You’ve probably seen these photos of Heidi Klum at her annual Halloween party. This year she went as a clone of herself, complete with five lookalike models with prosthetics on their faces. It actually took me a minute to realize that the women had something done to their faces to look like Heidi and that they weren’t just typical filled and toxxed LA ladies. Maybe that was the point, so that Heidi would always be the prettiest one. Or else why didn’t she have prosthetics too? That would have been a clever commentary on the interchangeability of models instead of Heidi looking like the standout. The other models look as much like Heidi as Katy Perry looked like Hillary Clinton.
People has more on the luxury penthouse in New York which Heidi rented to prepare for the party, apparently it’s for sale and I would bet that Heidi was comped it for the night in exchange for the publicity. They also have a new interview with Heidi. They talked to her at the amfAR inspiration gala last week. She explained how she uses her charity work with children’s hospitals to give her own children perspective. Heidi has four children, daughters Leni, 12, and Lou, 7, and sons Henry, 11, and Johan, nine.
“We talk every night,” Klum told PEOPLE Thursday at the 2016 amfAR Inspiration Gala in Los Angeles. “We have dinner every night at 6 o’clock. Today, I’m here, but normally, we do. We cook every night. We sit around the table every night, or for breakfast, [and] for me, that old-fashioned, sitting around and talking about your day I think is very important.”
It’s not as simple as communicating what she has done with her day that makes these conversations so important, though. It’s also the quiet message of how, busy schedule aside, she can leave the world a better place each day…
“They know what I do. So [they ask], ‘Where were you? What did you do?’ ” she says. “And I tell them. It’s the same when I go to the Children’s Hospital. I tell them what I saw there.”
“They are very heartfelt, [but] of course, they don’t know what it’s like,” the America’s Got Talent judge points out. “When they’re whining about something, I tell them, like, ‘This is not something to be crying about.’ ”
“I tell them about the children that I see at the hospital that cannot go home. ‘It’s Christmas and you’re at home. And you have all these presents. And they’re in the hospital and they can’t go anywhere.’ I talk to them about it.”
That sounds like a decent response if a child is complaining about something minor or begging, but of course it’s all about context. Telling them they should suck up the pain from a scraped knee because there are kids in the hospital would be rather heartless, but that’s not what Heidi is saying. Kids are selfish, it’s just a developmental phase they’re going through and while we should remind them to be empathic and give back they’re not always capable of seeing beyond their own perspective. It’s nice that she schedules a nightly dinner with everyone, so many families don’t get that time together.
The headline sounds terrible and I was ready to pounce on her for being a “there are children starving in Africa!” mother but what she’s saying is actually reasonable. It’s also why I think everyone should do volunteer work – it is so important so have compassion for other people and humility in yourself.
+1 It’s not easy to instill gratitude in children.
Yup especially on that level of fame and affluence.
The headline made Heidi sound like a bitch when actually she has a valid point.
Agree. When the grandkiddos are whining I do pretty much the same thing. Only I don’t get specific and say children in the hospital. I always say that there are people with a lot less than them.
I was a pretty well behaved kid that didn’t ask for much. But when I got bratty (as all kids will on occasion) you bet I heard the “there are kids out there who don’t even have a roof over their heads, or toys to play with. Be thankful for what you have”. We were never wealthy, and at times money was tight, but I always had my needs met, which is better than a lot of people in the world.
Honestly, I think it’s a good thing to instill in kids. Make sure they’re aware of the kind of privilege that they have, so they see more of the big picture, and are aware of just how lucky they are.
Sounds like me. My kids were complaining about the meals that I make for dinner, said they wanted a happy kids meal from McDonald’s. I told them them that they are a kid in a loving home so they better be happy that they are eating a meal and zip it, before I take their food to the homeless shelter for the rest of the week. What do you know my food is the best in the world now! Lol
So being charitable is a punishment? Why not just say eat it or don’t eat?
Oh goodness here we go, we all ready give food and other items to the shelter which is why I said “their” food, meaning in addition to what we give them i will give them yours if you do not want to eat it! I was texting that on my phone and did not feel like including that extra info sorry! Also i don’t think of it as a punishment but a reminder that when you start acting spoiled and ungrateful there are always people who would love what you have and will receive it with thanksgiving. So when a child is complaining about food that they did not purchase nor fix there is no eat or not eat in my house. I don’t like that type of attitude of disgust over pork chops and green beans like it’s slop, I prefer to teach a lesson.
Yes, and why not just take parenting tips from strangers on the internet, because, you know, they ALWAY know better! You HAVE to do what they are saying! Do it! Now!
I wonder what would happen if you gave them Happy Meals every day for a week. I’d think at first they’d think it was awesome, but get pretty sick of burgers and fries after a couple of days, and McDonald’s as a whole by the end of the week. It’s not so much that McDonald’s is delicious, it’s that it’s a special treat for a lot of kids and no matter how worthless, the notion of a “free toy” is hard to resist.
Mrs. Pigglewiggle, is that you?!?
Her clones look more like Melania.
This costume Idea just didn’t work. I thought it was a girl squad thing. It seemed like a way to showcase her own fabulous body and more fabulous face by comparison. Just a no.
She’s teaching them perspective, I think that’s great. I see a lot of parents around me who go the other way because they don’t have perspective themselves. It’s fine to whine a little now and then, let it out by all means. But I think it’s so important to check yourself frequently. Look around and take stock of the good things in your life. Sounds like that’s exactly what she’s trying to instill in her children.
I agree. Sometimes we say “all feelings are allowed” and that is a time for kids to complain. no one offers solutions, we just listen and validate their emotions.
Other times we go about it a bit different and instead of “there are kids in hospital” we try to practice gratitude and get each kid to say something nice about everyone else.
Scattered thoughts:
1) i’ve never found her to be… that pretty.. I mean her body yes face no.. this costume highlights that
2) Either her nose is really pinchy or her Nose job was Jackson Family Aggressive
3) The fact that none of these clones have top lip?? LOLOL why?!?
4) this was Disappointing for Heidi.. I mean Much like I grade her clothes on a curve I grade her Halloween thing on the Opposite curve of that curve, this is the equivalent of a sexy Spongebob Costume for Heidi
5) the rumors about her Mothering styles make this post feel all weird for me
What rumors about her parenting style?
My understanding was that she barely sees her kids. This came out during her split with Seal. But that was years ago so it’s possible that’s changed.
I am guessing the rumors about her mothering style are…not so great?
Is there a link? Haha so thirsty me and LAS
http://ohnotheydidnt.livejournal.com/69757176.html Scroll down, Ive read a variety of this for a while about her
thanks QQ. makes me sad for her nannies that she seems so controlling about their rights, and I wonder too why we never see her, the kids, and schnabel together.
I always thought she looked hard and wooden and unfriendly. Her cheekbones are too high.
Ahahahaha! QQ that is my new favourite way of describing bad plastic surgery- “Jackson family aggressive” 😂😂😂
I both agree and disagree with this method. On one hand I think it’s great to help your children see how good they have it in comparison to others, but on another hand I think they need their own emotions to be validated at times as well. It’s ok to be upset sometimes, even over what seems silly or unfair to someone else.
I see this attitude often between women, a mother will complain about her kids driving her crazy or how awful pregnancy can be, and inevitably someone will come along and say she should be grateful because some women can’t experience those things, it always irks me in a small way. Of course you feel terrible for those women who can’t have children, but that doesn’t mean your kids will suddenly stop being irritating and you should be smiling, we should be allowed our feelings sometimes. Hopefully I’m making sense, I haven’t had caffeine yet lol.
Yes, makes sense to me. My parents grew up in a war time so every time we complained they said “well at least you didn’t grow up in a war, how do you think that was for me?” And it told me and my siblings, from a very young age, our feelings didn’t matter, and our problems didn’t matter, and to shut up because our parents didn’t have the space for our emotions.
Sometimes kids (and adults!) just need to complain, and even if it seems insignificant to you, it is still something upsetting to them, and that is ok.
I agree. You can dismiss a lot of people’s problems with the old “there are children dying of cancer in the hospital” shtick. Besides, most people simply won’t get the perspective unless they have to do without sometime in their life.
A friend once told me that telling a person they shouldn’t be sad because someone out there has it worse than them is like telling a person they shouldn’t be happy because someone else has it better. That totally changed the way I think. I think there’s a fine line somewhere, and never ending pity parties are really unhealthy, but you should be allowed to feel what you feel.
lol….I saw these Halloween pictures before this article, but I didn’t know that Heidi had the models wear prosthetics!!! I totally believe that she made the models look fugly, so that she would look fantastic by comparison! Not that she isn’t gorgeous, but that is too funny!!!! Even super models can be insecure!!!
Heidi looks great, but those masks are creepy AF.
Just being told that there were kids somewhere else worse off than me did absolutely zilch in giving me perspective. Reading about them (especially if it was written in first person), however, was an excellent empathy-building tool that I still use. Novels and articles worked equally well. Movies too. Basically, it can’t be just a throw-away line; there has to be more of an immersive experience.
This goes for adults too… I don’t have much but I sometimes forget how lucky I am to have a roof over my head , warm bed and food to eat.