Benedict Cumberbatch & Sophie sent out their wedding invitations via email

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Sigh… I feel sorry for Benedict Cumberbatch. I really feel like everything got away from him. This should have been a great moment in his life: he earned his first Oscar nomination for a role he believes in passionately, he met a “nice girl” and got her knocked up, and he got engaged. But the suddenness of everything – all of this happened in the span of three or four months – plus the added pile-on of taking part in a Harvey Weinstein-level Oscar campaign, all of it has worn Bendy down. Maybe he’s really happy. Or maybe he’s just riding the wave with the idea that everything will get sorted out later. In any case, The Daily Mirror claims that Benedict and Sophie Hunter are bound and determined to get married before she pops out the Cumberbaby. It’s happening. SOON.

Benedict Cumberbatch plans to get Cumber-hitched in a hurry – before fiancée Sophie Hunter gives birth. The Sherlock star, 38, is in such a rush he emailed invitations instead of sending them by post – telling shocked pals the wedding would take place very soon.

Benedict, up for an Oscar for his role in The Imitation Game, wants to tie the knot after the Hollywood awards ceremony but before theatre director Sophie, 36, is due to have their first child in early summer.

A source close to the actor said: “The invitations have gone out already which is very quick. It’s shocked a few people but they want their special day to happen before they have the baby. The details have been sent out in an email rather than a paper invitation as time is of the essence.”

Only family and close pals are invited, and are sworn to secrecy on the location. The source added: “They’re planning the perfect day. Life couldn’t be much better for them at the moment.”

The pair rent a flat in the Venice Beach area of Los Angeles as Benedict’s Hollywood career takes off, but he was seen in Gloucestershire this week filming a one-off Sherlock special to be shown on Christmas or New Year’s Day. He announced their engagement in The Times in November, just five months after they were first seen together watching tennis at Wimbledon.

[From The Mirror]

They were seen together at the French Open, not Wimbledon. They were photographed in Paris, not London. As for the emailed invitations… ugh, it’s not ideal. My theory was that they would marry before the Oscars, maybe the weekend before the BAFTAs. But the Mirror says “after the Hollywood awards ceremony” which is about a month away. So… they’ll marry in early March, maybe? Sure. Whatever. Get it over with!

Meanwhile, Bendy has a new interview with People Magazine. It’s all about Sherlock and how he prepares to play his most celebrated role. Remember: The Batch is nominated for two SAG Awards tonight, one for The Imitation Game and one for Sherlock. He won the Emmy for Sherlock last year, and some people think he has a much better chance at the SAG for Sherlock tonight. Anyway, you can read the People piece here. I found it interesting, but there’s no stand-out quote. He does say that he tries to “exercise, and stay off the cigarettes, booze and caffeine when filming, so I’ve got this good, healthy oxygenated blood and can think fast.” God, how is he able to do all of this and be under all of this stress, all while trying to kick smoking? No wonder he seems particularly jumpy. His nerves must be frazzled.

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  1. GoodNamesAllTaken says:

    I hate the expression “pearl clutching,” but I’m pearl clutching at emailed wedding invitations. Sorry.

    • Lilacflowers says:

      It is rather tacky and just is not done. Seriously, they aren’t poor and how long does it take to mail a letter in England?

    • Okie says:

      Is it possible that the “email invitations” are really more of the “save the date” variety? Celebrities live in a different world, with all sorts of privacy issues and I wouldn’t be surprised if there was an attempt to tell the family and friends, “we’re getting married X; more details to follow.” Then when they show up to the location, they get a whole wedding bonanza. I feel like that’s how many celebrities have done it of late (Timberlake is the first to spring to mind, I think Blake Lively, too?). Since Cumberbatch announced his engagement in the Times, I think there’s still a traditional streak in him. Or maybe I’m just hoping that not all celebrities are trashy.

      • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

        That could be – just a save the date sort of thing. Ok, loosening grip on pearls. Lol

      • mimif says:

        *clutches Kahlua*

      • Luca76 says:

        Yup my thoughts as well but you know how these threads go

      • Coco says:

        Mr. Coco and I were just married in October and we sent emailed save the dates and mailed proper invites where people could RSVP by going to our website, where we had listed all the info our guests needed for our big weekend. It saved us a ton of money doing it this way but still appeased my old fashioned side by mailing at least the invite with all the pertinent info that people could hang on their fridge. The single invite (1 piece of nice, thick printed stock paper) plus stamps came out to $450 for 150 invitations. It would have been more than $2000 if we had done mailed save the dates plus the multi paged invites you get these days with invite, directions, RSVP response card/envelope and postage. We were able to get a higher end tier of food with the money we saved, which I’m sure the guests appreciated more than a ton of paper!

      • icerose says:

        I think the otter has the money to post his letters and lay on a good buffet

      • Alice says:

        Icerose. Don’t know about England, but in America isn’t it traditional for the bride’s family to pay for the wedding? Like that would happen in this case.

      • icerose says:

        @Alice yes but in some cases children now pay for their own dependent on finances. Sophie’s parents will have no problems. It will be interesting to see if they throw a huge society wedding or keep it small and intimate.

      • gg says:

        But she’s totally knocked up!!! Pearls are gonna be clenched anyway

    • Goats on the Roof says:

      How tacky. I’m going to cross my fingers and hope this isn’t true. Some things just shouldn’t be half-assed for any reason, and weddings are one of them. It’s not like he’s lacking the money to get proper invites drawn up!

    • Charlie says:

      In my country, sending invitations via regular mail is considered tacky too. You have to come in person ond bring the invitation with you.

      • Goats on the Roof says:

        I like that. It seems much more personal, and I would imagine it cuts down on the guest list, too. My friends and family are spread all over the U.S., though. It would get terribly expensive if I tried to do something like that.

      • moodgirl says:

        I was taught that invitations are to be hand delivered.

      • Janet says:

        Where are you? I never heard that. I always thought wedding invitations had to be mailed first-class. E-mailing invitations is a no-no. But hand-delivering? Unless you are inviting only a few people who live very near you, I don’t see how that’s feasible.

      • Charlie says:

        I live in Croatia. Where weddings are usually around 300 people, sometimes less, sometimes more. And you invite all of the people in person. It’s not practical, but it’s how it’s done.
        You can perhaps mail the invitations to people who live very far, but ina country the size od Croatia, nothing is really “very far”.

      • solanacaea (Nighty) says:

        In my country it’s also costumary to hand them out in person, though through regular mail can also happen…

      • Norman Bates' Mother says:

        It’s the same in my country (Poland). My aunt didn’t go to my cousin’s – her nephew’s/godson’s wedding, because he mailed her invitation through regular post. His wedding was to take place in Poland but he was living in the Netherlands and that’s why he was not able to invite her in person but she got all offended anyway.

      • Janet says:

        Hand-delivery might work in a small country like Croatia. But try that in the US where you might have to deliver invitations to New York, California, Florida, Texas and every place in between. You’d blow your entire wedding budget flying all over the country to deliver invitations.

      • itzblissy says:

        Yes my culture we do hand delivery or personal phone call if that person is too far. So when wedding time comes, the couple and parents spends all week calling up relatives that lives out of state, lol.

    • bettyrose says:

      Ugh at the marriage-industrial complex. Can’t two people get married without making everyone else rich? Invitations, flowers, dresses, caterers..sure Cumby can afford it but there’s something wrong with the whole culture that says a proper wedding should cost more than the down payment on a house. Good for them!

      • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

        I do agree with you in theory. And I think it’s crazy to spend more than you can afford. But invitations don’t have to be expensive – you could make them yourself if you wanted to. Email is just so impersonal. What social event is more personal than your wedding?

      • bettyrose says:

        Yeah, that’s a good point, and I like the idea of making your own invitations, but generationally I think some younger folks wouldn’t really be bothered by the email thing (in fact, the mobile generation considers email more formal than texting, so. .)

      • Diana says:

        Invitation can get really expensive. To save money, I hand-made mine, but it was time-consuming, soul-sucking mess. They came out great, but if I could have gotten away with e-mailing them — oh, bless, I SO would have.

        I’m thinking though maybe this is a save the date thing. I’ve gotten a lot of save the date e-mails from friends and fam, lately.

      • racer says:

        Agree. I’m Pagan and just dont see this sort of thing at a hand fasting. Its typically small at someone’s home outside and decorations are found in nature around us not purchased and even better is that you never see the typical white halter dress. Very refreshing indeed.

    • Amy says:

      hahahahaha that was my mom’s reaction when I told her I wanted to e-mail invitations if I ever got married. Less paper waste, being sustainable, and none of this business of picking font, type of paper, color, how thick the envelopes are or whatever. And it can probably be done for free.

      Mom was like, “But I’LL PAY for the invitations if it bothers you that much! You are sending out personalized invitations NOT mass e-mail ones! Not my daughter!”

      Which is fine but it’s going to become the new norm.

    • Rachel says:

      I guess I’m labeling myself as “tacky,” but I’ve already started to consider emailing invitations. But for me, it’s more about reducing the environmental impact of my wedding. I’ve also looked into compostable plates, cups, etc. That’s who we are as a couple. We recycle, we compost. And the people we would invite to our wedding know that about us, so I don’t think they’d be all gaspy.

      These people, however, are a very proper, announce our wedding in the paper couple, so in their case, I can see why people would be gaspy.

  2. lindy79 says:

    Gallons of salt needed here.
    Although i am thinking of Bride Wars when one of them types out a gibberish email to beat the other one to it.
    “This is nit spam. Plaza jne 6th”

    He “ain’t” attending the SAGs tonight despite being listed as a presenter. Odd, he’d have known Sherlock schedule well in advance

    Also there is definite bumpage in that brown leather dress which was back in early december? The pleats hide it but you can see the curve by her pelvis. No snark or judgement but she is 5 months now at least

  3. PunkyMomma says:

    It wouldn’t be a surprise if they married before the Academy Awards. I can’t fathom Sophie walking the Oscars’ red carpet as anyone other than Mrs. Cumberbatch.

  4. Kaley says:

    Wouldn’t a person rather get married after they had their baby so she could have a vary of choices of wedding dresses though? It’s 2015, who the hell cares if you have a child before you sign a stupid slip of paper..

    • Dońt kill me i'm french says:

      My now-husband and I never were interested by the marriage before that I was pregnant.When I became pregnant,it became HIS obsession.We are married when I was pregnant of 8 months

      • Dani says:

        I would kill my husband if he made me get married at eight months pregnant. Just thinking back to my pregnant self, I want to hurl at the thought. Rude.

    • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

      Why get married at all if you think it’s just a stupid slip of paper? There’s more to marriage than dress choices.

      • mimif says:

        I think what the OP was insinuating, is why rush to get married when you can’t drink copious amounts of bubbly at your wedding. That’s how I read it anyway.

      • Kiddo says:

        lol, mimif

      • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

        Did I over react? This pushed several buttons for me. Sorry Kaley.

        1. I know I will get blasted for this, but how about not having a baby until you’re in a committed relationship? I don’t care if you actually formally get married or not, and accidents happen, but this sort of got under my skin because my niece just had a baby and she and they guy are living together, but aren’t sure they want to permanently commit. What she doesn’t understand is that having a child with someone is about as permanent a tie as it gets.
        2. My other niece was engaged and got pregnant and they postponed the wedding so she can have all the bridesmaids and wear a big white dress. That’s what’s important to her. Not that they get married, but that she’s the center of attention for a day.
        3. My nieces are 21 and 23. They think this is perfectly normal because that’s all you see on TV. They are BOTH lovely young girls. They are BOTH too young to be married and too young to be parents. Neither of the girls or their partners have any kind of career. They have half-assed jobs they don’t like and no plans for their financial future.
        4. Both babies are beautiful, and I love them both. There’s a lot of family support and everything will be fine, but WHY? Why make it so hard on yourself? Neither girl even knows who she is yet, or what she wants to be. And now they are tied down for the rest of their lives at such a young age. And I really do blame it on our culture that says…hey…oops! Havin’ a baby, guess we’ll postpone the party…don’t know if I really love this guy or not, but now I can post weekly baby belly selfies on Facebook…cool!
        Ugh.

      • Alice says:

        No blasting. You’re absolutely right.

      • Lilacflowers says:

        @GNAT, good assessment of what happens far too frequently and I agree with every bit of what you say.

      • PunkyMomma says:

        Oh GoodNames – I couldn’t agree with you more. I see this happening in my family and it makes me even more crazy then I normally tend to be. One female family member waited until her toddler could be walked down the aisle as a flower girl – she had found a flower girl dress while she was expecting and postponed the wedding until the child could wear the dress. No other reason. And the marriage ended up lasting less than the pregnancy – they split after six months.

      • tsmiv2 says:

        Three cheers for GoodNamesAllTaken! I suspect Benedict would agree with you too, because he seems so embarrassed by this whole thing.

      • MaddieH says:

        The opposite is true – why NOT get married if you’re thinking it’s just a stupid slip of paper?

    • boredblond says:

      Because including a baby in your wedding is sooo kartrashian. If the biggest deal about marriage is who you’re wearing, well…

    • Flora says:

      A relative got married last week, whilst she was 7 months pregnant. She only got engaged in November, but she insisted on getting married before the baby was born, even if it meant a very small wedding that finished early in the evening. Very old-fashioned.

      Speaking of stingy wedding couples. I once received a wedding invite via Facebook. Needless to say I declined the invite altogether. If you want guests to travel abroad to attend your wedding, the least that you can do is send a proper wedding invite!

    • Muse says:

      Err…there’s only 27 Days until the Oscars…of course they aren’t gonna wait!! All that opportunity for photo ops and exclusives…is good for publicity!! This seems to be the only important thing at the moment. Which makes the whole thing sad. But at least they’ll have plenty of privacy after awards….hopefully.

  5. R southbound says:

    He was first seen with Sophie at the Hey festival in May last year so please get your facts straight. So going out before then we can only presume as it’s not a type of first date stuff to do is it. So if April its 8 months till nov engagement not 3 or 4 months. The lack of research reflects on your ability to put together a decent article.

    • Sixer says:

      Don’t diss the researchers! It’s a space-time continuum thing. Hard to get right. It’s a (rabbit) in the headlights while travelling at a (romantic) speed of light conundrum.

    • Toodles45 says:

      Yes, I agree with this rationale. Just because we saw them together in May, doesn’t mean they started dating in May. The very last article that stated he was single was in March, but it’s possible he could’ve been casually seeing her then too as he was doing a lot of traveling between NY last year.

      • Kat says:

        There’s no way he was dating her any earlier than late may. He was literally travelling around all over the place with Oz con, Malaysia, Germany, poland and before that in LA with and nyc on hols with tertius, where she definitely wasn’t in any photos. He was seen with alice Eve a few times as she was there filming the new chris Evans film.
        SH moved back to London mid May it would seem, then made an appearance at hay.

    • Zapp Brannigan says:

      And he was also seen strutting around Monaco with Lady Kinvara Balfour last May too. So who knows what he started and when.

      Give Kaiser a break, comet watching “ain’t” easy.

    • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

      Your comment reflects your lack of ability to put a sentence together, so maybe you should just try not being so nasty.

      • reba says:

        @ Zapp – “comet watching “ain’t” easy”
        @ GNAT – “Your comment reflects your lack of ability to put a sentence together”
        ROFLMFAO
        Usually these Cumberbatch threads are hard to follow but I keep reading. You guys are just too good!
        Also GNAT nice comment above about your nieces, well put.

    • moodgirl says:

      So are we to assume they started screwing right away?

      • Janet says:

        Whether they did or not is their business, isn’t it?

      • mimif says:

        Newsflash! English folk don’t screw, they copulate. (Sorry, Sixer)

      • moodgirl says:

        Unfortunately they chose to make it everyone’s business.

      • Sixer says:

        I’ll have you know that we shag. Harumph.

      • Muse says:

        yep. They were definitely screwing the moment they laid eyes on one another because hornybatch was out of control during the first half of the year… I mean just look back on eggsy and there are numerous number of mystery women he was spotted with all over the world….!!
        Also weren’t they first spotted on a theatre date the night before Hay?

      • moodgirl says:

        Is that the theatre date where they were spotted outside the building looking miserable? By all accounts, there has never been an instance where they looked even remotely tolerant of each other, don’t even mention happy. If he has ALWAY looked miserable with her, how did we get from there to here? Didn’t want to leave a random woman unscrewed? I for the life of me can’t imagine him marrying her.

      • Claire says:

        Moodgirl you hit so many nails on many heads right there. But quick correction pretty sure the dm commenter who saw them looking miserable outside the theatre was a few weeks prior to the times announcement as the dm theread was the engagement one

    • Miss Melissa says:

      April to November is 7 months, not 8… if we are in the business of pointing out inaccuracies.

      No one knows if they were dating before the Hay Festival, so why state April as fact?

  6. RedWeatherTiger says:

    Every time I see her, I hear Elaine Benes’ voice saying, “My, she’s a HANDSOME woman.”

  7. InvaderTak says:

    That’s just plain tacky. (If true. I mean, this is the daily fail) Especially when proper invitations are not out of their means. They don’t take that long to send out and get RSVP’d. You could send a paper invitation and have people RSVP on a website. Not ideal, but at least they got a real invite.

    • moodgirl says:

      They still think they’re fooling people. He knocked up a woman he barely knows and obviously was extremely unhappy about it. He is embarrassed. She is too low class and stupid to be embarrassed, which proves to me money and status can’t buy true class. Just go to the Justice of the Peace and get it over with. It’s a shotgun wedding, stop trying to put it in the society pages.

      • Diana says:

        That’s really mean-spirited and cynical. Also, I feel like none of us know either of them*, so it’s completely inappropriate to act like we “know” what their relationship is and what they may be feeling, emotionally. There’s no need for name-calling.

        *Re-blogging his photos on Tumblr doesn’t count as “knowing” him, fyi.

      • moodgirl says:

        I’m not name calling and I don’t have to know them to observe their behavior. If these two lived in public housing my response would be the same . Stop sugar coating things and pretending to be something they are not. And yes, SH should stop the goofy, immature behavior and act like an adult. So far she has fallen short.

    • future says:

      Proper invitations are out of her means not out of his. She is still marrying him, he might not still be marrying her. E mail invitations are as tacky as she seems to be.

    • Seriously serious says:

      Hand made deckle edge paper.
      Tasteful delicate gold rim.
      Bespoke design and print.
      At least the names: fountain pen hand write not printed.

  8. Kiddo says:

    I received my invite and I’m taking SIxer as a guest.

    • Sixer says:

      Awww. Thanks. You didn’t tell me that you have that newfangled interplanetary email beta. Send me an invite for that, too?

      Is the dress code what I thought? (Floral, galactic or wreck of the Hesperus).

    • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

      🙁

      • Kiddo says:

        Uh-oh. Kahlua, anyone?

      • **sighs** says:

        Ha! I’ll take you as my +1 gnat. We can have a whole host of Comet Sophies and calamari at the reception. It’ll be a hoot!

      • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

        Thank you, **sighs** I accept your invitation. And if Kiddo asks me to dance, I shall refuse.

      • Sixer says:

        But GNAT. What if she asks you to TIME WARP with her? How could you say no?

      • Kiddo says:

        Really, come on GNAT, It’s just a jump to the left…And then a step to the right.

      • **sighs** says:

        Maybe we should choreograph an avant garde octopi dance in lieu of the traditional chicken dance? That could be our present, as I seem to be all out of ceramic cockatoos.

      • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

        Oh, ok. But you have never seen me dance, so you might be sorry.

      • Lilacflowers says:

        I will only Time Warp with Tim Curry. Standards and all that.

      • icerose says:

        I hate to tell you guys but my invitation said black tie with bumps only and included instructions for a new dance called BUMP 2 which includes
        “You put you front bump out.
        You put you front bump out
        In out in out
        Shake it all about
        You do the Weinstein two step
        And you turn your self around
        And that’s what it’s all about

      • mimif says:

        FINALLY, a voice of reason. *steals dance moves from icerose*

    • Lilacflowers says:

      *takes away Comet Sophie mix and absinthe*, I feel so rejected.

      • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

        Please join **sighs** and me at the fun table.

      • Lilacflowers says:

        Thank you, GoodNamesAllTaken. I will gladly join you. Here’s the gift card to accompany the ceramic cockatoos.

      • Lilacflowers says:

        @Kiddo, precious! I also nearly choked on my own tongue, I was laughing so hard.

      • PunkyMomma says:

        Kiddo – that link made my day. 💋

      • mimif says:

        Lol Kido

        (GutenNamen, you should totally incorporate your 5th level, mimosa inspired, dentist biting, bed kicking, tantrum throwing into a fabulous dance right in front of Kiddo’s & Sixer’s table. In fact, I formally request that you let me help you choreograph it. *clutches kahlua*)

      • Sixer says:

        Kiddo and I are doing a celestial conga. Never before seen. Ner.

      • Kiddo says:

        Belligerent-Drunkingly-stumbling is not a dance move. Unless, of course, you add a fake baby and a high powered riffle.

      • Lilacflowers says:

        @Kiddo, we can deliver on the fake baby, high powered rifle and I’m throwing Tom Brady’s balls and “thunder snow” into the mix, because nothing is more exciting than thunder snow.

      • mimif says:

        A riffle? Is that like a fancy name for a potato launcher?

        AND WE WILL MAKE IT A DANCE MOVE. Just you wait.

      • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

        Wow, mimif…maybe I CAN dance!

      • mimif says:

        I believe in you, GutenNamen.

      • Kiddo says:

        mimif, Belligerent-Drunkingly-stumbling is a Palin family reunion. Get your facts straight mimif. And yes, potato launcher and Eastwood-dancing-around-FACTS-move. Very popular and controversial.

        BTW, Where, oh where, is Taterho?

      • mimif says:

        I’ve met that cretin, and her belligerent-drunkingly-stumbling-family-reunions are no match for our graceful whimsy of inter celestial celebration, so no.more.shaming!

        I don’t know about the Tuberu, I’ve been wondering that myself. Perhaps we should ✨summon✨ her.

        ETA: I just got a warning that I was posting too fast, and to slow down. Bye.

      • Kiddo says:

        mimif, Sixer and I just broke space/time continuum with our celestial conga, sorry to make you move so fast. It’s space-stuff consequences.
        You met the salad shooter? Do tell, a wig convention, hair frosting seminar, running-for-president-for-income pyramid scheme?

        @Lilacflowers, “I’m throwing Tom Brady’s balls”…into the mix” Did you buy him a tunic? Heart shaped or circle?

        🔮COME LITTLE TATERHO… REVEAL YOURSELF🍠

      • mimif says:

        Damnit! +1👶 for use of sweet potato emoji (that I never knew existed).

        💁#wordsaladtosser

    • Lilacflowers says:

      I do hope the wedding isn’t this week as I am about to be buried under a mountain of thundersnow or something that is being billed as “epic”, “historical”, and “destructive”, even though a single flake has yet to fall. I do love “thunder snow.”

      • mimif says:

        Thunder Snow? Sounds like a demigod and please please tell me he’s wearing a peek-a-peen tunic!

        Holy sh-t, Tom Brady is Thunder Snow!

      • Lilacflowers says:

        Thunder Snow is awesome! Everyone must run outside in “peek-a-peens” and flail about making snow angels and saving parking spaces with old lawn furniture and whatever else you have handy (a Boston tradition; read about it here http://www.boston.com/cars/news-and-reviews/2015/01/22/boston-space-saving-tradition-explained/DVrAKS9BJGBk3QCHgx12FK/story.html ) all while chanting: “What the hell was that?” each time the thunder rumbles. Sadly, Tom and the rest of the team flew to Arizona already, so we’ll just have to press Captain America into action.

      • **sighs** says:

        Has it started snowing on you yet, Lilac? In my part of the country it’s only snowed twice in 30 years, so…..

      • MtnRunner says:

        I know of families that are taking bets on the amount of snow y’all are getting with that nor’easter tomorrow. I miss those days of worrying about storms that never seemed to materialize, running out of places to put all the snow, week after week and finding all the milk and bread sold out in stores. The week we moved in Feb 2011, we had six straight weeks of storms and snow was piled taller than the snowblower could throw it at the end.

        Despite getting daily thunderstorms during monsoon season, I have never seen thundersnow since movie west. Harrumph.

    • MtnRunner says:

      Thank you ladies, for providing a bit of the old-time humor (albeit less racey, without j.eyre, Fanty and Eve). I needed the laugh.

  9. Lilacflowers says:

    Why is time so of the essence? Will her comet explode if she isn’t married by a particular date? Does he lose his trust fund money if he doesn’t produce a legitimate male heir by a certain day?

  10. InvaderTak says:

    Didn’t see this the first go round but I think its interesting that this article also has them in LA. Is he really going that Hollywood? Especially after having a baby? That’s really disappointing if true.

    • Toodles45 says:

      Highly doubt it. they’re just piggybacking on that other article with the tacky house.

    • Leo says:

      I’m could almost believe anything about BC expect him living in LA. In recent months he repeated in every interview that he lives in London. Just last week on Tavis he mentioned twice how he’s in LA only for one day and than goes straight home/that he lives in Hampstead.

      BTW, just clicked on the real estate link to the tacky house. It’s still for sale, just like it has been for months on end. Pure clickbait.

      • gg says:

        Yeah but did you know that Calif. has that law about paparazzi photos of kids? If he moves to L.A. I am guessing it will be because of that.

    • Alice says:

      I think they just pulled crap from here, there and everywhere. He rented a place in VB while making STID. They were at a tennis match, but not Wimbledon. Probably Sophie’s informants don’t know much about Ben, so they have to make up stuff when they call the papers.

  11. Jade says:

    Does anyone else see him and Neil Patrick Harris as Beavis and Butthead?

  12. Felice says:

    Crock.

  13. Hollz says:

    Maybe he sent out save the dates via email, and actual invites will follow? That seems reasonable in this day and age of technology.

  14. P says:

    A lot of people (stars included!) are turning to paperless invitations. It’s not as uncommon as someone might think.

    • Natasha says:

      Prob a silly point, but there has been NO mention of BC NOT coming to the SAGS on any gossip/Hollywood site in US. Fan blogs picked up on the one tweet everyone seems to be referencing. Actually, on line anyway, including SAG site, they are still posting his pic along with presenter lists, although his name is NOT on all the lists?? Possibly don’t want the nannies to stay away? Ratings consideration? Whatever….if they are both just attending the Oscars she can just ask them to enlarge the size of the pockets….I need my coffee…..

  15. MtnRunner says:

    Lets consider the source and admit that key items are implausible. Emailed invitations after a traditional Times announcement? Baby due in early summer when she looks at least 5 months along in early January? Living in LA after everything he said about staying in London? Do you really think he’d move his kid that far away from both sets of grandparents?

    The fact that they got the sporting event wrong tells me they just cobbled together a nice dish for click bait. Not buying it.

    • Alice says:

      I think the early summer is to make it seem like she got pg after the engagement, then when it arrives in April or early May, oh dear, a preemie.

      Sorry, won’t wash. Except with the nannies.

    • icerose says:

      all I have to say is triplets

      • Alice says:

        Well, he’d get the large family he wanted and wouldn’t have to bang her again for it.

      • icerose says:

        to true Alice

      • moodgirl says:

        Since he probably hasn’t banged her since the pregnancy came about, he will be grateful for that.

      • lola says:

        I still firmly believe he hasn’t banged her ever and if she is pregnant it’s not his.

        The only other explanation would be: he did bang her, he got penis frostbite and he’s been depressed because of it since. And no, still not his baby if it exists.

  16. The Original Mia says:

    To keep things private, he might have gone the email route. No big deal. I’m not going to their wedding and it’s better for the environment. Emily Post might disagree, but I’m not too pressed about it.

    I’m sure he’s exhausted by everything he’s going through. Awards season plus Sherlock filming plus prepping for his play plus his personal life. If he wasn’t exhausted, I’d suspect he was taking drugs or mainlining Red Bull to keep upright.

    • Kat says:

      I’m not sure how emails would ensure things were kept private. And privacy doesn’t seem to have been a number one priority up to now either.

      • The Original Mia says:

        Just my opinion, Kat. But seeing as we haven’t seen the invite as we did with Kim K’s, I’d say they kept it private. And I know your opinion on his engagement as you’ve made it clear in every post.

      • Kat says:

        Nobody knows if these invites actually exist yet, and in terms of privacy I was talking about what has occurred up to now. And no, that hasn’t been kept remotely private.

        I know It’s your opinion. And I should be allowed to reasonably and politely respond to it without you making a dig at me for contributing to every thread. Which, incidentally, is what the majority of the posters on here have done.

    • Felice says:

      But emails can be forwarded and accounts can be hacked. The invite would’ve been leaked by now.

    • Muse says:

      That sounds like a good idea, especially since ‘parcelgate’, email would be the way to go for frugalbatch. Sophie must have blown his credit card already, what with all of her family and friends from all over the world invited, not to mention the Valentino flowergirl dress, it’s no wonder he’s so pissed. – It could be why they’re not attending SAG…coz she didn’t get her red carpet dress allowance!

  17. boredblond says:

    My theory: they were married last week and these emails are just a sham..I would so luv that..

  18. Stef Leppard says:

    That leather dress is next-level fug.

  19. Ally8 says:

    There are people here more familiar with the bio than me… isn’t he weirdly recreating his parents’ march up the aisle? (“She met actor Timothy Carlton (Cumberbatch) around this time — they worked together on the series “A Family at War” — and they wed in 1976. She gave birth to her now-famous son that same year.”)

    • Alice says:

      His parents were in love and together for YEARS before Wanda got pregnant, not a few weeks of what seemed to be a very casual relationship.

    • Kat says:

      Nope. As Alice said, they were together for years before marriage. The only reason they waited was due to her finding the divorce painful and needing time to detach from it.
      BC said himself they were trying for a baby for a long time; the wedding wasn’t due to the pregnancy.

  20. ANON says:

    There’s nothing like a 3 month engagement to dispell those ‘shotgun’ whispers 😉

    • moodgirl says:

      I’m confused: If BC’s feelings weren’t deep enough to marry SH when she first thought she was pregnant – or before, if you want to get technical – and instead waited weeks to make sure things would work out, why marry her now? I know that he wants to maintain his reputation (that ship has sort of sailed) but I assume that if the pregnancy didn’t work out they would have gone their separate ways and she would have been one of the many women he had encountered. I can’t see him continuing the relationship because she was either sloppy with her birth control or was “actively trying to move the relationship along” and he would get the heck out of there.

      So, why marry a person that you barely know, obviously dislike and who more than likely take half your crap? You never learn to love someone, especially if you were never that fond of them, unless we missed something. He can’t be that old school and he can’t be that stupid. I don’t get it.

      • Nayru says:

        I agree. Let’s assume that he really does like her and things just happened really fast. Even in that situation the stress of fame and having a baby while trying to grow towards love with someone is far more likely to end in disaster as it does for most people. I think there are enough single parent household, and divorces to say that rushing marriage and baby for even people in love frequently does not last.

      • moodgirl says:

        If he really liked her and things moved fast would we see the massive animosity displayed from both parties at the beginning of this saga? They could barely contain themselves. Maybe Sophie really fell hard for him but he didn’t feel the same? She helped herself out and he was angry? He feels tricked and worries how this will effect his career? He stills looks disinterested in recent pictures – airports – so I can’t see the love. She, however, looks ecstatic.

      • anon121 says:

        My theory is that he got the “happy” news around GQ awards-you know-the one he got drunk at. Then waited until it was clear that Sophie wasn’t going to miscarry (or it was his). I thought initially that he didn’t want to be seen with her til then which seemed odd given that he had no problem being seen with previous gf’s. I’m wondering now if that wasn’t Sophie’s choice, which could account for the weirdness that was LFF. Could have been used as leverage for a ring. No matter what else, Ben has a child coming and I’m sure he would do anything to keep that child in his life, something that may not have been an option if he didn’t marry her.

      • moodgirl says:

        I agree. I would think he could have that taken care of through the courts but doesn’t want the messiness. Even if he had shared custody, with his schedule, he wouldn’t have anyone to take care of the baby unless he hired a nanny. I say hire the nanny and take his chances.

  21. hmmm says:

    First they make a formal, traditional engagement announcement in The Times and then they send out wedding invitations by email? What’s wrong with this picture? So amazingly tacky. I don’t get what the plan is.

  22. Dana says:

    Forget the wedding, I’m already on divorce-watch.

    • moodgirl says:

      That, or I-have-changed-my-mind watch.

    • Nayru says:

      I have to admit I thought it was all PR, just too too stupid to be an accidental pregnancy. Well my boy Benny proved me wrong. Can I exchange my tickets for the conspiracy train for the break up train. I wasn’t that much of a fan of his before but now I’ve tread into dislike. I am a bit traditional. I just find it incredibly tacky to bring a child into a relationship that you just fell into and haven’t really commited to. Of course I don’t know his situation but it gives off a poor impression for me and I can’t help but be a bit judgy.

      • moodgirl says:

        I’ll exchange your ticket. We still offer free snacks and drinks. Used to be tea and soft drinks but after all this crap the really hard stuff is standard.

  23. Chantal says:

    No shade on SH, I think her and BC are well suited for each other. Someone must have told her that she is much prettier not showing her teeth when smiling. That is why she look likes she is smirking all the times. I know myself I look better a certain way.

    • moodgirl says:

      She smiles that way because she’s a smug jerk.

      • ANON says:

        Did you see the pictures at the Golden Globes where she is holding a napkin to her elbow and looking super angry with him as if he knocked her or spilled something on her?
        He looks like he’s laughing apologising for something.
        Sometimes I wonder whether she’s that into him. It’s the exact same face I used to give my ex when he was acting like a drunken idiot.

      • moodgirl says:

        I haven’t seen many photos from GG, will you point me to the direction please? I could use a good laugh.

    • Muse says:

      I think she’s perfect for him too since she’s the only one who seems to be able to put up with all this crap and his immaturity. Its not like anyone has stuck with him this long since OP and AJ – and there must be a reason for that…coz even with OP it was an on/off relationship.

  24. Majicou says:

    So Mr. Cumberbatch accidentally gets his friend pregnant, decides the honorable thing to do is to marry her. Oh wait, baby’s coming soon? Better hurry up that ceremony.

  25. **sighs** says:

    So apparently some people have twittered? Tweeted? Whatever. That he was just at an art gallery show at the Tate?
    What?
    Surely if he was dodging the SAG’s for work there would have been an statement since everyone would think nothing of that excuse.
    An art show?
    Has he gone insane?

    • lola says:

      Skanka’s become so important that she can replace him on the RC. I hope he just told every one who started the mess to f**k off – that’s including SH. It’d be quite late tbh.

      • Felice says:

        I will laugh so hard if she is there alone

      • lola says:

        @Felice There are two outcomes to that: we will never know or she is going to figure something out to humiliate him even further. (The later is the one I am betting on … this woman will not go away that easily).

      • Felice says:

        that’s so disappointing.

      • Claire says:

        I agree Lola. If she can throw a tantrum on a red carpet several months into a relationship, imagine how she’ll threaten to air all she sees wrong with him during divorce proceedings. I’ve always said his want of children and his frugality is going to do him in in this

    • Alice says:

      I’m thinking he wants to shuck the whole thing and go hide out – alone – for awhile.

    • lindy79 says:

      Maybe he was filming today and will be tomorrow so didnt make sense to fly to LA

    • Muse says:

      isn’t that right up her alley? Art shows. I’m sure she’d be there with him, especially if there are photographers around.

  26. Alice says:

    He’s apparently been spotted attending an art show, the last day of Late Turner, at least according to tweets posted on BTT. No mention of anyone with him, so far.

    • Alice says:

      You’re faster than I, sighs. IDK, maybe he was filming, got a few hours break and wanted to see the show before it packed up. There’ll be a lot of speculation.

      • anon121 says:

        Quick update. Over 1800 flights from the East Coast have been cancelled due to Winter storm Juno. Given time zone differences between West and East Coast I don’t think he would have made it out of the states ahead of the storm. Which would mean he wouldn’t be in London until probably Thursday. Would also explain the last minute decision. Not sure why the cancellation wasn’t announced along with the reason. PR dropped the ball on this.

      • **sighs** says:

        The US is a big country. A lot of which is not storming. He could get out of LA easily as long as he doesn’t go through the Northeast. And if it was filming or weather, why didn’t PR release a statement? Everyone would have just shrugged and understood. Even the E! People thought he was coming.

      • Kat says:

        Sighs,

        This is what I don’t get. The filming that’s happening today wouldn’t have been last minute. It’s location stuff that would’ve been scheduled for ages. And I also agree, why not tell Cweb that he can’t do it due to filming, as they’ve always done before? They seemingly didn’t give any reason at all.

      • **sighs** says:

        Why would you relay that info to a fansite, anyway?

      • alice says:

        I keep thinking of the guy who seemed to be on a rocket ship straight up, all those successful movies in 2013, his triumphs at the Met Gala and SDCC and now things seem to have imploded. It coincides with his relationship with SH, whether that is the root of the problem or not. But I just feel so bad for him. This awards season should have been as fun as last year’s except this time he would be in the thick of it instead of on the side. It’s just….I don’t know.

        I don’t know why the nannies and others who say he’s getting married, get over it, can’t see how unhappy he appears.

      • anon121 says:

        Alice-agree completely with your implosion post. You know what pics make me the saddest? Pic of him and Fassie dancing away after the GG last year vs him and Sophie’s dance at this year’s. What a difference a year makes.
        And is it only me, or does anyone else think that the rag articles are making him look even worse with every article? Almost like a huge deflation is happening. (I’m from Patriots territory and couldn’t resist!)

      • The Real says:

        Not to be a debbie downer. However, for once I can see things from the uber-fans point of view. I truly believe that Benedict is very much happy and that the changes we see do coincide with Sophie however are positive for him. IMO, Benedict is re-prioritizing his life: family, friends, work, then awards. He’s becoming more (consciously) serious as he has serious responsibilities approaching in his life, a new wife and a baby. What we’re viewing and what appears a complete 180 from his previous personality is a man that is trying to be more of “a man” (his concept) for his new family. Although I don’t believe he should rush into marriage, I think it speaks volumes that a man is willing to put his needs aside for another (his child, not Sophie specifically let’s be real) and try to offer some sort of familial stability for his child.

        I am 100% certain many will refute this claim stating he shilled out his private life, he will always be a work-aholic, he doesn’t APPEAR to be in love, etc. He may have made a mistake in publicizing his engagement, he may be trying to reform his work-a-holic ways, and he may learn to LOVE Sophie or not (time will tell).

      • **sighs** says:

        If you’re prioritizing your family, you don’t take a Marvel job.

      • alice says:

        Hmmm, Real, someone just posted an almost identical opinion on SoGo.

      • Kat says:

        Sorry, ‘real’ but I couldn’t disagree more.
        Firstly, I don’t see any evidence of his work schedule changing at all.
        Secondly, he didn’t need to ‘become more of a man’. He was a regular happy guy living his life, not a coke snorting pussy hound. He didn’t need to change and any relationship where you are consciously altering yourself for the worse, is a recipe for disaster.
        The best thing you can do for a child is love it, which he will obviously do, but there’s no merit in marrying for the sake of ‘stability’ and a very outdated suggestion that is too.

      • Fuji says:

        I don’t know. He did actually sell this relationship, baby included, for publicity. Either he did it, or she did it despite his wishes. Strange way of “prioritizing” it.

        What happened to the guy who less than a year ago was claiming to be private and fiercely protective of the people he loved? Throwing the “Woman You Love You Proposed To” and your unborn child to the tabloids wolves is not actually prioritizing family imo.

      • The Real says:

        @sighs
        If you knew Marvel could potentially offer you job stability for the next few years, the type of stability you would want for your family and at a good price tag, wouldn’t you take it for your family? He chose a project with potential longevity that allowed him to stay in London! But to add on to that, his 2015 was booked prior to him knowing he was going to be a dad (Hamlet/Sherlock).

        @alice
        I did submit a post on Sogo, didn’t know if my post would come through here sometimes they don’t.

      • **sighs** says:

        Real- well I guess it’s what you define as priorities. If you define it by finances then, yes, that was a smart move. If you define it as actually spending quality time with your family, then no, not a good decision.

      • gg says:

        @alice: no matter what happens at the Oscars, hell even if he wins, I’m not sure he’ll ever look as happy as he did at last year’s ceremony. The one true, spontaneous Photobomb. I thought this year’s awards season would be so triumphant for him but it has just turned into a huge clusterf#ck

      • moodgirl says:

        You killed it all with this…….”he may learn to LOVE Sophie or not.” Why marry someone you must learn to love?

  27. Seriously serious says:

    Actually I had expected wedding invitations printed on hand made deckled-edge paper. But perhaps he isn’t as snobbish as I seem to think.

  28. Alice says:

    First person on RC is ER being interviewed.

    • Muse says:

      is he with his wife?

      • moodgirl says:

        Kelly Osbourne just mentioned BC and he, or old film, just appeared on screen. Kelly said she can’t wait to see him because he is always impeccably dressed. Maybe he is there or she didn’t get the memo?

      • Felice says:

        Didn’t get the memo probably. That was footage from last year.

      • Muse says:

        I smell pr plant. They want people to expect him to be there, so more people will wonder why he didn’t show up. I wonder where Harvey is going with this….? Surprise wedding? Pg problems? Couples therapy?

      • Alice says:

        Mentioned her, but didn’t see her

        Replying to question about ER

      • moodgirl says:

        SH missing and he’s trying to establish an alibi? 😄

      • Darya says:

        I didn’t watch the show, but was Cumby really a no-show? Maybe Harvey has cut the campaign budget after realizing BC is running a distant third to Keaton and Eddie. No more first class plane tickets for an award show that is only shown on cable tv, especially if he’s not going to win.

      • j says:

        idk they are definitely filming sherlock tomorrow

        if filming has been delayed already, they cant keep missing deadlines

      • Kat says:

        But the sherlock schedule would surely be known in advance. Is there any indication that filming has been delayed? And he may not even be needed tomorrow.

      • j says:

        @kat

        supposedly, yeah, they lost time, according to some setlock ppl who talked to the crew. nothing to do with bc or any actors, it was location/equipment stuff

      • Felice says:

        It’s all in the past now. I just don’t know what will happen now. If he marries her, then he does. I’m just really annoyed at him talking about subjects that he clearly doesn’t know a lot about. Oh and ER’s wife wasn’t there from what I saw.

    • moodgirl says:

      Keira’s husband always looks laid back and supportive; apparently doesn’t feel the need to be seen or be in the spotlight.

      Why does Lenny Kravitz always wear sunglasses? He looks stupid.

  29. Darya says:

    Properly engraved/letterpressed wedding invitations take time, to me email is better than a slapped together invite you might find at a local card store – and you risk the eagle eyed clerks and printers catching the how/when details, although you can print them without the particulars and just provide an insert that instructs guests to call a special contact to be granted access to the top secret logistics. Some of your more privacy-minded celebs have gone that route in the past.

  30. scout says:

    Extreme plans to save some inheritance moolas for the new beby? Email is too tacky, hope real paper invitations are on the way through Royal mail. If not, it’s going the opposite way of GC,s Venice extravaganza which is also going to be very painful for us mere mortals to take! Haha…

  31. Felice says:

    I will say this, the awards was a VERY great night. I’m still emotional over certain parts and I’m glad that these two weren’t there to s*** on it. I adore B but I am 100% done at this point.

  32. Felice says:

    I am both shocked and pleased that he apologized for his “coloured” statements. I really thought that his team would try to let the statements die since that seems to be how they handle his foot-in-mouth syndrome. I’m really glad that he owned up to it but he really needs to watch what he says in the first place.

    • Kat says:

      I feel sorry for him. I know it was silly and he shouldn’t have said it but it just seems like a slip of the tongue and not a million miles away from the perfectly acceptable ‘people of colour’.
      Of course he should’ve apologised but no need to shame him and drag him through the press like he just hailed slavery or something. But of course, people love a witch hunt.
      I dunno. Can’t help but feel like he’s struggling right now. Not woobifying him, I just don’t feel like he’s coping that well.

      • alice says:

        “I dunno. Can’t help but feel like he’s struggling right now. Not woobifying him, I just don’t feel like he’s coping that well. ”

        Agree. He seems to have lost his moorings. He was always so grounded before, with his parents and friends. He even said that they kept him grounded. He seems so detached from them right now. I hope this is a very temporary funk.

    • Muse says:

      I’m quite shock as well! And those statement sounds like they came right from his lips. Makes me wonder if he is really reading these blogs because only his fans seem to be making a big fuss about it. Not sure about twitter and other social media. Now everyone is gonna make a big deal about it. We got our new thread for tomorrow!

      • Felice says:

        He literally never apologizes for his statements. He usually says he was misconstrued or taken out of context. This is huge tbh.

      • gg says:

        There have actually been a flurry of UK newspaper articles coming out, not all from the tabloids either. The Independent did an article, I think this morning. He really did need to address it and I’m glad he did

      • j says:

        yeah he could have let it go since mainstream media didnt really care tbh, nice he didnt

    • Toodles45 says:

      Wow, he did? I understand the intent behind his statements (he was asked after all, was he supposed to ignore the question?) but I’m glad he acknowledged the term is problematic. There are some new articles criticizing his use of the word.

      EDIT: I just read the apology and can’t help but feel for him. It certainly sounds authentic.

      • Felice says:

        Which outlet published it first? i.e. the one he spoke to

      • Kat says:

        He called himself an idiot and a fool and apologised three times in the statement.

        🙁

      • gg says:

        He said it a week ago, on the Tavis Smiley show on PBS. Took a few days for people to start talking about it, as far as I could tell. Over the weekend the story really started to take hold. Actually first story I saw was in the Daily Mail and it had a positive spin, used the word “black” in the headline and quoted him directly in the article but didn’t comment on his use of the word colored. I think that ran late Saturday/early Sunday

      • MtnRunner says:

        I gave him the benefit of the doubt that as a foreigner he wasn’t aware of the potential offensiveness of the term here in the US. Considering the context, it was just a slip of the tongue. I’m glad he acknowledged his mistake publicly. That’s all anyone can ask of him.

        That statement issued seemed to have been written personally and not by Karon with the way he berated himself. I actually felt bad for him with all awards season disappointments and personal sh** he has going on in his life. I just wish he could stop giving interviews for awhile and keep his head down and work.

    • Ree says:

      Finally he owned up to something. see ya all in tom’s thread

  33. MAC says:

    I did not care what my country or society said or indicated. This included my mother in law who thought it was her wedding and it got so bad with my mother in law my husband and I pulled the plug on a proper wedding and got married by the justice of the peace. Than about everyone I knew told me to my face they were offended that either we did not have a proper wedding or that they were not invited to the Justice of the peace. One family member has never spoken to me since.

    We have been married 18 years. I am glad I got married in a suit. I am glad I did not have the international wedding my mother in law wanted it to be. I am glad I still live today without wasting resources on something as stupid as a big wedding.

    I hope they do everything they want their way and are happy. I truly hope this is not a baby so its a marriage.

  34. Hexentanz says:

    For the people who say wedding invitations are old fashioned and it is way more efficient per email and you don’t waste any paper. Simply get recycled paper. I had a big craft party with all my bridesmaids and we made the invites for my wedding. Then I mailed them out. Most people kept them, because they turned out really cute. We had a pic of me and one of the groom as toddlers inside, so some kept it just for those.
    If SH is to busy I am sure she could hire someone to do them for her in no time. I also think that if people get an invite to Benedict’s wedding they will keep it and not throw it in the trash.
    The whole thing with the secret source is BS as usual in the DM.

    Interesting that Eddie showed up alone at the SAG’s because his wife actually had to go back to work- since she has a real job. Take note SH!!!

  35. Chantal says:

    Something tells 2015 is not going to be Otter king ‘s year. The year really started on a sour note for him. I hope it ends better. I am talking professionally. I know he is over the moon personally with baby, engagement, and future marriage. Stay strong Otter! Don’t let them hunt you down, the media always turns and they will turn on you. I know I heard that somewhere.

    Hold on to Huntress! I hope she does not use her tentacles. I could not resist the last part for the fans who are not enamored by Huntress.

  36. Ava says:

    3 months ago I was looking forward to TIG, Hamlet and Sherlock. Now I have given away my dvds to charity, sold the Hamlet ticket and can’t be bother with TIG. Anyone had the same reaction?

    • Chantal says:

      No.

    • Alice says:

      Sorry, no. He’s got enough problems right now without wholesale fan abandonment.

    • Felice says:

      Nope, shan’t get rid of my ticket.

    • Dana says:

      It’s incredible to watch how his fandom has nosedived since November. I like him as an actor but not-so-much as a personality anymore. That being said, I would’t go out of the way for anything.

    • Claire says:

      He is killing my admiration of him. He isn’t a god but an actor. My fandom is earned not charity. Found it hard to watch tig without thinking of him as a person getting in the way. Which is wrong but hey the human brain.

      • moodgirl says:

        Do you really think he has complete control over his current situation? I don’t. That’s why I am giving him a pass. I may say evil stuff and laugh but deep down I feel badly for him because I think everyone and their brother is taking advantage of him, Sophie being the worst offender, and he has lost control.

      • Alice says:

        Same here as moodgirl. Also, when I saw TIG, I wholly believed in him as AT. I have dvds of everything that’s available of his work and when the mess gets too much I just watch one and recall why I became a fan.

      • tsmiv2 says:

        I’m with moodgirl and Alice. I think he’s being taken advantage of and not just by baby mama. I don’t think he’s in control of much of what’s going on, and that’s what’s caused the change in his personality. Oscar campaigns are beyond stupid. It’s just a damn movie, anyway.

  37. Chantal says:

    What race issues? Did he say something racial before?

    • Toodles45 says:

      He used the incorrect term for minorities (“colored”), while talking about how difficult it is for black actors in the UK, ironically. He may have been trying for the right terminology and he slipped. You can tell he meant no harm and it was a good message, but it got lost in his use of the term.

    • Claire says:

      There’s a cringey story from his time at Harrow where he’s listing the backgrounds of homophobic kids. Really lame. I want to say there’s another incident but I don’t recall atm. Go to your fave is problematic.

  38. ANON says:

    Eeshk! Does anyone else get the sinking feeling that we’re seeing the slow undoing of BC?

    • Alice says:

      He’ll bounce back. I expect Hamlet to be a success. Once the Oscars are over and done with he’ll have time to rest, meditate, think. And spend time with close friends and his parents, I hope.

    • moodgirl says:

      If it is everyone will know where to point the finger?

    • Claire says:

      Possibly. I don’t get it. He was supposed to be so grounded and down to earth. I know he has a massive ego but what gave? Was it the procreation pressure? Did something snap in the past 6-12 months? It’s very disappointing. Or we could have it all wrong and this is a deliberate image overhaul. Either way I hope he doesn’t marry her.

  39. Zuzu says:

    Has anyone else lost their crush on BC, not necessarily because of the campaigning, but more because of how he’s treated these women he’s been involved with?

    For me, BC was crushworthy because he was cute and smart, but also because he just seemed like a really good guy in relationships. Faithful in a relationship of many years to a normal woman, in love with her, etc.

    It’s been the biggest turnoff to me to watch him turn into … kind of a player. Flying all around, messing around with all these different women. The Russian model (can’t remember her name).

    I know a lot of people would say, oh these women know how it is, he was just after something casual, they were just after something casual. And that’s true that some women just want a casual hookup. But most women I know who have agreed to it really do want something more and really do get very hurt when the guy makes it clear they’re good enough for sex but not good enough for “wife material.” It’s just kind of a turnoff to imagine BC flying all around the world treating women that way.

    And the thing with Kinvara. So weird that he’s all over the place with Kinvara, and then all of a sudden, he’s engaged to Sophie. Kinvara seemed to be kind of shocked based on the tweet she made after the pregnancy was announced.

    Obviously, there’s no way to know. All I know is how it seems. And it seems like he was messing around with Kinvara and she was thinking that it was heading somewhere, while at the same time he was messing around with Sophie, and who knows who else.

    It just seems like the sort of behavior that is often very hurtful to women on the receiving end of it.

    And, it’s just kind of sickening. The thought of him acting as a player is just kind of repellent.

    And then even with Sophie, the way he has treated her when they’re out in public, has just been bizarre as a way to treat the woman carrying your child. I would be pretty confused and hurt if I were pregnant and the father of my child acted so uncaring and unhelpful while I was going down stairs in heels and all the other situations we’ve seen them in.

    So I feel like my crush on him has kind of crashed and burned. Has anyone else had this experience?

    • moodgirl says:

      He’s dating. You mentioned three women, I’m sure there are more but they’re all adults so I don’t think the women are innocent virgins. Besides, we don’t know the conversations they had about how their business would be run. Maybe he is upfront that there was no exclusivity – but Sophie didn’t accept that agreement?

      • Ree says:

        dating!! but he even refuses to recognize them in public,makes them walk 10 feet behind him. Monaco anyone?? He indeed did some disgusting behavior with woman. Now KARMA strike back and Sophie is paying his due.

    • J says:

      player? No. I mean like he’s been only linked to 3 women in the past few years lol. you re making a lot of presumptions up there about particulars we can’t possibly know. im sure he’s causally dated but with the way he works and his age, he’s probably slowed down

      my big thing is the acting though. like no crush on him here ever, so maybe im not the best person to answer this

    • Claire says:

      I know what you mean. But we have no way of knowing. Also, I’ve been around some celebs and I can tell you there are some really opportunistic women out there. If the guy is dumb they become wags. If not the guy may let them stick around all the same. We just don’t know. My crush is waning because he knocked up someone far beneath him in talent, personality, charm and work ethic.

      If this idiotic wedding is really happening I suppose it’s part of his plan to have a “private” one

      • Claire says:

        Or rather ALLEGEDLY knocked up

      • moodgirl says:

        He’s a man and I know a lot of men who aren’t always selective in who they screw. ESPECIALLY when everybody and their mother is making themselves available without so much as a peep. People just don’t care anymore and have no shame.

        Sanka looks good on paper and she probably presented herself to him as the one to beat. I think he is naive as hell and really hasn’t had a lot of experience with women. So, maybe he liked her and took a step forward without waiting to find out what was underneath. And she took advantage of him.

        Should he had been more careful? Of course. Based on my opinion of her and the idea that I have about how things went down – should she had been respectful in the way she handled herself and been honest and upfront with him? Absolutely. Beat me if you wish but I believe that a woman is ultimately responsible for protecting herself because she would be the mom and the person that the kid would count on. Forget the guy, they don’t always step up but nothing beats a mommy.

      • Alice says:

        I don’t see him as a player at all. From his early 20s to his mid 30s he was in a fairly exclusive relationship with OP, then about a year with AJ. So, for most of the years that young men are dating around, sowing their wild oats, he was paired up with just two women. The past two years seemed casual dates are solitary pursuits. He seemed to think he could spot the famewhores and users, but I think he was naive. He may have thought SH was classy and trustworthy because of her upper class background, but I find it rather suspicious and convenient that while none of his successful, self supporting girlfriends became pregnant, the only unemployed, untalented, slacker one got knocked up almost from the beginning. Makes one wonder.

      • Claire says:

        Yes. All of that Alice. While it’s obvious SH has been nothing but misery for him I don’t think it’s women that got him in the mess with her to begin with. Too simple an explanation and is almost slut shaming. I don’t think he adjust to fame well in general and it screwed him up when it came time to keep away people like SH from him.

      • Claire says:

        Yes. All of that Alice. While it’s obvious SH has been nothing but misery for him I don’t think it’s women that got him in the mess with her to begin with. Too simple an explanation and is almost slut shaming. I don’t think he adjust to fame well in general and it screwed him up when it came time to keep away people like SH from him

        Adam Ackland and Wanda to the rescue please!!!

    • tsmiv2 says:

      @Alice The only thing I wonder is when is he gonna figure it out?

    • Kat says:

      Zuzu,

      Oh come on now. In what possible way could he ever be described as a player? The ‘russian model’ had her own reality show and attempt at a play to promote along with a fiancee who she’s still with who happens to be her publicist. So I wouldn’t believe what a couple of conveniently well timed photos from the press would like you to think.
      As for kinvara, sorry, but am I missing something here? Where’s the evidence that he was actually dating her? He was hardly ‘all over the place with her’. He has loads of female friends who he spends a great deal of time with. How is she any different and why has speculation turned to fact on this one? Even if he was dating either of them, you think THAT is evidence for him being a player? Two women? Wtf…
      As for SH, I don’t see any natural warmth or affection but I also don’t see how he’s supposed to have been ‘uncaring or unhelpful’. Nobody knows what’s truly going on behind the scenes there and it’s unfair to try and portray him negatively.
      Seriously, I’ve heard of conjecture but all of this is just ridiculous.