Kristen Stewart: ‘You don’t know who you will fall in love with, you don’t control it’


Kristen Stewart covers the March issue of Marie Claire Mag. This is her first major magazine cover in a long time. I’m not even going to try to backtrack and figure out when her last American cover was, but I trust that it’s been a good year. K-Stew has been giving more interviews recently – mostly as part of promotional, contractual duties with Balenciaga, and I guess this might be the same? I was going to say that she might be promoting Camp X-Ray, but that doesn’t even have a release date yet. So yeah, she’s just promoting Balenciaga. As for the shoot… I think she looks blandly pretty. Kristen is capable of doing some surprisingly strong editorials, but I guess they were going for “pretty” and “not hardcore” here. She’s sort of dead-eyed, but I tend to blame the photographer for that. Some highlights from the cover story:

Kristen on love: “You don’t know who you will fall in love with. You just don’t. You don’t control it. Some people have certain things, like, ‘That’s what I’m going for,’ and I have a subjective version of that. I don’t pressure myself… if you fall in love with someone, you want to own them – but really why would you want that. You want them to be what you love.”

She doesn’t want to plan anything: “I mean, at this point, I can’t even tell you if I want to hang out on Saturday.”

She wants kids because she had such a happy childhood: “I had it too good, to not have that, too. If I were to put money on it, definitely, yeah. But you earn that, like, that’s so not here yet.”

[From Marie Claire via Starpulse]

“You don’t know who you will fall in love with. You just don’t.” Is that the explanation we’re going to get for the Rupert Sanders stuff? I mean, she doesn’t OWE us an explanation, and after all this time, I didn’t think we were going to get an explanation, but I kind of wonder if Kristen is going to talk about the incident more in the coming year as she promotes her movies and her modeling contracts. Will the explanation be along these lines? “I couldn’t help falling in love with a married man”??? See, I don’t think it was love. I really don’t. I think she was just getting some, for fun, because she was young and didn’t think it through.

Apparently, Kristen also recently told German Vogue: “I like to be a muse. You meet so many talented people who inspire me. I like the creative energy at photo shoots.” Is it bad form to refer to yourself as a designer’s muse? I think it is.



Photos courtesy of Marie Claire via TFS & Fashion Scans Remastered.

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  1. Sayrah says:

    I swear the only pics I’ve ever seen her smile in were the ones with Rupert Sanders

  2. Melissa says:

    I do agree with her though, you don’t get to choose who to fall in love with. If we did we’d all choose the right person for us…there’d never be any love related misery. That’s the thing I like about love though, you’re a victim of happenstance.

    • GeeMoney says:

      It’s true… you can’t control who you fall for. But, you can control who you get involved with. Just because you love someone doesn’t mean you should be with them, especially if you guys just don’t work for some reason. And that’s how you avoid that “love related misery”.

      • Kiddo says:

        +1. You may not have control over emotions but you do have control over actions.

      • Virgilia Coriolanus says:

        This is what I was going to say.

        You don’t choose who you fall in love with, but you do choose what you will and won’t accept, what you will and won’t do.

        Also, I don’t really think that we should keep bringing up Kristen and Rupert Sanders–at least not if it isn’t relevant. If she says or does something stupid, where connotations can be drawn back to it, then it’s free game.

        I do think that she’s finally taken some of those pr lessons to heart, so I’m starting to like her a little more. Although I still don’t think she can act.

        But I do think that’s why she hasn’t done anything big–her lack of skill and charisma. She never really grew as an actress–I think her high note was ‘Into the Wild’ and then after that she got ‘Twilight’ and started buying into her own hype as an ARTISTE. She’s a lazy actress for me…..and I think that all her affair did was make it easier for producers to say that they didn’t want her, because all her Twilight fans were gone (unless she was with Rob), and she can’t act on top of it.

        Because honestly (and this might just be me), Kristen could’ve actually been screwing him out in broad daylight, and I still would be first in line to watch her movies–IF SHE COULD ACT. Cannot stress that enough. She can’t. I was wincing throughout SWATH.

      • Isabelle says:

        This so much. Sometimes the people we fall in love with are the very people we shouldn’t have relationships with and should avoid bringing into our lives. Love unfortunately doesn’t equate mutual compatibility or true companionship. Sometimes we simply fall in love with the wrong person and that person can be bad for us or we can be bad for them.

      • FLORC says:

        It’s not just you. There are lots and lots of actors and actresses that have had affairs or been the homewrecker and we still see ther movies. We pay for the ticket and tell them we don’t care because they entertain us.
        Kristen and her rally speach in SWATH was difficult to watch for me too.

        And maybe Rob has the best chance of the twighlight trio to have a career outside of the franchise.

  3. SonjaMarmeladova says:

    I’m starting to like her more and more.

  4. stellalovejoydiver says:

    To keep up that ridiculous amount oft tryhardness all the time must be exhausting

  5. Sullivan says:

    She’s quite pretty. It sounds like she might be growing-up.

  6. Cheap Trick says:

    “You don’t know who you will fall in love with. You just don’t.”

    I that is how she prepares on coming out in the near future? To me Kristen still pings … from space (and I am not even sorry about it).

    • Liv says:

      I hope so because if it’s meant as an apology for her affair I have to throw up. You can’t control who you fall in love with, but you have control over wrecking a family or not. Seriously, nobody is blaming her that she had a crush on Sanderson or whatever that was, but she could have chosen to wait until he seperates from his wife. Same goes for him of course.

      • Virgilia Coriolanus says:

        I do get the impression that Sanders was screwing around on Liberty, and that Liberty had no clue. Which really, really sucks (and even if she did know)—she gave up a LOT for him. She was one of the IT models in the 90s, who could’ve been dating billionaires like all her friends–but she was with him, whose name no one knew until he directed SWATH, and subsequently for his affair w/Kristen.

        Just from seeing that they got caught out in broad daylight, humping each other on an abandoned road, tells me that Kristen was young and stupid, and that Rupert was an idiot who thought that the paparazzi wouldn’t follow him and Kristen–who knows how many other women Rupert was out dry humping on the side of the road, while his wife was at home with the kids–with no friends, no one but him??

        I would bet a LOT of women. Just like that one director–Mathew Morrisson and Katherine McPhee. It ain’t the first time he’s cheated on his wife. He just happened to cheat with someone who was also semi-famous i.e. it would be worth a chunk of change in pics.

      • Melly says:

        Do you really believe it is possible to destroy a family? If it is a happy marriage, the husband will say no thanks. If it is not and he wants to have affairs, he sooner or later will, with someone he meets or with prostitutes.
        I would not sleep with someone who is not single, but not because I think this saves his relationship.

      • Liv says:

        Yep. Also Kristen grew up in L.A. She must have known that it’s not the smartest idea to make out with him in public. I always thought that either the affair lasted much longer as they admitted or that she wanted to get caught.

        @Melly I think you can fall in love with everybody, but you should handle the situatuon adequately. I don’t know if you got me wrong, I didn’t mean that she should have backed off to save his family. I think if they were in love (which I doubt) they should have seperated from their partners before starting their affair. His betrayal ruined their family.

  7. Hannah says:

    Who designed the dress she’s wearing on the cover? It’s rad!

  8. Ruyana says:

    Can’t stand her gloom-and-doom sourpuss.

  9. Stephanie says:

    Is it just me, or does the quote about her wanting to have kids make no sense?

    • HappyMom says:

      I’m right there with you. Huh?

    • Reece says:

      That’s not the only quote that doesn’t make sense…but I gave up and burned my “Grammar Police” hat a long time ago.

      Nice comment: She does look pretty, bland like Kaiser said but pretty.

    • Judy says:

      It makes perfect sense to me . She had a great childhood and wants to emulate that. But it’s in the future. What’s hard to understand? Every time there’s an article about her it’s …blah, blah, blah.. She can’t speak well… blah, blah, dead eyes … Blah , blah , blah … broke up a marriage. It’s so predictable.
      It’s an interview, she’s not supposed to be speaking the Queen ‘s English, she ‘s speaking the way everyone does. The only odd sentence is from the German interview, which may be attributable to poor translation.
      Dead eyes? Such hyperbole. Her eyes are fine, even pretty . I can honestly say I’ve only ever seen dead eyes in some old Life magazines pics which showed the blank stares of corpses. Check them out.
      As for the affair, wow! That’s a lot of anger about a relationship we know next to nothing about.
      I live in a glass house, I try not to lob anything heavier than day old bread.

  10. Marigold says:

    That cover is awful. Just awful.

  11. PunkyMomma says:

    I still maintain her relationship with Rupert was to ensure her role in the franchise sequel(s). Charlize stole that movie and to a one, every review of Snow White I read was critical of either Stewart’s acting or the casting of Kristen in the role.

    @Cheap – yes I get major pings from her, too, but I also think she can easily switch teams as the need arises. The casting couch doesn’t give a fig about the actor/actress sexual orientation.

    • Virgilia Coriolanus says:

      I swear to you, PunkyMomma, after about ten minutes, I gave up, and was COUNTING how many times Kristen rolled her eyes, bit her lip, or sighed.

      And Rupert is a HORRIBLE director. That movie just dragged on, and on, and on……I didn’t even watch the whole thing, because I was SO bored of it–I skipped a good 30 minutes of it, and it still felt like I’d been watching it all day.

      Neither one of them should’ve been hired. Neither one of them can act or direct.

    • Lark says:

      Sigh. Come on now. He was a first time director, and she had more power than him at that point. Even Oscar-winning Soderberg had to fire Blake Lively, who he originally cast in Side Effects, in favor of Rooney Mara because the producers pitched a fit. Sanders had nothing to do with the final say in casting.

  12. Anname says:

    This philosophy she espouses of “doing what feels right, don’t be ashamed of anything” is SO self-serving. If it feels right to her it’s all good, regardless of how it affects other people? Yuck.
    She seems like one of those people who would be exhausting to deal with, with all this constant “need to bleed” emotion. I actually don’t mind her acting (she has a niche). I just don’t care for her personality.

    • TG says:

      I agree and after just reading the article and every comment re Woody Allen that was the first thought that came to my mind was that quote sounds like something he would is to justify his behaviour.

      However, I am with VC on this one if she could act or even of she was in a movie I really wanted to see I would be first in line at the theatre.

      • Lark says:

        I actually thought she was talking about college, since she said she struggled with the decision not to go because every time she thought about it a role came around that caught her attention…and she also said she knows she is not book smart and that she wished she had gone. But honestly, she does need to stay way from making broad generalizations because of her past.

  13. Nicole says:

    She really needs to learn how to speak somewhat properly. She says “you” and “me” in the same sentences a lot and both are referring to herself. I really don’t understand it. Maybe it comes off okay in person, but in print, it reads oddly.

  14. Original Tessa says:

    You can control your actions, Kristen. You can NOT sleep with married people.

    Also, is she trying to come out a little? If she’s bi, is this her way of telling us, “Oops, I fell in love with a girl! I had no control over that, it just happened! Tee hee.”

  15. Kemper says:

    Am I the only one annoyed by the overuse of the word “like”?

  16. Deb says:

    Does any of her verbal vomit make sense? Does she own a hairbrush ? My guess is no to both. Ugh what a pretentious brat.

  17. gg says:

    I’ve been in love with people before and it was painful not to act on it, but I didn’t because I knew that if I crossed that line and opened that door, it would have disastrous results. Often, if we play out our fantasies, it can wreck our lives. Which is why you do not cross that line. A sex or love fantasy that leaves destruction in its wake is never ever going to be worth it. You CAN control your actions, and should. It’s called growing up and being a responsible adult. I do hope she’s learned this.

  18. Stacey says:

    You cant control who you fall in love with…I think thats a veiled reference to her relationship with Katy Perry’s female assistant. I think she’s gay and thats what she’s referring to.

  19. Janet says:

    Same empty, expressionless face, same dead eyes…

    • Karen says:

      ITA. Don’t blame the photographer for her dead eyes. Is it every photographers” fault that she has the same dead-eyed expression in every photo shoot she’s ever done? When will they stop putting her on on magazine covers? She always looks stoned, bored or half asleep, or all three.

  20. Renee says:

    Regarding the muse comment, I understood it as her saying that she likes to be involved in creative processes and an acknowledgement that she doesn’t bring much to the table in terms of ideas of her own and ….wait , on second thought, it is in bad form for her to refer to herself as a muse, and to take credit for inspiring others.

  21. Bridget says:

    Marie Claire is the worst. Their interviews and photoshoots are consistently terrible.

  22. Tig says:

    Not the best photo shoot she’s done by a long shot. Thought for a skinny minute that her interview skills had improved, but this one is a step back.

  23. Marty says:

    I think maybe it would’ve been different if her and Rupert had really tried to make a go at it, have a serious relationship, but I agree it wasn’t love. It seemed they were only sorry after they got caught, and only then did they focus on their S.O.’s. It seemed all about the lust to me.

  24. umyeah says:

    I have seen movies she’s been in, and she’s an awful actress. Totally one dimensional. And her overall persona is very gloomy and doomy. Don’t see her appeal at all.

  25. Rosanna says:

    It’s easy to judge isn’t it? A person who is really in love with his/her spouse cannot be stolen. A person who stays in a marriage out of hypocrisy and/or material concerns can (and will be, eventually). As simple as that.

    • GeeMoney says:

      Exactly. You can’t take a happily married man off of his wife. – GeeMoneyism (lol)

      • Sarah says:

        actually a lot of people who cheated claim they were in happy relationships. they just wanted more.
        cheating is no sign of unhappiness but one of selfishness. even if you are really unhappy, how about talking about it instead of destroying peoples lives? its one of the worst things you can do to someone emotionally and it will leave a big scar that will influence every future relationship.
        for the children its even worse. they will see this behaviour and it will influence their relationships, too.

    • Virgilia Coriolanus says:

      That is the fine line…’s hard to judge. I’m speaking from personal, family experience–where a person has been in a marriage that neither of them really wanted, didn’t really want to fix it, for a long time….but they’re willing to stay because of kids, because it’s easy, because it’s familiar.

      What happens when they meet someone else, and want a divorce? Can you really call it cheating? I think that it’s easy to say what we will or won’t do, when we aren’t in the situation. It’s a hard thing…..I think that the best you can do, is be honest. Even if you weren’t honest before. Be honest today….don’t dwell on what you didn’t or did do. Move forward.

    • Lunchcoma says:

      I’d agree you can’t “steal” anyone else, but you can decide you don’t want to be involved in that kind of a situation and insist the other person get his or her life in order before you’ll date.

      I don’t consider cheating to be an always unforgivable sin, but “you can’t help who you fall in love with” isn’t a good way of addressing things.

      • Virgilia Coriolanus says:

        I def. agree. I have an uncle who’s in a relationship like that right now. He and my aunt have been together for nearly 25 years. And they are pretty much married to be married. It’s not like they hate each other, or that they fight all the time, it’s that they’re together, but they’re apart. And I do think a lot of it is my aunt. I stayed at their house once (they live in D.C.)–everytime my uncle went into a room where my aunt was, my aunt would leave. My uncle hasn’t ever gone into downtown D.C. despite living there for 18 years–because my aunt won’t go. The only thing my aunt wants him to do with her is drive her everywhere, because she hates driving, and she won’t drive—my mom went on a 18 hour trip with them, and my aunt slept the entire way, didn’t even offer to help drive.

        Anyway–if my uncle ever decided that he wanted more out of life, if he met someone else, who would actually be willing to do things with him, and he divorced my aunt (who I don’t really consider to be my aunt, because at every family reunion and get together, she stands in the corner and acts like we’re all strangers–unless she’s drunk)–I wouldn’t consider that cheating. I think they have a dead marriage right now, and the only reason they’re together is (beyond a few other things) because it’s easy and familiar.

        And yeah, if I were Kristen, I wouldn’t talk or even allude to my romantic life, until I have a giant, Elizabeth Taylor-Krupp Diamond, ring on my finger. When I read the title, the first thing I thought of was her and Sanders–which isn’t good. It comes off as her trying to make excuses, when she should just leave it alone, or stop talking about it in such vague terms. Either be straight or don’t.

      • Lark says:

        @Lunchcoma @Virgilia Coriolanus

        I really don’t think she was addressing it, but kind of answering the interviewer as a whole about love because they were also talking about other general topics. I read the whole thing online, and she makes a brief comment about having “made mistakes” in a different part and that was really the only part that seemed to have alluded to her acknowledging the affair.

        I honestly got the vibe she was talking about her sexuality and possibly semi-coming out. However, I completely agree with you Virgilia that she would be best served by never, ever mentioning the word love until she has a steady partner and a few more years past…because some people are always going to keep dragging up the past for her as long as she does that.

  26. ItSetsYou says:

    For some reason I was under the impression she had rough beginnings. Good for her she had a great childhood.

    • lulu says:

      I know a lot of times she likes to come off as coming from a working class family, but her family is pretty wealthy working in Hollywood. she just likes to blame her teachers for not helping her enough when she wanted to work on movie sets, and miss school.

  27. Tania says:

    I think she is trying to come out.

  28. lulu says:

    she has a great pr team. they work for their paycheck.

  29. LAK says:

    She really has dead eyes.

    I always thought it was directors or paps causing the sullen dead eyed face, but goodness…..

  30. jensies says:

    It’s been years since I’ve watched America’s Next Top Model, and Tyra has gone very far down the rabbit hole of incredibly insane, but she has taught me some things. Which is why I wanted to shout at these pictures, “Kristen! You’re losing your neck! Also, SMIZE.”

    Also, BLEH. She’s an awful interview.

  31. Peach says:

    In other words, she’s not sorry she screwed a married man with two children. I never thought she was. As long as she’s “real” and “true to her self” she couldn’t care less about anyone else.

  32. Lark says:

    I’m a somewhat fan of Sulky, but she really needs to avoid talking about certain things like love (even in general terms) because some people and tabs are always going to try and relate it to RPattz and or the affair until she has a new partner. The interviewer prompted her to talk about love as a whole and she ended with something like “I’m too young/whatever to know about this type of stuff” with a laugh (of course that part gets left out). She did say something about having made mistakes in a different part of the interview, which I thought was probably a reference to that whole mess.

    Anyway, photos look like she’s been shopped to look like Jena Malone. And….don’t kill me, any of the twi-hards who visit here, but when the interviewer kind of prompted her to talk about love in general terms…I sort of thought she was semi-coming out or talking about her sexuality.

    • Lark says:

      I also think she will never talk about the affair past saying something like “I’ve made mistakes” and that’s it especially since her career is somewhat back on track. Honestly, this is the only website where I still see it brought up constantly and she would be stupid to drag it into the open again when most people and the tabloids have moved on for the most part.

  33. Source says:

    I think my comment got swallowed up.

    But what I’d said was that if the photographer could be blamed for her dead eyes, then what about every other photoshoot and papp picture (other than where she’s flipping them off)? Eyes being the windows to the soul and all, it appears to be a very cold, cavernous place inside.

    And yes, I don’t blame her not getting jobs or bad reviews or any of that on her affair. If she was an oscar-winning actress, nobody would care. It’s that she had a reputation as a sulky beeyotch, and add to that the dead-eyed stony expressions all she’s capable of in her acting.

    And I think people are much more forgiving of mistakes, if you don’t get on your high horse and preach about it before doing the very thing you lectured everyone about. Acting like you’re above all that Hollywood trope, then having an affair with a married man, makes you a hypocrite.

  34. Size Does Matter says:

    Looks like Marie Clair couldn’t get her to wash her hair, either.

  35. Starbuck says:

    The entire interview just reads fake. Her PR team is good. They reference her breakup with Pattinson in 2012 with finality even though their reconciliation was in all the magazines and second breakup in 2013 was everywhere too. No mention of the huge story behind the breakup and then a bunch of random crap about having children (what?) and her general evasiveness about other subjects. Except when it comes to her own artistry and genius, when she brings out the big guns in the form of some embarrassing “poetry” she allowed them to publish. So the spin now is that she purposefully took a break on her own accord because she didn’t find a script she liked enough to do and hemming and hawing about how she’s too young to even plan ahead. So you are too young to know anything about love but are old enough to have an affair with a married guy while you were living with your long-term boyfriend. And you have no regrets because your actions came from a genuine place? Selfish, immature and still buying into her own BS. They describe her as something out of an Avril Lavigne video – not really a compliment. The entire article is self-serving with a side dish of rewriting history as if the general public won’t remember the way it all went down. No maturity or growth at all and she is possibly worse off now than before. I may have quoted some of this wrong but I can’t be bothered to read the article twice. She has a lot of growing up to do. And with her acting skills and lack of charm, people will eventually stop caring. Or maybe not as her fans are pretty die-hard. Time will tell. And I do think she may be setting the stage for a little coming out. Carry on!

    • Div says:

      I’m not a fan of ms. white bread, but I don’t get the overreaction some people have with her. She’s said several times in interviews that she has made mistakes including this one, do you really expect her to give some long explanation two years later? I also agree with people that not every comment has anything to do with rob and mini cooper gate…came across like she was talking about her sexual orientation and acting over school.

      • Starbuck says:

        I don’t expect her to give an explanation. But I do expect a person who made the monumental public mistake she made, which hurt and humiliated a person who was the very least her friend and played a part in breaking up a marriage, to at least be accountable and acknowledge that they’ve learned from them. Please spare me the part about her not breaking any vows, etc. Instead she baits people to judge away because every mistake she’s made came from a genuine place. What does that even mean? Her history is very public yet this article states facts wrong and paints a picture that isn’t really true – more fakery from a person who claims to be genuine. Everyone in her occupation is going to be judged harshly, it’s part of it. She wants to be A-list, she wouldn’t be signing hash fashion contracts and still striving to be a part of another franchise if she wasn’t. This chick is a complete head case who actually is probably is the perfect occupation because Hollywood is full of them. I’m actually embarrassed for her after reading it.

  36. Meg says:

    i think this is bull shit, you can talk yourself out of feelings to an off limit person. i’ve met assholes that for some reason i get nervous around. bad news to get involved with a guy like that. i see girls marry guys they had flings with, very charming, tons of fun, but not someone to share your life with. don’t turn your drinking buddy whose the life of the party into your husband.

  37. Div says:

    I agree with the posters that is sounds like she may be referencing sexual orientation. I think she’s bi and is talking about it in broad terms. l also agree that it’s been two years since her Mini Cooper, that she’s said several times in interviews that she’s made mistakes including this one and I think that’s all she’s ever going to say. I’m honestly getting bored with trying to read Rob or Mini Cooper things into her words because I don’t see it at all, she hasn’t said anything and why would she after all this time?

    I wonder what the Twi-Hards are going to do when she comes out? She has bucket loads of money though, so I doubt she cares.

  38. hownowbrowncow says:

    Hollywood is great. It can make someone with no acting ability, average looks, a wooden stare, and a sh*t personality into a total superstar.

  39. Ellie says:

    I think people really need to stop assuming that everything she says somehow relates back to Rob Pattinson or to Sanders. This probably goes for all celebs, but it’s bizarre that everything she says is scrutinized with a fine-tooth comb. Most likely she was speaking in general terms about love when prompted by the interviewer. As she’s such a private person, I doubt she was having an intimate conversation about her messy romantic life or about her sexual orientation. That being said, I agree with several others that she should probably stop discussing romance for this reason. As for people thinking she hasn’t learned from her actions, she has alluded (including here) to mistakes she’s made several times.

    I think she seems to be one of the more normal, down-to-earth people in Hollywood. She says in this interview that she knows she’s awkward and has difficulty with the spotlight, and I really think that’s what the issue is. She wasn’t fit to front the craziness that was Twilight (and no one knew how big Twilight would be when it was first made). But now that it’s over, she has been returning to her indie roots, where she seems most comfortable, especially when given good material. She got a lot of very high praise for her performance in Camp X-Ray at Sundance, even if the movie itself received mixed reviews. And her next film is looking like a strong possibility for Cannes. She’s been working a lot and has 3 films lined up to shoot over the next 6 months. I think these are going to be a test to see where she’ll wind up now that her franchise is over.

  40. daisy says:

    But you kind of do control who you fall in love with because you don’t open your heart to someone who is unavailable. I’m so tired of people using this excuse for cheating. It’s not okay. Like “The marriage must have already been broken… blah blah blah.”

  41. Alexis says:

    Sounds to me like she is talking about her sexuality and obliquely suggesting what many of us suspected: she is bi or gay. Isn’t she dating a girl now? I think I remember seeing her pap’d on what looked like a date with a girl with a similar style to herself.

  42. Lara Morgana says:

    Poor girl. No matter what she does or says she’s going to be criticized.