Wife of Alicia Keys’ boyfriend Swizz Beatz: “you know what you did”

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I remember hearing that Alicia Keys, 28, was dating a guy named Swizz Beatz and that he was married. Beatz , 31,filed for divorce last summer, and claimed at the time that his divorce had nothing to do with his relationship with Keys. The National Enquirer reported about a year ago, in October, 2008, that Alicia had broken up with Beatz, a music producer, after she learned that he was still with his wife when they first started dating. Apparently Beatz swore up and down to Alicia that he was separated when they hooked up but he was still living with his wife and infant son at the time. If Keys did break up with Beatz that didn’t last long, because he told The NY Daily News in May that he was dating Keys and that things were going well. The two have since been photographed out together several times.

Meanwhile Beatz’s soon to be ex-wife wants us to know that it’s not true that her marriage was already over when Alicia Keys stepped in and stole her man. Singer Mashonda has penned one of the best “wife to the other woman” rebuttals that I’ve ever read. She says clearly that Alicia broke up her marriage, which was going well as far as she was concerned, but that she has accepted it and had moved on. I’m so impressed by how well written and convincing this woman’s story is. Mashonda is responding to some tweets Alicia made in shorthand about love. It’s hard to tell what the hell Alicia is talking about, but she tweets stuff like “Having a heated debate n the studio. Question is…N love is it better to go 4 the choice that is “SMART” or the choice that has “SPARK”??…. love is knowin all abt some1, & still wantin 2 b wit thm more thn any other persn. love is trustin the enuf 2 tell thm everythin abt urself.”

After having a great evening with my son and enjoying some fun twit chat, I decided to sign off and get some work done. However, a few hours later I was advised that I should check @aliciakeys twit page. I’ve never reached out to her on twitter before. I feel our issues are a lot more serious than a website conversation. Not to mention that I’ve reached out to her many times in the beginning of this whole thing, as any wife would do. Unfortunately, I never succeeded in getting a response. The 1st time I meet AK, my husband introduced us to each other at an event. ( I have no choice but to call him my husband, until he is not anymore) In the messages that I sent to her (AK), I made it very clear that on the contrary of what she might be hearing, I am still married to my husband, living with him and just had a child. Its been two years and I still have not received a response. What I do receive, is constant displays of selfishness and disconcern to me and my son.

I was a fan of AK’s last album, we were both signed to J Records and I always checked up on her projects. I sang her songs and admired her for creating Superwoman and Karma, I would never deny her, her talent. I believed in her until I found out she was possibly sleeping with my husband. The affair was denied by both, until it was finally admitted months later.

Already I can hear some of you saying ” why are u blaming her, You cant make someone leave their wife, You cant break something thats broken”. Well, my marriage was not broken, as far as I knew we were celebrating our sons birth and getting ready to celebrate our 5 year wedding anniversary . Call it blind love, whatever. I call it being a devoted wife.. As far as me blaming her and not blaming him, thats false. Me and my husband have worked out our differences. We are in a good place as people and as parents. I accept his choices and I am comfortable enough with myself to move on. I am so very blessed in many ways.

My concern with AK is no longer the fact that she assisted in destroying a family but that she has the audacity to make these selfish comments about love and wanting to be with someone, even after knowing their situation. How is this the same Superwoman that I sang out loud with in my truck? I ask myself sometimes.

If you are reading this Alicia, let me start by saying, you know what you did. You know the role you played and you know how you contributed to the ending of my marriage. You know that I asked you to step back and let me handle my family issues. Issues that you helped to create.

Im not saying everything was perfect all the time but no relationship is perfect. We made a vow to God and I believe you should have respected that, as a woman. I know you owe me or my son nothing but I just wish you would’ve handled things more carefully. I’m not judging you, I put you and the whole situation in the hands of God, the Higher Power. Just know that as a woman, I expected so much more from you. I never had intentions on reaching out to you this way but after reading your twits tonight, and the constant disregard, you left me no choice. I feel that after 1 and a half years of you hiding this affair and acting like it doesnt exist, that now is the time to confront it, since you talk so openly about it now

This is not a publicity stunt, I dont have a record coming out. I just need to close this chapter in my life and that means confronting our issues. There is a small child involved. His dad loves him to death and he wants to spend more time with him but hes afraid because he knows we don’t have a relationship. This is my main concern. My son NEEDS his dad and I NEED to be comfortable with you. For him!

I know many will see my point and many will not be able to look into what’s real because they only want to see Alicia Keys the celebrity, not the human. This is not for the “people”, this is for you. Like I said I was left no choice but to reach out to you this way. By now, Im sure you want to find a balance in this as well.

I read your tweets tonight and I felt they were very insensitive. You have no idea how much pain I was caused because of this affair. Its baffling to me that you don’t understand what I might have gone through with this situation. I dont consider myself a victim anymore, Ive learned alot from this! I just ask you to try and be a bit more realistic and delicate to the situation, at least until my divorce is final. I felt me attending the party would have been a starting point for us, since you shook my hand after I offered it, but I suppose I was wrong.

If its so, that you and my husband are meant to be together, then God bless you both and I hope you never have to deal with what I did. I would not wish it on my worst enemy. If you two being together forever is the case, its more of a reason for us to get along, because I’m not going anywhere. Theres a child to be raised.

To answer your tweet, choose smart over spark. Sparks burn everyone, be smart! Its simple actually, just think of the shoe being on the other foot.

Stay blessed and lets work this thing out with respect and dignity.

[From Mashonda's Twitlonger, via Gossip Rocks]

I guess I’m team Mashonda on this one. Mashonda is giving Alicia way too much credit for those barely readable tweets, though. It’s like Alicia is on a fourth grade level, tweeting about love in a grammatically-challenged text-speak version of one of those cute naked people cartoons. Then Mashonda responds on a college level that Alicia is a fool and a homewrecker. This woman is so smart and well spoken. She obviously had to deal with a lot of pain and heartbreak, but she sounds like she has the sense to work through it. She’s also convinced me that Alicia Keys knew what she was doing when she started dating a married man. Even if Alicia truly believed the guy was separated, I’ll doubt she’ll be as able to convince us that she’s innocent. She’ll have to hire a copywriter and use more than 140 characters to do that.

Alicia Keys and Swizz Beatz are shown out in St. Tropez on 8/26/09. Credit: Fame Pictures. Mashonda is shown below on 9/10/09

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  1. Mairead says:

    I’ll preface by saying that I’m not a fan of Alicia Keys. Mashonda’s response certainly gave me pause for thought (except the rah-rah-sisterhood bit in the middle, but Alicia never seems adverse to that codology herself so I suppose it’s fitting here).

    I still think that while she was labouring under the impression that her marriage was solid, the husband was not. And he didn’t have the gumption to say so or bother to work at his marriage and avoid Alicia. Frankly, given this woman’s intelligence she’s deserving of far better than some fool who goes by the name Swizz (seriously?).

  2. Lenore says:

    I agree that Mashonda’s piece is (for the most part) dignified and well-written, but she assumes a lot in thinking that Alicia Keys “knew what she did”. Where’s the culpability of the husband in this? How does Mashonda know what he told Alicia? She says herself that her marriage was happy “as far as she knew”. Maybe she didn’t know everything.

    There are people in love all over this world who have heard the same routine from married people – their partner doesn’t understand them, the spark is gone, they’re not happy, they’re more like friends now than lovers, et cetera. Even a relationship that seems happy enough in a comfortable, domestic way may not be fully satisfying to both parties; just because Mashonda felt happy and secure doesn’t mean her husband was happy with that, or that he wasn’t singing a different tune to Alicia.

    All that stuff about singing Alicia’s songs creeps me out slightly, too; it comes across like a fan angry that her hero’s sold out. Maybe her emotional attachment to Alicia Keys’ music makes her feel doubly betrayed – by a husband, and by a singer she loved too.

    • Adrienne says:

      I agree with your comments. Why do women always blame the other woman in these situations? Not Alicia, nor any other woman can make a man do anything that he does not want to do. I do think that this does cast a bad shadow on Alicia’s character; but she is not the one responsible for the break up of the marriage. Switzz Beatz is totally reponsible, he was the one who cheated, he was the one who left her not Alicia. Maybe he was not happy, maybe he is a jerk who did not have the guts to say he was not happy. This could also be his pattern and he may one day do the same to Alicia (Karma). He probably was dating Alicia while his wife was thinking everything was all good in the marriage, but he is the one who made the decision to leave. This makes it sound like Alicia forced him to do it and everything was Alicia’s fault. Put the blame where it belongs on the man. Why do women always blame each other?

  3. CandyKay says:

    What a classy-looking lady she is. I’m not digging the Chanel bag, but otherwise she seems to have real grace and poise – beauty inside and out.

  4. Rachum says:

    I don’t know a thing about her but I LOVE this woman! So eloquently put and honest. She must have gone through hell having her world effectively turned upside down but has come out the other side sounding like she is a much stronger person.
    Kudos to her for not being caught up in petty ‘you stole my man’ arguments and realising that what comes first is their child.
    And you swizz beats left her for Alicia ‘how do I spell and’ Keys? Schoolboy error.

  5. RubyKaur says:

    She needs to be writing that letter to her husband! It always amazes me how the “wives” always find a way to blame the “other woman”. AK owes her nothing. Her husband does. Wake up Honey, your marriage WAS in trouble. AK did not lead him away at gun point.

    • Sandra says:

      Your right. I agree. Just today I received a mesage from my boyfriend’s wife saying ” if u need my man just tell me. My girl this is my Easter message to you. What goes around,comes around” their marriage don’t have spark anymore.

  6. CandyKay says:

    Ruby, I don’t know if it’s necessarily true that their marriage was in trouble. The man with the silly name had a chance with an international superstar, and he took it.

    Had that chance never come along, he and his wife might still be relatively happily married.

  7. e says:

    I wish she would have used slightly better grammar but other than that it was well said. And I am 100% on Mashonda’s side. Why does Alicia need to rub it in so publicly? The fact that there is a child involved makes it even worse.

  8. Giz says:

    It is said that what goes around, comes around. Congratulations to Mashonda for having such dignity and grace.

  9. Jessica says:

    Does anyone see something wrong with Alicia’s face in the header (3rd pic)?? Her face looks strange! Doesnt even look like her!! WTH??

  10. Rae says:

    I don’t find this woman as smart and eloquent as most of you seem to. “Disconcern” isn’t even a word. She lost me right there.

  11. Lenore says:

    Jessica – it might be that black drinking straw getting in the way of her face in the header pic. I thought it was her mouth for a while and she’d had some terrible surgery that turned her lips into a letterbox.

  12. Jamie says:

    Yeah, it is classy and dignified to air your dirty laundry via an open letter for anyone and everyone to read. Also, I’m sick of the other woman taking the blame. She didn’t make vows to you. Your husband did. Put the blame where it belongs. No one can steal your spouse, they make the choice to leave. Obviously, I have no love for any third party but it is truly missplaced anger to focus on the person they left you for and ignore the real problem i.e. your spouse.

    There is nothing dignified or classy about any of this.

  13. Firestarter says:

    Normally I am split on situations like these, however I have to agree with much of what this woman wrote. In it, she does say that her marriage was not solid and she does not put the blame squarely on Keyes. I think her point is, Keyes needs to get along with her for the sake of the child, be a woman and face the situation she DID help create. I don’t see his ex-wife as being mean or placing blame where it doesn’t belong.

    People do fall in and out of love. That is a fact and it most certainly happens. The one thing the “other” women in these situations need to realize, is that, if there are children involved, you have to accept what the mother wants, and if she wants you in the kids lives, you have to work out the difficulties with the parents involved. If they don’t want you in the children’s lives, then you have to accept that.

    This woman clearly wants to get along for the sake of the child and wants it to be comfortable. These is nothing wrong in being a sensible adult!

  14. Sudini says:

    I really hope Mashonda heals from this. I can’t imagine the pain she’s had to go through with this betrayal, especially after just having had a child with the man she thought loved her just as much. He and Alicia both need a gooood strong dose of heavy duty karma. What a couple of a**holes.

    And I do think Mashonda gives both her husband and Alicia too much credit, but maybe that’s part of her own healing process; a way to bring about positive change. I’m sure she’ll move on and find a REAL man to spend her days with soon enough.

  15. Sandi says:

    No one can steal someones husband. Things change, people grow and move on. Whatever she thought of their relationship her husband had a different idea. Alicia did not cheat, her husband is the cheat but she has worked that out with him. Call Jennifer Aniston and do lunch.

  16. Wif says:

    I’m with CandyKay on this one.

  17. princess pea says:

    It is very well written and fairly calm. Still, it seems like kind of an overreaction to me. Like she was reading a lot into those tweets, which to me seemed kind of like generic musing on the nature of love. Is Alicia expected to never talk about love again? Because that kind of means death to a pop career.

    It sounds like a messy situation, and I don’t know enough facts to take a side. I will say, however, that it’s not really sensible to criticize Alicia’s spelling on twitter… as much as I hate textspeak, that’s pretty much what twitter demands. You can’t compare a 1,000 essay (5,000+ characters!) to three tweets.

  18. Green is Good says:

    Her anger should be aimed at her husband. He lied and cheated without regard for his wife and child.

  19. Trillion says:

    I think the open letter format lacks dignity in a big way, regardless of what she is addressing. In addition to being padded with silly religious and sisterhood stuff, it has a passive-aggressive feel to it. Does it suck to have an affair with a married man? Sure. But I don’t really admire the way this woman has brought it into the public fray like this.

  20. Firestarter, actually (legally) it doesn’t matter if the mom wants the new woman in her kids’ lives or not. The father has rights as well.

    EDIT: If the father has joint legal custody.

  21. Praise St. Angie! says:

    Candy Kay, you hit on a point that I’ve often thought in situations like this, where a man or woman is “stolen” out of a marriage.

    “The man with the silly name had a chance with an international superstar, and he took it.

    Had that chance never come along, he and his wife might still be relatively happily married.”

    that’s just it…”had that chance never come along”…

    I often wonder how many of these marriages would have actually broken up if that chance didn’t come along. people love to say “well, if he/she left, the marriage wasn’t happy to begin with”. not always true. If there were no one’s arms to jump into, I think people would be much more likely to try to work on whatever problems they are having. It’s just easier to up and leave.

    I’ve unfortunately been in that situation where I “wasn’t happy” and had the chance to pick up with someone else, and I asked myself, “would you break up with X if Y weren’t waiting in the wings?” and the answer was ALWAYS no…I’m much more interested in trying to FIX whatever may be broken than to run off and start something with someone else. relationships that start that way almost NEVER last.

  22. Millie Rios says:

    Why is it that the other woman gets the blame? Your husband couldn’t keep his vows or his pecker in his pants.. He’s the one to blame. He was married AK wasn’t..

  23. Firestarter says:

    Actually Dread, there are situations where girlfriends and new wives are blocked from being in step childrens lives. Sometimes the ex can site reasons for thinking the child should not be in the care or company of teh other woman. A father has a right to being in his childs life, a person outside of a parent doesn’t.

  24. yadira says:

    I thought she mentioned in the letter that her and her husband have dealt with this and worked out their issues but Alicia was the only one still pending?

    She sounds very articulate

  25. jm says:

    My take on it is that she DOES blame her husband, as well. Her point is that she has worked it out with him face-to-face, while Alicia won’t address the situation which is making it hard for the child involved. In other words, Alicia won’t make nice with the wife, which is putting the husband in a bind, which in turn makes things strained with his son.

    Obviously nothing is ever black and white. But when kids are involved, everyone needs to step up and be a grownup.

    Something tells me that Alicia Keys, like most stars, is not conditioned to behave like a grownup.

  26. JM says:

    I take it that the wife DID blame her husband, gave him hell about it and they came to some sort of peace about it. She now wants some peace with Alicia Keys for the sake of her son, but Alicia is not helping out. As a result, it’s causing strain that affects the little boy.

    Obviously love is messy, but when children are involved, everyone has to step up and be a grownup. Something tells me that Alicia Keys, like most superstars, doesn’t quite know how to be a grownup about it.

  27. MJ says:

    That dude is not attractive. . .he must have some great personality to have 2 such beautiful women fighting over him . . .

  28. Ally says:

    CandyKay nails it: The man with the silly name had a chance with an international superstar, and he took it.

    Some of these new movie/music guys are as anxious to sleep their way to better lives and careers as any starlet. Yay gender equality!

    I hope Keys realizes that she’s hooked herself the new K-Fed. And look how well that worked out. Keys must be so proud.

    I wonder if it’s that these young female stars are so lazy and insecure that they like the idea of a married man who’s ‘broken in’, so to speak, already domesticated and proven he can handle a (somewhat) long-term relationshp and kids, giving up his player ways (unless Mariah calls or something).

    But this certainly proves that all of Keys’ overwrought, Oprah-like, chest-pounding, proud-woman-with-dignity schtick was just marketing hooey. Not only for the situation she participated in, but for refusing to deal with the aftermath like an adult.

  29. Iggles says:

    Wow, I’m on team Mashonda too!

    That was classy and well written. No expletive, so crassness, she just straight up shut Alicia down!

    I don’t like what AK has done in her personal life. Going after a married man is tacky. I hope karma doesn’t hit her but then again Alicia wrote on the subject:

    What comes around / goes around
    What goes up / must come down

  30. hatsumomo says:

    Im going to side with the wronged wife on this for a superficial level. She is way good looking than AK. She has womanly curves and a warm mother look. And still classy.
    Meanwhile, on the other hand, AK is just so damn skinny! She has lost weight, a lot of it. But i guess you have to to be relevant.
    and I agree with MJ on the point he is ugly. Why does these two women want him? Is there no single tall drinks of water left? Faithful ones with spines? That should be the EX-wifes best revenge if she wants to go that low- get a really good looking man to make her happy.

  31. Iggles says:

    Green is Good:
    “Her anger should be aimed at her husband. He lied and cheated without regard for his wife and child.”

    I think she makes it clear that she’s hold Swizz responsible for his actions. She’s angry about Alicia publicly rubbing salt in wounds. She also states though the tweets prompted her to speak out, it’s NOT the first time Alicia publicly was insensitive about the situation.

    Suffice to say, if it was Swizz doing this she’d call him out too.

  32. Trillion says:

    I’ve always heard AK was gay, so this will shut that rumor down.

  33. fizXgirl314 says:

    wow, and Alicia Keys comes off as so sophisticated and articulate… but she’s actually just a moron… who’d have thunk it. goes to show you, nothing is as it seems with these retarded celebrities :/

  34. princess pea says:

    I do wonder how she “reached out”. If she is serious about finding some level of reconciliation here and, as other commenters have suggested, has already worked things out with her ex (whom she insists on referring to as her husband… very classy) then HE should be the one she goes to about this. She could call him up and say “Hey Beatz, I really want for us all to get along. Can you please arrange a meeting, or a conversation, between Alicia and myself? I know she might be concerned about my anger towards her, but I just want to talk and find some common ground.” Or whatever.

  35. Seany D says:

    “Then Mashonda responds on a college level…”

    No.

  36. fizXgirl314 says:

    oh yeah and what kind of name is swizz beats? I think I’ve heard one of this guy’s songs… it’s called “it’s me bitches” and sounds MUCH better with his singing taken out haha…

    oh yeah, the Swiss are sooo known for their rapping skills *eyeroll*

    princess pea, I know it’s the classy thing to keep things private, but… you can’t fault people for wanting to get public sympathy…

  37. Iggles says:

    Princess Pea, maybe she did that. Who knows? Once thing for sure is that this guy is a liar and a cheater. I could see him not wanting to get involved even though it’s the right thing to do.

    I see it on talk shows all the time. The new gf and the ex are yelling at each other while the man sits quietly in the middle doing nothing to stop the chaos!

    It’s because they are cowards! You ARE a coward if you conduct a months long affair instead of being upfront when you realize that you wanted to be with someone else!

  38. elia says:

    Swizz Beatz is a prolific producer in the Hip-Hop world…if you check the liner notes to many albums, including AK’s, he is generally listed and thanked.

    Mashonda is also a singer remember the song “Get No Better?” as well as “Back in the Club”

    …so they all work in the music industry and that’s how they know each other.

  39. fizXgirl314 says:

    My personal take on why women tend to blame other women is that the wronged party believes that the other woman MUST know how it feels, much better than the man doing the cheating does… and so, having the understanding what it feels like to be the wronged party, if the other woman chooses to go ahead with the affair, then she is basically being cold and heartless…

    Let’s face it, there’s some truth to this… Men tend to try to get away with as much as they can, so women have to take initiative to put a stop to this kind of behavior… all this “I am not in loooove with you waaaaaa I don’t feel the same way i’m not happy” yadda yadda, sounds childish to me… Don’t grown ups realize that the same intensity of feelings won’t last throughout the years and that they have to bank on forming a partnership and making committments to family rather than the elusive feelings of “love” that they experienced when they first met…

    I mean seriously, if people continue acting this childish, why would anyone remain married past a few years? The “I don’t feel the same way” excuse is not giong to go away… There is no way human beings can sustain the same intensity of feelings over the years, throughout deeper levels of familiarity, day to day hardships and the emergence (is that a word?) of children… people need to grow the eff up and start honoring their committments, at least to some degree…

    yeesh!

  40. Laura says:

    If anyone is really interested in knowing what is going on with this story, check out this site:

    http://theybf.com/index.php/2009/09/28/theres-more-to-this-mashondaalicia-keysswizz-beatz-twitter-beef/

    They have been covering this particular split for like, ever and Swizz definitely did a lot of things to upset Mashonda. He even took a page out of Eminem’s book and rapped on a song about how Mashonda should just get over it and the incident where Alicia threw him a surprise party at the Guggeinheim (sp?) and Mashonda didn’t even know about it until the night of.

    I know the history of this whole triangle thing. Mashonda found out about their affair from looking at credit card receipts :-/

  41. deevah says:

    Why are people taking this woman Mashonda (ghetto name by the way) at face value? How do we know for sure that her and Alicia don’t communicate? How do we know that she is not trying to sabatoge Alicia’s career? Why tweet this when Keys has an album due out soon? How is Alicia affecting the life of a 2 year old (at most) by not apologizing to Mashonda? Mashonda may be calm now, but we have no idea what she’s done to Keys. So many questions.

  42. deevah says:

    …and by the way, he’s not her husband anymore, he’s her EX husband. Very misleading that Mashonda.

  43. Laura says:

    @deevah

    Click my link. They are still LEGALLY married.

  44. Laura says:

    Also @deevah

    Mashonda is a name that many West Africans have. It is not “ghetto” in any way. I’m sure other names like Shaki, Yetunde, Toyosi, Rukayat, Ebob and Mamayo may sound “ghetto” but the are in fact common there.

  45. RubyKaur says:

    CandyKay – If it wasn’t AK it probably would of been some other random. The man has no loyalty or respect. He will probably cheat on AK too. Temptation will always be around us, but does that mean we have to stray?

  46. Sandi says:

    She wants to meet with AK, for what. If it’s about the child, that can be handled through the father. If he and AK get married that’s a different story. There is no need for these two women to communicate. If a guy cheats with you, he will cheat on you.

  47. Jessica says:

    Thank you Lenore!! I had to look very closely to see the straw!! I thought the same thing you did!!! LOL

  48. lilith says:

    Some of you don’t seem to realize the reason this look so bad for AK. It’s not only that she slept with a married man..but the type of woman that she has represented herself as since the beginning of her career. A classy woman all about sisterhood and respect for woman. This behavior makes her a hypocrite. I doesn’t matter if there were problems in the marriage..that is not a license to screw a married man. Have some decency to wait until the ink dries on the divorce papers. The men in this generation have lack of moral responsibility mostly because WE as women allow it.

  49. wow says:

    I think I’m starting to buy more and more into the logic that people are only as “faithful” as their options. As long as we have those who don’t take their vows seriously and refuse to be mature enough to be honest about it and as long as we have people who are willing to be the other woman or other man, then marriage means diddly-squat these days.

    George Clooney may seriously be on to something in his stance. Who would have thought.

  50. seahorse says:

    in my world, i wanna know someone’s creds,before i’d cross that holy Line, like a married man in the studio. i guess this takes an extra kind of Spell for Miss Alicia to throw down. ha! so far it’s working. why not let the Babymamma have a showdown with the little wench to see if she can break that Spell. all is fair in love and war!

  51. Ana says:

    I have to agree with what she wrote…somewhat. It was a good letter, but what was the point? If she has moved on and happy for them then why call them out? To show everyone how much better of a person she is??
    For all she knows, that guy was playing them both. He could’ve been working it out with her all the while telling Alicia that it was over.
    This is why you don’t date a guy until the divorce is final!

  52. HashBrowns says:

    I firmly believe that a marriage can be broken up by someone else. The reason being that if that someone else weren’t there, feeding the (typically, the man) person compliments and poison about the spouse, they would likely stay and try to figure out their problems or at least make an attempt to save their marriage.

    People are much less inclined, I believe, to leave when they have no one to go to.

    And enough with the “the other woman didn’t take the vows” nonsense. When you see a man wearing a wedding ring that should be a signal to you that he is OFF LIMITS. We wear rings to signfy marriage for a number of reasons but that is a major one. It’s a signal to everyone around them that that particular person has taken a vow to not enter into a new relationship with someone else. If you don’t respect those boundaries, you are just as disgusting as the person who took the vows and broke them.

    You cannot absolve yourself of the responsibility of being that final straw in breaking up a marriage. If you see a wedding ring, or if you hear “marriage” or if you hear “separated but not legally divorced” keep your nose out of it. Male or female, until the ink is dry on the divorce papers it’s best to just stay out of it.

  53. la chica says:

    so Alicia can’t use twitter like everybody else. she’s supposed to stop and think of this woman’s feelings before she twits? puh-lease! that is downright stupid. seems to me that wifey was just looking for an opportunity to make this rather long statement attacking the woman and not holding the man responsible despite her inclusion of statements to the contrary. alicia staying away will not make him love you sister. wanna take the high road? sue him for everything he’s got and let go gracefully.

  54. Praise St. Angie! says:

    “people are only as “faithful” as their options”

    to wow: that was perfectly succinctly stated.

    seems like that’s true, more and more.

  55. Heavenbound says:

    I truly believe that all the callous and heartless women, who have defended the actions of these two lowlifes are capable of doing the same. That is the reason of your irrational and stupid defense. Or fantasizing about what really has happened in this matter. (So, now some bloggers seem to know better what really happened, then the author of the letter)

    Mashonda, seems to be sincere with this letter. And why is this deemed as a “classless act”.

    What is classless, is Alicia Keys, on stepping out with a married man. If I am not mistaken, Alicia comes from a single parent home. Does she not remember what she and her mother went thru as a child in a single parent home? Why would she inflict the same pain to another child.

    So I think that if this is the only medium she can find to expose what has occurred, then she can do it. She made her statement in a respectful way, to get her point across.
    Alicia and that cheat caused more pain with there selfish act, that what this letter ever could.

  56. Ana says:

    la chica- “wanna take the high road? sue him for everything he’s got”

    I don’t think that would qualify as the “high road.”

    :)

  57. la chica says:

    to Ana: it’s higher than going ballistic over a twitter comment.

    my point is: let the lawyers handle it. stop making these long stupid pointless statements to the press.

  58. crab says:

    Alicia Keyes looks like Jack Skellington in the Nightmare Before Christmas movie!! Weird looking profile!!

  59. mswin says:

    Does anyone see something wrong with Alicia’s face in the header (3rd pic)?? Her face looks strange! Doesnt even look like her!! WTH??
    —————————————-

    @jessica…i thought there was something wrong with her face also but if you look closely you will see that there is black straw coming out of the glass on the table and the angle of the picture makes her face look odd because of the straw

  60. mr cyuzuzo says:

    hey? with luv
    everything is gonna be allighty.
    and none alse can win ur love except….

  61. LaMorena says:

    Ok Ive been the “other woman” however (not to justify it by any means) it was with a guy who has NO children nor where they married. Also, the gf found out about us & seemed to accept the situation as long he “went home to her”,I am now disgusted by the whole thing & over it. I am w/mashonda on this 1becos they had a public marriage,newborn child & the wife isnt trying to fight but rather be civil! Thats rare!

  62. Daisy says:

    I think that the husband does need to be reprimanded, but let’s be clear. No matter how strong a marriage, when a woman sets her sights on your man, she will go to any length to get him. I think Mashonda was speaking to that. Alicia Keys went after husband, shortly after the birth of his son, and continued even after the wife apparently asked her to leave him alone. I find it completely disgusting.

  63. lennie says:

    I don’t find anything that DIGNIFIED or CLASSY about going out to the rags and wash your dirty linen in public. Love happens, cheatings happen, reconciliations happen, split or divorce happen. That’s life. We were NOT under their beds to be able to exactly know WHO did WHAT and WHEN. But personally I really don’t look high on people like Mashonda.

  64. Callie says:

    If Alicia Keys didn’t know he was married, then you couldn’t blame her for anything, but she did ultimately know. If she gave any care to his family, she would have stepped out of the picture and told him to work on his issues with his family, and if he decides he wants to be with Alicia, he can be once he is fully divorced. Who’s to say that, if she didn’t step out of the picture, that he might not have reconciled with his family, where he belonged?

    The reason they call it homewrecker is because the other woman doesn’t allow the man to work on the problems in his marriage. She only creates more. If she hadn’t come into the picture, the marriage may not have been pushed to breaking point.

  65. redred2 says:

    LeAnne Rimes, I mean Alicia Keyes , knew he was MARRIED because she used to be all up in he & his wife’s FACE. DOn’t forget he’s a music producer. Has been for years. I think when the wife mentioned singing AK’s songs she prob. was talking about being in the studio with them. AK worked with this man & knew his wife. When it came out they were screwing behind his wife’s back, they both denied it. AK is what she is and that’s a legally married man’s whore. He is also the crap he is & will make an ass out of AK too. At least I hope he does.

  66. Karmascomin says:

    I never post on this stuff but I have to say AK has a rude awakening ahead of her.

    1. She just squashed her whole; I’m a righteous woman image.
    2. Why couldn’t she wait for the divorce to be final? If he loves her, where is he going?
    3. Women really should respect one another and leave married men alone, Period.
    4. He’s definitely at fault, but Please, how many men would turn down AK?
    5. Finally, she’s not beyond karma. She can’t touch Halley Berry and look how many men cheated on her.
    6. What a way to start a relationship.

  67. Blusnow says:

    I personally have lost so much respect for Alicia Keys as an artist and most importantly, as a person. She has this “good girl” image but in reality, she’s the complete opposite. So many girls look up to her, and her openly or even privately dating a married man is the last thing girls that look up to her need to see! There’s already too much adultery and failing relationships happening in the “Black Community” and it’s this type of promiscuous behavior that contributes to the epidemic, not to mention AIDS and other STDs that are dramatically affecting us as a result of this type of reckless behavior. Swizz Beats is no better, but the bottom line is, if there weren’t any women making themselves available to married men, then they wouldn’t be able to cheat on their wives and even their girlfriends because they wouldn’t have anyone to cheat on them with. Everyone is talking about how Alicia can do so much better, but maybe she can’t because obviously she isn’t any better herself. She needs to revisit her little song Karma because what goes around does come back around, and like someone said earlier God and the rest of us are watching! Shame on both of them!!!

    Dating another woman’s man is one of the first and most obvious signs of “low self-esteem,” so as pretty as she is, Alicia obviously suffers from this epidemic like so many other women who degrade themselves by selling themselves short and settling for men who are already taken!

  68. Hispaniola1804 says:

    The KEYWORDS here are “Personal Choice” and “Free Will.” We should ALL be held accountable for our actions. I worked with this married man for two years. We were great friends as well as co-workers. We shared many interests. He was married and his marriage was on the ‘rocks.’ I will have to admit, I had a crush on him. I used to fantasize about him, but always brushed it off, because I knew it was wrong. One night he kissed me. It felt nice, and then suddenly I was overwhelmed with guilt. I practically wanted to vomit! He wanted to pursue something, but I opted not to and terminated the friendship. I didn’t regret a thing! Why? Because I am selfless! I am more sympathetic to the needs of others than giving in to my selfish desires. I made the personal choice to respect his marriage, as well as his wife, something Alicia Keys did not do. So please stop defending her. Choosing to carry an affair with a married man is a PERSONAL CHOICE! Let a man be a WHORE, but let a Sista be a LADY!

  69. AphroditeBull says:

    Due to the negligence of ‘highly verbal and informative ‘ husbands, many mistresses feel omnipotent. They feel their existence supercedes the “Title” of the wives. I understand this show is fiction, but if you watch the ‘Sopranos,’ Tony Soprano insists that his mistresses respect his wife. He does not discuss the state of the marriage. But he lets them know he is married! I made a reference to this show to support my premise. Husbands only leave their wives only when the mistresses feel empowered! Enpowerment stemmed from constant rantings about an ‘Unhappy marriage,’ being whined and dined in public, and being introduced to friends and family members. These women no longer feel objectfied! In the case of Switz Beats, Mashonda, and Alicia Keys, it’s acceptable to say men in these modern times have become completely gullible, and mistresses have become a lot smarter. Unfortunately for Mashonda, her family was caught in the crossfire!

  70. earthwoman says:

    Is this woman sure that Alicia was referring to her, and she shouldn’t have splashed out their dirrrrty laundry on the web esp on twitter of all places..come on, she says she had a real marriage but obviously not real enuf seeing she splashed it all ova the web..

  71. frank says:

    It looks like the picture of AK and Swizz Cheez was taken at a very nice restaurant. And it looks like AK is drinking wine from a straw.

  72. Ginger says:

    I wish people would make sure they know all the facts before they comment on an issue. Whether or not the letter sounds like it was written by a classy person has no bearing on the fact that she posted it on twitter. Alicia was posting a topic question based on a discussion they were having in the studio, the same that other people do on facebook, as well as twitter. She in no way has to stop or change her comments to not offend someone else that is not her responsibility. This was not sent to a private email or as a text message. Their is nothing tasteful or classy about the way it was posted. People should also read up on the state laws about divorce before they make comments. In New York State a couple must be legally separated for 12 months(1 year) before they can proceed with a legal divorce, and that’s if the divorce is amicable and all parties are in agreement. The fact that they are going to court for divorce proceedings proves that they were separated for quite some time as Swizz has stated on numerous occasions. Every woman is going to be bitter when they find out their future ex husband has moved on and they have been replaced by Alicia Keys. If Alicia did in fact start this relationship with him before he left his wife, she only has God to answer to nobody else. The same also goes for Swizz. Hopefully Mashonda can rebound and put all of her energy into her son and really try to keep the intimate details of this triangle private. It always amazes me when a celebrity leaks personal information when usually they want everything so private. In life everyone has choices whether the choices made by this triangle is wrong or right it is not on us to decide, we are all human and one day we could be in one of their positions and what would we do?????

  73. shana says:

    That was pretty intense to read…WOW!

  74. katie says:

    why would you want to start a relationship with a man who wasnt separated from his wife (according to the wife) yet? if he is going to do it to her, he most likely will do it to you. regardless of who is to blame, he should’ve been upfront with the wife.

  75. Rainey says:

    My father was a constantly cheating on my mom the whole time they were married. I hated my father for years and I didn’t blame the other women. I blamed him. So when I listen to everyone on here blaming AK it puzzles me. There is always two sides to story.
    We don’t know if she knew he was married or not.
    HELLO people men lie.
    I had an ex try that with me. So you need to know the whole story before you way in on the story. I still like AK,however I would causion her to tread softly with him. A man that will cheat on his wife HE will cheat on you. Sooner or later.
    The child of a habitual cheater

  76. Alonda Love says:

    I don’t agree with those who say AK is part blame for the breakup because Swizz would’ve stayed with his family had she not been involved or had given him up early once she found out he was still with his wife. If Swizz hadn’t chosen AK, it would’ve been some other woman. Let’s say AK didn’t know he was still with his wife when they decided to date, got involved with him,then found out he was still with his wife and left him cold. Better yet, let’s just say she decided after meetin him to never date him at all. Maybe Swizz would’ve gone back to his wife for a while, but obviously he wasn’t very satisfied at home if he left at all anyway. Eventually there would’ve been some other women…maybe at another time…but if he gets that entranced with a woman and feels strongly enough about her to leave his wife and son then you must admit he has the potential to do it whether he is with AK or some one else. Most women can probably relate to this from personal experience. The man leaves you to for someone else, then weeks, months, or years later, breaks up with the ‘new’ girl and finds another girlfriend. Sorry girls (and guys,) it’s the nature of the beast. As much as I love AK’s music and the humanitarian work she does, I believe that if she had anything to do with this couple’s break up or intentionally prevented reconciliation, then she will reap what she sows just like every other person who has done a morally unjust act. AK is a lovely woman, with all of the feelings and desires of every other woman. And if she met this man under false pretenses (he deceived her), then does she take responsibility in the divorce, who’s to say? I will say this, she can’t force him to do something that he doesn’t WANT to do. He must take accountability for his own actions and contribution to this situation a great deal more than AK as it is he that is married to Mashonda. None of us will ever really know what really happened–all we can have is an opinion–which is usually (unfortunately) based on our personal like or dislike of the individual. As fond of AK as I am, I still think dating a man while they’re still married is morally wrong. This is my PERSONAL belief because of my religion (Christian), not because I think she is some conniving, mean-spirited homewrecker. Personally, I would stay away from a man who’s deceived his wife (if that’s really what happened) and left his family to be with me. I think people fall in love all of the time, and some times it just happens and just because AK is a star doesn’t mean she’s precluded from falling in love. On the other hand, kharma is a trip! Often times we find that goes around comes around. AK can and should be happy with what she has with him and not ashamed of it if she really feels she got him fairly and ethically. And I’ll be the first to wish her the best. And you know, if he is the kind of man who would deceive both of these women, then I know his relationship with AK will never last and he’ll either leave her for someone else or she’ll leave him for his philandering. Unfortunately, none of us can judge any of them because we’ll never, ever really know the real truth. We can only speculate based on what they say and what we THINK makes sense. I don’t know if AK or his wife will ever really know the real truth either–whatever it is– but I have a suspicious feeling that this ‘Swizz’ knows without a doubt! And maybe he’s a decent guy who left his wife, met AK and happened to fall in love before his divorce was final? It might be fun to gossip to some of you, but I know how I would feel if a whole lot of people found out something very personal about me and posted it for the whole world to see when they don’t even know what really happened. It would be extremely hurtful. I really feel sorry for all of them. Everyone wants and deserves to happiness. Isn’t it ironic that often times trying to get that happiness through an intimate relationship usually requires making someone else unhappy?

  77. Alonda Love says:

    Some say that AK is part blame for the breakup because Swizz would’ve stayed with his family had she not been involved, or had she given him up early on once she discovered he was still with his wife. If Swizz hadn’t chosen AK, it would’ve been some other woman. Let’s say AK didn’t know he was still with his wife when they decided to date, got involved with him,then found out he was still with his wife and left him cold. Better yet, let’s just say she decided after meeting him that she would not date him at all. Maybe Swizz would’ve gone back to his wife for a while, but obviously he wasn’t very satisfied at home if he left her at all anyway–whether he was still living there or not. Eventually there would’ve been some other woman…maybe at a later time…but he has demonstrated that he’s capable of leaving his wife already because he did it. Whether he left his wife before or after meeting and dating AK doesn’t really matter because if he WAS still married, he obviously had wandering eyes. AK was just in the wrong place at the wrong time, if you asked me. If Swizz feels strongly enough about another woman to leave his wife and son then you must admit he has the potential to do it whether it is with AK, some other star, or some other non-celebrity. Most women can probably relate to this from personal experience. The man leaves you to for someone else, then weeks, months, or years later, breaks up with the ‘new’ girl and finds another girlfriend. Sorry girls (and guys,) it’s the nature of the beast. As much as I love AK’s music and the humanitarian work she does, I believe that if she had anything to do with this couple’s break up or intentionally prevented reconciliation, then she will reap what she sows just like every other person who has done a morally unjust act (only my opinion based on my own personal beliefs and value system). However, maybe she doesn’t believe in Kharma and whose to say my values and beliefs are any more valid than hers or anyone else? Despite what AK may have done or is still doing, she is a lovely woman, with all of the feelings and desires of every other woman. And if she met this man under false pretenses (he deceived her), then does she take responsibility in the divorce, who’s can really say? We don’t know what the truth is. I will say this, she can’t force him to do something that he doesn’t WANT to do. He must take accountability for his own actions and contribution to this situation a great deal more than AK, as it is Swizz that is married to Mashonda–not AK. And isn’t it just possible that Mashonda’s actions (that post meant for AK) may not be as innocent and benign as she would have us believe. What was her motive in advertising (oh, excuse me) responding to AKs tweet in such a public domain?… to make AK look immature and selfish, her husband look guilty, and her look completely innocent and dumbfounded by this whole situation? Believe you me, if I know people, especially wives who are losing a husband with money and fame like Swizz, she’s not going out without a fight….especially if this is such a surprise and everything was going fine as she says it was. Why would she be willing to give up that quickly? Can it be possible that this was an attempt at making herself look like the martyr, the self-sacrificing wife? If she was really concerned about keeping the peace, I don’t think she would try so hard at making herself look that good and making AK look that bad (by trying to act like the better person in front of the millions who read Twitter). I could’ve thought of some better options than that one. She also doesn’t seem to be letting go as easily as she claims by writing the things she did to AK in public for all to read (and pass judgment). I think the classy thing would’ve been to save it for a face to face meeting–if she really felt she needed to clear the air. I’m just saying it’s pretty suspicious. None of us will ever really know what really happened–all we can have is an opinion–which is usually (unfortunately) based on our personal like or dislike of the individual. I am biased and I admit it. But I’m not an illogical person either. And as fond of AK as I am, I still think dating a man while they’re still married (whether separated or not) is a morally bad decision. Don’t yell at me!!!! This is only my PERSONAL belief because of my religion (Christian), not because I think she is some conniving, mean-spirited homewrecker. Personally, I would stay away from a man who’s deceived his wife (if that’s really what happened) and left his family to try and get with me. However, I do think people fall in love all of the time and some times it just happens. Just because AK is a star doesn’t mean she’s precluded from falling in love. On the other hand, kharma may quickly become her enemy if she has contributed to any indiscretions! Often times we find that what goes around will eventually come around. AK can and should be happy with what she has with him and not ashamed of it if she really feels she’s done the honorable thing in all of this, despite what anyone else says. And I’ll be the first to wish her the best! But you know, if he is the kind of man who would deceive both of these women, then I know his relationship with AK will never last and he’ll either leave her for someone else and she’ll suffer as Moshanda is obviously doing but saying she isn’t, or she’ll leave him for his own philandering with other women, or she’ll move on because another person takes her from him. Unfortunately, none of us can judge any of them because we’ll never, ever really know the real truth. We can only speculate based on what they say publicly and what we THINK makes sense. Remember though, just because they say it, doesn’t mean it’s the whole truth either. I don’t know if AK or his wife will ever really know the real truth either–whatever it is– but I have a suspicious feeling that this ‘Swizz’ knows without a doubt! And maybe he’s a decent guy who left his wife, metAK and happened to fall in love before his divorce was final? That might really be true. It might be fun to gossip to some of you, but I know how I would feel if a whole lot of people found out something very personal about me and posted it for the whole world to see when they don’t even know what really happened. It would be extremely hurtful. I really feel sorry for all of them. Everyone wants and deserves to happiness. Isn’t it ironic that often times trying to get that happiness through an intimate relationship usually requires making someone else unhappy?

  78. jvll says:

    the letter was a nice idea, just not for a public forum. she should hav forgo posting it online an instead post it to alicia. alicia has never to my knowledge commented on the relationship/affair so why should she. if it is to be believed swizz lied in the begining to both alicia and his wife. alicia did the right thing by ending it. the only thing i find wrong is that sh etook him back, she must no as a woman no entertainer that there was going to be trouble. i wish the four of them the best but stop airing dirty laundry.

  79. Daniel Dalon says:

    Alicia – please stay off! The guy’s not worth it. Of course, I know what drew Alicia to SB, cos he’s married he had seemed so unattainable. For alicia who had never failed in anything, even in school, who had never failed to get any guy that she wanted, SB who had already given his heart to someone else had seemed like a challenge. Now that she has demonstrated her power over men(as if she ever needed do it), I think its time she forgot the whole affair and wait for the next challenge, or better still to get another guy wiith less controversy. I don’t hav to say it to Alicia, but i think I shld – there are millions of guys out there that will sacrifice an arm to be with you. Why then would you bother with a married guy who when he is divorced you would not eventually marry? I mean some people find it hip to commit adultery at least once in their lifetimes – you have now done it, so please move on.

  80. Star says:

    Alicia,Alicia, what a silly girl you are. You will be paying Alimony and Child Support for as long as you are with the man with the stupid name.

    Mashonda for goodness sake do not remarry, I repeat do not remarry. Ms. Keys is going to make your life very comfortable. Your son will want for nothing and niether will you.

    Hey man with the stupid name you are not stupid at all are you. When you look at Alicia Keys you see $ $ $ $ signs. I would divorce my wife and get with Ms. Keys immediately and then you can spread the wealth with Mashonda and your Son.

    Money goes a long way towards making you feel better. Mashonda I advise plenty of shopping therapy. Curtesey of Alicia Keys check book. Mashonda aren’t you feeling better already. After all your son needs to see and be with his father, therefore, you are not going anywhere. Sister live your life and make Swizz and Alicia pay thru the nose. They look like sister and brother???

    Alicia you have much in common with these women and I use the term loosely – Britney Spears, Julia Roberts, Tory Spelling, Jane Seymour, Elizabeth Taylor,Sandra Bullock, Jennifer Lopez, Jada Pinkett. The list just goes on and on. Very tiresome.

  81. It’s a damn shame how people are on ak’s side just because of who she is. You have to put yourself in Mashonda’s shoes, if you were married and your husband cheated, that would be a painful heartbreak and a heartbreak is the is the closest thing to suicide. Alicia walks around like she’s so down to eath, a woman of God, and wants to help the community, when she sholud have helped the community by saving a marriage. I mean, Alicia could have had anyone she wanted, why did she have to have someone elses man. To me, it seems like what Alicia did intended to break up a marriage. Damn didn’t she just have a boyfriend in 08′ and hooked up with swiss in 08′ too. Huum someone isn’t all that they make their selves out to be. I was a huge fan of Alicia’s until now. I’m her past songs, she talks about being a strong woman, but within most recent album it seems as though she is trying to justify what she did. You are Garbage Alicia. Another thing, most of the the postings on this website asks who Mashonda is , Who cares who she is, she’s a woman just like any other woman, and she has feelings too. That shit Alicia did was messed up, but Mashonda seems like she is a strong woman so she’ll make it through this bull, and I don’t think that the girl was blaming everything on Alicia, I think it’s just the simple fact, Alicia knew that he was married. A man is going to do what you allow him to do, that’s just in their nature, so being a woman Alicia should have known that is she threw it at him, he would take it, That’s why that letter was directed toward Alicia, and who cares if she’s a superstar, it’s just money, you can’t die with it and it only buys materials. What goes aroud damn sure comes around so both Alicia and Swiss will get whats coming to them. Look at shat stunt that Angelena Jolie pulled by taking Jennifer’s man, Brad left jen and married Jolie and now he’s sleeping around on Jolie with Jennifer agian. All I’m saying is that it’s only a matter of time b4 he does it to Alicia and leaves her heat broken which she will have deserved it. Stay strong Mashonda and keep doing what your doing, God will bless you with something better in due time.

  82. CICI says:

    She doesnt need to touch on her and her husband because he wasnt a COWARD and he and her talked it out..

    Alicia keys was a home wrecking little whore then when she got caught she tried to avoid facing the whole thing because she didnt want to accept the fact that what she did was WRONG!!!!!!!!!!!

    I have a baby and husband.. I could imagine the pain she felt, and it would piss me off ROYALLY if the bitch ignored me!!

    Why is it Angelina Jolie is a homewrecker for stealing Brad Pitt but Alicia Keys pulls this stunt and shes an innocent angel?
    Whore. thats all I have to say

  83. Vicki says:

    No one can make a man leave his wife..if he really loves her. And Mashonda makes it seem like she is politely admonishing Alicia for this crime of love. But she just wants to Alicia’s rep by coming off as the innocent wife who is just hurt..not mad. Meanwhile, Alicia is the one that is really being stupid in this situation. She must really love him. She already knows what she is getting! I feel sorry for both of them. Women always seem to get the bad end of the stick. And the man will end up with another young star. I promise you Alicia will be the one who gets hurt next time and he will move on his merry way. Why are we so dumb about love?

  84. CB Rawks says:

    Mashonda is classy and beautiful. That guy is obviously a moron.

  85. Sunny says:

    The song that comes to mind is “Now ladies, you all know I speak from experience right?
    I used to look at him and wonder why.
    Why her?
    You know what I’m saying?
    But ladies, I learn not to worry about them living a happily ever after
    Because that shit just build on a lie
    So it’s sure to fall
    That’s why I stand tall (baby, baby, baby)
    I just looked at him and said this right here” by Monica

  86. maggie pearl says:

    Why does it concern you,cause you to wish ill and become profane about something that clearly does not involve you?Right or wrong….how does it affect you? Worry abt your mortage,your job security,cures for cancer,aids diabetes buying food,not being prey to violence,and if u have time left pray for your neighbor.Dont worry abt what goes on in the beds of others.

  87. a says:

    whoa. i have much respect for this woman. i went through something similar and it took me a few years to think (and articulate) that type of balance and understanding.

    wishing mashonda the best!

  88. TT says:

    Please do not call that letter college level. That’s an embarrassment to colleges everywhere.

  89. Sophie says:

    Go Mashonda! She is a classy lady and I wish her the best. What a disappointment Alicia Keys has turned out to be. You want to look up to these talented artists but then you hear about their low morals and selfish behaviour (i.e. Tiger Woods and Jesse James) it makes you realize they do not deserve our respect. Alicia is no better than Tiger or Jesse. Because she’s a woman it makes it worse because she’s hurting another woman!!! She should know better.

  90. JBen says:

    @deevah – what should Mashonda call him? Because I’m in the same situatioon – in the midst of a divorce – and I’ve continued to call him my husband because as Mashonda said, I’ve no choice but to call him that until he isn’t. Calling him my ex would imply we are already divorced, and we are not. THAT seems deceitful to me. Have you ever been divorced yourself? Because you sound like one of those oh-so-helpful “experts at divorce” that keep giving me unsolicited advice about how I should and should not feel/behave/react/proceed/etc. You must be very clever to have that all worked out, when it takes other divorced couples years to define their changed relationship.

  91. Sandii says:

    I agree with Mashonda for the most part. Something I noticed was how she kept saying “as a woman” Alicia should know better, understand, etc. It’s almost as if she’s saying that out of the two of them (AK and Swizz), she’s the one that should have stopped the situation. Why do we act like men should little to no responsibility when it comes to sex? I know a good many of us have uttered the prase “men will be men” but on the grand scope of things, that is nothing but an excuse for bad, immature, hurtful choices made my men. AK had NO responsibility to Mashonda and her family. SWIZZ did. Women always want to go after the “homewrecker” like they’re the reason everything fell apart. And the public always wants to go after the woman too like the man is a child who didn’t know or understand what he was doing. I find that disturbing.

    All of that said, I’m really disappointed in Alicia Keys. I’m a long time fan of hers, but I find it really hard to support this union (not that she needs my support of course). As a woman, I don’t even see why she’d want to be with a man who left his wife and child. It speaks volumes about his character. I guess when things like this happen, it’s really easy to look past the celebrity and see very clearly that these are real human beings. She’s just a woman. I can only hope that in the future, 6 years into HER marriage, the next woman will make the choice to choose “smart” over “spark”.

    To the post above mine: I am not an expert by any means, but it’s pretty clear to me that it’s time to start referring to your guy as an ex. If you two were only separated, still trying to figure things out, then that’d be one thing, but you’re not. You’re in the MIDST OF A DIVORCE. Meaning the only thing that’s holding things up is paperwork. The decision has already been made. What’s the confusing part? If you’re not ready to let go of the husband label, then you’re probably not ready to let go of the “husband” himself and that’s another issue altogether. I’m sure there’s LOTS of emotional things you’re feeling, but for all intents and purposes, that’s your ex. I REALLY don’t understand the “deceiving” part. Who exactly do you think you’d be deceiving?? If anything, you’re being deceptive by continuing to refer to him as your husband when you guys are going through a divorce. Given the status of your relationship, ex is way more accurate. If I break up with my longtime bf, I don’t have a right to continue to call him my bf simply because I can’t deal. That’s just crazy. And please don’t trivialize the bf and husband comparison because honestly, in this situation, it’s no different.

  92. Gabby says:

    I feel for her, but there’s something off about this letter and I can’t put my finger on it. Kinda like a “kill you with kindness” vibe to it. She couldn’t try to call Alicia Keys up with these concerns? Instead she had to write this all out in a public letter? She couldn’t mail this to her instead? I think this is sympathy-bait. Well-disguised and edited, but it’s forum shopping all the same.

    Personally, I think the point is that we don’t know what her marriage to Swizz was like. Did he stay with her because of the kid? When was the last time they were happy? What are they both like to each other when no one’s around? Is she really as calm and reasonable as she sounds in this letter?

    Whatever. I just hope the kid grows up happy and well-adjusted.

  93. K-Love says:

    The times we are living in. People just want to do what they want too do. And they are going to do what they want to do, and deal with the consequences later. i.e. Jesse James, Tiger Wood and others. It’s sad, but the selfishness of people is more important than family. AK doesn’t owe the wife anything. He was the one married. Yea, AK is dumb for getting involved with a married man. That’s just plain stupid. You know he is a liar, he has to lie and AK is falling for it. What makes her think this is a good idea. My mother use to say “It’s not so many smart men, it’s so many dumb ass women”. True That.

  94. Jill bee says:

    So sad ! Is it okay to act on ever emotion you feel ? Shame on you Alicia and shame on Swiss.. but he was a dog for a looooooooong time !

  95. Helena says:

    Cool letter, but this lady needs to proofread. College level, really?

    I don’t believe Alicia and I think this lady is stupid for saying that her marriage was fine, only to turn around and claim that she was handling the issues that definitely existed. Alicia may have come in a swooped him up but only cause his arms were outstretched.

  96. Jacy says:

    I would never have thought that Alicia was that type of woman. She should feel like a fraud everytime she sings “Superwoman”. Just remember Alicia, he did it with you and he will do it to you.

  97. pinky says:

    OMG I can’t believe the people on here who don’t hold Keys liable for the break up of a marriage and only feel the husband is to blame???? It takes two to tangle!! It is Beatz who made the vows however; we live in such an immoral society that, people tend to feel “I’ll do whatever I want” irregardless of who it hurts and I some how do not believe that God intended it to be this way. What goes around come around and that is for sure. Whatever we put out into the universe comes back to us, so let us have respect and regard for one another in the very least.

  98. ykw says:

    Alicia could have done much better. I believe she may have fallen a little on the ‘respect’ chart. I know SB has culpability in this, but AK, knew the man was married with a child and she shouldn’t have given him any encouragement to leave his kids.

    AK ain’t what she seems to me…kind of sneaky.
    It won’t last past 5 yrs…if that.

    Also, SB ain’t even all that.

  99. Aida says:

    This kind of behavior is completely unacceptable and I cannot believe that people have chosen to reason with Keys actions. The rule is that if someone is married by law regardless of what is going on between Swiss beats and Mashonda, there are to be no outside parties. A marriage is solely between two people. Now, I can see if the divorce was finalized, and there was a mutual agreement that both Swiss and Mashonda would go there on separate ways, and there was some time given between the two of them to start dating again. I deeply feel sorry for Mashonda because Alicia Keys is a musical juganot, and it is hard to fully express your feelings toward what has happened especially when the media tends to manipulate and exaggerate situations for the public’s enjoyment.
    Adultery is a disease which can cause a lot of pain, and destruction. As moral people we have to learn how to respect the institution of marriage. Also, when can we as woman do the right thing? Swiss beats was married to Mashonda apparently for four years and has a child! To top it off they were not divorced. On the other hand Alicia Key’s is flaunting her business on twitter (HOW GHETTO). And on Swiss beats behalf, he is just as wrong, and I hope that Mashonda’s divorce reparations will battle that. In closing, this is a cycle which will ultimately repeat itself. This is Alicia’s keys personal decision, and I am sure that people will love and support her till the end. But if you are a “real woman” as you sing in your songs, you should practice what you preach.

  100. arianna says:

    It is what it is, We don’t really know enough to judge this situation. All we know is that, Alicia is now pregnant and engaged to Swiss, and he just had a kid and just got divorced. Which was not long enough ago, I don’t know whether the pregnancy was planned or they are marrying because of it, but I really feel sorry for all involved. If they cheated they are both at fault, but now there is a new life to think about, I just hope Alicia is not marrying a man who cheated with her while he was still married. That is a very bad choice. As for Mashonda and her kid. They will be fine.

  101. GoGoBear says:

    @ Sandii – If you think a “long time boyfriend” is in any way shape or form as the same as a marriage from which a child was created, then you have some life learning ahead of you.

    Not only do people who share a child have MUCH to work through in regards to their relationship and how they will deal with each other, their marriage still has LEGAL STANDING. And this is NOT a trivial detail. For example, this woman cannot feel comfortable buying property while her HUSBAND still legally holds that title. She cannot legally bar him from the home they used to share without extreme legal intervention, as it is still his house as well…meaning that while AK can feel comfortable the wife will never come across her threshold, the wife can not take the same for granted about her HUSBAND.

    Those are just a couple of the MANY differences between a “long time ex boyfriend” and a HUSBAND with whom you are going through a divorce.

    Suffice to say – you are right, you are not an expert, and you should try to not pontificate on things you know nothing about. Until you have gone through a divorce with child involved, don’t be so arrogant as to think you are in a suitable position to judge another woman going through it.

  102. ASimpleGirl24 says:

    Well in this article we only heard one side to the story! There is always more than one side to the story. We here just heard one side to the story. I think before anyone starts to judge AK or Mashonda. Then everyone should say I believe this person or another person. So everyone that reads this just think about there is 2 sides to every story.

  103. ML says:

    I am a huge fan of AK’s music, so to hear about her “extra-curricular” activities in homewrecking (sorry, guys, it’s obvious that she MUST have known he was still married; impossible that she didn’t know – really? Come on AK!!!)… is such a disappointment. Bottom line, AK’s actions were selfish, inconsiderate, and did I mention selfish?… One thing AK has wrong… You CAN control who you love because to love is a CHOICE. If you know someone is married and has a family, don’t be a selfish slut and break that up! Keep your legs closed, girl. To break up a gf/bf couple is one thing, but breaking up a MARRIED couple and family – a clearly sacred union – is on a whole other level. At least wait until the ink gets on the man’s divorce papers to make any slight moves. This shows AK’s true colours; and resemblance of yet another celebrity who foolishly believes the rules just don’t apply to her… Shame on you AK… Shame on you. This relationship was doomed before it even started – Karma will be a bitch one day…

  104. musa says:

    this superwomam, excuse superwhore , obviously delegated her thinking to her clitorisis rather than her brains. dramatic as it sounds, from someone bred under the hardships of single mother household; and now she is an architect of one herself. Maybe women shoulsstop complaining, they are culpable for the very classic hardships they are forever complianing about

  105. LegalPrincess says:

    Wow!! I had no idea that Alicia and Swizz were up to no good! Alicia is pretty, but so was his wife!! He must be tired of working and wants some Alicia Keys Money! What goes around comes back around! I wouldve thought Alicia Keys couldve done better.

  106. volleyballhp says:

    I must say I was shocked when i learned of who AK’s baby’s father is and the history behind it. I have been on many blogs and most disapprove of AK now. And I agree to a certain extent why. Most women idenitify with Mashonda, the woman, the wife, the mother. She may have not always done the right things but she obviously did not want to lose her marriage or she she would not try to get answers as to why this happened. Now when some one blatantly ignores your request to talk and you have to get it out you may do some unconventional things like post letter on the internet.

    I read other people’s post using the ‘falling in and out of love’ situation like Mashonda and Swizz were merely in a casual relationship and things happen. NO-THEY WERE MARRIED. Expectations are much higher or why go into marriage? We expect a certain type of commitment and believe it or not one of the reasons we do it and wear rings is to let OTHERS know we are in a committed relationship. Why do we as a society not respect the sanctity of Marriage. Now AK and SB are about to embark on this journey….why????Did she want this or did he want this knowing that if one of them are not happy they are free to go their separate ways? If this is the case, why get married? Do they need a piece a paper to tell them if it doesnt work out, then they can get out! Marriage is more than that and we all know this esp. the ones who take their vows seriously. We all owe it to each other as human beings to respect what others have whether you see it as a disasterous or not. Many women have negative takes on this because they see it as a threat as to what could happen to them and what does happen to some. NO ONE NO ONE wants somebody else to take what they have away. So if you were in Mashonda’s shoes, could you wake up the next day doing cartwheels?????

  107. keeping it Real says:

    This is a real shame. Mashonda – U go- Ur a strong woman- keep ur head up, because u deserve so much better. AK has changed, I noticed it about a year ago and didnt like it. It seems shes trying to be someone shes not. AK never use to dance and grime like she does now( it just dont look right). I’m not judging AK- but dont think I could never look at her the same and respect her the same again. Mashonda a real respectable woman. AK no super woman (shameful).

  108. jai says:

    WHEN IT DOESNT WORK IT DOESNT WORK, you cant blame anyone, except the Swizz for not using protection if it was just a fuck, eventhough it was the wife. Alicia deserves to be happy and unfortuntly she and Swizz met after he already had kids, but thiers a reason why it happend at this time in thier lifes, they are ment to be together and destiny was going to bring them together soober or later, Alicia looks so beautiful pregnant and Swizz looks so happy. Mashonda Shaniqua, Shaynayne looking ass girl, you just gots to let it go, just becuase you have kids with him does not mean he is damned to be with you,he finally found love let him be. All the money you asked for isn’t going to make you happier. God created Swizz for Alicia thats that, you were just to keep him company until AK came along. God bless each one of you ….LIFE is LIFE things arent always perfect but its what its suppose to be!..

  109. Justtthink says:

    Cheating on your spouse is wrong without a doubt. We need to face the fact here people we will never know actually what truly went on in this situation. But i will say that i have read many articles and what I understand is in april of 2008 a statement was released that they was filing for divorce and had been apart for seven (7) months prior to that. That means what Sept. 2007 they were apart I means the baby was just born in dec. 2006. Now she claims they were celebrating the birth of there son and about to celebrate the 5 yr anniversary, I read they got married in 2004 do the math. Credit card statement issue, AK tour was in Feb. of 2008, the text she read on his phone happened when they were apart cause she claims that she replied back that they r still married contrary to what she is hearing, now he was suppose to be still staying in the house with her and the baby. My guess would be at this point they had there issues and it had nothing to do with Alicia, in his interview he says she went through his phone, she said in an interview that after the credit card statement she didn’t think it was as serious as it was. She was then asked how did she know it was as she replied things went left a lot left. I believe he moved out. I don’t think there is much point to this letter of hers except her reading to much into a twitter comment. It was not disrespectful to her and who ever called her and told her to go onto AK page is no true friend just wanting to keep something going. Stop using the baby as a crutch he is only 3 now as long as his father handles his business like a man and take care of his child it will be just fine. I guess now there will be some kind of conversation between the two woman cuz they both have kids with this man. His first son’s mother is staying behind the scenes huh. Oh by the way her son has been to alicia house I seen the the pictures of him there.

  110. Yvette says:

    Seriously who the hell is mashonda..I know good music..and have never heard of her out there like that! Too me she sounds like a bitter woman who wants to blame alicia keyes for a devastating divorice. In my eyes she new her relationship wasn’t going well you don’t just wake up and realise your husband doesn’t want to be with you anymore. Love is really blind..and too me he’s a man they do what they do best..he’s the one who needs to be questioned. And I’m all for alicia keyes she’s beautiful and talented and an all around good woman. But if he can leave his soon to be ex wife..and there family while he was still married if that so is the case then he will do the same to alcia keyes. And too be honest..you people seem like haters..when none of you actually know the full on story..the only people that know about the damn story is mashonda alicia and swittz.

  111. Sandii says:

    @GoGoBear

    I, in no way, am comparing a long time beau to a husband in the ways you mentioned. If you read the post I responded to and then RE-READ mine (since you obviously took what you wanted to take from it and forgot about the rest) you’ll see that my comparison came from the lady not knowing what to call her husband who she is going thru a divorce with. It doesn’t matter what still has to be decided, what still has to be divided up, or what will help you to save face in whatever social circle you’re a part of.

    I said I’m not an expert and since you chose to throw that back in my face, I’ll just say point blank that I don’t HAVE to be an expert to tell you, her, or anyone else who has trouble figuring it out that HE IS NO LONGER HER HUSBAND. HE STOPPED BEING THAT THE SECOND THOSE DIVORCE PROCEEDINGS WERE UNDERWAY. Denial won’t help to keep the relationship together. The bf comparison came in THAT respect. Husband, bf, or cutty buddy…once the relationship ends, it’s not ok to keep calling him by his previous title. Ex-husband, soon-to-be-ex-husband are both ok. The response of “my husband” when asked who he is, is NOT ok. Simple as that. I understand on PAPER it’ll take a little longer to break completely free…but somehow, I doubt the legal aspect is what she was referring to.

  112. John W. says:

    Mashonda
    Why are you blessing them from God?
    God don’t like mess.
    You and your husband were meant to be – as you said.
    Require all the things you need to move on with your life – you are young.
    With 1 out 2 marriages ending in divorce, be bold and use God, but not to bless adultry.

  113. My opinion says:

    I hope and pray Alicia does not marry this dude because it’s about money. No one is paying attention to the fact during their marriage they accumulated alot of tax debt. I think this was a blackmail sceme in the beginning…something don’t smell right. It’s possible they targeted Alicia. Mashonda, some chic that lives in London and Keys all sing. However Alicia is the one that has money. Swizz does not love Alicia, he just wants her money and I hope she gets a pre-nup if she does marry him. He only stays as long as the situation benefits him. Once Alicia is no longer a benefit to him the relationship will be over.

  114. kels says:

    if theres fire dont add petrol to it…i love alicia but im a woman and what happend to mashonda could happen to me too…ak wasnt expecting this frm u honestlt maybe sumone like lady gaga or pink but u gosh

  115. FormerFan says:

    Just Read the Lyrics to Wreckless, it’s evident that she knew what she was doing and is so proud. I dont understand why women think its something to be proud of when a man leaves his woman, what goes around, comes around. He’s going broke and needs that Mula!

  116. Elaine says:

    This twitter business is the downfall of all human communication! It has allowed us to air dirty laundry that should otherwise not be, speak on things we don’t know, and all while allowing the entire natuaral world to know about it. But, its so popular because the world loves a hot chunk of some elses business!!

  117. K C says:

    I have Mashonda in my prayers. I know first hand how painful this must be and it takes a lot for the wife to be dignified in her moving on. I feel for her even more since she cannot totally move on because a child is involved. I went thru a similar situation, however my husband and I were able to work thru our problems. A man “usually” does not think before getting involved in a situation like this and sometimes it takes some pushing to actually get him to sit back and think. AK has money and is attractive and usually when we desire something we can’t have and sneak around to get it, it’s exciing. However, that excitement wears off and then comes “KARMA” (a person will reap what they sow) even if we as fans don’t see it. This relationship was built off dishonesty. How will they ever trust each other…NOT possible. It’s true one party is not to blame, however I sometimes find that women who make these harsh comments that she need to blame her husband and etc…are usually the other woman who assist in breaking up relationships. You will never understand until it happens to you and you want the same understanding.

  118. Zoe says:

    I too have heard that Alicia was gay. Just because someone marries doesn’t mean they do not swing on both sides of the fence. All the blame cannot be put on her, because as someone else mentioned what has he said to her. Keep it zipped up, until you have closure with your spouse. Hollywood appears to me just one big circle, everyone picks from the same pool, what happened to commitment, and working at a relationship, and not falling for the next artist or actor you work with

  119. Trini KeKe says:

    Give me a break people (& Mashonda). We will never really know what Swizz has told her or Alicia Keys. Frankly, who’s to say he wouldn’t have met someone else if Alicia wasn’t around? He may have ended up still being with someone else while being married to Mashonda.
    People who are praising Mashonda for this letter need to stop. Maybe Alicia didn’t openly acknowledge or respond to her publicly for the sake of the same child that Mashonda is talking about. She was embarrassed and for the sake of her own pride, she put this letter on a public forum for ALL to see & I don’t think that was the best way. Keep your business PRIVATE. I’m not saying cheating is right, it’s not. But the common denominator here is the man.

  120. truthiness says:

    I can’t believe people are saying this is well written or even college level writing. Wow. I learned in 2nd grade that “a lot” are two words, not one.

    And that’s just naming one mistake.

    It might be thoughtful, but it, too, is filled with grammatical errors.

  121. Angel Vazquez says:

    Alicia, I feel sorry for you because God is just and is quick to punish the adulterers, I am scared for your judgement to come…. Seek God and stop wrecking homes, I will no longer be a fan of your. You think he is going to be faithful to you, and if he did to his wife what makes you think for one second that you wont be the next…

  122. Truth says:

    Swizz Beatz is one of Hip-Hop pioneers and one of the biggest paid music producers. This whole thing has nothing to do with LOVE… This is about MONEY, POWER, AND SEX. I just feel for the children that have to be subjected to this type of up bringing. I use to look up to Alice Keyes but SHAM ON YOU. I feel she could of waited or been more discreet, to the divorce was finalized, but you want and put your self out their for your ego. I’m not on no one side, I just feel that people in the limelight need to except responsible for their actions. The whole world is watching that’s the price of fame. Rap producer Swizz Beatz is reportedly in the red and owes New York state over $2.2 million in taxes. I wonder how long Swizz and Keyes will last????

  123. Miss rae says:

    Wow. Im amazed, even celebrities have real lives. I guess its even more painful under public scrutiny. But as wife/ex-wife has said, its left in Gods hands. Coz sometimes the best fight that can be done is signing those papers. Its painful to waste life at war in a marriage that just dont work, with a man that keeps looking for more, past u, to another man. God bless u with a better chance at happiness wife/ex-wife. And pray that swizz treats keys better than he treated his wife. Like i said, there is nothing worse than being stuck with a man with no conscience. If its love, God bless u. But if its power, money as mentioned above, then hope keys has a comfortable seat in learning and finding out how evil people can be. Karma. Swizz, u r not invinsible. No one is. This is just the way of the world. What men do to their wives. Wow, im suprised. If not anything else, this situation could have gone way different. Anyway, God be with u all, n pray u see the lessons clearer than the pain. Whatever dont kill u make u stronger. . Be strong, n dont let this break u, let this be the steam to power u. N show exactly why u r the better perso in all this. Find happiness in yourself n make your opportunity to a new life count. [hug*]

  124. Autumn says:

    I didn’t know Mashonda existed until this scandal and I hadn’t thought much about it until I recently read that Alicia had a son with Swizz. But I must say I am impressed with how Mashonda was able to express her grievances and pain in a civil manner. I can’t imagine that kind of pain and not because I’ve never been cheated on…but, I somehow feel it’s more devastating when you “know” the other woman. It is a pain most would not wish on their worst enemies but I know men better than I know english and I know that if he did it to Mashonda he will do it to Alicia. So brace yourself Alicia. I am a fan of alot of things that Alicia Keys is involved in and has put her support behind, but this is NOT one of them.

  125. Faith says:

    I didnt even know this back story to Alicia Keys and Swizz Beats, but now that I do I cant say I’m a fan of her anymore. Mashonda seems like an amazing woman, I admire her for everything shes said. She didnt place any blame on one person. I agree 100% with her, it’s not ALL Alicia’s fault but she DEFINITELY should have understood the situation and made better decisions being a woman. We all know men are easily distracted, but I’m not taking any blame from Swizz Beats at all. I must say he left a beautiful, mature woman for someone inconsiderate and comparable to a teen. I thought Alicia was so much better than this, it’s really a shame. My heart goes out to Mashonda and her baby, she deserves a real man, something Swizz Beats has proven not to be.

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  130. Denise says:

    not living with his wife. However at some point she did learn the truth and that is when she should have broken it off with him. By not doing that she put herself in a bad light…