Yesterday Bedhead covered the story that Giuliana Rancic had declared that she put her relationship with her husband, Bill Rancic, ahead of her baby. She said “We put our marriage first and our child second, because the best thing we can do for him is have a strong marriage.” That statement was pretty controversial of course. While some of you agreed with her and said that happy parents make happy kids, others said that it was selfish and not in the best interests of the children. I think “to each their own” basically, which is how Giuliana qualified her statement. However, I do think Giuliana is a narcissist in general and it’s not surprising to me that she wants to keep up the status quo in her life after her baby comes along. That has to do with my impression of her and not this particular thing she said, which is something she would say.
Giuliana and Bill of course worked very hard to be able to have a child. Giuliana went through several rounds of unsuccessful fertility attempts before doctors found that she had breast cancer. She had a lumpectomy that was unsuccessful and eventually opted for a full double mastectomy as cancer was in both of her breasts. The couple finally had a baby through a gestational carrier last year, using Guiliana’s egg and Bill’s baby batter. (I just wanted to use that term. Also, kind of off topic, there was a scene in this week’s “Shameless” in which a childless couple is trying to conceive, with the help of the wife’s mom, that was just awesome. I’m not giving spoilers, I just can’t get that out of my head!)
So anyway these two were spotted at the airport leaving LA yesterday without their six month-old baby, Edward Duke. They were just chilling out holding hands and didn’t have a nanny trailing behind them or anything. I get that new parents want to take time off from their baby and all, and maybe this was Giuliana’s way of telling us she does that. Again, to me it’s just more evidence that she’s an image-obsessed selfish person, but I’m not going to criticize her for not bringing her baby along. It just doesn’t make sense to me that someone would work so hard to have a baby and then be like “well, the nanny can do all the work at home and we’re going on vacation now.”
Also, last December Giuliana said that she totally loved it when her baby pooped and she loved changing his poopy diapers. She even said she would videotape it when Duke (I guess they call him by his middle name) poops. Maybe that was so she could remember it, since she sees him when it’s convenient to her. Too harsh? She bugs!
Update: for those of you wondering if Giuliana and Bill are flying out of town on business, this is what she tweeted recently.
Ur sweet. I’m taking a post award season vacay!See u March 12! RT @ashormsby: I miss @giulianarancic … @enews is not the same!
— Giuliana Rancic (@GiulianaRancic) March 1, 2013
Another Update: Bedhead just informed me that they’re going to be on vacation for 11 days. I guess she did the math with the tweet. Maybe they’re returning to LA before then and that’s just when Giuliana is going back to work. Who knows. I did watch E! News with Vanessa Lachey last night and she was excellent, very personable and warm. Giuliana better watch her back.
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Does she ever close her mouth?
maybe she is hoping someone will put food in it.
I once read an excerpt of her food and exercise log. Clearly she’s very afraid of food.
*eyeroll*
That is all.
Yeah I think they are a bit famewh0rey/tryhard..she wants to be a household name celeb so so bad.
More eyes rolling.
She gives me the heebies.
Her head is really humongous for her body. It’s distracting.
Isn’t that called “lollipop syndrome”. A fake term for women on gossip sites that lose so much weight they look like lollipops?
I hate when guys wear flip flops
omg! me too lol
Ewe MANdals! Big turnoff.
The flip flops on him look weird when she is wearing boots..lol.
Yes! That the first thing I noticed was his flip flops — his feet totally gross me out!
Especially through an airport and on a plane! EWWW.
I agree! I always wear shoes that I can wear socks with to the aiport (or I bring socks to put on for security). I don’t know how men or women can do the sandals/flip-flops thing when they have to go barefoot through security along with thousands of other people.
Maybe I was too traumatized by the many warnings of getting warts in shower stalls at school, though. 😉
Pls the baby is 6 mths old- they can go off for a bit. After all that woman has been through, enjoy!
I agree, and think that the tone of this post sucks. I cannot imagine that a baby wanted as badly as theirs is neglected. Women are so unfairly judgemental of other women’s choices.
This woman has made a career out of judging other women – their hair, make-up, clothes. She’s flying off on a vacation because she SO exhausted from her judging.
If she want to leave her baby at home while she suns her praying mantis body, fine. But I certainly think its fair for me to judge!
JR is creepy & selfish. Ditto for her hubby. After all her public boo-hooing over infertility, then taking off for a long vacation. They could easily afford to bring a nanny and their baby–paying for accommodations in a separate room. These two are disingenuous robots & selfish beyond words.
I agree. I don’t think having a child means you have to be with them 24/7. Not good for mental health! Besides, grandparents usually love a little one-on-one time with the grandkids!
Getting away to not be with a child 24/7 is one thing, going away for a week and a half is another. They could certainly bring the baby and the nanny to have some alone time. Seems a little overboard to me.
Just because she is going to be away from E! News for 11 days doesn’t mean that she is going to be away from her child for 11 days.
Absolutely agree with Tig and Skesis. If more parents taught kids how to be committed to a relationship rather than just preaching to others about committing to relationships and children (of course, while carefully defining which types are and are not appropriate, btw) then maybe this would teach more kids how to be individuals rather than overbearing parental units. Most of that crap is just for show, in my opinion, anyway. I put my cats ahead of most things and I can’t get anyone to give me martyr points for it. (Just kidding about the cats. Sort of. But not about the martyr points.)
I give my cats priority too.
Going to disagree w/ this post. I went through hell trying to get pregnant and went through so much invasive testing that I almost died from one of the tests.
We ended up adopting. My baby girl was my world, and I would NEVER have left her for any reason or with anyone at the tender age of six (6) months for any reason…NONE.
You waited so long for a baby…you live an entitled life, you have everything…perhaps, just perhaps, you could sacrifice a get-away vacation until your baby is one-year old. SUCH A SACRIFICE. NOT.
I can’t deal with entitled, spoiled, rich people.
You are awesome. You are a MOTHER. Your baby girl is lucky to have you!
Good lord, all I see in that first pic are teeth. Maybe they left the kid at home so he wouldn’t be blinded?
They both have a set of dentures on ’em.
I’m starting to feel like babies have become the new chihuahua. Too bad we can’t blame this trend on Paris Hilton.
it’s probably a good thing that Paris doesn’t have a baby :p
Yes, I think she’s a narcissist.
I can’t throw the girl shade for the fertility problems and cancer. Both are horrible. But I do believe she likes to hear herself talk, and if she were to walk by a mirror, she would check out the view. I don’t think she would enjoy her life if she didn’t have an audience.
I know I will likely get flack for saying this, but I think her fertility problems had a lot to do with her anorexia. There are naturally thin people and then there are skin & bones people, and she is the later. I recall seeing her on some TV show, and they were questioning her on why she refused to gain weight if she wanted a baby so badly. She basically responded with that being thin was important to her. I truly think she has an eating disorder, and it is so severe that it trumped gaining a healthy ten pounds in order to conceive a baby.
you are absolutely right actually. Her doctor told her she could conceive if she would gain 15 pounds and she gained 5. So she decided to go with IVF. And here we are.
THANK YOU for speaking the truth about this horrid woman. The fertility treatments caused her breast cancer. The fertility doctor refused to do yet another round of pointless in vitro shots until she got checked for cancer first. Bingo.
I was furious at the People magazine cover that dramatized this Bobblehead FIGHTING FOR HER LIFE. Her life was not even in danger. Now compare to Robin Roberts who really IS fighting for her life – but talks about everyonere else, not herself!
Famewhore and idiot who spins everything to avoid the elephant in the middle of the room: HUGE psychological problems about food and body image.
I could not agree more! She has always wanted a baby on her terms, which meant not gaining any weight. And then, bitch had the nerve to say that since Posh conceived naturally as skinny as she is, G should be able to as well. She actually used that comment to defend not wanting to gain any weight. My mouth dropped open at her level of delusion, since fertility treatments are WAY harder on the body than gaining 15 crucial pounds. The thing that really gets me is that if you ever see any old footage of her when she first started working in front of the camera, SHE WAS SO PRETTY! She looked young, still thin, but not stick-insecty, had no awful long extensions, and had a nice little figure! At some point, anorexic logic kicked in, and she hasn’t been the same since. I’m afraid I don’t feel at all sorry for her narcissistic a$$ and all her “struggles” and want her to just SIT DOWN!
I’m glad someone has finally said the truth about this hag. Someone like that has no right having a child.
She is horrid in real life. That poor kid is nothing but a bragging acessory. And I met her at a charity event for cancer. Someone said she had her charm on that day. Holy crap, can’t imagine when the charm is off!
Her wanting a baby is just so she could have an extra accessory.For somebody who went through everything to have a baby i find it very easy for her to leave it behind like a puppy.She only have Duke for a couple of months and she find it she need a vacation from him already,what a mom.Everytime i watched her interviewing people from the red carpet ,i think she thinks she dressed and looks better than all of them put together.She’s got that narcissistic vibe that can’t be denied,what a tool.
Totes agree!!!!!!
I can’t stand her. I always change the channel when she is on.
Welll….. to come from another angle, you can’t blame a person for infertility. it is a disease, a condition, and it strikes anyone.
for exmaple me- I am beyond a doubt barren, 3 years in stable relationship and no protection but not even a close call yet. I am not anorexic, actually could stand to lose some weight, because the hormonal imbalance makes me heavier now.
So annorexia is unhealthy and it CAN lead to infertility issues, but please dont try to find blame somewhere because it really can and does happen to anyone.
“It just doesn’t make sense to me that someone would work so hard to have a baby and then be like “well, the nanny can do all the work at home and we’re going on vacation now.”
I’m thinking the very same thing. However, maybe she wants to make sure that Bill doesn’t feel neglected now that she is a mother. She probably went reluctantly to appease Bill for marriage insurance.
Actually I think it is the other way around. I see Bill as being very nurturing and Daddy-like. (Actually Bill can be my Daddy any day of the week. But I digress…..).
I see Bill perfectly willing to stay home and play Happy Family.
I see her as needing a break from the baby.
I have a feeling that her parents are with the baby and she has awesome parents. So baby is on good hands.
I have a six month old and am not ready to leave him. Could not imagine taking a vacation without him right now.
^This!
I totally agree.
My son is almost two and I still can’t bear to be away from him for more than a couple of hours. I can’t imagine taking a vacation without him. Not gonna happen.
Mine is eight months, and I feel the same way. It wouldn’t be relaxing.
Ok, this is bad, my daughter is 3 years old and anything more than a girl’s nite out is TOO much. I can stand 1 night without my snuggle bunny but after that, I’m back on the Mommy horse. LOL.
I don’t know. I took a 15 day long cross country motorcycle trip without my child (he was 11 months). I wanted to take him (I’d be in a car) but the ped said he wouldn’t really enjoy or appreciate it at that age. My son and both sets of grandparents had a blast while we were away.
At 6 months, an infant really does not care- it’s only when they’re older do they start feeling tue absence.
it could really be easier for her because she did not birth the baby- or carry it. She didnt have teh wave of chemicals for 9 months and the surge during birth, so it could well be very easy for her to separate from it just like it was any other baby.
Oh wait, I now see the comments saying that its rude to adoptive parents to make that conclusion—- so let me clarify my remark was to apply to her and her only and not a judgement on adoptive parents at all, it didnt even enter my mind.
Whatever. I think it is important to stay aware of your partner after you have kids, although I really could not have been apart from my baby in that first year. But that was me, and it’s not like I’m the model of motherhood. Please.
Why don’t we ever assume that the dad has to be dragged on vacation? I know plenty of men who didn’t want to go anywhere without their babies/kids. Maybe Bill will miss their baby as much as she does, or more.
In this relationship, I get the vibe that she is the one that tries to keep him happy.
I get the opposite vibe. I think he caters to her needs unendingly.
I just can’t with her. Something about this chick annoys me and screams narcissist. When I saw her on the Oscar red carpet, she looked like a praying mantis and, I personally, thought her dark hair looked awful. I sometimes check out that Celebrity Baby Scoop site (no lie, almost always just to see where I can get some of the outfits and shoes celebspawn sport) and she gives them lots of exclusives fawning over every aspect of her son and it seems very disingenuous. I have some girlfriends who I know through my daughter’s playgroup (who some might refer to as the minivan majority) and they went on and on one day about how much they love her and Bill and how they cried during the episodes about her surrogacy. Obviously people are falling for her schtick.
YES!! I completely agree – people have fallen for her schtick…well said!
Mine is 11 months. Who wants him for an evening so I can have sushi dinner withy hubs in peace?
Sushi for an evening out is very different than vacationing without.
Last year, for my birthday, my sister and i went to the DR for 6 nights. I had a blast, face-timed my baby as much as I could (internet rates suck out of the country), and relaxed. The day I came back I took the next day off work to spend the day with her. She stayed with my parents, no big change we live with them, and when her dick of a father, who gives me zero support, had the nerve to question me about it, i told him I earned a vacation. And I did. I dont think there is anything wrong with getting away for a bit. I work all day and spend all night with her. I don’t get a babysitter to do anything unless the kid is already sleep. Children are easily entertained and wont fault you for taking a break every once in a while, as long as they are with other people that care about them. i will never understand shaming parents for leaving their kids for a short amount of time to get some peace. One day, when she becomes a better passenger we can take vacations together. You know, the kind that wipes their own butt, and doesn’t complain about the music lol
I’ll take him. We’re going through IVF round 3 currently. In the meantime, we are babysitting everyone we can get our hands on. From friends first dates after birth to weekend getaways, we seem to be the place to drop the kid off.
Just wanted to say good luck! We conceived our daughter via IVF. It can be really hard, both physically and emotionally. Hope it goes well for you 🙂
ME!!!! I’m 36, no man in sight and it’s probably never going to happen for me, I’m an aunt and love my nephew to peices!!
I say good for them! I totally get having to keep each other first. My mom told me a couple of years ago that her and my dad were the parents they were able to be to my siblings and I BECAUSE they were able to take time for and with each other. Even now sometimes talking to her on the phone, she rushes me off and says “your dad and I have a date later, I gotta go”, it’s very nice.
Erm, all the women slaggin her off about taking time away from the kid are just jealous she has help and has a choice! I think bobbleheadedness aside, she has the right idea. You married your husband. You didnt marry your kids. Your kids were to enhance the already strong bond between you and your primary commitment, your husband. If you let your kids become your main reason for being together, you are on the wrong path…and so many people do this, neglect their spouse for the supposed good of the kids.
Sure she is likely anorexic, sure she is even tannorexic, and sure, its possible the fertility treatments caused her to get cancer, but that doesnt mean these two werent dying for a baby, not for ratings, but because they really wanted a baby. She has a baby now and I bet they are happy, and its good they have each other to be thankful for each day.
Everyone else who is all “I cant leave my kid” probably never even considered or cant afford a vacation away, even for a weekend, so until you try it, dont knock it. It revives, recharges and makes you even more grateful for the wonderful kid you have…who by the way wont even remember a trip to fukkin barbados unless it happens sometime after he/she is 4 or 5 anyway! Think about it.
I would take your little one for the night if you lived near me (I’m a grandma of 10). While I believe you need to take time for yourselves a nearly 2 week vacay is a little over the top when a child is this young. You should not put either one first but try to find a balance to give enough time to both of them.
I agree. I don’t have any, and don’t really want them either, but I can totally see the benefit of getting away for an evening or a day. However, LOGIC tells me that leaving an infant with a nanny and without either parent for two weeks has got to be traumatic for the little one.
Logic doesnt say anything about a stay with a loving nanny, who by the way is the primary caregiver while mum and dad are working, so kid is used to the woman, being traumatic in any way. Do you know kids? Do you know how easily they trust and love? They dont judge and hold grudges. Least of all a 6 month old.
So bizarre to think that. I grew up in asia. I grew up with “Amah’s” or “helpers” all the time. My kids too. This is only some sort of foreign concept to be feared in the US because there having a nanny is a rich person privelage, in Asia its the norm. They live with you, they eat the same food as you, they clean your house, look after your kids when you go to work, and in turn you look after them and their family back home is comfortable.
There is nothing traumatic about this arrangement…a strong bond is formed between child and nanny and only an idiot would sit there feeling insecure about something so simple as this. Kids, in the end, still know who Mum and Dad are…
Add me to the list of volunteers. My three-year-old LOVES other kids. (And if you could bring me some sushi, all the better 😉 )
My mom did not take a vacation without me until I was 6 – but we were poor!
Last summer was the first time I was away from my kids for more than a night, and they are 9 and 11. I never would have left them the first year, as I was breastfeeding.
When you have their kind of money, couldn’t you bring baby and nanny too?
It’s starting to feel like that baby was a status prop, not an actual person they want to raise.
Ugh. She bugs me to no end.
Heck, with their money, baby Duke & nanny could have their own room, suite, or villa – whatever.
She does bug to no end.
That’s what I’m saying! Take the baby. You can spend time alone while he is with the nanny. But when you start to miss him he’d be right there!
Happy parents make for happy babies. She’s completely right.
Is it a vacation? They were spotted at the airport. Maybe it was a two-day trip for business or a few days away. Did she say she was going on a full-on vacation?
She is about to blow up and dump that dork for holding her back from worldwide famous greatness and ignoring how much she suffers so greatly to achieve the perfection of creating this mythical character of envy.. Their life is scripted.. write the last year’s attention getting baby out for a while.. Sheese!
I bet they have a full time housekeeper,an assistant, a 24 hour nanny and who knows maybe family helps out, I would get away for a few days also. It is easy to get away and pursue your interests with money and help.
As far as her remark, at six months it’s such a silly time to even be talking about such nonsense. You’ve been a mother for all of six months. I fully believe in a strong husband/wife relationship. I have seen enough husbands and wives that don’t even hold hands anymore, snap at each other, seem disconnected from each other, living like roommates, and only the children bind them. No role model for the kids and not the kind of marriage I want to end up in forever. I do focus on my man because I don’t want to lose his attention or that connection.
BUT too stupid to be spouting off baby comes second at six months. He’s a precious baby you are already away from part of the time for work and it’s the period where it is truly a miracle you have this little precious being. You don’t have enough time in as mom to be discussing the order of family. Plus, it is everchanging, that dynamic, depending on what is going on, the age. But as children grow and mom lives her life only for the children, through the children, it’s all she talks about in a setting with other women, and the husband is a distant second, I agree on that level, it’s not ultimately good for an intimate marriage. I find women can become so boring when you go out to dinner and it’s all about children, no other interests. It’s an easy trap to fall into.
But we all judge each other, which isn’t right really. Whatever works and as long as your child feels completely loved and secure is the most important thing.
She just could have said my relationship with Bill is so important and I make sure not to lose sight of that while being in love with being a mother.
Bill has such a hot body, I must say. Those solid broad shoulders, chest, arms, flat stomach, legs, tall. Oops, back to work. I rarely drool over other men’s bodies, but I have always admired his physique.
Jayna, I completely agree. The way she said it…putting his second really bothered me. My husband and I have raised 2 kids and have a great marriage (25 years this April) but when the boys were babies their needs came before his. Her remark just made me think narcissist. They have enough money that it’s not like they are two parents stressed to the bone with paying bills, having no money to pay a babysitter for the night and watching their child 24-7 like many people experience. Those are often the rough times that can test a marriage when you have a new baby and you’re overtired and stressed about doing it right, etc. They don’t have those stressors. Frankly, I’m not sure their lives would even have changed much.
Sometimes I wonder if for some women (not all), not actually carrying the child and having to look after it makes them less attached somehow? Of course, I also know a lot of moms who carried the child and are still just as selfish and narcisstic and put themselves and often their boyfriends or whoever ahead of the their child.
The way I see it…when you’re babies are young they need you more than another adult who should be mature enough to realize that. Their needs come first. It doesn’t mean you need to lose each other or be hateful to each other, there are little ways to keep connected and show each other how much you are still in love and appreciative of them, but you are both adults, and hopefully mature enough to realize that it’s going to be a lot of nights where you don’t get enough sleep and you’re worried if you’re doing a good job and figuring out what each cry means and getting to know your child and what being a parent is all about. It’s not the time to be worrying about date nights. That’ll come as they get older, but in the meantime talk and hold hands and cuddle when you can and talk and talk and keep talking and celebrate in this amazing life you created whose care is put in your hands. It’s an amazing time.
Her comments just rub me the wrong way. I would never say my child is second to my marriage, especially at 6 months of age. Just something I don’t like about her. She seems so fake to me.
Hubs and I were so exhausted by (and in love with) our youngest, we got the giggles. Anything and everything was HYSTERICAL, and I think that’s how we dealt with the stress/exhaustion together: we laughed like loons. (No money for nannies and a two-week vacay, and we wouldn’t have let him out of our sight anyway!)
THIS!
Edit: Mean for Suzy from Ontario
Well said, Suzy!!
I may not agree with the HOW they do it, but I do agree you have to put your marriage first. Having said that… there is a time when a baby is very young when they need you more than your spouse. You hope that during that time your spouse it mature enough to understand.
The bottom line is… if you have a long marriage and together you see your kids off into the world, you hopefully are left with a happy healthy marriage.
This is all from experience by the way.
I could say A LOT but I’m going to narrow it down to this.
IN MY OPINION, having a baby was another item to check off on her “to-do” list. When it was harder than she expected, she REALLY wanted it. Now,she’s checked that box and moving on to the next thing. Again, just my opinion.
Yes
I saw them walking in downtown Chicago right after the baby was born. I followed them a few blocks because they were going where I was going. They already had a nanny who was pushing the carriage and giving the baby all the attention, while G was complaining they needed to walk more or go work out and where were they going for dinner. She was just so whiny. Not surprised she is taking trips without her kid.
Yeah, she’s really annoying and whiny to me. and just too perky, no one is that happy all the time. fake people, imo. i tried to watch their show once, but they just seemed fake and annoying.
It’s probably good to have some time to themselves now and then. If it’s a little overnight getaway, no big deal, but if they take off for Hawaii for two weeks or something, that’s wrong.
I’m glad she’s doing well with her health, but I find her very annoying.
Young children are really hard on a marriage. I have 3 kids under 11 and have always put them first. My marriage has suffered considerably because of this.
I can’t criticize her wanting alone time with her husband. I just can’t ever imagine wanting to be seperated from my 6 month old baby.
Even the bible says to place your marriage before children. Leave them alone.
Makes sense, the Bible was written by men.
True lol
HAHAHAH!!! This!!
When all she wanted in the world was a baby…I bet she would have given up a “post awards show vacation” to stay home with her husband and baby!! Obviously she DID NOT SEE HER SON MUCH DURING AWARDS SEASON EITHER – So bring her son & nanny on vacation too.
I recall seeing she was going to do her morning yoga with her son so they would always be together…wonder what changed? Did she realize raising a child is WORK? Like real work and not interview & reading a teleprompter fluff? Sorry, but I’m not a fan.
Maybe the Nanny doesn’t like yoga…
Any marriage/family counselor will tell you that “generally” the spouse/ marriage should be put before the child (except in instances where the child is sick, needs special attention, etc.). To each his/her own, but I would not have left my six-month old for a vaca. They have money – they could have brought the child/nanny/baby entourage along and still could have had their couple alone time.
Now, with that out of the way. I have never understood how she has gotten where she is or snagged Bill. She is not attractive at all and besides me, she is one of the most annoying people I’ve ever seen/heard. I can’t even listen to her.
Totally agree. I was thinking that in my original comment- she is lucky to have snagged him. And I couldn’t imagine leaving my 6 month old for a week and a half vacation, esp. if I could afford to bring along a nanny.
She didn’t carry that child, so maybe she never really truly bonded with him in some way. When my children were that young we took them with us on vacation. I couldn’t have enjoyed myself if I didn’t have my baby with me. I guess the difference is, I don’t consider my children burdensome or inconvenient, EVER.
That comment is kind of an insult to adoptive parents, don’t you think?
Thank you.
Really? I love my kids like crazy but they’re nothing if not burdensome and inconvenient! Like I was as a kid, and my mom was, and her mom was. Kids are great but they’re also tiring and hard, hard work, at least in my experience.
That said, 6 months is too soon, IMO. Especially if you already have a nanny at home!
They seem like pretty nice people on their show. Her job, is, by definition inane. I don’t think you can draw any conclusions about their parenting from one event. It’s a long haul process.
I agree.. she annoys me as well. I think she should have kept her mouth shut about their relationship. I realize they had a rough time becoming parents, every moment was on tv. I think she would love to one up the Ktrash bunch. Why go thru that to pay a nanny to raise your child? Eat a buger & raise this kid, both of you!
I would like to hear from a mother who has had a child through a normal pregnancy of her own body then had one via gestational carrier…just wonder if you would feel more/less close with one or the other. I’m not trolling, I would really like to know if there are emotional differences, at least while the child is still a baby. She just comes across as sort of detached from Duke which I wonder if she had carried/birthed him naturally, would she feel more close to him and be less of a workaholic and narcissist. Though that may just be her personality, regardless of how she had the baby.
That’s a really interesting comment. I would like to hear some answers to that too. Sort of related to this, I know a girl from university who had a baby 3 months ago. She had a c-section and the baby was immediately taken away so she did not see it for several hours. She said it was like she had never given birth, especially since she wasn’t allowed to hold her baby once it was taken out of her. Another friend of mine saw her a few weeks after she had had her baby, and she said it was very obvious that she had not bonded to her baby yet. So it’s very interesting how different things affect different people in different ways.
@ EmmaStoneWannabe and littlestar: This is my story: I’ve had two children in the last 5 years. My first child I had to give up for adoption because I wasn’t emotionally, financially, or physically ready for a child yet and it was the hardest thing I’ve EVER had to do in my life. I took care of him for 3 days while we were still in the hospital and I did form a bond with him. The people who adopted my little boy couldn’t have children and let me tell you, they love him more than anything else in this world. I no longer worry about him anymore due to the fact that I know he gets so much love and attention that I couldn’t give at that period in my life. second time around, I was (and still am) married to the love of my life and when I first found out I was pregnant, I was scared to death. Hell, I STILL worry at times and our little girl is a year and a half. I ended up having to have a c-section due to prior scar tissue so I couldn’t have a natural birth like I originally wanted. But when our little girl was born, I was actually able to hold her for about 10 minutes before they whisked her away. I have never felt so emotionally attached to someone (other than my hubs). She’s the light of my life. Sorry this is so long, but I hope it answers some questions you may have.
I am that child. I was given away, while my birth mother saw fit to keep my younger half-siblings. I felt that pain. Why wasn’t I kept? What did I do wrong as a baby? And you know what, my half-brother and half-sister told me I’m better off cuz my birth mother was a b**ch. now as a mother myself, I could never imagine giving up my kid, even if I was a crackhead hobo on the street. Nothing would make me leave my children.EVER.
I am that child. I was given away, while my birth mother saw fit to keep my younger half-siblings. I felt that pain. Why wasn’t I kept? What did I do wrong as a baby? And you know what, my half-brother and half-sister told me I’m better off cuz my birth mother was a beyotch. now as a mother myself, I could never imagine giving up my kid, even if I was a crackhead hobo on the street. Nothing would make me leave my children.EVER.
Ok we don’t know them but here’s my 2 cents anyway… If I just had a baby which was hard to conceive and I was that rich I would actually go on vacation with the nanny so that I can have couple time and baby time. But that’s just me. I’m married with no kids. Since I’m not a parent and this doesn’t really reflect their parenting, can’t be too judgmental albeit this being a gossip site heh. Can I also add she’s becoming more annoying.
My son is 6 months old as well. I can’t imagine being away from him for a day, let alone two weeks. It’s hard enough to be at work and be away from him for 9 hours. 🙂
I wouldn’t have done that with a six-month old baby; too soon, IMO. Plus you know they have constant help with the babe around the house.
That said, I did drop my then 2 year old son off with my parents for a week while hubby and I took a 1 week trip to DC for our anniversary. Which was so amazing, and which I don’t regret for a second! Taking time out to be a couple without your kids in tow can be really important for a relationship. It reminds you that you are husband and wife, not just dad and mom!
I don’t like her. I just don’t. It feels like, as others have commented, her baby is an accessory or something to check off her “to-do” list.
The only reason I left my babies at that age was to go to college or work. That was hard enough. But two weeks, just to play? NO.
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Exactly!
I think it’s fine for them to go away for awhile without the baby. Mom, however, reminds me of Jersey Shore. Snooki’s sister.
When I was a kid, I remember my parents hiring a sitter and having “date night” about 3 times. I really wish they’d gone out more as a coupl. Yes, I know it’s expensive to hire a sitter AND go out, but you can also swap babysitting time with other couples. I think it’s totally ok for parents to put their marriage first. It also helps parents gain perspective on their Special Snowflakes. As Chris Rock said, “Even cockroaches have kids!”
Huh. I think the problem is this: G+B solicited so much public support during their struggles with fertility and cancer. So the public consumers are emotionally invested in the outcome of that struggle- we followed their trials and tribulations and, upon news of success, were overjoyed and proud as if it was a success of our own. That’s the awesome part about social living and consumption- we’re in it together. Now… they’re not just abandoning Duke, they’re abandoning us. Our investment of concern in their lives has been squandered, unappreciated. While many of us on the site agree, to varying degrees, that spousal support is crucial for a child’s development, we almost feel more connected to and responsible for this baby than they are coming off to be.
I don’t mean to speak for anyone else, despite my use of “us” and “we.”
Yes. Agree. They put us through so much agony & finally they get the baby. Maybe its no hers biologically & she has not bonded with the baby. Is she so desperate to keep him? Shame on her. The tears, the suffering and now she goes on vacation?
There’s karma coming her way…or, the best thing for her continued fame would be if Duke was autistic. Can you imagine the books, TV shows, the play, the musical they would produce?
She could replay all her best crying moments and all the appearances. They could write books about the struggle. Its a goldmine.
And they could take vacations while the kid is raised by nannies and nurses.
How could she and her hubby leave the baby for 11 days to go on vacation?? I understand from experience that working couples have to juggle careers with children especially when they involve travel…but choosing to take an 11 day vacation without the baby is really cold hearted.
I can understand taking a long weekend, 3 day jaunt type of vacation but 11 days away from the baby is really selfish!I guess I am not wired that way and I probably shouldn’t judge another mother’s parenting style but………why have children if you are not going to take them with you for some family bonding time? Take the nanny so you can enjoy late night dining…….
Agreed!
Last year my neighbor and I were discussing the whole vacation with the kids or not. Her and her husabnd are a tad older than I so they were making babies at the same time as their friends; whereas my friends first reaction to the fact i was having a baby was, “why?”
Anyways, she was telling me how much having kids changed her friendships due the differences they have in parenting styles. One set of friends really concerned her because they were always dashing off on vacation and citing the need for alone time and a break from their kids. She was like why would you have children if you are always needing time away from them, just doesn’t make sense.
Garvels.. You said perfectly how most of us feel.
All relationships do not last forever. The lucky ones can make it 20 years or more. Children are forever.Even when your children are grown and gone they will still be your children.People get divorced and when that happens who do the spouses have, their children. I understand a healthy relationship makes healthy children, but it should be an equal balance. She just seems self centered, she shouldn’t have had any kids. She seems to care more about her career than her marriage and child. Gain some weight. She looks really bad. Her bones scare me.
LOL I couldn’t even have left my puppy for 11 days. When I had my true first child — a puppy LOL — I couldn’t part with my little munchkin. I wasn’t prepared for how much I loved that little bundle of energy (I wasn’t a dog person in the least). I would sit at work in tears worrying about her alone in the apartment and bring her everywhere practically. I guess I knew then I would be an overprotective mother and have separation anxiety when I had my own baby.
Yes, I remember the first time I had to leave a tiny kitten in the uncertain care of a ten year old cat who was still in shock from her arrival (the adoptive feline parental feeling kicked in three days later, but not yet). I wondered if I would return to scattered bits of calico fur but no kitten, since the older cat had killed rodents bigger than the kitten! Decades later, I had some similar misgivings about leaving another tiny feline tot, although at least the older cat was a real Mr. Mom from the instant she arrived so I didn’t fear for her life (maybe a little for his, she was pretty wild). I remember telling somebody in the grocery store that I had to get home to relieve the babysitter, not mentioning that both baby and sitter had four legs and a tail.
THESE PEOPLE ARE MONSTERS. We should not support any of their work projects. Then maybe they will not be able to afford a nanny, have to get real jobs and ACTUALLY take care of the child they PAID some woman to carry for them.
No. Monsters are Casey Anthony, the guy that killed all those children in Sandy Hook, Osama bin Laden, Hitler.
Get a grip and some perspective. You and we all can judge her for a long vacation (though we don’t know if the whole 11 days off is away from work with a small vacation mixed in or total trip alone) with her baby left probably with the loving grandparents with the nanny helping, but I am sure they are loving parents albeit a little selfish, but certainly not monsters. I think any little boy would be lucky to have Bill as a father. His relationship with his late father seems so special the way he talks about him.
How is the baby lucky to have a father & mother who leave him with a paid stranger for 11 days? Isnt that what Casey Anthony did? Those people you mentioned are evil. These people are irresponsible and selfish not role models for anyone.
Agreed. This proves she never wanted a baby as anything more than an accessory. Who leaves their 6 month old home while they go on vacation? Especially when they can afford to have the baby & a nanny travel with them. Disgusting, That poor baby.
Ugh exactly. The baby was the newest IT BAG to her and now they are tired of it because it is hard work not pretty taking care of a newborn. Im sure they’ll see the baby in a few years when it is more interactive.
Stefani — inappropriate exaggeration. They are not monsters.
Cannot stand her.
I can’t picture myself leaving for an 11 day vacation away from my kids. Yes, all of us parents need a break from our cherubs, but a night or a day away (that’s a RARE luxury here) seem to do the trick.
She went through so much to have Edward Duke that I’m really surprised she can tear herself away from him for a vacation with Bill. Work is one thing and still very difficult to leave your kids for, but for a vacation? That’s another story.
People who are so selfish should not bring children.
Caring and raising a child includes tremendous amounts of sacrifice and being completely devoted. Especialy when they are so young.
“To each his own” is correct as far as it has to do with their life, not to a baby who did not ask to be born and should have parents caring for him.
I can’t imagine leaving my 6 month old to go on a vacation. I understand taking a nanny with you and having some alone time on the vacation but to leave him for 11 days in another city,state,country is crazy to me. They are way to young to understand why mommy and daddy are leaving. JMO. I have a 9 week old and don’t plan on having a vacation with my husband alone until he is at least two years old.
Congrats! 🙂
I have a 6-month old. We’d never leave him, my husband and I would miss him like crazy!
God this chick is so f*cking annoying!
She totally had that baby as an accessory…a means to an end to be ‘famous’. And now she wants to make it all about ME ME ME! once again!
Oh…and she has a head like Stewie Griffin, to boot!
I don’t even know who these people are but leaving your baby for all that time seems a little off to me.
My babies are now 11 and 12. They go to their father’s in the school holiday and I miss them like crazy! The house is way too quiet…
But when they were tiny babies! Hell, no! Apart from the fact I was breastfeeding, it was just never, ever a possibility…I would have been a nervous wreck. Just no.
So, something’s very fishy here. If he was two, I’d give them a pass. But a tiny little baby? Just wrong.
People were wondering about bonding when you haven’t given birth – individuals vary regardless in their speed of bonding and this woman in particular has so many “issues” that I wouldn’t be surprised if she had bonding difficulties. But Mother Nature does give mammals a head start with chemicals released just after birth that help the process along. Since the mother is crucial as a source of food in former times and in other species and also mammals are born relatively helpless in many cases – it really is important for mom to bond quickly and thoroughly in general. In many species, she has to be ready to defend the kids against the sperm donor… contrary to the wishful thinking in Disney animal documentaries. But I’ve seen male and female neutered cats quickly get very nurturing when a little bundle of genetically unrelated kitten fluff arrives at their doorstep. The most recent Mr. Mom hadn’t seen his hormones in 12 years when his frisky bundle arrived … A year and a half later, he still acts quite proud and parental. So the birth chemicals help, but aren’t absolutely required.
Anyway, this quick bonding after birth is apparently why in older times they would advise women giving up their children for adoption that it would be best not to even see and hold the baby. Maybe there was too much risk she’d change her mind, though. But the modern practice of whisking the baby away in a hospital from all moms can’t be that good an idea for mother or child.
I still can’t figure out what these two need a vacation FROM, though. They seem to have plenty of chances to be alone with each other and go places and don’t even have to be chronically sleep deprived except by choice. Money really makes a huge difference. I’ve heard so many women say how hard it is to go back to fulltime outside work after just six months because they feel they will be missing so much. The early years involve so much rapid change. But these folks have more options – they can bring baby along together with a nanny to do all the work and also can control their work schedule far more than most.
My daughter was whisked away to the ICU moments after my c-section and I still felt incredibly bonded to her. To this day I have yet to feel anything as powerful as the way I felt the first month after she was born.
Baby Boy was an ER C-section 3 1/2 weeks early, and I HATED it. They strapped me down; I couldn’t hold or cradle him after he was born; I had to wait for a couple hours before they let me go to my room (in their defence, they were trying to control my over-the-top BP and bleeding, but the f-ers wouldn’t tell me ANYTHING!); and he. was. pissed!
When I finally got moved to a room, my mother (God love her!) was like “Well it’s ABOUT TIME! He’s hungry! We’ve been trying EVERYTHING! What took so long?!?” (They kept Hubs and my parents in the dark about my situation.)
Even with an ER C-section, I wanted to hold my baby. I ACHED to hold & nurse him.
eta: She needs a vacation from being HER. That’s it. There’s no other excuse. Poor little Bobble-Headed Mantis. /sarcasm
I wouldn’t say much if they were off for a weekend, but they were desperate for a child for years, and now they have one and are taking a vacation without him for nearly two weeks? This is another Kate Gosselin, to me: wanting a baby, but not to be a parent.
My daughter is 10 months old and I can not imagine leaving her to go on vacation. Maybe some people do not feel very attached to their children but neither my husband or I would dream of leaving our baby!
I really liked this post Celebitchy.
I think she worked so hard to have a baby so as not to lose Bill. He looks like the kind of guy who wants to coach his kids baseball team. She looks the kind of girl who reads Cosmo magazine articles on how to catch a man and how not to lose your man. She bugs me in general with all her narcissistic nonsense but now she really bugs me. I have a real pet peeve about truly selfish moms, especially those who want our sympathy because the are so “desperate” to have a baby that they can leave with round the clock nannies. I love how she is so exhausted at the end of awards season. Such pretentious assholeishness and who names a kid Duke?
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These two need to reclaim a private life and stop inviting the public in. We don’t need to know every little thing about them.
It appears they flew back to Chicago. She tweeted about eating at their restaurant they own and about date night with hubby. “Date night” infers night out away from child to me, not off on vacation where the whole trip is a date. Maybe her vacay from E for 11 days was going back home to Chicago as part or all of the 11 days off work, in which case I would think — hope the baby is with them. Isn’t that where they are raising their family? I haven’t been following the show since last year. Or was she there for her fashion line? I don’t really understand her tweets.
I actually feel bad for GR. She has lived in Hollywood for so long and her life is literally all about stars and the entertainment industry, it’s has very, very obviously warped her view on what is normal and what is not normal. She has talked about how all these famous women got pregnant at older ages and how hocked she was that she would have a difficult time – apparently not knowing that those h-wood moms are not the norm and for the most part their pregnancies were medically aided. It’s why she has so many serious, serious food issues that she thinks are completely normal. She has so utterly bought into the Hollywood lifestyle that she has no clue how warped it is. Remember, she’s surrounded by women who heavily rely on nannies and other help; I would be willing to bet that GR considers herself to be a very hands-on mom, an that in comparison to her peers she probably is.
Cannot stand this woman…or her husband for that matter. They are all way too “Hollywoody” for me.
You know, if this woman couldn’t even let herself gain 10 LBS. in order to conceive on her own…this is saying A LOT. Oh, being skinny is important to her, huh? Well, this is a matter where nature triumphed….only briefly. Then science kicked in…& another woman carried their baby….not good! Not good!
I say this because if someone cannot possibly gain a little weight in order to conceive, they are inherently SELFISH. For being a mother, this is only a slight inconvenience. Being a mother is a pretty SELFLESS JOB…& I do not see that w/this woman…at all.
Geez, I cannot even imagine what’s going to happen if she starts having problems w/her child once he grows up…you know, that’s all part of the selfless nature of mothers….& it’s not gonna happen here. She’ll just throw $$$ at the “problems.”
What we have here is another person that “wants everything” life has to offer, & she has enough $$$ to make such happen. But seriously, from what I’m seeing, she isn’t “mother material.”
I never liked her before her & her husband had their baby….and I like her & her husband even less now. This, IMHO, is not going to turn out well.
I once read something about the model Giselle talking about being a real mother to her kids and breastfeeding and stuff. I guess she knows the real inside story of mothers in Hollywood. Real celebrities have taken a year or so off to bond with and connect with their children. I really don’t know what she does that is so important. They have nannies, house keepers, relatives to look after the kid No they dont fall into the overworked working parents category at all. These two are the most superficial, shallow and materialistic couples i have ever seen. when the inevitable divorce comes, she will be everywhere seeking sympathy.
I don’t know when E will replace her, I am sure there are younger, hotter teleprompter readers just waiting for their shot at the big time.
I will say this ….. Every woman I know who put the kids first and neglected the marriage and man are now alone …
Both parents are working together to raise the kids … but as they say …”The kids will be alright ” .. I think most people understand what she meant …
Cause let me tell you when the kids are grown and out of the house (especially boys) it is just you and the hubby and if there is no love there the marriage is over…
All these women having babies and having them in the bed with them and all about the kids and forgetting the husband … then you wonder why he is cheating on you
Good for them
My husband just listened to me read this post (and several comments) out loud. He was disappointed and unimpressed. We’ve been married for eight years, together for twelve, and we have a two year old daughter. We view parenting as a part of our marriage, not a separate experience. Spending time as a family doesn’t detract from our marriage, if anything, having a child has brought us even closer together. We have a shared set of values and goals that unite us. The numerous comments designating parenthood as the woman’s domain and the struggle to maintain a healthy balance as a woman’s concern, are indicative of serious problems in our society. Good fathers are equally invested in their children’s lives. They may not provide the exact same things, but they can and should play an equitable role.
Long, successful marriages have seasons. When we first married, our life was primarily focused on finding a balance and compromise in order to establish a peaceful home life. Then we transitioned to focus on getting careers on their feet. The next couple of years were about nesting and creating a real home. Now we’re in the season of children. We focus on them without detriment to our marriage. They are only little for such a short time. People’s marriages suffer when there is an absence of shared priorities, or when one parent tries to hold onto their children forever as a way to avoid emotional intimacy with their spouse and/or taking responsibility for their own self actualization/happiness.
Bottom line, if raising children feels consistently depleting to your marriage, you shouldn’t have had children. If your husband is constantly jealous and competitive with the needs of a minor child, you married an immature prick.
Disgraceful! And after all they made us go through with their long, long tale of woes about not being able to have a baby themselves.
She has not bonded with the baby…let’s guess why. Could it be that her egg was not used and so its his baby not really hers. She didn’t have to sit for 9 months with a fat belly is my guess. Her eggs were destroyed along the way. With her breasts gone, she has to make him really, relly happy to be with her.
What a tacky remark. Reducing her to her breasts and having to overcompensate because of losing them. The man is glad she is alive. He loves her. An insensitive remark like yours is hurtful to anyone reading this that has survived breast cancer.
Also, my friend just became a mother. Her husband’s sperm, not her egg. She loves that baby more than life itself.
I hate all these generalizations on here about carrying, not carrying the baby. I have quite a few girlfriends who have distant relationships to their mothers, all who gave birth to them. Just difficult, overcritical mothers.
I don’t watch E mainly because of her. She looks like a starved Praying Mantis to me. I also feel like if she actually popped that baby out herself and really bonded with it she wouldn’t feel such a need to take her “vacation” from it at only 6 months old. I hate these self centered Hollywood movers and shakers sometimes!
First off as for bonding, my mother gave birth to me naturally and has never bonded to me. I am her only child and 32 years old. I have a friend who is 33 who has never bonded to her son(again gave birth naturally) who is 4 and her husband mainly takes care of the childrearing while she goes off and does her own thing (they both were anti-kid intially, once her friends starting having kids and she had pressure from family/society she joined in). not everyone bonds with their child sadly.
As for putting their child first, everyone I know who is a mom who puts their kids first has a failing or failed marriage. The husband feels negelected, cheats, they never show affection towards one another, etc etc. It is unhealthy to
drop the bond you have with your husband. There needs to be two separate but equally powerful bonds. My mother never bonded with me and thus my dad picked up the slack and I bonded with him, thus my mother got jealous, is still jealous of me and feels in constant competition with me (I am 32 years old). They have held hands once in 15 years and haven’t slept in same bed in 15 years. they snap at each other constantly and are only together ot of conveinence. In retro spec, my parents should have taken some holidays away from me. Instead, their relationship has deteoriated into nastiness (great role model btw). As with everything, there HAS to be a balance.
As for the couple above, she had/still has anorexia and I am grateful she doesn’t have a girl. She needs to realize she is only hurting her bones etc for when she gets older.
Treating husbands/ men like little children who should be taken cared of should stop.
Seriously.
Men run companies, build bridges and conduct complicated research. They certainly know how to take care of themselves and when they become fathers it is their shared responsibility to care for their child and they are quite capable of doing so.
That BS about men feeling neglected has nothing to do with real life. It’s a great excuse for A holes that should not be having children in the first place.
When a child is born there could be more tension as both parents are very tired and need to share plenty of tasks and work as a team to overcome hardships and long sleepless nights.
If they are good together and decent human beings, then this will make them stronger and happier in the long run, and if one of them, not only doesn’t understand that he should be a part of a team and bears the responsibility and needs to take care of the child (changing diaper, waking up at night, bathing the child, preparaing food, washing bottles and walking for hours with a child with colic, then that man should not be fathering children and is hardly worthy of significant and serious relationship with a woman.
I agree…I’m sick of this whole damn excuse. And I’ve lived the whole “husband jealous of the son” thing and it’s a bunch of crap. I finally told my husband “Look, you already WERE a little boy and you have a mommy. XXXXX is our son and I love him as a mommy. I love you as a husband, so grow the hell up”. Honestly it’s been much better since that. We have another son and did’t go thru as much baloney the second time around. I’m tired of men expecting to be treated like children at home. I am not perfect, but I am a good wife to my husband and I do take care of him in a lot of ways. But I am not going to feel sorry when he hurts his own feelings while I am doing everything to take care of our children. This “blame the wife for the husband cheating” crap needs to stop.
They arent very entertaining, i watched their show a few ttimes, but i couldnt get into it