Ben Affleck on his Gigli past: “In 2003 Obama was a state senator… it’s ancient history”

I have a confession to make. I’m sure I told you already, but I used to fangirl all over Ben Affleck. This was in 1997 after Good Will Hunting came out. Now I’m more into Matt Damon, but back then Ben was my boy. He’s just so tall, dark and handsome and he seemed smart and aware of his image – that is until he started making a bunch of crappy movies and stepping out with J.Lo and that giant pink diamond he gave her. There were a good few years when he was my Fassbender, and I’ll always have a special place for him in my fangirl archives.

So that’s why I’m so thrilled to see Ben looking like a million bucks, having a spectacular career comeback, and looking truly happy with his wife and three kids. Ben has found his groove as a director and he is hot again in so many ways. Affleck covers the upcoming issue of Details to promote his film Argo, based on the true story of the 1979 Iran hostage crisis. The interview and the photos make me swoon again. He’s thoughtful and well spoken, and it was such a pleasure for me to read. My Ben crush is back! Here are some excerpts:

DETAILS: —but by 2003, you were the star of two potential franchises, Daredevil and The Sum of All Fears, that didn’t go forward. We probably knew more about your romantic life than you would have preferred. And then Gigli. I don’t think a lot of people would have said, “By 2012, this guy will have directed three very good movies.”

Ben Affleck: In our culture, we get very much into shorthanding people. And I got shorthanded as That Guy: Jennifer Lopez, movies bombed, therefore he must be a sort of thoughtless dilettante, solipsistic consumer blahblahblah. It’s hard to shake those sort of narratives. If you were looking at that one-liner on me in 2003, which was definitely the annus horribilis [laughs] of my life—it’s funny how that rhymes with Sacha Baron Cohen’s pronunciation of “ah-noose”—

DETAILS: Well, you were kind of in that place.

Ben Affleck: Exactly! I made a bunch of movies that didn’t work. I was ending up in the tabloids. I don’t know what the lesson is, except that you just have to find your compass.

I liked Sum of All Fears. Daredevil I didn’t at all. Some movies should have worked and didn’t. At a certain point, it’s just up to the movie gods. Anyway, this image becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. And I just said, “I don’t want to do it anymore. This is horrible. I don’t want to be in this spotlight, this glare, in this way. It’s tawdry, it’s ugly, it’s oppressive, and it’s inane. So I’m going to try to get away.”

And most of the way I did that was by not acting. I said, “I’m going to steer myself toward directing. I’m going to do something that takes me toward a place where the work that I do is reflective of what I think is interesting dramatically.”

People bring up 2003, and I get it. Jennifer Lopez, and Gigli, and all this shit just kind of blew up. But, you know, in 2003, Barack Obama was a state senator in Illinois! Okay?

DETAILS: A lot can happen.

Ben Affleck: A lot can happen. And a lot has for me. Maybe not as much as has happened for Barack Obama! But you know, it really does feel like ancient history.

DETAILS: I was fascinated that you chose to play the 1950s TV Superman, George Reeves, in Hollywoodland. Because he was, among other things, an actor frustrated at the limits of being a superhero.

Ben Affleck: You know, putting on the uncomfortable, cheesy suit—I understood that. And I understood what it was like to feel limited by perceptions and having ambitions to do things that were more interesting.

And also, I got married, and I got older. And had kids. You know, the current of the river of life moves you downstream anyway. But I definitely reject the narrative that says, you know, Bad Guy Turned It Around. My life isn’t Behind the Music. I wasn’t a criminal!

DETAILS: Since Good Will Hunting, the pairing of you and Matt Damon in people’s minds has never quite gone away. Did you ever feel, “This comparison is not helping”?

Ben Affleck: It’s interesting. At the time, I didn’t even realize that it was being used to promote a movie. I was 25, and I was naïve enough to think, “Well, Entertainment Weekly is just really interested in this!” And, you know, we really were friends and roommates, and we did write the movie together.

I started to realize that people conflated us, or particularly me, with the characters. People assumed that I was the amiable, dim-witted friend, right? [Laughs] Which wasn’t exactly what I was going for! Matt and I have had a friendship for 25 years. We don’t get wound up about that stuff. You learn to roll your eyes.

When I was doing The Town, I’d tour the actors around Boston. I was with Blake [Lively], and I saw Matt’s childhood home. And I said, “Oh yeah, that’s where Matt grew up.” And she said, “Who?” And I said, “Matt Damon.” And she said, “Oh my God! You know Jason Bourne?!” She really didn’t know. And I thought, “There it is. The first age of people who are adults who missed the whole Matt-and-Ben propaganda campaign!” Mostly, it just made me feel old.

DETAILS: You’ve got three young kids now, so I imagine you’ve had to learn to conserve your resources.

Ben Affleck: Absolutely. Anytime you think, “I’m wasting my time here,” the first thought you have is “I could go home and be with my kids.” Now, you may go home and be with your kids and very quickly start thinking, “I wonder what’s on the work front?” Because running around after three kids is very trying. Now everything has to compete with being with my family. I don’t want to be a stay-at-home dad. Work is very important to me. I like to work. So does my wife. But I need my work to mean something to me in order for me to not be home with them.

[From Details]

The thing about Blake Lively gives me pause, but Ben has told that story about her before. I think he meant that as a young person she didn’t have the same cultural references as he did and he found that surprising. (I think those two got a little too close on set, but I have no idea whether it went beyond that.) Matt Damon said something similar about a young Starbucks barista he met – that she only knew him from his most recent movie and that he realized there are so many young people like that. We’re old, I’m in Matt and Ben’s generation and I feel it every time I look at Facebook and decide not to get too involved. I liked the Internet when it was more recreational and required less of a commitment from me, you know?

As for Ben using Obama for a comparison – he quickly backtracked and realized that he’s not saying he’s achieved anything on that level. In his way, in his industry, he’s getting there. I really want to see him on top, and I want to see Argo do well. Here’s the trailer, it’s a very ambitious mix of humor and drama and it looks amazing. I’m going to get Kaiser to go see this with me so she can explain the complicated parts afterwards. I’m not even kidding.

Note by Kaiser: I’d really like to see Argo, and I think the film will probably benefit from it’s (now) surprisingly topical nature. In the wake of the assassination of Ambassador Christopher Stevens in the American consulate in Benghazi, Libya, many are referencing the American embassy attacks in Tanzania and Kenya in 1998, as well as the fall of the American embassy in Tehran in 1979 (which is the fertile ground in which Argo is set).

Ben and Jennifer Garner are shown out with their daughter, Seraphina, on 9-12-12. Adorable! Credit: FameFlynet Photos from Details credit: Mark Seliger

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  1. Cherry says:

    That story about Blake Lively makes her sound like a complete idiot. Is it possible that she knew nothing about the Affleck/Damon bromance?

    • Toot says:

      I think Blake was being full of shit and Ben fell for her “innocent” act.

      • LadyJane says:

        + 1

      • Naye in VA says:

        Got to be. As an actor there can be no way you haven’t seen Good Will Hunting…Or at least Dogma. She just sounds stupid. I’m 23 and I know *shrug

      • littlestar says:

        Naye, Dogma, yes! LOVE that movie – it’s still a friggin hysterically funny and intelligent movie. At first I thought Blake was a dolt for not knowing about their history, but now that I’ve read everyones comments, I agree. She’s a game player!

      • Liv says:

        THIS! As if! Blake knew exactly who he was talking about! Oh my god, men can be so stupid. If I’d be Jennifer Garner I’d be furious that he is even talking about her!

    • TheOriginalKitten says:

      So there’s this really interesting interview with a guy who’s been in the industry for almost 20 years and the first two comments on this post are about Blake Lively even though she was the subject of a small, irrelevant annecdote in a pretty extensive interview. That girl is f*cking GENIUS. Seriously-I don’t know how she does it.

      Then everybody wonders why she’s famous-because you guys MAKE her famous, y’all.

      • Toot says:

        No, Ben is just so boring that people are focusing on that statement. Blake is a non factor to me, but in this interview her quote stood out

      • TheOriginalKitten says:

        Mmm-hmmmm……Well, Blake and her PR people love you guys for it.

      • Cherry says:

        It’s either that or bitching about what a jerk he is to Jennifer Lopez. I really don’t see what else is ‘really interesting’ in this interview.

      • Isabella Notarfrancesco says:

        You’re crediting Blake with more intelligence than she has. To suggest that she made that comment way back when to milk publicity down the track is ridiculous.

    • Happymom says:

      Her parents are also in the industry-so she grew up with all of it. Not like she was on some farm oblivious to popular culture. I’m sure Jennifer Garner loves hearing him reference this story . . .

      • Masque says:

        I’m sure Jennifer loves laughing at how stupid and fake Blake is.

      • Madison says:

        He can’t seem to stop bringing up Blake can he, the interviewer never asked him about her. Jennifer Garner is a doormat stepford wife that’s why it works so well with them Ben can do whatever or whoever he wants because he has a ‘patient’ wife.

  2. Talie says:

    I’m pretty much the same age as Blake and I don’t believe for a damn second that she didn’t know about Good Will Hunting. Ugh, she is such a phony Rules chick. Of course, they guys are dumb enough to believe it.

    • Migdalia says:

      Thank you! I’m 24 years old and I was definitely not THAT young when Good Will Hunting came out to not know the Ben and Matt bromance. My family’s not even embedded in Hollywood…what an idiot.

      • K says:

        And let’s play devil’s advocate here, as an actress wouldn’t you at least IMDB your director and costars? Especially with the footnote of winning an Oscar? I’m sure it is afake story or an act, but I like to believe she is that dumb and self involved.

    • Liv says:

      Unbelievable. Just embarrassing for women in general.

      • zut alors! says:

        Why is it shameful to women in general that Blake Lively did not know that Ben & Matt were best buds? It’s not as though it’s a matter of national importance. Your observation sounds like misplaced hyperbole.

      • Liv says:

        Please. I am talking about her pretending to not know Matt Damon and Good Will Hunting. There is no way that she didn’t know him and I think it’s embarrassing for women in general that some women think they need to manipulate men.

    • Genevieve says:

      Thank you!

      That and $6.00 will buy you a cup of coffee, in my neck of the woods.

      I do not believe for AN INSTANT that Blake Lively couldn’t reference Ben Affleck/ Matt Damon in a nanosecond…especially after boffing Ben 🙁

      I don’t think Jennifer Garner is as much of an ostrich, as a long-term goal player. David Beckham style. She knows what hubby Ben is and how he rolls. She’s just above all of that minor-league sh*t. She’s a Master chess player herself. Blake, you may have pulled the wool over Ryan’s eyes w/ your Martha Stewart, cookie-baking persona, but you are fooling NO ONE. Jenn G’s got ur game x’s 1,000 so sit the eff DOWN. So much for Jenn G being “taupe” and all that smack 😉

      Ben realizes what he has in Jenn G…all the Blake Lively’s in the world won’t pull him off focus in his life’s game of Dad and Husband. Where he might reference Blake, like a lovelorn schoolboy does of the chick he lost his virginity to under the HS bleachers…he’s at heart a good guy, a family man and a husband and father.

      Love Ben…thanks for bringing it home, referencing JLo as old trash and reminding people that his heart really belongs to his friends, his family and not a FLY GIRl tricked out as a MY Girl….pink diamond or NOT :).

      JLo and Ben? Seriously, lmao. It is, indeed, ancient HISTORY!!

  3. Marilyn says:

    Good to see him make a comeback

    • maya says:

      He does not miss talking trash about time with Jennifer Lopez in EVERY INTERVIEW he gives. What a jerk! He was engaged to her. She never, ever said one unkind word about him after they split! Get over it already, you jerk!!

      • Marilyn says:

        Um.. Ok lol
        He is kind of a dirt bag in that retrospect bu I like him as an actor 🙂

      • Toot says:

        Yep. Ben is annoying.

      • Masque says:

        Ben hasn’t trashed Jennifer Lopez. He has trashed the tabloids and public’s fascination with Bennifer and his own complicity in creating that insane situation. But I’ve never seen an interview where he criticized Jennifer Lopez.

      • priestess says:

        Such a double standard in this world. I remember him kissing Jennifer on her huge ass (anus of his life) in that Jenny from the Block video. Now he is playing like it was never his intention… Benjamin you played a big role in that huge circus. Geesh! Be a man and own it and stop using a bunch of SAT words to say much of nothing sounds like a real prisoner (Behind the music) that read the dictionary and wants to appear intelligent. Get over yourself!!!!

    • maya says:

      Sorry Marilyn, it was meant to be a general comment, not a response to your particular post.

    • magz says:

      The man does good in a pea-coat.

  4. Fudge you, I'm going to Guam! says:

    He’s such a douche.
    I don’t even like JLO but the way he talks about her and his not-so-subtle jabs at her is disgusting.
    I never hear her talking about him and if she does it’s not mean.

    • Dani says:

      Love Ben, but I completely agree about the whole Jabbing at JLO thing. He really like, never stops with it. We get it, you made a mistake and you hate it and now you hate her but seriously let it go. You’ve both very obviously moved on.

    • Migdalia says:

      I have tried very hard to get that whole Bennifer era out of my mind but I can’t remember who broke up with whom. Perhaps it was a bad one due to JLo and if not who cares? It doesn’t seem like she’s one to treasure relationships anyway jumping from one to the next. No sympathy here.

      • mln76 says:

        They broke up because he was diddling strippers at his Bachelor Party…makes him look like a douche that he’s ragging on her.

      • Really? says:

        Totally, i can see him diddling the strippers while spouting off his latest daily word ap, as in “solipsistic,” and “conflated.” Who the F talks like that? My ex has a program on his phone that sends him a “word of the day,” maybe he has it, too.

        Nice beard though. He’s hot, but i hate it when people get all “erudite” and condescending, especially considering their topics of discussion – last i checked he was an actor, not a politician – oh but of course, that’s pretty much the same thing now…

    • Jenny says:

      Not a fan of Lopez as I think she is self absorbed. But he was not dragged into the relationship and seemed to enjoy it at the time, but I could be wrong. Why is he allowed to bash her with such relish and not have the internet explode and him be forced to apologize like others who said not so nice things about exes, the last being Seal.

      • Jayna says:

        I don’t see it as bashing Jennifer. That was the period where his career imploded. He did a bomb of a movie right after another bad movie. Gigli was a huge huge huge bomb. He was madly in love with JLO and was kind of out there with it, the whole bad video with her, the Bentley the off marriage. They were being papped everywhere and add that to his bad movies and his career seemed over. He talks about that period of time in his life, never dissing her as a person. Just that their relationship became bigger than life overriding his career, and his career became about bad movie choices anyway. He really had to step back and take himeself out of the limelight and the joke and tabloid fodder he had become.

  5. Toot says:

    Ben is alright looking to me, but his acting doesn’t really do anything for me. He’s just boring to me.

  6. KellyinSeattle says:

    I like that he’s supposedly a family man now, and settled down with his wife and kids.

  7. Anna says:

    Seriously, what is with Blake Lively. I mean, I am year older than her and I’m Eauropean (ex-Eastern Block actually) and I have known about Ben-Matt bromance for years (and I didn’t even have access to Internet at home till I was in high school nor I was particuraly interested in Hollywood gossip/showbiz).

    And she’s American girl, spending most of her life in Hollywood showbiz and she didn’t know about Matt-Ben friendhip/achievements? I’m sorry but I find it odd.

  8. Vanessa says:

    Why didn’t you include-

    “I don’t want to be a stay-at-home dad. Work is very important to me. I like to work. But I need my work to mean something to me in order for me to not be home with them,” the actor, 40, tells Details‘ October issue.

    Noting that “running after three kids is very trying,” Affleck — who is dad to Violet, 6½, Seraphina, 3½, and Samuel, 6 months — admits his time away from his family is constantly competing with his work schedule.

    “Anytime you think, ‘I’m wasting my time here,’ the first thought you have is, ‘I could go home and be with my kids,’” he says. “Now, you may go home and be with your kids and very quickly start thinking, ‘I wonder what’s on the work front?’”

    And although the doting dad makes an effort to find time for his children, when Affleck becomes wrapped up in filming — he directed and stars in his latest movie, Argo — he relies heavily on Garner to pick up the slack.

    “I am not very present in the rest of my life. My wife’s very patient. She does everything,” he shares. “If I have time, I try to spend time with the kids, even if just to be a physical presence, the bath, whatever.”

    But even in the midst of his brood’s bathtime, Affleck is the first to admit his mind is often elsewhere. “My mind’s always going, ‘How are we going to light that show tomorrow? What’s the master shot for that scene? Is there even going to be a master?’” he says.

    “Just ruminating endlessly. Because for me — I wish it was discipline or being a great artist. But it’s just anxiety.”

    • Jenny says:

      Wow. If a woman had said that, she would be crucified and if other father’s said it, well, some other fathers, so would they.

      He is working on that Oscar campaign, so his work is his life as are other women, at least in this article, apparently, not his wife. I find him and to some extent, his spouse to be rather phony, but that is me. They try mighty hard to be the perfect couple with the perfect family.

    • Tiffany27 says:

      THANK YOU!!!!!

      Maybe it’s just a bad day, but I am so sick of the double standard. A woman would have been SLAMMED everywhere if she made this comment. I said the same thing in the Chris Evans post. Men are always being “funny” or “candid” or “keeping it real”. Women are always the “ungrateful b*tch”. It’s tired.

    • Toot says:

      Yep, Jennifer has a real prize there.

      • TheOriginalKitten says:

        Sorry guys but he sounds a lot like my dad and I think my dad was a great father. Maybe he wasn’t there ALL the time, but he did his best.

    • Jayna says:

      I like his honesty. In truth, this is how many men in the thick of their careers are on the day to day things. Forget the politcally correct statements, like liar Tom Cruise makes. This is reality. Everything is not 50/50 usually. My father was an amazing father, but he was not the hands-on one, my mom was. He worked and was tired at night during workdays or stressed out with office politics. My mom was a stay at home. I have great memories of dad outside and setting things up for us or trips on weekend and teaching us to fish, swim, etc. But mom was the day to day caretaker, the nurturing one. Dad did have a lack of patience with us and a temper every once in a while, like the time he was teaching me to drive in the country and I slammed on the gas instead of the brakes. He was screaming bloody murder at me to hit the brakes and I landed up in the ditch. LOL But he was the most loving, emotional father in the world, sometimes more so than mom as far as sentimentalwise. As I got older in college, my dad would drop everything at the drop of a hat to come there and move me, get my car fixed, whatever it was.

      What they gave us was a sense of security every day of our lives, no splitting up, fights hidden from us, always worried and concerned about our wellbeing.

  9. lisa2 says:

    Not sure why not knowing Ben and Matt are friends is such a big deal. Some people don’t pay attention to the male friendships.

    SMH at why that part is getting so much play. I’m more interested in the part about being with the children. Because I could name a couple of male celebs that would be hung out to dry if they had said what Ben said. In context or out. But again it is always really interesting to see who people hold to different standards of behavior and who they don’t.

    And it’s funny that the focus is on two other women other than his wife. His ex and Blake. Not that is super WTH for me

    • Jenny says:

      Since the win was for screenwriting, I am not sure why she should know about it. Who can name the people who won that Oscar last year, let alone more than 10 years ago. Don’t see what the fuss is.

  10. Jayna says:

    Ben is a fantastic director and decent actor. He knows his strengths. Loved the interview. More interesting than the usual shallow interviews of celebs.

  11. sara says:

    I’m a few months younger than Blake but me and all my friends know about Good Will Hunting and Matt/Ben. Blake is just a f’n idiot.

    • mimi says:

      Blake is not an idiot.

      She didn’t want him to know she was so excited to work with him, knows who he is and has a crush on him to the sense that she KNOWS all about him and googled him a lot.

      She just over-did it.

      The sad part is that he bought it completely.

  12. TheOriginalKitten says:

    This interview was AWESOME. So happy to see Affleck is back and on top of his game. I hope he keeps directing films-that is definitely his strength.

  13. Madhubala says:

    I swear I’ve heard Ben say multiple times before that the whole JLo/Gigli thing is ancient history. So if it is, why does he keep talking about it? I’m no JLo fan but she is what she is and to him still making jabs about it and her by extension is, to borrow a phrase, “uncool”. Keep your mouth shut on that Ben, you played your part in that circus too.

    And who cares what Blake thinks/thought/pretended? Is that seriously what people are getting from this interview?

  14. SLM says:

    Argo looks really great. The kind of movie that could haunt you, as you think about international relations and the importance of them. did a real hack job summarizing this interview – like “Ben Affleck Hates Being with His Kids” kind of thing. Any working parent with much intelligence could see the quotes were taken of context and understand what he is saying about the value of one’s work.

    Boy, I’m glad people don’t keep bringing up who I was dating in 2003. Or even 2005. The cost of celebrity…

    • lily says:

      Oh, he is fine – he found peace in family and everyone is happy about it. He is man, man can change. No one is bringing up his past really, no one is really taking his quotes to heart. That is usually reserved only for Angelina Jolie.

  15. Jess says:

    Blake playing dumb to endear herself to a man? NOOOO!!!!

  16. Gine says:

    Something about him just rubs me the wrong way. I don’t mind his performances and I guess he’s a good director (haven’t seen anything he’s directed), but he just seems like a huge grump who’s bitter that people don’t take him as seriously as he thinks he deserves, and blames other people for it.

    • Chatcat says:

      Gine…I am with you. I can’t put my finger on a specific thing, it’s just an overall general feeling I get after reading or seeing him in interviews or seeing his body language in photo’s and red carpet events. It’s like nothing ever is going to make him content. Yeah, I know that sounds simplistic, but here is a good looking, talented man with a beautiful wife, blessed with 3 healthy kids and an overall successful career as an actor and director, and yet he seems to whine too much. Not a big fan of whiner’s, so BA gets a “C” in my grade book.

  17. Tiffany says:

    Yeah, if Daredevil was a massive hit you would not be doing a franchise….ooookay Ben. Gotcha, it tawdry and you don’t want it anymore. Yeah….Also, stop trash talking JLO for all of her faults, she does not deserve it. Remember, YOU were the one who persued a married woman and proposed while she was finalizing her divorce. Why is it that is forgotten about.

  18. Rux says:

    I like Ben’s work now and the niche he has found. However, I am so disappointed in the way he speaks about JLo. I am not a JLo fan by any means but she has always been the — and I use this word loosely — classy one in their relationship demise. Not once did she utter an ugly word/statement/jab about him to the media. He loved her and it was evident in the way he threw his career and privacy out the window when they were together. But it did get too much for him. He should just leave it at that.

  19. DeltaJuliet says:

    I had a crush on him back then and got over it pretty quickly with the whole Bennifer 1.0 thing. I’m not into his acting anymore, but Gone Baby Gone and The Town are two amazing movies, so I have to admit, I admie his movie making ability.

  20. mln76 says:

    LOL why are people all over the internets so offended that Blake didn’t know about the Ben/Matt bromance….I never saw Jurassic Park for instance it happens.

    Oh and whenever Ben mentions Jlo I have a flashback to the infamous butt squeeze in that video…HE WILL NEVER love that down.

    • TheOriginalKitten says:

      Because it’s Blake Lively. The girl gets criticised if she coughs too loudly 😉

      • Barbara says:

        Exactly. Hating on everything she says is just the standard in some websites, while others adore her. Do you know who knows less about HW gossip? People in the industry. It’s US who consume that demo, not them, so the fact that many point out that Blake should know because her family was in the business, really, a lot of actors confessed not knowing many things about fellow actors in the business because when you’re there the last thing you want is to know it all about others’ lives like people try to know about you. Go ask a lot of actors about current bromances or BFF girls. A lot of them won’t have a clue and the ones who do, probably know because they worked, is close and somehow has access to one of the parts involved. Hollywood people couldn’t care less about gossip on Hollywood, good or bad, they just want something else… A lot of actors said it.

      • TheOriginalKitten says:

        “while others adore her”

        Lainey *cough cough* 😉

        You post was great, Barbara. You made a lot of points that I think are often forgotten about around here.

  21. bella says:

    yeah…his references to JLo are tacky and cruel. why does he refer to his relationship with her as the “anus” of his life…CRUDE.
    this and his fawning for Blakey make me despise him even more…
    a gentleman wouldn’t ever degrade a woman he once planned to marry and he would never gush for some “starlet”.
    i think his wife must be missing a chip. i’d never tolerate it.

    • Toot says:

      Jennifer just wants to hold onto her image of perfect family, wife and mother, but Ben seems just so selfish to me.

    • lolo says:

      He just said it was his horrible year, the sacha baron cohen thing was just a cringey play on words.

  22. Dawn says:

    I have always really like Ben and it goes back to the Goodwill Hunting movie. I think he is aging well and getting better as an actor and director as well. Anyone who is a work-aholic feels that way about their children so none of that bothers me and I am sure most of it was taken out of context anyway.

  23. lucy2 says:

    I think after GWH he made classic new star missteps, choosing big budget/paycheck, soulless movies. Matt seemed to fare better and chose more wisely. I really give Ben credit for stepping back and rebooting his career, and he’s become a very good director.

    I do think it’s tacky to talk that way about JLO. I am no fan of hers and I can imagine she was awful and he wonders what he was thinking, but…let it go, and certainly stop bashing her publicly.

    Blake is either a clueless idiot, or pretending to be one. Don’t know which is worse.

    • TheOriginalKitten says:

      “And I got shorthanded as That Guy: Jennifer Lopez, movies bombed, therefore he must be a sort of thoughtless dilettante, solipsistic consumer blahblahblah. It’s hard to shake those sort of narratives. ”

      Where is he sh*t-talking J Lo? All I’m getting from this is his commentary about the public’s perception of *Bennifer*. It sounds like he’s upset about the way their relationship eclipsed their careers in the press. Sounds to me like he was irritated with the assumptions about him, based on his relationship with her. It’s not like he’s talking about what an awful person she is…

      I honestly don’t see that as talking badly about her, more about a certain time in his life that maybe wasn’t the best.

      • I Choose Me says:

        I don’t get it either Kitten but this is what often happens when people parse celebrity quotes esp., if they’ve got a certain perception of the celeb going in.

        He was talking about the tabloid created monster that was ‘Bennifer’ and the way it took over his life for awhile. I do believe he loved JLo like crazy but coupled with the downward trajectory of his career, it all became too much. He has a right to speak about a very turbulent time in his life and its effect on him esp., when asked about it. I really don’t see any sh*t talking here.

      • rebecca says:

        neither do I. he was just trying to be straightforward and honest.

  24. ssa says:

    I hope nobody sees this stupid movie. He cast himself as a real-life Latino man in the main role. I freaking hate white washing. Also, has J. Lo ever even talked about their relationship since they broke up? Gawd, he’s the worst.

    • Angel says:

      I don’t think Tony Mendez has a problem with Ben casting himself in the role.

      Ben said that Tony spoke with him and was on set some of the time.

      This movie got made because Ben wanted to make it. Geroge Clooney and WB had enough belief in Ben to back him up to get Argo made. WB gets to keep the budget low with Ben involved because he is a package of Director and Actor for one price.

  25. Angel says:

    Argo is getting rave reviews at the TIFF.
    Ben has become a great director with Gone Baby Gone, The Town and now Argo.
    Keep up the good work Ben.
    The (Details) article is (3 & 1/2 pages) about Argo and Directing and 4 sentences of his past that included J Lo mention.
    Ben was asked the question about his past movies and the year of 2003. Which is around about way of asking about Gigli and J LO. Ben is never going to get way from this stuff. I am one of his fans that wish he would just say (NO Comment). But I come to realize it not going to happen. When Jennifer Lopez left Marc Anthony, her mother contacted Ben. It made news. And what about J Lo having Ben Affleck look alike on stage durin one of her songs after divorce annoucment. It made the news. And what about J Lo doing a interview 3 years ago saying Ben was the love of her life. I haven’t forgot about that one. She was still married to Marc at the time. J Lo has her fans that will jump on anything that Ben says about that time in his life. I don’t get Ben is bashing J Lo. I think he is over it all. He mentions her as a part of his past. He doesn’t have much emotion about any of it any more. So when he talks about the past I think the some people are more affected by what he says then he is. Ben moved on. J Lo moved on with a marriage, dirovce and now a new boy toy. I don’t think is she thinking about Ben at all.

  26. Mira says:

    Why is it so damn surprising that Blake did not know about Good Will Hunting? A lot of people don’t know or don’t care about movies, gossip or movie trivia. It does not necessarily make her dumb.

    Ben should calm the f-ck down about JLO. No one forced him to be with JLO or make a music video with her. He sounds like an awfully bitter man. It’s good that he has found his groove in directing and he’s hell of a lot better director than he ever was as an actor. Gone Baby Gone was great, but something about the Affleck brothers rubs me the wrong way. Anyway, the rest of the interview is worth a read. It’s detailed and interesting.

  27. dani says:

    This is just a feling on my part but my female spider senses are teling me that maybe ben always sounds and talks so bitterly about jlo because he probably really did love and want to marry her but he fell under pressure to get out because of his dying career and backlash kinda like chris/rihanna situation like i cant be with her but i want too but the abuse of his career like rihannas face was always weighing against him so he backed out and im thinking the anger is coming from the fact that jlo bounced and married MA within 5 months of their breakup…idk thats what i got when i put pieces together.*shrug*

    • Jayna says:

      Lol he kisses the ground thanking God he escaped being yet another ex-husband of JLO’s. Her over-the-top royalty photo spread for her and the twins in People after their birth says it all. So not Ben.

      • mimi says:

        Because pimping the kids daily for photo ops and using them and his name for every single interview and as a claim for fame is so much his cup of tea, right?

        No doubt being one of Jen social climber Garner after she got pregnant to seal the deal is much more “classy”.

  28. TG says:

    Oh my gosh Celebitchy I know what you mean about a reference point and not wanting to get too involved in the internet. I only ever look on Facebook if a relative asks me to so that is very rare. And about feeling old just this past weekend my 14 year-old daughter pointed to a picture of Jennifer Aniston in a magazine and was telling me something about some show called “Friends” that she had recently caught in reruns on TV. She had no idea who she was or that I would know. Too funny.

  29. LucyOriginal says:

    I really want to see this movie because I like his work as a director. He is also one of the producers along with George Clooney and Grant Heslov.

  30. Pandy says:

    Apparently, we Canadians are barely mentioned in Argo … yet the Cdn Ambassador and his staff sheltered them for 79 days and provided Cdn passports to get out. Not really enjoying Ben’s jingoistic take on the story. And it annoys me enough that I can’t be bothered to see the film.

  31. hcris says:

    Seriously? She’s an actress and it’s her business to know her director’s work and Good Will Hunting won oscars FGS. She’s just so fake. It’s either he’s trying to say that she’s so fake or he’s genuinely believe her.

  32. Xena says:

    “As for Ben using Obama for a comparison – he quickly backtracked and realized that he’s not saying he’s achieved anything on that level.”

    Indeed. Obama has turned out to be a much bigger disapointment.

  33. dh says:

    I love him, BUT:
    1. he is too insulting to jlo. Simply saying it was a past relationship is enough. He was all over tv with her back then- remember that interview when they were living together and she was cooking beans?? He doesnt have to trash that time in his life- Im sure its insulting to Jlo (who you know LOVED that man and had to rebound with MA. EW)
    2) Blake? Again? He just HAD to bring her up. Lets bring up that Interview Mag article he did with her- when he basically drooled over her every word.
    3) In the article it says hes “Not present” at home? NOT present? Chasing kids is trying? he basically said he’d rather be working than home.
    Something always seems off with him and his wife. I bet she does everything. Like most mothers/wives- she probably does it all and he’s present when he wants to be. Considering JG loved him when he was down, he should stomp his feet and light a match for her in every interview. Phew.. that was good therapy.
    Oh– WHY is he in a pea coat and a sweater when his kids are in sundresses??? No one thinks thats odd?? And his hair.. that cant be real. It wasnt that thick 10 years ago..

  34. Bek says:

    I liked this interview and I really like the photos. I don’t have a problem with the Blake reference and I couldn’t see the JLo bashing, but whatever.

    I’m looking forward to seeing this movie not only because I enjoyed his last two efforts as a director, but also because it looks like a good movie.

  35. Bek says:

    I liked this interview and I really like the photos. I don’t have a problem with the Blake reference and I couldn’t see the JLo bashing, but whatever.

    I’m looking forward to seeing this movie not only because I enjoyed his last two efforts as a director, but also because it looks like a good movie.

  36. mimi says:

    This interview makes me dislike him even more.

    Why is he making any negative comments about Jennifer Lopez?
    What did she ever do to him to deserve such attitide?

    They were the Brangelina of their time and some people got jealous, but who cares?
    What should have mattered to him was his private relationship with her.
    Not fame.

    Just because he had some bad career moves around the same time, doesn’t mean he should take it on the girldfriend he had at the time.

    He sounds like a guy who blames others for his problems/ misfortunes.

    I thought she was much better than Jen who got pregnant without his consent and pressured him into marriage and fatherhood when he has so much issues with both marriage and fatherhood due to his childhood and absence of his own father.

    Ever since then all she did was use his name and his fame to pimp her “career” in interviews and photo ops.
    So, if he would have been sincere about being averse to his personal life being publicized, he would have vetoed her using the kids and his name in order to promote her career.

    The one person who does not use his name at all, and could have easily and legitimately done so is actually Lopez and she is being very classy given all the negative way he keeps bringing her up.

    Then, there’s the comment about how he is not really a father who takes his responsibility seriously, and thinks that if he is present physically when some one else is taking care of his children then that’s “good enough”.

    Finally, he sounds really dumb and credulous when he is buying into Blake’s playing dumb manipulation.

    It makes me better understand how Jen Garner got pregnant and got a marriage out of it.

    What a silly, petty little man.

    I feel for Lopez for ever wasting her time on him.

  37. Devyn says:

    He’s really *really* handsome.

  38. Misty G says:

    I just remember when he was all about rocking the vote for Clinton’s second term. He goes on Rosie and says he’s going to vote and everyone else should too… but for one thing: He wasn’t registered to vote. Seems that’s something one would remember, but maybe that’s just me. I haven’t liked him since.

  39. Kipp says:

    I think he is still bitter that she left him so quickly and married Marc.

  40. lisa2 says:

    Sometimes you get a great love. HOT intense. I think Jennifer was that for him. I think he loved her passionately. And she him. I didn’t really follow them but I do recall them in pictures together. I never saw that intensity with Jennifer G. I think he fell in love with Safe and what was right for the next phase of his life/career. I have read many post on this site of seeing Ben with his family talking about how disconnected he was. How unhappy he looked. Everyone has an opinion.

    His comments about being with his children/family was not a surprise.

    • mimi says:

      Don’t you think that if his consideratin in staying with a woman or marrying another is his “career” then what kind of a person is he?

      How shallow, superficial and empty must a man be if he doesn’t stay with a great love and leaves her beause he equates his CAREER trying time with her.

      It’s been clear for years that he is not happy with Garner, and rightly so, as she forced this arrangement on him.

  41. A Fan says:

    It’s true – most people have a cringe-worthy period (or two) in their lives.