In Touch: Nicole Kidman & Keith Urban did a marriage-counseling boot camp

The 24th Annual Screen Actors Guild Awards

There are always rumors about Nicole Kidman and Keith Urban and the state of their marriage. I would believe those rumors, except that whenever I see Keith and Nicole on a red carpet or in an interview, they always seem to be on the same page about everything. Meaning… while we think they are a strange couple, their individual strangeness somehow mirrors each other and they are actually incredibly compatible, at least that’s what I believe. Meaning, they’re not anyone’s idea of Couple Goals, but they seem happy enough and they’re still into each other. In any case, I also sort of believe this In Touch Weekly story, about how they went to a private marriage-counseling retreat.

In Touch has learned that Nicole Kidman and husband of nearly 12 years Keith Urban, had a five-day visit to Marriage Quest, a private counseling retreat located in Cabot, Vt. “Nicole and Keith went for an emergency stay,” an insider tells In Touch exclusively of the pair. “It was an extremely emotional and testing few days.”

The couple, who share daughters Sunday, 9, and Faith, 7, “have been fighting constantly over Nicole’s incessant jealousy and need to control Keith on every level,” adds the insider.

The trip to Vermont marked their final attempt to patch things up. “It was Keith’s idea to visit the boot camp,” says the insider. The Lion actress resisted and only relented when Keith threatened to leave for good. “He gave her an ultimatum.”

But in Vermont, the pair were side by side as they hashed out their problems. “They addressed a range of issues, including emotional intimacy, and focused on the root of their problems as they learned to break down walls and start working on their issues rather than plastering over the cracks,” the insider explains.

[From In Touch Weekly]

“Nicole’s incessant jealousy and need to control Keith on every level…” Yeah, I believe that. I believe she probably gets jealous when he pays attention to anyone else, and I believe she’s controlling too. I just don’t think they fight about it. I think Keith has always been happy to just sort of tailor his interests, his grooming, his life to Nicole. They botox together, get their hair done together (completely with his ‘90s boy bander highlights), dress similarly and seem to be morphing into each other. Maybe that IS the true intimacy for them. They also seem like the kind of couple that would go to a marriage-counseling retreat for the hell of it.

The 24th Annual Screen Actors Guild Awards

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  1. smcollins says:

    Even though it’s coming from IT I can kinda believe this. After her marriage to Tom Cruise I can certainly understand her need for control. Keith Urban does absolutely nothing for me. I’ve only ever seen him in photos so maybe he’s one of those “better in motion” types? He just gives me the creeps for some reason.

    • Millennial says:

      Definitely better in motion — one of the more talented musicians in country music, good singer, and just a gentle person overall. I’m not saying he’s hot or anything, but if you watch him in any extended interview I think it’s easy to see what she sees in him.

      Anyways, I hope this isn’t true. Nicole deserves happiness after everything Tom put her through.

    • Jussayin says:

      I remember watching an episode of the tonight show, maybe a year or so ago where Nicole Kidman was telling Jimmy Fallon how years ago she wanted to date him. The theme of the story was that he missed his chance and it was all very funny but actually her body language said something else entirely. I remember it every time I see these two because I thought it was not really fitting of someone who was happily married. Based on that, I don’t find this story at all surprising.

  2. Sara says:

    I think seeking therapy is pretty healthy and good no? Thinking therapy is a sign you are sick or your relationship is about to fail means many people don’t seek counseling before it is indeed too late.

    • Masamf says:

      +100, @Sara, ITAWY. And good for them for recognize their issues and want to work through them and on their marriage. I always comment a couple that do everything remotely possible to make it work rather than just throw in the towel and be like “oh well..” And especially when there are kids involved, I rather the adults put their feelings aside and really work on giving their kids an upbringing in a home with 2 parents. So, good for Keith and Nic.

    • lucy2 says:

      I agree! If they did do something to work on it, I think that’s good. They are two very high profile people with high pressure, immersive careers in the public eye, who also have 2 small kids. That’s not easy for anyone.

  3. ShavieZoe says:

    I just wish Nicole was a redhead again. *sigh

  4. Caitlin says:

    I have trouble trusting a guy that has blonde highlights.

  5. AbbyRose says:

    Not going to knock people who get marriage counseling. They’ve been married a good long while and maybe the relationship needed a tune up. They both have busy schedules so maybe a 5 day retreat worked better for them than weekly appointments.

    Not surprised the article blames Nicole for the problems. It’s always the woman. *eyeroll* They seem to be in love and their careers are thriving.

  6. Maya says:

    He is a former alcoholic and drug user so I get that Nicole likes to control things.

  7. Rumi says:

    They just seem so mismatched to me. I dislike his hair, the low V t-shirts, the lifts.
    I think she can do better.

  8. Svea says:

    My guess isn’t that she is jealous (controlling yeah if married to an ex addict) as much as insecure about aging. The world is full of couples where the husband trades in the wife for a younger version of said wife. Between a career in an industry where only youth is valued and a husband who clearly doesn’t want to mature gracefully himself, the changes that come with age and menopause can’t be easy for her.

  9. Pedro45 says:

    Marriage Quest sounds like the worst video game ever.

  10. CrazyCatLady says:

    No shade for seeking out any kind of helpful therapy ……. a commitment to fixing problems in marriage is commendable.

    But a couple that highlights and botoxes and tweaks together …..and begins to look alike …….well, I think we have a Stepford Couple script in the making. The pics give me shivers.

  11. Bananapanda says:

    They seem like an easygoing couple in interviews but their marriage started with him heading off to rehab.

    On a personal note, the number of awards shows they have to attend annually is insane. That must be exhausting. Nicole came off Lion (which is lovely) and straight onto the Big Little Lies tour (i.e. From Oscar campaign to Emmy and Globes).

  12. Chaine says:

    I wish she didn’t always hold him by the corner of the neck like that. It makes him look even more like her marionette than his height and wax figure demeanor already do.

  13. Harryg says:

    Please Keith stop having those highlights.
    They are such a “waxy” couple. Or, they are like a paper doll and a plastic doll.

  14. Jumpingthesnark says:

    Keith Urban used to rock my world on the regular back in the early 00s. But as with many men, the plastic surgery and Botox have a feminizing effect on looks that just kills it for me. But marriages thrive with shared interests and clearly plastic surgery and fillers are a shared interest for this couple. Whatever works for them, I guess….

  15. lilith says:

    This is such a BS. Nicole did Destroyer, The Goldfinch back to back and starts to filming Big Little Lies. So she has no time for that alleged counseling. People was talking about seeing them at pet-shop on twitter. And of course a woman is controlling and the man is her puppet. They’ve been divorcing for 10 years but nothing happens

  16. Browniecakes says:

    Weird how she never mentions her older two kids in her acceptance speeches. Must be his decision to live in Nashville. I think she said once her two older ones had no interest in living in Nashville too.

    • Kelly says:

      It’s pretty well known that $cientology deliberated alienated Nicole’s first two children from her. There was daily auditing that brainwashed her children into hating and fearing her (It’s covered in Going Clear). She respects their refusal to see her and has let them know she will always be there for them. She’s never said a bad word against the CO$, even though she knows where the bodies are buried, and she does that out of respect for her children.

  17. Egla says:

    I like how there in the US people have access to all this help for mental and other emotional problems. Here where I live people don’t talk about this things. You can break your leg and everybody will come to hear the story and feel sorry for you. If you are suffering inside for whatever reason people will say to cheer up and stop whining.

  18. eve says:

    Does this woman have any time for her family, it ‘s like she wants to make movie after movie tv series , whatever she can cram in. She seems so afraid it’s going to end, I find her a sad woman actually, her vanity oozes out of her pores.

  19. mary says:

    She’s relevant now and of course she’s gonna use it. She’s wasn’t that popular over the years in terms of movies and she didn’t work that much until recently. And her children travels with her but you can’t see it that much because she doesn’t use it like some other stars. Sad woman? She’s successful and famous millionaire actress. And what vanity? She’s opposite if you watch her interviews.

  20. Taxi says:

    Her control issues extend even to the rare “candids” of the whole family at an airport, ready to jet. According to photo assistants, they staged the same scene multiple times while Nic primped everyone’s hair, clothes, carry ons, poses, etc. She was checking the girls’ tights, toy-holding positions, etc, so that what looked like casual pre-boarding snaps really represented multiple retakes over about 15 minutes.