Pres. Obama, feminist: ‘When everybody is equal, we are all more free’

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Today in “OMG Why Can’t Barack Obama Run For A Third Term?” we have this wonderful essay written by our lovely POTUS. After yesterday’s shenanigans with Sarah Jessica Parker and her “I am not a feminist because I believe in equality” bulls—t, it’s refreshing to see that the president not only embraces the role of feminist-in-chief, but he actually understands what the word “feminism” actually means. He understands the practice of feminism, the applications of feminism in everyday life. He’s sown feminism-seeds and he’s watching the feminist trees flourish. You can read Pres. Obama’s Glamour essay here – it’s called “President Barack Obama Says, ‘This Is What a Feminist Looks Like’.” Word, Barry. WORD. Some of the best quotes from the piece (he’s a long-winded feminist and I’m not going to post the unedited Barry’s Feminist Treatise, because dude could give Simone de Beauvoir a run for her money).

Living in the White House, watching his daughters grow up: “I’ve been able to spend a lot more time watching my daughters grow up into smart, funny, kind, wonderful young women. That isn’t always easy, either—watching them prepare to leave the nest. But one thing that makes me optimistic for them is that this is an extraordinary time to be a woman. The progress we’ve made in the past 100 years, 50 years, and, yes, even the past eight years has made life significantly better for my daughters than it was for my grandmothers. And I say that not just as President but also as a feminist.”

Best revenge is your paper: “In my lifetime we’ve gone from a job market that basically confined women to a handful of often poorly paid positions to a moment when women not only make up roughly half the workforce but are leading in every sector, from sports to space, from Hollywood to the Supreme Court. I’ve witnessed how women have won the freedom to make your own choices about how you’ll live your lives—about your bodies, your educations, your careers, your finances. Gone are the days when you needed a husband to get a credit card. In fact, more women than ever, married or single, are financially independent.

The unique challenge of being a woman: “I’d like to think that I’ve been pretty aware of the unique challenges women face—it’s what has shaped my own feminism. But I also have to admit that when you’re the father of two daughters, you become even more aware of how gender stereotypes pervade our society. You see the subtle and not-so-subtle social cues transmitted through culture. You feel the enormous pressure girls are under to look and behave and even think a certain way….we need to break through these limitations. We need to keep changing the attitude that raises our girls to be demure and our boys to be assertive, that criticizes our daughters for speaking out and our sons for shedding a tear. We need to keep changing the attitude that punishes women for their sexuality and rewards men for theirs.

What needs to change: “We need to keep changing the attitude that permits the routine harassment of women, whether they’re walking down the street or daring to go online. We need to keep changing the attitude that teaches men to feel threatened by the presence and success of women. We need to keep changing the attitude that congratulates men for changing a diaper, stigmatizes full-time dads, and penalizes working mothers. We need to keep changing the attitude that values being confident, competitive, and ambitious in the workplace—unless you’re a woman. Then you’re being too bossy, and suddenly the very qualities you thought were necessary for success end up holding you back. We need to keep changing a culture that shines a particularly unforgiving light on women and girls of color. Michelle has often spoken about this. Even after achieving success in her own right, she still held doubts; she had to worry about whether she looked the right way or was acting the right way—whether she was being too assertive or too “angry.”

How we raise boys & girls: “Michelle and I have raised our daughters to speak up when they see a double standard or feel unfairly judged based on their gender or race—or when they notice that happening to someone else. It’s important for them to see role models out in the world who climb to the highest levels of whatever field they choose. And yes, it’s important that their dad is a feminist, because now that’s what they expect of all men. It is absolutely men’s responsibility to fight sexism too. And as spouses and partners and boyfriends, we need to work hard and be deliberate about creating truly equal relationships.

21st century feminism: “I want all of our daughters and sons to see that this, too, is their inheritance. I want them to know that it’s never been just about the Benjamins; it’s about the Tubmans too. And I want them to help do their part to ensure that America is a place where every single child can make of her life what she will. That’s what twenty-first century feminism is about: the idea that when everybody is equal, we are all more free.”

[From Glamour]

He hit all my sweet spots – it’s about reproductive freedom, financial freedom, career equality, relationship equality, intersectional feminism and more. It’s about breaking glass ceilings and changing minds and breaking down stereotypes. Obama’s last year in office has already been full of these moments, where we see the results of eight years of Obamism (Barryism?), and it’s just reminding all of us: g—damn we’re going to miss him. What I wouldn’t give for four more years of Obama.

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  1. Tash says:

    Hear that SJP.
    To the Prez – Bravo!!

    • LinaLamont says:

      RE: SJP who is old enough to know better….

      It’s not just men who are to blame for inequality. Many 20-and 30-somethings (women) are afraid of the word. They don’t understand the word. They take so much for granted. They have no idea what had been fought for them. They don’t take it seriously. They’re complacent. A lot of people don’t care about history. There’s plenty of blame to go around.

      If we get a Republican president; they’re in for a rude awakening for three reasons:
      1. SCOTUS
      2. SCOTUS
      3. SCOTUS

      • MC2 says:

        This! I keep hearing “what’s the difference between the two candidates anyway??” and that Trump would be four years. I think the important thing to focus on in the next president is the long term impact of the SCOTUS nominees. Oh- and a president that will not gleefully use our nukes & start WWIII.

  2. Kate says:

    Confession: I did not vote for him either time but he has really impressed me in this last year in office. I am liking him more and more. I love his humanitarian ways. I love that he understands that equality doesnt detract from freedom but increases freedom for everyone. I love that he and Michelle are raising their daughters to be good, kind, hardworking people.

    I never thought I would say this, but I really am going to miss him. I hope he will stick around and keep being awesome. Also, Michelle should run for office of some kind.

    • Tash says:

      That’s ok, we forgive you 😉

    • Jwoolman says:

      I have a feeling that the Obamas will find ways to help us outside of political office. They really need a break…. Two terms as President for someone who actually works at the job is grueling, that’s why they always age faster in the White House. With the mindless opposition in Congress, Obama was pointlessly blocked while everybody should have been working together for acceptable solutions. Congress operated differently back in my younger days. But I think Obama is going to be a very effective ex-President.

      • Tate says:

        I think so too. They are good people and will no doubt find ways to help our world but I think they have put up with enough sh!t as far as politics go.

      • Kate says:

        Agreed. They’ll be a force whether in or out of politics. I don’t see him retiring any time soon

    • HK9 says:

      I didn’t vote for him either, but that’s because I’m Canadian and they wouldn’t let me. 🙂

    • Original T.C. says:

      Thanks for your honesty Kate 🙂

      I personally don’t mind others voting for someone else, it’s the disrespect, irrational hatred, and racism from other people that really bothered me. If someone voted for a Republican, Independent or Green Party candidate due to policy differences I totally respect that as this is how Democracy should work. I have friends from all 4 parties who are not racist or xenophobic.

      • Kate says:

        I am so over the hatred and name calling. I have friends from all different walks of life and all different cultures and we don’t agree on everything, sometimes big things, but we know there is more to us than our politics.

        Truthfully, it doesn’t matter who someone votes for if they vote with their conscience and with their heart. we were all put together with different beliefs and values but we are all human.

  3. Jenns says:

    I don’t want him to leave.

    Also, did everyone see this? It’s Obama with kids and it’s the best thing ever.

    https://www.buzzfeed.com/davidmack/dad-in-chief?utm_term=.meK8l1OMEb#.gcn3B6OZko

    • Crowdhood says:

      Oh my goodness thank you for that! I loved it so much.

    • Tash says:

      That baby in an elephant costume…sweet Lawrd!!!!!

    • lower-case deb says:

      thank you for the link. it hits me right at the feels! he’s really rather good with kids! and he knows it!

      like here, when he looks smugly at Michelle, for successfully soothing a baby
      https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=uqhzWlqN3uc

    • Nicole says:

      “Obama with kids” is my favorite behind “Dad embarrassing his kids Obama” and “no f*cks Obama”
      I really need Pete to make a book of every photo of Obama and release it in book form. A section of Obama and kids is a must

    • Kate says:

      It’s one of the things that I love most about him! He seems like such a family man and I have HUGE respect for that.

  4. Crowdhood says:

    My father is a local politician and was seeking support from a women’s group. He was asked “what would you say to somebody that told your daughters they couldn’t do something because they were females” and apparently he laughed hysterically and was like “you can’t tell my girls anything!” I feel like Obama has a life surrounded by strong and intelligent women and he has the same approach. Will miss having a human advocate in office.

  5. lilacflowers says:

    I love this man.

    Also, Sasha is working a restaurant takeout window on Martha’s Vineyard this summer – just like thousands of other teenagers are doing all across the Cape and other vacation spots.

    • Tiffany :) says:

      I LOVED what he said about his daughters in this essay. I can’ t grab the quote now, but it was something along the lines of: it is important that my daughters see that I am a feminist, because that is what they will expect from the men in their lives going forward.

      SO IMPORTANT!! I am so grateful to him for getting the nuances of this issue so accurately.

      • Tiffany :) says:

        Here’ s the quote: ” “It’s important for them to see role models out in the world who climb to the highest levels of whatever field they choose. And yes, it’s important that their dad is a feminist, because now that’s what they expect of all men.”

  6. Scal says:

    This wasn’t included, but I also loved how he recognized how parenthood was a different experience for him as a father than it was for Michelle, his mother, or his grandmother. It was great to see how his life has influenced his viewpoint on the subject. And as always I love love love the way he talks with respect about his wife and her mind and her skills-not just her looks (*cough Donald*)

    “Now, the most important people in my life have always been women. I was raised by a single mom, who spent much of her career working to empower women in developing countries. I watched as my grandmother, who helped raise me, worked her way up at a bank only to hit a glass ceiling. I’ve seen how Michelle has balanced the demands of a busy career and raising a family. Like many working mothers, she worried about the expectations and judgments of how she should handle the trade-offs, knowing that few people would question my choices. And the reality was that when our girls were young, I was often away from home serving in the state legislature, while also juggling my teaching responsibilities as a law professor. I can look back now and see that, while I helped out, it was usually on my schedule and on my terms. The burden disproportionately and unfairly fell on Michelle.”

    • Bluebelle says:

      This was the part that touched me the most when I read it. He’s a relatable man, and he makes an effort to get to know how people from all walks live with a genuine interest. I don’t want him to go! I believe this has been the most beloved POTUS the world has had!

    • Tiffany :) says:

      I thought this was amazing for him to recognize!

  7. Original T.C. says:

    One only has to see the deference he shows Michelle whenever they are together to see how much he respects women. He is the only politician that *I* have noticed featuring his wife as the smarter, more powerful partner in the relationship. And the love in his eyes when looking at her reminds me of Nancy Reagan looking up at her beloved Ronald.

    Three cheers for his feminist essay. Since this remains a male dominated society with many women afraid to use the F-word, I think it’s important for powerful and as well as everyday men to come out as fellow proud feminist. Yes the Republicans will call him a sissy but young women may be influenced to understand that feminism is a good thing. Including Republican ones.

  8. Dippit says:

    My daughter (UK based) either wishes for the sake of our American compatriots that BO could stand for a third term (although she stops short of wishing for a WWIII to allow that suspension of The Constitution), OR that the UK can export him, he forms a political party here and we have a snap General Election where he is elected and his party forms the new Govt.

    I can’t say I disagree with her. 😆

  9. susiecue says:

    That was beautiful.

  10. Jess says:

    Love it!

  11. mia girl says:

    He’s just that good, isn’t he?

  12. Justjj says:

    I wish Hillary could appoint him as Supreme Court Justice! That would be too good. Watching the Republicans react would be priceless. But yeah, we all are going to miss him and Bill is no Michelle :[

  13. QQ says:

    MY FEELS!! he is just… *sigh* we are going to go a long time before we see people like him and Michelle grace that office.. I Mean it in every single way!! this final Devoid of F8cks Lap Obama is taking us on just has elevated him to a whole nother level for me.. every time i have to sit down and THINK about it i really do get misty eyed and I’m not even a super emotional one

  14. Ariel says:

    He makes me proud of our country. More men (and women) like Barack Obama means a better world for us all.

  15. Ravensdaughter says:

    Even though I am supporting Hillary (as he is supporting her), I will miss him.

  16. Belindaya says:

    He really makes me proud of YOUR country .America , you elected this man twice.
    You know you are better than Cheetos Man.

  17. Anna says:

    I’m really glad to see his smile. When he walked into the last 8 years, I knew they would attempt to destroy him. The world was in complete scheet. He was the only one that could have taken this in at that time. He came out the other end and I’d smile too.

  18. SusanneToo says:

    I just absolutely love him.

  19. Lindy says:

    I love him and I love how simple and clear he makes all these points. I’ll miss the Obama family so much! Kind of excited to see what they go on to do in the next few years. All of them!

  20. Kath says:

    Obama has KILLED it in his second term. Too much of the first term was spent trying to convince the Repubs that he wasn’t the bogey man, and after 2012, trying to get Congress to do their damn jobs. But in his 2nd term, he is out of effs to give and is kicking arse.

    I REALLY wish the US didn’t have term limits.