I remember hearing that Alicia Keys, 28, was dating a guy named Swizz Beatz and that he was married. Beatz , 31,filed for divorce last summer, and claimed at the time that his divorce had nothing to do with his relationship with Keys. The National Enquirer reported about a year ago, in October, 2008, that Alicia had broken up with Beatz, a music producer, after she learned that he was still with his wife when they first started dating. Apparently Beatz swore up and down to Alicia that he was separated when they hooked up but he was still living with his wife and infant son at the time. If Keys did break up with Beatz that didn’t last long, because he told The NY Daily News in May that he was dating Keys and that things were going well. The two have since been photographed out together several times.
Meanwhile Beatz’s soon to be ex-wife wants us to know that it’s not true that her marriage was already over when Alicia Keys stepped in and stole her man. Singer Mashonda has penned one of the best “wife to the other woman” rebuttals that I’ve ever read. She says clearly that Alicia broke up her marriage, which was going well as far as she was concerned, but that she has accepted it and had moved on. I’m so impressed by how well written and convincing this woman’s story is. Mashonda is responding to some tweets Alicia made in shorthand about love. It’s hard to tell what the hell Alicia is talking about, but she tweets stuff like “Having a heated debate n the studio. Question is…N love is it better to go 4 the choice that is “SMART” or the choice that has “SPARK”??…. love is knowin all abt some1, & still wantin 2 b wit thm more thn any other persn. love is trustin the enuf 2 tell thm everythin abt urself.”
After having a great evening with my son and enjoying some fun twit chat, I decided to sign off and get some work done. However, a few hours later I was advised that I should check @aliciakeys twit page. I’ve never reached out to her on twitter before. I feel our issues are a lot more serious than a website conversation. Not to mention that I’ve reached out to her many times in the beginning of this whole thing, as any wife would do. Unfortunately, I never succeeded in getting a response. The 1st time I meet AK, my husband introduced us to each other at an event. ( I have no choice but to call him my husband, until he is not anymore) In the messages that I sent to her (AK), I made it very clear that on the contrary of what she might be hearing, I am still married to my husband, living with him and just had a child. Its been two years and I still have not received a response. What I do receive, is constant displays of selfishness and disconcern to me and my son.
I was a fan of AK’s last album, we were both signed to J Records and I always checked up on her projects. I sang her songs and admired her for creating Superwoman and Karma, I would never deny her, her talent. I believed in her until I found out she was possibly sleeping with my husband. The affair was denied by both, until it was finally admitted months later.
Already I can hear some of you saying ” why are u blaming her, You cant make someone leave their wife, You cant break something thats broken”. Well, my marriage was not broken, as far as I knew we were celebrating our sons birth and getting ready to celebrate our 5 year wedding anniversary . Call it blind love, whatever. I call it being a devoted wife.. As far as me blaming her and not blaming him, thats false. Me and my husband have worked out our differences. We are in a good place as people and as parents. I accept his choices and I am comfortable enough with myself to move on. I am so very blessed in many ways.
My concern with AK is no longer the fact that she assisted in destroying a family but that she has the audacity to make these selfish comments about love and wanting to be with someone, even after knowing their situation. How is this the same Superwoman that I sang out loud with in my truck? I ask myself sometimes.
If you are reading this Alicia, let me start by saying, you know what you did. You know the role you played and you know how you contributed to the ending of my marriage. You know that I asked you to step back and let me handle my family issues. Issues that you helped to create.
Im not saying everything was perfect all the time but no relationship is perfect. We made a vow to God and I believe you should have respected that, as a woman. I know you owe me or my son nothing but I just wish you would’ve handled things more carefully. I’m not judging you, I put you and the whole situation in the hands of God, the Higher Power. Just know that as a woman, I expected so much more from you. I never had intentions on reaching out to you this way but after reading your twits tonight, and the constant disregard, you left me no choice. I feel that after 1 and a half years of you hiding this affair and acting like it doesnt exist, that now is the time to confront it, since you talk so openly about it now
This is not a publicity stunt, I dont have a record coming out. I just need to close this chapter in my life and that means confronting our issues. There is a small child involved. His dad loves him to death and he wants to spend more time with him but hes afraid because he knows we don’t have a relationship. This is my main concern. My son NEEDS his dad and I NEED to be comfortable with you. For him!
I know many will see my point and many will not be able to look into what’s real because they only want to see Alicia Keys the celebrity, not the human. This is not for the “people”, this is for you. Like I said I was left no choice but to reach out to you this way. By now, Im sure you want to find a balance in this as well.
I read your tweets tonight and I felt they were very insensitive. You have no idea how much pain I was caused because of this affair. Its baffling to me that you don’t understand what I might have gone through with this situation. I dont consider myself a victim anymore, Ive learned alot from this! I just ask you to try and be a bit more realistic and delicate to the situation, at least until my divorce is final. I felt me attending the party would have been a starting point for us, since you shook my hand after I offered it, but I suppose I was wrong.
If its so, that you and my husband are meant to be together, then God bless you both and I hope you never have to deal with what I did. I would not wish it on my worst enemy. If you two being together forever is the case, its more of a reason for us to get along, because I’m not going anywhere. Theres a child to be raised.
To answer your tweet, choose smart over spark. Sparks burn everyone, be smart! Its simple actually, just think of the shoe being on the other foot.
Stay blessed and lets work this thing out with respect and dignity.
I guess I’m team Mashonda on this one. Mashonda is giving Alicia way too much credit for those barely readable tweets, though. It’s like Alicia is on a fourth grade level, tweeting about love in a grammatically-challenged text-speak version of one of those cute naked people cartoons. Then Mashonda responds on a college level that Alicia is a fool and a homewrecker. This woman is so smart and well spoken. She obviously had to deal with a lot of pain and heartbreak, but she sounds like she has the sense to work through it. She’s also convinced me that Alicia Keys knew what she was doing when she started dating a married man. Even if Alicia truly believed the guy was separated, I’ll doubt she’ll be as able to convince us that she’s innocent. She’ll have to hire a copywriter and use more than 140 characters to do that.
Alicia Keys and Swizz Beatz are shown out in St. Tropez on 8/26/09. Credit: Fame Pictures. Mashonda is shown below on 9/10/09