Mel B dating Beverly Hills cop, is practically living with him, is her picker broken?

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Mel B just got out of horribly abusive ten year marriage. She was with a man who tried to control her, who used common abusive tactics on her like triangulation, coercion, economic abuse, threats to personal safety and blackmail. He took her children out of the country to use as leverage against her. He also beat her several times, according to her request for a restraining order. Plus he owned a gun and threatened to use it on her, with cops finding spent shell casings at his home. Other women, ex girlfriends of that horrible excuse for a partner, Stephen Belafonte, have also come out to say that Stephen was abusive to them too. Plus he has a past domestic abuse conviction. So Mel might want to take a while before getting into another relationship, maybe take some time to herself to make sure she makes better choices next time. Only it sounds like she’s jumped right back into a relationship, this time with a Beverly Hills police officer.

Sources in the know tell us she’s been seeing a guy on the Beverly Hills PD for a few months. She’s moved at lightening speed … splitting with husband Stephen only months before she started dating the officer.

They met through mutual friends. She started dating him immediately and it took only a matter of weeks before he was staying at her home 5 – 6 nights a week. She’s nuts about him.

This is a little eery. Our sources say one of the reasons she like him around so much is that he carries a gun, and she’s scared of estranged hubby Stephen Belafonte.

TMZ broke the story, Mel B has a restraining order against Belafonte, and one of her concerns is that she says he has a gun he’s not allowed to possess because of a prior crime.

They’re keeping the relationship “low key” … both for his sake and hers. We’re told his life is “complicated.” But that hasn’t stopped him, however, for showing up to tapings of “America’s Got Talent” — in plain clothes. He has also accompanied her to a number of social engagements.

Not everyone in Mel B’s life thinks it’s a swell idea she’s dating the guy … partly because of him and party because she just got out of a bad relationship.

[From TMZ]

In a couple of sentences I didn’t include, TMZ references Mel’s ex and the father of her daughter Angel, Eddie Murphy, who of course starred in the hilarious Beverly Hills cop movies. They also make these vague references to the fact that Mel’s friends don’t like her new boyfriend and that his life is “complicated.” Does that mean he’s married or something like that? This doesn’t sound good at all.

I understand this somewhat, the guy offers stability and protection and he works a good job which some may consider admirable. However, just throwing this out there – domestic abuse among law enforcement is estimated at 2-4 times higher than in the general population. From what is known, it’s worse than in the NFL. (Although of course we can assume the NFL covers it up. Law enforcement protect their own too, so maybe it cancels out.) Plus, there’s a common pattern to relationships with abusers in that the initial stage usually moves quickly and can feel incredibly romantic and all-consuming. Maybe he’s a good guy and is genuinely falling hard for her too, but if I was her friend I would be telling her to take it slow. She’s only been single a minute and this guy is practically living with her. Go to counseling, Mel!

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29 Responses to “Mel B dating Beverly Hills cop, is practically living with him, is her picker broken?”

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  1. Fiorucci says:

    Wow those glasses on her! Super pretty!

  2. Green Is Good says:

    Her picker left the premises eons ago.

  3. Jayna says:

    Is her picker broken? Maybe the cop’s picker is broken. She’s no prize.

  4. D says:

    That’s great..now I’ll probably be humming the theme to Beverly Hills cop for the rest of the week:) Earworm

  5. HK9 says:

    Yeah she needs to slow it down. Date him all you want but there’s no reason to move in so quickly.

  6. Aims says:

    I know I’m going to sound judgmental , but if the kids saw the abuse and then mom has a new boyfriend right off the bat. I don’t think that’s good . He may not be abusive , but after her horrific marriage I think everyone needs some healing , you know?

  7. Who ARE These People? says:

    She’s obviously still scared.

    Also, what’s wrong with dating Beverly Hills Cop? Eddie Murphy is super funny. ; )

  8. Radley says:

    Sometimes you just need to be alone and work on yourself.

  9. Loopy says:

    The only guy she dated that sounded decent since she became famous was this actor Max Beasley.

  10. Tanguerita says:

    too broke to hire a bodyguard?

  11. Big D says:

    I like and feel sorry for Mel, but she is a mess, just like Halle Berry. And messed-up women unfortunately attract messed up-men.

  12. Pumpkin (formally soup, pie) says:

    I am not buying what this “source” is saying. Isn’t it so easy to hatch on whatever anonymous “sources” spill about celebs. I am team MelB and really wish she will be OK.

  13. Elle says:

    I wish the default opinion on cops wasn’t constantly negative on this site. Why bring up the domestic abuse stat, especially with no evidence to that fact? It’s very biased.

    Also, are commas expensive? You don’t seem to have enough…

  14. Pandy says:

    Some people just can’t look at themselves and be alone. SHe’s one of them I guess. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯.

    • Who ARE These People? says:

      It’s likely her ex-husband abused her physically AND emotionally and the result is she truly is afraid to be alone and has low self-esteem. It’s going to take some time for her to feel whole, with or without new boyfriend/bodyguards. Fear lasts.

  15. Cleo says:

    Yes, police officers as a group/institution should be scrutinized when it comes to brutality against PoC and abuse of power against marginalized groups, but to assume that he might be domestically abusive just because of his profession? That is incredibly wrong and hateful.

  16. CharlieBouquet says:

    While I don’t agree exposing her kids to a new intimate relationship so soon is ideal, I can get she is scared and would like a good looking man trained to shoot on site with a licensed arm with that DV creep sniffing after her. I always tell my husband if he dies I’ll replace him by the weekend lol. I think everyone respects good cops, this site commented on the recent loss of 2 police before D2S even did. Unfortunately many of us have had really negative experiences as well as good. And watching people beat each other and seeing armed officers do nothing……..doesn’t make me as a citzen feel safe to combat hate on the streets with nothing but words to protect.

  17. gucci says:

    Dysfunctional,drama-prone, ‘complicated’ energy always seeks out and finds the same, just as stability prefers stability. It’s always a 2 way street until one party wakes up and then that dynamic just doesn’t work anymore.

    She strikes me as highly codependent and attracted to authoritarian, dominant men with very high opinions of themselves. Her validation come through her physical appeal, her celebrity status, and being pursued in a whirlwind-style ‘romance’…classic codependent, low self-esteem (despite surface appearances), personality vulnerable to exploitation both emotional/physical. She needs therapy before some ‘complicated’ cop…sheesh…