Jennifer Garner has husband Ben Affleck “figured out and will never let him down”


Yesterday we heard a bunch of arguably mildly douchey quotes by Ben Affleck about his marriage and about other women he’s worked with. At least that’s what I read into it, some of you may disagree. To The Hollywood Reporter, Ben said he still e-mails his exes like Gwyneth Paltrow, some little-known girl he dated in high school, and Jennifer Lopez. He also said of his wife, that “We don’t have a perfect marriage, but she inspired me; and finding myself in that marriage and having a child dovetailed with getting to be a little more mature.” So Garner helped him grow basically. It just didn’t sound like high praise and more like grudging acceptance. When asked why he was drawn to Garner, Affleck said “She truly is kind. She means no one any harm. She doesn’t have ill will for any person. She’s not competitive with other people. She’s not spiteful. It’s one of those things where it becomes almost aggravating at times.” Uh oh, right?

Then, on Anderson Cooper, Ben sung Blake Lively’s praises while telling a story about her he loves to repeat. (You can read about it here.) He called Lively “fabulous and gorgeous,” while only saying Garner is “a saint and does so much of the work [raising their three kids] because I’m inept and she’s a genius.” He did call his marriage great, saying “Forty kind of coincided with having three kids and having this marriage that is great and working in ways that I am really proud of.” So that’s good, but it sounds more like he’s referring to his marriage as some kind of business project. I just would like to hear him sing Garner’s praises as more than just a mom, and to compliment her specifically. (Maybe I’m reading too much into it, but it’s my job and I don’t knock it.)

Well now US Weekly has a little blurb of an article, basically saying that Garner has Ben under control and that he does appreciate her. I would bet one of them planted this as kind of a response to the negative publicity. Garner probably just shrugs when her husband says stuff that can be perceived as careless like “that’s Ben.” So maybe he runs his mouth more than he should but things are fine at home. Here’s more:

After seven years, Ben Affleck is still amazed at his luck in finding Jennifer Garner.

“Any man who wants to have a marriage work needs to know who the boss is,” the Argo actor-director, 40, recently said. “The smart thing about me is I know how great she is.”

The Butter actress, 40, has become adept at helping Affleck balance a career with kids Violet, 6, Seraphina, 3, and Samuel, 7 months.

“He tends to get wrapped up in work,” says a Garner confidant. “Jennifer is the one who can get him out if it.”

Adds the insider, “She has him figured out and will never let him down.”

Affleck detailed exactly what it is that first drew him to Garner during a recent chat with The Hollywood Reporter.

“She truly is kind,” he gushed. “She means no one any harm. She doesn’t have ill will for any person. She’s not competitive with other people.”

Thanks to Garner’s unwavering support, Affleck says he’s in an incredibly positive place right now.

“I’m very lucky . . . I feel tremendously grateful,” he told Us at a screening of Argo earlier this week. “I have a great family. I’m very inspired by where my career is right now. I’m fortunate . . . I’m happy with where I am.”

It’s true that Ben has totally admitted that he doesn’t do much work around the house and that he gets wrapped up in work. That was in his Details interview. He did say on Anderson Cooper that they try to switch off caring for the kids when they’re working, and he told an anecdote about visiting Jennifer on set. You know that the childcare falls firmly on Jennifer’s shoulders and that he’s away working more of the time, not that they don’t have plenty of help.

I think what’s happening is that Ben is doing so much press for Argo that he’s starting to be too honest and is showing his cards. For someone so skilled at playing Poker, and playing the Hollywood game, he should get his head in it a little more. I don’t think it will affect his Oscar chances though, this is minor stuff that only us gossip sleuths are noticing.

As for Ben and Jen’s relationship, I would like him to appreciate her as more than just saving his ass at home with the kids. He may do that, but he’s not talking about it much. I have the feeling that if he lost her he’d know for sure what an incredible woman she is and what he’s missing. I don’t want them to break up though! I hope this is a wakeup call for him. I still like both of them, maybe a little more now that I know they’re having normal couple issues. Maybe this is all part of the damn Oscar plan!

Here’s Jennifer out in Santa Monica yesterday and on Capital Hill on Wednesday as part of a campaign for Save The Children. She’s shown out with Ben on 9-12-12. Ben is shown alone shopping at Barney’s yesterday. Credit: FameFlynet

 

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  1. Lulubelle says:

    Girlfriend needs to run a comb thru that hair.

  2. lori says:

    I still feel like he thinks of her as a really great secretary ~indispensable.

  3. Belle Epoch says:

    She must be a strong woman. The kids are adorable and appear to be normal and unspoiled. He seems perpetually discontent and douchey. I think the third kid was meant to be a marriage saver – which usually does not work long term. I would not be at all surprised if he cheated. Good luck to her.

  4. Sirsnarksalot says:

    You can’t force yourself to be in love with someone and that’s the impression I get from him. He loves her and knows she’s a super mom and devoted wife but the in love thing left a while ago for him. He’s trapped and trying to get his satisfaction thru work instead. She’ll never leave him but I’d bet my life savings he walks on them in the next few years and explains later that he “just wasn’t good enough” to deserve her or some such.

  5. MrsBPitt says:

    I just don’t get what saying that his wife is kind is such an insult…I think saying someone is kind is one of the highest complements a person can receive…there is too little kindness in today’s world…and let face it, after 7 or 8 years of marriage and 3 kids you need more than lust to make a marriage work…respect for each other and kindness to each other sounds like a great marriage to me!

  6. Starlight says:

    I think Ben is just seeking publicity for his movie. I don’t think he is going to throw away his beautiful marriage. His wife knows him better than us.

  7. My sister-in-law has worked with Jennifer Garner several times (she used to be in production) and has said that when you see Ben and Jennifer together, away from the photogs and the crap, they appear to be a very normal and loving couple. He apparently once told a mutual friend that he couldn’t imagine his life without her in it and wouldn’t want to. So, who knows?

  8. Dani says:

    Have to agree with MrsBPitt…I’d rather my husband say I’m ‘kind’ and ‘a saint’ instead of ‘gorgeous’ and ‘young,’ which are both just physical attributes and would probably make your husband look dumb if all he could say is ‘my wife is gorgeous and amazing.’

    • MrsBPitt says:

      Exactly Dani…I seem to remember a Mr. Tom Cruise constantly gushing about his amazing, gorgeous wife, and we all know how that turned out!

      • dooliloo says:

        Tom Cruise has been known for being a fabricated robot since he entered his cult, so I wouldn’t count him as someone reliable.
        And it’s not about what Ben says being insulting, it’s about the fact when he talks about his co-star being fabulous, keeping in touch with his ex and this within a very small space of time, well his comments about his wife come off as a pat on the back, generic per se like “honey you’re so kind and Blake is fabulous” (and if Blake was in the film Argo I’d say well promotion anyway he got to praise his co-workers etc. but it was The Town?)

      • MrsBPitt says:

        @doolio – So when everyone is praising Angelina Jolie for still being friendly with her exes (I was praising too)…saying how mature they all are…but Ben is a douche…mmm…strange…

      • dooliloo says:

        I wrote it on Ben Affleck thread the other day but I shall be short here; it’s not about being friends with the ex and keep in touch him/her. It’s about how he brings JLo in interviews almost all the time in interviews as much as his marriage, like they both belong to the same level of value.

        No nothing strange at all since Ms Jolie has kept a good friendship with her ex husband Miller, as for Billy Bob, they are in good terms from what I heard, this way before she met Brad Pitt and got together with him. And most importantly Ms Jolie doesn’t bring them exes 9 times out of 10 in interviews does she??? Plus nowadays interviewers don’t really give a toss about her exes, since she bagged The Pitt, everyone wants to know about her and Brad. So I highly doubt if she mentions an ex now and say how a good man he is, it’d be an event per se. And overall the way she described Brad already in interviews well… nothing compares nor tops it.

      • MrsBPitt says:

        @dooliloo – I don’t think Ben brings jlo up as much as he gets asked about it over and over. I agree it would be much better if he just said that all happened years ago, lets discuss something else…and by the way, I totally agree with everything you said about Angelina, especially how she describes Brad…

      • V4Real says:

        100% agree with dooliloo, she’s spot on.

  9. mel says:

    She dresses soooooooo badly….all that money and she wears clothes that do not fit her right at all! ugh. He needs to shut up…

  10. Hautie says:

    I will the mean one and say it out loud.

    Had Garner not gotten pregnant. He would have never married her.

    I also suspect he had a agent/manager begging him to marry her, to stop him from looking like a big jerk.

    I have always seen Garner having a master plan. And executing it with precision. She wanted Affleck. And she got him.

    So she has him now. Warts and all. And she is never ever going to leave him. Not after all that hustle.

    And now Garner’s best friend, Jessica Biel, is waiting on marrying her own nightmare.

  11. JoJo says:

    Whether or not Ben loves her, I just can’t get past my major feeling about her, which is that she set her sights on him, caught him, got pregnant, and she’s never letting go … no matter what. Yes, yes, yes, I know, I know – Ben didn’t HAVE to marry her. But, I think at the time, he was running hard and fast from the whole Bennifer image, and Jen G. was a good, subtle, white picket fence girl that allowed him to get back on track and change public perception. My guess is they really jumped into marriage way too fast and because of her pregnancy (this is obvious), and seemed to have a lot of issues/problems over the years. Over time, he has likely grown to love her more as a mother and wife and respects her. Hence the comment about how he has “found himself in that marriage”. Overall though, I really see them as a very odd couple where she’s holding on for dear life and always will – more like a mom figure. But, that’s just me.

  12. Joy says:

    So basically she’s his manager…she “manages” his life. Nice, Ben, real nice.

  13. Cletus says:

    Now I could be wrong, but I feel like I could hang out with Jennifer Garner. She seems so down-to-earth and deeply normal, very grounded, and I think she probably IS a really, really nice lady. Her kids seem like they would be nice kids, too. Ben Affleck, however… I want to punch him in the face a whole lot. He is SO douchey… J.G. could do a whole lot better, but HE could not. I’m just saying.

    • Cazzie says:

      Mmmm, I don’t know about that whole ‘down-to-earth’ thing. Maybe she’s down to earth for Hollywood, but that’s different from being a down-to-earth person in real life.

      I saw a clip of Jennifer Garner when she was on the Conan O’Brian show, and she was incredibly rude, “correcting” Conan on a word that he used.

      He was polite enough to let it slide, but then she was even more snotty and said, “I can’t believe that you went to Harvard and you didn’t even know that wasn’t a word….God.” (Issues, much?)

      So then a Conan staffer went and got a dictionary, and you know what? It WAS a word!

      What an idiot.

  14. marie says:

    why is he only midly douchey? what would move him into the full on douchetacular category? telling a story of once asking Blake to visit the island of ComeonIwannalayya*? I see it like this, he’s saying his wife isn’t hot but reliable, sturdy not sexy, docile and doormat. would anyone want to be described that way? I know I sure as hell wouldn’t, I’d be insulted.

    *and yes, I totally ripped that from Burgess Meredith.

    • V4Real says:

      Even though I like my douche bag Ben I have to agree with what you said. He calls Blake fabolous and gorgeous but his wife is just sweet and kind.

      If he couldn’t control his diarrhea of the mouth about Blake perhaps he should have put it this way.” Blake is a fabulous and gorgeous young woman. But my wife is a sexy, beautiful, amazing and kind person, who gave me three wonderful children. In all honesty he should not have been complimenting that walking vagina in the first place.

      • Belle says:

        ^^^^Very much agree with this. I like Ben, and am probably one of the few who believe that he is in love with his wife and does not cheat. I also don’t think there is anything wrong with him describing what a great person Jennifer is… HOWEVER, if he is going to ramble on about other women and their physical ‘attributes’, then he damn well should have saved a few of those type of compliments for his wife as well!

  15. MoxyLady007 says:

    He is reminding me of that Rupert Sanders interview. Where he gushed about KStew.

  16. littlemissnaughty says:

    It’s amazing that he’s saying such nice things about his wife and is still coming off slightly douchey. How does he do it?

    Why doesn’t he just say that he loves his wife for reasons xyz and be done with it? No, he has to explain that his marriage is not perfect (which … duh) and that it’s work and all sorts of “relatable” things. Nothing he said is particularly bad or wrong, it simply sounds like he’s reading a script, that’s what people are reacting to.

  17. Mira says:

    They are playing the Oscar game. I think Ben and Jen are tight as a couple.

  18. roxy750 says:

    I have always loved this family together. They care about their kids and family life. That’s the most important. I hope they live a long happy life together and keep a nice stable family for their kids. Let’s hope Ben doesn’t get “hollywood eyes” again. He’s getting older, hope he’s happy. Would hate for him to have a mid life crisis now that they have 3 kids. It did all seem rushed, hard being married for so little time and the whole time you have kids. That is hard. But it seemed they both were anxious to be “normal”–Jen is great, seems like a great loving mom and wife…hope for the best of them all. Don’t screw it up Ben.

  19. em kay says:

    http://www.citytv.com/toronto/citynews/video/223487

    Before you say he never gushes about his wife check this video from toronto. The interviewer told ben she just saw jennifer walk the red carpet and he responded “isnt she gorgeous? I have the most beautiful wife in the world.” Then he said “LIsten, if you’re married to the best woman ever why be shy about it! I married up thats for sure.”

    Is that gushing or isnt it!!! the only douebags and bastards are you guys.

    Also in his USA Today interview he said “my wife is a world class mom, we underatand that being parents is the most important job we have and yet she still manages to be beautiful and sexy and i dont know how she does it and i wont ask questions.”

    • Jayna says:

      Most on here don’t want to read or hear these remarks. They like the storyline they’ve created. He is not in love with Jen.

      People keep saying Jen was rebound from JLO. First of all, he ended the wedding with JLO but couldn’t get out of it because JLO was fighting not to completely breakup. So he put a few more months in and passive agressively ended the relationship finally, trying not to humiliate JLO. He dated another girl after JLO. She I think lived in Boston. There were photos. A pretty brunette. I think he started chasing Jennifer Garner and she broke up with Michael Vartan for him, though she won’t admit it. She talked about his persuasive emails though to her when he was chasing her.

  20. Suz says:

    I’ve heard him say lots of nice things about Garner – ranging from how beautiful she is to what a great mom she is. I think he’s being sincere.

    I do get the impression that Affleck compartmentalizes a lot. When he’s on the set, that’s his world and his family isn’t in that world.

    Lots of creative people do that, lots of highly motivated and successful people do that. I don’t think it’s a bad thing.

    The guy admits to being driven. I can live with it. At least he doesn’t come out with the canned, “My family is the only thing I really care about…” quote that so many celebrities default to, even when you know it’s not true.

  21. effy says:

    I don’t seem to get the “he’s going for the Oscar” thing.
    how does this get anybody an Oscar?
    Karl Lagerfield would have gotten about 50 oscars for say shits alone!
    What a mean world we live in… judging people by everything they say. making lakes out of boreholes all because you dislike someone (Blake), and for what?
    whiles she smiles to bank all the time?

    Leave Garner to judge!!

  22. geekychick says:

    She talks about her as if she’s nanny of his kids, like Draco Malfoy would talk about his wife. All business. Never liked him, but boy, does he irritate me now. And I still think that that famous comment about thinking of work even when he’s with his kids-rubs the wrong way. And I wonder how would we react if a celebrity MOM said all that.

  23. Angel says:

    I have also read interviews and heard Ben say he loves his wife. If you watch credits at the end of “Gone Baby Gone” he praises his wife Jennifer Affleck. At “The Town” Premeire Ben Thanked Jennifer and said “I Love You So Much, couldn’t have done this with out your support”.
    I think Ben just doesn’t want to over expose his personal life. Just because Ben says something nice about his exes doesn’t mean he is dissing his wife. Lopez and Goop work in Hollywood. They are going to run into each other. They know some of the same people. I think it is smart to be pleasant nice towards your exes.

  24. Sabrine says:

    Harsh critics here. Douchey? How so? He constantly praises his wife and says how much he loves her. There’s never been any evidence of him cheating on her, yet he seems to be accused of it regularly on here.

  25. Scarlett says:

    He reminds me of a politician but instead campaigning for office, he’s campaigning for an Oscar. She’s part of his team to project a tight image and she knows that role well and has no qualms about appearing as such. I think he loves her but no in a passionate, soulmate kind of way. Had she not become pregnant no question that he most likely would not marry her. I don’t feel sorry for at all. She knows that game and is willing to play.

    • lisa2 says:

      I have said this before. Ben has said in a few interviews that he does have an interest in Politics. And he has been laying the foundation for that. His Humanitarian efforts, his family, and yes the image his wife has.

      Take that and you have the “ideal Political family”.. Jennifer is even blogging about issues. I saw an op ed on Huffington Post. So see it is all really beginning.

  26. Yup, me says:

    I loved the interview where Jennifer Garner corrected Conan O’Brien about “sneaked” versus “snuck” but I can’t help thinking she’s like that at home, correcting Ben like he’s one of the kids. She’s been raising him along with their children.

    • Cazzie says:

      Isn’t that the interview where she “corrected” Conan incorrectly?

      http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y_DIHMFO8RI

      LOL!

      And since Affleck went to Harvard as well, it’s possible that she needles him about it. If she does do that, then she should shut up because it’s really annoying.

      I went to Harvard and my mother needled me about it for years. And it was always totally out of the blue, just like in that video clip. It would be just a lashing out at my perceived ‘priviledge’ (mind you, I was a scholarship student, but that didn’t didn’t stop my mother’s aggression and judgemental attitude). So, eventually I just started spending less time visiting her and my Dad. Who needs the hassle, you know what I mean?

      If that kind of random social aggression is what’s going on at home (“Why don’t you program the new clock radio? After all, YOU went to Harvard!”), then I have a lot more sympathy for Ben Affleck wanting to get away.

  27. nancypants says:

    Good perspectives all but I wouldn’t be so sure about Mrs. Affleck not running.

    He keeps talking about other women and past affairs and she doesn’t say too much but look at that face in the first photo.

    That’s the face of woman who is thinking, “Damn, this is embarrassing. How did I let this happen and how do I get out of it?”

    She has Katie face.

    She’s just biding her time and talking to her lawyers.

    I think she will run and take the kids with her and then Ben will be all, “Oh! I’m so SAD!” while doing the happy dance.

    Suck it, Ben. The writing is on the wall and you scrawled it.

  28. Mari says:

    I always felt that Ben settled when he married Jennifer Garner. They started dating after he split with Jennifer Lopez and maybe it was like a rebound relationship. But then she got pregnant and they decided to get married. I think Jen really loves him, you can tell by the way she talks about him. But I always got the feeling that he wasn’t crazy in love with her. I think she likes him more than he likes her. I don’t know, maybe he just doesn’t like to talk about it after what happened with J-Lo.

    • Missfit says:

      I agree, you are so right. It’s so obvious she loves him so much more, the way she speaks about him and looks at him. And he doesn’t praise her the same way or gush about her as she does him. He just freakin said Blake is gorgeous and it’s like…oh ya and my wife is kind and smart too, that too. Move onto the next topic. As if he might as well say something he considers “nice” than nothing at all about Jen. Messed up.

  29. Missfit says:

    I’m sure plenty of other people already expressed this,but…gawd, he’s a punk! He sounds like He is only trying to make it sound good and pretty and make excuses by saying “it’s work.” How dare he still e-mail his exes. I feel as if that is a lack of respect for Jennifer and she deserves more credit. She might not look like Blake Lively or J-ho, but I think JenGarner is VERY pretty and cute in her own way of being. I don’t think he truly loves her as he should and how she deserves. Damn. :/ If he doesn’t cheat on her now, he probably will…

  30. F5 says:

    Yikes.. Poor Ben.. that’s one bunny boiler he married D:

  31. Ginger says:

    UGH! I just can’t stand that he constantly talks about how gorgeous Lively is (which she is but now she’s married so have some respect for another man’s wife) and yet I don’t hear him talking about how hot his wife is…whether you like her style or not (I personally like that she’s down to earth) she is a gorgeous woman and is a Neutrogena spokesperson because of this. She is smart and talented and he says she’s a “good mom” so why he doesn’t sing her praises more is a mystery to me. I agree with the other posters in that he doesn’t seem to truly appreciate her.

  32. Paloma says:

    I think they have been through some trying times. After her 2 nd daughter was born she did not smile for a long time.

  33. lisa2 says:

    Someone up thread said that the whole JLO think tanked Ben career.. NO the movie choices he made after and during that relationship tanked his career. Gosh I don’t want bring people that have nothing to do with this in this, because I get mad when it happens so (hang head in shame).. But there are other celebrities that have been in tabloids much longer and with much more nasty then Ben and Jennifer every had to suffer.. Twitter and the celeb blogs started to pick up after they broke up so they got off a bit easier then some that came after. It is about how you deal with it and how you allow it to affect your life.

    I remember when Ben and Jen first got married. They were this “cute” couple. Now they look like they are going through the motions. I thought having the son would do something for him, but he barely mentions the son.

    And regarding calling Jennifer sweet. No of course that is not an insult. But it it the context and how he says it. He talks of her with so little passion. And he was so animated when he talked of how fabulous Blake was and beautiful. And yes he answered the question about her because it was asked. But it was asked because he brought her up in an original interview. Which of course makes others ask about it. How long ago was The Town. Does Blake talk about him and how fabulous he is?

    and Jennifer looks homely. Look at him kissing her. Like he is doing it for the camera. The passion and heat seems missing. I’m not saying love, but something looks missing.

  34. LLL says:

    I’m begining to believe that Gardner hired someone to keep saying nice things about her. She’s not bad, but she is far from a beauty, sorry.

    I wouldn’t mind looking like Jolie, Katie Holmes, Drew Barrymore, Kate Hudson, Charlize theron, Blake, Rosie, Megan Fox, JLo, Gizele, Beyonce and a couple of others who are classic beauties, but Gardner is OK and not in same league of girls/women with the it factor…

    She lacks pazzazz, not chic, is boring all around, yet not many see this and why I believe some hired help writes nice things about her.
    She’s like a Biel type or Johensen, Alba, Berry, Diaz, Gwen, Aniston and other boring types don’t even have the energy to remember their names.

    Who cares what her marriage is like. If I didn’t know Her husbands type I might say he was handsome, but knowing his embedded smirk/personality is a turn off so she can have him and best of luck and those of you who pretend to care, I get it…We all spend a moment or two on tabloids, but Our lives take precedent and let’s be honest. We prefer our lives and pretend we think they have great lives. Who would want to be famous othet then those who need constant attention? There are some that do it for the art and even money, but they don’t flount themselves all over the place. If your going to faunt, then have some flair or else your boring.

    Gardner does nothing for me. I’m not into women romantically, never will be, but I admire beauty, smarts, sensibility, but never cared to see what they were up to, and/or if I have it’s so so. Not sure why men are attacted to them either, but doesn’t matter. They just are as they should be, just not my cup of tea and not sure why so many find her appealing. Most women are great mothers, so what’s the beef here?

    Ok, just bored right now and sharing my opinion, but in fact I wouldn’t want to look/be like any women I mentioned. I like me just as I am and shame on me for sharing, but normal, I think…Beauty is in the eye of the beholder as they say, just too much praise for one of the dullest there is and why is it I don’t see it? It doen’t matter, I know, but I just don’t…Ok, the end…

  35. Betty K says:

    Watch them on Dinner for Five when Affleck was still dating JLo…

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xif09V0BG_s

    When I saw this when it first aired, I was sure they would get together.

    • Karma says:

      I remember that episode too and thought the same thing. That there was definitely something between them. It was no surprise to me when they got together.

      And for some reason the widow’s peak comment that Colin never completed stuck in my head too.

      Might have to watch it again. Thanks for posting this.

      Weird the stuff that sticks.

  36. Me Too says:

    Have no idea about their marriage and I’d bet no one except their closest friends and family have a clue as well. On another note, however, Jennifer Garner proved to me that pretty much anyone can look amazing with the right makeup and people to do your hair. Saw her out on the street without makeup and didn’t recognize her. One of the paps that must follow her constantly started yelling at the poor woman, asking her a question and that’s when I realized who it was. She has very thin eyes–don’t want to say squinty because I like her–and her complexion is just like all of ours–a little splotchy some days. That huge mouth that I envy on so many “stars?” Non existent without the lip liner and lip stick. It was an enlightening experience. Ever since then, I have to say I have liked her. She was dressed like a regular person, baggy jeans and a horrible shirt. She wasn’t rude even in the midst of being yelled at by various paps. I have no clue about her personal life or whether or not she’s a snob but what I saw was just another real person trying to get through her day. And it made me feel so much better to see her real face! Makeup and hair can do amazing things!

  37. Kez says:

    I think Jennifer is so much smarter and much more of a manipulator than we give her credit for. Don’t get me wrong I like her but I don’t think anything is accidental with her image.

    It’s no accident that we constantly see her out in public dutifully playing the great mom. She’s not the young ingenue that she was when she was on Alias and she knows she needs to appeal to a different audience.

    She cultivates the image she does to get those same kind of roles (Timothy Green etc). If the public and Hollywood consistently see her as the nonthreatening mom type then those are the types of roles she’s going to get offered. She’s smart. I don’t doubt that they both have a combined action plan for how they are perceived based on the direction they are wanting their careers to go.

    I think it’s smart. It’s silly for her to try and compete with the Jennifer Lawrence and Kristen Stewart types for roles.

    • Me Too says:

      I have to disagree about her “playing the perfect Mom” out in public. Maybe she really loves being a mom and loves her kids? Don’t think it’s her fault that she’s papped everywhere she goes. I frankly don’t know how any of them stand it. The little I saw of it when in LA made me like some actresses/actors I never cared for, just a bit. It was so intrusive and the paps were so rude. Makes me feel guilty reading this site…but it’s the only one I go to since I can delude myself into thinking it’s a bit better than the others if only because it’s writers are sooooo funny and sooo talented!

      • Kez says:

        Perhaps. I’ve never witnessed the paps in action but I’m sure it must be awful for them but I think it’s part of what they know they’re in for with what they do for a job. They choose to live in LA. Many celebs live elsewhere for that reason.

  38. Genevieve says:

    I feel like you hit the nail right on the head with this article.

  39. Grace says:

    So if Blake Lively is on bump watch now because she’s beginning to show who is the kid’s actual father-Ryan or possibly Ben?

  40. mimi (a different one) says:

    I find your comments odd.

    Ben should be spending more time with his kids and share responsibility of raising them.

    That’s what he needs to fix. Not how he should talk about his wife or should he sing her praises or not.

    HE is a father and needs to be present in his children’s lives period.

    As for his comments about his wife, I find honesty much better than the usual hollywood PR game lies.

    We all seen his expression of grudging acceptance for the past years ever since she got pregnant and pressured him into marrying her.

    Should he pretend their marriage is something else?
    Why should he?
    We all know how things went about. They got married when she was 8 months pregnant no?

    Why should he be forced to pretend to think anything different of her?

    I don’t think he ever intended to marry her or even to be with her for manny years, and now he should pretend to be infatuated?

  41. d says:

    Those Dinner for Five clips are really enlightening. I believe it too when people say newspapers make stuff up (use to work in the biz), as do the paps, and you know what, the tabs and the gossip blogs. It’s all stories to generate revenue. And we keep buying into it. the only good part is you can comment … and CB tends to have more enlightened rational comments.
    So, while I think BA looks like he might be a douche, for all I know, he’s not and he’s a great guy and they have a great marriage.
    Plus, it’s not that hard to find video of how those paps (videographers and photographers) outright harrassing actors … they know they can take just one photo with an expression lasting a millisecond and exploit it to a thousand words.
    We’ve all had someone take a photo of us with our eyes closed or something and we look a drug addict. Paps just exploit that to the nth degree (and whine and complain about freedom of the press whenever an actor tries to do something about it).
    I think paps are bullies are much as anything and having read gossip sites for several years now, i’m beginning to think some gossip blogs are engaging in a form of bullying or something too by the way they continually insinuate something’s wrong with someone (negativity usually sells more than positive things).
    I like my dose of bitchiness, but sometimes it’s like, there’s just too much negativity going and it’s time to not engage. I dunno. A lot of the stories thse last few weeks. It’s just depressing overall. celebrity news or gossip is actually kind of depressing.

  42. Mrs. Ari Gold says:

    He looked miserable with JLo and now he looks miserable with Jennifer Garner so maybe he is just kind of miserable as a person? Or maybe he just *looks* miserable all the time. Either way he seems incredibly arrogant and douchey.

    • lisa2 says:

      ITAWY.. he always looks like he is doing something he doesn’t want to do. That these women are forcing him.

      I was thinking that he just seems like he is doing what everyone thinks he should do. Like the outside world is telling him how wonderful his wife and kids are. How he has this great family and he is there but not.

      He looks happier with other people outside his family. He has been glowing while promoting the film on RCs and tv shows. I just never see that glow with Jennifer or the kids

    • lisa2 says:

      Wow if that is about them then she is throwing down some serious sh*t. because it is kind of blackmail. I won’t leave you. You will have to leave me/us and face the negative that will come your way If you thought the JLo crap tanked your career, wait for this to hit the fan.

      *** I hope that is not true. I’m not a fan of Jennifer G.. but if she is doing that it is a shame. Mainly because as a woman shouldn’t you want the person you are with to really 100% want to be there.

  43. Djinn says:

    Its this stuff that puts me off marriage and babies (well that and the number of married men who hit on me – even the ones who’s wives gush about how perfect they are). It’s like guys start putting you in the housewife role once the ring is on, regardless or whether or not you are a housewife or not. I don’t want to be seen as a great help, like some unpaid maid/nanny.

  44. Kennedy says:

    This is going to sound a wee bit sexist and probably awful but I have to get something off my chest…

    I saw Argo yesterday, and it confirmed that Ben Affleck is not only a truly great American filmmaker but is SEXY as hell. He can rock the 70s look and still remain hot which is telling. Not a superb actor (he had the same facial expression throughout the film) but I respect his choice of casting himself in the least showy role and giving the other actors room to breathe… and shine. Anyway point is- J Garner is HOT but tends to stick to the “I’m a mom and too busy to put on some makeup and comb my hair and look a little hot” game plan which when your hubby is looking THAT good, you need to try harder. Yeah maybe I’m shallow but if I had her looks and Affleck’s dong in the bed next to me, I would take full advantage :)

  45. Mitch Buchanan Rocks! says:

    In the last photo BA looks like John Corbett.