Actress, sportswear designer and now lifestyle book author, Kate Hudson, has similar challenges to us as a mother; her kids can be little sh*ts. Kate has two sons: Ryder, her 12-year-old with ex-husband Chris Robinson and 4 and 1/2-year-old Bingham with her ex Matt Bellamy. Kate just finished promoting Kung Fu Panda 3 and is presently making the rounds promoting her book, Pretty Happy: Healthy Ways to Love Your Body. She stopped by Late Night with Stephen Colbert and discussed what it’s like to have a pair of rambunctious boys in her life:
Kate Hudson sometimes feels a little outnumbered in her own home.
The mother of sons Ryder, 12, and Bingham, 4½, spoke to Late Show host Stephen Colbert on Wednesday about the antics of her mischievous boys.
“Let’s start with the fact that I, literally five seconds ago, was on FaceTime with his teacher, going like, ‘He did what? He did … ?’ ” Hudson, 36, said of her “tween.”
“He’s a great kid, I love him so much,” she added. “They’re your kids and you love them and then you can’t stand them sometimes — it’s just the truth.”
The new author also talked about her sons’ bedtime routine, describing how she has to raise her voice to get the “rowdy” boys to stop jumping on the bed.
“Then it turns into kicking, and then they’re hitting each other, and I’m like, ‘Guys, you gotta stop,’ and then for some reason Ryder did something to Bing and, next thing you know, Bing started to cry,” she shared. “Ryder’s like, ‘He’s the one who’s crying, he’s the one who hit me,’ and then next thing you know — Bing is not sick, he’s not ill — he just throws up.”
She continued: “He threw up everywhere and he thought it was hilarious!”So what did big brother Ryder do? “He threw up because it was so gross!” Hudson said.
“These are the moments that test you as a parent. I was like, ‘G-g-get out of my room,’ ” she said in a shaky voice.
I am fairly indifferent to Kate Hudson. Like CB, I appreciate her work at it attitude to being fit. My male progeny has ADHD and meditation is one of the ways that we are working on his focus; it’s completely foreign to me but Kate’s integrate it as you need it philosophy seems approachable. I love her here, “you love them and then you can’t stand them… ” Anyone with kids knows that the meter can swing from Love to Can’t Stand in a matter of moments. I’m thinking of when my kids get off the bus and before I get a “hello,” one says, “Okay, don’t start yelling until you hear the whole thing.” Christ, if they ever threw up in my bed and didn’t have Ebola, though, I’d find them new homes.
Let’s talk about her hair. After cutting a few inches off for the Golden Globes, Kate has gone even shorter – I love it. It looks great both in a sleek bob and curly, it’s really fresh and fun. I am fortunate to have hair that grows quickly so I have been know to lob several inches off at whim. I just had 5 inches taken off but maybe another 3 for the summer? Because that will make me look exactly like Kate Hudson, right?
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Why does every celebrity have a lifestyle book these days? is tha the new celebrity perfume?
She does sound good in this interview. Everyone feels that way about their kids.
Right? Everybody seems to be a lifestyle guru these days or have a makeup line.
Ditto on the kids. Last night I was reading a blog about tantrum prone toddlers and one of the moms wrote in regards to her kid: “I love her but I don’t like her”. I thought that was a fitting description of how I and probably most parents feel sometimes. But it’s taboo to express nothing but constant adoration for your children.
I don’t think it’s taboo….it’s too true to be taboo!
Wait till they’re teenagers!!! Especially the girls!
I think the vast majority of them are on this bandwagon to supplement their income because they are not making as much money acting. Many of the are friends and they are all going for the same market. Which means they cancel each other out. I’m not interested in anything any of them are selling; especially when there are some “regular women” that have been doing this for years and very successfully.
I literally said those exact words yesterday about another celebrity. lol. Glad I am not the only one who thinks that ubiquitous lifestyle books are ridiculous.
I especially dont’ understand what she has to offer in the way of lifestyle that isn’t already out there amongst the thousands of books written already on that topic. It’s not like she’s a trainer or a dietician, so if I were to seek counsel, she and any other celeb would not be on my list of potential resources. The fact that she doesn’t have a real job aside from photo ops and a random film here or there doesn’t bode well because franky, what else does she have to do besides work out? Her kids are in school and she has all day to dink around. That’s not the schedule any normal folk can relate to. I find it hard to beleive there are people (women) who would actually buy this book and want to model themselves after her, or Goop, or Blake, or Alba. I suppose it’s judgey and cynical of me, but when I see Marie Osmond on T.V. schilling Weight Watchers or whatever, I try to picture who her target audience is and sadly, my conclusion is her following is older, over-weight unhappy women who are missing something in their lives and think, “Oh, I’m going to do what Marie does so I can be like her”. I find that really sad, especially considering most of these women have had lipo, tucks, fat transfers, and are wearing spanx and girdles in the commercials. I feel like they’re preying on suckers.
While I’m no fan of Kate Hudson (she is the quintessential example of basic, in my mind) this is like, my biggest fear about having children. I was telling a friend of mine the other day that I don’t really want to have children because I’m scared I might get long-term bored of them. Even when they’re babies. I can’t imagine how much I would not handle it well when they start screaming or puking.
I know parts are slim for women, but i have wondered why some of them like Hudson and Gwyneth won’t consider auditioning for Netflix. I mean, they have name recognition at least…
It seems like there are places for people with that level of fame to go to. I mean, if Winona Ryder can get a series on Netflix, I’m sure these other ladies could too.
Oh my GOD, I’d rather a book from Winona than any of these Gwyneth/Kate/Cameron clones.
It’s because work is drying up elsewhere. Like you never see the actors truly in demand doing these weird side projects where they’ve reinvented themselves as fitness gurus or lifestyle gurus. Paltrow, Hudson, Alba, Diaz, Witherspoon — they’re all aware they peaked acting-wise a long time ago.
It’s easy to understand, but still annoying.
Just a quick comment–she looked perfect several months ago-just gorgeous. Then she got all the fillers and now her great bones are gone and then she cuts her hair and flattens it out and poof!–not so beautiful anymore. Why can’t they just leave gorgeous alone???
i love the haircut when it’s straight, with curls not so much.
“Christ, if they ever threw up in my bed and didn’t have Ebola, though, I’d find them new homes.” lmao, it reminds me so much of what my mum used to say to me and my sisters when we were little, and we always found it hilarious.
Agreed. I’m not sure if she has the right face to pull off short and curly, but not many people do…
I like her but the hair is bloody terrible. Compared to previous cuts? Think back. No, Kate, no.
I LOVE that grey suit, but I roll my eyes at her for suddenly dressing like this when she has a book to sell. Like she’s dressing up as “author”, but sexy, of course. Like a sexy Halloween costume. I don’t know why this annoys me so much, but it does. It’s a waste of a great suit. (and bookdeal)
(My internet’s wonky, hope I only sent this once.)
Like she’s dressing up as “author”, but sexy, of course. : I very much agree with you about the look. She looks really good but you are right this is not how she dresses (at least that she has been papped looking – a little scary that we know this). If this was how she dressed and then spiced it up a little, it would feel more * natural *. Sexy Halloween costume – so true! But she is an actress (I think she still acts 😉 ) so this is what they do: dress for the part. I wonder also about how almost every actress of a certain ilk has so much wisdom about their lifestyles that they should impart them in books. She looks happy about it so … good for her.
What happened to her blouse in the picture where she’s holding the book? Did her sons rip it apart on her left arm?
I’m the mother of only one child so far, but if I didn’t have order we would all go batty. Bedtime routine is easy because it’s clear what we do and what the rules are.
Her story just makes me think of households where every single night it’s a fight to get the kids in bed. A struggle to get them up and dressed, etc. I used to teach preschool: four year olds will run the house and walk all over you if you let them. For me personally I have GOT to have clear rules and calm routines. If my kids were not listening to me and jumping on the bed there would be a problem. I’m a hard ass but my son is happy and knows his rules.
Reading this brightens my soul a little bit. I’m so scared to have kids precisely because of this reason: losing all sense of control, all of it being a constant struggle, and being totally crushed by these little people that destroy any semblance of a normal life. I know parents often joke about the other reality, the one where kids are throwing up in your bed and there’s crusted spit up in your hair all the time, but it’s really scary to envision when deciding whether or not you want to bring this life on. I hope what you say is real, and true, and can be (for lack of a better word) controlled when these little beings come into the world.
Most children (not talking about the ones with ADHD or other health challenges) respond very well to rules and routine. There is no reason for bedtime madness or morning madness. Yes, stuff will happen – when a child is sick, or you are going through a major change like a move or a death in the family… But on a regular basis, your kids will generally behave the way they have been taught. I remember reading 5Little Monkeys Jumping on a Be d to my boy when he was 2. Whenever he would stand up on the bed or any other piece of furniture and start jumping, we’d remind him of the book. He would stop, wiggle his finger in the air and recite the book, calming down and getting off the bed by himself. (I don’t think mine is a special snowflake, either…)
My nephew did the opposite vauvert, continued to jump and split his head wide open. First trip to ER was staples… which he pulled out the minute he got home. Back to the ER, with my brother, myself and my sister all holding him down for stitches. That was fun listening to him scream like we were killing him.
My sister has 3 kids, two with ADHD. The one that continued to jump on the bed.. no ADHD, no learning issues… just didn’t listen. Was that a parenting flaw on my sister? Maybe… we were abused as kids so she might be too lenient. I don’t have kids but had my nephew over often enough to know that he was sweet when he got his way and a devil when he didn’t. He learned quickly that I did not respond like my sister did to his jerky behavior and all I had to do was lower my voice to sound like Satan lol. There were certain times, like when he tried to run away from me in a movie theater parking lot at 2, that I lost it. He wanted to walk by himself, I said absolutely not.. it’s non negotiable. I said you either hold my hand or you are in a stroller like a baby, your choice. He decided to hold my hand but cry about it lol.
I’m all about routine and my son knowing what to expect. It’s not a fight or a struggle if it’s their norm. In fact, they want it and thrive on it. I distinctly remember when my son was little 6 or 7 and he would be playing with all the neighborhood kids and when all the moms stuck their heads out a window or opened a door and yelled “dinner”, they all went flocking home – happy because they all felt part of that routine and enjoyed being “normal”. There was never any arguing or balking at having to come in and eat and do homework because all of them had to. They like doing what everybody else is doing. It’s a sense of normalcy they appreciate subconsciencely. Same with coming in at 8:00 p.m. for a bath and family time. If any one of them werent’ called in, they would have felt oddly embarrassed or weird, like their parents are slackers. Kids thrive on routine and fulfilling their expectations. It is the kids from lax families that tend to feel like the odd kid out.
My son is 12 now and I’m still impressed with how easy and natural it is to get ready for and go to bed and get up and around for school in the morning. It makes for a calm home and a very content family.
I never was an early to bed person as far as I can remember. My bedtime would be 9pm at age 9 and every night I would stare at the ceiling until 11pm. I am almost 35 and still cannot manage to go to bed before midnight. I am simply a night owl. My friend has a one year old and makes her baby go to be at 6pm (starting bedtime at 5pm) and I think it is way to early and is probably why it is causing lack of problems/sleep issues. I have told my story about being a night owl to other mother’s and they act like my parents should have broke me of it, but my question is how?
I’m glad you have found what works for you and your family. Parenting styles differ, but it doesn’t mean a person is not a good parent if their style is not yours.
Of course it doesn’t mean they aren’t good parents. That’s why I said what works for my family “personally”.
But when taken to the extreme both sides do end up being bad parenting choices. If I were completely extreme in my regimentation and rules it would become bad for the child. If parents are extreme in not setting boundaries and rules and routine, and letting children run the show entirely, that also becomes bad for the child.
To me, everything in between is just getting the job done in the way that works for the family.
I just couldn’t handle things the way Kate describes here. Not for me!
Thank you, it’s not always that simple. My almost 3 year old has had the same bed time routine since he started sleeping though the night at about 6 mo and it is still a struggle some nights. Sometimes bedtime madness happens even with the best boundaries set in place, it depends on the child. He’s not jumping on the bed but he gets out of bed and will turn on the light and start rearranging his drawers. Every night I ask my husband why is this such a struggle when we do the same thing ever single night. I tell my son, it’s bed time just like every single night, and we are not pushover parents. We follow through with disciple and never empty threat because I’ve seen too much of that. It’s like he just pushes and pushes trying to see if one night I will say, ok you don’t have to go to bed tonight. My best friend has a 3 yo daughter and she said she goes to bed really easy. Some kids just have more energy, like to push the limits at all times no matter what rules are set and how well you inforce them.
Plus, he’s three. It varies so much on the kid, on the day, on the slightest deviation in routine, what they ate… My kids go down easily on their own, but they share a bedroom, and some nights, one of them will be exhausted, and I’ll hear the other speaking to them for one minute, and the next thing I know, they’re sneaking around, giggling, and playing, until I yell at them.
The volume of kids does matter, too. Many of my friends have three kids, and there’s always a wild-card in the group that just riles the others up at the wrong moment. Just that one kid, that opens their mouth at the moment the other two are crashing, and kicks everyone back into high gear.
And @alarive: yes, it is exhausting, and soul-crushing, but it’s also the best thing ever. Even when they’re running around you, a thousand miles a minute, and your home is a wreck, sometimes you just laugh and don’t care, because it’s so happy.
She’s got a 12 year old. Without his dad in the house. Things will get outta hand from time to time.
She has 2 boys-and one of them is almost a teen. It’s far easier to have a schedule when you only have 1. Not to mention every child (despite the same parents/same upbringing) has their own personality: some are way more compliant and easy going than others. I’m all about schedules and rules, but chaos occasionally rules-and really, it’s okay.
Yes, as both a professional who works with children and a mother, I cannot emphasize enough the need for structure and rules. Children are overwhelmed with emotions and the world is a disorderly and often scary place. They need structure in order to feel safe and as a way to test their own boundaries.
Bedtime routines are essential. Sleeping and nutrition are the two most important factors in raising well adjusted children. Feeding them sugar and allowing them to get less than the recommended amount of sleep creates behavioral and emotional problems that translate into lifelong struggles.
I am not advocating a scheduled childhood. I think kids should be free to explore. But bedtime routines are key. A well rested child is more focused and more capable of dealing with reality.
So yes, bedtime routine!!!
Has anyone seen Shades of Blue with JLo?
She has an amazing wardrobe in that show with a lot of suits. Kate Hudson’s grey suit is pretty much that style with loose pants and big jackets. The only thing missing is the male shirt.
I think we’ll be seeing a lot more of this style.
good to know. will check it out. have not seen it!
Not a big of her haircut. I dont think it looks flattering at all. Found her kids story hilarious though.
I’m glad to hear her say this. I love my 3 yr old nephew but he is so go go go all over the place that if I were his mom….I don’t know, I feel that love hate pendulum would swing crazy. Lol
It’s a all balance I guess.
She can’t get an acting job anymore so is selling clothes and writing books. I know that one won’t be on Oprah’s must read list. Kids are kids and can get on your nerves at times, but I never ever have said or thought I can’t stand them. Wonder if Goldie ever said she couldn’t stand her at times. IMO terrible phraseology by her on the poor behavior of her sons even at their worst.
Was she ever a good actress? She seems to always play her own persona in every movie.
Love her comments about kids, I think a lot of parents feel the same way but are too afraid to say it because of the judgmental sanctimoms. How dare we not love our precious snowflakes every moment of every single day, we don’t deserve children!😉 I’m glad other moms here are so honest, I love my 8 year old daughter more than anything and would die without her, but she can be such a shitass sometimes and it drives me crazy!
^ Love the shitass lol.
Kate really needs to stop tweaking her face. She should try aging gracefully instead of embracing the frozen look of Hollywood divas
I don’t think you need kids to understand this feeling. Just have to be an adult. I feel that way about my friendships and relationships and my nephews. Us childless folk understand things too.
all relationships can be frustrating. My sister frustrates me constantly. Shoot, my husband and my son….sometimes I want to bang their heads together.
I always love my spawn, but yup, don’t always like them (or rather, don’t always like their behavior). Regardless of how many rules and routines you have, in spite of how much “order” you think you have, it is the child’s job to push the boundaries, to break the rules, to try your patience. It’s part of the process of growing into an independent person and expressing autonomy. The harder they push, the more you have to simply love them (and yes, continue to enforce your rules and routines). But you don’t have to like their behavior.
Well, that haircut isn’t distracting me from noticing all those fillers in her face. Has she messed with her face before?
Why, Kate, why?
YO!!! I thought I was going crazy and then I see not one comment til the end like: IS NOBODY SEEING HER CHEEKS OR THAT SHE LOOKS PART ASIAN RN!?!?!?!?!?!?!??!?!
Thank you for restoring my sanity
Totally! The last picture is very chipmunk-like and the one before she looks so much like Caitlyn Jenner…
I wish she would stop immediately, she’s so pretty without it
You should look at the pics on Lainey Gossip. I swore she got a chin implant and the fillers are having a weird affect. I didn’t think it even looked like her. In that last photo on here, she looks like Rene Zellweger.
Yeah, I don’t get it-she’s only 36 and is already doing fillers?? She doesn’t look like herself. Her face looks puffy and tight.
her hairdresser f-ed up. that hair just doesn’t suit her.
I think she looks way better with long hair. This length doesn’t suit her and makes her ears look big.
Her ears do stick out. Anytime you see her with her hair pulled back, you will see it. It’s along the lines of Prince Charles’ ears.
Nope, her hair isn’t flattering on her, even if she didn’t put that silly filler in her face.
I have a friend the same age and has hair exactly like her with natural wave and the same color and even resembles her. She cut her hair off also, and it just did not work with her face shape. She finally admitted after a few months she didn’t like it and said that it was actually more trouble to style being short with natural wave and curl to her hair, and grew it back out.
I really like her haircut. It is very flattering!
Although, I don’t have kids I understand. It also reminded me of the youtube video years ago where a little boy said: “i love you mommy. But I don’t like you all the time”
“if they ever threw up in my bed and didn’t have Ebola, though, I’d find them new homes.”
Bwahahahaha!! This made me seriously lol for some reason.
By four they should be well past the age of hitting, if not that’s a failure to parent. A 12 year old should not be hitting and kicking anybody, certainly not a four year old. The fact she thinks it’s normal and allows it to continue proves that parenting (or lack of) is the problem. Kids are very pleasant company if properly parented, those who aren’t are intolerable to everybody and it’s not fair to let them be like that. If even you hate being around your kids, what kind of reactions are they provoking from other people?
I’m just going to go out on a limb and guess that you don’t have any children.
Four year olds vary greatly, do not have great impulse control and will try to get away with what they can, especially with siblings, so I won’t shade her for her four year old acting….well, like a four year old. I do agree that a twelve year old has no business hitting a four year old and I wouldn’t tolerate that, but maybe she is exaggerating it a bit for dramatic effect?
Well at least she’s honest about kids. I don’t have any but I have two nieces. One is amazing, the other is the devil. Just an hour with that kid and I’m ready to pull my hair out. Can’t imagine having to deal with that 24/7 !
Here’s Kate’s ‘lifestyle’ : Be born to rich, celebrity parents. Have a most popular, long time H’wood star for a step-daddy. Live in Malibu all your life, so you never have to rub elbows with the regular folk. Sleep your way around H’wood. Have children by different men. Fill your face full of botox and fillers. Oh, and get a haircut.
Sorry, Kate. I’m too busy working a real job for a meager wage to worry about supporting your ‘lifestyle’ brand.
I’m going to wager a guess that the nanny does most of the raising, and they probably act up more when Mom is by herself. Attention.
I don’t get why anyone would buy this book.