Lea Michele started drinking wine with her dinner as a toddler: ‘I’m Italian’

Lea Michele

Lea Michele has a new book, Brunette Ambition, to promote. The publisher describes the book as “the book Lea wishes she’d had in her teens and early twenties: A practical and inspirational guide to harnessing tenacity and passion and living the fullest life, no matter what obstacles life puts in your way.” Lea talks about her time on Broadway, her life in Hollywood, and practical stuff like diet and exercise. She appeared on Chelsea Lately, so of course the discussion wasn’t wholesome. Lea admits that she grew up drinking wine on a regular basis — since she was a toddler. She explains that growing up Italian meant that wine was always on the dinner table. Her parents allowed her to freely indulge, and Lea sees no problem with that:

Alcohol as a toddler “I’m Italian, so at the dinner table it would be like Pellegrino, a jug of soda and a huge thing of wine. Everyone was just drinking wine, like it was part of what you would have along with your dinner.”

The situation grew awkward:“Growing up, I’d be having dinner with my boyfriend and his parents and I’d be like, ‘Where’s the wine? Pass the wine.’ At like 17! And they’re like, ‘This girl’s crazy.'”

She hardly drinks as an adult: “When they make it so you can have it, then you don’t want it. It’s when they’re like, ‘You can’t have this,’ kids are like, ‘We gotta get that booze.'”

[From Chelsea Lately on E!]

I get what Lea’s saying. Her family is Italian, and it’s part of their culture to enjoy some wine with dinner. My grandma was Japanese, and she sometimes popped a little sake into my sister’s baby bottle to help her go to sleep. Now my sister doesn’t drink at all, which is doubly amusing because she’s a bartender. I’m not saying it’s harmless for children to drink. It’s obviously something that should be done with supervision. My daughter’s never had a drop of alcohol, and I intend to keep it that way — until she’s 47 years old.

Lea Michele

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  1. Abbott says:

    “living the fullest life, no matter what obstacles life puts in your way.”

    And by “obstacles” she means “Naya Rivera.”

  2. MCraw says:

    I like that approach to drankin!

  3. Amelia says:

    I don’t think it’s a problem, really. It’s a catchy headline, but it’s not like she was getting hammered. Maybe it’s just my experience, but restricting things and putting a black line over certain foods/booze, etc often comes back to bite you on the butt.
    My family is Scandinavian & French, so as a four year old, when I asked what the red stuff everyone was drinking with lunch was, my godfather passed me a little thimble full of Merlot. Which I promptly threw away after my first sip.
    And now I’m the driest of all my friends! 🙂

    • SpookySpooks says:

      I agree. Family meals don’t go without wine here, and when I was a kid my dad let me take a sip ocasionally.
      I don’t drink at all now, funily enough.

      Also, for my 16th birthday, my parents bought the alcohol for us. Beer and wine, not spirits. They monitored everything and drove everyone home.
      The 21 drinking age seems quite strange.

  4. OlyB says:

    This actress has the weirdest PR strategy. Between trying to pretend she doesn’t have a demanding attitude and pretending she’s been boozing since preschool (as one does when chatting with Handler, but still) I’m not sure who she’s trying to appeal to. Alcoholic middle schoolers who want Streisands career and are terrified of appearing proud of their singing ability?

  5. aims says:

    I think the drinking laws are kinda weird in the US. I got married at 19, was pregnant by 20, voted at 18, but couldn’t order wine with dinner until i was 21. Seemed silly.

  6. Eleonor says:

    I don’t see anything strange here, when you’re a child wine taste is awful !
    I remember I’ve tried t drink that red stuff in my father glass and it was disgusting. Btw what she is saying it’s true, it’s a real Italian (and French) attitude to have a bottle of wine on the table during lunch or dinner.
    And drinking while eating is the best way to enjoy wine without getting too drunk.

  7. Val says:

    In many European countries it’s totally fine to have a bit of wine/alcohol, even as a child. Usually you’d only get a tiny bit to taste (I think as a child wine doesn’t taste that great anyway?). I got my first taste of alcohol as a 2 year old, lol, and I really liked it. And at 26 I drink so rarely these days, and even back at Uni I wasn’t big on getting trashed at parties,… I was also allowed to try cigarettes as a teenager, and I’ve never become a smoker. This is all anecdotal, but I do think forbidding things can encourage a teenager to do those precise things as a sign of rebellion….

    • LadyMTL says:

      Yep, I remember having some arrack (Arabic liquor that tastes like black licorice and is gross) when I was really young. Yes, it was watered down and such but it wasn’t like “Oh my gawd the child is drinking alcohol!” I don’t drink much now, whether or not that’s related I’ll leave to others to discuss. 😛

  8. Noel says:

    WHO WOULD READ A BOOK BY THIS HARPY?

  9. LIttleDeadGirl says:

    I agree with her sentiment. Grew up in a Romanian family and wine was always available. My friends would come over when I was in highschool and were shocked that our booze wasn’t locked up. I didn’t even like the taste. Now I maybe have a glass or two of wine a week. To each his own but in my experience the kids that got held in the tightest possible choke holds the moment they got loose they did anything and everything (sex drugs and rock&roll). You need to teach kids responsibility not tether them to your apron till they are 18 and let em loose. Won’t end well.

    • Lorelei says:

      +1
      It”s nice to see another Romanian here 🙂

      • kri says:

        @Lorelei May I just say that Romanian accents are enchanting. You could read me the phone book and I would just be happy. As far as wine..well, my parents didn’t drink much at all, my mother rarely. My dad would have beer, or once in awhile they would have a whiskey/soda. I think I was 12 when I asked to taste it, and my mother said no. But my dad said yes, so I did. He thought it was hilarious when I spit it right back out. Didn’t bother with drinking again til college. In my old age now, I have a vodka& soda every night. Purely medicinal. Wine with dinner or snacks-purely pleasure!!

  10. Patricia says:

    Drinking/sampling wine when you are little doesn’t always lead to the ability to control your drinking. My cousin was allowed to drink wine when she was little, similar to what Leah is describing here. She’s now a terrible alcoholic who starts her day with a glass of wine and just goes from there, is drunk by early afternoon and passes out I a. Stupid every night. Not ready to accept help.
    Am I saying she wouldn’t be an alcoholic if she wasn’t allowed wine as a child? No, I’m saying I don’t know what affect it had on her alcoholism and now her parents have to live with knowing that they allowed her to drink as a child and now she has this terrible disease.

    • Antonym says:

      I think this is an important perspective. Sometimes we focus on the “well I did it and I’m fine” stories when really there is so much more at play in determining what our adult relationship with alcohol and other substances will be.

      Also, to counter the stories that this (Lea’s experience) is the way to do it and restricting causes children to go wild later – not only did my parents not allow me to drink as a child, but the made the decision that they would not drink around us or have alcohol in the house when we were kids. Four kids, one doesn’t drink at all and three only in occasion. None of us get sloppy.

      Just saying There are many ways to approach this as a parent, and one way is not inherently better than another.

    • lana86 says:

      I guess it’s totally uncool to give alcohol/or any other mind-altering substances to a child. I’m glad that she turned out fine, maybe she has a lot of self restrain or no genetic tendency to addiction.

  11. birdie says:

    In Germany you can legally drink beer at 16. Hard liquor at 18. I find the american drinking laws very weird, especially when you look at all the men and women going to war, who are not allowed to drink a cold beer.

  12. HH says:

    “the book Lea wishes she’d had in her teens and early twenties…”

    Maybe it’s because my teens weren’t particular angst-y and I never identified with any of the typical coming of age stories, but this just sounds so stupid. Your teens? Life advice for teens? I’ve got some advice for teens out there: Until you’ve got bills to pay, just enjoy life.

    • Damaris says:

      What’s bizarre about life advice for teenagers? I’m really done with the idea that teenagers have small problems in comparison to paying bills. Everyone can use a self-help book once in a while.

    • Kenny Boy says:

      Being a teenager suuuuuuuuuucks for a lot of people. Hormones do a real number on you.

  13. mkyarwood says:

    She’s sort of right, but the kids’ wine is usually 1/3 water. If hers was straight booze, well, that would explain some things.

  14. serena says:

    Just because there is wine on the table doesn’t mean parents will let their children drink the full bottle but just a little sip.. That’s right in Italy it’s normal and I don’t see anything wrong with that.

  15. Aysla says:

    Similar upbringing. There was no pearl-clutching with regards to alcohol at our house; if we were curious about it we were allowed to indulge, and occasionally served alcohol even when we weren’t curious about it (both to remove the idea that it was some forbidden fruit, and to cultivate our tastes/palettes I assume). Now I’m 27 and rarely drink (and if I do, never to excess). This applies to all my family members, actually.

    When I have kids, I intend to parent my kids in the same way. It also helps that no one in my family has an addictive personality, except maybe to sweets…

  16. Patty Cake says:

    I wouldn’t allow my nieces and nephew to drink alcohol of any kind whether I’m at the dinner table with them or whether we’re somewhere else. I wouldn’t allow the alcohol. Their mother had a serious alcohol and drug addiction. Alcoholism runs in the family. Yes, I can have an occasional drink, but I’m not an alcoholic. I guess I never got the gene. I wouldn’t look down on other countries that allow their kids to drink wine, but I think it should be acknowledged that just because you’re allowed to drink as a kid does not mean you won’t become an alcoholic as an adult.

  17. TrixC says:

    I find it strange how Americans will say “I’m Italian” when what they mean it that their ancestors came from that country. Lea is American, surely. Are her parents even from Italy?

    • ramona says:

      Thank you, TrixC. Thank you.

      This is one of my biggest pet peeves. “American of Italian descent”, yes. “Italian”, no.

      This is especially irritating when the person in question has never even been to their supposed motherland, does not speak the language, and has no real knowledge of the country.

      I could go on about this for hours, making myself sound like an utter pr*ck, and earning myself dozens of responses saying as much, but I am going to quit before I sound like even more of a jerk than I actually am.

      For the record, I am both British and American. Currently residing in the UK.

  18. Marianne says:

    Growing up, we used to have a glass of wine on special occasions like Christmas or Thanksgiving. It was never more than a glass though.