British people are mad that Duchess Meghan released a statement about the funeral

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It was perfectly clear that the Duchess of Sussex would have liked to come back to the UK for Prince Philip’s funeral. She probably would have if she wasn’t so pregnant, although there seem to be people in the UK who think that Meghan’s third trimester is all just some ruse, I guess. So Meghan made sure that people knew she would have liked to be there and she also let people know that she and Harry arranged for their own wreath to be featured along with wreaths from the rest of the family. And Meghan, with her impeccable handwriting, even wrote a note for the wreath. All in all, I think that was the classiest way for Meghan to do it in her particular situation. Meghan also wanted people to know that she was watching the funeral, and that she sent the note and the wreath:

In California, Meghan issued a press release to announce that she was watching the funeral from home. It was sent out by her and Harry’s ‘Global Press Secretary’ and read: ‘I can confirm that The Duchess will be watching from home as she was hopeful to be able to attend, but was not cleared for travel by her physician at this stage in her pregnancy.’

It raised eyebrows in royal circles after it made great play of describing how Harry and his grandfather ‘hold a unique connection in their shared active service – including in combat – as part of the British Armed Forces’.

It went on to list Harry’s achievements in his ten-year military career, including two tours of duty on the front line in Afghanistan. However Prince Andrew also enjoyed a 21-year military career and fought in the Falklands War.

The announcement struck another slightly jarring note by noting the wreath the Sussexes laid for Philip in St George’s Chapel – and including a heavy plug for its maker. Buckingham Palace had declined to discuss floral tributes from members of the Royal Family, saying they were ‘personal and private’.

[From The Daily Mail]

Of course people are mad. How dare Meghan… send a wreath and tell people about it? How dare she issue a statement saying that she was watching the funeral? I mean, on one side, I do think it was a bit heavy-handed from Meghan, a little bit too earnest and extra. But on the other side, I understand why she issued confirmations about everything, so there would be no misinformation, and royal reporters wouldn’t make up some story about “Meghan hated Prince Philip and she didn’t even watch the funeral and she spat on the wreath!” She was trying to act preemptively to avoid all that and now British outlets are mad that they can’t run *those* stories.

Omid Scobie shrugged off complaints about Meghan’s statements about the wreath and all of that. He told The HeirPod that she “did her bit” and “Of course the Sussexes were represented in full at the funeral. A wreath was provided by both Harry and Meghan and laid for the Duke of Edinburgh that was handmade by a florist that they’d used for Archie’s christening at Windsor Castle, and for the evening reception at Frogmore Gardens – again something that took place at Windsor.”

As for all of the weird energy around “Meghan will be mad that Harry is speaking to his brother and sister-in-law,” I honestly think Meghan and Harry both know their marriage is a lot stronger than people realize. Harry speaking to Will & Kate isn’t a betrayal, it actually shows his maturity and the emotional distance he’s gotten from that toxic family.

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  1. Case says:

    I honestly don’t think it’s too earnest or extra for her to disclose how she’d be participating remotely in the ceremony. It was good that she let it be known 1) she wasn’t cleared to travel and 2) she honored him as best she could while staying home. Otherwise the headlines would’ve been “Meghan Sends Harry to Fend for Himself!” and “Meghan Hated Philip, Refused to Attend Funeral!”

    And yeah, I think they have a very solid marriage. Him making nice with Will and Kate for a few minutes isn’t a betrayal to Meghan. You can not get along with someone and still be civil at a funeral. There was a funeral in my own family where two siblings weren’t speaking under normal circumstances but came together for the family during that brief time. It didn’t change anything between them; it was just the appropriate thing to do in the moment.

    • Elizabeth Regina says:

      It was not too extra or earnest at all. She made what she did and would be doing to support her family known in plain language rather than hide behind leaks, briefings, ‘friends of’ and sources etc I love that she is not dumbing down herself anymore. The BM and racist members of the public hate her anyway so she might as well be her authentic self. She does not need them to eat or exist. She is self made with her own voice and agency, so good for her!

    • Amy Bee says:

      @Case: I agree with you. If Meghan was there, she would have been cordial as well. Harry didn’t betrayed her, he showed the same class they displayed at the Commonwealth Day service.

      • BothSidesNow says:

        @ Amy Bee, isn’t that always the manner in which Harry and Meghan behave? We can always count on them being the mature and cordial people in the room, or the country for that matter, while the others continue to attack and smear them both no matter the circumstances. I think that Meghans press release was well worded and well intentioned and she knows that no matter what she does or says, they will blast her.
        As for the wreath, I personally was extremely touched by how far Meghan and Harry went about selecting the flowers and the meaning behind each and every flower and it’s importance to represent Prince Phillip in such a touching and moving way. They are certainly two very well headed and certainly maintain a strong marriage and relationship. I am in awe of them both, but mostly Meghan.

    • GrnieWnie says:

      exactly, she has to let it be known because otherwise, the media will accuse her of ignoring it all. This is her attempt to at least provide an alternative narrative to the media. Otherwise, there’s none and the media just imagine whatever without challenge–which has been her whole point all along!

      The other thing is I love how they “raise eyebrows” at the mention of Harry’s shared experience with active duty. Don’t they get that this is the thing that average people RELATE to? This is the link that makes the royals actually representative of the UK? When they participate ACTIVELY in combat, they are SHARING the experience of the people of Britain. If anything, they should be featuring this in their dealings with the public but instead they’re all, “Harry’s just trying to one-up us once again.”

      • BothSidesNow says:

        @ GrnieWnie, I agree with the raised eyebrows in regards to Harry’s active duty. Why is this an issue now that the truth that he served in actual wartime and is actually a veteran just like Prince Phillip? Utterly despicable as to suspicion on Harry’s actions and attitude is tiresome and the fact that they keep pushing these hateful narratives is disgusting.
        @ Kimberly, you are right that they need a MF hobby!! Maybe we could all start sending their hateful asses some spoons from the US with a lovely f_you on them!!

    • Kimberly says:

      It’s not extra at all…at this point the Crazy4Royals British people can suck it, all they’re doing is creating a hobby of hate…they should pick up a real hobby like baking for their widely popular British Bake off or watching old re-runs of Australia Masterchef….imho the BEST version of Masterchef….OR they can start collecting spoons…🤷‍♀️

      • Jais says:

        Omg they do have a “hobby of hate” @kimberly! And your suggestion that they start a hobby of collecting spoons instead…mwa love it.

    • DuchessL says:

      I think she had to point out that she was participating because the hate was coming anyway. But I think it was a little extra to make it about Harry’s 2 tours in Afghanistan. Less would have been more this time. I still love them. However, she should definitely watch out because a faux pas during grief and loss and love and family is not something people are going to forgive easily.

      • Maria says:

        “She should definitely watch out”. She was getting death threats and being endangered before for doing absolutely nothing.
        Some of the “people” you mention who “won’t forgive easily” already tried to get her to commit suicide while pregnant, so you know, that’s something to keep in mind.

      • Ronaldinho says:

        I’m all Meghan, all day.
        The Harry bit was pokey and unnecessary

      • Kelly says:

        I think it would have been better not to announce the wreath, because it’s not something anyone does at funerals. It’s supposed to be a private gesture between you and the recipient. The announcement pulled attention away from Philip and onto Harry & Meghan, and details about Harry’s service when people are mourning Philip was a faux pas because, again, it pulls attention away from Philip.

        She should have just sent the wreath silently. If any criticism happened afterward to suggest she didn’t care, she could have corrected the record and said they sent a wreath.

    • lucy2 says:

      I agree.
      Whatever she does or doesn’t do, people are going to loudly complain. If she’d done nothing, or not put out the announcement, they’d be claiming she was ignoring the funeral.
      At this point i have to think she knows that, and is just going to continue doing what she feels is the best thing for each situation, because it’s the right thing to do, not because she wants a certain response.
      I also imagine she’s sad for Harry that his family relationships are so strained right now – that wasn’t what either of them wanted, and I’m sure they’re both sad, but know that distance is the best for them.

      • Saucy&Sassy says:

        Lucy2, why do people think that H didn’t have anything to do with this statement? Isn’t is not just possible but probable that H had a hand in that? The BM needs to change their tune, because this constantly finding M in the wrong no matter if it’s just her or them together doing something is getting old and tired. They really shouldn’t let their racism show so starkly. People see them.

    • PrincessK says:

      This is all nonsense. The contents of the Queen’s handbag during the funeral were made public and so were descriptions of other floral tributes.

      Harry and Meghan are global superstars and so anything to do with them gets amplified beyond belief.

  2. Charlotte says:

    Sometimes… I don’t know; Who is more hate it… Meghan or Angelina??, The hate this two amazing woman receive is unbelievable!!😐

    PS: Sorry for my English!! 😂

    • Myra says:

      It’s interesting that you point this out because I noticed that the Angelina hate died down when Meghan came on the scene, especially in the media (tabloid). I have a feeling that a lot of the people have moved on to Meghan hate-watch so they don’t particularly notice Angelina anymore.

      • Noki says:

        Tabloids take turns ,its like they need all the energy to spew their venom at a particular individual woman one at a time. In the UK in previous years some past victims were Fergie,Victoria Beckham,Katie Price and now they have Meghan and they will dedicate the next few years to her.

      • clomo says:

        Also Kate stopped getting it from the DM when Meghan came along. She’s no longer work shy lmao! Eventually someone will replace Meghan. Fame would not be my cup of tea, privacy is so important to me.

      • Charlotte says:

        Not that I wish more hate for Meghan, but I also thought this and then… When I read comments from the daily mail and other gossip sites, the hate is still very intense toward Angelina!! Yes, the tabloids are attacking Meghan much much more, but the comments… Are still very awful toward Angelina!!

      • My Two Cents says:

        I think it’s because Angelina hasn’t been in the limelight the past years, not like she was before. I don’t think there’s a connection with Meghan, why would there be? The clear connection is with Kate, she is clearly the winner in all this Meghan hate, because suddenly she can do no wrong. Kingmaker, CEO, Peacemaker, good lord, what’s next for this woman, it’s exhausting to keep up with her! 😉

      • PrincessK says:

        There was a time when there was enormous hatred towards Serena Williams and then Rena’s Army striked back in a very organised and targeted way to firmly put the lid on the racist driven hatred.

        Although there are organised pro Meghan groups out there pointing out the lies, disinformation and manipulation, l still think that much more needs to be done. Our eyes and ears need to be everywhere so that we can react quickly to douse the flames of venomous hatred with true facts and evidence about the lies, double standards and malevolent agenda to bring down the Sussexes.

    • Eleonor says:

      I think this is a really interesting take.
      I can totally see the parallelism between the two: in both cases the bad woman “steal” the good guy.

      • Lily P says:

        Paired with the fact they’re intelligent women that are engaged in global issues. Far too many people just want a pretty silent woman.

    • vs says:

      yes she has a lot of loud haters; but she has an army behind her as well….she has just replaced Angelina or Michelle Obama or Serena W in people consciousness.

      If she was so hated, how come everything she touches turn to gold? every single piece of clothes is sold out; every appearance has thousands or millions watching; Angelina movies are successful; Michelle projects are all good…..all the right wing people are just racist
      the haters are always very loud

    • shurrr says:

      Aniston was such a bigger money maker then, all hate had to go Angelina’s way via PR…w Meghan, the Royal PR are doing EVERYTHING to distract from Andrew’s association w the Epstein child abuse case….

    • Cali says:

      Puh-lease, Angie gets no where near the vitriol thrown at Meghan, not even close. And at one time, Angelina was greatly admired and referred to as a Saint. I doubt Meghan will ever experience this for a moment, don’t forget she’s half black so there’s extra hatred there that Angie will never have to deal with.

  3. OriginalLala says:

    It’s very common for family to have wreaths or flower arrangements made for funerals. I’m not sure a press releases was needed, but I think I understand the intention behind it (ie: the RRs will always find a way to bash her)

  4. Amelie says:

    Oh, I didn’t realize she’d issued a full-blown statement, just confirmations she and Harry laid a wreath for Philip in the chapel and that Meghan wrote the note which I thought was fine. I do think the rest of it is over the top. Harry had already released that nice statement memorializing his grandfather, I didn’t think anything extra was really necessary from either of them. But I get why she did it, she wants to kill certain storylines the British tabloids will try to run.

    • Snap Happy says:

      I agree.

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    • Kelly says:

      I think it was a tactical mistake. It provided a reason for more criticism – especially detailing Harry’s service when it’s supposed to be all about Philip.

      She could have waited to see what the tabloids said, and then corrected the record if necessary, which would have been a “gotcha” win for her.

      • BABSORIG says:

        @Kelly, no just nip it in the bud is the way to go. The hateful headlines travel at such high speed trying to counter them after the fact would be a mistake. And, c’om y’all, where’s y’all outrage at Kate and her banquet worthy jewelry to go to a funeral? No, Meghan did not pull any focus. And why is it such an issue mentioning the obvious that was already known? Maybe Harry just wanted to pit it out there that despite the BRF not letting him wear his uniform, he served in two tours I Afghanistan? Why is it Meghan shouldn’t have said this or that? Why are people so sure it was Meghan when it clearly says their both representative said the Sussexes issued a statement?🙄🙄🙄

      • Dimsum Mum says:

        I agree with you.
        While H&M seem to be damned if they do, damned if they don’t, I do think it was a bit much. And especially MM travelled internationally in her previous third trimester I think there is a lot of doubt as to her motives and reason for staying away.

      • Shahad says:

        I agree too , I mean i think letting people goad you into releasing statements about Trivial stuff like “I sent a wreath “ and the Harry military stuff is a little tone deaf . She needs to not let people drag her to their level of pettiness.

  5. tolly says:

    The European royal families released info on their wreaths for anyone who is interested. It is not Meghan’s fault that the British tabs are only obsessed with her.

  6. Becks1 says:

    The statement was a little earnest, lol, but I understand the thinking behind it as well. They didnt want to have to play catch up with stories like “Meghan isnt even watching” or “Meghan didnt bother to send flowers” etc.

    • Maria says:

      How is earnest a bad thing?

      • Mich says:


      • Becks1 says:

        I didn’t say it was a bad thing.

      • Maria says:

        Well, saying it was *too* earnest kind of implied that it is, is all I am saying. That to me is like saying someone is too sincere. What does that mean?
        Earnest is a good thing. Am I not reading the Webster’s definition correctly?

      • Becks1 says:

        I said it was “a little earnest”.


      • Maria says:

        Ok, a little earnest then, I apologize. But I think you know what I’m asking you to clarify.
        Not just you but anyone else too. The use of the word earnest in this context implies Meghan is being fake with this statement somehow, so the traction this particular word is getting interests me.

      • SETI says:

        I once heard Meryl Streep say in an interview that one never wants to appear “too earnest” (or something like that) & I’m still confused by it.

    • Myra says:

      It was also an update on what Harry was wearing, non? Like his crosses and medals? So it felt like a joint statement released by the spox rather than just a Meghan update re: the funeral.

    • Jegede says:

      People come on, it’s alright to have a difference of opinion.😉😉

      Becks said nothing wrong.

      • Becks1 says:

        Thanks – when people are bringing up dictionary definitions I feel like its a sign that we’re all a little too on edge around here.

        ETA also its like people are ignoring the part where I said that I UNDERSTOOD THE THINKING BEHIND THE STATEMENT.

    • Susan says:

      Guys let’s all give Becks1 a break. She’s a regular on this site and NOT a Meghan hater. I completely agree with her; “a little earnest” is a fair assessment based on her opinion.

      • Maria says:

        Becks is indeed a regular and a wonderful contributor and not a Meghan hater which is why I asked her to clarify her words.

      • Feeshalori says:

        Let’s get the paper bags and take deep breaths into them! Becks said nothing wrong.

      • BothSidesNow says:

        @ Susan, ☝️☝️☝️ This! Yes, Becks1 is always one that can create a positive narrative that makes me think and I appreciate that greatly!

      • Maria says:

        Since the dialogue is continuing here I am going to be nitpicky, and I am sorry if it seems like I am targeting anyone specifically in one case but I am not.

        Normally I am not into semantic wrangling but the use of the word earnest by more than one person is a problem if it is meant in a vaguely pejorative way like this. Because there is already a stereotype of Black women being insincere when expressing positive emotions, or being too showy in their sympathy/grief or what have you. If you want to say the statement is off putting to you for whatever reason then that is fine even if I don’t agree, but to remark that it’s earnest as a way to find fault does play into a narrative that Meghan uses sincerity as a social-climbing tool for publicity (people say the same about her banana bread, her messages on bananas, her handwritten notes, etc) – and yes, this is a tactic of institutionalized racism.

        I am sure this is not what anyone using this word intended, but yeah, words are important sometimes.

      • Topaz says:

        Becks is the reason I felt comfortable to leave comments and join the celebitchy community. Her objectivity is so refreshing and always brining it back to the core issue. And I do agree with her assessment.

      • Dimsum Mum says:

        agreed – Becks is awesome

  7. Serena says:

    “However Prince Andrew also enjoyed a 21-year military career and fought in the Falklands War.” Let me rewrite that: “However Prince Andrew is a pedophile running from the FBI who still has the nerve to show his face in the open and has no shame or regrets whatsoever.” There, better.

    It really wasn’t necessary to include that, wtf.

    • equality says:

      But why would they expect Meghan to make any sort of statement about Andrew anyway?

      • Bex says:

        But Andrew isn’t dead. Why would she relate the relationship her husband had with his now deceased grandfather with his still very alive and disgraced uncle?

  8. Jegede says:

    I did think all that added wreath info was unnecessary and kinda cringey.
    They could have just kept it simple.

    However, it has generated some extreme reaction that’s wholly unmatched to the ‘crime.’🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

    • Elizabeth Regina says:

      I actually see it as a positive. Their rage is making her the most talked about and most bankable royal despite it being Philip’s funeral.

      • Kelly says:

        @Elizabeth Regina – Yeah, but pulling attention during someone else’s funeral isn’t going to read as a positive action. It brings criticism right to the door.

    • equality says:

      The statement started out with “I can confirm” so it sounds like somebody asked questions and their spokesperson simply answered or confirmed what they may have already gotten from other sources.

    • pottymouth pup says:

      if the info about the wreath wasn’t released, there would have been stories about how William & Catherine placed a glorious wreath by an English florist and claiming that Meghan & Harry just called their local FTD to send a wreath

    • Bex says:

      The Daily Mail likely lifted that info from another paper’s coverage (since Harry and Meghan aren’t dealing with the Daily Mail nor are they answering any questions from them) and put their nasty spin on it.

      They also portrayed what seems to be non-Daipy Mail reporters asking questions into a formal written statement.

      What is cringe is the fact this tabloid still pulls this BS.

      Even portraying it as a “huge plug” when it’s more than likely the spokesperson was asked who made the wreath (and then that reporter actually did their job to see of the Sussexes had used them before).

    • TeamMeg says:

      My guess is the “official statement” (if we can all it that) did mention where the wreath was made, but then reporters contacted the florist and got all the extra details about the flowers. I would be surprised if otherwise.

  9. bonobochick says:

    I would rather the narrative be spun she was too earnest than that she was cold or rude. The media was going to gripe regardless of what she did since their mission is to castigate her 24/7 so better it be known Meghan did do something for the funeral (and that something she did was classy and earnest).

    • Elizabeth Regina says:

      I agree. If she did nothing, they would still moan. Plus her issuing a statement means it’s on record.

  10. Maria says:

    A statement confirming she would be watching and listing the Duke’s military activities which after all he has more in common with than any other of his grandchildren.
    How is this over the top?
    It’s not, people are angry the mixed duchess had something nice to say about her grandfather-in-law. Rinse and repeat.

  11. Lemons says:

    I get it…Meghan is earnest, but earnest can become grating. The updates about what they will do, won’t do, have done from all sides of the family were getting old. While Meghan’s press release contribution didn’t offend me, I can see how people are like…girl, we don’t need to know! And this isn’t all her fault, but rather the incessant coverage of a nothing-burger.

    But for me, this isn’t a reflection on Meghan. It’s for the BRF as a whole. Too many courts, too many courtiers, too many diverging voices, too many press releases about the same thing when 1-2 would suffice. Even now, I’m just tired of hearing about one thing, then it is corrected by another palace, tabloid, etc. the next day.

    • Iris says:

      I totally agree with you LEMONS. And while I love Meghan and Harry, I think we need to be able to call out when they’re being a tad extra. It’s tricky- because so much of the criticism of them is over the top and can be both explicitly and implicitly racist when discussing Meghan in particular, there’s sometimes a reluctance to admit when they’ve made a misstep. Like, they’re wonderful people but they’re still human

      • tolly says:

        I agree with you both. The statement was a little too much, but the reaction to the statement was so unhinged that I understand why they feel to get everything on the record. Nobody freaked out this hard when the king of Sweden posted his wreath on social media.

      • Lemons says:

        Yeah, I think they feel the need to get ahead of the story, but when you’re damned if you do, damned if you don’t…you might want to just not. I know she’s a good person, so I know she will honor Philip in her way. Clapback if people try to insinuate that you didn’t do anything. The proof is the wreath and your note.

      • Nan says:

        I think Meghan is damned if she does and damned if she doesn’t, period. NOTHING she does or says will ever be acceptable to the haters in British media. It no doubt makes her feel a whole lot better when she can use her own voice/office to share what she’s doing and say it on her own terms. It may seem a bit much for people who already appreciate her but if she says nothing, the people who don’t appreciate her will be sure to make up towering mountains of lies about her.

      • swirlmamad says:

        I think @Nan has hit the nail totally on the head — ITA.

    • Elizabeth Regina says:

      I would rather earnest than rude, cold and mean. This is who she is. No need to call anything out. She receives enough hits as it is and it seems it’s another stick t hit her with now that she’s pregnant again. Funny how some women are protected during their pregnancy and she is not. So she issues a factual statement about what she did etc. Is that enough to warrant this amount of coverage?

      • Maria says:

        I agree.
        These comments are weird. “We can accept when they make mistakes”, mistakes like issuing a nice clarifying statement?
        Get back to me when one of them is caught speeding on the Santa Monica highway or something.
        And some of the implications of some of these comments are…uncomfortable and do touch on stereotypes about Black women being insincere deep down or too showy in their way of expressing emotion.

      • WithTheAmerican says:

        Agree. I hardly think Meghan is perfect, but no one in the media has accused her of being perfect. The opposite, in fact.

        I thought the press release was exactly what a wife defending her husband from his family’s crap would sound like. Reminding everyone of his service that they stole from him.

        There’s no need to hop on the criticism bus of the first black woman in the royal family. That is a mistake liberals made with Obama when conservatives (who later licked Trump’s boots and let him try to kill them at his rallies) accused them of worshipping the brilliant and competent Obama, to prove their “objectivity” and they only ended up letting racists win policy fights.

      • Lemons says:

        I’m not hopping onto any criticisms. It’s my own criticism. I love Meghan, but I feel this statement was not necessary. Harry made a statement about his grandfather and went to his funeral. That’s enough for me and was likely enough for many of us who like this couple.

        Nothing would EVER be enough for those that don’t like her, so her additional press release while Harry is on the ground is unnecessary.

        @AmyBee below: The European families sent out information, but Meghan’s husband is there. They are covered.

      • Amy Bee says:

        @Lemons: Meghan wasn’t there. Hence the press release.

      • WithTheAmerican says:

        @lemons we don’t agree on this and that’s fine. I wasn’t even responding to your comment, but rather agreeing with specific points made by @ElizabethRegina re no need to add new hits.

        For me, now that I have read your comment again, it places blame on Meghan because you’re tired of hearing the back and forth. I get that instinct, but to blame the person who constantly maligned in the media for trying to get ahead of it just feels unfair to me.

        The basic media coverage is ridiculous, but being inside of that coverage is a nightmare. I just don’t think it’s Meghan who is creating the problem. People often parse blame out to those reacting to abuse and that can be unintentionally hurtful to people who are feeling like Meghan was while pregnant. So we disagree.

      • swirlmamad says:

        @WiththeAmerican, I’m totally with you on this as well. Even though Harry was there to represent them both, SHE wasn’t and they are already trying to erase her, act like Harry is ready to cancel his flight back to CA and put the happy ‘lil trio back together again. It’s more than she should have had to share had she been dealing with normal rational people, but she isn’t and it is what it is. I also feel like it’s kind of icky picking on her about this. I personally feel it’s unfair to add to the pile-on for something that had good intentions behind it when she gets so much irrational hate as it is.

    • Amy Bee says:

      @Lemons: The people who are angry wished she didn’t exist and she was not a member of Royal Family. She doing this to combat the misinformation that would have put there if she didn’t send out a press release. The press were already saying that she was using her pregnancy as an excuse not to attend and that she didn’t attend because she didn’t want to be centre of attention. As mentioned up post, the European families who were unable attend sent out information about their wreaths.

      • Cessily says:

        I think part of the issue is that H&M no longer have any social media platform to “release” a subtle post. (But then again it would always be controversial to certain tabloids) They have a foundation website which truly is a business site not personal (many criticized the impersonal remembrance which was ridiculous because it is not a personal page.. they later added a photo and PH statement).
        They are wrong no matter which foot they step with, the media has them targeted and I don’t see them letting up anytime soon.
        Sadly the interest in baby Sussex will now flood everything as William and Kate prepare to ascend to the thrown.. (tabloid media doing there thing)
        I also wonder if the fact that Meghan had a traumatic experience with the tabloids & depression at the end of her first pregnancy that the current situation might trigger things with this pregnancy so maybe she is avoiding the tabloids and truly unaware what’s actually being printed.
        It’s all conjecture.. but to make a gift a point of shame is beneath anyone. Everything about the flowers were thoughtful and respectful.
        The entire service was respectful it was the tabloid media, Royal commentators and staff leaks that were disrespectful and often extremely sensationalized situations that didn’t exist.

    • Amy Too says:

      I think it’s interesting that most of the commenters on here are taking the tabloid bait of “Meghan issued a public statement from California,” and acting like Meghan personally wrote it all herself. The Sussex’s media person released a statement on behalf of the couple that included information about both spouses. It was released from a California office because that is the only office that they have. They shut down their British media office. Maybe Harry is the one who wanted clarify that Meghan would be watching at home and that they sent a special wreath after he heard all the tabloid griping about how she should have been there and she could have been there if she wanted. Maybe HE wanted to list all of his military history as there was that huge kerfuffle about whether or not he should be allowed to wear his earned uniform even though he was one of the only family members that actually served, and because he is an actual combat veteran honoring his actual veteran grandfather. We don’t know whose idea this was to release a statement or who thought what should be included in it. But this wasn’t Meghan’s own personal individual PR person who only works for Megan and who passed on a handwritten statement that was personally written by Meghan that represented only Meghan’s thoughts. This is their joint PR person and the parts that people are highlighting as being overly earnest are literally about Harry.

    • Saucy&Sassy says:

      Lemons, Iris, Tolly, it’s really interesting to take this perspective. If you look over the last 13 months, there really aren’t many times that H&M put out any statements. They’ve done things professionally which were “advertised” by whomever they were working for, but they didn’t do it. So, I don’t have a problem when they put out a statement–they are few and far between. As far as the earnest part of the discussion? Well, M is a quite compassionate and empathetic person. Why would anyone be surprised that she’s a bit earnest about something she feels strongly about? I think that’s a non issue.

  12. Maria says:

    I see that “earnest” is becoming the new “flowery” for words to subtly denigrate perfectly innocent moves and writing on Meghan’s part.

    • Elizabeth Regina says:

      Exactly. Which is it? She is earnest, too American, not white enough? All this faux outrage is just for clicks. They should focus on the rest of the RF.

      • Saucy&Sassy says:

        Elizabeth Regina, I just saw this comment after I wrote one above. I think people could try to make it derogatory, but that’s what haters will do. I don’t think this is a negative term, nor do I think we should make it so w/M. She’s got a lot of wonderful qualities–being earnest appropriately is just one of them.

  13. Indiesr says:

    They are just mad because the stories were already typed and ready to go. Now they have to find other stories to write

  14. TheOriginalMia says:

    I have to laugh. There’s no way for anyone to misinterpret or invent a narrative. In Meghan’s own words, from her spokesperson came the truth. Take that, BM!

    I loved their wreath. Beautiful colors. A true standout against the other ones.

  15. Roserose says:

    Whatever Meghan does, it will a always incur the wrath of the British media. By confirming what she did do she got ahead of a lot worse stories. I mean, if you want to be nasty about being someone being a classy and seventy human being, that really said more about that person.

  16. Tanya says:

    Meghan is too nice. She suffers from the disease that one of my friend suffers from. That is being too nice to people who don’t deserve it. I hope for her that she distances herself from the Royal family. I hope she doesn’t try anymore to make connections, to be polite, or to try to salvage family connections. She should simply leave the toxic dysfunctional royal family to be it’s cold toxic dysfunctional cell. She needs to stop trying too hard. Just focus on her kids.

    • Soupie says:

      Totally agreed. That is what I should have done. Meghan, you have the benefit of this era’s approach to malignant narcissism. Be civil and polite when required but keep not engaging or being in direct contact.

      I’m thinking how Kate should have come out and said, yes it’s true I did apologize about the wedding incident. The Royals however cannot admit wrongdoing of any kind. I had a narcissistic friend I dumped 10 years ago who is like that. Always has to have the upper hand. Never puts a foot wrong. 😉 What’s reassuring is that the Royals can’t keep from showing their arse anymore thanks to photo/video proof and social media. I’m curious to see how this all plays out 5-10 years from now.

    • MsIam says:

      Anyone can be nice to people who are nice to them. But to show kindness to people who have wronged you takes class. Its Meghan showing she’s not on their level. Or rather they are not on her level. And the fact that the press is being petty over a wreath and a note, well to me it shows why the Sussexes released their own statement. It has nothing to do with being earnest, it has to do with realizing the press are petty snakes not to be trusted with anything.

    • Monica says:

      And if she weren’t extra “nice” she’d be the Angry Black Woman. She can’t win. That’s racism for ya.

    • Brielle says:

      She is too nice because of Harry…It seems Harry can’t let go his twisted family. I mean Meghan is nice but se cut ties with that toxic friend ninika and with her father…she is just too much in love with Harry,she was ready to stay in England on that toxic environment and he was the one who said Enough so …

  17. Amy Bee says:

    I think Meghan did the right thing. The British press are just pissed they’re prevented from spinning her absence into something else. Prior to funeral, the press were doubting her reason for not being there and attributing bogus stories about not wanting to be the centre of attention at the funeral.

  18. Serena says:

    Damned if she does, damned if she doesn’t. Seriously, people just can’t leave her tf alone. What’s so extra about telling it as it is before some tabloids try to ruin your image, yet again? I’d just compliment her for being smart and thinking ahead.

  19. Merricat says:

    I read it as a woman who is proud of her husband and wants to make certain that people know how special he is.
    There is no particular way that she could have reacted that would have saved her from the vitriol; it has nothing to do with what she says or does, they’re just mad because she exists. That being the case, she might as well say what’s in her heart and shake off the rest.

    • Maria says:

      Not only that – people and the British media have done their best to try to draw the parallel that Philip actually did his duty by giving up his professional desires while Harry was a disgrace to his example by deserting everyone and the Queen.

      This statement is deserved.

  20. bamaborn says:

    Could have just stopped at, “The British people are mad…”

  21. Amigo says:

    According to DailyMiddleton british people are always mad at Meghan. Se layed the wreath or not, released statement or not, went to funeral or stayed at home. She always wrong, literally always. Girl, take orange juice, avocado toast (they hate that you are eat avocado too) and watch the sunset over the ocean.

  22. Ohreally says:

    Meghan tried to cross every item off that would/could turn into a headline. If you have never been THE ONLY then of course you would be uninformed and make a blind assumption that she was doing too much. She was doing the “twice a hard” that she knows she has to because I promise you that no one else in that family would have been criticized for the same reason. She knows it won’t matter, but also in terms of future litigation she’s being VERY clear. This is the long game.

    • Tangerinetree says:

      Ohreally – you are exactly right. 100 percent Meghan knows has to anticipate the BM attacks and play the long game. Sadly, she knows she will always be judged harshly and must protect herself.

    • MsIam says:

      Exactly, if Beatrice or Eugenie had done the same thing it would have been a “sweet tribute” to their grandfather. No one would have said poop. And why people keep saying “Meghan did this” or “Meghan shouldn’t have done that” when its Harry’s grandfather us beyond me. Goodness!

    • swirlmamad says:

      The plight of the black woman — work twice as hard for half as much acknowledgment or praise (if any).

  23. Ariel says:

    White supremacy runs so deep. Every time we see something that seems to obviously prejudiced, and a great portion of the white world screams down the reality of racism- i’m horrified and wonder about the future of our world.

  24. lanne says:

    The racist British media hates that Meghan left before they could kick her out, that she’s rich and has nice things that aren’t British largesse (that they could take away from her), and that she’s not wallowing in misery wanting to get back into their good graces. They want her to want them, and are furious that she doesn’t. They will never forgive her for that. It’s personal for them, these self-appointed gatekeepers of British royalty. Anything she does will be criticized and questioned by them. Best thing Meghan can do is keep ignoring those mofos

    • aquarius64 says:

      Exactly. The BM are acting like jilted lovers. Not only Meghan rejected them she stood up to them via the Fail lawsuit…and WON. Married ins are suppose to be seen but not heard. That is the Faustian deal Kate, Camilla, Sophie, Fergie and Autumn were willing to make to marry into the House of Windsor and get the riches and grand houses. Fergie was casted out and STILL trying to get back in. Peter and Autumn are separated but still in the house. She should have been invited to the funeral.

      Meghan and Diana weren’t willing to keep the deal when it .

  25. Charlotte says:

    I also don’t think that Harry betrayed Meghan by acting polite toward Ugly baldy and the stepford wife!! ☺

  26. Kay says:

    I adore Meghan, am 100% team Meghan and Harry, but this made even me side-eye, which PAINS me to write. I understand that they are constantly having to weigh the lesser of evils…if we say something, does it look too earnest? If we don’t say something, does it look callous? But…in this case, I think they swung and missed. It was already publicly announced that she’d be watching via the family live stream. And as much as I have ZERO love lost for Prince Philip (the “he had Diana killed” conspiracy theory has always fascinated me…I don’t believe it BUT I also wouldn’t be shocked?), it was so obvious that most of the family was trying very hard to keep the focus on him, and I largely think they succeeded. It was a beautiful service, and my own feelings for him aside, it made me emotional because it was a throwback to my own grandfather’s funeral. The appropriate thing to do is to let the focus be on the person being honored, both out of courtesy AND because this provides the worst kind of fuel to people who call them self-centered.

    Releasing official statements wasn’t the right move. It was tone deaf, and in this specific instance, it would have been better to play defense later if/when “Meghan didn’t watch because she hated Philip” stories came up. They pay their PR people well, as they should with how much garbage they deal with, and I’m sort of shocked that this was viewed as a good idea.

    And, as always, it’s important for us to not blindly support every single thing they do. They are humans, and humans make bad calls sometimes. This was one of them.

    • Maria says:

      There was very little about her. Some about Harry. Most about Philip. The wreath info included information about flowers selected to honor Philip’s heritage and history.
      This is a tempest in a tea pot.

    • Amy Bee says:

      @Kay: Why should Meghan wait for the press to criticise her to release statement? I get the feeling that some people prefer when silence was imposed on Meghan. Her press release preempted any misinformation about her absence at the funeral. Furthermore besides the actual service, the entire funeral was about Harry not Philip and was choreographed with the Royal Family’s approval to show that he was welcomed back into fold.

      • Div says:

        @Amy Bee
        Come on. I’m a huge Meghan and Harry supporter but sometimes people go too far on here when people offer the mildest of criticism. And I’m Black, so no, I’m not being racist or playing into tropes about Black women when I’m critiquing her.

        The press is horrific, awful, and abusive and racist. Someone died, though, someone who frankly probably strongly disliked her after the interview and most of the BRF was angry with Harry and Meghan, too. By putting the release out there, it did come across like it was making it a bit about them—it was extra. 99.9% of the time I’m team go on the offensive against the racist, horrific press but considering the man just died and most of the people grieving, along with the dead guy, didn’t care for her or H it would have been better to just ignore the press and correct them the day after. This is one of the rare times when yeah, it would be more appropriate to be (briefly) silent.

    • Div says:

      This. I basically said something similar on the other post about this in that they occasionally make some really odd choices from a PR statement. In this case, the handwritten note itself is a bit strange but confirming it—along with a statement—was a bit much.

      And before anyone jumps me, I love Meghan and Harry & I think the British press has been horribly abusive and racist towards her. And I also think the overreaction to this incident is beyond nuts too. But sometimes I feel like both of them almost “play” into the trap the British royal jounos have set for them when it would be better to disengage.

      They had every right to call the BRF out on Oprah. But it was also clear they were burning some bridges as the BRF looks at being public as the ultimate betrayal (Philip and Margaret never forgave Diana for going public). The wreath was a class touch and a nice acknowledgment of Philip. A handwritten note, considering Philip very likely disliked her after the Oprah interview even if she went out of the way to not call him out, just read as insincere and frankly kind of inappropriate considering Phil & 95% of the BRF were pissed.

      And I think confirming all this just compounded the awkwardness. Like I completely understand the racist, horrific press would have made up a ton of sh*t but in this one case–considering it’s a funeral—it would have been better to play defense after the situation rather than offense.

      • Maria says:

        A bouquet and a handwritten card are not too much.
        They are not playing into the trap. The trap isn’t there anymore because they removed themselves from it. They are allowed to state their side of things. Philip’s own biographer stated that he didn’t necessarily agree with the interview but overall supported them. 95 percent of the BRF weren’t “pissed” even if some were disappointed – Charles and William were pissed, and the rest went along.
        The bridges to the RF have not been burned – they might have been burned with William, but that happened before Sussexit even happened. The whole funeral was orchestrated to show that Harry is still one of them.

        Saying the actions of the victims in this situation compound the awkwardness makes no sense. And they were playing defense from the minute Philip was announced to be ill much less passed away.

      • Div says:

        The wreath is not too much—like I said, it’s a class act. It’s the note, and confirming said note, that came across as too much imo. Phil was a racist asshole and I know what his biographer said on the record–but it’s also been widely reported he was very angry with Diana so it’s hard to believe he was so chill about the interview. I do think a note, to a man she knew for maybe 4 years at most, who frankly very likely disliked her at the time of death is too much as it reads as insincere. There are some people in my extended family who I dislike and who probably dislike me in return—I would feel like I was overstepping by sending a note to their funeral or being overly emotional at their funeral.

        And I don’t think the funeral was orchestrated around Harry. And the world is complicated—people are victims but even victims can make a mistake. There are no perfect victims because we’re all flawed.

      • Maria says:

        There are no perfect victims. But to highlight this as an example of that in the case of the Sussexes is something I disagree with.
        Nobody can know what Philip’s feelings were and if even his own biographer stated what I mentioned before then that’s pretty much all that’s going to be out there on it. But Harry and Meghan have been quite open about the fact they were closer to HM and Philip than the rest of the family and that they were still talking frequently in California. Harry has more in common with his grandfather militarily than the others which is why they wanted to dispel the media’s narrative that Harry is the antithesis of Philip who did his duty.
        I never said the funeral was about Harry. I said it was orchestrated to show that he still part of the family and esteemed. Because he is.
        Meghan has never presumed familiarity with people who emphatically don’t like her.
        There was nothing inappropriate in this.

      • swirlmamad says:

        @Div, Why do you keep saying that Philip “likely highly disliked” her (and her alone, at that) after the interview? Harry & Meghan (mostly Harry) have made it quite clear, many times over, that the relationship between them and both his grandparents was probably the most solid of anyone in his family.

    • MsIam says:

      Most of the family was focusing on Phillip? So a statement about a wreath made in tribute to Phillip is not focusing on him? Really? And if the family don’t like Meghan going directly to the press, they have only themselves to blame. They created this “whispering network” of “it is thought to have believed to have possibly happened this way” by not speaking up but Harry and Meghan are not playing this game anymore. If people don’t like it, tough.

    • Haylie says:

      It’s also important not to turn a non story into a scandal just to appear fair.

      Did you even bother to question why we know the deets on Kate’s jewelry on loan from QEII? And why they was fine but the deets on the Sussex wreaths are going too far and she should just be quiet?

      • Nic919 says:

        She even confirmed that it was last worn at an anniversary party for Philip and the Queen and that she was wearing it at the funeral because of that. Did anyone really care why she was wearing the necklace?

        So I don’t see how a release explaining the meaning of the flowers in the wreath are a bad thing

    • Vero831 says:

      I agree with you 100 percent. I also wondered how/why their very expensive PR would ok this (my sister is in PR)? All week they played it right. It’s not the end of the world but this was a miss.

    • goofpuff says:

      I thought her spokesperson gave a fine statement and answers to questions. The media was the one who decided to make a big deal out of it. They could have just focused on Phillip but they decided not to. I don’t blame Meghan for the things the media does and I don’t expect her to make herself less because of them. Honestly, I think she’s shown great restraint. I would have burned every bridge and taken the whole thing down if I had to deal with what she deals with on a daily basis.

  27. MsIam says:

    The British press is just mad this didn’t go their way. And I don’t blame Meghan one bit for releasing as statement. She knows how devious and untruthful the press, courtiers and certain family members are. She can’t trust them to not use this occasion to bash her, look how they are using the occasion of someone’s death to exalt themselves.

  28. Harper says:

    You go, girl. Drive them nuts by making statements.

    • Beach Dreams says:

      THIS. People will have issues with whatever she does, so she might as well do what she feels is best.

    • WithTheAmerican says:

      Omg she spoke! The sin of it all. Oh, wait, people are allowed to speak? I think that’s just *some people.*

  29. Likeyoucare says:

    I think this statement answer all the stupid report from BM about the story meghan forgave the royals before the funeral.
    This is she showing them
    ” this is my statement and the others that you had claim coming from me and my sources are bullshit. Full stop.”
    You need to remember, HM have the best social media team and not conducted by the so call carnival expert like the BRF.

  30. Vanessa says:

    we all know that if Meghan didn’t release a statement and information about the wreath she would have continued to be bash and smeared as a being disrespectful to the royal family. The British tabloids are upset because their week long campaign of making Meghan out to be this uncaring callous woman who didn’t wanted want to attend her husband grandfather funeral the British media and Cambridge’s stans have been call Meghan all sorts names last week saying that she faking it she could have attended. This statement by Meghan stopped the dumb narrative that the British media had plans for that’s why there so upset .

  31. L4frimaire says:

    I totally missed this statement and wasn’t aware it was issued. I knew about the wreath and card and that she watched the funeral, but not this. Ok then. Didn’t know a whole statement was necessary. They get mad over there anytime Meghan says anything, even talking about the weather. Anyway, funerals over and seems the focus is now elsewhere.

  32. Amy Bee says:

    @Milly: Please explain why?

    • Milly says:

      There were multiple wreaths – did anyone else issue a press release? I can not imagine her team thought this was a good idea. It draws attention to her and away from the occasion. Flowers are sent to a funeral for the benefit of the bereaved family. They read the notes privately and respond. If the wreath was intended as a thoughtful gesture for the family, there was no reason to issue a press release other than to make sure the public knew she had sent the wreath.

      • MsIam says:

        I notice you say “Meghan” and “her” but wasn’t the wreath from both of them? And the wreath was literally about Phillip and the attributes of his life. Why would the public be mad about that when the public was dropping off floral tributes for the past two weeks? The only people who are upset are the Cambridges and their press minions and their trolls, uh sorry “fans”. And who was more ” look at me” than Kate prancing around at a funeral with her gaudy jewelry and over the top bow?

      • Lila says:

        Was the British press going to spin dozens and dozens of articles about the other people sending a wreath? No. There’s no point in saying she should have done what others did, because the treatment is NOT the same.

      • Amy Bee says:

        @Milly: But we were informed about the wreaths sent by other European families? What’s the difference? Btw, the contents of the handwritten note were not made public. And the press release was issued to make the public known that the wreath was sent.

  33. Sofia says:

    I don’t blame her for releasing a statement. I mean if I was basically blamed for killing a 99 year old man or causing him “stress”, I would want a full statement released saying “look I actually like the man and am sad he’s gone”.

    Yes it might be “too much” for some people, and maybe it is this time round, but honestly it’s on brand for the Sussexes.

    • Duch says:

      Deleting my original comment, but basically I like your quote, Sofia. *If* a statement was made, that was what clearly was meant, and it will stand the test of time. We’re here for a marathon and not a sprint in terms of history.

  34. Sofia says:

    Double comment

  35. Susan says:

    Comment removed.

  36. Nick says:

    I’m Team Sussex all the way but yeah, it would be best for them to be quiet for a while. Just do the good works they are so good at and don’t give ammunition to the trolls.

    • Maria says:

      Considering the trolls were sending them death threats nonstop back when they weren’t allowed to issue any type of statement and it’s only increased since then even when they are silent, I think that ship has sailed.

    • MsIam says:

      The trolls are mad when they do good works, so nope, that doesn’t work either. So I say f*ck em and do as you please, otherwise you’ll tie yourself up in knots trying to get people to “like” you.

      • Haylie says:

        Seems Meghan existing bothers the rabid trolls on other sites and the concern trolls on this site. The implication being that she should go away.

    • Lila says:

      Trolls do not need ammunition. Meghan herself said that when the press was going crazy, she had barely left the house. We need to let go of the idea that trolls and the press do what they do because they’re reacting to what Meghan and Harry. They’re not.

      If they weren’t talking about this, they would be claiming Meghan didn’t attend because she didn’t make “enough effort”.

    • serena says:

      They have been quite for too long, I’m glad Meghan is one step ahead of the media so she can shut down any potential lie.

    • Kkat says:

      You are NOT on their team if you are telling her to shut up and sit down and be a good girl and stay in her place.

      Nice try though, to try to minimize her existence and to take away her agency.

      We have eyes and we see how the bedazzled kween is treated in comparison in the media

  37. MJM says:

    If it were Keen Kate or another white family member they would do the same thing and get praised for it. This is typical Murdoch media contempt for Meghan.

  38. TigerMcQueen says:

    Girl’s pr team were obviously getting questions from the press, and they decided to answer them factually by releasing a statement. I totally get including the info about Harry’s military career in relation to his grandfather…they’re probably both still stung by the petty Remembrance Day stunt pulled by the courtiers/RF along with the jibe about service the palace put out as the final separation was announced. Meghan just wants her team to stick up for her husband since his birth family obviously doesn’t. Boy, do I get that.

    Of course, they could have just said ‘no comment’ when the questions came. Instead, they obviously chose to release factual statements so that ‘(lies)facts’ couldn’t be made up by the press in a vacuum of silence. That decision comes with risks (Meghan’s making it about her! even if she didn’t), but a ‘no comment’ IMO would expose them to greater risks. The facts cut off dozens of other negative stories before they could be written.

    • Katherine says:

      Yeah I think some people are missing that this reads to me as a consolidated response to several questions. It’s not like M and H or the royal family are out holding press conferences Jenn Psaki style. So I guess it can look weird if you read it as a statement no one asked for. But my guess is they WERE being asked a million questions and issues a single catch all response.

  39. Vanessa says:

    It’s funny how it was ok for the Kensington Palace to release a statement detailing Kate jewelry for the funeral and but Meghan release a statement is so horrible and all of suddenly Meghan fans are calling out her actions as too much. For so long the British tabloids has been run crazy with a narrative about Meghan she wasn’t not allowed to defend herself . It’s funny how Meghan actions of kindness toward Philip is being seen as too earnestly and being criticized . There was nothing about her statement that needed to criticize or for anyone to complain about she did the right thing for herself and her husband. Lord knows what those royal reporters we’re getting ready to prints about her all week long .

    • L4frimaire says:

      Thanks for putting some perspective on this and again highlighting the really unfair double standard. I saw the details about the flowers and the symbolism and thought it was nice to explain it, and a nice gesture. I missed the rest of the fuss about some statement that I didn’t see. Was that part of it, with the flower details? I don’t know if it was necessary but as some have pointed out, it nipped some speculation in the bud ( no pun intended) and seems typical of their style. To some, it isn’t necessarily what Meghan says, it’s that she says anything. We think that family is still awful but it’s more complicated for her and Harry. Is this statement really that big a deal that it needs to be “ called out”? Don’t think so.

    • Rnot says:

      They’re mad that she does symbolism better than they do. That’s a bad look for an institution whose whole function is symbolism.

  40. lucylee says:

    Sadly this thread was much ado about nothing. Harry went to the funeral. Meghan stayed home because her doctors told her to. She watched the funeral on tv in California. They had a wreath made for the funeral, and it contained flowers significant to the life of Prince Phillip.
    I have always thought if a press release confirms something, its purpose is to clarify the issue. No confusion.

    • L4frimaire says:

      Yes, this. Getting into manufactured outrage. Just a side note, The recent Read podcast had such a funny drag about Philip’s passing ( starting @8:42) and Meghan not attending the funeral. Not for sensitive monarchist ears, but funny as hell.

  41. Shannon says:

    Meghan can’t win in the U.K. At this point, it is an established fact. That she keeps trying speaks to her character and willingness to put herself out there.

    LOL…if she hadn’t responded or sent well-wishes then the Brits would be accusing her of being a cold-hearted bitch.

    She can’t win with these folks.

  42. Rise_Above says:

    The British media will criticize Meghan for existing in a whites only space. I’m surprised no one has put out a headline Duchess sucks up too much of our air rudely while not apologizing for existing as a guest in our most hallowed halls of supremacy….

  43. Gingerbee says:

    You do you Meg. No matter what you do, the racist family, carnival of so called experts and the racist trolls will always find fault. Continue to do what you do, and do not shut up for those people and the miserable followers.

  44. JustMe says:

    Do I have this right?
    Meghan highlighting the meaning of the flowers paying respect to Prince Philip’s life is beyond the pale but Kate wearing a blitz of glitz paying respect to Philip’s marriage to the Queen is, on the other hand, stunningly Royal!
    Strut your stuff kween to be, married to ME Me Me, daughter of ‘don’t forget about me 3!
    RRs say, Kate, you are FREE to be whatever today’s narrative we ascribe you to be!
    Meghan be quiet, don’t rock the royal boat, you are the one who gets our goat!
    Meghan do what you want! You will never be given the benefit of the doubt unlike the Firm of Misfits!

  45. Shawna says:

    Putting “in combat” between dashes for emphasis was a bit extra! The point can be made without punctuation jazz hands…

  46. Thirtynine says:

    I’m glad she issued a confirmation, especially about the wreath. We all know what happened to the last wreath Harry tried to send. I also appreciated the little extra details. The RR are just noise pollution, and Meghan and Harry have said they don’t speak for them, so I like it whenever I hear directly from the Sussexes themselves. But after what Meghan has been through since her marriage and how deeply it affected her, I feel sad though that anyone is still thinking she should sit back down and shut her mouth. I personally just feel grateful that we still HAVE a Meghan who’s out there issuing press statements and writing kind little notes and sending flowers to elderly relatives and having lovely sweet babies and making plans to change the world. I can’t criticise her for this. It’s just not an issue.

  47. Janerys says:

    Glad to see some perspective on here. It’s okay to like a person and still call them out. Make a connection between your husband and his grandfather, fine, but is listing said husband’s military achievements necessary or relevant.

    • Maria says:

      This is getting ridiculous. “It’s okay to like a person and still call them out”. For what? Philip and Harry felt a connection because of the military. Harry is the only grandson who has really served, so that’s why. The statement and gesture was still about Philip.
      Some commenters are acting like the statement contained a slur or something.

      • WithTheAmerican says:


      • Lila says:

        Yeah, that’s crazy to me. I’m getting the feeling some people are starting to get annoyed with how positive this place is towards Meghan because some of the comments got very weird. The press was briefed on a lot of info regarding this funeral, including Kate’s jewelry, the other royal families sending a wreath. But somehow Meghan’s people confirming that yes, Meghan wrote a card and the couple sent a wreath (and tried to send a meaningful wreath) is an issue and she should shut up.

    • ennie says:

      I swear I have read this before.
      Maybe it is a talking point.
      I do not want her to be silent. Tabloids are going after her regardless.
      These commenters are overdoing it.
      Also, believe me when I say that her note would be “leaked” by someone. Better them doing it. I despise these “leakers”, whomever they are.

    • Haylie says:

      Called out for what?

      Did she lie about someone and run to the tabloids with it to destroy them? Did she express concerns about the race of someone’s child? Did she deny mental health services to someone?

      Oh yeah, she sent a symbolic wreath to a funeral, explained the meaning behind the flower selections and connected it to her husband and his grandfather’s service. Had anyone else in the world done this, it would be called thoughtful.

      She definitely needed to be called out for that.

    • TigerMcQueen says:

      Call them out for what? For sending a wreath? For answering questions from the press? For giving facts? I don’t get why the Sussexes need to be ‘called out’ for that, especially when all the briefs from the palace about who went, what they wore, etc. haven’t been ‘called out’.

  48. Kkat says:

    This is a perfect example of when they said she needed to stay out of sight because she was everywhere, when she hadn’t stepped outside anywhere for 2 months.

    She is not being extra for releasing ONE statement.

    I think it just feels that way to some because there are so many articles about her it FEELS like she has said tons when she has personally said NOTHING for months before this
    Her only personal representation was the interview. I think her last statement was about the miscarriage? maybe

    • Nic919 says:

      This is exactly correct. Nothing Meghan did for this funeral was any more than what the others have done, but she gets ripped for it. And considering most of the things were done jointly with Harry, she still gets criticized for it on her own.

  49. jferber says:

    Kkat, I agree with you. Meghan did the right thing, the nice thing, but because of the Brits’ rabid hatred of Meghan, whatever she does/says is suspicious, wrong and bad. Of course, if Kate said or did it, it would be praised and added to “evidence” that she is the cornerstone of the future British monarchy. I think the hate is also because deep down the Brits know that Harry and Meghan are superior to the Cambridges as future monarchs because of their work ethic, empathy, charisma, ideals, honesty and wonderful people skills. They also represent Princess Diana, a good person to be crucified and wiped off the face of the earth because she outshone her vapid, thin-skinned husband. Good God, let the royals BE better rather than gunning for the ones who ARE better.

  50. Thirtynine says:

    Seriously? Call her out for what? What are her crimes? Speaking when you think she should have been silent?

  51. Tashiro says:

    I don’t know if this was a miss step or not but she will never get the benefit of the doubt. Every freaking thing she does or says (or doesn’t say) is made into an international incident. The level of animosity far out weighs any transgressions.

  52. Brooks says:

    Like everyone, Meghan is not immune to criticism. But criticizing her for paying respect on behalf of her husbands grandfather is unfair. I believe the reason her team put out a statement about the wreath is to make sure the meaning didn’t get lost in translation. Knowing how the British media always make her out to be a villain and often reports misinformation, her team made sure it came directly from the source itself, Meghan. Also, others saying that mentioning Harry’s Afghanistan/military experience is extra, is also an unfair criticism. It was literally a shared bond with his grandfather who we know passed harry his titles for the Royal Marines before deciding to part as members of the royal family, connecting the two isn’t farfetched. You know what I think is farfetched…Kate honouring Phillip through jewelry. Not only is it self-serving but she was able to confirm with a royal spokesperson that it was in fact a tribute but we all know it was a shallow tribute. Y’all are getting your panties in a twist over a statement with actual connected meaning but ignoring how yet once again Kate used a dead body as a self-centred tribute and an embiggening propaganda? I wouldn’t want to die on this hill but that’s just me 🤷🏻‍♀️

  53. Babz says:

    I’m not wading into the wreathgate pool. I read twitter this weekend and it was insane, completely out of control. People on this site agree and disagree about this situation. All I can say is that she must really love that man, because what’s happened to her in the last five years would be enough to make most people pack their bags and leave. She had serious thoughts of suicide during her pregnancy. That alone should have been enough for the press and the family to apologize and try to do better. That’s the civilized thing to do, but apparently it’s beyond them. I can easily imagine her wondering every single day where the life – the good, happy life – she had prior to marriage went. Because she’s paid a very high price for simply falling in love and starting a family. She is happy with her husband and Archie and Baby Girl Sussex on the way, but her life will never be any different than it is now. She will never be out from under the press scrutiny and the social media onslaught. She will always have to be guarded in her relationships. She will always have to second guess every single thing she does. She will always know that she and her family will never be entirely safe for the rest of their lives. She has had her reputation destroyed, her integrity questioned, her every move watched. Just because she fell in love with her Prince, and his family and country went batshit crazy about it and set out to punish her for it. My heart hurts for her. She didn’t deserve this, and neither did Harry.

    • L4frimaire says:

      💯 Exactly this. This is someone who had what can only be described as a charmed life, that she worked for and built herself, with a solid reputation and accomplishments. Meghan is a woman who likes to work hard, is a gregarious people person, and a team player. Then to have it all just destroyed and erased is something she will never recover from. Then being told continuously you’re a liar with suspect motives and not able to defend yourself in any way. As many have said, couldn’t be me. It’s truly disheartening and would break most of us. I admire her fortitude. I think based on some of the Twitter craziness, there are some who think Harry will eventually cave so really hope those two are made of really strong stuff.

      • Babz says:

        Oh, some in Squad Twitter were ready to serve up his head on a platter this weekend! And some of them were the ones who proclaimed their support the loudest before those few words were exchanged at the funeral. I, too, hope they can withstand what’s happening to them, because you would practically have to be super human to stand up under the unceasing attacks they get. I don’t know how she does it, but there’s a strength and resilience in her that are truly gifts. She’ll need those qualities in the years ahead.

  54. Monica says:

    Meghan has fans. Lots of fans. Her message was for us.

    • Nivz says:

      @monica- this! It’s so true. It opened my eyes. I need to stop viewing harry and Meghan’s actions through the lens of British perception (or other haters’) but my own. I’m interested in what they say. You are interested.

      • Monica says:

        Yes, honestly, I’m not much of a fangirl for anyone, but if I have a chance to see H&M in person I’m going to take it! I’m not even sure why, but I really root for them.

  55. equality says:

    Does this press announcement really exist or is it the product of the DM’s imagination? I can’t find any references to it on other outlets, not even Scobie tweeted anything about it. There are articles about the flowers and their symbolism but nothing about the “military connection”, not even in US media where it was supposedly released. And wouldn’t anything about Harry’s military career have to come from Harry? Meghan wouldn’t be aware of all his achievements in his service. The DM probably could access info about it though.

    • Agreatreckoning says:

      @equality – That is a really good question. If a statement was released..where is it? Instead of just mentioning some of the content, why not share the whole statement? This is very curious now and could very well be a product of the Daily Mail’s imagination doing what they do best in making things up.

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  56. Lizzie says:

    And Waity showed up with her trusty photoshopping pap, who apparently accompanies her to memorials and funerals these days, wearing more makeup than her wedding day and jewels fit for an evening gown. Meghan was raised so much better than social climbing Waity.

  57. Gah says:

    Meghan’s entire brand is a little earnest (not in a bad way).

    Brits middle class and up hate earnestness.

    Maybe authentic vulnerability is a little too emotionally mature for salty white folk isle but for real they skewer it culturally so I imagine the press looooove the earnestness bc they can low key make fun of her.

    It is sick

    • Nivz says:

      Yes! I have lived in London, and then moved to California, and am an outsider to both very different cultures. (I’m happier in California, if anyone is wondering!) I can see the brits snarking at this. Good luck to them.

  58. HeatherC says:

    It is so funny to me. The megxit team always screeches that Meghan is attention grabbing and why won’t she fade away?

    But they click on every article about her, comment on everything about her, giving the signal that it’s PROFITABLE for outlets to focus on her.

    They’re working against themselves as they stir up hate amongst themselves.

    I kinda love it.

  59. Vero831 says:

    It was too much. All week we knew why she wasn’t there so this was unnecessary. Announcing the wreath and the note are tacky. She did not need to release a statement. They could’ve confirmed she was watching from home and left it at that. Very heavy handed.

    • Agreatreckoning says:

      Looks like the releasing a statement story is bogus. Yes, it was heavy handed of the Daily Fail to put a false story out. Click on the From the Daily Mail link and it takes you to a story about the Queen. Statement story disappeared.

  60. jferber says:

    Meghan is the epitome of class. It is apparently such a rare quality that many don’t recognize it for what it is. Americans, at their best, ARE earnest. Stuffy aristocratic Brits can’t appreciate the quality because they are insincere hypocrites who worship the superficial and the image over the substance.

  61. Agreatreckoning says:

    @Cara-I’m glad you agree with me that it was heavy handed of the Daily Fail to put out a false story-though not surprising, they live for that and have been doing it for a long time. Just like the wreath & note story being attributed to Meghan. Anyone with a clue knows the British Media/tabloids would NOT be the first source of information coming from Harry & Meghan

    • Agreatreckoning says:

      It seems that the poster’s comment I was replying to disappeared.

      It does appear that the statement story on the Daily Fail’s site disappeared too.

  62. L4frimaire says:

    Just have to say that seeing a lot of this press chatter regarding the Sussexes and this funeral, or who Harry is or isn’t talking to, or some people trying to dissect statements about about this wreath, a lot of this “ news” does not make any sense to me. It just seems so pointless. It’s not like the royals are going to see the error of their wicked, gaslighting ways or all will be healed at Philip’s grave.