As I said in yesterday’s post, Gwyneth Paltrow had to give up the goods in exchange for People Magazine naming her Most Beautiful Person (Non-Peasant Category). While People’s cover story excerpts yesterday were rather innocuous – stuff about her daughter and body image – I’m seeing some additional excerpts that have me raising my peasant brow and clutching my peasant artificial pearls (how gauche!). As it turns out, Lady Goop gave up EVERYTHING to People Magazine. She talked about her marriage and her miscarriage and wow… I can’t believe how open she is these days. Goop really doesn’t give a crap about her privacy at this point. Not when she’s selling her lifestyle!
She is married to a rock star, has a successful acting career and has just been named the World’s Most Beautiful Woman by People Magazine. But life doesn’t always run smoothly for Gwyneth Paltrow. In a new interview with People, the 40-year-old actress discusses the impact of suffering a miscarriage and having to work hard at her marriage to Coldplay front man Chris Martin.
‘It was awful,’ she says, when asked about the miscarriage. ‘It happened really late, and I wasn’t expecting it at all. For a long time I just couldn’t understand that it had happened and why. I was like “But I can’t not be pregnant. I’m already past the first trimester, and I have three car seats in my head.” To this day I feel like I’m missing that kid. But it wasn’t meant to be and you have to trust the universe.’
The star said the miscarriage made her grateful for the positive things in her life, especially her two children – eight-year-old Apple and Moses, seven.
‘More than anything I just realised “Oh my God, I’m so lucky to have two healthy kids,”‘ she said.
The star revealed last month that she ‘nearly died’ when she lost her baby, but hasn’t entirely ruled out adding to her brood.
‘We all think “Urgh, I don;t want to go back to diapers,”‘ she admitted. ‘But my best friend’s mom once said “don’t do your planning around the pain in the a** of infancy, because it’s so finite. Plan it around how many people you want at Thanksgiving.” So then I think, maybe. But I don’t know.’
Gwyneth revealed that taking her responsibilities as a wife and mother ‘seriously’ is one of the keys to making her nine-year marriage work.
She added: ‘And I also totally accept him and what he does, so I’m not the type of wife who is like “Where are you?” I never make him feel hemmed in or like he’s in trouble. And on a personal level as friends, we really get along. We really laugh, and we’re super into our kids. There’s a good foundation.’
However Gwyneth admits that the famous couple, who are rarely pictured together, have had their fair share of ups and downs.
‘We’ve gone through some terrible times where it’s been really really hard, but I’ve sort of come through those times with a much deeper understanding of myself. And we’re still married. We worked through it. I think it’s easier to get divorced. But I think the more you keep at it, the more you end up seeing the value in it. But man, sometimes it is not easy.’
The miscarriage stuff is still really sad – she discussed it a month ago in a lengthy interview with the Mail on Sunday too. Do you mind if I skip over that part? Because I really have nothing to add besides “Poor Goop.”
What I really want to discuss is all of the Chris Martin stuff. There’s so much to parse! “I also totally accept him and what he does… I never make him feel hemmed in or like he’s in trouble.” What does that mean? Does that mean that Chris gets to do whatever (whoever) he wants and Gwyneth is okay with it because she’s The Cool Wife Who Doesn’t Ask Questions? Is there some kind of rule, like “You can do whatever you want on the road, but you always have to come home to me”? As for how “really really hard” her marriage is… sure. I think we’ve seen them go through some bad times. I also think there’s a healthy dollop of Goop Sanctimony in this statement: “We worked through it. I think it’s easier to get divorced.” ONLY PEASANTS GET DIVORCED.
Photos courtesy of People, WENN.
“And I also totally accept him and what he does, so I’m not the type of wife who is like “Where are you?” I never make him feel hemmed in or like he’s in trouble. And on a personal level as friends, we really get along. We really laugh, and we’re super into our kids. There’s a good foundation.”
That doesn’t even make them sound like a couple. I remember in a different interview she referred to him as a co-parent and the only time I’ve ever heard co-parent used is when the parents are separated or divorced. I really think that they are basically split without it being official. I get the feeling they sleep in separate bedrooms and only occasionally see each other for the kids. And wth about the comment about her not wanting him to feel like he’s in trouble or not know where he is? I really wouldn’t be surprised if he’s always gone because their marriage is that bad and I feel like she knows he cheats but she lets him because she refuses to get divorced even though they really probably should.
Is it tragic that I can definitely see the two of them using separate rooms?!!
I’m certain I read in the Daily Mail that, in London, they have 2 homes next door to each other that were extensively remodelled & joined together from the inside. Perfect way to live separate lives in secret. And I bet you anything, Chris does NOT have a bathub in his bedroom! Silly woman.
@lexi – I thought that was Tim Burton and Helena Bonham Carter who did that.
this link says was actually 3 homes put together! LOL
http://mylusciouslife.com/chris-martin-gwyneth-paltrow-home-in-london/
This is like the preview to the divorce that will most likely happen. She has to set the scene so she can play victim when he dumps her ass. Oh Gwyn you’re so pretentious and full of Goop.
A while back I read that Goop stopped Chris Martin from buying a 4 million house so that he and his band mates could have a central place to live.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-2301972/Gwyneth-Paltrow-stops-Chris-Martin-buying-million-dollar-LA-mansion-Coldplay-bandmates.html
Maybe it’s a sign Chris really wants out
If I was G I would let him buy the house so she would at least know where he is considering her statement in People.
Also, I didn’t realize they are married for 9 yrs… the 10 year mark is pretty huge in CA. I’m pretty sure Coldplay is worth a lot more than Goop at this point.
You beat me to it Lin. She is not holding on to her marriage, she is holding out for the 10 year mark. Goop is delusional enough to think that she can do better. I also think she is more forthcoming because Chris could have cut off the excessive spending and she is forced to you know, work and hustle. Something that is so peasanty.
Call me crazy, but I think separate living spaces sounds GREAT! If I had the money, I would totally buy two adjoining houses; one for me, one for my husband. We could share some common space. But I miss having my own room, my own bathroom, and so on.
I read a blind that most people thought was about Goop at Blind Gossip awhile back. It talked about how clingy this person was. The level of clinginess basically ended every relationship she’d ever had. It said that her husband had solved the problem of her texting him hundreds of times a day by hiring an assistant and having the assistant responsible just for responding to her texts all day long. I could see how that could make a guy feel hemmed in or trapped. And she does have a way of making people feel like they’re not good enough so I could see him feel like he was being punished for being too peasanty.
What about the waitress at the small restaurant outside of LA who witnessed Chris M and Kate Bosworth making out every day for one week each time they walked in?
In addition to the Paps seeing them kiss at his concert.
Yea, I would say she’s trying to make it to the 10th year Anniversary.
When GOOP mentioned in her last interview that Chris M had a crush on another actress.. and was upset she didn’t show up at his concert. I always thought it was some Blond/blued eyed, skinny Actress, not Wynonna, Rachel Weisz or Drew Barrymore as some were guessing.
She’s so desperate to be liked that its hard to feel anything but sorry for her. It’s pathetic. She’s peddling stories about difficult marriages and miscarriages. She’s so desperate. If she could do something real that makes her look less self absorbed, she’d be fine.
She’s so desperate to be liked that its hard to feel anything but sorry for her. It’s pathetic. She’s peddling stories about difficult marriages and miscarriages.
Some times you are not a couple, you are friends. Two people trying to work through individuals and come together as a couple. When a couple has been together for over 7 years. You got through phases. And it is hard work!!! It is challenging., and sometimes grueling .
There is a blind item about her being the worst clinger imaginable. As in you can’t get rid of her when she gets her claws into a man. Affleck supposedly cheated on her all the time hoping she would leave him but she didn’t.
She is ignored by her husband so she compensates with controlling her body, eating habits and tries to convince the peasents that not being thin is more problematic than a bad marriage.
Affleck is a douche that cheats on all of his girlfriends and probably his wife, too.
I’m not absoluting Affleck and his beaviour but Goop is obviously more concerned about her image than how she is treated by her husband.
That’s totally true. This chick has obvious control issues and orthorexia, and she using them to focus on so she doesn’t have to focus on her obviously bad marriage. Not saying her nasty attitude is likeable or even forgivable, but a lot of controlling people I know act the same way. It’s insecurity all the way.
ben affleck cheats on everyone though.
Thanks Rachel, that means I have a chance right. I’m a sucker, I love me some Ben:)
But didn’t she cheat on Brad Pitt? That doesn’t seem very like a clinger move. But then again, she was pregnant when Chris married her.
Was she pregnant when they married? I don’t remember. I know their relationship came on the heels of her father passing, which was obviously very traumatic for her.
Chris was in the early stages of fame and seemed very impressed by the more established Gwyneth. They didn’t seem to have much in common early on. I wouldn’t be surprised if they’ve outgrown each other and were mostly together for the kids, but who knows.
Yea, she was VERY pregnant when she married him.
Anyways, I’ve always heard rumors that she’s super-traditional. Like when she got pregnant, people said she would marry him and she did when she was in her later stages of pregnancy.
I doubt she’ll ever leave Chris until the children are grown or if he embarrasses her publicly with an affair.
Divorce may be easier, but it’s a helluva lot more expensive.
Sounds to me like she’s got a “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy regarding her husband. Whatever “works” for the Goopster, I guess.
The same policy that a large majority of wives have with high powered husbands. The rule is just don’t embarrass me which is why we saw Liberty Ross, Elin Nordegren, Maria Shriver, etc. kick their hubbies to the curb after their holiday ion was splashed across the Internet and every media outlet. The only one who seems to not care about being humiliated is Rob Pattinson.
These pictures instantly make me think of what Blake Lively will look like in 15 years. I don’t know if that’s a compliment or insult to either.
I really don’t get her, or why they picked her for the cover. At ALL.
Considering they were so low key they were never photographed together, it’s odd she’s spilling so much in a stupid magazine like this. There’s rumors they’re splitting, I wonder if this is her laying the groundwork and getting people on her side or something (not that it would work, she’s obnoxious).
Definitely not working…every interview she gives she sounds awful.
On another note… do you think if she’s ever standing around with a box of something – say a gift, or a package from Amazon or something – that someone goes “What’s in the booooooox? Whhhaaattss in the boooxxx??!”
Or would that be a little out of date now? I hope someone did it in the 90’s.
I don’t mind her at all, I just have no interest in what she has to say.
Dated or not, it’s hilarious to me. I do it all the time, even still, when I see someone with a box. The giggles I get from it would be worth the groans if I’m ever to get any. None so far.
As for her, sometimes I roll my eyes, and other times I don’t much care. Mostly I just accept the fact that I will never have her lifestyle, and that’s ok with me. She has been in several films that I quite like, though.
Dated or not, it’s hilarious to me. I do it all the time, even still, when I see someone with a box. The giggles I get from it would be worth the groans if I’m ever to get any. None so far.
As for her, sometimes I roll my eyes, and other times I don’t much care. Mostly I just accept the fact that I will never have her lifestyle, and that’s okay with me. She has been in several films that I quite like, though.
Yeah. I must say, Goop was terrific in Seven … particularly at the very end. Ditto for Contagion.
I’m assuming since she didn’t name drop her best friend then her/him is not famous..
I dunno, I get the feeling that they stay together for their kids, I totally expect a “Mommy Dearest 2” from Apple when she gets older.
Divorce is easier? What an ignorant thing to say. I’m going through a messy, bitter divorce right now, and if that dumb bitch thinks this is so easy she is perfectly welcome to trade places with me.
Tripmom-right, she has no idea. Divorce might be easier for someone for whom money is no object but or the rest us, those who have kids and mortgages, it is hell.
I’m sure it’s very easy for someone who has a nanny, but I’m now raising three two year olds by myself with no help at all from their dad. I’d LOVE to see her attempt that.
I think what she means is that its easier to just up and divorce (which you see more in hollywood than in real life anyway) than actually work on a marriage when its down. I think that is true. How many people in our generation are going to have 50-60 year wedding anniversaries like our grandparents? not many. Its like a revolving door of spouses and step parents and I think that is horrible. My husband and I have the divorce is never an option rule and believe me, that first year it would have been so easy to run back to my parents but we worked through it and we are solid now.
Im with Wif on this. I live in a very conservative country and divorce is a rarity here, not because women are super-fulfilled but because divorce is not option. I suspect we are where Western nations were in the 1950s in this respect, a culture that values longevity over happiness. So no, i view your grandparents marriages with healthy skeptism……maybe they lasted because they were happy OR maybe society and circumstances trapped them together (like s6 many here)
Cinnamom, you can’t compare our grandparents marriages with ours. Those were women that had very, very few choices and no access to birth control. I’m convinced that divorce rates now are what we’ll see generations down the line now that women can be independant.
I’ll tell you this, from what I’ve seen of my friend’s divorce and having to share her children with a heartless bitch, the marriage was a lot easier than the divorce. She would have been much happier in the “loveless” situation than know that for a weekend every two weeks her kids are going somewhere where they are actively disrespected and made to feel like crap. (In their formative years, no less.)
Really wif? I suggest you try telling my grandmother the only reason she stayes married to my grandfather was lack of birth control. She had three children and has been married 63 years out of love not obligation. Its sad you see sticking to commitment as an obligation
Maria, clearly that’s not the case with everyone and I’m glad that your grandparents had a long and healthy marriage. I apologize if what I said came off as an anti-marriage stance. If the current divorce rate is about 45%, that means 65% are committed to making it work. But I don’t think that people were more happy in their marriages historically than they are now (even though the rate was lower then), and I suspect that they stayed because it was the cultural expectation. (Your grandparents aside.)
So you know my bias, I am 15 years married in June and committed to it.
By that logic the divorce rate shouldn’t have changed, the marriage rates should have just gone down. Now that women can easily stand on their own getting married shouldn’t be a ‘have to’ like you’re saying it is. I think marriage isn’t treated like how it used to be treated, getting a divorce now a days is no big deal whereas back in the day is was very taboo. As much as I don’t like her Goop is right, marriage is work and it’s becoming less and less of a priority nowadays. At the slightest bit of unhappiness people are bailing.
mrspatrickbateman, people still get married because they still fall in love. I certainly agree that the attitude towards marriage has become more lax, but of my friends who are divorced not a single one has said “it just wasn’t worth the extra effort” it has been “he started hitting me” or “she finally admitted that she was a lesbian” or “he met someone else and wanted to be with her.” I don’t think any of those just take some more hard work.
I guess I object to the idea that divorce is for lazy people. It doesn’t take the dynamics of any individual marriage into consideration. (My mother and father were married for 21 years. I saw her cry every day for 11 of those. Sometimes you work and work, and still have to let it go.)
I have to say, I’m with Cinnamom, maria and mrspatrickbateman on this 100%. Can’t stand Goop, but I do completely agree with her statement about divorce being easier. Let’s face it, people get divorced left and right nowadays. At the first sign of trouble, they bail rather than working through it or trying to at least. It’s a lot easier to cry divorce when things aren’t going well than to actually honor your vows and work through your shit. People who have been married for 50-60 someodd years are most likely not staying together out of ‘obligation’ or because it’s taboo to get divorced. Divorce is no longer frowned upon as much, so if these people were staying together out of obligation, they could have easily gotten divorced as soon as it became socially acceptable to do so. Which means, they wouldn’t be married for 50, 60 or 70 years. Like mrspatrickbateman said, if this really were all about women becoming more independent, the marriage rates would have decreased. Divorce rates wouldn’t have changed.
I wonder if he has cheated with more than Kate Bosworth? I think it takes a lot of something, I don’t know what, to stay with a man who cheats on you with one of your friends. Not sure I’d do it.
I think she is an insecure, tightly wound woman who wants to be in control. Since she can’t control her husband, she controls everything about herself, her image and her children and somehow finds this empowering.
She is no longer the “26 year old with an Oscar”, she is approaching middle age and does not have the career she used to have and this seems to scare her.
This exactly! It sucks that as women in Hollywood approach middle age that their careers start to decline (for the most part) but clinging desperately to her youth makes it worse.
it has been rumoured that Chris Martin has been with Natalie Imbruglia for years.
Chris and Natalie already knew each other when he first met Goop as they worked together on a few albums.
For real Trip mom. Divorce is easier if you are rich and famous I guess she meant!
Yes, her marriage sounds bad judging by the interview, but consider her honesty. She could just go on like “oh yea, it is the best thing, marriage is awesome etc”
And sometimes the couples that dare to complain are the steadier ones than the “perfect couples who never have any problems”.
I agree, this piece actually has me softening on my goop hate. The miscarriage, cheating hubby who she feels like its a failure to leave, health issues because of her intense need to control. I’m starting to think goop is as broken as Amanda bynes, she just hides it much better
I think she’s not happy. It’s one thing to talk about the harder parts of marriage and still feel the love from the other comments. All she can muster is we’re great friends, etc. There is never any feeling of passion in their marriage anymore. All of her actions these day, turning from a private person to oversharing about everything shows me Gwyneth is having a bard time hitting 40 in Hollywood land and the marriage isn’t fulfilling and she seems to be in some sort of midlife crisis, needing all this attention lately.
Or she could just not talk about her marriage at all – no one needs to know that (or cares, probably).
She used to be super private. All this is a little disconcerting.
I agree. I don’t understand the need (or want) to share something so personal as your marriage with millions of strangers who will read People magazine and blogs. I know it’s good gossip for us, but honestly, what purpose does airing your dirty laundry serve?
I dont know littlestar seems to be the way lately. Her ex ben affleck does it all the time even live from the oscars in front of millions of people.Lol!
That’s the thing @KLO, from the minute Paltrow began discussing her marriage she’s always said that it’s difficult. Can anyone recall the last time she’s spoken about it and not said how hard it is? Even when she says kind things, or boasts about how great HE is, she always wraps up saying it’s no picnic. Of course you don’t have to say it’s all sunshine and rainbows. It can’t be. But she drones on. It’s particularly strange since she never admits to weakness or a flaw in ANY other area in her life. Think about it–her health, her looks, her father, friendships, her kids, her career–everything else gets bragged about and presented in the best light, even when she’s being so deluded that she doesn’t realize we can see right through it (specifically where her health is concerned). It’s odd. Especially since Martin’s supposed to be so private, private, private, it’s strange that she discusses him at all. I’ve heard less negativity about marriage and fewer vague, passive-aggressive jabs from my best friend and she vents, LOL. It’s not something you do with strangers. And I can’t think of another celeb who talks about this, in such a manner, all the time. A mention and a moment of honesty here or there, once or twice, sure. But not constantly, like GOOP.
Yes, good point. But we will know the truth only when/if the papers are filed or not 🙂
When I keep on venting about something it is usually something I hate but feel too weak or afraid to change.
I actually no one other celeb who talks about his spouse like that….Ben Affleck. Not suggesting this has any significance whatsoever, just interesting.
@Danielle, my first thought was: Wow, she and Ben Affleck should hang out regularly to whine about their spouses.
it’s like her and beyonce made a joint decision to open up more to the public…first it was beyonce and now its her….WHY?!!!!
She’s annoying, but no one deserves to be cheated on and I have a hard time believing that Chris is faithful. She seems really dedicated to their marriage, so I hope he’s not stepping out on her.
Did Goop ever say anything about her marriage “being a bliss”? Or am I mistaking her for some other celebrity.
This has to be the longest run-up to a divorce in history. Seriously, why don’t they just be brave and make that divorce announcement already? We all know it’s only a matter of time.
Hey, she’s now the second person in Hollywood this year to admit that their marriage is work! Ironically, the other person is her ex. I like when people in Hollywood keep it real.
Chris Martin was almost like a virgin when he met Gwyneth. The guy was such a nerd he couldnt get women when he was at college. So he married his first long term gf. I dont know if its true he plays around but i could see how that could happen considering the guy was a geek that got no female attention when he was younger and then became this big rockstar with women throwing themselves at him.
I remember reading that he didn’t have sex until 23 and then he met her when he was what…26?
She (Goop) was pregnant when they got married, yes?
Oh yes ~ and called the paps so they were seen going into the doctor’s office in LA ~ why do I remember this???
What a nasty shock it must have been for CM to slowly clue in to what he was in for.
Correct.
After Kate Bosworth she probably made it clear that he should stick to women who are more disposable.
yes, it is so “difficult” to stay married to someone that makes infinitely more money than she could possibly dream of and let’s her do what she wants when she wants as opposed to say, jane peasant, who takes the “easy” way out of her physically abusive marriage by getting a divorce.
goop is so insecure she can’t help but condescend about EVERYTHING.
trotting out a miscarriage to promote a movie that needs zero help with promotion (to garner more attention than downey?) is AWFUL.
i think miscarriage should be openly discussed and if she was sincere she would have run this on her website, maybe offered directions/advice in getting help for women suffering because of one.
ffs, she could have had her BFF write a little something even. be thoughtful and supportive.
she would never deign to do anything helpful without having to make an enormous profit off it.
she’s so many S-word adjectives, none of them flattering.
*the new award host* &the award for the ‘SAY’ of the day goes to….Poppy!
nicely put
Maybe Chris is sick of Goop’s superior superior complex? She’s lived in privilege her whole life and I don’t think he had such an affluent background. So, perhaps, the Goopyness is rubbing him the wrong way after 9 years of marriage.
Afterall, she is everything precious AND neurotic.
That makes me feel really sorry for her–maybe the first time ever.
It sounds as if she is the one capitulating to everything in their marriage–as if “working” on their marriage meant that she stopped complaining about his behavior or expecting him to be faithful.
“My son would like to be more like Uncle Jay.”
http://www.thesuperficial.com/gwyneth-paltrow-moses-uncle-jay-z-rap-e-news-interview-04-2013
I just can’t with this desperado.
ohh, I am getting Jada Pickett here, on the “let ya husband fly free thing, whatever is alllll good.”
Goopy can’t control that so she tortures US instead…telling the peasants what to wear and eat, so that our life can be as fabulous as hers.
(insert huge eyeroll)
I just don’t think Chris Martin would be smooth enough to score girls who wouldn’t call the tabloids immediately. This marriage has been so built up by La Goop that any rag in the world would pay through the nose for a Jude Law / nanny or David Beckham / assistant style cheating story.
Come to think of it, Chris Martin will probably end up cheating with the help.
Btw, this from the archives re: Jude Law – what a prince.
“A friend of Miller tells British newspaper the Daily Mail, “Rather than feeling guilty and contrite he has turned the whole thing against Sienna. “He said if she is not partying, she is sleeping and he completely blames her for what he has done. He told her, ‘I told you I was unhappy. I told you I needed you to be there for me. Why didn’t you listen to me?'” Miller says Law can “go to hell”, and has left the swanky pad she shares with the actor to stay with her mother Jo.”
I guess this is weird of me to speculate on, but I wonder if there were infidelities in her parents’ marriage and that’s how she can turn a blind eye towards her husband’s alleged cheating. She clearly adored her dad, and if he cheated on her mom, maybe that’s how she justifies it. Or maybe her mom cheated on her dad and since she identifies so much with her father, she feels like putting up with it makes her more like him. I feel so odd speculating on her parents’ marriage, but I really don’t think divorce is GP’s endgame, and hinting at troubles is her way of letting out steam so she doesn’t explode.
I think, in her head, divorce is giving up and taking the easy way out, and she’d rather martyr herself by staying in a marriage where her husband strays, if only for the sake of the children and saving face. Of course, for someone with near unlimited funds, divorce is relatively easy. Even if she lost money in a divorce, she wouldn’t be anywhere near the poorhouse.
That could go some way to explaining her mommy issues.
I dont see why what she said is a problem. Shes just saying that working on a marriage is hard and splitting up is always easier than working on a relationship and shes right. I dont get the hate for nannies on this site either…
We no nanny haters..we just PROUD of juggling work,kids,HOUSE&the resy WITHOUT having a nanny.Its not what she said that’s a problem,its what she wants us to see/hear,&what she’s NOT SAYING!
Women need time to self-nuture, nothing wrong with that. I’d have a nanny if I could afford one and I wanted to have kids. Communities were meant to raise kids, not parents alone. I think women need to have more of an identity besides assigned roles, like mom, business woman, etc. It’s one of the problems in this world and women who don’t know who they are end up sucking the life out of their children and spouse. Be proud all you want, but I imagine the people around you are paying a price for that whether you know it or not
“splitting up is always easier” that’s what I take objection to. I don’t think splitting up is easier at all. Especially when kids are involved. Having to give up holidays with your children? Having to lose half of your family (in-laws)? Facing aging alone? Moving? The loss of a shared income? Splitting your social circles? Trying to trust again? That’s a nightmare! Just because Kim Kardashian can do it without batting an eye doesn’t mean the rest of us can.
Thank you, completely agreed. Do not like Goop one bit, but she’s not wrong. It is always easier to take the easy way out by leaving when things get rough rather than actually working through it. Marriage is work and a lot of the time, people do NOT want to put in the effort. So, they just cry divorce instead.
Don’t lump all divorce into the same category. Maybe some marriages are dissolved for “flimsy” reasons, but you can’t possibly expect someone to “just work on it” if they are being abused or cheated on.
She looks so cute in that purple dress!
Maybe Goopy has a “bl*wjobs only* rule for Chris while he’s on the road, kinda like the rule Valerie Bertinelli had for Eddie Van Halen. Lol! But it sounds to me like Chris is getting much much more…
That purple dress is WAY fugly. She looks like she’s acting in a Saturday Night Live parody of some trashy Hollywood wife, married to someone like David Hasselhoff, who doesn’t realise they’re mutton dressed up as lamb!
I think co parent is her good version of marriage. She is the favorite for a blind about an A lister who has been with many gorgeous men, but they all say the same thing: she just lies there.
Wow, she really IS giving it up, isn’t she. How gauche. How peasanty.
Anything that comes out of her mouth is twisted to fit her perceived persona. And I come here to read this… I am not sure why.
hahaha word.
I come here to read it too.sigh.
I think that image for her is everything. Even when she mentions difficult or negative stuff in her life it’s always coupled with how she overcame it.
I never get a sense of intimacy or even love between her and her husband. It might be there, but they just seem so separate. I mean, this whole thing of not being photographed together…really? What’s the big deal about being together and having a pic taken. They ARE married and both are famous and if you love and like the person you are with, you’re proud to be with them and don’t care if you are photographed together. Just doesn’t make sense to me.
Yes, that rule seems just too over the top. If you have those kinds of issues with fame, exposure etc…maybe you shouldn’t be an actress/rock star in the first place.
I agree, their “rule” of not being photographed or seen together is ridiculous. Like get over it, we know you’re in a relationship together and after ten years of marriage, people don’t care too much at this point. Maybe in the early days of them dating a photo of them together would have been juicy, but not now. I think not wanting to be photographed together (even at major events!!!) says a lot about their marriage, and it’s mostly negative.
Its not “their rule.” Its chris’s rule so for all the people who says paltrow is controlling he does seem a little controlling himself. Maybe they suit eachother.
she accepted the (marriage)contract(him doing him,and her looking for something meaningful to do,GOOP SITE)..so now she’s living (by) it.
It’s so interesting when Gwyneth Paltrow says this about the challenges of being married, her ex Ben Affleck having said it around Oscar season too.
I mean, marriage (I’m sure) is full of its challenges, but are the challenges they face in their marriages the same as those regular people (“peasants”?! ;)) face? “My husband goes on tour a lot” and “my wife pretends to have sex with famous, sexy movie-stars on film” is, well, different from run-of-the-mill traveling for work or petty jealousies.
In other words, I think they want us to identify, but I give pause.
Her illnesses are so much MORE than anyone’s, her marital problems are so much HARDER than anyone’s, her miscarriage was so much PAIN compared to anyone’s.
A miscarriage is horrible I’ve had two so she has won some sympathy from me. However, having been through a divorce after trying absolutely every avenue to save the marriage, she is an idiot to say divorce is easier. My divorce ranked right up there with my miscarriages as far as awful life events go. Sometimes this chick needs to STFU about something she’s never experienced.
I’ve had a miscarriage and a divorce. Neither was easy, but neither identifies me as a person.
Of course, in full disclosure, the pregnancy was an accident and the miscarriage was timely. Didn’t make it easier to bear–worked up a lot of conflicts, but still one must move on.
Whoops, sorry–didn’t mean to leave this as a specific reply to Ginger.
Divorce is easier? Not even close. Clearly the musing of a shallow person that has never been through that special hell.
What will she do when the bubble she lives in bursts? She nearly fell apart when her father died. She is going to crumble when her children grow up and begin to assert themselves and make choices she can’t comprehend in her rigid little mind. I won’t touch the marriage. She has no idea.
Poor Chris, must pay translators, interpreters, covert facts to visual aid.. as she is constantly defensive, apologetic, compromising too much to please; heaven forbid, hire some wizard type Captain Oblivious to organize and liven up his get away campaign.. get his ‘done wiff you woman’ point across.
Having had four miscarriages myself, I am not going to second-guess her on that. If you want that child, and you can’t have it, it’s awful. And it can be physically awful, too, in a host of ways.
I do think her (non-famous) best friend’s mom’s advice is great. I don’t specifically want more babies, but I do wish our family were a little bigger.
Everyone hates her, and she knows it. She’s trying to be loved. Not working.
Shhhhhh, don’t talk, don’t ever talk.
So, what I’m taking away from this is that the marriage is bearable enough to maintain until the kids are older. Then they will divorce quietly, having “grown apart”. Hey, it happens.
Geez, the woman is 40years old and she’s wearing a teen dress? Seriously? Who cares what else she has to say when it’s obvious she is in arrested development.
It may well be the the easy thing to do would be to get a divorce, but if your marriage is such a difficult thing to maintain, then perhaps divorce is the right way to go.
Marriage is easier for some and more difficult for others, but if getting a divorce would make things much better and you’re life would be easier, then perhaps that means your marriage should not last and divorce is the better option.
Marriage should not be such a horrible experience. IF things don’t get better, it’s time to face the reality.
If the two of them didn’t have so much money, assets and a lavish lifestyle and PR image to maintain, Goop wouldn’t be so accomodating of her husband’s ways. Wasn’t he on with Natalie Imbruglia?
Shades of Jada’s recent PR nonsense.
Do celebrities really expect people to believe this crap? “Oh yeah, Gwyn I soo relate to you” (not).
That’s what i’ve read as well.
Chris and Natalie have known each other for years and recorded a few songs together.
I like her. I like that she’s honest. I think there has been infidelity in the marriage but I don’t know if there is now. I don’t get the hate. She doesn’t pretend to be anything she isn’t. I would 100 times rather read an interview like this than some actress gushing about how perfect her life is.
I’ve always liked her, too. I think she really tried to make it work with him, but it won’t. Hence, the over-compensating.
I actually feel sympathy for her and i dont think Chris Martin is the easiest men in the world. I dont know if he cheats but he is married to his work. He is famously ambitious so I bet his gf/wife would feel like they have second place to his work.