These are some newish photos of Casper Smart and Jennifer Lopez on a date together a few weeks ago in Los Angeles. It feels like Casper has been with Jennifer for several gossip years, right? In real-life time, Casper and JLo have been together for over two human years. When they first interfaced, JLo wanted everyone to know about it. Before a year had passed, Casper was holding his own autograph sessions because he’s so important. As a backup dancer. A choreographer. Or whatever.
As a couple, these two love birds are still a hot item. They endured some periodic break-up rumors late last year. One story said the spark was gone, and another gave a particularly delicious, Dynasty-esque take on JLo tossing Casper out on his ear with a “you came with nothing, you will leave with nothing” farewell. I guess those were only stories, or maybe they broke up and got back together. Now JLo is promoting her return to American Idol in grand fashion. Cue the romantic declarations:
After a year away from American Idol, Jennifer Lopez is returning to the judges’ panel a changed woman.
“That was such a transformative year for me in so many ways,” Lopez told reporters Monday ahead of Wednesday’s premiere of Idol’s 13th season. “I had just divorced, I went on tour with the kids, and I left Idol. All my security blankets were gone, and I was out there doing something I had never done before.”
But as she travelled the globe on her first world tour, she relied on support from her mother and boyfriend Casper Smart, whom Lopez called “fantastic” with her twins Emme and Max, 5.
“I was surrounded by love and family,” said Lopez, 44. “I really grew. My goal was not to come out the other side and just survive it but grow as a human being as well as an artist, and I felt I did. I learned a lot.”
One thing Lopez has learned is to accept that she is someone who prefers to be in a relationship.
“I’m one of those people who does not like to be alone,” she said. “I have no shame saying that at this point in my life. I think we have to own who we are.”
But when it comes to wedding bells in Lopez and Smart’s future, the star is unclear where she thinks their relationship is headed.
“I don’t know. We’ll see. I don’t know,” she said when asked if she would like to get married for the fourth time. “You know, I’ve always believed in that institution. I believe in it, but it is difficult. I’ve had my challenges, but at the same time I believe in love, and I think that is the main thing.”
[From People]
Hmm. I appreciate JLo finally admitting what we already knew about her. She can’t stand to be without a man, which sort of boggles my mind. JLo has enough money to support herself and her twin children for many lifetimes in complete luxury. She can do anything she wants. She doesn’t have to work, or she can try and rule the world. Yet she can’t be alone for any period of time on her own. Jennifer has been married thrice already, and I’m surprised she hasn’t gone there with Casper. Will she ever? I don’t know, but at least she’s being honest about her intentions.
Photos courtesy of Fame/Flynet & WENN
I don’t understand but at least she’s aware of it.
I don’t understand that mentality either! She is probably one of those people that needs to be in a relationship but, also, just doesn’t like to spend time alone period. Funny how the same species can be so different because if I don’t get my alone time, I am a GRIZZLY BEAR!
This! People who don’t like to be on their own once in a while are just odd to me.
Oh Tulip!
*collaspes in tears*
Did you go to Holland to help your family prepare for the Spring Tulip Festival in Holland? I was so beside myself without you!
*nervously realises that I don’t like being alone for too long either*
*hugs Tulip no matter what!!!*
**Hugs to you Ladyslippers**
Let me say this, if you think that I am going to go to a festival where I will be surrounded by other, maybe equally gorgeous, tulips then you are seriously mistaken!!! I know I miss out on the admiration of many but here in my garden, I am the rarity, the unusual, the Queen of Tulips so no I will not go…and if the servants (known as homeowners) even think about a trip, I’ll be sure to send Secret Squirrel after them to cause a mild accident that will keep them grounded! You won’t believe this but my servants bring a special “kneeling pad” just to homage to me and I am not jeopardizing that!
**Will send you a special package of “fertilizer” from the new little ole plant that the servants keep hidden out here amongst us blooms, it is divine! If it gets too much attention, I will of course take necessary measures 🙂
It seems like JLo as well as other many people in this world can’t fully appreciate money and success if they don’t have somebody to share it with, even if she kows Casper is not the love of her life.
I don’t know if i can blame her.. loneliness is nice only when you’re the one choosing it. what i don’t really agree with is paying someone to be with you. I’m sure she can find many men who would actually love her and cherish her without getting money back
I expect the kind of men who would dare to ask out Jennifer Lopez would fall into 2 categories – guys who are hyper-successful in their fields (business/showbiz) and have egos to boot, or the gold-digging Caspers and K-Feds of this world who scoop her up during an emotional low-point.
A regular, down-to-earth gentleman isn’t even going to try and I can’t imagine her as one to do the chasing!
When you put it this way I can totally see it. I think you’re right, too. Yes, indeed.
Well, at least she’s honest with herself about not wanting to be alone. That’s good for her, really.
Hm.
She looks like she is over him, lately….I bet she is already sniffing out a replacement….
I don’t understand her taste in men. She is smoking hot and ageing so well. Why can’t she get someone attractive and mature? Even the average woman on the street wouldn’t really go for Casper Smart IMO. So weird.
She’s high maintenance in the extreme and older guys will not put up with that as much as a young broke kid will.
Yup! She truly is a diva.
From your lip’s to god’s ears!!! I’ve tried to fool myself into thinking he’s more attractive but no matter how much I squint, I can’t change my perception. He is fugly. I don’t care how good he is in bed, she’s still gotta’ kiss that bunched up feature treasure troll face. I’m sorry to sound like a shallow bitch, but I’m just being honest. Beauty may be skin deep, but ugh!
He looks less hideous with his hair grown out. The shaved head draws to much attention to his face. I think he looks OK now.
Delilah, omg that was funny! I feel the same way about him. Double bagger for sure.
Going completely off topic here – feel free to call me nuts but I think he totally looks like the Brit version of Moriarty in these pics, particularly that second pic. I may have just been binge watching “Sherlock” recently to prepare for the new season so that could have something to do with it though…..
Well, I figured that out years ago but it’s nice to see that she’s aware of it. I wish she’d get rid of that Casper dude though, she can so clearly do a lot better than him. The only thing I know him for is being in one of those god-awful step up movies.
Well most of us have been guilty of falling in love in the workplace – her workplace being, you know, the stage… She rehearses and creates with a group of people I kinda think its natural to fall for someone who shares her passion for dancing…
But at any rate I’m just happy she hasn’t tied the know just yet, not needed.
Their romance doesn’t creep me nearly as much as Madonna’s romances with those young boys, so hey Jenny, do you!
She looks great btw. I love her!
Sn: I sometimes think she’s morphing Casper into a younger (and slightly more attractive) version of Marc Anthony.. That pitch black hair…
I don’t think those two (Jenny and Marc) are over each other. Took them sooo long to file for divorce hum…
As far back as she has become famous, i don’t remember her ever being single. you always some cooling off time,don’t get jumping from relationship to another.
I don’t think she was ever single either. She probably doesn’t even break up with guys until she has another.
It’s called codependency.
I agree. Of my women friends, the ones who consistently have the worst relationships are the ones who can’t go five minutes without a man. They jump from relationship to relationship, tolerate the intolerable for the sake of “making it work,” complain about the man constantly, then panic and hop to another one just like him as soon as the old relationship falls apart. They don’t take the time to get to know themselves without a man and create a good life for themselves. I firmly believe that when you’re strong and true to yourself, you will meet an equal partner and appreciate him. When you’re weak, you’ll meet someone with corresponding weakness and continue the pattern. It must be exhausting.
I see no point in her getting married to Casper unless she plans on having another kid and feels the need to put a ring on it before giving birth or adopting. I don’t see her wanting anymore children. She has twins and she is 44. I think she is done. At this point in her life, all she seems to need is companionship and she is paying Casper handsomely so that she doesn’t have to be alone. There really is no need to complicate things by getting married in my opinion.
I understand what she is saying. I’m still young, I’ve never been married, and I’m at the age where I would like to meet the right person and start a family soon. There have been moments in the past when I’ve enjoyed my alone time as a single person. Now, I feel more of an urge to share my life with someone. I feel lonely more often and it makes me sad to imagine never being able to find someone to share my life with. But right now, I have a group of good friends and being with them makes me happy because I don’t feel alone anymore.
I realise that some people enjoy being alone, but I think most humans are social creatures and wanting to have a companion is perfectly normal. However, I don’t know if I’d really feel satisfied with a boy toy (or for some people, a woman young enough to be their daughter or granddaughter) at my side just to keep me company and fulfil my sexual needs. I’d imagine I’d want to have a greater bond with someone in a more equal relationship. That’s just me, but maybe Casper is enough for her. I doubt they will stay together forever, so I wonder what type of guy she will turn to next after this relationship ends.
This is why she always picks guy that worship her and fawn all over her. March Anthony was smitten by her . P diddy and now Casper. It gets old after a while and that is why it does not last.
Women need men that can stand up to them point blank.
Agree. Also how can she be attracted to someone who isn’t independent of her.
I’m not sure why people find her relationship with this guy surprising, she married the original K-Fed, Chris Judd, after all. And her first husband was a total loser, he still lives off the proceeds from selling stories about her.
This is her MO, after this guy she’ll date someone who’s her equal, then he’ll get sick of the drama and she’ll employ another loser boyfriend, and on and on it goes.
Chris Judd was not a loser.He really loved her and has never spoken badly of her.She had a affair with Ben Affleck and wanted to marry him so Chris Judd was out.Karma was a bitch on that one.Comparing him to K-fed is not fair.That guy totally used Britney Spears and as far as I am concerned he was the start of her downfall.
I can tell you this: there is no loneliness on earth more painful or unbearable than the feeling of being alone even though you are actually in a relationship. It hurts more and in a different way than just feeling bad because you are tired of being alone. You would think that someone like Jennifer would have figured this out by now but because she never gives herself any space between relationships there has been no time to absorb this valuable lesson. I think she and so many other people would be so much better off if they did. It is better to be alone and not settle for just anybody until you find the right one than to settle, imho.
Word. Took me 8 very painful months to learn that very valuable lesson.
She reminds me of my mom (who is on her 4th marriage ). My mom is a very trying woman and hard to be in a relationship with, but, she is always in one. She has never been single longer than a couple of months. Anyway,a few years ago it dawned on me that my Mom has to have someone to take care of…maybe JLo is the same?
It is important to learn how to be alone. One shouldn’t always be in a relationship unless they are one of the few lucky ones who end up marrying their childhood sweetheart and never get divorced. For most people in the Western world, the age for getting married is getting increasingly older and the chances of getting a divorce is 50/50. This means that at some point in life, most people will be single before they meet the right person to have a long-term partnership with or get married to. I don’t think it’s healthy to jump from one relationship to the next without even taking a breather to figure out what you like or what you want in a partner. I’ve noticed that people I know who are always in a relationship are rarely ever with one person for a significantly long period of time. They are always either looking for someone better or settling for someone they aren’t really compatible with so that they won’t have to be alone. Most of us don’t like to be alone, but it’s okay to take a break be more picky about who we want to date and settle down with. Maybe these people would be happier if they spent more time searching for the right person rather than dating and marrying (then divorcing) people who aren’t right for them.
I don’t understand people who can’t ever be alone. I love it. I’ve never had a boyfriend (unless you count the one in second grade) and I don’t feel like I’m missing anything at all. I had this one friend in school, more like an acquitance, she could not just be by herself. She always had to be dating someone. It was to the point that she asked my twin brother if he wanted to be her boyfriend, even though they had dated before, and found out that they didn’t really like each other like that. But she asked him, so she could tell people that she had a boyfriend. And she told me that, point blank. Didn’t even beat around the bush, just told me straight out. Which is so weird.
Didn’t know you were a twin, so am I!
I think JLo goes for low rent broke guys like Chris Judd (husband no. 2) and Casper Smart because of their low statuses, She wants a man she can control.
That is why they never last. What woman wants a yes man? it gets old
“I appreciate JLo finally admitting what we already knew about her.
She can’t stand to be without a man, which sort of boggles my mind. ”
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right there with ya Bedhead! i’m so glad she’s ‘outta the closet’ on that, lol.
looking at her family dynamic, Jen’s the middle child who looks exactly like her dad, whereas the eldest & baby look like her mom. she was either her dad’s favorite or had to fight for his attention…perhaps that’s where it stems from. one thing about a woman like Jen, she knows EXACTLY what she wants & needs, and always manifests it no matter what. good 4 her i guess. 😉
i’m not her biggest fan but am i alone in thinking she looks great in that last picture in the white dress/gorgeous jewelry/pink lip/tousled hair? i would love to own that look.
I totally agree, she looks stunning there.
I think she prefers the man who is somewhat successful in their fields (back up dancers) that way they can be her lap dog and follow her around and do as she says. The average Joe who will bend over backwards for her. She can’t do that to a celebrity, they won’t stand for it she’s to needy & they won’t give her control. That’s exactly how Christina Aguilera is but she controls her “men” better then J-Lo.
“I’m one of those people who does not like to be alone,” she said. “I have no shame saying that at this point in my life. I think we have to own who we are.”
DUH. She didn’t have to tell us that for us to know it. It’s been pretty obvious for years now.
Problem is, if you don’t like to be alone and you also can’t sustain long term relationships and people like you because of your looks then aging will be very hard for you. Of course there is always money, and i guess she will always have that. Cue Madonna
she reminds me of madonna-both tried to go for ‘successful, strong men’ marc anthony and guy ritchie-but both are better off with random back up dancers/boy toys, b/c these women, diva or not, are very powerful [fame/money/influence in their fields] and wear the pants in the family. The need to be in charge/in control.
J Lo is gorgeous IMO. That is ageing well…even with a little ‘help’ from the dr.’s office. she doesn’t look like an alien freak and she looks beautiful, in fact. I also like her acting. There. I said it. And she is likable in interviews that I”ve seen, too.
What are the diva stories of her, btw? I’ve never really heard any-usually just the anecdote ‘she was really nice to the servers at a party I worked at’.