Zayn Malik pleaded no contest to four charges of assault and harassment against Yolanda Hadid/Foster and Gigi Hadid. The inciting incident happened in late September in Pennsylvania, in the home Gigi bought adjacent to Yolanda’s farm. Gigi was out of the country during the altercation between Zayn and Yolanda – she was in Paris for the runway shows, and she left Paris soon after the altercation and flew home to deal with the situation, and she and Zayn broke up around that time (no one is saying whether they split before or after the altercation). It seems like both Gigi and Yolanda pressed charges and Zayn quickly accepted a plea deal which had him pleading no contest and agreeing to probation. That’s what we know now, after days of reporters piecing together what actually happened, despite Zayn’s fans’ insistence that other, random sh-t went down or that Yolanda “deserved” this or that. Please do not bring that bullsh-t here.
It feels like People Magazine did what they usually do, which is bide their time and wait until they could talk to as many people involved. I’m not surprised that Yolanda and Gigi’s people are talking to People. I’m shocked that Zayn’s people are talking though. Here’s People’s definitive (?) reporting on what went down and where things stand:
Zayn Malik and ex Gigi Hadid’s mom Yolanda Hadid are at odds after an argument. “There’s no love lost between Yolanda and Zayn,” a source tells PEOPLE.
On Thursday, Malik, 28, tweeted a statement about the alleged incident between himself and Yolanda, 57, saying that he is typically a private person but chose to speak out because the situation was “‘leaked’ to the press.” Though he didn’t specify an outlet, a story published by TMZ claimed that he “struck” Yolanda. PEOPLE has since obtained court documents that confirm that Malik was charged with four counts of harassment after an incident on Sept. 29 in which he allegedly “grabbed [Yolanda] and shoved her into a dresser, causing mental anguish and physical pain.”
A friend of the former One Direction member tells PEOPLE that Malik has insisted he never hit Yolanda, and the fight began when “she came over uninvited while Gigi was away for work and he was taking care of Khai … That led to an argument.”
As news of the incident broke, multiple sources confirmed to PEOPLE that Gigi and Malik, who share 13-month-old daughter Khai, have split. “It was a super toxic relationship,” the Malik friend adds.
A family friend close to Gigi, 26, now tells PEOPLE that “Zayn has a complicated personality,” adding: “It’s been hard at times for Gigi to live with him. They are both good parents though. They co-parent,” the source continues. “Yolanda is of course very protective of Gigi. She wants the best for her daughter and grandchild. She has had some issues with Zayn. She thinks he could treat Gigi better. This is creating conflicts between Yolanda and Zayn.”
Amid the dispute, a Malik source says he is focusing on Khai. “Zayn’s an amazing dad, and Gigi has said so. They are not fighting,” the Malik source tells PEOPLE. “They are actively and amicably working to find the best way to co-parent now. Yolanda is inserting herself into a situation that does not involve her.”
For me, it’s about what’s being said very carefully. “Zayn has a complicated personality. It’s been hard at times for Gigi to live with him.” And “Yolanda is of course very protective of Gigi… he has had some issues with Zayn. She thinks he could treat Gigi better. This is creating conflicts between Yolanda and Zayn.” At first, I felt bad for Gigi because I felt like she was stuck in the middle of Zayn and Yolanda’s issues. But now I feel like Gigi has been trying to stand up for herself, with her mother’s support, for a while, and that is what has caused a lot of “conflicts.” I’m glad both Yolanda and Gigi got all of this on the record legally. It will help if there are future issues.
Photos courtesy of Avalon Red, Backgrid.
His fans on Twitter and Instagram are a disgrace. Blaming Yolanda and Gigi for him being a toxic a**hole, even though he was known to be toxic king before he even got with Gigi. He has issues he needs to work on. I really don’t believe he belongs in the public eye. The fact his management and record label dumped him as well speaks a lot.
His stans are not helping the situation. Maybe they should be asking why he would admit to the things he apparently did. With a baby involved, cooler heads should prevail.
Complicated = anger management and substance abuse issues. These stories about him are not new, they go way back to the beginning of 1D (and The Xfactor). Its interesting to note that none of his ex bandmates have commented. They know him as there has long been gossip that there was conflict with him and the others (I have a younger family member who was a directioner back in the day – she moved on but remembers the gossip).
Am glad she is out of it and hope that he gets the help he needs before it affects his ability to be a good parent.
He didn’t have substance abuse issues on x factor, let’s not exaggerate. On that show he came across as a shy kid who in hindsight clearly wasn’t cut out for the business.
The drug rumours started during 1D. But lets be fair every single member of 1D used/uses drugs. Harry literally brags about using drugs when creating music in promo interviews to this date.
The difference is that Zayn also has mental health issues and its possible he is self medicating but I dont think we should excessively speculate and call him derogatory things like smackhead ( like some people did yesterday- I am not talking about you obviously).
“The difference is that Zayn also has mental health issues”
You tell people not to speculate but then you diagnose him straight off the bat as a mentally ill person?
As I said on the other thread, people need to stop considering ‘being an a$$h*le’ as a disease.
@AlpineWitch – From my general gossip memory I’m pretty sure he has admitted to experiencing anxiety and I want to say it has interfered with his performing? That is a mental health issue. Doesn’t mean he’s not also an a$$hole of course – or that he isn’t hiding behind his struggles to excuse bad behavior instead of taking responsibility for getting better. Doesn’t have to be one or the other.
You can have MH issues and be an a$$hole.
He needs to get himself clean and into therapy stat! Otherwise, he can kiss goodbye to being a co-parent.
@alpinewitch
Where do I call him mentally ill? Having issues with mental health isn’t the same as being mentally ill.
He’s been very open about his struggles with mental health. He talks openly about his use of weed and some people use weed because they claim it helps with anxiety. Calling him a smack head and speculating about harder drugs seems unnecessary . The story is bad enough as it is.
(Also being a twat and having mental health issue are mutually exclusive) My point was he may use weed because he thinks it helps him function. And self medicating is never a good idea especially if he’s not in treatment. He needs to do the work for the sake of his kid.
Zayn always looks miserable. If she were my daughter I’d tell her to find someone to have fun with, not someone “complicated” 🙄.
It always seemed to me that Gigi is a really kind-hearted woman who sees a complicated personality in Zayn and tries to love him at her expense.
Unfortunately, you can’t cure big personality issues, assholes and problematic behaviours. Glad Gigi went out of this relationship, even though it probably hurts like hell, it’s better this way
This is pretty much how people “allegedly” in the know have always quietly described their relationship. Gigi doing most of the heavy lifting and emotional labor to help him with his issues, and him taking advantage of it. It is sad, and I just hope this all works out okay for her and her daughter.
I was so surprised to hear they were back together. Apart from the first year when they were doing a lot of magazine shoots and showing up at all kinds of events, have there been any positive accounts about their relationship?
Anyway I hope everyone involved is able to put the baby first. She deserves to grow up in peace and to have her identity not be defined by Gigi and Zayn’s situation.
Easy to say, but “complicated” men are catnip to certain people. Like me.
I am in no way saying that getting physical is ok. Just to preface my following comment. Yolanda sounds like a person who does not respect boundaries, thinks she can do what she wants, and uses her position as mother-in-law/grandmother to just barge in wherever and whenever, even if her daughter isn’t home. Did she show up and just barge in to the house? Did Zayne ask her to leave/say it was a bad time and she refused? In no way should he have pushed/hit/shoved or put his hands on her. I just wonder how inappropriate and disrespectful Yolanda was, given her past behavior. Maybe she saw something Zayne didn’t want her to see. I’m just wondering how much of a nightmare Yolanda is on her own. But yeah, call the cops if she was that out of line Zayne. Physical violence is not ok and makes you look guilty of something else too.
I feel like I’m making this same comment every day, so here it is again: It’s not about Yolanda, it’s about Zayn. Gigi know what the dynamics of her family are, trust her actions.
@ITA Minx
Frankly, I have found my partners mother difficult to deal with at times. And you know what I do? I take myself for a walk, say I need a nap, that I need to check my emails, go read book etc… I just come up with a polite excuse to leave before I lose my temper and say something I’ll regret. At no point I have ever shoved anyone into a dresser and frankly, it’s never occurred to me as a response to stress with in laws.
If I felt that edge on about someone else’s mother I’d just email my therapist. Violence is never the answer.
I think relationship with in-laws can be difficult, but if all mothers-in-laws were to be shoved in dressers, there would be a lot of full dressers..
I hope Zayn takes this as a decisive warning and addresses his anger issues. What he did was not OK at all and a deal breaker as far as a relationship is concerned.
So, you speculated that Yolanda acted badly and started a fight. Why? Based on what? The only facts about this incident are in the court papers. It says Zayn, yelled at both Gigi and Yolanda using curse words, pushed Yolanda into a dresser, and there was something about a security guard. That’s the behavior that got him charged and sentenced to probation and anger management class. Not what anyone else possibly did or said.
To be fair the comments on this story so far are FULL of speculation. But the ones that are getting singled out seem to be the ones urging us to listen and wait to see if there are more facts to come.
For myself, more than anything, I want to be heard rather than have people immediately jump in with “I BELIEVE YOU! And from what you said I bet he also did this and that to you—” My story, the one that has had me in therapy for almost 2 decades is not the same as every other victim’s. Which is to say, I don’t want to be lumped in with everyone else. I want you to LISTEN to me. Because when people immediately interrupt with BELIEVE it has the effect of making me feel that their reaction is more about their own discomfort with what I have to say than being my ally.
Further I don’t want to see the MeT00 pendulum swing back without warning and knock us on our behinds. Not when we’re finally being given the benefit of the doubt. So please, I urge everyone to listen. Listen to Gigi and Yolanda rather than run off to create a 3D image of Zayn from the bits they’ve told us.
Please can we stop this? It’s been days now and people still want to defend him by bringing up Yolanda’s alleged behaviour (that we don’t know actually happened). It doesn’t matter what Yolanda did or said, physically violence against her or anyone else is NOT okay.
Just stop. Save your energy. This man does not deserve any kind of “justification” for what he did.
@Courtney It sounds to me you are victim blaming and defending Zayn. A lot of whatifs on Yolanda’s account in your comment.
Well, what if Yolanda stopped by to see the child and found him high?
Stop excusing the abuse.
My theory Is zayn and gigi were already broken up or on the rocks and zayn was already unhappy. When gigi left for Paris, she probably asked her mother to check in on the baby. Zayn wasn’t having it and Yolanda brought a body guard still determined to go. Which was not a great idea under those circumstances but maybe they were concerned about the baby and he wasn’t responding. Then the rest is pretty much as stated.
You can look at Zayn’s behavior in the past to get a good idea about how he reacts. Remember the dust-up in Las Vegas with Jake Paul? YOu could hear Zayn screaming at the top of his lungs even from outside his hotel room. ALso the street scuffle with Bella’s friend Daniel a few months ago. This guy lacks impulse control and has a bad temper.
Yolanda is a piece of work for sure (she refuses to follow Bella’s current Boyfriend because he is a nobody but still follows her ex The Weeknd) but I am sure she would never start a physical confrontation with Zayn and endanger her relationship with her daughter and granddaughter
The Las Vegas incident was not good. But I can look past the incident with Bella’s friend. As someone who is queer, it was heartbreaking to see anyone have that slur thrown at them.
Zayn is probably a wreck with anger issues 100%, and is 100% reponsible for acting this way. Yolanda is probably another mother in law nightmare. This is the couple’s 1st child and Yolanda’s 1st grandchild, we all know mother in laws can act like they have all the rights and that they know it all. Also true that 1st time parents dont have experience and might need help or guidance. Some people dont realize that no matter how experienced they are, their input wasnt required. Anyway, they dont create movies with names like “Monster in law” for no reason. I wouldnt be surprised if Yolanda didnt know her boundaries. But, what is done is done. Only they know what happened, and they’ll all need to reflect on it.
And yet only one person was charged.
Again, we’re hearing this over and over: “There’s no excuse for violence, BUT Yolanda did this and this and this.”
@minx, I’m not going to speculate on @Myjobistoprincess’s intentions. However I don’t see where she is excusing Zayn’s actions. Trying to a fuller picture of a situation does not equal absolving him. Even he isn’t denying everything and he has the most to lose here it would seem.
Someone doesn’t have to be 100% evil for us to hold them accountable. I wish we would keep that in mind.
Imagine knowing your granddaughter is in charge of a “complicated” man who “smokes extremely strong cannabis”. C’mon, that is code for substance abuser with rage issues, every single person with brains would have gone to the house to check on the baby!
I wish people would understand that volatile people make terrible parents. They get around to everybody eventually, even babies. Especially babies because they cry and drive even the best of us crazy at times. So I call b.s. on Zayn being a good parent. Maybe he could be if he gets help. Meanwhile, the women in this family need to protect.
I grew up in a chaotic home. It was hellish. Perhaps Yolanda was worried about the baby, and that’s why she went over. Good for her in that case.
I’m a mother in law and I’m a really nice person.The casual misogyny in many of these remarks is over the top. Both Bella and Gigi are very close to their mother. They have plenty of their own money and don’t have to be. That says something about Yolanda.
Finally, why does Gigi walk behind Zayn in every shot? It looks subservient. She needs to stand to him or, better yet, get him out of her life.
” Physical violence is not ok and makes you look guilty of something else too.”
I don’t understand what you are implying since people are stating the Zayn was violent and has to deal with the consequences of his actions. Violence in itself is terrible enough, whatever Yolanda did or did not, there were no reasons to shove her and his actions cannot be justified by hers. It’s all on him, period.
He seems awful and I really hope she doesn’t take him back.
Yes, this is the problem. It is going to tug at Gigi’s heartstrings. She needs to make a full break instead of always going back for more. She is going to want Zayn to be involved raising his child but he is not fit unless he gets healthy and deals with his problems.
Due to the complex nature of abuse, lack of societal support and the social stigma surrounding DV it takes a survivor seven attempts (on average) to successfully leave their abuser. And that’s only if the abuser doesn’t escalate their behaviour to the point of murder and kill their victim.
Whether or not Gigi leaves permanently she’s a strong loving mother who is all doing she can to protect her daughter.
The defense of Zayn I’m seeing online is so reminiscent of how people act about Johnny Depp. “Well what did she do to provoke him? Maybe she deserved it.”
I think many people are familiar with the concept of overbearing or difficult in-laws but physical violence is never excusable, nor is emotional manipulation of your partner.
He has a bad case of Resting Douche Face.
wow a washed up pop star with nothing to do all day except be a Manny to his kid. What could go wrong when his semi- MIL gives him crap for being a bum?
As a preface and to be clear: Zayn is completely in the wrong here and it sounds like he has a history of toxic behaviors and that their relationship was also toxic. Physical aggression and misogynistic slurs are never justified or acceptable under any circumstances.
Putting aside silly fans who are defending Zayn for dumb reasons based purely on fan loyalty, I do think some are commenting on Yolanda’s role here perhaps because they’ve experienced bad behavior from an in law or other type of “outlaw” family member. I know I have and it did initially affect my view of this story. My MIL was and is a nightmare and when our daughter was a baby, she ramped up big time and was constantly interfering, coming over uninvited, giving tons of outdated, unhelpful, unsolicited advice and generally driving me up the wall and driving a wedge between my husband and me on a daily basis (this was back when he was not yet a gold star husband who knew how to put me first). On one occasion, my MIL literally grabbed my 6 month old daughter OUT OF MY ARMS, marched upstairs and LOCKED HERSELF in a room with her. My husband had to bang on the door and yell at her to come out, we took our daughter back and immediately left in the middle of dinner. I’m not exaggerating when I say it was traumatizing for me. She was so awful we ended up moving across the country to get away from her.
Not at all saying that’s what is going on here, but I do get controlling/stage mom vibes from Yolanda and I think it’s possible that she is also an a-hole along with Zane. *Not* that she deserves to be abused by him or that he is not abusive – it appears that he is. But I think, for the rest of us, being a new parent and dealing with an overbearing/rabid in law can color your perception of a situation like this.
This article is literally about how Zayn was a creep to Gigi and that’s why Yolanda had issues at times with him and you’ve chosen to project onto this that Yolanda asked for it. Okay.
I think it was understandable initially that people defended Zayn because of their own experiences of an overbearing MIL but at this point, it’s clear that Zayn was in the wrong full stop. There shouldn’t be any buts and what ifs at this point.
IMO people are projecting their own bad experiences onto this event. Whether Yolanda is “an a-hole” or not isn’t relevant, because for the umpteenth time, she was not the one charged here.
DV counselor here who worked with the abusers.
I’m so sorry to hear what you went through. Your MIL sounds very abusive and unstable. However, at the end of the day that doesn’t have anything to do with his physical abuse towards Yolanda.
One of the main things we had to work on in our DV Group is stopping the abusers when they justified, blamed, etc. They would almost always say… yes I hit her, but she did this, she did that. They always wanted to go into detail of what the victim did.
At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter what the other person did. They chose violence. It just matters that they committed a violent act. They could have removed themselves from the situation, etc.
The men we made breakthroughs with were the men they finally got that point. They owned it, focused on their part and were able to make changes. Trust me, that would take 5-6 months of weekly sessions.
It’s just not helpful to go into Yolanda’s story, bc it shifts the focus of the blame and responsibility. Even if ever so slightly, it makes it easier for abusers and others to justify and create an excuse.
If people want to discuss Yolanda’s personality issues, there are other articles about her or Gigi that people could speak about that. There are definitely lots of stories about her, and I don’t agree w a lot of things I’ve read about her (prior to this). It’s just not pertinent to speak about it in context to her being assaulted.
Thank you, Erin. So much in life is about how we choose to respond to tough situations. It is so important and empowering to realize you do have the choice to respond without violence and to make that choice every day and every moment.
I’m speaking as someone who was violently physically and verbally abused as a child and who has worked ever since to stop the cycle in my own life. Zayn, hopefully, will be able to get therapy and counseling and learn to control his anger and violent impulses by understanding himself better. It is empowering to understand you have far better options than choosing violence.
It is so important especially for his child that he stops the cycle of violence now and does not pass it on to her. That is what I am most worried about — there is the very real possibility that he could also be violent to Gigi or his child if he was ever angry at them.
Thank you for sharing that. “She did this, she did that” is a message boys and men are exposed to a lot. Women are often accused of earning and/or triggering forms of abuse, whether because of actual flaws, tones, or just existing while doing things people have the right to do. So it must be challenging to get them to that breakthrough point.
@Erin thanks for putting this so succinctly. I ended a friendship of about 15 years because he abused his partner. They left him about a year or so later and we’re best friends. I’m so glad they managed to get out of it because leaving is really difficult.
Anyhow, he was always making excuses for himself and would weaponised other people’s empathy for his struggles so they’d make excuses too. He didn’t like it when I held him accountable for his choices. I really hope one day he owns his decisions so he can make changes for the better. It’s the only way he’ll be able to heal and live the life he wants.
@erin, thank you. You have nailed it.
It breaks my heart to see successful young women get into relationships with these ‘bad boys’. The relationship becomes ugly, toxic, and maybe abusive but the woman stays because society has taught her that it’s her responsibility to ‘fix’ him. He ‘needs’ her. And women get blamed when they can’t fix a grown man, they feel guilty, their career might suffer, because we are supposed to take care of everyone but ourselves. But that’s not how healthy relationships work. Relationships should be partnerships, and you can’t fix anyone, they have to do the work themselves. I hope that Gigi doesn’t go back to him and Zayn wants to change and gets better for his daughter’s sake.
Gigi is mostly an Alpha badass in most aspects of her life but she has always had a serious weakness for this broken man
The time she fought off that guy who attacked her in Europe was really badass. IIRC her security team was just standing around when that guy jumped her. I was so proud of her.
Honestly, I think it says a lot that both Gigi and her mother filed charges AND that Zayn accepted a plea. The narrative of ‘horrid’ mother in law is both tiresome and outdated.
If you look at the facts, as stated above, it is very clear that something serious went down and that Zayn accepted that he was guilty, otherwise he wouldn’t have accepted a plea.
Now for the speculation part, if the whole meddling mother in law narrative was true, then only Yolanda would have filed charges, not Gigi too, and Zayn would have probably not accepted a plea, at least that’s how i see it.
Also, like most commenters have stated here and in previous posts, why the heck is everyone going after Yolanda and Gigi? they did nothing wrong, they had the courage to actually do the right thing in such a situation, file charges when someone gets violent with you (physically or verbally). Why is the burden placed on the women in this situation to just shut up and accept this?
“Why is the burden placed on the women in this situation to just shut up and accept this?”
Ditto, it’s infuriating…..
Good for you, Gigi!!
This is so sad. I feel like Gigi asked her mom to check on Khai because of how Zayn was communicating to her(maybe he was on drugs or acting like a Dick) and knew the baby wasn’t safe and Yolanda got in his face and he flipped out. It sounds like Gigi was on the phone with Yolanda when this went down so she knew something was off. I hope she makes a break from him but the thought of him having an infant half the time by himself is also terrifying. Maybe she can get full custody and he gets supervised visits but we all known family court is broken and gives abusers all kinds of rights that aren’t always the best for the child. Be careful who you reproduce with!
I’m glad that you worried about the baby, Lunasf17. The stories keep emphasizing that all is good there. “They are both good parents though. They co-parent.”
I hope that Gigi needs to get the baby out of there. Zayn can have supervised visits if he cleans up his act. It is important for the baby to have a father in its life. I hope he can live up to that.
Hey if this is a safe space for fan fiction, here’s mine:
There was TRO (which can be sealed in family court and perhaps he took a plea because they had him dead-to-rights on violating the TRO) in place and Zayn wasn’t supposed to go within so many feet of the house. He has to push boundaries, knows Gigi is out of town working and goes over there. Whoever is watching the baby panics, and calls the grandmother who drives right over there and all hell breaks loose.
The End.
“Security guard nearby” is a stand up police officer in who still has his (upcoming) wedding website public- Mazel tov!
Zayn’s fans are all over tiktok finding any way they can twist this to try to blame Yolanda. Posting old clips from RHOBH , calling her toxic and manipulative, and accusing her and Gigi of lying just to ruin Zayn’s life. It’s so disheartening to see these posts filled with victim blaming receive over a million likes
When are we as women going to accept that there are no perfect victims and stop using whatever vice we can find to absolve men of their transgressions. Damn
„Look what you made me do” is alive and well. Shameful and disgusting.
Please can someone help answer. I don’t know how it works in the US but does this mean he now has a criminal record?
Yes.
My theory: whatever happened was 110% worse than what he was actually charged with. I think (I may be wrong, I don’t a lot about Pennsylvania) that the harassment charges are misdemeanors, not felonies. If he could have contested the harassment charges, he would have. The fact that he accepted the misdemeanor charges without contest to me says that they could and would have pushed something more severe, in the territory of felony + jail time if he hadn’t taken the deal.
There was also a security person with Yolanda, correct? If so, that means there was a third party witness. How much the person actually saw is anyone’s guess, but I’m betting they can verify everything Zayn was screaming on the phone and certainly attest to any emotional distress and/or physical injuries Yolanda may have had. I wonder if Gigi also has one of those Nest home surveillance things.
You make a lot of good points. I definitely think there was some kind of proof—surveillance video, witnesses—and that’s why Zayn’s lawyer had him settle so quickly. I don’t think there was any gray area.
Wow, people are so blinded by their worship of a celeb. Incredible- the refusal to see what’s right in front of them.
My dad had a horrible relationship with his mother in law, my grandmother. She would try to verbally cut him down or belittle him in others eyes (like his wife and kids)
Guess who never laid a single hand on my grandmother? That’s right, my father. There is no excuse to shove someone or call them a Dutch slut
Exactly! And I bet your fathers behaviour modelled positive conflict resolution to you (and your siblings if you had any).
Kids pick up on who is creating chaos and who isn’t.
Violence is always unacceptable. I also can’t believe there is not more focus on the misogynistic slur. If a man is angry at a woman and his language defaults to misogynistic slurs like ‘sl*t’ then that to me says a lot about how he views women. Gross.
I can swear with the best of them, but his verbal abuse was so ugly, so offensive, so aggressive, it just made me recoil.
The looks in her eyes is miserable for the whole last part of their relationship. She looks sad. I wondered before if what happened was happening. Being there before made me recognize certain things, unfortunately.
I hope that that Zayn takes the court mandated therapy seriously, takes accountability for his actions and decides to behave better.
I also hope that this court ruling lets Gigi & Yolanda feel protected & safe so they can focus on enjoying time with Khai. I can’t imagine the stress Gigi is under. Wishing her all of love, positivity and healing she needs! It’s heartbreaking when you’re forced to protect your child from an abusive parent. At least the courts forced Zayn to take a plea deal and that puts some legal protectors in place.
I can’t get over the mental gymnastics performed by some commenters to justify his abusive behaviour. Really glad there’s some educated & compassionat people being the voices of reason in this thread.
I find this talk about him being a good dad ridiculous. You can’t be a good dad to a little girl while at the same time being violent to the women in your life.
Zayn get help. And stop using violence.
Wishing all parties well.
I have been driven into a rage by a family member once whose actions I found threatening to my daughter’s mental health. Never have I been so angry before or since.
Maybe his actions were uncalled for. But we don’t know.
But violence is always uncalled for and always unacceptable, right? Violence is just not an option for an adult, even an adult who’s triggered by his mother-in-law.
Violence is uncalled for unless of course you are defending yourself or another. We don’t know if he laid his hands on her. We only know what he was charged and admitted to, which was screaming and unkind words.
We also don’t have any proof that he is some drug addict. Smoking strong weed is not an unusual thing to do, & many who do are not considered drug addicts. I don’t smoke but know many who love the stuff & are not addicts or violent.
If more info comes out to prove otherwise I’ll be the first to condemn him.
If Gigi left her daughter alone with him, and was in fact worried he’d be passed out and using, maybe shame on her or maybe she had commitments that forced her to do so. But again this is pure storytelling as no one knows what the heck the real situation is.
Would you trust this guy alone with your grandchild? If I was her I would definitely want to stop in and make sure he wasn’t using, passed out, etc.