Cameron Diaz left Hollywood to find herself, ‘make myself whole’

Gwyneth Paltrow had a Goop “wellness summit” over the weekend in California and in case you want to know about some of the quackery that was promoted there, Sarah from Lainey Gossip attended. There were homeopathic remedies, in-home IV hydration treatments, “aura” photography, and crystal fortune telling. It sounds like a racket, and somehow Paltrow got her famous friends to attend, most of whom have touted similar pseudoscientific treatments and half-baked ideas. There was a panel on Saturday featuring Paltrow asking questions on stage to Cameron Diaz, Tory Burch, Miranda Kerr and Nicole Richie.  E! compiled Cameron’s quotes for us and she gushed about her husband, Benji Madden, as she always does, and talked about her career as if she made a choice to leave Hollywood.

While she’s one of the most popular (and highest-paid) movie stars in Hollywood, Cameron said two decades of non-stop travel from film set to film set was too much. “I just went, ‘I can’t really say who I am to myself.’ Which is a hard thing to face up to,” she said at the GoopWellness Summit Saturday. “I felt the need to make myself whole.”

Why she waited to get married
“I think it’s a matter of I just hadn’t met my husband [Good Charlotte's guitarist and singer Benji Madden], you know? I had boyfriends before. And there’s a really, really distinct difference between husbands and boyfriends. And I have a husband who is just my partner in life and in everything. Talk about two very different people! We are so different from one another, but we share the same values—we’re totally two peas in a pod. We are both just weird enough for each other.”

“We women are objectified so much,” she said. “Somehow my husband has just been able to kind of show me what it’s like not to have that be a part of a relationship, and being an equal.”

I never experienced that before. I’d never been loved in that way,” said the Other Woman actress, whose famous exes include Jared Leto, Alex Rodriguez and Justin Timberlake, to name a few. “I look at him every day and he inspires me—he works so hard. I feel so lucky.

[From E!]

If you read Cameron’s quotes about her career it’s hard to tell the exact context but E! titled their story “Why Cameron Diaz Disappeared From Hollywood” so I’m assuming she framed it as a choice. I think she chose to turn down sh-tty roles after she did her last movie, 2014′s Annie remake, and to just wait for something to come along which hasn’t materialized. That’s not shade on her – she was over 40 and known for romcoms and comedies and she got replaced by younger women, because that’s what happens in Hollywood. Instead she wrote a couple of books on wellness and aging, met a guy she considers the love of her life and did her thing. It sounds like it worked out ok for her, and like she feels relieved somewhat. I think her two books were part of that process of finding herself and finding purpose. At least she’s not promoting products and services which are useless and expensive, like Paltrow.

Also I just checked Cameron Diaz’s instagram and twitter and she hasn’t posted anything since election day. I get it, sometimes you don’t know what to say.

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  1. Snowpea says:

    I’ve always liked Cameron’s sunny vibe and reckon she’s the antithesis of goop’s ‘mean girl’ schtick.

    Sometimes you can just tell. Plus, she’s with that Madden brother and those guys are notorious for being THE NICEST GUYS in Hollyweird.

  2. Snazzy says:

    I love the white blouse she’s wearing in that last pic

    • FuefinaWG says:

      I love the white blouse … and I’d like to get a full view of the dress that Goop has on …

      • FuefinaWG says:

        I got a full view on the dress and it’s by Vishenko. Not sure about the top on Diaz; it’s not on OutfitID …

  3. trollontheloose says:

    I will always remember the pic where she was feeding A. Rod while watching the Super Bowl.

  4. Craven says:

    Is Nicole Ritchie fine? I ask because she has admitted to having an eating disorder in the past and she suddenly looks very gaunt in these pics.

    • Zuzus Girl says:

      She has looked exceptionally skinny this past year and we know it is not her natural state. It is worrying, especially if her friends are not talking to her about it.

      • QQ says:

        AYEEE! Not to concern troll but i keep going back and forth on that myself.. like her hair always makes me think.. Oh Honey, Are you eating well? enough.. that that worries cause i genuinely think she is so so delightful , funny and stylish

    • Pumpkin Pie says:

      I don’t like to comment on people’s weight but Nicole Richie looked so much better years ago when she had maybe 20lbs more. I can’t tell exactly how much more because she has a smallish build.

    • tmot says:

      Nicole looks bony (love the silk pajamas, tho!) and so does Holly Hunter in that pic they keep putting up with the links. I have my own ED and I have to say, that is not really how you want your arms to look. I’ve finally learned that it isn’t attractive. Now I’m working on building up some muscle and fat!
      Props to Cameron for going her own way and not becoming a “lifestyle brand” like Goop.

  5. Miss Melissa says:

    She also took on the role of creative director at Pour La Victoire, and designed some shoes for them. She’s been busy.

  6. Katherine says:

    “She hasn’t posted anything since election day” sometimes that’s the best way to comment on a situation

  7. Maria says:

    Was her career ever all that after Gangs of NY? She isn’t a heavy hitter. Ever.

    She’s basically a variation of Kate Hudson & Jennifer Anniston, pretty white women in Hollywood playing silly roles in plot-less “comedies”.

  8. Bridget says:

    I will never not find it weird that Cameron Diaz married a Madden brother.

    Cameron could snap her fingers and be on a movie set, but she clearly isn’t interested. We forget that it wasn’t that long ago that she was one of the highest paid actresses around.

    • Ksenia says:

      I disagree. If Cameron *could* snap her fingers and be on a movie set this minute, she would. She can’t, though: in her mid 40s, she’s aged out of the few, typical roles for women in Hollywood, the ones she once got—the ingénue or the star of a rom-com. Now she’s simply too old for those roles, so she’s finished. Her appeal was always closely attached to her “sexiness” and her youthful good looks; having lost that, she’s not a talented or protean enough actress to continue to be hired for the sparse, few good roles Hollywood has for older women. (She was never versatile enough to age into a character actress.) I think it’s very transparent when she and Goop pretend to have “left Hollywood”: obviously, Hollywood turned its back on them first.
      I have nothing against Cameron personally, but for the fact that she counts Goop as a close friend. That makes me very suspicious of her character.

      • Berlin says:

        I don’t know. There a lot of women the same age as Cameron that are working steadily. Julianne Moore, Nicole Kidman, Naomi Watts etc. Then there are the older women like Melissa Leo and that age range. All of those women work steadily in all genres.> You are right in that Cameron had a niche but nothing is stopping her from expanding her pallet in films like she did in the film With Bardem (can’t remember the name right now) She had those beautiful pet panthers or cheetahs in that film. It was based on the Cormac McCarthy novel I believe.

  9. Scal says:

    The thing is-none of those women look healthy to me in the group selfie. They don’t look to be living a lifestyle that I’d want to emulate. I just don’t get it. It’s quackery hocus pocus to achieve wellness?

    It’s confusing.

  10. Anna says:

    I don’t doubt at all that Hollywood is an incredibly damaging place, especially for women. If what she is saying is true, good for her. I hope she’s finding (or has found) whatever she’s looking for.

  11. raptor says:

    Tiny correction: Cameron is married to Benji Madden, not Joel.

  12. Redgrl says:

    Was staying at a hotel in Boston for a girls trip. Two of us got into the elevator and she & hubby were already in there. She glared at us like we shouldn’t get on her elevator. As if. We ignored her and asked hubby to press the floor button for us which he did. We then talked amongst ourselves. Don’t like her attitude. “Oh why must the plebes get on my elevator?”

    • KiddVicious says:

      I would think that would be a famous person’s biggest fear, being trapped in an elevator with a crazy/huge fan and no way to escape. Not that that was your situation, but maybe she was reacting out of habit from when she was a bigger name. And hopefully her ego took a hit so she won’t be such a bitch the next time she has to share an elevator.

      • Mnopie says:

        She ran into me, literally, ran into me, on a sidewalk in NYC a few years ago. I was minding my own, just walking along. She was rushing, had her head down and plowed into me. She looked up, readjusted her tote bag, and shot me the most condescending, hateful, cold, withering stare and stormed off. Excuse the frack outta me, Ms Diaz, but I wasn’t in the wrong, watch where you’re going. Strikes me as entitled.

  13. Talie says:

    The truth is Cameron probably should’ve been nominated for an Oscar at least 4 times by now for Mary, Vanilla Sky, In her Shoes, and Gangs of NY…she’s not as appreciated for her talents as she should be.

  14. Loo says:

    Diaz has had a very successful career, nobody can take that away from her but she was only successful in the comedy realm. She mostly failed when she tried to do the serious actress thing. And I don’t think that she is particularly good in straight serious roles so I understand why she failed. Hollywood is horribly agiest against women in particular so when you are best at raunchy youth oriented comedy then your career is not going to survive when you hit 40 something. She’ll still get work of course but she’s not a Nicole Kidman type, she’ll never get the best roles in her age bracket, even in indies. The women who thrive into their 40′s and 50′s are considered (whether one agrees or not) the best of their particular age range. I have no personal issues with Diaz but I don’t like sugarcoating things just because I don’t have issues with a celebrity.

    • minx says:

      Agree. She was good at what she did but I don’t see her having a hugely successful career as she gets older, she doesn’t have that kind of talent. Hopefully she was smart with her money and can just enjoy her life.

    • Aren says:

      I don’t dislike her, but her best option was retiring. She could’ve done the whole plastic surgery thing, and take anything that was available, but I’m glad she took the other route.

      • sarah says:

        I saw her in the Tom Cruise movie “Day and Knight”. She had definitely gone the plastic surgery route for that movie. I kept thinking “what the hell happened to her face?” throughout the whole movie.

    • lucy2 says:

      I agree too – she absolutely had success in comedies (Shrek is what landed her on the highest paid list), but I never found her a compelling actress in films beyond that. With such limited opportunities for women in general, I can’t say I’m surprised she’s not actively working anymore.

  15. okay says:

    She’s so 90s. Who cares…

  16. Jennet says:

    Do Benji and Joel have any other jobs? Good Charlotte hasn’t had a hit in over a decade. They came to Toronto a while back as part of some music festival thing and I can’t imagine they could be living very glamorous off their touring or catalogue alone. Clothing line, production, anything…?

    • Pumpkin Pie says:

      At least one of them or maybe both? was on ‘The Voice’ or X-Factor in Australia.

  17. Magnoliarose says:

    Cameron’s choice makes sense. Why wait around and get offered insulting roles when she can be in love and cozy with her hubby. Hollywood is brutal and if she can get away from it then good for her. I agree with the writer about her not pushing products on anyone.
    My sister loves Goop’s skincare line. I just can’t with Goop.

    I must say even as a blonde that is too much blonde in one photo. It weirdly disappoints me when a red head or brunette beauty goes blonde. Maybe because I always wanted dark luscious locks.

  18. HoustonGrl says:

    I cosign what she said about being “objectified” as I’ve personally felt that way in many previous relationships. It’s hard being a woman and finding an equal, loving, respectful partner who simultaneously lets you be sexual, strong, intelligent and ambitious! As a 32-year-old unmarried woman, I often get asked “you’re so great, why are you not married?” Obviously I’m not going to decode all the ways that question bugs me, but I feel the same way as her, I just never had a relationship where I felt truly equal or respected. I’m crossing my fingers though because my current fling is pretty great :-)

    • wolfpup says:

      Best wishes – and may all your dreams come true…or perhaps that when you find that wishes are kisses, may you find yourself again, for the rest of us

    • Kitten says:

      It took me till 37 to find that person so please don’t despair, it WILL happen.
      (and hopefully sooner for you)

    • HoustonGrl says:

      Thank you!

    • Charming Potato says:

      what are you looking for in love? you’re probably dating douches. One thing I’ve noticed is people being hemmed in by their “type”. Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. Be honest with who you’re ‘chasing’. “Fling” huh? Not “Partner”, “Lover” or “Boyfriend”? Look a little harder inside girl. And maybe don’t “want” so much. It’s fine but is any man really capable of being “all that”?

  19. Chinoiserie says:

    Her last films she was the main star were Sex Tape and The Other Woman were hits, high had 40M budget and one made around 120M WW and the other nearly 200M. So I think she would still get work. It’s just probably not the types of roles and types of films she would like I assume.

  20. lucy2 says:

    “in-home IV hydration”
    OMG. Drink some water. That is insane, and IVs should be left to medical professionals.

    • I Choose Me says:

      Right? I’m sitting here struggling to believe that’s a thing. I mean WTF?

    • Kitten says:

      A while back I was super-hungover and dehydrated and none of my usual hangover cures (sex, weed, water, coffee) were helping. The BF and I had the March for Science and I didn’t want to miss it because I felt like hell.
      So BF (a paramedic) administered an IV and a shot of anti-nausea medication and BAM! I was good as new and ready to protest.

      Seriously, everyone should try it.

    • Pumpkin Pie says:

      I read a Cosmo article hundreds of years ago about holiday reps in Mallorca or smt like that who partied and drunk all night, had IVs early morning and then were set for the day. It was described as a remedy for hungovers.
      And a Grey’s Anatomy episode “featured” this as a remedy for hungovers as well.

      • Ange says:

        I remember they showed one of those as far back as MASH. Hot Lips got drunk and a chopper showed up with wounded so they gave her an IV to get her going again.

  21. SM says:

    It would be so refreshing to hear a hollywood star actually admit their priviledge and their possition of luck. Most us us living in a real world run around working, raisin family, paying bills, carrying for older parents, putting dinner on the table, etc. We face death, divorce and sexism and the next day have no choice but carry on. And we do not have the time to think about who we are for ourselves and do not jave the luxury of taking the break to make ourselves whole again. And yet, all of us, amazing women carry on and live their lives the best way we know how. I am happy for her and all. I just unintentionaly rolled my eyes at her quote there.

    • CynicalAnn says:

      You’re right-it absolutely is a luxury. And listening to this crew it is super eye-rolly that they act like they have any clue what life is like for most women.

  22. borgqueen says:

    Let’s not forget the guys she dated..
    Matt Dillon – for years only for him to dump her, A-Rod – dumped her their 3some partner, Sean Combs – which I don’t get and
    Justin Timberlake – for years only for him to dump her bc his mama thought she was too old to get married to..
    Didn’t she also once talk about how she would fly all over the country for dick. She needed someone to love her for her. I hope she truly found it and not sap that is living off of her financially.

  23. Whatever Gurl says:

    She was so much cuter with her first nose, it really brought out her Cuban genes. Her second nose is too Anglo and well, blah.