These are photos of Drew Barrymore at a Shutterfly event for her new holiday gift collection last week. She looks great and Drew told US Magazine that she’s lost 20 pounds while filming a show for Netflix titled, appropriately enough, Santa Clarita Diet. She costars with Timothy Olyphant and it’s out next year. Drew said, of her weight loss, “I’ve been very disciplined and all I did did was cry and dream about pizza… the holidays are coming up so I’m going to enjoy some of that stuffing.”
So many celebrities are separating or, in Drew Barrymore’s case divorcing, and still spending significant amounts of family time with their exes while coparenting their children. Some are existing in that limbo between full separation and reconciliation, at least as far as the press is concerned (see: Affleck and Garner) and others are already divorced, like Mayim Bialik, and go to events and have holidays with their exes. Drew Barrymore still has business dealings with her ex, Will Kopelman’s family, and she told Entertainment Tonight that “as a family” they had “three dates for this Halloween.” Hmm. So is it any surprise that she’s doing Christmas with her ex too?
Exes Drew Barrymore and Will Kopelman are getting into the holiday spirit together despite splitting up earlier this year.
“Most of the family is going on this big adventure trip and our kids are just too young, so Will and I are going to do something fun with them,” Barrymore told Page Six at the launch of her new collection with Shutterfly on Thursday. “We have like three sets of different Christmas plans … and then we’re going on this [vacation]. It’s going to be really nice and I’m going to a warmer climate, so I’m excited.”
The couple, who have two daughters together, finalized their divorce in August, but Barrymore told us they’re still close friends.
“We were together today at our kids’ school,” she said. “We spend weekends together. He’s running in the [New York] Marathon, so we’re going to go and wave him on.”
The actress, 41, opened up about her split on Chelsea Handler’s Netflix show in May, saying, “It’s a tough time. It’s a hard thing to go through. It’s like you’re being put on a cheese grater and every second, going, ‘Ah! This wasn’t the plan!’”
Some people prefer to have this kind of closeness with their exes as it’s much better than fighting and it may set a better example for the kids. Other people consider it confusing for the kids, who want to see their mom and dad together and aren’t getting a chance to adjust or understand that things are different. The reality is probably somewhere in between because kids are perceptive and kindness usually seems like a better route than acrimony. Plus if this is still happening one side may be holding out for a reconciliation and I bet it isn’t Drew. She isn’t shy about telling us what’s going on in her life, I’ll give Drew that. She’s been open throughout her divorce.
Here’s Drew at the NYC Marathon this weekend with Will’s sister and she also instagrammed a pic of him at the finish line.
Photos credit: Getty Images for Shutterfly and Instagram
It’s like she got to an age where she was old and needed to have kids biologically and it was now or never. I don’t think she consciously did it bc she’s not mean spirited.
But he was her SPERM donor. He was good on paper but didn’t fit her free personality for long term.
I feel sad if He still has the feels for her.
I can help him take the pain away. I’m benevolent like that.
Bless you.
Why, Don’t trouble yourself Lama , I’ll Take this L for the Team… along with his good Money and Connections… Kinda like Drew did on the highest and lowest of keys
I’m happy that they are on good terms. But I still find it odd myself. If you are still so OK with your ex that you spend holidays and events together, then why aren’t you together…..? It’s just confusing for someone like me I guess who is a more all or nothing type.
Spending the holidays together and spending 24/7 together with someone in a partnership are two completely different things. I can easily spend time with a lot of people during the holidays. Doesn’t mean I want to marry them.
I feel this way, too. I think I’d have to get to a place where I really couldn’t stand to be around my husband (or didn’t feel like my kids and/or I were safe around him) where I would file for divorce and tear our whole lives apart like that. But maybe that’s different for people with the financial means Drew must have.
I think the money is key here. I don’t know one woman who hasn’t thought, at some point, why am I married to this guy, who leaves his socks around the house, doesn’t do enough cooking, and spends way too much time at the golf course? But marriage is about more than that. It’s about the life and the community you build together. So most women can overlook the annoying shit and see the big picture, especially when the alternative is selling your house and living in a 2-bedroom apartment, and struggling a lot more to make ends meet.
Someone like Drew, though, who never has to worry about money, can pick up a lot more easily and take off when things aren’t as fairy-tale-perfect as she hoped they’d be. And I do think Drew is all about the fairy tale, and the rush of a new romance. More power to her, I guess — she’s never going to compromise to get what she wants. Most of us can’t live that way, though.
Exactly. Celebrities get divorced all the time because they CAN. The rest of us poor slobs have to suffer in silence and play homicide scenarios on loop daily. Just me? Oh.
@Your mom : no, definitely not just you. Sadly.
@Your mom and @ Victoria, I’m with you too. I envy people with money, and it’s not for materialistic reasons at all – it’s simply for the freedom to say, “Um, no more. I’m done.”
@your mom, victoria and lee – cosigning. Would that we all had “eff you” money.
“I think the money is key here.” Actually, I think having money makes marriage so much easier. No need to fight about money, house work or child care as wealthy couples have the means to take care of these things. Seriously, I can’t understand why two people could not try to work it out for their children. Kids want stable, loving homes with two parents. Obviously there was no abuse, they get along well enough, so I say, suck it up work on the marriage. Life isn’t a Hollywood movie, it’s compromise and work, hence why it can also be rewarding. Her kids are 4 and 2 . . . I’ve sort of lost some respect for her. Too bad for her.
I think in these kind of cases someone cheated or wants to cheat. Or you are just bored. So you do not maybe have huge issues as couple so you can send time together but someone or both does not want to be permanently together. I do not think that is really a good reason to divorce (unless cheating already happened) but people are different.
The moment you have kids, you are family, whether you’re a couple/lovers or not.
I do love my brother, spend lovely family vacation time with him, would kill him if I had to live with him. That’s family.
Just my (very enlightened) opinion. Then, of course, I very, very happy not to have kids with some of my exes.
Some people are more evolved and can get along generally or for the sake of the kids. It’s sad that comes across as so unbelievable. Good for anyone that can do it!
hear hear. Even better if it is just general
I don’t know that it’s more evolved. I can be friends with an ex if I am over them. It would be really hard if my current guy and I split because I am so madly in love with him. It would hurt too much to be around him.
I know a lot of people that got married because if was “time” but didn’t really care so much who they were marrying. When they split… A lot easier to just hang out because those really deep feelings never existed.
There are exceptions of course to this … But this is my experience.
Holy Batman Christmas she looks good.
Seriously. Gorgeous!
I’m glad that Drew and her ex seem to be doing well. I thought that people (not just on this site) were unfairly harsh on her, when her divorce was first announced. So many assumed that it was all her fault, and that she was going to go back to her partying days. Some were even saying that her ex should get custody of the children, with Drew only getting visitation. I mean, I get that Drew was a wild child back in the day, but she had gotten her life together *long* before she married Will and became a mother. So I don’t why people expected her to return to her old ways just because her marriage didn’t work out. I’m glad she and Will seem to be putting the kids first.
I hope they get back together. He seems like a good guy and I’ve loved Drew Barrymore forever.
I get it. I have been separated from my husband for 10 months. Our twins are 2. We separated because he cannot handle the stress of parenting them if I’m not there. He went completely off the rails after they were born and I don’t even know him anymore. He was getting drunk and passing out while I was at work, among other problems, including draining our bank accounts without telling me. I can’t leave them alone with him, I can’t live with him, and I don’t want to share a mortgage or bank account with him. But I encourage him to visit us (supervised by me or my mom) and try to be civil because it would be heartbreaking for the boys if he disappeared. So people might think “oh why aren’t they together?” Because he was drowning us, but I’d rather not tell everyone my sons’ father is an alcoholic who neglected them and said he didn’t want them.
Good gracious. I am sorry you are going through that and I hope he gets the help he needs to get better and learn coping techniques.
Wow. You must be very strong/well organized to weather all that. I had a friend who went through something very similar with her guy… completely off the rails, then completely gone, but a couple years later he showed up and has a decent relationship with his son; it’s almost like he needed the boy to be more interactive to love him….
Holy crap. Parenting can be brutal, and I imagine the stress of twins is insane. I guess it can be hard to tell ahead of time who can deal and who will snap. So sorry you had to go through that on top of your own parenting stress, and I hope you have lots of people supporting you. Major props for getting your kids and yourself out of that situation.
Oh my goodness what you’ve been through! I am so sorry that your ex lost his mind and I am so impressed you are able to facilitate his continued relationship with your sons. I hope that you’re able to take some time for yourself and take care of yourself as well because you deserve and need it! Hang in there!
Red32, I’m so sorry for what you are going through. You are a strong woman & a great role model for your sons. Bless your heart.
Sorry for this, and yes it is impressive the way you are handling a terrible situation. I agree a relationship with their father is important, if it can be done without too much damage. I applaud you for trying. Praying for your ex to get a bit more together and help with your kids.
Your comment says it all though. People don’t know all that goes on with a marriage and family. Yes we speculate with these celebrities, but who knows what really is going on. When we see something that at least sort of works like Drew’s situation we should applaud the effort, and yes she looks really good.
Red32 – Good for you for standing up for yourself and not becoming an enabler. As an individual who grow up with an alcoholic father, I can say with certainty you’re children will one day thank you.
My twins are 5 now, and I totally know how stressful parenting multiples can be on a marriage. My marriage almost fell apart when they were 2 as well and I could not leave them alone with their father for any amount of time either. Thankfully my husband got help and we found out he had an undiagnosed mental illness. Medication and therapy has changed him into a different person. But had he resisted help, I’d be right there with you!
She’s going to a warmer climate? Doesn’t she live in California?
On a different note, I always think it’s very cool when divorced people can do this. It’s GOT to be better for the kids to at least see a warm friendship between their parents!
good for them. my parents have been “consciously uncoupled” since the late ’80s and it was great for me and my brother growing up. as much as my parents struggled as a romantic couple (they were together for 16 years), they managed to get over their personal shit in a year or two and have been practically best friends since they split. they always came together for our ballet recitals and band concerts and football games and whatever, we did holidays together (still do, with step-parents and extended families too), and to this day they live about 20 minutes away from each other.
This strikes a cord with me. My parents divorce was beyond bitter . My brother and I heard the ugliness from both our parents and at a very young age had to choose sides . Coming from that toxic situation , my brother and I would’ve prayed for a bit of kindness and civility from our parents .
Same here, Aims. My parents’ divorce was acrimonious to a degree I can’t even fathom now that I’m older. My mother bad-mouthed my father to my brother and me for YEARS. I learned very quickly to never answer her when she asked about my dad, because really, she was just baiting me so she could go on an angry 15-minute rant about what an a**hole he was. She never got over him, even after she married someone else, and it made life really difficult for me and my brother.
I always say, when a couple gets divorced, their lives go on without each other. But their kids live with it forever, because it’s the kids who have to juggle visits and the politics of family time — especially when you have your own kids and you have divorced grandparents competing for attention.
You’re so right. It’s the kids who have to deal with the aftermath of the divorce . It’s not just the divorce that changed me, but the behavior afterwards . All of it was 1000% unnecessary and my parents were so wrapped up in their sick game of who can hurt who the most. That they failed to see that it was my brother and I who were paying the price .
It’s a strange thing about getting older, is that you see things for what they are, instead of feeling the responsibility of a situation . In my case both of my parents were equally at fault and having lost both of them this year we never got an apology for either of them. Which says a lot.
“We have like three sets of different Christmas plans”
Isn’t Barrymore’s ex Jewish and there was talk of her studying Judaism? Strange to answer “Christmas plans” when it is an interfaith household. Why not go with a generic, “holiday plans”?
I was thinking the same. I believe she converted before marriage.
NIN spotting!!!! Lololol
i can’t wait for her netflix show! so happy timothy olyphant will be back on tv and i think drew is very adorable and watchable. hope its good.
She looks great, love the shoes.
My parents spoilt in 1970 when I was 6. My parents chose to live in different states but he would visit my brother and me a few times s year and we would visit him periodically. It’s always been friendly among my parents and step-parents, though no one is buddy-buddy. Way, way better than situation with *my* ex who won’t allow his family to invite me to family functions.
I see no downside for the children to have parents that are in communication and supportive of one another. I understand that to some people it seems “weird” but I hope that as a culture we’re moving towards it becoming the norm, and the expectation is that all divorced parents with kids will try to parent together and treat each other positively. Speaking from experience, it makes a huge difference for the children’s well being, and no, it’s not confusing.
well said.
Her ex-husband’s sister is the author of “Odd Mom Out”! Just figured it out.
My brother and his ex wife have a similar situation. They were good friends who married and had kids, but probably shouldn’t have because even though they were best friends, they didn’t have chemistry in the bedroom. I wonder if this is what happened with Drew.
And…..?