Shawn Mendes and Camila Cabello ended their two and a half year romance last fall. Shawn let it be known that it was his idea and Camila stuck it to him by taking their dog and flaunting it on social media. Last January, the press was all a flutter when the ex-couple was seen walking their her dog together. Rumors of reconciliation swirled. Especially since they contend they’ve stayed in touch after the breakup and aside from using the dog as leverage, it seemed like they were keeping things friendly, at least in the press.
Now, though, Shawn is talking about how hard it’s been for him to get over the spilt. He posted a video of himself speaking to someone off camera in which he explains there was a lot more there for him to deal with post-split. The realities of being alone have hit him hard.
Shawn Mendes is still trying to heal from his November 2021 split from Camila Cabello.
“I think that’s the reality that kind of hit me. It’s like, ‘Oh, I’m on my own now,’” the singer, 23, said in a new video posted to Instagram.
“Now I feel like finally, like, I’m actually on my own, and I hate that. That’s my reality, you know?”
Mendes, who was sitting at a piano and speaking candidly to the camera, added that he didn’t realize “all this s–t that comes after” a breakup.
“Which is like, ‘Who do I call when I’m, like, in a panic attack? Who do I call when I’m like, f–king, on the edge?’” he continued.
I don’t know much about Shawn, but I know where he’s coming from here. I remember that feeling of wanting to call the person you’d always called and realizing you’re not supposed to do that anymore. I had a lot of breakups that didn’t matter to me, but one that did matter to me. I can still remember the heartbreak – even after we got back together and got married. Shawn has been open about his mental health. And he and Camila gave each other credit providing the space to work through a lot together. If she’s the one he went to as a stabilizer, it would be doubly hard to work through such a tumultuous event like a breakup without her.
Of course, this could also be damage control since Camila’s new song Bam Bam just came out and it looks like she’s getting some feelings off her chest about their split. At least Shawn can text his new buddy Mariah Carey if he needs to chat.
Photo credit: Avalon Red and Instagram
I don’t think he’ll stay single for long, but it’s actually kinda nice to see that hot young popstars have those troubles too to some degree.
Awww, I completely feel for him. I’m 3 months out from a breakup and even though ultimately it was for the best, I do miss him so much. I do enjoy being on my own and even though I have a wonderful group of friends, there really isn’t an actual substitute for having a partner and a loving, healthy, intimate relationship. As Shawn mentioned, it’s wildly surreal having an empty space where you used to have a person to call and text during both big and small moments. I was completely blindsided by the split and every day I’m struck by how often I shared mundane things with my ex, and now that’s just gone in a flash. Time sure does heal, but healing takes time.
I hope Shawn heals and grows from this. I remember being that age and knowing nothing about love, just that I felt so intensely and that I was willing to do anything to keep that feeling. Now I’m a little bit older and I know more (I think) but that still doesn’t take the pain away. I just know now that at least it will end, at some point.
He’s 23. He probably still has a tight dude posse to hang with. If he were 33, he’d really be feeling it.
His comment is a testiment to how women often are the one carrying both parties emotional burden in relationships, and how men often rely on their partners for emotional support a lot more than women do.
He sounds a bit co-dependent to be honest. It’s the way he doesn’t miss HER but how she handled his anxiety for him… Not healthy.