earth…We’re really privileged that we have time and can afford to take time. So we don’t have a nanny or a night nurse of any of the stuff. It’s just the two of us. As soon as this child was born, I immediately wanted to call my parents and just apologize because I never knew how much they loved me.”
Ashton also says that he’s learned “little things that will calm down the baby. So I feel like I’m the baby whisperer now.” And Wyatt is sleeping really well. Ashton also talks about choosing one name but feeling like it wasn’t right, saying: “when we were pregnant, the name didn’t fit the energy we were feeling.” So Ashton started calling out crazy names until he called out Wyatt and Mila said “that’s it.” And after they decided, Ashton registered all of the domain names for his daughter just so there wouldn’t be a “p0rn site” with his daughter’s name. Here’s a clip from the interview:
I’ll admit it, I think Ashton comes across really well here. Maybe fatherhood will make him less douchey? Here’s hoping.
Oh, and Star Magazine has a story about Ashton cheating on Mila… more than two years ago. Like, Star got some archival cheating scandal on Ashton. Star says Mila and Ashton started in April 2012 (which is true, it was March/April, around then) but in June 2012, Ashton had a one night stand with a then-21-year-old blonde named Linn Massinger. They met at a bar, he introduced himself as “Chris” (his real name) and he took her back to his house. Well well well. I mean, I don’t doubt that Ashton cheats on every girlfriend, but this is still a two-and-a-half year old scandal.
Photos courtesy of Fame/Flynet.
I believe it. He looks tired.
But still…is this really commendable or noteworthy? 99% of parents around the world don’t have nannies or night nurses either.
Yes but 99% of parents around the world just don’t have the money to make that choice. How many very rich people make that choice ?
well that makes sence. I think letting strange people touch your newborn baby and live at your house is icky.
If I had a lot of money – I think I’d want to hire on family if anyone at all – my dad will be retiring in a couple of years, and I’d rather the kids grandparents taking care of them, than a stranger.
I think I’d rather funnel the money into a lot of house care/ cooks if I was wealthy though. It’d make it a lot easier to take care of a baby not having to tidy, do laundry, cook your meals.
A night nurse would be a nice luxury I imagine though.
Again a bit off topic but just to say that night nurses are usually actual nurses with much better baby first aid training than the average person and they have a ton of experience with different ‘types’ of babies (good sleepers, poor sleepers, active, less active, prem, etc.)
I do believe that they’re good parents, I also feel that Ashton always wanted kids, even with Demi. So when he says they’re super involved in raising their daughter, I believe him. That being said, I also believe a zebra doesn’t change his strips. If there’s a rumor regarding infidelity I would believe it.
Except for one thing, I get a vibe from Mila, that she’s inclined to cut off Ashton’s dck, rather than tolerate a cheater. She doesn’t come across as one of these new agey California types, who are all, ‘Well, if he’s gonna cheat, he can cheat with a model and me in a threesome deal where I can keep my eye on him,’ (as it was rumored Ashton and Demi, or Paula Patton and Robin Thicke did) – she comes across as not playing. LOL
As well she should.
Two comments: Why do men or women for that matter, say we’re pregnant, never seen a dude with a vag before; and someone lock Demi in the cellar for a bit. Every time I hear how happy Jackie Burkhart and Michael Kelso are, I worry about the Dems.
The “we’re pregnant” thing bothers me, too. I literally cringe. All I think of is no, WE are not pregnant. SHE is pregnant. A father-to-be can say we’re EXPECTING, because sure, he is also ‘expecting’ the birth of his child. But don’t say WE are pregnant. Ugh.
But he’s so involved! He didn’t even judged her for gaining weight!
I think it’s meant to show that both parents are involved in the pregnancy….it’s both of them that will be raising a baby and not just for the woman to deal with. Kind of like having coed baby showers.
I hate it! My husband didn’t puke, he didn’t get fat, no heartburn. I’m sort of an ass though I think pregnancy pics with the husband caressing the stomach is disgusting
Did you see the skit Mila did addressing that very thing on Jimmy Kimmel? It was pretty funny. And yes I don’t like the wording of “we’re pregnant” either. Lol
I was coming here to comment on the same thing. It drives me insane, all this new age couple nonsense.
I think Mila and him will make great parents. He has grown on me lately. I hope he stays faithfull to Mila – for some reason, I don’t believe the 2012 cheating story -.
I know people can get really judge-y about parenting and different people’s experiences, so I want to be clear that I am in no way judging, but SRLSY if I could afford a maternity nurse for the first 3-4 months of parenthood, I WOULD TOTALLY HAVE ONE. My son’s sleep issues were so bad that we actually ended up dipping into our savings to have one for a few weeks and she literally changed our family’s life – it was so much easier for her to delay night time responses than it was for me to, and the result was a sleep trained baby who slept longer and deeper than ever in his short 4.5 month life and a mother who no longer hallucinated and got to sleep for more than 90 minutes at a time. Ok, ok, this is going off topic but I’m just saying for some people night nurses/maternity nurses are not just a posh rich person’s luxury – yes they are still a luxury to have someone whose sole purpose by your side is to help you, but I was want to say maybe he could recognise that not every baby is good at sleeping. Actually I know he’s not saying that at all, I just wanted to share/vent my experience with the Celebitchy community because you are all so wonderful and I love reading the comments on this site as much as the posts. Le sigh.
If I had a newborn and could afford a night nurse, I would have one. Not judging either way, but I don’t do well without sleep.
I’m with you ladies 100%.
I also had one who didn’t sleep well, and you’re right it is a shock to the system. When you’re so sleep deprived you will do anything for a restful night. She’s now 16 and she still doesn’t sleep.
Yes you will literally (LITERALLY!) do anything for sleep, sleep of any kind, at any time, in any place, especially if it is for longer than a 2 hour chunk… I once fell asleep with my baby on me on me while waiting in line under buzzing fluorescent lights. And yes it is startling how much individual variation there is in sleep patterns. Dude sleep is so evolutionarily old, the brain systems that regulate it are almost reptilian, I don’t get it…
Me, too!
I have 3 kids and the first two years for me are killer. Like I feel like I’ll never have my life back. My youngest turns 5 today, so I’m well clear of that period, but it still haunts me!
Me too. I have three and my youngest is 11. I would have gladly had a house full, but the sleep deprivation won. I cannot function on little to no sleep. It really kicked my ass, and I was a lot younger too.
I know it’s kinda sad, I think I would have a house full of kids and be really happy with that if I could hack the sleep deprivation part/ afford a long term night nurse.
Seriously-every mom I’ve talked to has said that if they could have afforded a night nurse they would have gotten one. His statement came off as very judgey.
There was a fantastic article in the Daily Beast talking about how other cultures handle post-partum recovery vs. the american idea. Whether it was sleep or just help around the house.
http://www.thedailybeast.com/witw/articles/2013/08/15/america-s-postpartum-practices.html
Not every mother. I have twins and I didn’t want a night nurse. It’s not like they were good sleepers either, they weren’t as babies and my son has Autism and now only ever sleeps an 8 hour cycle so he’s awake at 4am bright as a button wanting to play. Sleep deprivation isn’t that bad, you do get used to it and manage on it.
@Prim – This is the kinda judge-y I was talking about, for some people sleep deprivation IS that bad, and they can’t manage it. For others it isn’t.
@L Thanks for posting that link. I really liked this quote “In the States, a woman is looked after, by herself and by others, only so long as her body is a receptacle for the baby. Attention then transfers to the needs of the infant. To ask for respite is to betray not only weakness and helplessness, but selfishness. You should be prepared for the emotional and physical demands of your new motherly role and you should like them, too.”
@kip, I’ve got twins and one of them has a sleep disorder due to having Autism. The first year of twins is hell. One twin wakes up, wakes the other etc. Having a child with a sleep disorder is hell too. Three years after having my twins I’m dealing with a child who can’t be left alone at night but has boundless energy and bounces off the walls when he wakes up. I’m not judging you or anyone else who is sleep deprived after bringing up a singleton or who hasn’t experienced having a child with special needs. Sleep deprivation is awful full stop, but it is my experience that if you have no choice but to cope with it, you do. The human body is incredibly resilient. Luckily.
He wasn’t judgey. He said they were lucky to have the time to do it themselves, meaning both of them can be there and do things and they can afford delivery of food etc. and sleep when they can rather than having to get to a job. I can believe they’re doing it this way as long as possible- years ago Mila said that once she had kids she was going to focus on them and family stuff rather than trying to work an acting career around it. So she was ready for this. She can, so she will. Other people have put their jobs on hold for the same reason, when it was possible. A friend with a Ph.D. in chemistry did it, too, her husband wasn’t making gobs of money at the time but it was enough. The first few years are important, so many people have to work out other arrangements just for financial reasons, not because they want to.
Amen! Nights were just awful. Thank goodness for my mom, or my husband and I would have lost our minds. Sleep deprivation is a real bitch.
So, knowing LA, I can take a guess at the type of parents Ashton is likely talking about. That said, I’m sick of parenting being a competition. Getting helping is not a bad thing – especially if it allows parents to sleep or decompress or feel human. Some parents (although predominately mothers) seem to view it as a badge of honor to not get sleep and not have free time. I guess it sort of is a rite of passage, but I’m OK with parents getting help and not turning having a baby into a martyrdom of who sacrificed more for their kid.
ITA, my husband and I are nowhere near well off. If had the money and knew of someone we could trust we would of hired someone. The sleep deprivation is insane! No matter how hard you try, you are on the baby’s time and not the other way around. I have a supportive and hands on husband and it was still unbearable the first two months. I remember him walking in on me and I was in tears. I couldn’t sleep during the day when the baby slept, my butt and biscuit felt like they were in a car wreck, and it took weeks for me and my Daughter to gel. We had no choice but to get through it but I don’t brag about it because we only toughed it out because we had too. My husbands mom is in her 40’s and couldn’t be bothered and I lost my mom as a teen. I don’t knock anyone who hires help because that is a physically, emotional, and mentally draining experience. We would have loved to have someone come in a few nights a week just to keep us from losing it. Thank god she was sleeping for 12 hours at night by 4 months because we couldn’t take much more.
Not every grandma in her 40’s doesn’t want to be bothered, I would have totally come over to help you out! My grandson still doesn’t sleep through the night all the time (he’s eight months old) but there’s no way I wouldn’t help out my daughter and son-in-law! I’ve had him (my grandbaby) over for a few weekends at my house so that they could get a full night’s sleep. If I could convince my son-in-law to sell or rent out their house and move in with me, I would love to have them. 🙂
Luckily for me, I never had to experience that since my kids were all good sleepers. But they gave me other challenges to make up for it. 😉
Does he want a medal? If I was rich and have the means to get help, you better believe I will avail myself of that opportunity.
When I had my last child, she will not sleep at night, after a couple of weeks, I felt loopy due to sleep deprivation.
Doesn’t seem like he wants a medal. He made a point of saying how fortunate they were to be able to afford taking time off to be with the baby.
Well, there was really no need to even say that. I don’t think people just assume that everyone in H’wood has a regular full-time on the premises nanny, so why feel you have to say, ‘Look at me, I’m doing everything myself 24/7/365.’ No one believes that he and Mila won’t at some point employ some help with their kid – that’s totally unrealistic – they can and will. Even everyday ordinary folk have grandma or auntie helping from time to time. Will he feel a need to explain away their temporary help too? No one cares Ashton, calm down.
There’s absolutely no reason they need to have a full-time nanny with their newborn, they have one kid, they’re in their 30s, already established a name for themselves, have plenty of money, and plenty of time – like he said. The unkind version of that is: it’s not like either one of their phones are ringing off the hook.
Yeah–I’m with you. Slow Clap. As Chris Rock once said “you are supposed to take care of your kids”:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B0B_ekSrsEk
(offensive language-be warned)
Oh, wow, a whole..what? four weeks…and they’ve managed without a nanny?!?!? Talk to us in a month or two when the endorphins start to wear off and the sleep deprivation begins to get to you!
+1000. I kept telling myself, oh it’ll get better at 6 weeks…8 weeks…10 weeks…12…16? There’s a reason sleep deprivation is used as torture.
So what? I thought they were soooooo private and wouldn’t be sharing anything about their personal lives with the public. But we still got pics of his kid and some others (wonder if their parents knew they were participating in Ashton’s FU to the press) and now this.
Aggggghh I just want to vent, not about him but about this issue. I am pregnant with number three right now and my sweet boy is laying on my ureter (from the kidney to the bladder) and I had to get a nephrostomy tube coming out of my back. Then I got a lovely kidney infection that put me in the hospital for 5 nights. When I came home I had to administer iv antibiotics for another 5 days every 6 hours. Sleeping in cat naps almost killed me. Plus I have a 4 and 2 year old. I am very lucky to have a great husband and amazing family who have helped out. The 2 year old doesn’t sleep well anyway. I am slightly terrified about when 3 makes his appearance. Although hopefully my medical situation improves. If I could afford it I would absolutely hire help. It always seems to take me about 4 months to get the tiny sleep trained to sleep at night. Ok end rant. I have been through it the last month and have another 19 weeks ahead of me.
You can do it! Being pregnant can really suck. But wow you’ve already come so far. You sound like a parenting hero in my book. All my friends with three say that it is indeed magical. So chaotic that is it magical 🙂 best wishes for sleep
Good for them that they’re taking the no-nanny, hands-on approach (so far), but are we supposed to commend them for that just because they can afford to have a nanny/nurse and chose not to? They’re the parents and those first months are important for bonding with their child (which is more than just snuggle & play time). Sleep deprivation is the trade-off. It’s hard and it completely tests the limits of your sanity, but, to me anyway, it’s totally worth it.
People are harsh. I think people would expect them to have a nanny and a night nurse. We say that all the time on this site-“of course “celebrity” can do xyz-they have all the help in the world.” But the minute he mentions they don’t, we think he’s wanting a medal. It’s like he’s damned if he mentions it and damned if he doesn’t. I can’t even believe I’m defending this guy. I didn’t have a nanny or a night nurse or any family around when I had my kid and even if I had, they’d have been as useful as a pile of crap because I was breastfeeding. Every time the kid woke up, I was the only thing able to make her go back to sleep. It is a big deal to do it alone because it’s hard. It’s even harder when talking about it receives such an enormous amount of backlash.
Yes, it’s true. Why is there so much backlash? Maybe because I can’t stop talking about my own traumatic experience. I know I am totally hijacking this thread, but I just wanted to add that I breastfed/breastfeed and after 18 weeks of no more than 90 minutes of sleep at a time we hired a night nurse and she gave expressed breastmilk (ebm; my husband did this too earlier). So breastfeeding doesn’t have to mean no night nurse – usually $$$ and state of mind are the limiting factors. I was bf’ing back to sleep every 2 hours, with delayed response/ebm within a week he started waking only 2x per night. Ok, rant/ proselytising session over! 🙂
There’s a lot of backlash because so many celebrities are using the experience of parenthood to sell themselves. Parenthood is such a source of connection and bonding between individuals, because certain parts are just universal – but with the celebrity culture parenthood is used as a “see, I’m just like you!” tool. It can help rehab an image (hello Halle Berry, Ben Affleck) and it can be a major sales tool (Jessica Simpson, Jessica Alba). When pregnancy can help someone’s career have a second life, its hard not to resent it when so many celebrities now push that narrative on us.
@Marigold: I fully agree with your comment. I was breastfeeding, too, and did it all by myself. Later on, with the bottle, my husband and I both got up alternately. We both worked as well. It wasn’t easy, but I actually never thought of it as a burden. Kutcher doesn’t ask for a medal, he’s just stating matter-of-factly they don’t have help. And he knows they are priveleged having plenty of time.
I totally agree Marigold. If he began talking about the great help they had people would be bitching about that. I think it’s great that they are doing it all themselves, this is a time they will never get back and if they can work together, learn together and make memories as a little family, more power to them. Bitch on bitches, you always find something.
It is just so odd how much bickering there is over parenting. It does seem like a “damned if you don’t, damned it you do ” situation.
I personally would have hired some form of help if I had “Kucher-Kunis Money”. Maybe not a night nurse, but only because my baby slept through the night pretty fast. I remember kinda liking the middle of the night feedings…but I am SURE that is because they were short lived, and she only required one. She weaned off the 3am feeding pretty quick iifc. And I am a great sleeper, so she would wake me up–she would eat–and then we both went right bck to sleep. Some babies don;t do that, and some parents can’t get back to sleep so easily.
But oh boy–when she got a bit older and was difficult to get DOWN for the night? Oh yes, where is my checkbook and how much do you want? I would have been selling kidneys for help with that.
I think a lot of disdain for celebs that employ help is that often (maybe not so much in this story) we read about a celeb whining about how hard it is and when we know they are loaded, have all the help and security in the world? That is hard to stomach.
But the criticism of parenting–and of pregnant people? Ugh. It has got to stop. My co-worker is pregnant. She went to dinner the other night with a family friemd and her salad had cheese in it. They said to her “you can’t have the cheese”. She replied, “yes I can as long as it is pasteurized, that is what my ob.gyn told me and I checked, this cheese is pasteurized.” The “friend” replied “Well I never wanted to take that risk.” As if my co-worker was WILLING to take risks with her pregnancy.
It is just so shitty and unneccessary.
That said…I am not a fan of Kucher. And I think the reason they don’t have a night nurse is that he can’t be trusted not to try to bang her.
Agree on that very last point regarding Kutcher. Besides, Mila has a very large family & friends network in L.A. to help her if she needs it.
I would do anything for a night nurse!! In fact I’m thinking of not trying for a much- wanted third child because of the migraines I get when I’m seriously sleep deprived. A night nurse can be sanity- saving!
Actually mila and ashton didn’t start dating until june. She was telling the truth at first when she said they weren’t dating. They started dating right around the time of the Mtv movie awards. Up to that point they were just hanging out as friends, though Ashton was trying to make it happen the whole time.
One does not go on 3-day romantic weekends up the California coast and stay in quaint Inns near Carpinteria with someone they are “just friends” with. In April. Not June.
ooh,n you got some juicy gossip! please spill
@snowflake – LOL. I wish I could elaborate, but then I might either out myself or a former colleague, so I’ll stick with what is common knowledge in Hollywood. Besides, burning bridges is never good, especially for those of us that have an agency/media background. In the entertainment industry, networking is everything.