Olivia Wilde discusses auditions, Hollywood sexism & double standards

Here are some new photos of loved-up couple Jason Sudeikis and Olivia Wilde at last night’s gala at The American Museum of Natural History in NYC. Olivia’s gown is Dolce & Gabbana – it’s pretty, maybe a little bit too fussy, but it’s a nice gala and it’s appropriate. I think this is the first time Jason and Olivia have walked a red carpet together and posed for photos for all of the press. It’s nice. They’ve been dating….? About a year I think. They began in late 2011/early 2012. So they waited a while until they did the whole “we’re a couple” thing on a red carpet. And now all I can think about is how they’ll get married and have babies. It’s certainly beginning to look like that, right? Which comes first – an engagement ring or a pregnancy announcement? We know that Olivia thinks the sex is better with Jason than with her ex-husband, so she probably wants to lock that sh-t down.

Meanwhile, Olivia recently told a story about how young actresses dress for their auditions. I don’t really understand why this is shocking or breaking news or anything – here’s Olivia’s story:

“I was an assistant — a terrible assistant — for the world’s greatest casting director, a woman named Mali Finn, who was the most powerful casting director in Hollywood. I had just come from school, and I was a little feminist and she was too. I remember an actress coming in wearing a too-short dress. And after she left, Mali said, ‘Why was she wearing that dress? She’s a joke, I’m not meeting with her ever again.’ And this girl was never heard from again.

Then a few days later, I was going for an audition and I was wearing this huge cashmere turtleneck and pants, thinking I looked very ‘executive.’ As I was walking out of the office, Mali said, ‘Olivia, what are you wearing? I said I was going to a meeting, and she said, ‘Oh! You can’t wear that! You have to wear something tight and sexy.’

I was so confused, because I had just learned this lesson of this actress who wore the short skirt and now her career is over. So she said, ‘You’re going to meet a male executive. You have to learn this game, you have to learn when to use sexuality and beauty and appearance in general, and when it’s inappropriate. That was my first kind of dunk into the world of Hollywood. It gives you this idea of the contradiction that exists, really in all fields.”

[From Buzzfeed]

Call me a pragmatic cynic, but I feel like this is just the way Hollywood works? Male Hollywood executives often hire actresses based solely on the “Would you f—k her? Is she f—kable?” question, and actresses dress accordingly. But! There are a lot of female casting directors out there who (I believe, perhaps naively) are actually looking for the right actor or actress for the part. As for the idea that this kind of sexism exists in other industries… I don’t know. I’ve heard anecdotal evidence that many men don’t want to hire “the sexy girl” or “the girl who dresses provocatively” because… you know, they don’t want to hire a lawsuit waiting to happen. But don’t ask me… CB makes me wear low-cut blouses and call her “The Mistress”. SEXIST!

Photos courtesy of WENN.

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  1. Ms Kay says:

    Haha oh dear, it’s proper Californication over there so nothing new. Also lots of men are bend over/slut around with male/female casting directors to get a part.

    Anyway Olivia, since her whole vagina has died debacle and opening her vagina to the likes of Jason… I kinda can’t take anything she has to say seriously.. Sorry.

  2. Celebitchy says:

    You’re not supposed to talk about that Kaiser! Damnit. Now go wash my car.

  3. TheOriginalKitten says:

    Yeah, the double-standard exists in every field and she’s right-you learn pretty quickly when to play up/downplay sexuality in a way that is advantageous.

    That shit used to really bother me but at this point, I’m so used to being around men and having to fight/manipulate men to get what I want that I’ve learned to just accept it.

  4. Talie says:

    She’s very clingy with him in public, even at the Vanity Fair party earlier this year…although January Jones was there so…

  5. Jenna says:

    The best part of this entire thing was how CB makes you call her ‘The Mistress’. PRICELESS!

  6. Ginger says:

    I don’t believe I have ever learned to play the game correctly. I understand it but I’m just not the type to play games. This has proven to be a road block for me at times. I can understand why Olivia would be confused about the double standards and outright sexism that exist in all industries, not just Hollywood. And I can’t believe that I am actually agreeing with Olivia Wilde. Sigh.

  7. SmokeyBlues says:

    Can’t stand this chic bit I loooooove that dress. It’s my idea of perfect!

  8. Liv says:

    This Mali Finn is not a feminist, nor is Olivia Wilde. They are just stupid and supporting sexism. So their conclusion is that women should learn to be a whore when around men and to stay classy when meeting women? What a stroke of genius!

    • TheOriginalKitten says:

      Are you really equating dressing slightly sexier with “acting like a whore”?

    • Liv says:

      No, but they implied it themselves when they kicked out the unknown actress just because of her skirt…

      • V4Real says:

        Wait; read the post again. Not that I’m defending Olivia but she didn’t say she kicked the girl out; her boss did that. Olivia was an assistant and she didn’t have that kind of power. She was saying that she was confused because Mali wouldn’t hire the girl who was dressed too sexy but the following day she told Olivia she wasn’t dressed sexy enough. She had to learn the hard truth about contradiction so how is she to blame?

      • Liv says:

        Oh girls ;-)

        Ok, here’s what I think:
        Olivia was of course just an assistent and she was young – I’ll give her that. But I assume she agreed with the behavior of her boss, because she dressed herself “down” the next day.
        And I think it’s just wrong to judge women because they participate in the please-men-game. I honestly would also think twice when a women with a super short skirt walks in. But “destroying” her future career just because she didn’t get the difference between a female and male boss?

        You know what I mean? That’s not feminism, that’s dumb. I’m not walking around all day long fighting for feminism either, but this story is so stupid.

        They are claiming to condemn women who dress tacky, but do the same when it’s about them and when their career depends on a man. I really don’t get this kind of thinking.

  9. Erin says:

    I can understand where Mali Finn is coming from, but I still think she is wrong. The only way women will ever stop being valued for our appearance is if we stop catering to that ideal. While it is true that that is one way to get what you want, it will not get you equal footing in society. Men aren’t going to change, so we have to implement the changes ourselves.

    • TheOriginalKitten says:

      I think there’s enough room in the world for Peggy Olsons AND Joan Holloways.

      Some women don’t have the ability to use sexuality to get ahead, and get ahead just fine on their own.
      Others find that a little manipulation here and there works in their favor. *shrugs*

      I don’t see why either should be deemed right/wrong. I think in order for us women to compete with men, we have the right to use any/all the tools we have to our advantage just the way men use theirs and I don’t think this precludes the idea of subtly using sexuality to get ahead. I can attest that in the corporate world, a woman may be hired because she “represents well” (i.e. is attractive) over another equally qualified woman, that might get her foot in the door but in the end, if she can’t do the job properly her ass WILL get fired.

  10. RTR_Girl says:

    Wow, that Olivia Cockburn sure is quite the naughty little minx, isn’t she?
    And yes, I am both being sarcastic and making fun of her hilariously awful real last name.

  11. RTR_Girl says:

    Just a reminder…her last name is Cockburn. OT, I know, but it’s always worth mentioning, in my opinion. ;-)

  12. RTR_Girl says:

    Just a reminder…her last name is Cockburn. OT, I know, but it’s always worth mentioning, in my opinion! LOL

  13. Stay-Cee says:

    Her and jason look adorable together imo (:

  14. Issa says:

    Agism is more prevalent in Hollywood than sexism. You will be labeled in Hollywood by the roles you choose. If you go down the vampy, rom-com, sexy woman bit, you will be forever casted and generalized on sex appeal versus your actual acting talent. Believe these women are seeking fame over acting merits. Then accuse Hollywood as sexists but they actually clamor for vapid & shallow roles. So yeah if you are more concerned about your appeal to the general American audience, you’re going to be cast based on your sex appeal versus your talent.

  15. Maya says:

    Man, what a good-looking couple. Their kids will be gorgeous.

  16. Mira says:

    I get what she’s saying. The contradiction is a sad reality in most professions. Ultimately it comes down to self awareness and whether or not one wants to and one can play the game. I’ve made peace with my inability to network, be chatty and play the game. I’ve tried and I suck at it. It’s a cost-benefit analysis ultimately. It’s a road block in getting ahead, especially networking, but I’ve made peace with it. The process itself makes me so extremely uncomfortable that I don’t enjoy whatever I gain out of it. So I stick to my low-profile self.

  17. Rux says:

    I was Director of Human Resources for a big Hedge Fund, let me tell you that when it came to assistants or clerical staff, the only requisite was, and I quote “Please hire a hot girl. I am tired of looking at the Golden Girls and the Nerd Herd”. This was from the Top Execs and the Traders.

    • marie says:

      ha (sorry bout the laugh but I did chuckle) that is so true.. when my company was hiring an outside salesperson there were several women that applied and were turned down because they didn’t fit the “personality” of the company (they weren’t hot enough) but the men that applied could be short, bald, tubby and have no clue what they were selling.. so ridiculous

  18. Nicolette says:

    Love the gown and she is freaking gorgeous!

  19. PaperbackWriter says:

    Mali Finn died in 2007 of melanoma. She was well loved in the industry and definitely a powerhouse. I find it hard to believe the short dress girl was ‘never heard from again’ because she said so though.

  20. balls says:

    Women cry sexism, but yet all they have to do is use their magic box to get anywhere in life. I guess it’s just the unattractive ones that complain though. But even then, no matter what the girl looks like there will always be several men wanting to bone her.

    She’s a New Yorker 20 something liberal feminists….yea we all know how delusional they can get.