Mila Kunis: ‘I’m hoping that Wyatt will learn that the word ‘want’ is not necessary’


Mila Kunis is pregnant with her second child, having welcomed daughter Wyatt into the world back in 2014. Even when she was pregnant the first time, Mila often talked about how she didn’t want her children to grow up to be a—holes, meaning that she doesn’t want to raise “Hollywood kids” with access to anything and everything. She wants to raise polite children who get told “no” a lot, because that’s how she was raised. Personally, I think there’s a 50-50 shot at the kids being a—holes anyway, just because of genetics and those kids are half-Kutcher. I also think Mila Kunis might want to check her ‘tude sometimes because she’s come across as an a—hole a few times, and kids learn it from watching their parents. So as Mila was promoting her new film, Bad Moms, Mila talked more about her parenting method.

Mila Kunis is determined to keep her children grounded. The Bad Moms star opened up about her fear of raising a child “who is going to be an a-hole” during an AOL Build session in New York City on Wednesday.

“I don’t want to be the person who is responsible for putting that into the world,” the 32-year-old confessed. “My one thing that I’ve always said is I just want my children to have empathy in life. I want my kids to be good kids.”

And just to be safe, the Ukrainian-born actress — who shares daughter Wyatt Isabelle Kutcher with husband Ashton Kutcher and is expecting their second child — already has a master plan to avoid raising self-entitled kids in Hollywood.

“I figured I’m just going to lie. I feel like that is going to be my tactic. Until the kids are old enough to like search on the Internet, which I feel like I can buy myself a couple of years, I’m just going to go, ‘Mommy and daddy are poor,'” she revealed. “They’re just going to have to suck it up because too bad that’s how I grew up, except we were poor, but it worked!”

Mila, who plays the fed up mom in the upcoming movie, added, “My kid will never know what it’s like to not have fresh fruit. My kid will never know what it’s like to not have electricity… I learned at a very early age to not say the word ‘want.’ That was out of my vocabulary. It just didn’t exist, and so I’m hoping that Wyatt one day will learn that the word ‘want’ is not necessary.”

[From Hello]

Thoughts? It reminds me that she really was brought up with a refugee-mentality. It also reminds me a little bit of Malcolm Gladwell’s books, where he tends to argue that the kids brought up with every advantage in life are often the biggest losers. It wouldn’t surprise me at all if Mila has been reading David and Goliath or Outliers, actually. Long-term, of course “telling the kids that we’re poor” won’t last, but hopefully she’ll be able to teach them that “wanting” something is different than needing something. Wanting something is also different than deserving something or earning something.


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  1. mkyarwood says:

    Good luck!

  2. Nameless says:

    Didn’t she grow up in soviet Russia? Poverty puts things in perspective. Good for her for trying.

  3. Krista says:

    Meh. I don’t think there is inherently anything wrong with wanting things. I want an Apple Watch but I’m not gonna rob a store for it. I will work an extra OT shift for one though. I think wants have the capacity to lift us up or tear us down. The wanting isn’t what’s wrong though.

  4. perplexed says:

    Yeah, I was wondering how Kutcher’s genetics would effect those kids. Maybe even his personality too. Perhaps he’s a different person with Kunis…

  5. kay says:

    she truly thinks LYING to her children is going to go any way toward teaching them about wants and needs? and how is she going to spout this nonsense without moving out of her mansion, and dumping all the things that her fame and money bought?
    that is some seriously delusional thinking.

    don’t get me wrong, i GET what she is trying to do but how on earth she thinks to accomplish it by simply lying, when the proof of the lie is literally surrounding the kid, is beyond belief.

    • perplexed says:

      I thought maybe she was joking when she said she would lie. I’m pretty sure the house they live in would be a clue as to how rich they are.

    • Biting Panda says:

      I think she was speaking hyperbolically.

      I used to “lie” to my kids and tell them dried fruit was candy. Unless they are living in a duplex in Idaho, I’m pretty sure the kids will grow up with a fairly realistic sense of what is happening around them.

  6. INeedANap says:

    She might come across as an a-hole sometimes because Americans are incredibly friendly and we demand sweetness and deference from our women. Eastern European culture is not as fawning and while she came here young, I think her parents were pretty involved in her life.

    I am a huge fan of hers. There’s a difference between niceness and kindness, and I like that she’s direct.

    • another nina says:

      I think she is rude sometimes, judging even by tough Eastern European standards…I remember listening to her press conference (with JT) in Russian and she sounded just plain bad. Otherwise, I have nothing but respect that she has achieved a lot as a 1st generation immigrant…

  7. emmyb1608 says:

    Kids wanting things doesn’t make them brats, the parents who give into every whim do that, so I don’t understand the ” ‘want’ won’t be necessary” train of thought?

    • perplexed says:

      She probably thinks it’s okay for her kid to need a car, but not to want a Range Rover.

    • Erinn says:

      Honestly… I think she means that she doesn’t want them to think that just because they want something that they deserve it or NEED it.

      • emmyb1608 says:

        Ah… Put this way would make more sense! I get teaching your child that just because they want something, doesn’t necessarily mean they automatically deserve it.

    • Kate says:

      Never take parenting advice from a celebrity.

  8. Kelly says:

    What I wonder is why Mila getting baked still while pregnant? I saw an excerpt from an interview and she was LIT. Just curious.

  9. shewolf says:

    Hahahaha! Everyone thinks their kids are going to be the people who will change the world.

  10. Audrey says:

    We made the decision to not tell our daughter about our finances or her college savings for a long time. We’re going to focus on budgeting and teaching her to do that and appreciate what she has rather than counting on being given things

  11. Alex says:

    Not surprising. She grew up very poor and this falls in line with her upbringing. Its smart regardless to teach your kids that WANTING things is not necessarily what you NEED. Its something my parents (also grew up very poor) taught me early. “You don’t need this you want this”…it helped me make cases for the things I wanted (new books or whatever the newest thing was). Sometimes my parents said no and that is something every kid needs to know to not be an “asshole” as Mila says ha.

  12. khaveman says:

    Um, yeah, “want” won’t be a problem in their million-dollar mansion. They won’t want for much.

  13. Merchant Smearer says:

    In my experience of her, she’s not really qualified to teach those lessons because she hasn’t learned them herself. But hey, maybe I need to relax with some Jim Beam!