Eva Amurri has found divorcing-while-pregnant ‘extremely stressful’

In November, we learned that Eva Amurri and Kyle Martino had separated and would likely get a divorce. That alone was notable, because Eva is a mommy/lifestyle-blogger who has presented a very glossy image of her family for years. The split was even more notable because Eva is currently pregnant with their third child. I still believe that a dude has to do something really screwed up to get his wife to break up with him during her pregnancy. As of yet, we do not know what happened. We do know that Eva has tried to make the separation as glossy and inspo as her marriage though. But now Eva is discussing how the past few months have been really difficult and stressful:

Eva Amurri Martino is getting candid about some big challenges in her life at the moment. The actress, blogger and third-time mom-to-be opened up on her Instagram Story Monday to give her followers “a little life update,” starting by saying she had largely been absent from Instagram lately partly because she has been “trying to take some time off and spend some time with my kids.”

“The other reason is this is an extremely stressful time for me. [Husband Kyle Martino and I] are in the last mile of our divorce process and so we are doing a lot of the logistical-nightmare aspects of it,” said Amurri Martino, 34. “So we’ve been spending all day today changing all the utilities into my name and putting them on new payments and all that kinda stuff, which is never fun. It’s basically like moving all over again… And I’ve had to tell about 20 people today that I’m getting divorced, which is not something that’s so fun to tell a stranger over and over again,” she added. “So I’m definitely in the real-life hard part of that.”

“On top of that. I just found out that I actually failed my first screener for gestational diabetes, so that was a big shock to me. I passed this first one-hour one with both of my other pregnancies, so now I’m taking the three-hour test tomorrow and I’m more shaken up about it than I expected to be,” Amurri Martino explained. “I’m feeling so overwhelmed that the idea of dealing with gestational diabetes on top of everything else is really putting me over the edge.”

“But I do know a lot of people, personally, who didn’t pass the one-hour but did past the three-hour. So I’m trying to just not worry or be overwhelmed until I have to. So I’ll be sitting in the doctor’s office for, like, three and a half hours tomorrow morning,” she continued, laughing as she finished with a jovial, “Happy New Year!” On Tuesday, Amurri Martino shared photos and video from the doctor’s office on her Story, giving a short tour of the space she was occupying for the time being and telling her followers, “Well, so far so good. They gave me a private room to relax in.”

[From People]

I really do feel bad for her now. The stress of pregnancy – and possible complications – is huge enough, then add all of the stress of divorce, the separation of finances, homes and lives, the emotional toll of all of that. Poor Eva. What in the world did Kyle do? It must have been really big. Also, I get the feeling that we have some commenters who actually follow Eva’s comings and goings and I have a question: is there a reason why she’s not acting anymore? She hasn’t acted in anything in years. Is her sole source of income just her mommy-lifestyle blogging?

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This photo was our family holiday card the year Major was born. I look at this photo and it reminds me how easy it is to hide being mentally unwell- and how important it is to really check in with the people around you. The truth was, this photo was taken during the peak of my mental health struggles. My son had endured a skull fracture and brain bleed (and subsequent hospital stay) at five weeks old that triggered a six month long battle with PTSD, PPD and PPA for me. And it was all a secret, except for my closest circle. The depths to which it effected me were secret even to the people closest to me. I experienced extremely dark intrusive thoughts daily, and lived in fight or flight, with zero appetite, for months at a time. At the peak of all of it, I shared with my husband that our children deserved somebody better than me…that their lives would be so much better if they didn’t have me as their mom. To this day, I’m so thankful I shared those words with him that day, since they gave him the fear and clarity he needed to get me in to treatment. I’m so grateful to be in a much better place today, but it didn’t happen by luck or chance. It happened because I asked for and accepted help, and I’ve worked hard every day since for almost two years. I still have ups and downs. But I know now that my value as a mom and as a woman is greater than my worst day. This whole story is on the blog if you want more details. But I feel compelled to share today on #mentalhealthawarenessday in case anybody needs a little extra encouragement to seek the help they need ❤️ #HappilyEvaAfter #HonestMotherhood #BreakTheStigma

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  1. Elena says:

    Yes I think it would be!!!!

  2. Valiantly Varnished says:

    I felt sorry for her from the jump. Women don’t get a divorce in the middle of a pregnancy unless something pretty major went down. Pregnancy is hard enough without the added stress of a divorce.
    Also if I remember correctly she did still act for awhile after her first child was born but then decided to stop and be at home with her kids. She started the blog as a side project and then decided to make it her main thing after that. And truth be told – she’s in all likelihood making waaaay more money from it then you did from acting.

  3. Nikki* says:

    Many people have said their divorce was like a death, so to be going through that while pregnant is indeed a very tough thing. That first quick gestational diabetes test has a lot of false positives; both my daughters “flunked it” only to find w/the 3 hour test that they did NOT have g.diabetes. Hope Eva also gets a clean bill of health.
    People are meant to live in villages, and pregnant women are meant to be nurtured and fussed over by a lot of other women. The isolation so many women face as they are GROWING A HUMAN BEING inside of their body (and also parenting toddlers and young kids) is very sad to me. I’m glad she opened up about all of this, and I hope many people reach out to her supportively.

    • Valiantly Varnished says:

      Agreed. Ive seen how stress affects pregnant women. A friend of mine had blood pressure issues with her second pregnancy because of how stressful work was. I hope she has a good support system during this time

    • Bee says:

      It must have been HUGE to divorce while pregnant! I am currently expecting and feel awful she is going through it.
      NIKKI i like your comment about pregnant women needing that support of a village. It makes a huge difference, I think to have people helping. I have had a complicated pregnancy and don’t know what I would have done without those supporters in my life making sure I was well looked after

    • (TheOG)@Jan90067 says:

      I was just reading a news pop up earlier about this. They’re calling it “The Grandmother Effect”: https://www.statnews.com/2019/02/22/grandmother-effect-helps-explain-human-longevity/

      • OriginalRose says:

        Really interesting article, thanks for the link

      • Nikki* says:

        Yes, thank you!! It made my day, because my retired hubby and I moved 500 miles to help take care of our grandbabies!

      • Still_Sarah says:

        After my mother retired, she moved 2,000 miles to be closer to my sister and her kids. Some people might go “blah” at the idea of that but I’m sure it was a lot of help to my sister as her kids were growing up as her husband had his own business and worked very long hours with much travel too.

      • Amanduh says:

        This article checks out. My mom probably visits twice a year and I for sure am one and done. I think if she lived closer and was more involved I would have another. My MIL “helps” in the backhanded, annoying ways MILs tend to but I’m still thankful for some help.

    • Meghan says:

      I’m going through a divorce now and thank God I’m not pregnant (I do have a 3 year old though). In September I went to the ER because my anxiety was through the roof and I’ve been white-knuckling it since then but just made an appointment with my doctor for 3 weeks from now because I’m not sleeping at all. Cannot imagine going through it while pregnant.

      • Nikki* says:

        We are rooting for you, Meghan. I’m glad you made an appointment w/ your doctor; what a great move to take care of yourself!! Maybe you could ask him/her about low cost counseling options available to you; counseling has been very worthwhile to my family. Better no husband than a bad husband, but try to take each day as it comes and be as kind to yourself as you possibly can. Again, fellow Celebitchies are sending you love!

      • C-No says:

        My divorce was final July of last year. I’m still a work in progress. No kids, I can’t imagine how much harder this would have been. Good luck and love to you, Meghan, and to your child. We can do this!

    • Catmom says:

      No, getting pregnant does not mean “a village” should fuss over you…or ANYONE should fuss over you. Hopefully, it is a choice you made for yourself. But normal people don’t make a decision and then proclaim their community owes them to see it through. That is on you.

  4. Erinn says:

    This is… a weird story. I didn’t actually know who she was, but it sounds like the bulk of her acting work revolved around her mothers’ connections. She’s a youtuber I guess as well…

    The thing that’s so strange to me is that they announced the pregnancy in September, and even right around that time she was saying on her blog that they had trouble with gender roles and raising the kids and how she was expected to do more despite working “full time” (which, I assume it more in line with what celeb offspring think of as ‘full time’, but who knows). She was saying how there were struggles with that, but things HAD gotten better. I just don’t understand why you would want to have another child with a man you know isn’t hauling a fair share of the duties.

    One thing I’m a mix of side-eye and impressed on is that they seem to really be trying to co-parent, and while divorce is never easy, it looks like they’re putting in a lot of work for the kids sake. Which is admirable. But it’s almost so ‘perfect’ (and we know a lot of lifestyle bloggers have a problem playing up how perfect things are) that it seems like something is being covered up.

    I don’t know. This was an interesting distraction for the morning though!

    ETA: Thanks to reddit I found links to her blog where she talks about nannygate and nannygate 2.0. BOY what a TRIP. Between the way that she writes and the ridiculousness of it all (so much secondhand embarrassment) it is truly a gossipy treat.

    • lobstah says:

      Just read through her Nannygate series and….wow. Not only was I embarrassed for her, but I wasn’t sure who she was trying to convince more about her husband’s fidelity – her readers or herself. Like, “wow, this is one time he DIDN’T cheat!”

      • Erinn says:

        Yes! That’s exactly how I felt. I think if she caught him in the act she’d probably have written out a long winded “Well, you see, he tripped. My husband is just incredibly clumsy, and unfortunately our nanny knew this. She made sure to be in his path at just the right moment”

  5. Tai says:

    I suspect he cheated on her. There was a story a few years ago about a nanny? who said the hubby hit on her or something like that. Eva was outraged and eviscerate the nanny. I think there was some truth to it but Eva was in denial it would happen to her family, especially with her blog. So when he did it again (as I think he did) that was it for Eva and even though pregnant, decided she just couldn’t stay with him.

    • Mia4s says:

      Something went down. I’m also curious about what she means by in the “last mile of their divorce process”? Is that just about utilities and such or are they actually finishing up the legal part? Under amicable circumstances, I would think a separation would suffice until the baby is born? Very strange to add all that stress.

      • Yeah. And divorcing couples do not legally have to show up together to switch utilities into one or the others name. She can take a legal separation notice or some other document with her to do this. Why in the world would she want that much continued togetherness with him. Sounds very emotionally unhealthy to me.

  6. Chica1971 says:

    Difficult and sad but I can’t help but think she is a full time job even under the best of circumstances. I’m also guessing that it was something Major but not the first time.

  7. K says:

    I imagine the added stress of trying to portray a put together I mage doesn’t help. I’d drop the act and get real. But that’s just me.

    • minx says:

      That was my thought too. The artful pose of her touching her stomach while gazing off in the distance….the smarmy writing…ugh, it’s just not to my taste. But if it makes her feel better, go for it, I guess.

      • Still_Sarah says:

        I agree – the hands on the stomach for the photograph, etc. It is what I call “try hard” which means trying too hard for it to be something natural. Too much of a poor me pose. Though admittedly she has a lot to handle now. I was a divorce lawyer and I know from experience that everyone moves through it emotionally at their own pace.

  8. Lindy says:

    I feel for her. However over the top she is, pregnancy is exhausting enough as it is. I can’t imagine going through a divorce while expecting. My divorce and the extended custody battle were the most traumatic events of my life. I truly hope she and the baby end up ok on the other side. How confusing for her other kids, too.

  9. Angie says:

    I follow her on and off through the years. Her blog And mommyhood is her primary job. I signed up for her newsletter a few weeks ago after she promised some sort of explanation or clarifying for her divorce, so I signed up. The newsletter ended up being a sort of “lol nothing salacious happened, and I’m not telling y’all, funny you think I owe you a reason”…To which I say, sure you have a right to be private, but you also have declared this huge news to people who follow you and even looked up to you as inspo, and then LOL at us when we wanna know why?! That turned me off. I do truly feel bad for her, I too had complications with my third pregnancy and I can’t imagine doing what she’s doing in her position. I’m just SO curious, considering that she says all the time that she’s so honest and open. She is, but she isn’t at the same time.

    • Lisa says:

      Yes! I also followed her and received her newsletter where she basically said it was no ones business…coming from someone who shares every detail of her life (clothes,food, hobbies, home Reno, etc etc) I called her out on it saying her followers just feel close to her since she over shares and now she shuts down? Needless to say, she blocked me 🤣🤣

  10. Mabs A'Mabbin says:

    Enduring alot of things while pregnant is stressful lol. But if I were pregnant when I left my cheating husband at 26, it would’ve been less stressful than it was going through it with him. I was married and 24 when we were pregnant, and the dude was a bastard. So was his mother. It’s all subjective. If she’s anything like her mother, thriving on attention is probably what’s so stressful while pregnant.

  11. Who ARE These People? says:

    So we live in a world in which rich people feel obliged to share all their personal business with strangers because that’s the only way they feel they can make even more money? Or in which people who were raised to thrive on attention and praise use this new medium to get more attention and praise – which becomes ever-more meaningless was the “audience” grows?

    If I thought I “had to” share all my shit with the world I would find that incredibly stressful. Privacy has great value.

    If I were someone who actually wanted to share all my shit with the world, I guess I wouldn’t see why this was a problem.

  12. lucy2 says:

    I do feel badly that she’s pregnant, stressed, and divorcing.

    But my God, I find her insufferable. How much time was she spending crafting her ridiculous instagram posts that she needed to step back from it to spend time with her kids? I can’t imagine having such a fake life.

    • Still_Sarah says:

      This is one of those times when I am so happy I am just a boring normal person and no one WANTS to know about my life. Even my Facebook page is pretty boring and I like it that way. I’ve seen people on social media and they’re all “my life is so perfect and here are the pictures”. Full disclosure here – I sometimes go to their pages just to laugh at how ridiculous they are about it. Their pages are open to everyone, so it’s not like I have to friend them. It’s a guilty pleasure.

      I once had to take an emergency flight to the Middle East to get a work permit canceled as I was changing employers. It could only be done in person, so I had to fly out from Canada and fly back in about 36 hours total. I had an airport stop in Cairo and Athens but I never left the airports. I didn’t put in on Facebook because people would think “Well, I didn’t go to Cairo or Athens this week”. Newsflash – neither did I really. It was sleep deprivation hell because I can’t sleep on airplanes and it cost me $2,000 of my own money. I would rather have gone down the street in my hometown for beer and natchos.

  13. Pix says:

    It must be terrible to go through while pregnant. I hope she has support – people who genuinely love her. I do, however, find her SO thirsty. I imagine the real story of their marriage is not as pretty and bright as her blog portrayed. Maybe she’ll strip off the mask and show us the reality, but I’m sure she knows that doesn’t sell as well as “happily ever after”

  14. Lala11_7 says:

    I know how emotional stress can damn near kill you…I know people who have died from it…

    I feel for her…her baby and her other children….

  15. Mtec says:

    I don’t know anything about this couple’s history, so i’m just wondering how come we’re assuming it’s the soon-to-be ex-husband’s fault they’re divorcing?

    It could very well been something she did, and maybe that’s why she so desperately wants to depict this as a totally mutual and ideal divorce.

    Everything I read about her makes her seem really self-centered, ignorant, and attention-seeking. If that’s what i’m getting on the surface, I can only wonder what she’s like when not trying to IG filter herself a perfect life.

    (All that being said, if there is something known that the husband did and i’m just not aware of it, then I stand corrected).

    • Erinn says:

      I think it’s both, really. There were two major blog posts about nanny issues in regards to him. I tend to think she absolutely thrives on the drama and doesn’t know how to live a life without it.

      Their first child was born in 2014, the second in 2016, and in September(ish) she was saying how for YEARS he’d not pulled his weight with child duties, and how things had been improving. But I mean… the other kids are like 5 and 3 – I’m not sure how suddenly she thought it’d be different with the third? Surely there wasn’t much time to have turned it all around in less than 3 years. Based on the posts I’ve read it sounds like he was considering a vasectomy, and she “jokingly” brought it up on his birthday (I think that was less joke than it was a desire for more kids) and she played it off like he had built such a big case of why it was a great idea and how he lead the charge on baby 3. I suspect he wasn’t leading that charge as much as she let on.

      • Casey says:

        @Erinn

        Same w/Jennifer Garner & Ben Affleck. Their second & third child were essentially bandaid babies, she kept him on board for waaaaay too long. He clearly wasn’t wanting the whole thing all along but I think JG thought she could change him (girl, that never works out). I still am annoyed how Garner does the calling the paps for her church and school walk photo ops. What is she going to do when they don’t want to participate in the charade anymore…? Same w/Eva to a more intense degree.

    • ShazBot says:

      This is my COMPLETE GUESS at the situation, but I wouldn’t be shocked if he was already in another relationship. I say ‘he’ because I can’t imagine there are too many man that would hitch themselves to an already married and pregnant women who is not very rich or very famous/can help their careers.
      And if you’re having relationship issues, there has to be an impetus for going through a divorce during a pregnancy. I feel like if you just weren’t working, you were both unhappy, and the bandaid baby didn’t do it, you’d separate but hold off on the divorce until after the stressful time of having a baby was done.

      What is the rush to actually divorce? The obvious is that there is already somebody else and either he wants to be available to her, OR Eva is so furious and humiliated that she wants to be divorced immediately.

  16. Ali says:

    I find the whole thing both odd and sad.

  17. Jax says:

    Ugh. If the husband did anything, it’s still a symptom of a dysfunctional marriage. It doesn’t sound like they’ve been in a healthy one for a long time. It takes two to tango.

    That said I used to love her as an actress. Now I just think she’s an insufferable drama queen trying to make a quick buck off her family and it has backfired in spectacular fashion. She’s doing damage control and it’s terrible. He may or may not be a douche bag, but I don’t see him advertising it to the masses like she is.

  18. Scorpio ♏️ Rants says:

    You know that meme of the 3 year old pigtailed girl in a robe rolling her eyes, and flipping her wrist with WHATEVER……

    That.

    This woman is just so d@mn extra. Insufferable.

    So much so that when I should feel sorry for her, I’ve used it all up already with her previous manufactured “look at me” drama. Yet another adult child of celebrity being famous on parental coattails.

    • Lisa says:

      Scorpio!! I 100% agree with you. She’s an insufferable person and it’s unfortunate for the kids, specially the baby. But I don’t feel bad for her or Kyle.

  19. pandabird says:

    Plot twist: the baby isn’t his. Dun dun dun! And HE’S the one divorcing her!

  20. Casey says:

    What I don’t get about these ‘mommy bloggers’….. What happens when their kids reach the age where you aren’t ‘mommy’ anymore?I mean, at a certain point (honestly, it’s either when they leave the single digits or much before) they’re not going to want to be the stars of their mom’s blog & ‘lifestyle’ angle. It just seems like there’s such a firm expiration date w/these things. It’s like these women would prefer if their kids stayed kids forever (and them ‘mommy’ forever) rather than them growing as human beings. Like theyre part of the whole package, the selling point. Just doesn’t make sense to me, children grow up, and they always at a certain age stop wanting their moms to be nosy or use them for their mommyblogs

  21. Liz version 700 says:

    I know very little about this woman but even in my limited scope she seems to be “a lot.” She seems like a lot of work, a lot of snow and a lot of bs. Good luck to her on the divorce and pregnancy this is legit hard.

  22. Sparkly says:

    I can absolutely tell in that picture how unhappy she is. Her smile doesn’t meet her eyes at all, and the eyes look intense. Just because your makeup looks good and you can plaster a smile doesn’t mean you have it on lockdown. I’m sorry for her.

    I think there’s a decent chance that this was a bandaid or accidental pregnancy (I had two on two different birth controls, so they definitely happen even when trying our best). If their marriage was already struggling, a baby was likely to just send it over the edge. I’m glad he cared enough to get her help though. That’s probably why he’s continuing to help her so much through the transition. Traumas are hard enough on their own, but infinitely moreso when pregnancy hormones are fluctuating like crazy, *especially* if you already have or are at increased risk for ppd. I’m glad he’s stepping up to help her. He’ll be forced to step up and parent better if they get a divorce, and I suppose he realizes that. Maybe she wants him to open his eyes or maybe they just don’t work together as a couple anymore, It’s healthier for the kids if mom and dad are healthy, although I hope she has more support than just him.

  23. Deanns says:

    Question: How ezactly does a 5 week old infant get a skull fracture with a brain bleed?