Heidi Klum covers Redbook’s November issue. The way they styled her looks pretty budget, but I have to say that this is how I dress most of the time. She’s practically wearing my fall uniform: skinny jeans, booties and a slouchy sweater. Also, I own several variations of that blue dress. So Heidi looks accessible-ish, which is probably what they were going for. Plus whatever a stylist puts Heidi in is going to be better than the sh*t she wears on the red carpet.
Heidi’s interview is interesting in that she throws a lot of shade on men, and some subtle shade on her ex husband, Seal. Heidi has been dating a guy who barely passes the “half your age plus 7” rule so maybe he’s skewing her opinion on the gender. She seems to be trying to make the point that men can’t multitask as well as women, which is technically true but not to the extent she’s claiming.
Heidi Klum on how her body has changed after having four kids:
“Would it be nice if my skin and body still looked the way it did when I was 25? Sure. But the fact is, your body changes when you have children; you get wrinkles as you get older. I like that I have laugh lines from smiling too much.”On balancing her crazy life:
“Women are capable of juggling a lot of balls – we do things that guys just cannot do. Men typically can juggle only one ball, and even then they’re like, ‘I’m confused. Should I put it in my right or left hand?’ A lot of them have a very hard time just trying to figure out what to do with that one ball. And often they want us to hold that one too!”On what life has been like since she separated with Seal:
“Obviously things have changed, but they haven’t changed drastically. [Seal] was never your typical dad who left for work in the morning with his briefcase and would be home by dinnertime every night. He traveled a lot. The kids knew it was part of his job. I’m a mom and a dad at the same time.”The former Victoria’s Secret model and founder of Heidi Klum Intimates on the power of good lingerie:
“You walk a little differently [in something sexy] versus knowing you wouldn’t want anyone to see you in your underwear. I call those willpower panties. You wear them so you won’t show them to anyone.”
[From Redbook]
Heidi is so full of sh*t about Seal. She used to do interviews claiming that they spent their days in their home office on other sides of the same desk and that he was a great present dad. (Although at that time they had one nanny for every kid.) She said, in 2007 “My husband and I have an office in the corner of the house,” she adds. “We sit on either side of this big partner desk, which is an old French antique, and spend the day working, or talking, or watch the children playing by the pool. It is quite a beautiful life.” Except when Seal wasn’t around, which is when she started screwing her bodyguard.
Photo Credit: Max Montgomery
I’m probably going to get heat for this but I HATE it when women talk about men as if they are incapable simple morons. Not saying women aren’t awesome but it’s this “ah shucks, thats men!” thing that just gets my goat. Its also almost gives a free pass or something.
I have a friend that does it constantly and it’s like no you just married one who can’t do anything for himself and is emotionally stunted, you’ve also encouraged this and excused it that’s on you but don’t tar them all with that.
She also gets in passive aggressive digs at me about Mr Lindy all the time because he’s apparently a freak and a fully functioning grown man who I can leave alone with sharp implements.
Sorry this has just riled me up somewhat.
I’m actually with you on this. Some people are organised, others aren’t. Its a question of both personality and circumstance. Plus there’s something about her that gets on my nerves anyway, so stupid comments like these ones don’t help
Why is that person still your friend?
Well we’ve been friends for over 15 years, I love her, and they’re not nasty, and I know they come from her being very unhappy in her own life for a variety of reasons.
She’s a good person, just very confused and unhappy and has made some crappy choices and honestly, just can’t deal with it.
@ Lindy79, your’e a good, loving friend. I hope she appreciates you.
Plus I’m 100% sure there are times when I’m a total douche canoe too.
Swings and Roundabouts
Totally agree! We should lock Heidi and TI up together in a room and let them work it out.
Ugh, I share your peeve. Same goes for women who say they are “lucky” to have found a man who helps out with the kid/s and cleans up after himself. Expecting a grown man to NOT act like a child who needs to be parented, should be a bare minimum expectation to have of a fellow adult, not some rare jewel they’re “lucky” to have found.
As for Heidi, I guess her experience with men must be restricted to shallow, immature modelisers… so yeah, maybe that subset is indeed completely useless at life.
+1000
I use the word lucky a lot to describe my husband to at lot of women because I don’t want them to feel bad about the lazy a-hole they chose to marry. :/
Regina!!! lol!
My biggest pet peeve is when a woman says “it’s great. My husband is babysitting the kids tonight so I can do x”
No. That’s called parenting.
HAHAHA @ Regina. That comment just totes made my day.
=)
i fully agree, you’ll also see it here very frequently. same goes for women who say “i TRAINED my husband” like their man is a dog.
I hate it too. Especially those commercials where the Dad shown as being too dumb for life and can’t do simple things. Like remember to replace the blender lid on the blender before turning it on and the Mom/ his wife comes with her “oh honey” look as if he’s an adorable toddler and not a grown man, as if his ineptitude is cute.
Aaaand this is exactly why men should be on board with feminism too. When anti-feminist MRAs use suicide statistics and inept cliches to prove that men don’t have it better than women, the irony is too much… gender inequality affects ALL of us in negative ways. Men wouldn’t have to conform to harmful masculine ideals if feminine traits and skills weren’t viewed as inferior.
That’s what I was going to point out. We still have commercials reenforcing the stereotypes of the shrill, nagging wife berating the lazy, clueless husband.
That’s because men are making the commercials, right?
In the 70s, the suspicion was that many men purposely remained inept so that they would remain free of being expected to pull their weight.
Also they promulgate this myth that women actually feel good about maybe knowing more or being marginally better at, like, cleaning toilets and wiping counters.
Also as housework so closely tied with femininity, there may have been some fear that being good at housework or decorating = gay. There was so much latent homophobia.
Like Everybody Loves Raymond – the entire premise of that show is Ray in an incompetent bafoon who can’t tie his own shoes save for his wife – the long suffering martyr who stays at home long past the kids are in school, but dresses like she has an office job. I hated the platform of that show where men are nincompoops and the women are the only ones with any brains or know-how, but whine that they have to do everything themselves if they want it done right. Stupid!
@JenniferJustice – sounds just like ‘King of Queens’ as well. Too lazy/dysfuctional/child-like in daily life until his b*tchy wife comes along and straightens things out.
This times a million. I loathe those commercials.
Men wouldn’t have to conform to harmful masculine ideals if feminine traits and skills weren’t viewed as inferior.
Girl, preach!
So finally, I feel better about myself. I used to hate these commercials and the one where the wife is teaching the family how to replace the toilet paper? The clueless look on her “husband”! It was killing me, and just very quietly, I thought I am alone on this one.
So late on this but just recalled “Free to Be You and Me” (late 60s stuff, folks) – with Carol Channing explaining why housewives in commercials seem so happy and smiley. “Because they’re ACTRESSES,” she explains. “They’re PAID to seem happy.”
It will be a wonderful world when we no longer specify sexes with certain characteristics.
Like, sure, some men are incompetent idiots. Some women are incompetent idiots. Depends on the person, not the assigned sex
Y’all are making too much damn sense up in here.
ITA, it’s really effing tiring to watch men who were infantalized by their mothers being continually ‘babied’ by their wives/girlfriends. The same WAGs who then ‘turn’ on women like me with accusations of being ‘un-nurturing’ for refusing to do it. Pathetic. The question is why do women do this? Does it make them feel needed and therefore loved? Is it social conditioning?
Social conditioning that it is SUPPOSED to make them feel needed and loved. It’s so complicated! And it’s hard on women who are stronger at other things than conventional nurturing, and hard on men who are stronger at nurturing than conventional ‘masculine’ pursuits.
I’ve really not enjoyed watching parents ‘indulge’ the current generation of young men. Some of those spoiled babies are going to date MY daughter.
I am with you too. It isn’t anymore fair to paint all men as stupid simple morons than it is to paint all women as looking for a man to take care of them (just an example).
Both genders are awesome and both genders have their failings. We are all humans. Stop denigrating one to elevate the other.
+1
Totally agree, Lindy79. My husband is a fully functioning, intelligent, mature adult who can handle whatever is thrown at him. He never complains – he just does it. My father is more the handling one ball at a time type because of my parents’ upbringing (he’s 90) but he and my mom equally divided the labors of life and he handled his role intelligently and on his own while treating her as an equal partner in their marriage. So I don’t get these women who marry big stupid mama’s boys who can’t find their own socks or decided what to wear without help. I would have zero patience for that. And please don’t pretend that we all made that choice because we didn’t.
We have several couples friends where the wife treats the husband like a child. When my husband gets together with his friends, there are two in particular who “get in trouble” if they stay out late or don’t check in constantly with their wives. The men tell him “I can’t believe she ‘lets’ you do/buy this or that.” Like he needs my permission. That is such a turn off to me. I want to be married to a grown man, not a child.
@GNAT – Ack, I know exactly what you mean. Funnily enough, with some couples I know, it seems to go both ways. He’ll “let” her buy stuff, she’ll “let” him have a hobby, etc. and they’ll do things behind each others’ backs, like they’re hiding naughty misdeeds from their parents. It’s nauseating. (And downright infuriating when they assume the same of me, eg. “don’t let your husband find out you bought that!” WTF?)
I wonder why they do it? Judging by the constant complaining, it’s not because they like it this way. Maybe that’s how they were raised? Maybe everyone around them is the same way and they think “that’s just how marriage is”?
Oh, yes, the ones who hide new clothes in their car trunk. I don’t know! Possibly you’re right and they were brought up that way. It must be exhausting!
Sounds to me like their husbands are controlling and the women don’t have the authority to make decisions to buy anything that isn’t “on the list” so they sneak. My sister-in-law used to do that – buy clothes and hide them in the trunk of her car. Her case was a bit exagerated because I really think she is a shop-oholic – addicted to the instant gratification and buying things she doesn’t even end up wearing or using. She just wants to have them. The irony is that one day my husband and I were at her house and her husband came home from work in a brand new car he’d bought, without her knowledge or input. It was a little tiny sportscar that only two people can fit in and they have two kids! Her response was “well, it makes him feel good, so it’s okay.” Really! I’m sure it was partly guilt on her part that made her so “okay” with it, but I walked away with alot of cliche’s from them – mid-life crisis man wants little sports car to feel young even though it’s completely selfish, they couldn’t afford it, and he can never have his whole family in the car because the car is too small; Wifey doesn’t care that he just indebted them in $25-$30 car note that she wasn’t informed about or had any knowledge of, because she has clothes hidden in her car trunk that he doesn’t know she bought, which they also could not afford, and she’s willing to placate his ageism freakout lest he leave her for a younger woman. The whole thing was really gross. On the way home, my husband and I were stupified and just rode silently for a while trying to take it all in.
For the record, I don’t expect to be asked if my husband wants to buy a shirt or go to lunch with his friends, but if it’s something that requires a loan, I would like to be informed and I would not support something selfish and frivelous that only he would be enjoying.
I agree, Lindy. It’s become a cultural meme. TV shows & advertising, including radio advertising are full of wives & kids fingerpointing & laughing at the grown man in their midst who’s barely capable of forming a sentence, let alone doing anything constructive. I’m really sick of it! If producers of this nonsense think this is what real women want in a man, it’s also saying something very negative about modern women.
The logical outcome of domestically inept men is that they don’t have to do anything domestically. I don’t think it’s what women want in a man, I think it’s what men want for themselves, and are willing to “put up” with being “henpecked” in order to enjoy relative freedom from household drudgery.
And it’s the old division of labour – household is her domain, making money is his domain.
Most women would likely be happy to have the power of the purse instead of the power of the placemat.
Well, that old cutural meme needs to be thrown out the window considering most women in this country do work outside the home, but are still expected to shoulder the brunt of all the housework and child-tending. Men can’t have it both ways – if they want a 50s style marriage, the wife’s job is her home and children. If they are in agreement that she’s working outside the home, they have to share in the house-work, child-care, family management.
I 100% agree with this statement! I think we need to expect a bit more from men these days. Every person should be capable of caring fully for themselves e.g. cooking, cleaning. No excuses for men acting like barely functional children. Even most kids are capable of the things some men are allowed to be lazy about.
Some women as well.
Yup. Fun thing I’ve noticed is the women who always talk about men as these needy, sex crazed cavemen generally surround themselves by that particular kind of men. Generally when women talk about “men” they mean “my husband and my dad”. Same goes to men talking about their moms and the women they date.
I agree. She was very, very insulting.
Totally ironic–last night one of my writer friends who writes Jane Austen variations, did a blogpost about how her husband was better than Mr. Darcy. One of the huge reasons was because she’s a stay at home mom/writer, with two young kids. He travels a lot for work, so during the week, he’s pretty much gone. But when the weekend comes, he comes home, cooks, cleans, and watches the kids so that she can write and he reads what she writes (I think I’m in love, lol)……..
I agree, she obviously had the man for something as she had a bunch of kids. I don’t like someone that hits below the belt. She makes it shitty for women in general who are trying to be independent and making a wage that equals to a man for the same job. They will look at her article and see a little “bitter” woman. There is no need to tear down men in the process, perhaps she just did it all in the relationship, if that is so, she can not complain now,
I have two sons who I am trying to raise to be compassionate empathetic hard working human beings. It bothers me when these stereotypes are perpetuated because it hurts men and women. Gender equality and respect between the genders aka feminism is just as much for the good of men and boys as it is for women and girls. Stop making excuses for men. Stop putting them down.
Absolutely with you on this. The men in my life are neither simpletons nor helpless.
So all the men she has ever met were incompetent idiots and now she assumes they’re all like that?
yeah, to paraphrase Gandalf: “who is the bigger fool: the fool or the one who has children with multiple fools?”
Hope her bodyguards are not incompetent like that, but then we know at least one has been able to, uh, multi-task.
Although she does dress horribly on the red carpet, i always like Heidi. There’s just something about her. Maybe it’s Project Runway haha. And her Halloween costumes.
Nice interview.
When I first started watching Project Runway, she got on my nerves, but I grew to really like her. There’s something endearing about her. I didn’t care for her comment about men, but in general, I will always be fond of her.
Same here.
Why can’t some people learn to praise women without taking potshots at men? How is saying men are inferior to women any different then when men spew that mess? This is not equality; this is holding up the same standard only with the genders reversed. Sure women generally have more on their plate to deal with especially when they work and have a family, but there is no need to act like all men are mentally challenged.
Plus, she needs to stop subtly throwing her ex under the bus.
I agree. Her shade at Seal is really nonsensical. They were happy at one point and apparently remain amicable for the sake of the kids. He hasn’t publicly slandered her to my knowledge. Heidi, don’t forget the somewhat precarious situation you were in when you met him. It’s not often that you find a man willing to do what he did in regard to Leni. Give me a break, lady.
I agree with you that she shouldn’t have said anything negative about her children’s father on the record. That’s never good. But Seal has said much worse about her – that she was “copulating with the help,” which was mean-spirited and snobby, I thought. But I agree that neither of them should bad mouth the other.
@GNAT
What he said is not worse when what she said here. She Was in fact “copulating with the help” she was sleeping with the bodyguard while they were still in a marriage as a couple, the bodyguard himself admitted that. The bodyguard was there to help keep Protect the kids and like Ben/Jen was sleeping with the boss. Pointing out that your wife cheated is not the same as saying your ex the father of your kids is a moron.
@Neah
Well, we just disagree. I would rather read that my mother thought my father was rather helpless than about my father essentially calling my mother a tramp, and I imagine their kids would as well. I also think he’s disgusting for referring to the bodyguard as “the help” as if he was so above him. Regardless of what actually happened, I think his comment was much tackier and mean-spirited than hers. Sometimes the best thing to do is maintain a dignified silence. He made himself look petty and snobby and bitter. What good did that do?
I guess we will because who wouldn’t be a little bitter that their partner cheated on them with someone they trusted to help out with the kids. I think it’s more mean-spirited to refer to talk about the father of your kids like he was a simpleton. He said his in the heat of the split when all the emotions are raw, she said her yeas after the fact. What good does her comment do?
@Neah
Certainly their comments were both hurtful, and I do not want to cause any hard feelings between us because we disagree about which is worse. THAT would be the worst! You’re observations are perfectly valid. I say we just let them duke it out and remain internet friends. 🎈🎈🎈🎈
@GNAT
Don’t worry about it I didn’t take any of your comments personally and I hope you didn’t take mines that way ether. Like you said it’s just a disagreement, still internet friends 💐💐💐
i agree with Neah, generally im very suspicious of people who discrespect people “below” them in social standing but if someone cheated on you i guess most of us would say what Seal said.
i wouldnt have held it against Garner if she had been recorded saying something like that about the nanny.
is it ok? no it isnt but its understandble imho.
the difference between men and women is that men wouldnt get away with saying something like that in an interview. “the entire gender is not capable of simple things and need our help at all times!”
by the way no one can actually multi task, you’ll never do things properly when you do them at the same time.
let me guess Heidi Klum wont have to publish a public apology.
this male bashing is so socially accepted.
And Heidi hardly knows anything about men, look at her love life. also as if she is more involved in her childrens lives with her busy working life.
Yup. A guy could never get away with saying this and shouldn’t, but then neither should women.
She’s got assistants, maids, nannies. In other words, she’s got herself some wives at home. She doesn’t do it all. She’s involved in so many businesses here and overseas. She travels to Germany a lot. I remember Seal wrote a song about he and the kids watching her leave again for business, wanting her to stay.
I’m sure she’s a loving and nurturing mother. But the way she is so dismissive of men I found off-putting.
Heidi Klum will do and say practically anything to A) make money and B) keep herself in the spotlight. And continuing to dis Seal after such a long time is just disingenuous and famewhore-ish. You were busted boffing your bodyguard Heidi and no matter how you try to spin it to make Seal look like the bad guy, adultery is adultery and your halo slipped off long ago.
I love how smart these comments are. And I love the defense of men. Heidi should apologize.
Well, in 9 out of 10 relationships around me, women do much more work (housework, children, relationship-related) so I can’t say she’s wrong.
Start meeting more people, then. Most men I know do the housework just fine without being asked to.
I don’t believe you!
My friends’ husbands/partners do an equal amount of the cooking (some do all of it) and cleaning, and several I know stayed at home or are currently staying at home to be a full-time parent. My boyfriend is a lousy cook but he does the clean-up after meals and a fair share of housework without being nagged to do it.
Hate this. Am all for celebrating the difference between men/ women (and there sure IS a difference) and am all for making light of it. What I don’t like is placing VALUE on the difference. Men and women being different is great, but trying to convince one sex is greater than the other? No. Just Wrong.
I’m sure when they were together, some of the time Seal was at home in the office hangin’ with her…and sometimes he was off on tour. At different times, she emphasizes different things.
As for child-men, after being married several years, I realized that in big part my now ex husband had stopped evolving developmentally in his teen years…so I was parenting a young child (our son) and this teen. Ugh!!! But I have to say that I’ve always had a bit of a Florence Nightingale thing…I like helping people. Now I’m with someone where it’s mutual.
And still, Seal is 10 times more talented than you’ll ever be Heidi.
Her only talent was being born with good genes.
I dont like that particular comment at the end about her being the mother and the father. Ummmm, ouch. That’s going to cause even more resentment. You may feel that way, but don’t preach it to the world. Have some class. She comes across very Gisele/Goop-like here. Though I dont think even Goop would talk down Chris Martin’s parental ways. It’s just unnecessary. How about instead of taking all the credit and putting down your ex, you instead give some credit to the hired help? She wouldn’t be able to “multitask” without all the helpers in her mansion while she is off at meetings. Give me a break. She has no clue how us real people do it.
Heidi must be going through a horrible mid-life crisis. She’s become so thirsty. Shesh. I’m beginning to feel sorry for her children, they’ll never get their own ‘shine’ in life. She’ll have to jump in front.
That baby voice is supposed to cover for a vile, spiteful human being.
I hate this “men are so-and-so, women are so-and-so” nonsense. We are all human, we are all different, we have all traits that people find easier to handle and traits that people find more difficult to deal with. And we all need honesty in life in order to evolve and grow as a person.