Shauna Sexton was ‘really scarred’ from Ben Affleck’s ups and downs


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Poor Shauna Sexton got so many Instagram followers from dating Ben Affleck for a few weeks before he went to rehab that she can now earn that sponcon money if she’s so inclined. I’m also sure that she’s raised her profile enough to book more modeling gigs, especially judging from some of the (NSFW) pics she’s been posting. The way she tells it, being with Ben Affleck was awful though and it’s a relief that they’re no longer together. Only she didn’t go on the record with her comments, a “source” talked to US Magazine.

Dating an A-lister wasn’t all that amazing for Shauna Sexton. During the Playboy model’s two-month fling with Ben Affleck, the 46-year-old Oscar winner’s mood was “always up and down,” a source reveals in the new issue of Us Weekly. “Sometimes he [wanted] to go out, drink and get girls, and other times [he was] completely sober and going to church.”

The tumultuous relationship left Sexton, 22, “really scarred” when they called it quits in October (just days after he completed a stint in rehab for alcoholism), says the insider. When they broke up “it was almost a relief for her. She was happy to get away from it.”

[From text and video on US Weekly]

I’m sure Ben runs hot and cold, that’s what alcoholic narcissists do, but I doubt that it was her idea to split. She’d just posted video and photos of him to Instagram, from their trip to Montana where Ben usually goes with his family. I am pretty sure he dumped her through the press. That said, it’s kind of admirable that she waited almost two months to say anything about it, and that the only quotes she’s giving are these minor ones. Yes it’s kind of telling that she’s “really scarred,” but she’s not saying what he did exactly, just how she was affected. Plus she waited until she could get some more press out of it. Remember how the nanny way overplayed her hand and ended up looking ridiculous? Shauna is playing the long game. I want to see her on some kind of reality show or with another high profile guy now. Look how cute she is! She’s also really thirsty, she could definitely do reality TV.

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56 Responses to “Shauna Sexton was ‘really scarred’ from Ben Affleck’s ups and downs”

  1. Jessica says:

    lmao ok girl *insert JLaw thumbs up gif*

  2. Chaine says:

    Scarred??? Oh please, she is 22, lots of time for worse things to happen to her in life than a few awkward dates with an alcoholic movie star old enough to be her dada.

    • Esmom says:

      Lol, seriously. A little hyperbolic. Looking at her photos, it’s so hard for me to tell what kind of identity she is trying to portray. Glam, wholesome, sexy, nerdy, she’s all over the board. I guess she has plenty of time to figure that out herself.

    • Tibbles says:

      ^^ why women don’t come forward

      (you don’t get to tell her how to feel, react, and what she experienced. Think about it. Be part of the solution, not the problem)

      • Chaine says:

        Are we in the same universe? I’ve not seen any allegations that Ben abused or mistreated her. The article specifically states she was “scarred” because sometimes it was fun, but other times he wanted to go to church. Until I hear otherwise, I feel free to roll my eyes that an older married dude with lots of baggage didn’t turn out to be the man of her dreams.

    • megs283 says:

      eh. I think “scarred” is something a 22-year-old would say. I probably would have said at the time, too. :-) She “dated” this high-profile actor who is also an alcoholic and a narcissist and probably a control freak and he probably treated her like disposable trash.

  3. Alissa says:

    I still don’t think that they were actually really dating, I think he was just hanging out and having fun, and she tried to play it like they were dating to boost her profile. also, sometimes he wanted to drink and go out and get girls but they were dating? confusing if he was telling her that’s what he wanted to do haha. I don’t know how really scarred she can be from a two-month relationship where he spent a decent amount in rehab, but probably that’s me just being cynical. either way, I’m confused as to why anyone is still really talking to her.

    • S says:

      He took her to the family home in Montana.

      • Carolnr says:

        Ben took Shauna to Montana. ( Not necessarily to the home he has in Montana)(let’s hope not, anyway.)
        I believe the source when they said he “was up and down” IMO, I think when Ben is up, he is fun, charismatic but when he is down, look out! I imagine that there were many ups at times( with all his relationships) but then the downs superceded the ups. I think Ben was or thought he was just hanging out having fun with Shauna, but eventually realized he wasn’t having fun….

  4. Prissa says:

    This comment might not be pc, but I’m so sick of people acting like they are held captive in a relationship. When you have money, resources, support system – there is no reason to remain in an abusive or dysfunctional relationship. But perhaps this is something people have to learn? I was in a dysfunctional/abusive relationship in my early teens and I vowed to myself never again. And I didn’t have a support system either. I was on my own at 16 with no where to go (and a child), but I wanted better for myself and struggled until I got it.

    At what point are people held accountable for their decisions? Everyone who reads the news knows BA is messed up. If you enter a relationship w/him (imo) you are asking to be a part of his dysfunction. And you can’t tell me she thought she would change him or he would be better with her. If he didn’t change for the mother of his kids after all these years, he ain’t changing for the flavor of the month.

    • Esmom says:

      Eh, I think it’s pretty common for people to think they are the ONE person who can change someone, even when all the evidence shows how unlikely that is. Not sure she thought she could do that or if she even wanted to do that. I think she cared about his celeb status more than anything else and figured all his baggage was worth it for her shot in the spotlight.

      • smcollins says:

        @esmom I think your comment hits the nail on the head. I think his bag of issues and drawn-out divorce were of no concern, it was about his celeb status and getting herself noticed. Mission accomplished. She may be playing it smarter than the nanny but she’s an opportunist all the same.

      • Kitten says:

        That’s definitely possible, Esmom.

        But my slightly less cynical take is that she was infatuated. It can be really hard to see the relationship for the dysfunctional mess that it is when you’re in the infatuation stage.
        Hindsight is 20/20, ya know?

        With my last relationship, it basically took me two years of emotional torment, break-ups and make-ups, anxiety, and just general unhappiness before I decided to cut him loose and never look back. In hindsight, it’s clear to me that I should have ended things after the first fight. Without going into details, that fight was a red flag and a foreshadowing of what would become consistent underlying issues in our relationship.
        But I loved him and I thought if I could just get him to SEE why he hurt me, then he would stop doing it. But the toxic dynamic between us persisted, no matter how hard I tried to change it. During our final fight, it was like someone flipped a light switch on and I could finally see him and our relationship for what it was. Up until that point, I had been experiencing a version of the relationship that was entirely divorced from reality. I had been gaslit for so long that it became habitual for me to blame myself for his failures. In that moment, I realized that he was incapable of taking responsibility for his destructive (and self-destructive) behavior and that myself and our relationship weren’t enough of a reason for him to change.

        Sorry for that rambling therapy session lol but all this is to say that I do think that Shauna knew full well what kind of a guy Ben is before dating him but she’s young and I imagine that the attention from an older movie star would be really intoxicating. Maybe she had her “light switch” moment and finally saw him for the disastrous person he is.

      • whitecat says:

        Definitely Esmos. Moreover, I think since we humans tend to be selfish, we think that we are going to be special enough to be the exception. Moreover, we women are also ‘taught’ through this culture that we can ‘save’ these broken men/bad boys/etc if we were just special enough. I internalized this subconsciously for years and went for broken men/bad boys.. until at some point like what Kitten described (and being gaslighted is a horrible thing and takes a long time to ‘wake up’; from it, so I totally get it), a light switch went off after a ruthless and abusive argument. After that, I ran in the other direction the next ‘broken man’ came around. Thankfully I am with an amazing person now who by all means stable, present, loving and far far far from being self-destructive.

        (I should mention that these broken men tended to have addicition issues as well… so not so unlike Ben Affleck here).

      • S says:

        Jen Garner wasted 13 years trying to be The One Who Can Change Him.

      • Veronica S. says:

        Especially since we live in a culture where women are raised with the subconscious idea that they’re the “civilizers” in society. It’s the natural result of teaching women to view sex and relationships as responsibility, whereas men get to view them as opportunity.

      • BorderMollie says:

        It’s honestly tragic. We women waste sometimes years (sometimes our whole lives!) on these awful men because society is constantly sending us the message that we can save ‘bad boys’ and turn them into good men. It’s nonsense. It’s impossible to change someone who doesn’t want to change, period. Jennifer did everything she could to change Ben and it wasn’t enough. It never is. Let that be a lesson!

    • Mela says:

      Thats really unfair to people in truly physically abusive relationships, that is victim blaming plain and simple. I just left a 4 year abusive relationship and I am financially secure. Abusers manipulate their victims in so many ways- not just financially. The abuse itself breaks your spirit an then they promise to change, they lie to their victims and will pretty much wear you down. Its a traumatic experience. When you love your abuser- things are much much more complicated emotionally. Its also difficult to leave your abuser when he doesnt want to let you go. They will hound you obsessively, play to your weakness (your love for them), threaten you and the cycle of violence continues. Most women in physically abusive relationships will endure several incidents of violence before they get the courage to leave. I hope this never happens to you and if it does, I hope others are more compassionate.

      This girl sounds like she just has hurt feelings from dealing with a douche bag like Ben Affleck. Live and learn.

    • Tibbles says:

      ^^ why women don’t come forward

      (you don’t get to tell her how to feel, react, and what she experienced. Think about it. Be part of the solution, not the problem)

      I now remember why I left this site. You guys are awful :(

    • Amelie says:

      I know, some actors have a horrible reputation and you wonder who in their right mind would date them. People who take up with horrible men like Sean Penn (Charlize Theron, what were you thinking??) or Charlie Sheen… you cannot pretend you had no idea what you were getting yourself into. What Robin Wright/Denise Richards/Brooke Mueller (who is a mess herself) went through should be enough to make women stay away. It’s one thing to have no idea of a guy’s shady past but if you do, I can’t help but wonder if you have your head screwed on properly.

      Ben Affleck doesn’t have a reputation of abusing women though, just a reputation of being an alcoholic (but not an abusive alcoholic that we know of). I don’t feel sorry for Shauna at all… I know that might be terrible but it’s not like she couldn’t google the guy and learn about his messy past. She chose to publicize the relationship on social media and she definitely seemed to enjoy the notoriety. As far as we know the worst thing Ben did to her was break up with her through the press, which might be embarrassing but calling it scarring is a bit over the top.

    • lucy2 says:

      In this situation…maybe – they were barely together, had no children or financial ties, etc, so yeah, she could leave more easily than most. But most other situations are very different.

  5. Mego says:

    If she is scarred Inwonder how Lindsay is doing…

  6. Nichole says:

    I’ve been following her on Insta and actually have come to really like her – especially through her stories, which are often posted at the vet clinic where she works and just show her and her coworkers goofing around with animals. <3 I know she's a ~playboy model~, but I really get the impression that is just some thing she does occasionally.

  7. Embee says:

    Let Shauna Sexton’s story be a cautionary tale for another generation. She’s not a saint but she seems like a decent person and she probably hadn’t any experienced an alcoholic narcissist before. It’s a nasty and traumatizing experience but to quote CS Lewis “experience, that most brutal of teachers, but you learn. By god you learn.”

  8. anony83 says:

    At least her dog is cute.

    That’s literally all I can take from this story.

  9. Sabah says:

    She’s cute, she reminds me of an actress but I can’t for the life of me remember who.

  10. Kebbie says:

    She hashtagged the photo of her and her girlfriends #scissorsisters lol

    She was definitely the one who was dumped. Remember when she posted that creepshot of some guy that resembled Ben and told paparazzi they didn’t know what they were talking about when their split went public? I think she found out in the press.

  11. Courtney says:

    I don’t really think we need to hear about how “scarred” she is. She chose to date someone with known substance abuse issues, who wasn’t in the best place in his life. Maybe at 22 she didn’t realize exactly what that would mean regarding his ability to be healthy in a relationship, but he was never going to be the safest or best person to date at the time. Now she wants to play the victim since it’s been 2 months and her profile may be waning. I sure hope she thanks Ben while she’s selling him out. She got what she hoped for out of it.

    • Mela says:

      I think the fact they only dated for two months and he was in rehab makes it hard to take her serious.

      But she is 22 with little life experience and maybe the whole situation- including the downside of fame, her portrayal in the press was not a good one, getting dumped through the media must have been humiliating and all of that contributed to the “scarring” not just Ben’s direct behavior towards her when they were together.

      He has humiliated all the woman he has been with in the public eye.

  12. becoo says:

    Try putting up with it for 13 years like Jen.

  13. Oliviajoy1995 says:

    She was “scarred” from their two months together? Girl, he was in rehab for 30 days of your two months. You stayed at his house and he gave you a car to drive. Stop whining.

    *it was funny when she had to bring his car back though. How awkward.

  14. L says:

    Eh. Shauna will realize how lucky she is not to be handcuffed to him permanently. Shookus escaped and hasn’t cast a backwards glance since. Ben has been problematic and drunk since the aughts. Not sure why anyone thought/thinks he would make a great husband and father. Ben is the type that you date and have a fun, casual fling with — you don’t marry the guy and try to turn him into Daddy. Garner is the biggest fool for squandering so much time with him, only to be humiliated repeatedly and then tossed aside anyway. And since they have kids she can’t just write him off and pretend that he doesn’t exist. smh You reap what you sow. She’ll be babysitting him until one of them dies.

  15. Jayna says:

    Give me a break. She was alerting those paps right and left. Remember the photo of her with her skirt length above her ass cheeks and posing or her set-up pap, her strolls on the beach, her side boob outfit all set up? He barely saw her in all this time. He was in rehab and then half in rehab, and spent time with the kids. She immediately quit her job, set up so many pap strolls, and tried to capitalize on her ten minutes of fame. It failed.

  16. ju says:

    Ben used her and she was using him. He took her out to a very public, pap-heavy dinner early on. Made sure that he bought a house on a pap-heavy street and then invited her over many times. He knew all of the times that he was being photographed leaving rehab to “exercise” with her at his house. He wanted people to know that he was with her. It’s not like the whole thing was in her head. He made no effort whatsoever to be secretive about it.

  17. mx says:

    She’d be PERFECT for Celebrity Big Brother coming up….

  18. Deedee says:

    She was a fling. That was all.

  19. Amelie says:

    If she feels scarred after 2 months of being with Ben, imagine how Jen Garner must feel. She wasted a lot of her lifetime trying to make things work with a raging alcoholic.

  20. Shirurusu says:

    I don’t know I kind of sympathize, I dated someone who was a semi alcoholic at the time and in the evenings he’d love me and be a wonderful date and in the mornings waking up together he’d be completely cold and treat me like a lepper, I found his mood swings totally exhausting. I buy that she’s relieved to not have to deal with something like that if Ben is similar

  21. Carolnr says:

    I think Shauna liked the image of Ben Affleck & probably was extremely excited at the prospect of dating him. Unfortunately, her image of Ben was probably drastically different than she had envisioned.
    She is 22 & by her IG comments, thinks she knows all the answers, but she didn’t even start to have the questions…. she will be fine!!!

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