Myka Stauffer: ‘I am sorry for not being able to tell more of my story’

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In late May, we learned that YouTube celebrities Myka and James Stauffer had “rehomed” their son Huxley. Huxley was their only adopted child. They adopted him from China about three years ago, and Huxley is 4 years old. Myka and James make a lot of money from being “YouTube celebrities” and they had brand endorsements and sponsors and all of that. Plus, Myka is something of an Instagram influencer. The language around a child being “rehomed” was insulting, dangerous and vile, and no one could make any sense out of what actually happened, whether they had put Huxley up for adoption, or whether they simply gave him away to someone (also known as human trafficking). This month, there was a report that Ohio authorities were investigating the issue and trying to locate Huxley. That was the last we heard, that it was all a huge mess and the police were getting involved. Last night, Myka returned to Instagram to post a message:

“This decision has caused so many people heart break and I’m sorry for letting down so many women that looked up to me as a mother,” Myka said, adding that she takes “full responsibility” for the “hurt” she has caused. “I’m sorry for the confusion, and pain I have caused, and I am sorry for not being able to tell more of my story from the beginning. I could have never anticipated the incidents which occurred on a private level to ever have happened, and I was trying my best to navigate the hardest thing I have ever been through.”

The blogger went on to say that she was “naive” about the adoption process and “was not selective or fully equipped or prepared.”

“I can’t say I wish this never happened because I’m still so glad Huxley is here and getting all of the help he needs,” Myka continued. “I also know that even though he is happier in his new home and doing better that he still experienced trauma and I’m sorry, no adoptee deserves any more trauma…I wanted to help so bad I was willing to bring home any child that needed me. For this, I was naive, foolish, and arrogant.”

Myka said that she wishes she had been more prepared, and that she and James never had to make the “decision to disrupt.” Myka added that she respects “every adoptee, adoption parent, and special needs parent” and apologized “for hurting the community in any way.”

She went on to address some rumors that followed her announcement of the adoption dissolution, saying that she and her husband “did not adopt Huxley to gain wealth.”

“While we did receive a small portion of money from videos featuring Huxley and his journey, every penny and much more went back into his care,” she said. “Getting Huxley the care and services he needed was very expensive and we made sure he got every service and resource we could possibly find.”

Myka also said that her family is “not under any type of investigation” by authorities.

“We love Huxley and know that this was the right decision for him and his future,” she concluded. “Praying that Huxley only has the best future in the entire world.”

[From People]

I could write several pages analyzing this text and pinpointing all of the problematic sh-t. But I’ll save most of it. I’d just like to talk about this though: “I am sorry for not being able to tell more of my story from the beginning. I could have never anticipated the incidents which occurred on a private level to ever have happened, and I was trying my best to navigate the hardest thing I have ever been through.” She’s blaming Huxley. That’s it. That’s her story. She’s blaming a 4-year-old child with developmental issues for everything. If only Huxley had been more inspo, if only he had been more like her white children, then maybe she wouldn’t have rehomed him like a puppy. So much of what she says can be boiled down to “how could this happen to ME, a privileged white mommy?”

Also, I’m not going to take her word that she’s not under investigation. I know she’s a rich white mommy and likely a Peak Karen too, but I still want to believe that ALL Delaware cops wouldn’t simply let this go. There is no way the Stauffers’ actions were completely legal and above-board.

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109 Responses to “Myka Stauffer: ‘I am sorry for not being able to tell more of my story’”

  1. Lenn says:

    I am so tired of apologies that are not really apologies, only more excuses.

  2. Bebe says:

    Mommy bloggers are so creepy! I hate, hate, hate all these fake women who say so much yet say nothing at all. But what I really hate is that their hollow words actually appeal to some people.

    This woman is ugly in her soul. Poor Huxley. I hope he is safe.

    • Ai says:

      I 100% agree with you. How and why people give them support that enables this harmful culture of influencers?

    • Basement_Dweller says:

      10000% agree with you.

    • Lenn says:

      Does anyone here follow Rachel Hollis? Suddenly announced her divorce, weeks after a podcast on how they loved making out during quarantine. Not to mention all the marital advice she and her husband charged people for.

      • sassafras says:

        There are big discussions of her hypocrisy elsewhere (not sure I can name the places?) but I’d be happy to snark on her here, as well!

    • minx says:

      Making a living off your kids is disgusting.

    • Va Va Kaboom says:

      Her soul is far uglier than you’d even imagine reading this post. I’ve been following the story from the Stauffer’s first video admitting they got rid of Huxley. I’m going to copy a link to another Youtuber who so succinctly tears this bs apart that I don’t feel like I need to….

      https://youtu.be/3Z8nAIPR2vw

      I know it’s 16 minutes but I promise it’s worth the time

    • kelleybelle says:

      She reminds me of Ivanka Trump. All white teeth, hair, makeup, appearances and performance in front of a camera. Phony as a $3.00 bill.

    • Ellie says:

      It is all SO staged and painful.
      It’s all life hacks and “mommy guilt” and chardonnay and “me time”

      VOM

  3. square_bologna says:

    Gotta love the way she apologizes to the mothers who looked up to her. Because they’re the real victims. 🙄

    • Lucy2 says:

      That jumped out to me too. They probably lost some “fans” and money, that’s what they seem concerned about.

      Why would anybody look up to some random lady on the Internet? Especially one who sells her family for profit?!
      Speaking of, how is she unable to “tell more of her own story“, that’s all she does!

      • Ai says:

        According to many ppl on Twitter that followed this case, this whole fiasco gave them more followers. :(

    • Agirlandherdog says:

      My personal fave was actually when she said she couldn’t have anticipated the sh*tstorm that erupted from a “private” incident. SHE made it public!!

      • Adrianna says:

        What gets me is that she wouldn’t have given away her biological child, but it seems an adopted child is different.

  4. Sean says:

    “I am sorry for not being able to tell more of my story from the beginning”

    Oh honey, you should have never tried to tell your story, period. You just keep making yourself look guilty. You had a chance to let this story die and you and your dolt of a husband may have bee able to squeak by with minimal PR damage. Until the authorities come for you, that is. But no, keep digging yourself into a nice, big hole

    • FHMom says:

      WTF does that even mean? She’s sorry she can’t unload a bunch of reasons so she looks less guilty? Ugh. Garbage person looking to exploit a child for monetary reasons. That’s all I see here.

    • shanaynay says:

      She is a despicable person. How on earth can she even think about telling more of her story? She should be ashamed of herself, and I hope she isn’t allowed to be around anymore babies. I hope she’s never allowed to adopt another baby ever again. She failed as a ‘mom’.!!!

  5. caitlinsmom says:

    Sounds to me like she really is under investigation over how she “re-homed” that poor child. Otherwise, what would be stopping her from telling her side of the story?

    • Jesma says:

      I don’t know about her state, but in Florida where I practice it is very easy to “re-home” your child. All it takes is a one page notarized power of attorney. It is completely legal and permissible in many states.

  6. Chelly says:

    Shes so full of crap. Her viewership skyrocketed & her channel took off BECAUSE of Huxley. Followers PAID for her & hers family’s trip to China & adoption. She got sponsorships & became RICH BECAUSE of Huxley. She flaunts $6000 watches & a $600,000 home but REFUSED & BITCHED to pay for his $75 treatment & was searching for “cheaper options” . She was WARNED by Drs to reconsider adoption as his condition may be too much for her to handle, she REFUSED & baulked at the idea. And yet here she is, still BLAMING HIM & everyone else talking crap about how she spent so much $$ & was misinformed about his condition (s) all along. She makes me sick, her husband is just as gross & I hope their little empire falls…HARD

    • Mirage says:

      Very informative, thank you.
      I’m heartbroken for this little boy.
      I pray that his new family can soothe his pain.

    • Züri says:

      Spot on with all of your comments. Not sure if you noticed, but she “limited” her comments on this IG post and every one was along the lines of “love you!” All of it is heartbreaking and makes me want to vomit at how vile this couple is.

    • holly hobby says:

      Yep she had a chance to stop that adoption. She was told and she still went ahead with it. Baloney she didn’t know.

  7. Ai says:

    Even her BS of an apology is about “HER” with too many “I”s and no where do I see an apology to baby Huxley or a sincere acknowledgement of her failures to him as his parent. She and her husband completely failed him and exploited him for money via their channel. It is her making excuses again. Keep it and goodbye.

    • Hoot says:

      Bingo. Yes, she just needs to shut up for a long time or forever.

    • Lizzie Bathory says:

      It’s awful. I can’t imagine how traumatic this has been for that poor kid. And no mention of the trauma to the other kids of having a sibling “rehomed” due to the parents not wanting to parent him anymore?! Instead, she’s now trading on her “victimhood.” It’s pathological.

  8. Kaiser says:

    whoops, I will fix that

  9. Chaine says:

    Love how she apologizes for not being “selective.” “If only I had picked a better quality of child, I would not have disappointed everyone” 😑 ugh

    • paranormalgirl says:

      Yes! That’s the part that jumped out at me. The narcissism is strong in this one.

    • josephine says:

      That’s what jumped out to me as well, like she should have looked for a group that was only offering perfect, inspo kids who look good on camera. I said it before and I’ll say it again – had this been a bio-kid, it would not have happened. This family is vile. What also stands out is her making sure that we all understand how much this cost them financially – makes me feel like her “losing” money on his care was part of the decision. The 4-year old was apparently not pulling his weight.

      And if any mother is inspired by her, shame on them. Honestly, just shame on them.

    • Green Desert says:

      Exactly. This also stood out to me: “…I wanted to help so bad I was willing to bring home any child that needed me.”

      The white savior aspect is strong here. Helping and saving aren’t good or healthy reasons to adopt. I think this highlights some of the issues with transracial adoption. Do you want to build a family and love a child regardless of race while also educating yourself about race and learning how to honor your child’s background? Great. But if you’re not capable of that, support adoption organizations but do not become an adoptive parent yourself.

    • Sorella says:

      Me too – that really jumped out to me ! What a horrible thing to say!!

    • Marigold says:

      Yes. “Selective.” What?! You didn’t get to “select” your biological children. We don’t get to “select” our children like something off of a menu. When you bring a child into your home, there is no option list, no program package to stew over. There is a new human being under your care and protection.

      I cannot fathom it. I really can’t.

      I’ve sympathized in the past with adoptive parents who bring in an older child who is violent and threatens the lives of the other children in the home. In those situations–and those ONLY–where protecting other children in your care dictates separation, I support finding a safe place for the troubled child to receive care outside of the adoptive home.

      That isn’t what this was. This was a boy who didn’t fit her Instagram image…so she bailed on him. That isn’t okay, and I’ve never commented on this story, but “selective?!” That poked my heart.

  10. Jessica says:

    They live in Ohio near Columbus. Delaware is the name of a county in Ohio.

    Nothing will redeem these people. There are too many receipts out there proving that they embarked on this whole adoption purely for YouTube clout and money. Everything they’re about makes my skin crawl.

    • CheeseHeadz55 says:

      Agree! Also, did everyone catch that these people went to Bali a few weeks after giving Huxley up? It is sickening and makes me ill just to hear about it. She is vile and her husband is no different. The day the video was release he ordered hundreds of detailing brushes from Lily Brushes to resell. He didn’t waste anytime trying got exploit the situation. He went on trying to sell brushes and she posted videos as if nothing happened. For the record, Huxley was given up approximately 4-5 months before their video confirming he was “rehomed’. Let that sink in.

      • CheeseHeadz55 says:

        Also, they are profiting off the channels that are making advertisement money from videos on this subject matter. The Stauffers are claiming copyright and still making a profit from it. Watch the first few seconds of Live Abuse Free it is a video, that tells how they are profiting from YouTubers who speak on the matter.

        https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UYO2M1yNAPE

      • Züri says:

        I’m glad someone else saw the Bali trip and noticed that they waited a long time to make their horrifying announcement! I mentioned it in comments on an earlier post. The optics are sooo bad and her captions (I believe one is, ‘I didn’t realize how much I needed this”) are so indicative of her narcissism.

  11. Giegie says:

    This useless person and her milquetoast husband needs to throw themselves off a cliff.

  12. Diana says:

    What on earth could a 4 year old child do that was so awful??????? He’s a baby for god sakes and she abandoned him. What an absolutely vile human being!!!

    • Angel says:

      @diana that’s also what I’m wondering. Kids fool around and are even very violent with each other. There is no way a 4 yo would do something so serious that their parent would want to give him up. I actually used to watch her YouTube channel and I always thought that she was a great mom, very maternal. But she never loved him they way she loves her bio kids.

      • Jesma says:

        I don’t excuse her behavior at all. She should never have taken him in if she wasn’t willing to keep him. I can tell you at an attorney for kids that abused 4 year olds can do plenty of things that would scare pre-adoptive parents. I have many clients that at 4 and 5 sexually/physically abuse other kids, set fires, and harm or kill family pets. Most of this kids get sent right back into foster care. I also have clients that were adopted when they were young and then become violent when mental illness manifests in their teens. Once they start abusing other kids in the home or on a few occasions stabbing their adoptive parents they get returned back to the state. Once back in care they are extremely hard to place.

    • BearcatLawyer says:

      He cost too much money and was not bringing in enough clicks for her “brand.”

    • Mira says:

      I get the feeling that she’s trying to say Huxley was violent towards the other children without actually saying so. Maybe I’m just imagining things but that’s what I’m reading between the lines.

      Whatever the case is, she’s a soulless monster.

  13. AmyB says:

    I had honestly never ever heard of this horrid woman before this scandal. After I did, I saw a few of her vomit-inducing videos (which I could only watch for merely a few minutes) and I watched a few other YouTubers speak more in depth about this horrible tragedy. This woman is a classic narcissist who used that little boy for money. Plain and simple. Then when shit got real, they gave him away, probably causing all kinds of emotional trauma to him. And as others have said, I don’t buy for a minute that this case isn’t still under investigation. This selfish, POS woman, and her equally horrible husband (I will leave her other innocent kids of out this) need to be cancelled immediately from YouTube. I don’t want to hear another completely fabricated “explanation” for her disgusting behavior, which shows NO self-awareness nor accountability for her actions. It simply, once again, places blame upon a 4 year old autistic boy with developmental disabilities.

    SHAME ON YOU MYKA STAUFFER!!!

    • Jaxonmeh says:

      The way Myka is stripping monetization of others Commentary videos to try and keep people from hearing criticism is also interesting.

      As Amy said below on my comment…Without a Crystal Ball on YouTube is providing interesting deep dive commentary on this. Take a look if you want more info. It’s insane.

      • AmyB says:

        @Jaxonmeh – yes. I never listened to her videos before (Without a Crystal Ball). She’s good. And even though she is obviously digging up tons of dirt on Myka and her husband, she still maintains, what I think is, a very objective perspective. In that, she isn’t just trashing her. She is providing tons and tons of content to support the things she says. It is really mind blowing what this family did IMO. And who Myka really is. Hope to God she really does get cancelled completely. And I pray that little boy finally finds a family who will love and treat him well, and help him heal from this horrible trauma.

      • Rae says:

        Off to watch now!

  14. Jaxonmeh says:

    If you’re really interested in this and want to go down some deep rabbit holes, so many YouTube gossip channels are really going in on the Stauffers brand in detail. They use Myka’s own video in some cases, supposed friend and neighbor testimonials in others, as well as other supposed receipts. It’s a train wreck. And its horrific. My opinion is they are scam artists and got caught up in trying to make a name for themselves. And made some terrible choices to support their lifestyle. Hopefully Huxley recovers from this.

    • AmyB says:

      @Jaxonmeh YES – that is what I did! I posted above ^^^^ I had never heard of this horrible woman and did then watch some YouTubers – Without a Crystal Ball is one that has a ton of info on Myka. Like interviews with people who knew her before who all claim she was obsessed with fame and money, the pregnant nurse Myka “assaulted” (yes, that’s right I said assaulted – as in she pushed a med cart into an 8 month pregnant co-worker and it settled out of court LOL) and all other kinds of crap! It is frightening really! That’s why I said this woman and her husband need to GTFOH and be cancelled from YouTube completely!!! They used that little boy for money PERIOD. Then gave him back like a damn puppy or something. Shudders me to think about it, especially b/c I am a mother! You are correct @Jaxonmeh, I believe they are scam artists as well. They just got caught and can’t seem to make this train wreck go away.

      • Jaxonmeh says:

        Yeah Without a Crystal Ball has some amazing commentary. People are coming out of the woodwork to talk to her. None of it’s flattering and too many people are saying the same things.

  15. Purple prankster says:

    From what I know of U S adoption laws, the Stauffers actions were completely legal and above board. I am sure they will face no legal consequences.

    • Kkat says:

      It’s how she has “re-homed” him that is under investigation. You can’t just pass off a kid, that’s human trafficking

  16. Cj says:

    Did I miss a thing? Did she not tell her story from the start with the word “rehomed?” Was that not her flipping story?!

    So basically she said rehomed because she sees child adoption the same way she’d view a puppy, assumed all white people thought the same way she did so she never questioned using the word, and now she’s back-pedalling so hard she’s like a reverse Lance Armstrong.

    And it is her fault. Because I don’t even work in PR, and I know a statement about how he needed 1-1 attention they couldn’t provide with their kids, giving him the best life and care so he gets what he needs, putting him first this way is a WHOLE LOT better than “we rehomed him tee hee”

    No you told your story. You just regret everyone discovering you’re terrible.

  17. Chickaletta says:

    No one under the age of 16 should be allowed to participate or be featured in sponsored or ad supported content on YouTube or Insta. Parents are putting their kids out there for a revenue stream, for the world to see, when those children may be unwilling or too young to understand, and it’s not okay.

    • FHMom says:

      I agree. It’s child exploitation. It should be illegal.

    • lucy2 says:

      I agree. I hate this trend, of people using their family to make money, putting their kids online and destroying their privacy, all for fame and attention and cash. It’s so wrong. The kids aren’t old enough to understand it fully.

  18. Allie says:

    Huxley is not being exploited anymore by that family. I wish other outlets would respect his privacy and stop using his images or at least blur him out.

  19. Lady D says:

    If you clk on the top picture, it identifies her as Gwyneth Paltrow. LOL

  20. Dizzy says:

    Boy, I’m glad there are strict guidelines and laws around adoption in my country. It’s not a whim to adopt a child. You got to be prepared for the best and the worst to happen, just like with a biological child. This is the same as giving up on your biological child. There’s no difference.

  21. Case says:

    This is such a non-apology. Is it just me or apologies getting worse and worse these days? She’s not sorry about how she and her husband treated and then abandoned Huxley. She’s sorry they weren’t see as the victims; that people cared more about the wellbeing of the child than their idiot selves, and that they’re losing sponsorship deals because of it.

    This story continues to make me so angry. She wasn’t “selective” enough, lol. People naturally have children with special needs all the time. They don’t “select” that life, but when people choose to become parents they accept that the child may have difficulties — physical, mental, or otherwise — that they’ll need to help them navigate.

  22. Abby says:

    If only she had been more “selective”……….yiiiikkikes.

  23. Teebee says:

    If you get a chance, watch Far From the Tree. There is a story of a severely autistic boy that is both tragic and powerfully uplifting.

    The most incredible moment is when he is finally able to communicate that he knows exactly what is going on around him but doesn’t know how to let everyone know that he knows. Sorry this is so inarticulate… but he wants those around him to know he’s smart, he is aware, but that he doesn’t know how to control his body. And that is the breakthrough about autism that I took away. It is horrible that people with autism have thoughts and emotions and potential the same as everyone else, but are unable to control and express themselves physically.

    It will take an amazingly patient and understanding world for Huxley to learn to realize his potential and worth. But all I can hope is that he truly has been given the chance. There is absolute risk that he is very aware that his adoptive mother has abandoned him, and he will carry that with him forever. But I do hope he has access to the resources he needs to overcome his disability and have the life he deserves.

    Autism is so misunderstood. It takes a lifetime of love and support to navigate. This woman gave up on someone who did not deserve it. She has continued to perpetuate the myth that autistic people are too much trouble, that they are lesser than. I doubt she sees it that way. She is too wrapped up in her own selfish needs and comfort. This whole situation has so many layers of awfulness it’s almost incomprehensible.

    • Your cousin Vinny says:

      Great recommendation, thank you for you thoughtful comments.

      Here’s to a kinder, more empathetic world.

    • Sam the Pink says:

      That reminds of Rick Hoyt, who has cerebral palsy. His parents were told for years that he was a vegetable who could not understand what was going on around him and encouraged them to put him in an institution, and his parents fought against it for years because they believed Rick was cognizant. And when the means finally became available for him to communicate, turns out he was actually extremely intelligent and aware and totally capable of communicating.

      I feel so bad for Huxley because autism doesn’t mean he is not aware of how his parents felt about him. The husband in particular seemed to have disdain for him – he complained that Huxley would watch him eat, among other things. He probably knew he was not wanted, and he’s going to live with that forever. Even if he has an amazing family (and I hope he does now), those scars will remain. Poor boy.

  24. This woman makes me physically ill. There should be a warning before every post. “Your lunch will come out of your body, one way or another”

    My 10 year old niece has gotten into the habit of saying “ewwwww she/he is so gross!” We tell her that in this family we don’t talk about people like that. But in this case, Mia, let it out baby girl!

    I have Nothing smart to say that hasn’t already been said.

  25. Sam the Pink says:

    More selective? Really? They (since her husband was in on this too) intentionally set out to pick a special needs child. They were warned by multiple people about it. They were discouraged from doing it. They pressed on anyway, then changed their minds.

    I could muster a bit of sympathy if they were lied to – if they believed their son was not special needs and then he was, and they were caught unprepared. That is not this case. I watched a whole video from a Youtuber called Alex Jayne, who actually was adopted from China – she did a whole interview with her mom, who talked about the process and how even she, who was labelled a “healthy” baby, came with attachment issues and developmental delays – not because of any disease, but simply by virtue of being abandoned and then placed in an overwhelmed orphanage system. She also pointed out that parents are asked constantly exactly what their limits are, what special needs involves, etc. There is no way Mika did not know what she was walking into. And if he has such issues, why did they keep him for 2 years?

  26. Mumbles says:

    My first concern is for this little boy, that he get the attention and services he needs, finds a loving home, and that any psychic damage of being passed around like a re-gift be minimal in the long run.

    Then I hope this story causes law enforcement to look at these loose, unregulated adoptions and crack down on them. I don’t know if it’s still true but years ago these monsters were using Yahoo chat boards to give away adopted kids they had tired of.

  27. Dragonlady Sakura says:

    She acted like Huxley was a damn shirt and she had a receipt for him. You don’t get to rehome your children once you adopt, it’s your child! WTF?!

  28. Mabs A'Mabbin says:

    I read her comments with Snow White’s voice in my brain. The 1930′s version. You know, if you accidentally pricked her, she’d be launched into a frenzied air release dance then an empty meat sack would drop with a shplud.

  29. Amelie says:

    How à propos! I literally just went down a small rabbit hole on Youtube watching videos from other people. A lot of what I learned is alleged so I am not saying anything I’m about to mention is real and some other comments above have already talked about some of the stuff I learned. And man, if any or all of it is real, Myka and James are two pieces of work who don’t deserve to be parents. Supposedly the nurse who Myka assaulted at a nursing home came forward to talk about Myka’s brief time working as a nurse (this is when she was allegedly still married to her first husband so James was not yet in the picture) and just how unqualified and terrible she was as a nurse. This woman wouldn’t do something Myka wanted her to do because it went against the rules so Myka shoved this woman who was 7 months pregnant with a medical cart. If that is true, it just shows how narcissistic this woman is.

    Other rumors out there include how Myka has a habit of rehoming things, including various pets over the years. Screenshots of Myka’s posts in adoption groups on Facebook have circulated highlighting how she kept asking about special needs children and what kind of conditions were easier to manager than others. The screenshots included queries even after Huxley came home with them and they were considering a second adoption for awhile. Some of the posts are alarming–you can tell she is in over her head dealing with Huxley’s needs and constantly talks about Huxley’s hoarding and food habits and apparently how he always stared at people eating and constantly wanted food. And when they finally gave Huxley away, supposedly Myka never planned on telling the world that they had gotten rid of Huxley and kept deleting comments and blocking subscribers who kept asking about them. He supposedly had become an inconvenience and wasn’t cooperating with filming or making enough money for her channel. They only made the video announcing he had been given to another family on the advice of their manager who crafted a statement for them.

    One of the biggest things I never understood (I occasionally watched the Stauffers’s channel before this news hit the media) was why Myka chose to have ANOTHER bio kid when Huxley needed so much help and dedication. That was a huge red flag to me. She already had 3 bio kids and Huxley, wasn’t that enough?!?!

    However there is some good news–supposedly a reporter was contacted by multiple sources saying Huxley is safe with his new family and in a foster to adopt situation. So it seems the new family will end up adopting him hopefully. Also I don’t think the Stauffers will ever be able to vlog again. Their family channel has been deleted from Youtube and I doubt they will ever be able to welcomed back into the fold.

    • Lea says:

      Your comment broke my heart. Her triggers were that he was hoarding stuff, always wanted food and stared at people eating ? That poor baby came from an orphanage ! It was her job to make sure he felt secure enough to stop hoarding, to realize that there would always be enough food for him. As for staring at people eating, every child does that and who cares ?
      She doesn’t seem like a very tolerant person.

      • Diana says:

        Hoarding and staring….. he’s only 4! She’s a monster.

      • Tiffany :) says:

        Yes, it sounds like he was suffering trauma from previous food deprivation and insecurity! My heart goes out to him.

    • Ames says:

      It’s fairly obvious at this point that Stauffer wanted a child “special” enough to be a compelling internet draw, but not so “special” that it might inconvenience her in any way.

    • CuriousCole says:

      It’s common for orphans to hoard food and/or have a food fixation for a few years post-adoption. It’s due to previous trauma and food insecurity. They are unbelievably soulless to complain about him wanting food. It really demonstrates how much love and reassurance he WASN’T getting from them. I hope they don’t make another dime off this sweet child.

  30. Suzy S says:

    How can authorities not know where he is? Wouldn’t this couple tell them? Something is weird about this whole situation. Plus I can’t believe it is legal in the US to simply “rehome” children??? Disgusting

    • Sam the Pink says:

      It’s legal through a loophole. They are not signing over their legal rights most of the time, they are executing what is called a guardianship Power of Attorney. Here’s how it works:

      Guardianship POAs have value. They are designed to allow another person to care for your child when you might not be able to. Let’s say you a single parent to a young child and maybe you need to go away for a while, maybe to rehab for a few months. Well, if you are the sole decision maker for your child, you will need to appoint somebody who can make decisions for them while you’re gone. You would execute a Guardianship POA to another person, giving them guardianship authority over the child. This allows them to do things like medical decisions for the child, education related matters, etc. It allows them to step into your place until you return. They are also used in the military, etc. The problem is that while most parents use them for a short amount of time – weeks to months – they can be permanent.

      Once a child is adopted in the US, the law recognizes no difference between an adopted and a biological child. Huxley is not an “adopted child” under the law. He’s their son. If they wanted to formally cede their parental rights, there would have to be a hearing to do so. Parental rights can only be formally terminated by a judge. It’s possible they are doing this and the records are sealed (as many family cases are), but you’d think somebody would have been able to find something. Also, that is not a quick process – it would involve multiple parties, testing, assessments, etc. That makes me think they just did the POA.

      AS you can see, the POA system is rife for abuse. Most people do not misuse it, but when it is misused, it creates horrible cases. The easy answer would be to enforce time limits on them – that guardianship POAs cannot be permanent or durable. There are also other ways, like mandated reporting, etc.

      Another issue is that there is no federal oversight on these matters. Child welfare is relegated to each state to create a policy of their own. That means the US has over 50 patchwork systems, and if a child is moved between states, neither system may catch it.

      • Ames says:

        Rife for abuse, indeed. Because this is SOOO not what a childcare POA is for.

        I would think, at the very least, a court would feel obliged to step in and appoint a guardian, rather than allowing the Stauffers to send the kid home with friends like party leftovers.

      • goofpuff says:

        wow ripe for …. human trafficking of minors :(

  31. adastraperaspera says:

    She and her husband should have to take every penny generated from videos, images, and interviews with Huxley in them and place that money in a trust for his education and care. Children featured in these “family blogs” don’t have to sign contracts and model releases like child actors. So they’re free child labor–it’s wrong.

  32. Gretchen says:

    She’s so full of it. The phrase that jumped out the most to me was the “decision to disrupt”, “disruption” is straight out of those somehow barely legal message boards and online groups where people trade or give away their adopted kids. It’s disgusting. Apparently if you keep the “disruption” in-state it is totally legal and requires no notification of authorities. They know the language, they know the legal loopholes, they are going to get away with this with no legal consequence. I only hope the sponsorships and endorsements stay gone and their followers see them for what they are. My heart breaks for Huxley and all the other kids who are traded around like broken toys.

    • Ames says:

      I saw “disruption” and thought, hmm, what’s up with that? Thanks for explaining it.

      Kinda makes you wonder how often this happens. It’s … I have no words for how icky and sad I feel right now.

    • goofpuff says:

      human trafficking message boards!! That makes me sad and so angry.

    • Kk2 says:

      I don’t think the term Itself a problem. It’s a commonly used term in the child welfare arena (which I worked in for years)- disrupted adoptions and disrupted placements (for non adoptive) are what the professionals call it when a child has to leave a placement whether child’s decision (for teenagers) or caregivers. International adoptions can be very sketchy. These people should not have been approved. We saw many disrupted adoptions out of Russia in particular- often kids with special needs and parents with mental health issues that should not have made it through screening. And there is often little support from private adoption agencies after the adoption. Anyway, I hope this kid is better off and also hope her kids are handling it ok because that’s a weird situation for them too.

      • Gretchen says:

        True, the term is used in professional welfare circles but it has been widely adopted by folks who have adopted internationally and decide they no longer want the child. Seeing as she went on message boards like those looking for advice on which disabilities “look bad but are actually easy to deal with”, I’m guessing she picked up the vocabulary there rather than any official child welfare channels. Knowing she hung out on those boards is why it raised a huge red flag for me. It’s not so much the term itself but who is using it and in what context. These *ssholes use it for a gloss of respectability, their adoption wasn’t “disrupted”, they had buyers remorse when they realized he was an actual person whose needs didn’t fit into their inspo life. They absolutely have the resources they need to care for him, they just don’t want to.

  33. Geeena says:

    she just disgusts me. at this point i can’t even snark on her delusions, lies, and exploitation (and dehumanizing rejection) of a disabled poc child.

  34. Vanessa says:

    What this woman did is inexcusable her and husband brought a child into their home to gain more followers and more money revenues to their channel . And now that their actions have real life consequences to their means to make money they want to try to fix their tarnished reputation by claiming the child had Behavior issue they couldn’t handle it they only adopted him to make themselves look good.

  35. Ames says:

    Her open implication that there’s some big deep, dark, dangerous, scandalous THING perpetrated on her natural family by this irredeemably damaged interloper over whom she had no control but did her very, very, pinky-swear, white lady best ………

    HE IS A FOUR YEAR OLD CHILD.

    And that whole “yeah, we made a little money off of him, but we spent way more taking care of him, soooo …” is F***ING VILE. What does she want, a f***ing cookie? FOR TAKING CARE OF HER CHILD ??!

    I see the weird, awkward, “ugh … do I have to actually TOUCH him?” photos of this soulless b*tch with that little boy, and my heart hurts so much for this little boy. He didn’t ask for any of this.

    • Sam the Pink says:

      They are trying to imply that he was some kind of monster who made them unsafe in their home. I have a very hard time believing that, because nothing betrays that in their social media. You mean he was an awful, violent child but could pose for those beautiful curated pictures? His siblings could be in the same shot as him without issue? I find it tough to accept that he was SO AWFUL that the only option was to remove him yet he could present so well to the outside world. Is she trying to imply this child is basically a sociopath?

      • Case says:

        Same here. I have a relative with autism, and he has a lot of needs. He’s non-verbal, has anger issues, etc. He’s so loved and well-cared for by his parents. Based on everything I saw of Huxley, he was nowhere NEAR that level in terms of his issues (which I realize are hard to analyze on screen, but still). Myka said he would clean up after himself, play with his siblings, snuggle with his parents, etc. He sounded quite high-functioning with some manageable behavioral and developmental issues. My relative has never been able to do any of those things, even as a young adult.

  36. Sorella says:

    I don’t understand how she still has 202K followers. Like people still continue to follow people (Jessica Mulroney too only lost 10K on her 400k). I am SO TIRED of all these influencers and wish that job would fade away, that there were laws against using your children and family life as your business model and profit. WHY DO PEOPLE continue to follow ? Do they not understand that # of followers, hits ect. = money for them!! Ignore them and unfolllow!!

    I noticed she shut down the comments on her IG – coward. What I am really hoping for is that their whole business flops and they have to get REAL jobs

    • Belly says:

      She bought them. It’s easy to do. Apparently if you know how to read the stats from social blade it’s pretty obvious (I don’t).

      Her latest attempt to justify herself, it turns my stomach. She was whining about the cost of his speech pathology wearing a $6k bracelet…. bitch please. The ‘small portion’ of money they received from exploiting him was a VERY large portion actually, and very much did not go into his care.

      God she’s vile. Has been for a very long time.

      She went beserk and assaulted a former co-worker when she was still employed as a nurse. Myka messed up and gave a narcotic to the wrong patient, and rather than own up to it, tried to cover it up. She asked a co-worker to sign the wastage form for it, and when they refused to without seeing it, per protocol, she went off and shoved a heavy trolley into her pregnant co-worker. Google ‘Myka Bellisari nurse’, you’ll find the court docs.

      She is a gaping, sucking vortex of narcissism playing pretend on youtube. Unfortunately there are still enough suckers willing to believe her BS to encourage her, apart from the bought ones, that is.

  37. TyrantDestroyed says:

    So I read it as: I’m sorry I was too nice to bring this child to America but hey at least he is here, please hit the like button”
    Save your angel white tears Karen because you and your partner are still trash, now go away to find real jobs and stop milking your family and innocent kids.
    This couple and her cult followers are vile and disgusting.

  38. Mina_Esq says:

    This whole situation still makes my blood boil. These people are grotesque. She needs to stop blaming the innocent child and alluding to “something” having happened to change everything. He is 4. She was supposed to be a parent. She failed.

  39. Egla says:

    Ok so I had a guy at work. He has a son who is non verbal and other issues that I don’t know the name. He also has two younger daughters. They have no problems. They use to send him in a special school and therapy and they basically spent all their money on him. Had to stop when the doctors told them that he wasn’t having any improvement or changes in behavior. His wife is a teacher. Basically during the week he would stay home as she worked and he would work a 48 h shift in the weekend and she would stay home. They couldn’t leave him alone because he would binge eating, break things and get violent while playing with his sisters. They are much younger and he can’t handle them. Last time I saw him he was 1.75 m and 100 kg at 15 years old. My colleague confessed me with tears in his eyes that they would eventually had to put him in an institution and that it would be the death of him as he loved to have his family around. The problem was that physically they couldn’t restrain him much longer when he had tantrums. I went to their house once and saw they had very few furniture. They explained to me that he would break everything when he had one of his episodes. That year he had broken 3 Tv and all the windows in the apartment. That’s when I really realized how serious it was. Up until then I thought it was something manageable. I told my colleague that he needed to think about contacting the authorities (it takes time to find a place in those institutions in my country). Last time I heard they had sent him in one but only part time in order to see if there was anything they could do to manage him better at home. But they know his future will be there as they get older. Still…his wife didn’t speak to him for a week when they first sent him there. It took 4 men and those two to put him in the car and out of it. And the boy cried all the time he was left there. They had dozens of books about his condition and always searching (as much as they could with limited resources) to find therapies for him.
    My colleague had a dream to have a big house with a big room for him and with a big yard for him to spend the day outside as he liked it. He was seriously considering moving to a remote village when his second daughter was born but they had to think about them too.
    What I want to say is they did and still are doing EVERYTHING they can for their son and when he hugs them once in a blue moon it’s like the biggest reward for them. They know now how dangerous he can be because he can’t control himself and still are trying thei best to keep him home.

    These people here were never parents to that little boy. They shouldn’t have been allowed to adopt at all. My gut feeling is they didn’t try hard enough with him. He wasn’t the little perfectly cute boy they hoped. My only hope is that the boy may receive the best help now and some love why not. Hope he truly is with a loving family but I bet he is put in an institution.

    • Jesma says:

      Egla that is so sad for your coworker. He has to protect his other kids too. It does seem like they tried everything, unlike these terrible people.

  40. MomsStinkEye says:

    That poor boy has been completely erased from her instagram. Maybe I didn’t scroll back long enough? Couldn’t stomach any more.

  41. Elizabeth Rose says:

    So I watched this documentary the other day in YouTube and was absolutely appalled and disturbed at lack of review or accountability people receive for adopting overseas. The doc was about a boy named Moses who was adopted from Africa and his adoptive parents claimed all these things about him and then basically found someone via Craig’s list to give him away to. He was initially adopted in Canada I believe and then given to a woman in the US. It was absolutely appalling and I suspect the adoptive parents were actually abusing him and wanted to cover it up. So gross. Anyway the doc exposed a huge underbelly of what is essentially human trafficking. People were literally “rehoming” kiss on the Internet. I think Craig’s list got shut down for doing that but they suspect that now that kind of sh*t is just going on in the dark net. It’s creepy AF.

  42. L4frimaire says:

    What a vile person and I hope social services checks in on this child and where he ended up. I just can’t wrap my head around this at all.

  43. JennEricaMS says:

    So something like this happened in one of my mom groups about a year ago and it has me wondering if it’s not a similar situation here. The people I’m referring to adopted a little girl who they later discovered suffered from RAD. They made a similar decision to find another family because it was claimed to be in the best interest of the child. I was always skeptical but the reasoning (and I’m certain I’m oversimplifying this) was that the little girl resented the adoptive parents on a deep, subconscious level and blamed them for taking her from the orphanage, which was the first time she ever experienced stability and had her needs met. According to the first adoptive family, she refused to allow herself to bond with them, especially the mother, and viewed the family that she was later placed with as rescuing her from them. The caseworker and adoption officials all agreed it was the best move for the little girl but that’s coming from the first adoptive mom so who knows what the real story is. I know that it’s probably much more likely that they’re horrible people who wanted to gain fame and profit off of this little boy’s adoption but i have to ask if anyone knows more about RAD who thinks that could be what happened with this situation?

  44. Jesma says:

    You actually can in many states. All you need is a power of attorney. Unfortunately no court involvement or home study is needed.

  45. H Loved says:

    So now I know about this story because youtube recommended some vids to me,
    and besides all the terrible things related to this story, how they adopted the boy for views, etc.,

    apparently this woman actually ATTACKED HER 7 MONTH PREGNANT COWORKER by ramming her with a cart.

    A lot of neighbours/aquaintances/friends of family have endless stories of catching this woman in her constant lies and schemes to profit off others.

    Hope I havent posted this comment too late for people to see it.

  46. H Loved says:

    ^to clarify, police reports were made of Myka Stauffer attacking the heavily pregnant coworker.

  47. Laura says:

    She’s horrible and is blaming Huxley for being too difficult.

  48. Minorbird says:

    “I’m sorry for not being more selective”

    she is horrible and actually sees nothing wrong with any of this.

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