Last November, Eva Amurri announced that she was separating from her husband Kyle Martino. It was notable for several reasons. One, Eva is basically Peak Instagram Mommy and a mommy-blogger extraordinaire, so for her to drop the Insta-facade and actually kick her husband out of the house… well, it must have been BIG. Two, Eva was (at the time) and is still pregnant with the couple’s third child. She’s fast-tracking a divorce from him WHILE preg. Again, it must have been BIG, whatever it was. I don’t even think it was just an affair on his part – I think he must have done some crimes AND gotten someone else pregnant. And here’s more evidence that some sh-t really went down, despite her efforts to make her divorce so inspo: Eva isn’t even going to allow Kyle to be there when she gives birth. Lord!!
Eva Amurri is staying true to herself. Opening up on her blog about how she’s preparing for the birth of her third child with Kyle Martino, Amurri — who is over 37 weeks pregnant now — explained that having her estranged husband in the room with her “wasn’t going to feel right.”
“Our intimacy level has totally changed now that we aren’t a couple, obviously, and in order to really let go and allow labor to progress (especially with a home birth) it’s so important to feel completely at ease in your body and support,” she wrote. This time around, Amurri wants to surround herself with feminine energy. “I’ve realized that having a strong female energy present at my birth this time is going to bring that for me. I’ve elected to have my female midwives, my awesome doula (also a woman), and some incredible girlfriends – who are all Mamas as well,” she said, adding that her son Major James, 3, and daughter Marlowe Mae, 5, will also be present. “I’m excited for them to witness the miracle of birth for the first time, and to hopefully take that experience with them forever as they grow into adults as well,” she wrote.
Although he won’t be present for the actual birth, Amurri said Martino will “meet his son directly after he’s born” — a decision they “both feel good about.”
“Not having a partnership present at this birth feels totally different! It’s been taking a lot of intentional thought and work on myself as I near the birth experience to get out of my own fears and to focus on the power I have felt during this pregnancy,” she continued. “Knowing EXACTLY how challenging birth is doesn’t help those fears either.“
“I wish I could go back to the blissful ignorance of my first delivery when I really didn’t know how challenging birth was yet – and I didn’t know what to expect around each corner. I’m really hoping I can lean into the comforts of my experience as a seasoned birthing mama in the next couple of weeks, instead of allowing it to intimidate me,” Amurri added.
Oh, the buried lede is that her children are going to watch her give birth at home while a dozen midwives, doulas and girlfriends mill around too. I’m sorry, I know I’m being “controversial” and people will yell at me but for the love of God, don’t make your children watch you give birth to their sibling. Yes, it will be memorable. It will be so memorable that it will scar them for life. (And what if some medical emergency happens? Oh God.)
As for not allowing Kyle to be there… her body, her pregnancy, her choice, her birth plan. If she doesn’t want him there, God bless. I get the feeling that he was never really the supportive partner to her in those kinds of moments when they were together, so she probably just realized she might as well do it her own way.
Photos courtesy of Instagram.
That little boy in the bottom picture obviously has no interest in putting his mom’s hair in a ponytail and was directed to do that for the picture. Depressing.
Ugh. You’re so right.
These “mommy bloggers” are a plague. How are the kids of these women ever going to know as they grow up what was real loving parenting, and what was performative so mommy could make a buck? Well my compliments to the therapists who will make a fortune in about 12-15 years. 🙄
Love the “impromptu, just rolled out of bed, lazy day with my kids” pic where the mom obviously spent two hours perfecting her eye makeup but couldn’t put on some damn pants. 🙄🙄🙄
I mean, you’ve never directed a kid to pose for a picture? It’s not that depressing, he will live.
I wonder what happened for her to not want him in the room. And I don’t understand home births at all, they could be so dangerous.
True, but I don’t use those pictures to sell myself as a super aunt and get money off of exploiting the children. Granted, I’m biased because I view publicly distributing ANY pictures of children as a violation of their privacy, but I know that’s not a popular opinion.
I’ve posed my kids but not for money. She doesn’t care about their privacy.
They are divorcing! regardless of what he did, I also would not want the guy I was not wanting to be married to in the room for any number of reasons, but also, simply because WE ARE DIVORCING!
also, I was present at both my brothers being born and it didn’t scar me for life. it was long and some parts were boring and my brother did have a medical emergency and had to be medivaced to another hospital in a bigger town. her kids will be fine, and wiser for it.
I get the impression that’s those kids’ whole lives. Pose, smile, look perfect, gotta sell the happy family image. So many kids are being forced to have their whole childhood crafted and sold online.
I find these pictures really disturbing, especially the one in which her young son is on her lap and she’s inches from giving him a kiss on the mouth (click through the solo picture of her). It isn’t that she’s mostly undressed or that she’s about to kiss him on the mouth. It’s that she’s imposing performative affection on him in an especially intimate scene in which he is clearly uncomfortable. His arms are crossed across his body and his eyes are looking away from her toward the camera. His body language is similar in the photo in which he’s holding her hair.
I grew in a family in which performative affection was forced, and it was terrible. It’s as much a violation of consent to hug and kiss your parents on command for a damn picture as it is for them to force you to hug people you don’t know. My mom used it to demonstrate that everything was great even when it really, really wasn’t. Given all that’s messy in this woman’s life right now, I’m especially creeped out by this imposed performative affection on such a little kid.
Some children live in absolute poverty. That’s depressing. Some children have leukemia. That’s depressing. Some children have to work. That’s depressing. A mother taking a picture with her kids is fine. What else are cameras for. They will survive.
People here can be so overdramatic. Like. Relax. Parents make kids pose for pictures all the time. One day when they’re old and they think about their mom, they will have these pictures. Stop corrupting everything.
Yeah, the idea of having the kids watch the birth is something I always found kinda odd. Birth is a beautiful thing but it also often involves seeing the mother in distress, which is will terrify kids that young. Idk. Their choice of course, but it seems like a stressful situation for kids to be involved in, especially since there’s always a chance of an emergency.
Exactly, it’s not the actual “watching your mother giving birth” aspect I’m judging. I don’t really care, their choice.
It’s the combination of ‘what if something goes really wrong?’ along with the basic fact it will be impossible to explain fully that the pain/distress is normal. It seems like a dumb thing to do for so many reasons.
I totally agree. Even if everything goes as planned (which it rarely does with childbirth), those kids won’t know what to do, developmentally not ready, and the whole birth will be caretaking them. Sounds stressful.
Sorry I’m square. 3 & 5 are too young. Period
with you….sorry not sorry
I thought it was weird my aunt had their six year old watch her give birth. I have a 3 year old, that would be SO boring for her! I’m pregnant now and she’ll be with my brother when I give birth. Also, toddlers are germ factories.
I saw an article on award winning pictures of 2019 and some were of childbirth that included older siblings/cousins watching literally the baby be born. Kids looking maybe 5? I was surprised at first as it may scare them and many lose a lot of blood during childbirth and yes what if an emergency happens?
I didnt think it was scary-i remember thinking jesus christ she’s strong. I was 5 at one birth and 6 or 7 at the next. it’s not scary for kids if you prepare them. also probably for eons in some cultures children have been present at family births.
I doubt the kids will actually be in the room the whole time. Kids get bored, scared, restless, and hopefully someone will have the sense to take them out for snacks, so mom can focus. Whatever makes her happy.
Little kids should start with kittens, puppies, or bunnies. Watching mama bleed can be terrifying.
My daughter wanted me to be with her for some of her labor, but wanted the birth itself to be private with her husband. I was a tiny bit sad, but I support their decisions, and understood totally. Lo and behold, it was actually very draining and a bit frightening for me to see my precious daughter in great pain. Her twin sister stayed with her for her second labor, and was exhausted and frightened since it was a very long, difficult birth. I can’t imagine asking your young child to see that!
I’m glad she’s having midwives and doulas, but as always home births make me nervous! You don’t like hospitals, go to a birthing center (preferably connected to a hospital). As someone whose seen the tragedy of pregnancy/birth not ending well why put your wants above that of your unborn children, it’s selfish and gross. Also agree with the sibling thing, childbirth is graphic as someone who passed out at blood no thanks. If you have an older child who is interested and can make the choice for themselves go for it! Or keep them around during the first stages of labor but not for the end and actual birth.
I am with you on home births. When I was pregnant, I was really into having a natural delivery. I had my mind set that I was going to have a water birth. We had a midwife come to our house to go over the set up and birth plan. My husband, who is a surgeon, asked the midwife what would happen if I needed an emergency c -section. She said that in the very rare instance that one was needed that we would have to call an ambulance or that if it couldn’t wait, he would have to perform it. He literally doubled over laughing. The thought of my husband, who hasn’t performed a c – section since med school, cutting me open on the back porch when my water birth failed was enough to snap me right out of that idea. I gave birth in the hospital and ended up needing a c -section. If I ever have another, it will be in the hospital and I will be numb from the waist down as God intended.
LOL as God intended 😀
You know the chances of “needing” a C-Section go up dramatically when you give birth in a hospital.
Giving birth in the US, especially as a black woman, is what’s dangerous. There are lots of problems and complications related to US births in hospitals too as compared other developed nations. For example, supposedly home births and hospital births in Canada have the same safety rates. The issue is the US and our approach to the entire birthing system. As for the kids watching, big deal. My grandpa had to help his mom deliver one of his younger siblings because they were out on a farm in northern MN. Pretty sure it’s only in recent times that we’re so squeamish about kids and sex and birth. All that being said, I don’t like these Insta moms and I’m biased right now against anyone related to Susan Sarandon.
@LDub311 Nope, don’t got there. You are contributing to a dangerous discussion that burned me and several people I know, big time.
I was all onboard the natural birth at a birthing Center and thought the hospital and OBs were out to monetize my birth experience and force me into a c section through unnecessary interventions.
Welp, my dream birth did not go to plan and I was transferred to hospital where I underwent a c section kicking and screaming. After a lot of grief and anger it has only recently sunk into me that the OBs I fought so hard saved the life of me and my child.
Aside from the fact I almost died (from something that would have been picked up and acted on much earlier had I gone through an OB) I wasn’t mentally or emotionally present for the safe arrival of my baby because I had become too consumed with exactly what you just spouted.
Despite what the natural birth industry (and you best believe it’s a huge money-making industry) says, birth is NOT safe. Modern medicine has improved the outcomes so significantly we now take it for granted that it is safe and many women are risking their lives and the lives of their babies by forgoing proper medical attention for this significant medical event.
Please don’t contribute to the idea that hospitals = c section. This kind of conversation leads some moms (like me) to make some dangerous decisions that are not in the best interest of our lives and babies.
Natural “crunchy” mamas – I feel you and the whole business of being born approach did a number on me too but do your research on these natural birth “experts”. You might be surprised by the complete lack of credentials and poor research data. I know I was and I’m kicking myself for not doing my homework earlier – it nearly cost me my life and my baby’s life.
Exactly, I am about to give birth in a couple of days and I would never, ever choose a home birth. First time I also ended up needing emergency C-section. This was due to the baby’s pulse rate (I don’t know it this is the right word, I am not a native speaker of English) falling rapidly. This would probably happen at home as well. Would my daughter have survived this without the C-section? Would she be healthy? This time I will try to have a natural birth, but at the hospital and if anything goes wrong, they will be able to perform the c-section in a matter of minutes. I think this is a responsible choice and honestly, having a home birth is like playing Russian roulette with your child’s health.
Now, I’m Canadian, so it’s possible that the standards are different, but I felt very safe when I attempted to have home births twice. Both times things got the slightest bit dicey (the first labour went on too long and in the second was muconium when my water broke) and the midwives said, “Grab your bag, we’re going to the hospital.” Then they stayed there, providing care, until the birth, at which point it was handed over to an OBGYN. At no point did I fear for my safety or my babies’ safety. They clearly would not take any risks.
The difference is that midwives in Canada (and many other countries besides the US) are licensed, educated, credentialed healthcare providers who maintain relationships with doctors and hospitals. In the US, midwives are largely unregulated, unlicensed, have no education requirements, and are not formally trained. Of course there are exceptions, but most midwives in the US are “lay” midwives. Home births in the US almost uniformly cannot be attended by licensed medical professionals, so doulas and lay midwives with no medical credentials attend.
It’s possible to have a lower-intervention birth safely in the US; women who have low-risk pregnancies can work with nurse practitioners and hospital birthing centers to have a more home-birth-like experience, with the option for immediate transfer to an OB or OR if needed.
I agree with everyone who said above that a homebirth in the US is a selfish idea. So much can go so wrong, so fast, and a hospital is the best place to be if you need quick intervention. Moms and babies died in childbirth for years before modern medicine made it as safe as it is, and thumbing your nose at that fact seems a little like refusing vaccinations to me.
I only let my husband in the room when the nurses and doctor started showing some hostility towards him for not ‘helping’ me. We have a fantastic relationship.
Honestly, I don’t understand why anyone would risk a home birth. It’s a gamble, and the risks are yourself and the child’s life. As a mom of two, who experienced how wrong a labour CAN go (lasting challenges such as a lovely scar on my bladder which was sliced during emergency c-section). I wish everyone would deliver where it is safe, for every possible situation.
Yikes. What a mess
I don’t know, my daughter was present at my home birth but she was in another room for the actual delivery. Labor can be long and boring for kids and just because they are there doesn’t mean they will see everything. Good for her, moving forward with intention and creating a loving support team.
That’s my thing. I’m pregnant now and I have a three-year-old. She would be SO bored watching me and also she doesn’t like when I’m upset, I’m not gonna expose her to labor.
I would never force my small children to watch me give birth. That could be traumatic but it’s her kids. I would also never have a home birth. If I had a home birth my second born would be dead. That’s just the facts. There was an emergency and than god I was in a hospital with all the technology and staff! Too much can go wrong, not for me.
I’d have been dead if I’d birthed at home instead of in a hospital. Baby was fine but the unknown factor was my lack of tissue elasticity. Instead of stretching, I “shredded.” Massive lacerations, severe hemorrhaging, yards of uterine packing, lots of sewing, transfusion, catheterization, and permanent damage to some nether parts.
Good luck to all who do it, but why not assemble the whole home team in a hospital birthing suite so help is at hand?
I planned a home birth with my first. Then my water broke at 36 weeks and I had an emergency c-section. I wasn’t even upset, sometimes you have to be in a hospital to have a baby. I always knew it was a possibility.
Yeah he must’ve messed up pretty bad. You don’t go from hey let’s purposely make a 3rd baby kind of intimacy to you can’t even watch that baby enter the world in less than 9 months. It’s their attitude about the divorce that’s making me more interested, it’s clearly all a bunch of BS. I think he’s kissing her ass trying to make up for something and she has him right where she wants him, and loves that control.
Having a bunch of women help you through labor and delivery is amazing though, good for her, it bonds you in an indescribable way. My sister had a drug free natural labor and her ob/gyn was this younger southern man who shockingly let us do our thing. He came in maybe twice over 12 hours and sat back in a chair almost bored for a few minutes, the nurses and I were kind of rallied around her and he said, “y’all women know what to do so I won’t get in the way, I’m just here to catch the baby at the end”. It was so damn funny to me, at least he knew his place, rare for young white doctor, lol.
Yes! I trained as a doula years ago, before giving birth myself. My birth “entourage” was my MIL, SIL, close friend and husband (with other family elsewhere in the house, holding supportive space). My husband was AMAZING during my laboring process, and having skilled female community around who knew what was going on was so empowering and helpful for me. It seems like so many women have such negative impressions (and/or experiences) of birth that they assume it must always be a terrible and bloody horror show. Reminder- hospital birth functions a certain way for a reason and it has its pros and cons. Homebirth, for those who are good candidates, is not the drama filled, anxiety and terror riddled performance we’ve seen on screens. Being in a birthing space with a naturally progressing labor is an extraordinary experience. There’s a palpable energy in the room.
We were going for a homebirth and, for necessary reasons, transferred to the hospital where I ended up having a c-section. I’m glad the hospital was there for my use when I needed it, but those initial hours laboring at home, in my quiet, cozy, comfortable nest, safely surrounded by community and loved ones, were beautiful and I wouldn’t ever exchange them for a trip directly to the hospital to get hooked up to machines and being surrounded by strangers, no matter how kind or capable.
You know what is fun? When something gets too hard (midwife) you can pass it off to the expert (OB/GYN).
Love that, lol
My first thought was, damn what did he do? I echo the above statements about home births. I worry that an unforseen problem may arise and can’t get the medical help she’ll need.
My husband was on the business end of my childbirth. During the chaos and me being in the moment, I didn’t say anything about it. He didn’t mind and neither did I. What I did mind was everyone wanting to come into the birthing room. I wanted us to have a moment as a new family before everyone intruded.
My sister is a pediatrician who often works in a hospital helping deliver babies. She has seen births go horribly wrong very quickly too many times. Most of the time everything is fine, but if something goes wrong, you often don’t have more than a few minutes to get to the hospital. She as a fun saying, “Home delivery is for pizza and Chinese food, not babies”.
What a great saying. It made me legit laugh out loud and I totally agree with the sentiment.
agreed
I’m thinking she also knows the term “birth plan” is an oxymoron.
It was traumatic for me! I’d have been a happy camper if I could’ve delivered my babies while being in another room down the hall.
Lol! +1
lol me too
Yay. Let’s watch mummy have a port partum haemorrhage!
*sigh* the influencer thing won’t be going away, will it…
and lmao, the 3 year old won’t remember, c’mon.
Her body, her health, her family….all entitle her to whatever decisions she wants to make about her birth plan. And I get sharing that decision with her family and friends. What I don’t understand is why she has to announce it to the public. Did anyone ask her to? Does anyone care? I mean, best of luck and I hope everyone is healthy throughout the process. But I find it odd that it’s “news.”
Agreed – no one needs to know all this. It’s such a weird thing to me, that people feel the need to share stuff like this, or make money off their family and personal lives.
She’s sharing her process. I would imagine other women who are in a similar place would care to hear if they feel empowered by what she is sharing (which seems to be the goal). It would be very easy to feel victimized in this situation “I’m having my third child. I’ll be all alone, without my husband, or worse, have to be supported by my husband even though he’s such a dunce that I finally dumped him right after the pregnancy test.”
Instead, she’s making choices that make her feel good and strong and empowered and she’s sharing those with people who care to listen. That’s not a bad thing.
And if more women/people can continue to shift their terror-based thinking about birthing, that’s not a bad thing, either.
That makes sense to me. I think it would feel weird to have your ex there for such an emotional and vulnerable experience. Fine, come hold the baby once he/she is born and have your moment, but I wouldn’t want him holding my hand or trying to support me when I’ve already emotionally started moving on. Also, his quoting of e. e. cummings in his post to her is ew.
I just can’t with her. Home birth (way too dangerous as many of you have noted already). Kids watching (too traumatic). Photo of her half naked taken by the ex who she won’t allow watch the birth (too TOO)! And a kid named “Major” !!!
It’s not like it’s super rare for things to go wrong. 2/4 women friends of mine who have kids recently had complications. One needed an emergency c-section for her twins. Thank god she was in a hospital. One was having a home birth and something went wrong that deprived her baby of oxygen for several minutes. He has developmental issues now, they’re not nearly as bad as they could’ve been. It’s a miracle that he functions as well as he can. Everyone expected it to be much much worse just based on what usually happens when your baby is deprived of oxygen during delivery for that long. She lives with that guilt everyday though and she had her second baby in a hospital.
I only have one child and I had hemorrhaging after the birth and the doctors and nurses were in a panic trying to get the bleeding to stop, which they eventually did because we were in a hospital.
My mom had 2 kids, she needed a c-section with both of us, and my brother had the cord wrapped around his neck and was losing oxygen so that one was an emergency, we need to get him out NOW kind of c-section.
Women used to die in childbirth ALL THE TIME. Why would you take the risk? And especially why would you have your toddlers watch? Let them watch a dog or a cow give birth if you want them to experience the “miracle of birth.”
A work colleague of mine decided to have a home water-birth with a doula many years ago. Things went horribly wrong and the baby was born dead. She’s never gotten over it. She also had her 2 older kids present for the birth and they were totally traumatized. Last I heard of her the whole family was in therapy. She’s monetizing something that should be kept private and safe.
I had some issue during labor with all three of my kids. The first was a total nightmare (my mom was surprised it didn’t put me off having more) and would’ve resulted in an emergency csection if I wasn’t already there with an anesthesia IV in place. So just a regular csection. The second time, turned out my son had the cord around his neck. It was fine if I was in bed but tightened when I got up. This was only discovered when they came to monitor for any potential uterine rupture because I was going vaginal delivery after a csection. Cord was around my third as well but that was only found when she was being delivered. I went to the hospital as soon as labor started and she was born 20 minutes after I got there. My water not breaking was the only thing that kept her in even that long.
And all three pregnancies were physically a breeze. Not even morning sickness just the usual joint aches and tiredness at points. So that’s no guarantee labor won’t go really wrong.
This woman has always come across as spacey. But I kind of get that the intimacy level between her and the soon to be ex has changed. He will still greet the newborn. He’s not banished entirely.
I can see why a woman might want a home birth. Especially if she’s had two successful births already. I’m just glad mine was in a hospital. I had a doula but as it turns out her job was holding my hand and keeping me sane before an emergency c section because they couldn’t let my husband do that for some reason I don’t know. He was there but not allowed as close as the doula was.
I love that you cover her from time to time! I am oddly curious about this woman’s choices. I tried following her on instagram, but in that large dose it was insufferable. An occasional update on celebitchy is perfect. Obviously she is very strategic about what/when she shares on social media. I wonder when she will roll out the big reveal about what terrible thing happened in her marriage? You know she’s holding that card for a reason.
She will absolutely traumatise those two tiny children for life if they’re in the room to watch her swearing, bleeding, shitting, sweating and eventually forcing a whole human out of her body. Dear God, just don’t do it!
Agreed.
Lots of people talking about “home births so dangerous” and no one is talking about the rising numbers of unnecessary c sections. Yes, things can go poorly at home but the maternal mortality rate in hospitals is also scary high in the US. My aunt homebirthed 4/5 of her kids with no issues and if military health insurance had allowed it, I would have done the same with my two. And would have been fine. That’s some anecdata for the other side.
People are talking about home births in the US being dangerous because they ARE dangerous.
C-sections are not nearly as dangerous as trying to pop out a baby at home with no medical professionals in attendance.
Who is anyone to say if a C-section is “unnecessary” or not? I have friends who’ve had elective C-sections, others who’ve had C-sections due to high risk, and others who’ve had emergency C-sections. Only one of those people had regrets about getting a C-section instead of having a “natural” birth, but hers was an emergency and she had no choice.
I think of C-sections like abortions: if a woman says she needs one, who are we to judge otherwise?
Apparently a lot of people want to live in the Dark Ages with no vaccines and childbirth at home without medical supervision. History will tell you how great those ideas are.
am i the only one that thinks it’s kind of crappy that she isn’t allowing him to see the birth of his own child? i get it. he messed up and she has every right to not be involved with him as a result (in fact, good for her for knowing she deserves better!). but he’s still the father and father’s have rights too. yes, her body…but not her baby. this is their baby. and he can be a liar and a cad but still a good father. i get annoyed when women use access to their kids as a punishment for things that went wrong in their marriage. it’s a cruddy situation all around but for him to miss the birth of his kid is not ok in my book. if he’s a terrible father on top of it…that’s something that needs to be considered but i don’t see that mentioned here.
She’s not denying access to the child, just the birth. According to this article, he’s good with that. And even if he weren’t, too bad. It’s her having the baby and she gets to do it her way.
Once the baby is born, I feel certain her soon to be ex husband will not allow his manly rights to be trampled.
She looks like a Super Karen. No thanks!
Lol! Agreed! I can feel her sucking up all the oxygen and screaming for a manager from here!
Sorry, but I don’t really get this. If he’s a liar and a cad, how can he be a good parent. Sorry, but I’m my view that’s not what good parenting is about.
Having a baby is still a difficult and dangerous thing for a woman’s body to go through, if she doesn’t feel comfortable, he shouldn’t be there.
Lol
I can completely see why she is getting a divorce. She seems vapid, fake and insufferable. I feel for her kids specially the unborn baby. She tries very hard but isn’t very famous or relevant. Can she just go away and focus on her family and herself?
+1.
I couldn’t agree with you more!
Childbirth is hard enough if him not being around will make things less stressful and calm then I don’t see that as a bad thing.
A had my first daughter 11 months ago. Pregnancy was an easy breeze and after delivery I almost bleed to death. Had to go to the icu, received a transfusion. Sorry I can’t get behind home delivery.
Please stop with the Mama thing… it is so tiresome. I’m cranky and crabby and the Mama Schtick is making my skin crawl…
My God! The both of them are insufferable! I actually think they make a perfect couple. Who else would want to put up with them?
While each to her own, I would never have a home birth. I know 3 strong examples why. The first people that I knew who had a home birth, tragically lost their baby to something that could have been easily fixed in the hospital. Other friend hemorrhaged and almost died in the hospital. At home, she surely would have. My sister had a baby with an unexpected syndrome with complications discovered at the hospital and had to be life flighted to the children’s hospital where there was a specialist surgeon.
Women regularly died in childbirth in the past. Why would you choose to ignore modern science that has saved so many babies and mothers?