Kristen Stewart covers the September issue of Nylon Magazine. This is pretty much a perfect fit – while I think Kristen gives “good editorial,” I’m always sort of puzzled by the fawning profiles she gets in legit fashion mags. Kristen very much belongs on the cover of magazines like Nylon though. Anyway, K-Stew talks about her sexuality (talks around it a bit), the paparazzi and more. You can read the full piece here. Some highlights:
Whether she still talks to Sparkles: “That’s not something I would ever talk to the f–king public about—that’s crazy.”
So much angst: “I really wish I could not be f–king recognizable. It’s so annoying. I f–king hate people looking at me when all I want to do is look back at them.”
Defining her sexuality? “Google me, I’m not hiding…. If you feel like you really want to define yourself, and you have the ability to articulate those parameters and that in itself defines you, then do it. But I am an actress, man. I live in the f–king ambiguity of this life and I love it. I don’t feel like it would be true for me to be like, ‘I’m coming out!’ No, I do a job. Until I decide that I’m starting a foundation or that I have some perspective or opinion that other people should be receiving…I don’t. I’m just a kid making movies.”
She’s doesn’t get why people care: “I think in three or four years, there are going to be a whole lot more people who don’t think it’s necessary to figure out if you’re gay or straight. It’s like, just do your thing.”
Skater girl: “I’m a skater. I’m not a hard-core skater chick—I can skate on the street, but I don’t like to trick shit out. Skating around downtown might be my happy place.”
Her celebrity image: “It’s like I’m involved in a weekly comic book. I have this assigned personality…which I helped create, I suppose. People stand to make a lot of money on people like me—it’s this booming industry, so why would you go and change the character that people are paying for? It’s funny when older actors are like, ‘Just give them a smile.’ I’m like, ‘You have no idea what you’re talking about, but thanks!’ It must’ve been awesome without the Internet.”
Her Chanel contract: “I really like tapping into unexplored aspects of myself; obviously, that’s what I do. Clothes can seriously do that, but you don’t want your clothes to wear you. So often I’m like, ‘Oh man, that is going to own my ass.’” Luckily, Karl Lagerfeld gives his muse full license to play: “He lets me chop dresses, he lets me steal a belt from that dress and wrap it around another…. I’m really into the performance aspect of it, but I still have to make it my own. I don’t want to feel like I’m wearing a costume.”
I kind of like what she says about her sexuality. I respect her for saying “Google me, I’m not hiding” first and foremost. That’s what I kept saying about her relationship with Alicia Cargile – it is what is. You can see clearly that they are together and in a relationship. Does she need to “confirm” how she defines her sexuality? Nope, she doesn’t. And I give her bonus points for not lying about her sexuality outright – celebrities don’t owe anyone a conversation about their sexuality, but they often get in trouble when they lie about it.
As for Kristen telling old-school celebrities, “You have no idea what you’re talking about, but thanks!” – so much angst. So lip-bitey.
Photos courtesy of Nylon.
Good for her, a lot of actors/actresses would have denied it.
What did Little Miss Whiner think was going to happen when she decided to star in a tween franchise and date her leading man? Did she think it was going to make her less well know?
“Google me…I’m not hiding”
Lies!!! Show us your baby!
Lol
Bwahaha.
So what if people stare? You’re a celebrity I mean you don’t have to like it but complaining about it again and again just makes you sound ungrateful. If nobody gave a crap about you, guess what? the movies and fashion contracts would most likely go away too. pick your battle.
Yep.
exactly
No, when she talks about it *again and again*, it highlights that she is expected to provide the public with an immense amount of insight into her private life *again and again* and hopefully induces said public to recognise how incredibly creepy and intrusive that is and stop demanding it. No, she isn’t asking that no one care about her acting or her films, but that no one expect or demand access to her private life as a result of caring or not caring for her acting or her films.
“Google me.”
At the risk of getting cyber-ly gang-jumped by her fans, I just find her so unpleasant and grating. She engages in that sort of navel-gazing that really turns me off.
Her stans are really morons LOL
Her fans aren’t really special in that regard. Have you gone to the AJ or JA threads? TS’s instagram? Fans are legit batsh-t crazy across the board.
I like her. I think she sometimes has to remove her foot from her mouth and is angsty and mopey, but I like her. Thanks so much for calling me a moron.
paranormalgirl fan here. Does that make me a double moron for being a fan of a fan?
Yes, kiddo. You are especially moronic. 🙂
I don’t know what it says that so many young celebs these days seem wholly incapable of doing an interview without “f*ck f*ck f*ck” all over the place. Learn to articulate your thoughts without nonsense or crude filler words, you know? I’m no prude by any means, but to be able to read their words presented with actual thought would be a nice change of pace.
Yes! It’s become the new “like.” It’s just one of those words like “um” and “you know.” Um, you know it’s like really f*cking annoying.
Edit that last sentence and you have something everybody wants. Brevity. “It’s annoying.”
This! A million times!
This. Please! I’m not a fan anyway, but the constant “f-cking” is such a turnoff. She sounds like a teenage boy trying to sound cool/hard. Maybe it’s because I don’t know that many people, but I’ve never met anyone who said “f-cking” and “f-ck” that much in real conversation.
Co-sign
Meh! for as Bland as I find Her I’m surprised at How Much I liked these pics, Makeup/clothes/hair.. it’s all Working on me
I do too. She does late 70s early 80s ‘punk’ well.
I know, her hair looks fantastic
Ditto. Want the hair.
I tried to get her hair. It did not end well. My hairdresser cut one side to short. 🙁
Agree. I often find her very ordinary looking but that hair with her cheekbones is very pretty to me.
Agree. I think she’s kind of blank which works well for these kinds of edgy looks.
Agree with you, QQ. That last outfit is awesome.
I kinda cringed when she talked about chopping up Chanel dresses. That stung my heart just a little bit.
Aw, what a cute name. It took me a while to think where it came from, then made me smile.
I find her personal style more authentic than any Chanel she wears. Kristen in Chanel looks like her playing in Meryl Streeps closet. Its too old and tweed and Karl’s line is tired. But here even that tweed jacket gives it some life.
I wish i could read an intw where she wasn’t so angry. Good Lord girl simmma. She’s Gender Fluid like Miley. I like it. Now go relax Kristen, and your work should not define you or a movie set. Go live outside of what you do for a living. Its why your living defines you. She’s not figured out they are two different things.
She has a happy long term relationship and a very successful career, good friends and is close to her family, is interested in painting, skating, playing guitar etc – i’m curious what you think she hasn’t figured out?
‘but they often get in trouble when they lie about it’
“Trouble” meaning harassment by paparazzi, websites and magazines. Why do people act like they’re anti-homophobia but feel the need to drag people out of the closet if they don’t want to come out publicity? It’s a witchhunt, it’s like we’re in the 50’s.
You’re not wrong Mark.
“Google me,I’m not hiding” = I am not in the closet
Next question
She was so awful at Fallon last night.
And LOL she never makes a stement without the f- word. Whatever LMAO
We all have our likes and dislikes when it comes to actors, but saying whatever LMAO when an actor comes out (or at least acknowledges that they aren’t straight) is rather callous.
@Div
are you dumb? I was speaking about her interview on Fallon and the fact she always use f… word. But I see that you are wrting plenty of comments here (like a stan) so no surprise. Stewart fans are really dumb
@Enya
Wow, how classy to call me dumb for saying that you were being a bit callous about someone speaking out on their sexuality. You definitely weren’t clear on “whatever lmao” being about her “use” of the F word… considering it was one of three separate sentences and none of them seemed related to the other. We’re allowed to express our opinions within reason without flinging around personal insults, and it’s not exactly like I’m writing OMG how dare u?
Part of her appearance on The Tonight Show last night included a word association game called ‘Word Blurt.’ When Fallon wrote down ‘Date’ as his word association with ‘Tinder,’ Stewart said something like, ‘Oh, come on, you’re married! You’re married! You can’t be on Tinder!’
Oh, the irony of hearing the rules of dating – and looking for something something outside the sanctity of marriage – courtesy of Ms. Stewart.
Why the f_ck does she swear so f_cking much?
She doesn’t swear nearly as much as Chris Evans and several other male actors, and this is the first interview in a while where she’s gone back to her habit of swearing a lot. Don’t get me wrong, I find over the top swearing annoying, but when Taylor Kitsch gives an interview and drops the f word every other sentence and no one says a thing but they do when a woman does…it bugs me. Plus, she was probably nervous as hell considering she was talking about her sexuality.
Thank you for this comment, Div
@Div, that’s really interesting. Have never thought about how complaints about “vulgar” language might be gendered. I think you’re right, I don’t think a handsome male star would get the same reaction with exactly the same number of f bombs.
@Div If I had read the Taylor Kitsch or Chris Evans interviews I would have criticized them too. It was in a tongue in cheek comment not meant to taken seriously but thanks for taking it seriously.
The problem is people didn’t read the whole interview and this article is not the best to show it, the snippets are not enough. The interviewer wasn’t fawning over her at all, the tone was quite serious. The interviewer’s description of what it’s like to get coffee with Kristen, the circus surrounding her when she is in a public place is heavy.
The only thing Kristen can change about it is how she feels. For someone with anxiety it’s a long way to go, but I think she’ll make it. She’s dealing with it better already and she’s strong. She wouldn’t be where she is or as successful as she is otherwise.
#sarcasm?
It was. It either went over their heads or I’m not good at it.
Nah, I got that you were being a bit tongue and cheek but I thought you were also trying to make a point 🙂
She ,maybe, spent some time on this very site reading a Jesse Williams interview about racism in Hollywood(it went like this: “How many f***ing jobs.., I have a f***ing struggle, that’s no f***ing joke etc, basically on each line) and thought she would benefit from the same leniency.
Because every comment was praising how articulate,
well spoken he was, how the swearing wasn’t the least disturbing( he’s so pretty , so gorgeous, those eyes …). Guess Kristen Stewart didn’t realize swearing was only OK for hunks making posters weak in the knees.
Just to be clear , the swearing annoys me in both occurences,just weird that only some celebs catch some flack for it.
I actually relish salty, colorful curses, swearing and cussing – but when they work for emphasis and flavor, not as mere fill words or substitutes for substance.
As to your point, I can report that I get a lot more scowls and looks of quiet judgement for using them when around male colleagues doing the exact same or worse… and I know it’s because I’m female, trespassing boundaries they consider their turf and not something a non-member of their club should be allowed.
That, or they feel more at liberty to be obnoxious and make unwelcome overtures because they assume you are THAT sort of woman.
I see with every interview because peple don’t love her
I never seem to understand what she says, it’s like reading english, only not really.
Second that. Her acting is boring; her comments are… boring.
I agree! I don’t really know what she’s trying to say…
Most people got it, but okay
Not liking her as an actress or person (enough with the potty mouth and the tough girl act and the angst “such a heavy cross to bear, all this celebrity, wealth and fame”) but I really liked her answer re: her sexuality. It is no one’s business whom one sleeps with, whom one may someday sleep with etc. As long as it is another adult of consenting age (hopefully not married), it is just their business, and as Kristen says, unless she wants to talk about it because she is starting a foundation or representing one, she should not be asked about it. (This feels to me like the “when are you getting pregnant” questions all female actresses get.)
I find it interesting that there’s an expectation from the public that someone has to come out with an official announcement in order to really ‘come out’ – as though coming out to those who are actually in your life simply isn’t enough anymore. Is something not official unless there’s a press release?
She’s not wrong that it was a different world before the internet came along in terms of celebrity profile, but lordy she can be angsty and I do like her…but angsty ms. angsty.
As far as her sexuality, I think she handled it well. She’s never going to do some big People coming out magazine story, but I get the vibe that she’s sick of people dancing around it/harassing her about it so she answered the question. One of the writers on Buzzfeed wrote a good piece once about how the media needs to learn to handle celebrities who don’t want to do a big “I’m gay cover” but are clearly more or less “out.” She seems to be gender fluid, like Miley and Cara. I hope the media stops harping on her sexuality and accepts that she basically came out, but that’s probably too much to ask.
I posted right above about this, but I find it interesting that there seems to be the need for an official “I’m gay” or “I’m bisexual” etc announcement in order for us to acknowledge that someone’s sexuality may not be the traditional, hetero model. She’s clearly not hiding her significant other and going about her business, but is it not official unless there’s a press release?
I believe it was Kate Arthur on Buzzfeed who wrote an interesting post about that….Richard Armitage falls into the same vein.
Jodie Foster touched on this in her Golden Globes speech not too long ago, too. And I kind of agree – coming out is so deeply personal for people, and it can be such a huge deal. Who are we to demand that it’s not enough for someone to come out to the people that mean the most to them?
NOOOOOOOO, not Richar Armitage (slams door crying)
There was all that drama when Tim Cook (Apple CEO) was ‘outed’ by a reporter. Except he was already out. Everyone knew he was gay, he had never tried to hide it, he’d just never held a press conference about his personal life.
We have no problem saying people are straight when they’ve actually given no indication of what their sexual preferences are, but we require a press release in order to acknowledge that someone who’s openly in a same sex relationship might not be 100% straight.
She doesn’t need to do a big coming out but I do wonder how her girlfriend feels about it. There’s a long and sad history of gay partners being unacknowledged and erased (we never met or knew of the existence of my uncle’s partner until my uncle died and the poor man showed up at the funeral). I like the way Miley and Cara have handled it. Is there any reason Stewart can’t simply say yes, this is my partner and leave it at that?
She said “google me, I’m not hiding.” I think it’s pretty clear that she’s not hiding her girlfriend, and they were recently papped together and they openly hold hands. If she takes her to an event, she probably will say “yes, this is my partner.” Honestly, I wonder if the partner is not comfortable with the attention either and doesn’t want to walk a red carpet or any of those things. The twi-hards are downright vicious, and apparently have harassed her partner’s friends on social media with some vile homophobic comments. Some were talking on twitter about trying to figure out where she worked, and were saying the most terrible homophobic things. So yeah…she very well may not want to parade down a red carpet while those psychos are still out there. D Listed has ripped into her partner’s physical appearance more than once, too.
@Div, you are right. That hadn’t occurred to me but given what FKA Twigs has gone through, I can only imagine what people would do to “Bella’s Lesbian Lover.”
And just think about what the paparazzi say to the two of them, just to try to get a reaction. Blech.
She’s great. I don’t see why she still gets so much guff.
guff! raise your hand if you have ever said “no guff!”
good grief I am aging myself.
The complaining about her complaining amuses me and baffles me at the same time.
Agreed. She seems really well adjusted and sensible. I don’t have much of an opinion on her as an actress (I liked her in The Runaways, haven’t seen much else), but I’m usually impressed with her in interviews. She just gets it.
I really do like her clothes/styling here, she looks beautiful.
To me (and this is just my personal opinion), 25 is the cut-off for “kid”. Young adult, yes, kid, no. I have a soft spot for her and hope she will grow up one day and stop seeing herself as the center of everything with the constant need to F*cking show what a F*ing bad ass she F*ing is. *sighs*. its tiresome.
She’s doesn’t get why people care: “I think in three or four years, there are going to be a whole lot more people who don’t think it’s necessary to figure out if you’re gay or straight. It’s like, just do your thing.”
Isn’t that how it used to be?
Rampant homophobia, transphobia, institutionalised abuse and hate crimes against the LGBTI community is how used to be (and still is to a large extent).
Her comment was “I think in three or four years, there are going to be a whole lot more people who don’t think it’s necessary to figure out if you’re gay or straight. It’s like, just do your thing.”. I assumed she meant that more people will realise that others sexuality isn’t their business and we don’t actually need to know the sexuality of everyone we met. I personally hope our mainstream ideals about romance become more inclusive instead of always focusing on heterosexuality.
(Sorry if this is poorly worded, it’s late at night. Hopefully I made my point clear.)
Great interview, beautiful photo shoot. Another winner! Hope they reprint this one in my country too.
I absolutely adored her look at Kimmel yesterday, so gorgeous. Their game was hilarious:-)
People love to say “you chose this path so now eat it” and I couldn’t disagree more. Sure, some actors love it but most complain about the obsession and constant harassment by the media and fans. Just because people chose acting as a career and they turn out famous, doesn’t mean they deserve that? Yes, some actors BECAME actors for fame so yes those should not complain as much, but most actors do it for the craft. Fame is a byproduct. Why should I feel entitled to say otherwise? To point fingers? Does the fact that people are in that profession give me the right to stalk them, lie about them, print magazines with stupid stories, take photos of them in their private moments, and criticize every inch of their bodies for the duration of their careers?
The answer is simple: no.
These actors need to find a way to deal with it, but it doesn’t mean they must accept EVERYTHING that comes with it just because they chose this career.
~If someone loves acting, and they become famous, should they leave the career because they don’t like the fame? Should people give up on their dreams because of people? no. But they can complain, I’ll give them that. I feel very sorry for them. Including K-Stew. Nobody deserves that (except those reality people who are CLEARLY chasing fame).
Yeah as much as I dislike some of these people they have a right to complain about paps and media. The need to go after each one is just awful. It gets worse when one is essentially just bullied constantly. Like I’m not a KStew fan, but people go unnecessarily hard on her practically all the time. If anyone of us were in any of their shoes we’d figure out pretty quick that the paps, harrassment by fans, the media and all we would not be okay with any of this. But we all seemingly ignore or pretend like we would. I guess we all have a little bit of Taylor Swift in us.
“real world” example: I chose to be a doctor. I chose to specialize in psychiatry. I knew I would be on call a lot and that some of my patients would have issues that might cause me to have to leave my family, an event, dinner, etc at times. It doesn’t mean that I can’t complain or dislike when it happens. It doesn’t mean I can’t be annoyed when I spend the night of my kid’s play in the psych ER with a patient. I have the right to complain and be annoyed even though it is “what I signed up for.” And so do actors.
I don’t even think the latter comment on her celebrity image is so much of a complaint as an observation. The internet has drastically changed things. She, like other actors, can comment a bit too much on the subject at times but I do think it’s valid for them discuss how they like acting/fashion/singing but are uncomfortable with paps/tabs/and other aspects of fame. She’s also coming from an unusual place because of the twi-hards, her sexuality, and the slutshaming (don’t get me wrong, she brought some of it on herself in terms of the first and last items…but a lot was so OTT and gendered). I do think she could use a better publicist though or some media training, because a lot of times it seems like the journalists ask a fair amount of questions about fame/celebrity because they have this narrative of her being a sullen Winona Jr. type who has trouble coping with attention. She’s had some pretty good responses in handling questions about her not smiling, so she could probably turn around the “fame” questions.
@Paranormalgirl your comment is a perfect “real life” example. There are several things in our careers that we love but also some things that we hate. Sacrifices we (sometimes begrudgingly) make, for the sake of being a professional. We do what we have to do… I personally always thought that being a Doctor has to be so difficult on a personal level, it is a beautiful gift, a beautiful job but it has to be difficult in the household, with relatives, children and friends…
Great post, Mimz. And I agree. There was a time maybe when I would have thought “you asked for it,” but things have gotten so insane – the press used to restrain itself somewhat and people have become so incredibly celebrity crazy (says the woman posting on Celebitchy) that I don’t think ANYBODY wants or deserves what they get anymore. Telephoto lenses, screaming ugly things at children, screaming ugly things at adults for that matter to get a reaction, crowding all over you, creepy fans stalking you. I readily admit that I couldn’t handle it should I ever do anything that remotely interested the public.
Yes @GNAT this has to be horrifying… no wonder so many people lose their sh*t because that must take a huge emotional toll on anyone. I can’t imagine being with my hypothetical children and having strangers yelling at them and screaming, to get a reaction. It has to be traumatizing.
I definitely would be able to deal with it without therapy… and even then. I don’t know how you cope with something like that. hell, I can’t even stand when neighbours or nosy family members spread lies about me or my family…
wouldn’t*
I completely agree. *No one* deserves to have their privacy invaded. *No matter* in which profession they are, *no matter* how much money they make as part of their profession and *no matter* whether it is customary for people in that profession to have their privacy invaded.
Yes Mimz. Agree completely. I don’t think many posters realise just how insane, how intrusive both the paps and fans get. All those cameras and camera phones going off constantly. People rushing close and crowded your space and everyone yelling your name or yelling something awful to get a reaction. It must be nightmarish at times.
The editorial mags love Kristen because she takes makeup well. She’s a pretty girl and then can become striking in a variety of ways (edgy with dark colors or pastel light or whatever they want to do). And she’s lean. She went through a softer rounder phase but generally her build is lean. That’s why they love her.
This woman really seems uneducated. It’s embarrassing to see an adult not being able to express themselves well.
Also, Cara >Kstew.
How did she not make herself clear? I don’t get what people like you want? She doesn’t label herself, she just loves who she loves regardless of gender. It’s not hard to understand … unless you have the issues
I like her. I like that she is pretty upfront and doesn’t try to sugarcoat things. She is who she is.
I wish Kristen had gone away to college. Such a shame. She could’ve used it for all the other reasons why smart but sheltered kids need to go get educated with the world and live on their own. She’s cute but doesn’t communicate clearly and its a shame. Her acting is getting better as she grows. I say we wait til 30, she just needs to mature and stop blaming everyone in the world for her issues in life.
I’m all for education for everyone in general but having read several of her interviews (here or in one of the trade sites) I thinks she’s pretty intelligent. She may stutter and stumble but the content of what she says is a lot more substantive than a lot other actors in her age group. Others may communicate more clearly (without the stuttering and stumbling) but what they actually say often is trite or simple or plain dumb. That said, she needs to cut down on the profanity because that more than anything detracts from the content.
Nothing wrong with profanity – she’s using it in casual conversation. She’s not doing it in front of kids. I remember when she accidentally cursed during a comic con panel she was so apologetic and adorable when she realised there were younger kids in the audience.
She likes to curse, so do i, so does Charlize Theron, do people tell her she isn’t intelligent? Does it all depend on the person and how much or little you like them?
I think she made herself very clear
“Google me, I’m not hiding…. If you feel like you really want to define yourself, and you have the ability to articulate those parameters and that in itself defines you, then do it.”
I think this comment on her sexuality was very articulate.
I don’t know if it’s just me, but since day 1 but every time I see a photo of this chick, she looks like she needs a bath.
I like her. I think she f’d up to a huge and very wrong degree, messing with a married guy with kids, but I like her. Charm and social skills are useful abilities, but they’re morally neutral, after all, so I won’t sneer at someone for not being sweetly personable in the way Jennifer Lawrence, for example, is. She may not be articulate but I think she sounds sincere, and I think she’s right about the impact of the internet on fame.
I’ve said this in other threads- I’m not 100% out to everyone I work with or all my family. There’s a measure of “it’s not something I really want to discuss” with people I know are homophobic like my Dad or Grandmother. I’m not exactly hiding who I am, either, it’s just not a topic I feel I need to bring up with everybody all the time- even though I’m gay all the time and it actually does make me a different person compared to straight people.
But Kristen, you played one half of the most famous heterosexual couple of our time, and for you to not be out as a bi or gay woman does more harm to other LGBTI people than the harm it would do to you to be out. You’re literally playing it both ways for your own benefit & comfort and you’re being disingenuous that it doesn’t matter. It matters a LOT that you behave like its something you should be quiet about. Your lack of pride isn’t just a survival mechanism- you’re relying on flying under the radar for your f*cking career, let’s face it. You’re not liberated when it comes to sexual labels- you’re a self serving coward.
But I understand why because I’m a coward, too.
I vehemently disagree with this statement. You may know your sexuality definitively but she may not or least not in a concrete way. As for being quiet about it, why do those that are not within your inner circle feel they have a right to know.
Maybe, just maybe it is exactly what she says it is, that it wouldn’t be true if she said she was coming out. Maybe it’s what she feels comfortable with right now, maybe it’s not so much about the physical as the emotional. Straight, gay, bi, or assexual are not the only options. You want her to say something for the benefit of the LBGT community even if it’s not something she, herself, feels like she can define.
Hi Murray. I like how reasonable and civil your reply was even though you vehemently disagree with what I said.
I agree with what you say, also. I’d say the same thing to most people- be as out, or identify however you want. Be comfortable, be safe.
But Kristen is one of the most famous people in the world. She’s already out- she’s already dating a woman- without actually saying the words. Just this “Google me” response. She had no problem admitting to a relationship with a male.
By being silent, though, the message she’s giving other people is that there’s something to be ashamed of, something to hide. She says she’s not hiding, but she’s being coy. If being gay or lesbian or bi or emotionally/romantically involved with a person of the same gender is truly no big deal- just come out and say it, then. She still hasn’t said the words- whatever the words are. She’s actually hiding behind silence. And that silence says- there actually IS something to hide. It’s not the same as when she just openly admitted to being with Rob or confirmed she was having an affair with a married man. But dating Alicia? Shhh. Discretion.
She has tens or hundreds of thousands of fans worldwide that could be struggling with their sexuality or unsure. People in these situations are more prone to self harm or suicide. She is also the idol of millions and she could open up very important dialogues about tolerance- but silence isn’t a dialogue. The message this sends is- being gay or lesbian or bi isn’t the same as being straight.
This is nonsense. She’s dating a woman and she’s not hiding it – what more do you want of her?
Just to say: “I’m dating a woman”, like its no big deal. Like she said “I love Rob”. Like she released statements confirming she’d had an affair with Rupert Sanders. But nothing about Alicia. Not ” we’re dating”, not “I love Alicia”. The fact she’s quieter about a relationship with a woman- but had no problem admitting an affair with a married man- says she thinks being gay/lesbian/bi is more shameful than an affair with a married man.
What’s a word for someone who demands representation of everyone else but is in his own words coward to do it himself?
KS was never at ease talking about her relationships. She only did it because she was forced. It’s always the same: “just admit it and we stop”, followed by “you said A, you have to say BCD… now.
There are already moronic articles about K and A, without her talking. She’s trying to keep her private life private for as much as possible.
She’s a great example for everyone who thinks their sexuality is only their private matter.
She’s a great example for everyone who doesn’t know what their sexuality is, is unsure or doesn’t need to know.
If people feel unhappy with how she sees her sexuality, think she representing them wrong, they chose the wrong role models for themselves.
She’s not my f*cking role model. She’s the role model of millions of other people.
I don’t want representation of everyone else.
I work in a very macho industry. I’m a low level admin person, but I rely on my job for my living. To pay my rent , feed my pets and myself. I’m not explicitly “I’ll talk about how I’m gay” to my boss and the macho idiot that sits next to me who sit there all day talking about how many bitches they banged on the weekend and make rape jokes and f*g jokes. The ret of the 20 odd people in my team know full well who I am and I’m perfectly open with them. I might lose my income if my misogynist asshole boss is confronted with my sexuality. I’m not a millionaire who never has to work again to keep myself in ironic 90’s t shirts, 90’s denim and sneakers.
I haven’t spoken to my father in years. This man smashed a glass table over my head when I was 16 when my mother told him she thought I was gay. He threw me out of a car going 60km an hour when I bleached my hair blonde at the age of 17.
I haven’t spoken to my grandmother in years. She called me a f*ggot and threw hot coffee in my face when I called my father an asshole for throwing me out of that moving car because I’d bleached my hair.
It’s a matter of survival for me. Not for KS.
So yes, I’m a coward and a hypocrite. Nice talking with you, Madchen.
To your last comment, because I don’t know how to reply to it directly:
I’m very sorry for your situation, it sounds horrible, no one should be going through it. I hope you have someone, family or friends, to support you.
But it still doesn’t give you the right to be a hypocrite and call others coward or demand clarification on their sexuality from them.
People’s investment in other people’s sexuality is a big part of problem.
There can’t be any talk about shame because she is not hiding or denying.
Actually, I think her statement is really great. She’s just an actress, she doesn’t have any new perspective on it, so why has she to talk with about it? Especially when she considers it a private matter?
The point is, it should always be a personal choice whether to talk about it or not. No exceptions. No matter how privileged, famous or rich, it should always be the personal choice.
Representation is important, sharing your experience can save someone’s life. In this day and age, with open internet there is so much information about it.
Sexuality is complex, you might think you know her’s, but you might be wrong.
Same goes for her situation. No one really knows what it’s really like for her. Money isn’t the answer for everything.
The shaming and forcing of any kind in regard to sexuality (unless illegal) has to stop! It doesn’t help anyone.
“Google me, I’m not hiding”- isn’t that all she did for the longest time?
uh, no?
She’s so photogenic but so average an actor, which On the Road proved. She sulks and tries to smoulder. That’s it. As for her interviews, she’s the pure hipster navel gazing type. I bet she reads David Foster Wallace.
OT, I saw her movie Clouds of SilS Maria (the one where she got a best supporting award). She was good. I still do not know what happened to her character.
I hate that in this day and age people still have to “come out” according to some in society. We are all what we are and sexual preference shouldn’t be a big deal or an issue at all.