Allison Tolman: ‘I feel like 60% of people become a**holes behind a keyboard’

We didn’t cover Allison Tolman during yesterday’s Golden Globes extravaganza, but here are some photos. Allison wore a sweeping black Gauri & Nainika gown (which I adore) to support Fargo. She was also nominated for best actress in a mini-series and looked genuinely bummed when she lost to Maggie Gyllenhaal. Allison did win a Critics Choice award last year, so she didn’t leave the series empty handed. It’s a bummer that she won’t return for the second season of Fargo, but the show is traveling back in time (and not for some American Horror Story-style switcheroo).

Ahead of the Globes, Allison did an interview with Time to talk about Fargo and her upcoming guest appearances on The Mindy Project and Archer. She’s a very perceptive actress and one who has encountered plenty of abuse on social media. Allison previously spoke out against body shaming, and she’s had experience dealing with that topic on her Twitter page. Here’s more on the subject:

On her increasing popularity: “I started getting Twitter followers after I started doing press for Fargo. One of my best friends from college is a librarian, and she started tracking after each interview how many Twitter followers I got. She and her librarian friends were like, ‘We’re going to make a graph.’ And I was like, ‘Alright, nerds.’ But apparently somewhere there is a graph showing when my popularity increased and why.”

On the following the social media response: “I did–to my own detriment in some cases. It was so new and so exciting that I wanted to know what everyone was saying. I read the Fargo hashtag and what people Tweeted at me and every article and every comment on every article. I really just ate it up. But I wasn’t prepared for hearing what everybody thought of me. I feel like 60% of people become a**holes as soon as they get behind a keyboard. So I had to learn not to read the comments because I’d inevitably come across something nasty somebody said about me, and it’s difficult not to let that be hurtful. So by the end of the show, I wasn’t reading as much as at the beginning because I got burned a few times.”

The journo says mean comments are “nonsensical”: “But then the problem is I want to say something back. I’m like, ‘You make it so easy. I’m so much smarter and funnier than you are, troll.’ But that doesn’t end up making you feel better. So that’s my problem, I read these things and could fall into a hole where I sass back every a**hole that I come across, but it would take up all my time and I’d rather be making television and movies.”

On diverse sizing in Hollywood: “I think The Mindy Project does a really good job showing a more diverse world where women are different shapes and different colors, and that looks more like a world I understand. I hate to always bring it back to weight, but that’s an issue that’s near and dear to me because that’s an issue I get picked on for all the time now that I’m on television. Any time I see an actress that’s over a certain size that we’re used to seeing on television, I think, wow not only is that really fantastic but unfortunately that means that somebody made a really brave choice by casting that woman in that role. I wish we didn’t live in a world where that was such a great thing. And these women on these television shows that are bigger than other actresses are like a size 8. It’s so absurd. But I appreciate it because I think that’s what we should be showing not just to our young women but also to our young men. Unfortunately how we shape our worldview is what we see in pop culture, so we need to be presenting a little more realistic view of how the world works so people don’t have such a hard go of it when they get into the real world.”

How to make a change: “I think more women, or at least more feminists both male and female, working in positions where they’re writing or producing or show-running would be helpful–people actively looking for these things. I think the only way to actually change the overall way we perceive things is to flood the market with as many diverse men and women as we possibly can. Then down the line you won’t be purposely saying, ‘Let’s make a brave choice here and cast a real woman.’ You won’t be thinking, ‘Let’s cast a Hispanic actor for this role,’ you’ll just be thinking, ‘That guy was great.'”

[From Time]

Allison makes some great points, of course. It sucks that we live in a world where it’s considered “brave” to allow a size 8 (or above) actress to grace television screens. All of this fuss, and the dudes are allowed to be schlubby. I always think back to when Leah Remini played the hot wife to Kevin James on The King of Queens. Very few people thought anything of that pairing because it’s so typical of Hollywood casting. The actress has to work hard to keep the weight off, and the dude can do whatever he wants. So ridiculous, and I’m glad some shows are changing the trend.

As for nasty comments online, that’s a tough subject and part of the nature of the internet. I always say that the internet amplifies both the good and bad aspects of humanity. It’s so common to run into abuse online, and Twitter doesn’t have much quality control. Remember that mess with Chrissy Teigen receiving death threats a few months ago? People freely let their inner douche fly under the veil of anonymity. It’s rough out there for civilians and amplified for celebrities. Allison realized it’s not worth it to argue with everyone online. Good for her! She’s talented and will go far in her career.

Allison Tolman

Photos courtesy of Getty & WENN

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  1. Esmom says:

    60%? I think she’s vastly underestimating (present company generally excluded of course). The comments in my city’s daily newspapers on just about any topic make me want to weep for humanity.

    And yes, it sucks that it’s considered brave to hire women who aren’t stick thin. And we wonder why so many ladies in Hollywood continue to shrink.

    • Kali says:

      I think this – ie body/”attractiveness” diversity- is where Brit tv (I can’t comment on European series as I don’t watch nearly enough foreign language series) has been caning American tv/Hollywood for years. It ends up making for far better tv as you have people who actually LOOK appropriate/”suitable” for the characters and situations they find themselves in, meaning you can actually focus much more on the story, rather than wonder how Kevin James etc. locked down Leah Remini etc.

      • Happyhat says:

        I was thinking this the other day, when watching the new advert for Broadchurch. Would Olivia Colman be allowed at all if this were a US show? (Would she have even been allowed if Peepshow was on US tv?)

        And something like Miranda? Hmmm, I’m not so sure… (cos Mindy still looks super glossy to me! Like…I still feel TV folk think “Be large if you must, but for god sake you should still wear makeup!”)

      • Kali says:

        @ Happyhat – Anna Gunn was cast in the Ellie Miller part in the U.S remake of “Broadchurch” so that answers that question re Olivia Coleman 😉

  2. Lindy79 says:

    Mindy Kaling addressed it well in a THR roundtable where she said people give her backhanded compliments about how refreshing it is that she’s on tv when she’s fat.

    If I was famous there is no way I would be on twitter/instagram/facebook

  3. Abbott says:

    I can be an a-hole without a keyboard, so jokes on you, Fargo lady.

  4. Kali says:

    My love for Alison Tolman is pretty much a raging inferno at this point. She is so bang on with every point in the excerpt above. To hear she’s guesting on “Archer” is the icing on the cake. I hope she’s careful because otherwise she’ll be in…. The danger zone….

    • Lucy2 says:

      Yes! I’m so glad she got a role on Archer. She was good on Mindy’s show and great on Fargo, so I hope she continues to get offers.

      • Kali says:

        If someone doesn’t cast her in a Oscarbatory family drama with Kate Walsh as feuding sisters, I just totally give up on casting directors in general.

    • Tiffany :) says:

      One of my college friends knows her and says she is a sweetheart! I love it when talented people are also kind.

  5. Janet says:

    Beautiful woman, beautiful dress. Abbott, you made me snort my coffee! too funny!

  6. Sadie says:

    I haven’t watched Fargo yet, so I don’t know much about her, but anybody who has librarian friends who make graphs for fun is someone I can get on board with!

  7. Samtha says:

    That dress is so gorgeous on her. Fits perfectly and is flattering. She looked great.

    • deehunny says:

      I was scrolling down to pass the important comments to comment on the fun but shallow- girl knows how to work a dress! She really looks fantastic in all 3 dresses. She’s got good taste. I really live the speckled dress and wish I could see the bottom in the pic.

  8. MonicaQ says:

    Penny Arcade said it best: Keyboard + Audience + Anonymity = Arsehole

  9. Jayna says:

    Only 60 percent? LOL

  10. delorb says:

    Some of the criticism was about her character. To dismiss everyone as body-shamers isn’t accurate. Yes, some assholes called her out for being fat, but those people were either ignored or told that she was probably a size 8 or 10 so shut up!

    There were serious issues with her character. Serious. She was supposed to be the person we all rooted for, instead, people started disliking her character. Nothing to do with being fat. The sheriff who dies in the first episode (ya’ll should have seen this episode by now, jeez), had more charisma. I found myself wishing he’d stayed around longer. He had charm, which her character lacked.

    I found her character unusually rude, by turns naive and knowing, green AND knowledgeable. Able to crack what was a very convoluted case, when she didn’t even know all the players. Cue the epic eye roll.

    Martin Freeman was excellent. A milquetoast, who grew some balls, sniveling and twitching the whole way. Someone evil, that I really wanted to get away with it. IMO, he’s the reason people think the show was great. Take him out and the show is just stupid scene after stupid scene.

  11. Crumpet says:

    I hate it when women preface an opinion with “I feel like..” Be strong! It ain’t about the feels!

    [Was that a-hole enough?]

    • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

      But if you don’t, you will be accused of the dreaded “speaking for everyone” or elicit my favorite question – oh, really? How would YOU know?

  12. Franny Days says:

    The reason I like this site so much is because the meanness here is very limited! Sometimes I disagree with commenters’ points, but most of the time the posters here are very sweet and logical :).

  13. GingerCrunch says:

    I was racking my brain wondering WHERE I knew her from! The “Hello Ladies” movie! Super-cute. But then again, every single thing about that series was a.dor.a.ble!!! She is very, very pretty. I’m loving these non-blonde beauties.

  14. Annie says:

    I feel like at least 60% of people are actual a@@holes all the time😝

  15. Yuck says:

    It is more like 95 percent. Keep crying cow.

  16. neha says:

    I feel like even The Mindy Project doesn’t really allow ALL women of different sizes. It’s just Mindy. All of her friends/ other girlfriends/nurses/receptionists have been skinny. That one that Allison Tolman guest-starred, she was instantly rejected by the guy because she wasn’t hot enough (presumably because of her size).