Did Queen Margrethe decide to abdicate to save her heir’s marriage?

People are still reeling from Queen Margrethe’s surprise announcement, on New Year’s Eve, that she would abdicate the Danish throne on January 14th. Most of us thought immediately of the most recent scandal to hit the Danish royal house – Crown Prince Frederik’s alleged affair with a woman based in Spain, an affair which was widely reported in the Spanish and British media. While I think that scandal could be a factor, let’s also remember that Margrethe had major back surgery in late February/early March, which was so significant she had to make Frederik her regent. I would guess that 2023 was the year Margrethe really began feeling her age and her mortality. Now, is the abdication also about Frederik’s wandering sceptre? Perhaps. The Daily Mail thinks so:

Queen Margrethe acted decisively to end her reign and promote her son Crown Prince Frederik in a ‘shrewd’ bid to save the Danish monarchy and avert the ‘disaster’ of his marriage to Crown Princess Mary crumbling amid rumours of his affair, royal experts told MailOnline today. The Danish monarch, 83, announced in her annual New Year’s Eve speech that she will step down on January 14 – the first abdication in the Nordic state for 500 years.

Royal commentators have told MailOnline that Margrethe ‘deliberately’ dropped a ‘massive bombshell’ at the right time to secure the future of the Danish Royal Family, and its ‘greatest asset’, Crown Princess Mary.

Less than a fortnight ago Australian-born Mary was spotted in tears and shared a cryptic post about loneliness just weeks after her husband was pictured on a night out in Madrid with a Mexican socialite, sparking rumours of an alleged affair with Genoveva Casanova.

British royal author Phil Dampier, also an expert on European monarchies, told MailOnline: ‘I think Margrethe may have worried that their marriage was in trouble and therefore she had to act. The Queen always thought Mary was a fantastic asset to the royal family and if she thought she might leave it would have been a disaster. She will now hope that Frederik and Mary patch up any differences and work together as the new King and Queen’.

Australian-born Mary is hugely popular with the Danish public, and is often compared to her good friend, Britain’s Princess of Wales.

Mr Dampier said: ‘I never thought the Queen would abdicate and this has come as a total shock to many Danes. I can’t help thinking that it has something to do with the recent rumours about Crown Prince Frederik spending a night with a Mexican socialite. Mary recently spent time home in her native Australia and she arrived with her children but Frederik only joined them after a few days. She appeared tearful at one stage and posted some poignant tweets’.

Royal commentator Richard Fitzwilliams said that Queen Margrethe does not wish the Danish monarchy to be viewed as old and out of date. He said: ‘Queen Margarethe of Denmark is a shrewd operator. She has stunned the nation by announcing she will abdicate in a fortnight in favour of her son Crown Prince Frederick. Recently rumours of an affair with Mexican socialite and actress Genoveva Casanova, illustrated with what appears to be embarrassing photographic evidence which was published last November, have been extremely damaging to the royal family’.

[From The Daily Mail]

It’s interesting to think of using an abdication as a way to force the crown prince to stay with his wife. I have no idea if Princess Mary is actually all that popular – they’re lying about her “friendship” with Kate, after all – but it does feel like Mary and Fred were at some kind of crossroads in their marriage. Now they basically have to stick it out – there’s no way Frederik would seek a divorce just as he becomes king. Mary might have even gotten some guarantees that she could carve out a separate life for herself as queen, just as long as she doesn’t pursue a divorce. I’ll say this – if Margrethe made this decision partially because of Fred and Mary’s marital problems, it actually is sort of a masterstroke?

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  1. Kate says:

    I don’t have thoughts on this but I absolutely love that green skirt. Every time I see it I love it anew.

    • CherHorowitz says:

      Yeah that is a great outfit – amazing skirt with a simple black off the shoulder. Love it!

      I love that Margarethe is an open smoker. Obviously smoking is terrible but it’s refreshing to see a bit more transparency and slightly less pretence, if you know what I mean?

      I appreciate the smoking isn’t the most impressive or interesting thing about her but I just found it kinda funny as we would never have a monarch chuffing away openly, not in a million years!

    • Libra says:

      Same. There is something about this fabric and color that just speaks to me.

    • JustBitchy says:

      I fell for this outfit too! I got a skirt in same style/fabric – more holiday colors. It’s a very flattering cut on all of us!

  2. Who knows maybe she didn’t want a mistress for a queen and decided to abdicate before it could happen. Or maybe she feels she wants to retire. I don’t think this will stop him if he is cheating.

    • Chloe says:

      It won’t stop him from cheating. And i don’t think there was ever a threat of Mary seeking divorce so i don’t think this decision had much to do with the status for the crown princely couple.

      • Well aren’t you just in the know this fine day. Maybe the Queen really doesn’t want a mistress for a Queen. Maybe there was talk of divorce. Maybe Mary would leave. We don’t know but can only speculate. Maybe she just wants to retire. Who knows. I don’t live with them to know what is really the reason. These are just my guesses nothing more.

    • Where'sMyTiara says:

      Especially seeing as how that worked out for her British cousins.

      Laughing at the Jan 14. abdication date. Literally gave 2 weeks notice on her job.

  3. Pinkosaurus says:

    Heaven forbid if a reigning monarch wants to retire in her 80’s due to her health status, or just because she’d like to spend her remaining years on earth doing something else. Why does everything have to be about the heir’s marriage? Oh right, because the “royal
    commentators “ won’t be honest about W&K so they just pretend those stories are about someone else 🙄

    • FancyPants says:

      As I commented earlier, “if you stay married you can be King and Queen” is not going to be a sustainable relationship therapy.

    • LoryD75 says:

      Because it would be the first time in their 500 year history that it had happened. Also, the timing is telling. She strips her younger son earlier in the year of his title to consolidate power and show she is still in control, only to abdicate a month after the heir’s affair becomes public. It’s not like she’s retiring for a regular job, where she has earned her retirement and has really worked for a living. She has all the resources and money to enjoy her remaining years while still being on the throne. This is about making sure what happened in the UK doesn’t happen in her backyard.

      • ArtHistorian says:

        Prince Joachim and his wife still have their titles – they also still have their government stipend. His children have been downgraded from princes and princesses to counts and countesses.

      • Megan says:

        Downgrading her grandchildren’s titles was a very big deal and was done deliberately to appease someone, just as abdicating the throne was done to appease someone.

      • ArtHistorian says:

        Joachim’s children would always have lost their titles unless they married another royal, which is extremely unlikely. That was the practice – however, I suspect that they didn’t like that kind of optics. The chatter is that the deal was that the children would loose princely titles at 25 – but Joachim forced the issue. I think that the whole title issue with the titles was badly managed but I don’t think it was done to appease Fred and Mary. I think it was done to send a message to Joachim that his family’s future is not as official royals. I know people think this is a situation like Harry and Meghan – but it isn’t. Joachim has ALWAYS been incredibly entitled and very invested in his royal title. I think Daisy handled it badly. She also knows she did and issued a public apology to her grandchildren.

        The whole situation about Joachim has been weird ever since he sold the large estate that was handed to him when he was young. He didn’t have a job after that and at that time there was an increasing public sentiment that maybe he shouldn’t be funded by the public when he now had such a large personal fortune whilst doing very very few public engagements.

        According to a journalist who is close to Joachim, the prince is absolutely adamant that he won’t give up the public money because he doesn’t want to touch his fortune. That’s apparently the reason why he suddenly wanted to do more public engagements. He was never supposed to be full-time royal. He was given a source of income (the estate) when he was very young. He choose to sell that estate with a huge profit margin.

        He didn’t seem to know what he wanted to do after he sold his estate – and then I guess he thought he could just beef up his royal role. But the situation is different now than it was in the 90s when he got his public stipend. Jobs have been found for him – he hasn’t had to hustle. He is very used to getting things handed to him and he just can’t take criticism. It was when there was a public debate about why we still fund him when he got handed a job in Paris AND didn’t even ask permission to take this government stipend with him abroad. It was a mere technicality that he didn’t deign to cover and when he was called out, he threw a fit in the absolutely crummiest tabloid in the country. One that has been fined for engaging in several illegalities to the point that public opinion was that this tabloid should be shut down. That’s when I lost ALL respect for him. Not because he spoke out but the publication he chose. The fact that his wife things that the public who funds them shouldn’t be allowed to criticize them because “they love Denmark” is just another nail in the coffin for my respect for them. They are the members of the DRF who acts the most entitled out of all of them – and that is why they are unpopular.

      • BQM says:

        Or it’s just about modernization. The Danish royals are stuck in amber and try to keep relevant. Abdication rather than waiting until death, removing titles from those not in the direct line of succession, etc. (And yet still managing to bring out the bling more than the Brits at the same time.) I wish Gustav Adolf would abdicate in favor of Victoria and Harold for Haakon as well.

    • Flower says:

      Margarete actually had some sort of back (spinal) surgery last year, so this does not come as a shock at all.

      She’s also had her share of health issues over the years, I think news is coming out about her health soon. Just a feeling.

  4. Beach Dreams says:

    Eh, I think her health problems + seeing Elizabeth’s health problems and how her reign ended were the major (possibly only) factors. I also think the drama in late 2022 (or was it early last year? Time is weird sometimes) with her younger son and his children’s titles may have been a consequence of burgeoning plans for an eventual abdication.

    I find it VERY amusing that the British media is pushing this theory so strongly, though. They’re clearly chomping at the bit to talk at least a little bit about William’s infidelity. I think they’re also having the delusional hope that Charles will eventually pull something similar. They’d love to have W&K on the throne sooner rather than later for a number of reasons, and who better to draw parallels to than soon-to-be King Frederick and Queen Consort Mary?

    • Becks1 says:

      I agree with you. I think looking back, its clear she has been contemplating this for a while. No way did she make this decision because Frederik got caught with his mistress in Madrid. Maybe forcing them to stay married played a smidge of a role, but it really does feel like she was getting her ducks in a row over the past year or so and now was the time to announce.

      I do love that the british press is emphasizing how this announcement is due to the affair and forcing them to stay married. Almost like Kate will agree to stay if she becomes queen or something, IDK.

      • Chloe says:

        Exactly @Becks1. It’s like royal reporters are switching one couple for the other. Since they can’t outright talk about william and kate

    • Saucy&Sassy says:

      Beach Dreams, I agree with you. It appears to me that she has had this in mind and then put the pieces in place. At her age, it makes sense to let her heir take over. Fred and Mary are in their 50s, so the Monarchy keeps a bit of freshness to it.

      Why would being King and Queen mean there would be no divorce? Frankly, if that’s what they want to do then I guess we’ll see that happen in a year or two.

      I hope the Queen is able to enjoy her retirement.

  5. Beverley says:

    Frederik will continue to cheat. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Add in his royal privilege. What his mother has done is force him to be far more discreet to avoid humiliating his wife and bringing scandal and shame down on the royal household.

    • Matilda says:

      💯 This! Now he will cheat with discretion.

    • ales says:

      W & K must be having multiple serious problems in their marriage. No current happy or loving holiday photos. The Daily Fail and the rest of the BM are attacking the Danish Royals, Frederik and Marys marriage with intense venom. Leaving H & M alone too, and trying to create hate towards Frederik. Not a word about W’s behavior.

  6. Smart&Messy says:

    The thought has merit, but also the idea that the DM is projecting as they always do. My guess is that if the queen’s decision was influenced by the scandal, it was more about image rehab than saving the marriage. I just don’t feel like the marriage was in trouble, as in no one wanted to rock that boat (other than G. Casanova)

  7. ArtHistorian says:

    Lmao! It’s the Daily Fail, of course they are going to take the most scandalous angle.

    As a Dane I can attest that Mary is extremely popular and very well-respected.

    • Shawna says:

      Good to know. I thought the anti-Mary comments on the other post today were coming out of nowhere.

      • ArtHistorian says:

        Some people don’t like her, and that’s fine – but she is very popular here. I also think that there’s an aspect of perception when you only get info from a tabloid perspective when you don’t live here. I do know that there’s been a lot of nastiness towards her in some corners of the internet, some real nasty misogynistic stuff.

  8. Berkeleyfarm says:

    Honestly I think the DM is projecting plenty … but Fred definitely needed to be on a shorter leash.

    I don’t think Mary was about to pack up and leave, and I don’t think Fred wanted wife #2.

    • Jais says:

      Yeah I don’t think this was so much about forcing them to stay married but in giving more responsibility to her man-child son. She was probably like orly you have enough time to go on hunting trips and Spanish holidays? Bet. Although, at the same time, he’s the king now and if he still wants to do that stuff, he likely will.

      • Zengirl says:

        This was my thought too. I think the decision has been in the making, but his affair (or the fact that it hit the papers due to his stupidity) might have been the final straw in picking to do this now. The idea would be to give him something bigger to do, hold his focus, and cause him to take better care of public perception (and yes, the cheating would likely continue, but he would do it differently). It also possibly cuts off some of the local criticism about how much time and money he has on his idle hands to go off on hunts, trips, etc.

  9. KitKat says:

    Theory: Mag’s been planning this abdication for some time. She knew all about his affair in Spain and exposed it. Better to have it come out before he was king and nipped any possible talk of divorce in the bud. It was also a “gentle” reminder from his mother that he needs to be more discreet about his activities as the stakes are higher now.

    If his affair in Spain had been happening for a while and he was that comfortable being that public, it tells me he thought he was being protected. Mary’s reaction in Spain told me she didn’t know the depth and breadth of his indiscretions either.

    Mags is much smarter than people realize. You don’t grow up in a court system as a girl and become queen for 50+ years without deep knowledge of how to quietly get things done.

    • Evie says:

      Of course she’s been planning this for some time. She streamlined her younger son with family out of the way, so that the new king wouldn’t have to make such “mean” decisions early on his reign. Her and the monarchy’s popularity hardly took a hit from it. I wish her well and longevity in her “Queen Mother” days.

    • SueBarbri33 says:

      I like your theory that Marge had a hand in exposing Fred’s Spanish affair. It must have been something like that. What an odd situation, and what wonderful gossip to start a new year of royal watching.

      • SarahCS says:

        Yes, there’s a lot to be said for getting the dirty laundry aired in advance (see also the UK and the various stories about bags full of ‘charitable’ cash). She’s been busy for the last year or so and clearly cares deeply for the institution so she’s been busy with housekeeping to set her heir up for success.

    • BlueNailsBetty says:

      None of this would surprise me. I also think Mag thinks that Fred has too much time on his hands and abdicating would force him to focus more on his country and less on traveling around Europe to get laid.

  10. Robin says:

    Of course she’s popular, incredibly so.

  11. Sindy says:

    That necklace on Margrethe in the pic of her in the blue dress is the fugliest necklace I’ve ever seen it looks like it’s never been cleaned

  12. Rapunzel says:

    Lolz, this is definitely projection. DM had an article on Hugh Grosvenor’s wedding, titled “The Duke and His Rose” or some such nonsense. They meant that his bride was an English Rose, but the title was shady af and totally a reference to the Will/Rose Hanbury story. They are dying to dish the dirt. They print that Queen Marg is abdicating to save Fred’s marriage and then sneakily also print that Chuck could possibly abdicate soon as well. Why might that be, DM? Why might that be?

    • Jais says:

      Oh wow. Yeah they’re doing everything they can to hint at what they can’t write about.

    • bubblegum dreams says:

      Chuckles waited 70 odd years to get his hands on that crown and septer. There is no way he is abdicating in favor of Bulliam. They will have to pry it out of his cold dead hands one day. He will sit on that throne just like QE II did.

  13. Honey says:

    I honestly think this was coming. If you look at some of her counterparts in Europe/Japan, some have already stepped down to allow their children, who are healthier and in their prime, to assume the throne.

    I think what also colored her perspective was seeing her son (direct heir) & his family become throne idle (like Charles), and QEII leaving it somewhat too late. I honestly think QEII’s death had a great affect on Daisy. But more closer to home, she made what seemed like controversial moves of “stripping” the titles from her other children and all that entails (see Sweden), she’s had back surgery & is likely feeling it, and she might just want to enjoy her senior years in other ways. It’s been 52 years. If this move helps by supporting Mary, then it helps. However, I doubt this decision was made solely to keep the marriage intact or to keep Fred on a tighter reign. It was likely several things.

    BTW, since when has Mary been Kate’s good friend?

    • Beverley says:

      The British media is always trying to make fetch happen. Everyone knows Triple K has no friends, certainly not women friends. She’s too mean, envious, and insecure to have healthy relationships with other women. The Fail is trying (unsuccessfully) to tie KKKhate to Mary’s coattails.

    • Lauren says:

      Yeah, the British media, and derangers are always trying to claim that Kate is friends with the other crown princesses/queens near her age but there is no evidence. All the photos we see are from official functions and since the Brits don’t usually provide video of events you can’t see the less stilted formal moments.

      • Mjane says:

        You can’t see the less stilted moments but are nonetheless certain they don’t exist? Who’s monitoring her emails and phone calls to make that determination?

        There’s the same amount of evidence for “Hollywood hates Meghan” as “Kate has no friends”

    • Nic919 says:

      The interactions, or lack thereof with the European royals basically confirm they aren’t friends. The Jordanian wedding confirmed that Beatrice was much better at socializing with that set than Kate. And the British media would broadcast it from afar if Kate socialized with other royals.

      They didn’t go to Christian’s 18th birthday and that is sufficient proof that she isn’t friends with his mother Mary.

  14. Flower says:

    Every accusation by the UK rags is an admission.

    This is what happened with Spineless and Gutless, when Mr Tampon gave them the Wales titles along with the Duchy, so they’re projecting that same thought process onto F&M.

  15. Amy Bee says:

    These royal commentators have no idea about the Danish Royal Family and have stolen money from the DM. The article is extremely lazy and lacks insight from actual experts from Denmark. These commentators are just making assumption based on what they think they know about the British royal family.

  16. Sandra says:

    Whenever I see royals all dressed up in all their “regalia “ it reminds me of little girls playing dress up, putting on every necklace, bracelet, earrings, broach, and wearing every scarf, hat, gloves they can! So tacky….( the royal, not the little girls!)

  17. JaneS says:

    Retirement age in US is 65. I’m 62 and I buy lottery tickets trying to keep hope alive while I drag my arse to work.

    Daisy is 82. I’d have dumped a ton of royal duties on the offspring 15 years ago.
    Get to work, moochers! 😂
    If I was Queen at 82, I’s have on a truckload of the fab jewelry tiara included, sit around the palace in my comfy pj’s and eat, drink and have 2 lovely dogs w/me at all times. Any work needs doing? Hey, Fred, Mary you are up.

  18. JaneS says:

    The Royals and very wealthy can all stay married and live completely separate lives.
    Those palaces and multiple huge homes make it easy.
    Once you get the heirs produced, their only job in public is to dress well, smile, wave at The Poors, multiple luxury vacations.

    IRL, I know 5 couples, a mix legally married and long term living together, some have kids together, 2 do not have any kids.
    None of these adults are romantically involved with each other any longer, Due to finances, none can afford to vacate their homes/apartments and move out. One of the men has told me that they do not even eat meals in the same room. They work hard to stay calm, take care of the kids, work, and stay in their own spaces. He has lived this way for close to 2 years.
    If you can keep civil in a 1K sq ft, 2bath, 2br house in Minnesota (weather means inside tons for months at a time) these Billionaires have no worries.

    BTW, has anyone else thought that part of the reason some long term Royals are stepping down in favor of the next generation is because they think if the younger generation takes over, at mid 50’s or so, it keeps the idea of royalty as vital, valid?

  19. Flying fish says:

    I don’t think that the current Queen’s abdicated was in an effort to save his son’s marriage. I have been following the Denmark’s royal family for a few years now and I notice the Queen’s posture has been deteriorating for some time now due her on going back problems. Additionally, I think that the current Queen was preparing for this for sometime, her most telling move was to strip her younger son’s kids of titles.

  20. Anonymous says:

    I assume that the timing is a reaction to the Fred affair, although it may have been in the making already. Fred has too much time on his hands and needs more work to keep him busy.

  21. tamsin says:

    Seems to me that Queen Margrethe’s abdication is mostly because of her health issues and that she cannot physically carry out her duties satisfactorily. When she stripped some of her grandchildren of their titles she was supposed to have said that doing so was a job that she had to do. I got the impression that it was part of her getting her ducks in a row. By acting while she is still Queen, she is saving Frederick from having to do the unpleasant task and setting up a ‘slimmed down monarchy” Danish style. I’m wondering if the titles are attached to apanages, and by removing the titles she is telling them that except for the monarch and the heir, everyone in future must be self-sufficient and not be dependent on the royal purse.

    I think Mary has grown into her role as crown princess and seems to work hard. From everything I’ve, she is popular in Denmark and is considered a real asset to the monarchy. She makes trips abroad on her own in support of the government and her own social and charitable interests. There is substance to her. I notice that the RR always try to draw associations between Kate and other royal women, or they impugn other royal women in order to make Kate look better. On a very surface level, Kate is the least accomplished among her cohorts.
    I think the Queen of Denmark’s actions seem to be doing what is best for the monarchy and for her family. She appears much more decisive than Elizabeth. I can’t imagine Charles doing anything except to assuage his massive insercurities, resentments and ego. He is a totally selfish man.

    I first took an interest in royal stories when Prince Joachim married Alexandra Manley, who was biracial. i came across the story by accident. She became very popular in Denmark and she made the tabloids a ton of money. She was not smeared and crucified by the Danish press. I remember Ingrid Seward and another British “journalist” discussing how surprising it was (to them) that Queen Margarethe was so proud and accepting of her bi-racial grand-children. The British press made an issue of Alexandra’s race. I don’t think there should ever have been an expectation of the RR accepting bi-racial princesses.

  22. Thena says:

    Margrethe’s own marriage wasn’t all that rosy to begin with (see Prince Henrik’s tirades about not becoming king when his wife inherited the throne, his 2002 tantrum over not being guest of honor at the New Year’s levee and fleeing the country, his skipping Margrethe’s 75 birthday celebrations to vacation in Venice, and his refusal to be buried next to Margrethe). If anything, elevating Frederick and Mary to the throne would put them under more pressure, and she knows it.

  23. Gisby says:

    I’m guessing there are no men’s tailors in Denmark.

  24. Gabby says:

    Divorce him anyway Mary! No one lies on their deathbed wishing they had stayed longer in a bad marriage.

  25. ML says:

    When an intelligent, competent older woman with health problems tells you why she’s leaving, believe her. Believe her over the British tabloids, which make up stories, blackmail people and twist information! A queen does not abdicate to stop her DIL from divorcing her son, because this is not how a marriage is saved.

  26. Cassie says:

    I think it’s a shame Mary feels the need for botox or whatever she has had done .
    She is an attractive woman and would age gracefully in time .
    She looks so different now .