Dwyane Wade on Gabrielle Union: ‘It’s not my job to change who she is’


It’s no secret that Dwyane and Gabrielle Union-Wade are one of my favorite Hollywood couples. I know that there was a lot of messiness at the beginning of their relationship but they have somehow figured it out. Between supporting each other and the love they have for their children, Dwyane and Gabrielle seem to have a healthy and loving relationship. As we’ve discussed, they are covering People Magazine this week. Below are a few highlights from their interview. Dwyane talked about not trying to change Gabrielle and she mentioned what they have learned over the years:

“I’d like to say we’ve worked on it,” says Wade, 39, in this week’s PEOPLE cover story. “It’s about learning each other, learning what she wants for her life and for her career and trying to support all those things.”

And Union, 48, who collaborated with Wade on a new book, Shady Baby, inspired by their 2-year-old daughter Kaavia and on stands May 18, says they’ve also learned from past mistakes.

“This is both of our second marriages, and we’re super transparent about that,” says Union. “We didn’t do it right, the first time around. There’s another way — to be more collaborative and equitable. We humble ourselves, listen and we meet in the middle.”

And the NBA All-Star, who recently announced he’d joined the ownership group of the Utah Jazz, says that he supports his wife for exactly who she is.

“She had a career and a life before we met and she was doing perfectly fine,” says Wade. “It’s not my job to change who she is, it’s my job to be part of the evolution. In this partnership, there are times when I have to lead, times when I have to step back and times where we are side by side. And I know when to shut up!”

[From People]

I know a lot of people side-eye this relationship and I get it. I try to give people a chance to grow and not judge folks on their past actions, especially if they have made efforts to correct and amend.

I love how the Union-Wades have matured these last few years as people but also in their relationship. I really liked how Dwyane said that they have created a collaborative and supportive relationship. I also enjoyed reading that Dwyane said Gabrielle feels like home to him. And Gabrielle said that Dwyane makes her feel supported and strong. It sounds like a balanced relationship based on mutual respect and trust. I hope to see more of the Union-Wades and their adorable children for years to come.

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  1. Chica1971 says:

    Support for trans daughter won me over. Work in education and it’s difficult to see how parents react to it. Yes, maturity can change folks. The TikTok of daughter is something of beauty.. very charismatic and natural beauty

  2. josephine says:

    I haven’t followed their relationship but he sure said the right things. Gotta love a man who sees his wife for the powerful woman she is and is there to support that without having to direct it or overshadow it. I hope they are as great as their words are. And I’m totally digging the pic with the matching sweats at the end. Not too many couples could pull that off and look hip and they nailed it.

  3. SusanRagain says:

    Happily together couple, show each other love, support and kindness without control issues? Right on!! More of this adult behavior everyone, please.

  4. Myra says:

    It honestly sounds like a mature and respectful relationship. That they managed to work through their issues show that some people can learn and grow from their mistakes. Of course, it won’t be the case for everyone. Sometimes you have to let a toxic relationship go because you can’t fix people. You’re not supposed to.

  5. TD says:

    I love how supportive they seem as parents. And as a random side note, they seem like one of the few celebrities who actually stuck at home during this whole pandemic. Yes, I know it’s obviously much easier when you live in a giant mansion and have all that money blah blah blah, but still, as we’ve seen so many celebrities be absolute monsters throughout this it just really made me love them that their last years worth of Insta is in their home.

  6. Jess says:

    I love them and I love their little girl’s Insta account.

  7. J ferber says:

    I love them, too. I can’t wait to see the book Shady Baby. That little girl is too precious. I also have love for the four other kids. They really do seem to get it right. And can Gabrielle get any more gorgeous?

  8. T says:

    I respect any couple, any family, that puts in the work to be there for one another and build a life together, in whatever way that is. If no one is being used or hurt, their journey is their own. And it obviously works for them. I’m happy for them.

  9. TIFFANY says:

    I know there was mess in the beginning, but I never saw either of them as bad people. D Wade really was out here growing up in front of some of us. He got custody of his nephew who he later adopted
    and then custody of his kids with his ex wife. For a man who had to travel as a job requirement to get awarded custody of children says a lot about him and to see the kids thriving, well after his retirement says something as well. Gabrielle grew from their mess as well because life comes at you fast and they had a life to live that was beyond just the two of them.

    Him going into therapy after retirement did him even more good.